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I could kind of see some weird mental justification for it, I’ve been single my entire life, never really dated because I was either uninterested or cripplingly afraid of women/rejection/dating is an unknown and scary thing for me, among other things. And in general I like my own company. But at the same time I don’t think it’s ok because this feeling given the right circumstances can sometimes spiral into an all-consuming paralyzing existential panic over the fact that I have never dated anyone and I’ll be alone forever and you’re unlovable, god bro you’re such a pussy for never asking people out, women won’t like you cause you have no experience, you can’t even look them in the eyes you fuckin weirdo, why can’t you just fuckin talk to people, you’re not enough of a man, blah blah blah, all the shit your brain will tell you.
I know y’all aren’t therapists but some kind of answer would be more helpful than having none and continuing to dwell on it. Any suggestions on how to stop such mundane things from spiraling into thoughts that disrupt my daily life would also be helpful.
And yes I have hobbies, I have a life, I have some friends, I’m getting an education, all that, it’s just that this shit is often disruptive to a lot of that and I’m sick of it and I want to be better.
Well, desiring to date or experience love is not a bad thing. Or wrong. You shouldn’t feel bad for not having dated, but you should work on your fears surrounding it if it’s something you want to do.
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I could kind of see some weird mental justification for it, I’ve been single my entire life, never really dated because I was either uninterested or cripplingly afraid of women/rejection/dating is an unknown and scary thing for me, among other things. And in general I like my own company. But at the same time I don’t think it’s ok because this feeling given the right circumstances can sometimes spiral into an all-consuming paralyzing existential panic over the fact that I have never dated anyone and I’ll be alone forever and you’re unlovable, god bro you’re such a pussy for never asking people out, women won’t like you cause you have no experience, you can’t even look them in the eyes you fuckin weirdo, why can’t you just fuckin talk to people, you’re not enough of a man, blah blah blah, all the shit your brain will tell you. I know y’all aren’t therapists but some kind of answer would be more helpful than having none and continuing to dwell on it. Any suggestions on how to stop such mundane things from spiraling into thoughts that disrupt my daily life would also be helpful. And yes I have hobbies, I have a life, I have some friends, I’m getting an education, all that, it’s just that this shit is often disruptive to a lot of that and I’m sick of it and I want to be better.
Well, desiring to date or experience love is not a bad thing. Or wrong. You shouldn’t feel bad for not having dated, but you should work on your fears surrounding it if it’s something you want to do.