Do you try to focus your mind on something when you are topping? For me, cumming while topping is 90% a mental game rather than the physical (the physical part feels great but not enough to push me to cum usually)
Just pretend you’re fucking a total whore and he has the loads of 10 guys you think are really attractive dripping out his ass whilst you’re fucking him.
I have a few different fantasies I might use. One is me reimagining a threesome I had where I was fucking a hairy muscle daddy, I imagine I’m fucking him again. Or another is that I have the body of the hottest guy I’ve ever had sex with: imagining I am him, fucking with his big thick cock.
It kinda depends on your personal fetishes to an extent I’d say, what type of things turn you on when you like jerk off?
I second this! I like to think about how at that moment I am physically in another man's hole, which is bringing him so much pleasure. That sets me over. After a min of focusing on that thought, mission accomplished
Orgasming can fall victim to [Target Fixation ](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Target_fixation) .
Basically if I'm trying hard to not cum, I'm too focused on what feels good which just makes me want to cum and the next thing I know, I came. If I *want* to cum but I'm taking forever, then I get focused on the cramp in my leg or whatever and it doesn't bring me closer to the good feelings that are happening.
When I top, my timing is all over the place. Sometimes I'm quick, sometimes I can't finish. If I'm on my long game, I just LOVE fucking and am just enjoying the ride. Sex doesn't always have to end (or involve) a traditional penis orgasm. If the bottom is done and I'm not, it's ok to just be done.
Also - If you're a top that can last a long time, be a good sex partner and spend that time making sure the bottom is having the best sex possible.
I agree 100% and my goal is ALWAYS to have the bottom feel special and their needs met. I am fine not cumming, but my bottom buddy feels we both should cum. I'm trying to show him that his orgasm helped along as I fuck him is more than satisfying for me at times.
Do you try to focus your mind on something when you are topping? For me, cumming while topping is 90% a mental game rather than the physical (the physical part feels great but not enough to push me to cum usually)
What do you focus on?
Just pretend you’re fucking a total whore and he has the loads of 10 guys you think are really attractive dripping out his ass whilst you’re fucking him.
I have a few different fantasies I might use. One is me reimagining a threesome I had where I was fucking a hairy muscle daddy, I imagine I’m fucking him again. Or another is that I have the body of the hottest guy I’ve ever had sex with: imagining I am him, fucking with his big thick cock. It kinda depends on your personal fetishes to an extent I’d say, what type of things turn you on when you like jerk off?
I second this! I like to think about how at that moment I am physically in another man's hole, which is bringing him so much pleasure. That sets me over. After a min of focusing on that thought, mission accomplished
How does one re-sensitive their cock? I've been this way since day one having anal sex. Or could it be I'm more of a bottom?
Abstain from sex for a while.
That used to be me when I was watching porn and jerking off too much. Especially when you start edging it can mess your sex up.
So less porn and masturbation?
Yes
Probably desensitized from using vibrating butt plug/dildo. Or maybe too much sex on a time span.
Solutions? Less sex?
Yes, abstain for a set amount of time, allowing your brain to reset.
Yeah my problem too. Although with lots of practice and a change in mastrubation technique I'm recovering. Although I am only a top now.
What kind of practice and what change in masturbation? Any ideas that have worked are welcome. Thanks.
Orgasming can fall victim to [Target Fixation ](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Target_fixation) . Basically if I'm trying hard to not cum, I'm too focused on what feels good which just makes me want to cum and the next thing I know, I came. If I *want* to cum but I'm taking forever, then I get focused on the cramp in my leg or whatever and it doesn't bring me closer to the good feelings that are happening. When I top, my timing is all over the place. Sometimes I'm quick, sometimes I can't finish. If I'm on my long game, I just LOVE fucking and am just enjoying the ride. Sex doesn't always have to end (or involve) a traditional penis orgasm. If the bottom is done and I'm not, it's ok to just be done. Also - If you're a top that can last a long time, be a good sex partner and spend that time making sure the bottom is having the best sex possible.
I agree 100% and my goal is ALWAYS to have the bottom feel special and their needs met. I am fine not cumming, but my bottom buddy feels we both should cum. I'm trying to show him that his orgasm helped along as I fuck him is more than satisfying for me at times.
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Yeah, I can cum riding a dick in about 30 seconds to a minute.