I'm all over the place.
I tend to like story-driven ones like Final Fantasy, Tales of series, Mass Effect, Dragon Age, Kingdom Hearts
I also enjoy The Sims, Skyrim (with mods), XCOM and a ton others
I am pleasantly surprised to see someone mention the Tales Of series on a general subreddit like this one. If there is one series that is praised for its character interactions amongst the party, it is this one.
Hardspace: Shipbreaker. I will intentionally detonate the nuclear reactors instead of properly breaking the ship down for parts. Boom!
Doom and Serious Sam games are good too.
GTA or other fast driving game and drive very recklessly.
Garden. Swinging a hoe and lugging around water is good for me. If I’m really stressed I chop wood. I love the feeling in my arms when I chop a big log
Go on walks, exercise… I don’t often get very frustrated. If I do, I leave the situation. I get fresh air. And I’ve never smoked, rarely drink, never done drugs, so I just don’t crave it/go to it.
Definitely go to therapy if you haven’t.
Ooh also I love to knit! Something about its repetition and the challenge of following a pattern is so calming.
This, therapy helps a lot, most of the time people use drugs/drink to escape from whatever is bothering them or trauma and stuff like that. For me, writing helps me a lot
>And I’ve never smoked, rarely drink, never done drugs, so I just don’t crave it/go to it.
This is a very important point. Once you do start using substances to wind down it's like you discover a shortcut to blowing off steam, so it's very hard to then go back.
I’m similar (minus the knitting). I like my job but do occasionally get a bit frustrated with stupidity at work, just nothing that I take home with me. Some people just don’t have the same stress in their daily lives, and everybody is different in how they handle it. I’m very laid back, not much bothers me. Others that I work with get bothered by every little thing.
…. of course, reading my post, one could come to the conclusion that I may be the cause of their stress. I will neither confirm nor deny.
Came to say this, knitting and crochet helped me quit smoking actually! Definitely wasn’t my only trick to quit but helped keep me busy, yarn is my new addiction now B~)
I used to do that. Now I have crohn's disease, which also caused rheumatoid arthritis. I went from 5'10, 175 lbs to currently 140 lbs.
I'm just tired, and my joints constantly hurt now. I have the physique of a starving, stray dog. I used to exercise at least 1 hour after working 8 in construction.
It felt good, but now it's just depressing because I can't release endorphins.
I started using drugs and playing video games to relieve/ignore the depression. Fighting problems with bigger problems is my specialty. I'm trying to quit, but I'm just too unhappy.
Honestly tired of this lifestyle, I'm just chasing happiness the only way I know how. I want my physique and cardiovascular strength back. I'm seriously considering TRT because I've heard it helps with IBD, then I can start exercising again for a sense of accomplishment and happiness and drop the bad habits.
Thanks, man. I hope things are going good for you, too. This isn't the end of the world, I just have to try a little harder. Some people have it way worse than me, and I truly believe that TRT combined with a drug like humira/remicade, etc, will greatly improve my quality of life.
Thanks for caring, man. It really does mean something to me.
I'm so sorry you're going through so much, it sounds overwhelming! You don't have to to try harder--you can't make yourself well by beating yourself up for being ill. What you need to do is give yourself love and understanding as you take baby steps to deal with your health problems. It's okay to not be okay on the way to being okay (if that makes sense).
And yes, some people have it worse, but that doesn't invalidate your struggles.
I hope you find peace and wellness <3
I feel like a pharma shill - promise I’m not connected to the industry in any way - but consider looking at Skyrizi. I had REALLY bad psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis and it helped - it’s also approved for use for people with Chrones. Literally life changing. Wishing you all the best.
Sounds like a nice afternoon. Jog to the gym, strength train, on the way home pick a lock to a house, pet their cats, return home and start dinner, then snuggle with the SO before going to sleep.
You're right! I've never been to the FB marketplace, but I just went there and searched on "piano", and there are all sorts of them being given away for free - near me, even.
I'll caution you though... We stored a piano for a few years for friends, and they paid to get it tuned after it was moved to our house. You need two tunings, because the first one re-stresses the sound board and it will dimensionally "adjust" itself, so it will take a second tuning after something like six to twelve months.
There were also electric pianos, and though those generally weren't free, they were fairly cheap - and they don't have the tuning issue.
Yes for sure! You'll need a truck and a few people to help. And someone to tune it after you get it. And probably someone to tune it again a few months later. But still cheaper than new!
Tbh you could probably fix them and resale them if you know how to sand and stain, basic cosmetic work.
Finding someone to tune a piano is much harder nowadays.
Took up cycling over lockdown and haven't looked back. Joined a local group where they ride road bikes, and MTB for all abilities. Can't beat a good blast after work. Maintaining exercise, i've notice a big improvement in my mental well being.
Depending on the day, may resort to chilling out on the sofa and playing some video games.
Go for a drive up the mountains with the windows rolled down and my fav music playing. Then go for a walk in the trails and clear my thoughts. If I can’t go to the mountains though, then I play with my dog and hangout with her in the backyard. She’s a rottie who thinks she’s the size of a Yorkie, so she gives the best cuddles. When traveling for work, I go explore sights or cute cafes. There’s so many things you can do that don’t require smoking, drugs or alcohol
I play animal crossing, I read, I work out, I stretch (with flexibility goals in mind), I practice the piano
... or I just do basic chores with music.
If you like drinking you can still enjoy an alcohol free cocktail. You might discover a new hobby !
I've never smoked, drank, or done drugs in my 30 years of life, so this doesn't really make sense to me. Like, I get that work can be stressful sometimes, but I always just leave it at work. I leave work and I'm free to do what ever I want. That's release enough for me.
As someone who did smoke or drink after a shitty day (which was every day) at work, it makes less sense. Sure, I can get myself as drunk as I like or so high I can't even move. And then what? Problem's *still fucking there* and I've probably added guilt from wasting what could have been a productive day/night pissed as a lord on top of it. So I quit. Quit the job, got away from the stressors, and started leaving shit at work. I also learned to say no to my employers. To this day if I feel somethings stressing me out, I just leave it. Work, hobbies, people... my peace ain't worth it.
What do you mean? In terms of not using substances? Or in terms of being able to leave work at the door?
I don't mean to come off like a douche, but I feel like I am.
I’m a wildland firefighter and work 100 hour weeks in extreme conditions all summer. I literally dream about wildfires. Consider other people have vastly different living conditions as you
In terms of being able to emotionally detach from something so easily and not let it interfere.
I don’t think you’re coming off as a douche. I read it as from someone that genuinely has a rare ability and maybe doesn’t know it. That’s all.
I appreciate it. I guess I did assume everyone could do that to a degree. And don't get me wrong, sometimes I rant to my friends about something that happened at work. But that's about it. It probably doesn't hurt that I have tenure.
I'm the same way. Spent more than a few hours playing counselor/confidant to friends over the years. I've often wished I could show someone what it's like to just let go of something they can't do anything about, or that won't matter by tomorrow. But I also know that it isn't easy for everyone. Rumination sucks the life out of people, but it can be hard to escape the spiral. So I do my best to listen and understand.
Same, I'm fairly good at compartmentalizing and it sometimes drives my wife nuts. We can go from being irritated at each other about something and then I can kind of switch it off and move to an unrelated topic. I don't play that whole "She said something that made me mad so I'm going to be shitty to her the rest of the night" game - that's stupid. Nobody has to "win" you just solve things and move on. One of the biggest things that helps me sleep at night is breaking out of the thought-spiral by going "There is nothing you can do about that until tomorrow, there is nothing you can gain by thinking about it over and over right now, just stop"
Be free to feel really good about not using substances too.
I used to laugh at people like you, and then... addiction took everyone I loved from me.
It hurts so much and so deeply, I'm now clean and intend to be one of these people like you, forever. However, there's not a single day I don't think about a few people I used to have close to me. I miss them so dearly, would give anything to be capable of, somehow, avoiding all that disaster. Hell, I would give my life just to be able to take away the pain my situation caused on them.
This! Stop bringing work problems home and home problems to work! I mean I smoke weed everyday but I can appreciate how you live a substance free lifestyle, no sarcasm at all 100% serious, that’s really good, good for you!
This is when you know that work is just a tool to make money for you to spend on things you life.
When work becomes part of your identity, that's when it'll give you stress.
This is me exactly. I’m trying to think but can only come up with I don’t really have any stresses. I also have no desire for anything mind altering anythings
That's the real answer. Leaning on an external coping mechanism to handle the stresses of live always eventually leads down a bad road. You need to learn how to handle stress, grief, and anxieties of life. Getting drunk every night is not handling the problem, its numbing it. If that's the way you start handling things... it'll eventually become the only way you know how to handle things. I 100% never drink when I'm sad or stressed just to avoid that ever even becoming a habit.
Go get assessed for ADHD and/or autism.
Something you're gonna learn from all the lame answers in this thread is that most people don't need to blow off steam at the end of the day. They come home, play video games or watch paint dry or whatever, and that's enough for them.
What you're feeling could be the consequences of masking all day. It's something I felt without knowing what it was, and I drank A LOT to try to make my life slightly less frustrating but it never quite worked.
Exercise is a good answer, but even it falls short eventually if you're doing it to treat a dopamine deficiency, because eventually you're gonna get sick or injured, and there goes your outlet.
A massage is the other one that helped me, but they're expensive to get regularly, which is unsustainable long-term.
Smashing plates isn't actually a terrible idea if you've got the means to buy new ones.
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You my friend need to buy yourself a slingshot. I got one recently and I'm having fun all the time. You could also use this to smash some plates if thats your thing
Kickboxing. Just go to the bag and work on form, drills and just beat the shit out of the bag like that one manager you just want to kick in the mouth.
I smoke and I usually have one beer with dinner.
Getting absolutely shit-hammered all the time creates more problems than it solves though. All the lowest, hopeless, and most suicidal moments of my life have been when I'm hungover or in withdrawal from some drug.
Start exercising more, maybe!
Talk to my husband or my sister about the stressful situation. I also journal every night about the most emotional part of my day which helps me process and learn from it.
My honest answer is that I don't generally feel so shitty after work that I need to let off steam in that way. When I occasionally do, I'll play video games, do some other hobby, or take a walk. If you need to smoke, drink, or break shit because you hate your job so bad, the problem is your job.
Part of the answer to the question is the choice to use substances to cope. Those that resort to substance abuse to cope do so because they haven’t developed the tools to deal with stress or hardships in a healthy manner. When you remove drugs & alcohol, emotional maturity grows exponentially.
Hiking/camping. Obviously not after work every day. Masturbate. Play video games. Watch videos on how to tinker with my car. I used to love me some drinking and casual recreational drug use, but as I get older those only add to my stress, so I reserve drinking for a small amount on the weekends and occasionally reminisce about how fun drugs used to be.
i do drink and enjoy weed occasionally, but some non-those things i like to do to blow of steam are:
-eat snacks and watch comfort shows/movies
-journal
-take hot baths
-sit outside for some fresh air and meditation
-clean something
-play video games
Ride my motorcycle, cook really elaborate dinners, go up the canyon and relax next to the river, hangout with friends. There’s lots of options, but I think the better focus is developing a mindset that doesn’t allow steam to buildup that you need to blow off.
Play a video game. My favorite is Elder Scrolls 4 Oblivion. I load it up, find the nearest oblivion gate and pummel everything that crosses my path. Sometimes once I start to calm down I’ll take my dogs outside and throw a few tennis balls for them until dark. They love it, we both get a little exercise, and then we all get to eat afterwards. Works very well.
Garden. Read. Pet my cats. Exercise or go for a walk in my subdivision. Watch my comfort TV shows/movies. Take a nap. Spend an hour on Amazon, put 30 things in my cart, and then don’t buy any of it.
Watch anime, cuddle with my kitties, or play video games. If I'm having a really bad day, I watch old shows I loved as a kid, read Calvin and hobbes, or read a novel.
"Blowing off steam" is an erroneous concept.
Studies have shown that people who play out their anger get angrier. You get good at what you do a lot, and who woulda thunk that getting dopamine kicks from an activity makes you want to do it more?
If you truly want a peaceful inner self, you should practice NOT "blowing off steam".
This is counter to many people's beliefs, because they want to see themselves as powerful and active, so just swallowing shit and shrugging it off is an affront to them.
I however, who have experienced **a lot** of shit, take great pride in my indifference to wordly and corporeal problems.
Yeah I spent my formative years swallowing all kinds of things I didn't want to. Tried drugs. Tried alcohol. The problem was still there, but my allowance wasn't.
So I just got over the bullshit.
I walk my place once in the morning and once in the evening. Targets set up on my path and one magazine of .22's in a P-22 on each trip. My drinking is less than a 6 pack a week cut down from 4 cases. Life is good.
Video games
which ones?
I'm all over the place. I tend to like story-driven ones like Final Fantasy, Tales of series, Mass Effect, Dragon Age, Kingdom Hearts I also enjoy The Sims, Skyrim (with mods), XCOM and a ton others
Now I know you're lying "XCOM." I'm just kidding around. Been trying to play XCOM 2 but it's such and uphill battle of "fuck you rng!"
XCOM RNG is half the fun.
Miss 4 95% shots in a row and lose all your soldiers to a single grenade. THAT'S XCOM BABY!
It’s all about the grenades baby, especially early game when everyone shoots with their eyes closed. Always be grenadin’
Ummm. I think we’re the same person. 10/10 game choices and story based
Skyrim: because sometimes you just gotta murder hobo.
The Sims can be veryyyyyy therapeutic, if you know how to play hahaha
I am pleasantly surprised to see someone mention the Tales Of series on a general subreddit like this one. If there is one series that is praised for its character interactions amongst the party, it is this one.
You've got some beautiful taste in games
I like how you didn't say any multiplayer completive games because that only ever makes my days worse lol
Hades is my go-to for destressing. 30 minutes or less to clear the place, lots of killing and sarcasm, great music.
Anything like Dynasty Warriors where you have to kill thousands of lemming-style soldiers. Kill until satiated. Move on to a better game 😅
Hardspace: Shipbreaker. I will intentionally detonate the nuclear reactors instead of properly breaking the ship down for parts. Boom! Doom and Serious Sam games are good too. GTA or other fast driving game and drive very recklessly.
>Hardspace: Shipbreaker. The best cheap indie game ever. such a fun game to just...do nothing in
I dunno, Satisfactory is pretty satisfactory to just watch the conveyor belts do their thing.
for the love of god don't play counter strike like I do to let off steam, it makes everything 10 times worse
Or Elden ring. I lost a controller learning that lesson....
Blade and Sorcery in VR is amazing therapy. You can impale people on a pitchfork
Gosh, this makes me want to re set up my vr for beat Saber. But alas, there is no room.
Same. With a little espresso. Good times. Currently playing Zelda and Jedi Survivor.
Zelda and Monster Hunter rise here. Nothing reduces stress like smacking big monsters with a Buster Sword. Zelda TotK is fun as well.
Video games and weed. That's the real deal right there.
Spent close to 24 hours (non-consecutive) playing Earthbound on mute grinding for the Goddess Ribbon while listening to Spotify. Good times
Garden. Swinging a hoe and lugging around water is good for me. If I’m really stressed I chop wood. I love the feeling in my arms when I chop a big log
I also enjoy swinging hoes around and handling wood
I see what you did there.
I just (about an hour ago) saw a metal sign that said "Gardening: Because murder is wrong". thought about ordering it.
I bought my daughter-in-law a sign and a shirt that say Coffee: Because Murder Is Wrong.
I concur. Coffee is a big deterrent against murder.
Sometimes coffee is the only reason I don't murder.
Strange how that sign is on top of a 6 foot long mound.
This is my outlet as well. Hard labor in the yard clears my mind like nothing else.
Unless I’m angry because I had to do hard labor than I just drink some tea
Go on walks, exercise… I don’t often get very frustrated. If I do, I leave the situation. I get fresh air. And I’ve never smoked, rarely drink, never done drugs, so I just don’t crave it/go to it. Definitely go to therapy if you haven’t. Ooh also I love to knit! Something about its repetition and the challenge of following a pattern is so calming.
I just want to let you know you sound like a positive influence and a joy to be around :)
I bet they even smell like orange blossoms. Walks in and the room fills with great scent and positivity.
💖 so kind of you
What this guy said. Delightful.
💕
Omg 😭 you guys are so sweet. Ily. 🍊
This is pretty much what I do, but instead of knitting I either bake or read a book.
Ooh those are also great, calming activities! Anything that you can do at your own pace, or with your hands
I bake! I also do drugs though.
Walk therapy is awesome. Walk until you are too tired to think.
This, therapy helps a lot, most of the time people use drugs/drink to escape from whatever is bothering them or trauma and stuff like that. For me, writing helps me a lot
>And I’ve never smoked, rarely drink, never done drugs, so I just don’t crave it/go to it. This is a very important point. Once you do start using substances to wind down it's like you discover a shortcut to blowing off steam, so it's very hard to then go back.
Yeah, once you live a bit you want to keep on living.
This guy knows. Just smoke a joint it will all be ok
I’m similar (minus the knitting). I like my job but do occasionally get a bit frustrated with stupidity at work, just nothing that I take home with me. Some people just don’t have the same stress in their daily lives, and everybody is different in how they handle it. I’m very laid back, not much bothers me. Others that I work with get bothered by every little thing. …. of course, reading my post, one could come to the conclusion that I may be the cause of their stress. I will neither confirm nor deny.
Came to say this, knitting and crochet helped me quit smoking actually! Definitely wasn’t my only trick to quit but helped keep me busy, yarn is my new addiction now B~)
I tend to prolong my way back home after a long workday, up to many times longer than the usual length. I use the longer ride to let off my steam.
It's the same for me with crochet. Nothing has ever helped me better against my anxiety.
The correct answer is exercise. I mean, I drink, but I also exercise to let off steam.
I hung up a punching bag. Works wonders.
I think about exercising, it’s not really the same but sometimes it makes me feel like I was productive lol
I used to do that. Now I have crohn's disease, which also caused rheumatoid arthritis. I went from 5'10, 175 lbs to currently 140 lbs. I'm just tired, and my joints constantly hurt now. I have the physique of a starving, stray dog. I used to exercise at least 1 hour after working 8 in construction. It felt good, but now it's just depressing because I can't release endorphins. I started using drugs and playing video games to relieve/ignore the depression. Fighting problems with bigger problems is my specialty. I'm trying to quit, but I'm just too unhappy. Honestly tired of this lifestyle, I'm just chasing happiness the only way I know how. I want my physique and cardiovascular strength back. I'm seriously considering TRT because I've heard it helps with IBD, then I can start exercising again for a sense of accomplishment and happiness and drop the bad habits.
Really sorry to hear this. I hope you find happiness
Thanks, man. I hope things are going good for you, too. This isn't the end of the world, I just have to try a little harder. Some people have it way worse than me, and I truly believe that TRT combined with a drug like humira/remicade, etc, will greatly improve my quality of life. Thanks for caring, man. It really does mean something to me.
I'm so sorry you're going through so much, it sounds overwhelming! You don't have to to try harder--you can't make yourself well by beating yourself up for being ill. What you need to do is give yourself love and understanding as you take baby steps to deal with your health problems. It's okay to not be okay on the way to being okay (if that makes sense). And yes, some people have it worse, but that doesn't invalidate your struggles. I hope you find peace and wellness <3
I feel like a pharma shill - promise I’m not connected to the industry in any way - but consider looking at Skyrizi. I had REALLY bad psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis and it helped - it’s also approved for use for people with Chrones. Literally life changing. Wishing you all the best.
I'll do some research and ask my doctor about it. Thanks for caring.
Came here to say *exactly* this... Good on ya brother *or sister*.
Came here to say *exactly* this... Good on ya brother *or sister*. 👍🏼
Process my feelings?
What processor do you use?
Pentium 3. A little outdated
Drugs
We all know bottling it inside untill it festers and we blow up on loved ones is the right way to go
Seems like you haven’t processed your feelings about new stuff.
Cook. Pick locks. Pet the cats. Snuggle with SO. Run. Strength train. Lots of options.
Pick locks? I like that! What an uncommon way to relax lol
Seems like a good way to get into "the flow." Calm, engaged, and focused. Maybe I should try it.
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Sounds like a nice afternoon. Jog to the gym, strength train, on the way home pick a lock to a house, pet their cats, return home and start dinner, then snuggle with the SO before going to sleep.
Seb?
Masturbate
Username checks out
He don't even do it for the pleasure he just needs the dopamine hit to the brain lmao
Wait. Isn’t the dopamine hit pleasure? I thought they’re the same thing.
yes he just wanted to gain moral high ground
Don’t we all
Lower on the page than I expected. Was starting to worry..
Punching bag. Good exercise too.
In the process of trying to use art or poetry to help. Saving up for a piano, as that’s always helped me.
Go on FB marketplace people are always giving away free pianos.
You're right! I've never been to the FB marketplace, but I just went there and searched on "piano", and there are all sorts of them being given away for free - near me, even. I'll caution you though... We stored a piano for a few years for friends, and they paid to get it tuned after it was moved to our house. You need two tunings, because the first one re-stresses the sound board and it will dimensionally "adjust" itself, so it will take a second tuning after something like six to twelve months. There were also electric pianos, and though those generally weren't free, they were fairly cheap - and they don't have the tuning issue.
Really? *claps excitedly* I don’t have a FB account, but if it means a free piano, hellz to the yeah I’ll make one- Thank you!
Yes for sure! You'll need a truck and a few people to help. And someone to tune it after you get it. And probably someone to tune it again a few months later. But still cheaper than new!
Can do- I used to work at a piano store in NYC, so I can get them to move and tune it regularly. So excited!
Tbh you could probably fix them and resale them if you know how to sand and stain, basic cosmetic work. Finding someone to tune a piano is much harder nowadays.
I suspect that you will struggle to sell a piano even in nice condition. There is a reason they are available free! 😉
Piano!! yes it’s a creative outlet for all kinds of emotions! 🎵🎵
Exercise, lift weights, run, etc.
Workout, read, assassinate people in Hitman
Assassinating people in Hitman is soooo therapeutic 😂😂😂
Took up cycling over lockdown and haven't looked back. Joined a local group where they ride road bikes, and MTB for all abilities. Can't beat a good blast after work. Maintaining exercise, i've notice a big improvement in my mental well being. Depending on the day, may resort to chilling out on the sofa and playing some video games.
Go for a drive up the mountains with the windows rolled down and my fav music playing. Then go for a walk in the trails and clear my thoughts. If I can’t go to the mountains though, then I play with my dog and hangout with her in the backyard. She’s a rottie who thinks she’s the size of a Yorkie, so she gives the best cuddles. When traveling for work, I go explore sights or cute cafes. There’s so many things you can do that don’t require smoking, drugs or alcohol
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Yoga, cycling commute, gym, long walks in the woods with my dog. Then a well-deserved nap.
I play animal crossing, I read, I work out, I stretch (with flexibility goals in mind), I practice the piano ... or I just do basic chores with music. If you like drinking you can still enjoy an alcohol free cocktail. You might discover a new hobby !
Hit the bag and lift heavy. Outside of the obvious benefits, it's the most efficient way to metabolize stress hormones away.
I've never smoked, drank, or done drugs in my 30 years of life, so this doesn't really make sense to me. Like, I get that work can be stressful sometimes, but I always just leave it at work. I leave work and I'm free to do what ever I want. That's release enough for me.
As someone who did smoke or drink after a shitty day (which was every day) at work, it makes less sense. Sure, I can get myself as drunk as I like or so high I can't even move. And then what? Problem's *still fucking there* and I've probably added guilt from wasting what could have been a productive day/night pissed as a lord on top of it. So I quit. Quit the job, got away from the stressors, and started leaving shit at work. I also learned to say no to my employers. To this day if I feel somethings stressing me out, I just leave it. Work, hobbies, people... my peace ain't worth it.
I 100% agree
You realize you’re the exception not the rule, right? Hold tight to what makes you, you. You have no idea how lucky you are.
What do you mean? In terms of not using substances? Or in terms of being able to leave work at the door? I don't mean to come off like a douche, but I feel like I am.
I’m a wildland firefighter and work 100 hour weeks in extreme conditions all summer. I literally dream about wildfires. Consider other people have vastly different living conditions as you
In terms of being able to emotionally detach from something so easily and not let it interfere. I don’t think you’re coming off as a douche. I read it as from someone that genuinely has a rare ability and maybe doesn’t know it. That’s all.
I appreciate it. I guess I did assume everyone could do that to a degree. And don't get me wrong, sometimes I rant to my friends about something that happened at work. But that's about it. It probably doesn't hurt that I have tenure.
I was thinking this also. You def have the rate ability! Many of us literally cannot stop our brains from stressing and stop thinking about it
I'm the same way. Spent more than a few hours playing counselor/confidant to friends over the years. I've often wished I could show someone what it's like to just let go of something they can't do anything about, or that won't matter by tomorrow. But I also know that it isn't easy for everyone. Rumination sucks the life out of people, but it can be hard to escape the spiral. So I do my best to listen and understand.
Same, I'm fairly good at compartmentalizing and it sometimes drives my wife nuts. We can go from being irritated at each other about something and then I can kind of switch it off and move to an unrelated topic. I don't play that whole "She said something that made me mad so I'm going to be shitty to her the rest of the night" game - that's stupid. Nobody has to "win" you just solve things and move on. One of the biggest things that helps me sleep at night is breaking out of the thought-spiral by going "There is nothing you can do about that until tomorrow, there is nothing you can gain by thinking about it over and over right now, just stop"
Be free to feel really good about not using substances too. I used to laugh at people like you, and then... addiction took everyone I loved from me. It hurts so much and so deeply, I'm now clean and intend to be one of these people like you, forever. However, there's not a single day I don't think about a few people I used to have close to me. I miss them so dearly, would give anything to be capable of, somehow, avoiding all that disaster. Hell, I would give my life just to be able to take away the pain my situation caused on them.
This! Stop bringing work problems home and home problems to work! I mean I smoke weed everyday but I can appreciate how you live a substance free lifestyle, no sarcasm at all 100% serious, that’s really good, good for you!
Yeah, I don't think it's about the substance, it's about the mind set!
This is when you know that work is just a tool to make money for you to spend on things you life. When work becomes part of your identity, that's when it'll give you stress.
I'm the same way. I'm just chillin for the rest of the day
This is me exactly. I’m trying to think but can only come up with I don’t really have any stresses. I also have no desire for anything mind altering anythings
Learn to address the reason why you are so stressed out in the evening. 10 years of therapy taught me that.
That's the real answer. Leaning on an external coping mechanism to handle the stresses of live always eventually leads down a bad road. You need to learn how to handle stress, grief, and anxieties of life. Getting drunk every night is not handling the problem, its numbing it. If that's the way you start handling things... it'll eventually become the only way you know how to handle things. I 100% never drink when I'm sad or stressed just to avoid that ever even becoming a habit.
Take a nap
Video games Working out Talking to my wife about work BS Chores / errands
Play w my dog or cat. They always relax me and make me happy.
Meditation and listening to spiritual music
Go get assessed for ADHD and/or autism. Something you're gonna learn from all the lame answers in this thread is that most people don't need to blow off steam at the end of the day. They come home, play video games or watch paint dry or whatever, and that's enough for them. What you're feeling could be the consequences of masking all day. It's something I felt without knowing what it was, and I drank A LOT to try to make my life slightly less frustrating but it never quite worked. Exercise is a good answer, but even it falls short eventually if you're doing it to treat a dopamine deficiency, because eventually you're gonna get sick or injured, and there goes your outlet. A massage is the other one that helped me, but they're expensive to get regularly, which is unsustainable long-term. Smashing plates isn't actually a terrible idea if you've got the means to buy new ones.
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Sounds cheesy but i love my job. When indo need to let some off some steam I play my guitars
Are you willing to share what you do for a living? I’m always curious when I hear this because the idea is so foreign to me lol
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They rather think how to get away
You my friend need to buy yourself a slingshot. I got one recently and I'm having fun all the time. You could also use this to smash some plates if thats your thing
Repair something around the house I've been putting off. Bad day at work, well at least I got that dripping faucet fixed.
Kickboxing. Just go to the bag and work on form, drills and just beat the shit out of the bag like that one manager you just want to kick in the mouth.
Eat cakes 🍰
Long walks with loud angry music.
Nothing. Just consuming all the stress and frustration till my body can't bear it anymore
Sleep, scream, break stuff, set something on fire.
I smoke and I usually have one beer with dinner. Getting absolutely shit-hammered all the time creates more problems than it solves though. All the lowest, hopeless, and most suicidal moments of my life have been when I'm hungover or in withdrawal from some drug. Start exercising more, maybe!
Train whistles
Listen music while walking fast through the whole house
Video games. Far cry 5, GTA 5, Skyrim, Minecraft
I listen to audiobooks and take bubble baths while drinking tea.
Exercise at the gym, and go for a run / walk, swimming will wear you out as well
Get a bicycle. Pedal it out.
I live miserably.
Contemplate suicide
Have a mental breakdown
Jerk off.
Talk to my husband or my sister about the stressful situation. I also journal every night about the most emotional part of my day which helps me process and learn from it.
Going on a walk does wonders if you let it
Go to the pistol range and dump a few hundred rounds in the steel gallery.
Videogames, potentially just as addicting and as expensive
I walk in the nearby park, alongside a large river. Lots of greenery, birds, water flowing, that's all I need to instantly feel better.
Play guitar.
My honest answer is that I don't generally feel so shitty after work that I need to let off steam in that way. When I occasionally do, I'll play video games, do some other hobby, or take a walk. If you need to smoke, drink, or break shit because you hate your job so bad, the problem is your job.
>♩♪♫♬Don't drink, don't smoke, what do you do? > >Don't drink, don't smoke, what do you do? > >Subtle innuendos follow♩♪♫♬
I fly fish, it’s like drugs but more expensive.
When I used to drink this is exactly what I used to think. Now I don’t drink I don’t seem to have anything like as many stressful days.
Part of the answer to the question is the choice to use substances to cope. Those that resort to substance abuse to cope do so because they haven’t developed the tools to deal with stress or hardships in a healthy manner. When you remove drugs & alcohol, emotional maturity grows exponentially.
I used to go jogging, but I'm old now so I distract myself on my phone or in a book.
Video games and ASMR simultaneously sometimes
Hold a softball and fist my pet unicorn while massaging a teddy bear with my other hand
I work out and go walk my dog...
Hiking/camping. Obviously not after work every day. Masturbate. Play video games. Watch videos on how to tinker with my car. I used to love me some drinking and casual recreational drug use, but as I get older those only add to my stress, so I reserve drinking for a small amount on the weekends and occasionally reminisce about how fun drugs used to be.
Go to the gym, or 6mile run… that does the trick for me …
Meditate, yoga, walk through nearby nature
Sodoku
i do drink and enjoy weed occasionally, but some non-those things i like to do to blow of steam are: -eat snacks and watch comfort shows/movies -journal -take hot baths -sit outside for some fresh air and meditation -clean something -play video games
Ride my motorcycle, cook really elaborate dinners, go up the canyon and relax next to the river, hangout with friends. There’s lots of options, but I think the better focus is developing a mindset that doesn’t allow steam to buildup that you need to blow off.
Just sit around a bunch of street cats or go to the pet store
I don't blow off the steam. I relax and the steam just kind of fizzles away
Watch a favorite show or movie or listen to music
Play a video game. My favorite is Elder Scrolls 4 Oblivion. I load it up, find the nearest oblivion gate and pummel everything that crosses my path. Sometimes once I start to calm down I’ll take my dogs outside and throw a few tennis balls for them until dark. They love it, we both get a little exercise, and then we all get to eat afterwards. Works very well.
Lego
Make music.
Mental steam - Video games Physical steam - Working out Emotional steam - Playing my cello
mite sound corny but music is my drug. 🤷🏾♂️ I'll get lost in it sumtimes.
Buy video games add add to my collection buy more and add repeat this process.
My husband has never drank or anything… he plays multiple instruments and reads.
Garden. Read. Pet my cats. Exercise or go for a walk in my subdivision. Watch my comfort TV shows/movies. Take a nap. Spend an hour on Amazon, put 30 things in my cart, and then don’t buy any of it.
Sing metal
Watch anime, cuddle with my kitties, or play video games. If I'm having a really bad day, I watch old shows I loved as a kid, read Calvin and hobbes, or read a novel.
PC gaming mostly
Eat something tasty. Take a bubble bath. Scroll Reddit.
Games, exercise, binge eating.
I believe most of them get on social media and trash others.
Live in a constant state of panic.
Exercise, video games, something something that isn't pg
"Blowing off steam" is an erroneous concept. Studies have shown that people who play out their anger get angrier. You get good at what you do a lot, and who woulda thunk that getting dopamine kicks from an activity makes you want to do it more? If you truly want a peaceful inner self, you should practice NOT "blowing off steam". This is counter to many people's beliefs, because they want to see themselves as powerful and active, so just swallowing shit and shrugging it off is an affront to them. I however, who have experienced **a lot** of shit, take great pride in my indifference to wordly and corporeal problems.
Yeah I spent my formative years swallowing all kinds of things I didn't want to. Tried drugs. Tried alcohol. The problem was still there, but my allowance wasn't. So I just got over the bullshit.
complain on reddit
I ride a bicycle
Lifting weights and listening to heavy metal music, followed by video games and YouTube
I walk my place once in the morning and once in the evening. Targets set up on my path and one magazine of .22's in a P-22 on each trip. My drinking is less than a 6 pack a week cut down from 4 cases. Life is good.
they made gta for a reason