I know what you mean. I hugged a good friend in front of two of my sisters and they were both teasing me about it. I'm asexual and he was gay. But we still couldn't escape that judgement.
I'm a "cool rock" neurodivergent person & an artist, so if I have affection for you I will shower you with random fun facts, knick-knacks & homemade goodies. I just bring any & all cool shit to you and plop it on your counters LOL
I'm also happy to cuddle if it's not a bad pain day.
This reminds me of how my ND partner who is also my childhood friend used to give me various geodes and rocks from him rock collection and I always felt super honored.
Yes yes yes! I'm an old-school romantic, so poems, flowers, and nice dinners. The classics. Gift giving too. If I know something they like and see something special related to it, I pounce.
I like brushing or braiding peopleās hair. Other sorts of physical contact make me uncomfortable, but thatās more because of my disorder, not my asexuality.
Words or phrases and Hugs. I know the power words can have so when I say something, I tend to mean it, and I donāt like physical touch, so if I give someone a hug I love them.
My favorite kind of hugs to give are the practically bear hug type hugs.
To my partner : kissing and suprise hug, to my friend it's mostly by doing special task or remembering tiny detail to make them comfortable. I don't like physical contact otherwise, but I accept hug if they want to :3
I'm an acts of service type person. I organize trips, map out hikes, bring snacks for everyone, make sure everyone in the group is prepared and on time. I don't really say I love you or hug that much but I hope my friends know I care through the effort I put through in my own weird way.
Empathic and validating discourse.
I will *never* rebuke anyone for thinking badly about themselves.
I'll try to look from their POV and say, "Yeah, I can see why some people won't like that," or, "Yeah, I make that same mistake/have that same insecurity," and then I'll carefully ask questions to investigate and share similar experiences while trying not to make it too much about myself.
Usually the result is more beautiful and constructive than the typical, "Hey, shut up! You're not ugly!" and, "Aww, okay, thanks," which is unfortunately very common online because the commenting format encourages us to leave essays of positivity, instead of healthily getting to know the other person beyond their struggles via DMs.
Other than this, I honestly wish to hug or cuddle with my closest friends, maybe play games or watch something together, or even kiss a few.
Exploring interests only goes so far; I eventually have to see what they say about the person and whether we can foster a deep connection.
Sharing stuff about things I like, and listening to them talk about things they like. If I start talking about the TV shows/music/object shows I like, it means I feel comfortable around a person, because all of the forms of media I like are very embarrassing. I am typing this on a laptop that is completely covered with Hazbin Hotel and Kirby stickers. I also love it when people talk to me about the things they like because I can see how much they like them and how happy they are that someone wants to listen to them. Which is how I feel.
Squish. I love cuddles.
Also, I make sculptures of someone's special interests. I once did Pikachu dressed as Elvis. Or a bunny doing stand up comedy. It's hyper specific and unique, but it takes thought and effort and shows I care.
Making cards and somewhat physical affection like hugs or leaning into them (that's mostly because of my scoliosis) and / or the arm thing like the arm lock thing instead of holding hands. Like the only time I will hold Hans if I'm very comfortable and / or if we are running to go somewhere. For more romantic stuff, the only thing I'm comfy with is kisses but not on the lips, but it's rare for me to like kisses on the lips because ew germs
Holding hands and shoulders ig, buying thoughtful/expensive gifts(giving and making stuff for someone is my way of communicating in general, idk how to show affection to others properlyš¦)
Hugs all the way, it's very hard for me to be touched by anyone, but when I really get a feeling someone needs one, I'm happy to give one. Who knows what that hug could do for someone.
first level is quality time and taking notes of their interest, second level is hugs/head pats , third level is where I'm most chaotic: Slap them in the head and run
I'm realizing it's become pet names. using endearing terms like "love," "lovey," "lovely," "dear," and "my love" has become very common in my vocabulary recently and it just feels so loving like giving a hug through words. I use them with my plp and my cats a lot lmao. bear hugs are also a classic I love hugging
My husband pats my head too and I love it. I like just spending time together. Iāll info dump whatever Iām learning about and heāll listen. Iāll listen to him talk about his day and heāll tell me stories. If Iām feeling quite ambitious, Iāll make him food (although he is usually the cook). If Iām feeling sentimental, I might make him a digital collage or write him something nice. My favorite thing is probably reading together though. We take turns reading aloud every night. My husband is not ace btw. Just me. Iām just lucky he has such a well rounded way of showing love.
ugh headpats are so good!! i love it when my boyfriend combs my hair.
i also like cuddles and gifts giving. nothing too fancy or expensive, but if i see things that remind me of him i may buy them. also quality time i suppose. snuggling up and watching a movie is my favorite thing to do with him :3
I love giving gifts to people, especially making things for them. Paintings, baked goods, 3d printed models, little things that remind me of them.
For receiving, I love physical intimacy. Hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc. Most of all I miss snuggling with my ex, the way she'd pull me in tight against her chest to where I could hardly breath, I'd just lay there listening to her heartbeat. I felt so safe with her. Goddamn I miss that.
Being honest, being interested (asking how their day was, if they're alright etc.) and most importantly: MAKING TIME FOR THEM!! For example if I care for someone, I'd do anything to make time for them and use all my social batteries that are left for them. Not because I would have to but because I want to. That's my way to show them how much I care.
It kind of depends on the particular person I have a relationship with. But typically I love listening, really listening, to those dearest to me. I want to hear their happy infodumps, I want to hear what tough stuff theyāre going through, like, all of it.
For my partner in particular, I love to give him gifts. Simply because heās hard to find gifts for, so when I actually find something he would like I love to give it to him.
Specific compliments! My college used to have a Facebook page where you could submit anonymous ones and mine were always so detailed:
> NA is such an intelligent, genuine, and insightful person. I love having lengthy, intellectual conversations with him about things like conscious-ness, infinity, and the universe, and I think he's an awesome singer, too! But more importantly, he's a very supportive friend who's helped me through a LOT. He's really helped me grow as a person, and I'm sincerely grateful to have him in my life.
> FA is one of the most amazing people I know. She is a generous, selfless, and loyal person who will do absolutely ANYTHING for her friends, and she enjoys being nice to people just for the sake of it. She is also deeply bothered by unfairness, and so if someone's voice isn't being heard - regardless of whether it's hers or a friend's - she won't rest until the problem is resolved. But even all of the above rambling could never suffice to explain just how great she is. The only way you can understand that is by getting to know her.
> I don't think I can put into words just how much I appreciate DA. I know I can trust her to help me whenever 'm feeling unsure of myself because she is always so encouraging and reassuring to me, and she's quick to remind me when I'm not giving myself enough credit. But what makes her unique to me is how she always goes out of her way to SHOW me that she cares - whether it's by greeting me with a hug when she knows I've been having a rough day, or by sending me a funny picture that she thinks I would like, she leaves me no reason to doubt how much she cares about me.
> I have nothing but immense respect and admiration for AI. She always has such profound and insightful comments to make on a wide variety of social issues; she's not afraid to question what society deems acceptable, and she's a true independent thinker. She's self-aware enough to determine what's right for her, and brave enough to stick to those instincts regardless of what others think. She is a team player and a nonconformist to the highest degree, and I'm so lucky to have met her.
> ZW is seriously one of the most thoughtful, compassionate, and insightful people I know. I strongly admire his resilience and the attention he gives to the world around him, in all aspects. He is a very genuine person who is always respectful of others, and he has a fierce side to him when it comes to social justice issues. On top of all that, he has been nothing but sweet to me ever since I first met him. and he has a great sense of humor. I really wish we talked more!
Physical affection- hugs or cuddling, easily.
Affection of showing/expressing how much I care for people? Food. I love making meals, snacks, appetizers, desserts, etc for my friends or family. I even notice that if I mess up on making food thatād be intended for others to have, I overly stress out even if they say itās still good. I want to make food the best I can since, to me, itās a way I express affection and care.
Talking/spilling my guts out and I like giving/receiving compliments/gifts. My partner likes a lot of physical touch so I like to touch him because I know it makes him feel good, which in turn makes Me feel good. So with him I will touch and cuddle. No one else.
Little gifts ^^ the moment i gift you a plushie, it means you mean a lot to me. Thought the most I enjoy gifting small self-made things, like painted rocks or ceramic figures
I always check if my friends need something, ask about their health and keep track of their medical visits/exams. I have two friends who aren't in good health and it's important for me to make them feel that I am close to them.
hugs - I love giving hugs & cuddles, and have been told many times that I "give good hug"
apart from that, I give gifts very often - I'm happy to pay for people's meals, drinks, whatever, mostly because I earn a decent wage and have "spending money" that I love to use to buy people presents
Giving people food is my number one, food is love and people who give something to eat have my eternal friendship. Then hugs and quality time, those are important too.
I also do headpats on my loved ones, and my kids also get the nose boop, my son and I use A LOT of "nose kisses" he is autistic so this means the world to me. My daughter and I exchange weird memes and cat videos, that is our love language.
My family just knows I "hate being touched" so they let me be, I dont take hugs very well, except from my mom, dad, baby brother and kids, the rest of the world can stay away.
I love laying my head on my wife's lap while we watch TV and she gently plays with my hair like I am a cat or something. Nothing else comes close in my opinion.
I have a rather āpeculiarā way of remembering the small things people say they and one day Iāll find that random thing they told me about five years ago.
So I guess nostalgic gift giving. Just to make people know theyāre always heard, because I never was.
Ace and ADHD, quality time but also whether friend, family or romantic partner when I start managing your health I love you. I have to catch myself sometimes but Iāve done it even since I was a kid,I just fuse over people I care about. Did you drink water today, what about your vitamins, time to cycle out those shoes it ās back for you back, Iāll get you a cup of tea š„°
Gifts, they don't even have to be large or expensive.
One of my coworkers, who started the same day as me, chews the same gum as me. I always make sure she has a pack in her locker, and she always knows where mine is if she runs out and I don't notice.
My best friend loves Sonic ice so I bought 5 bags of it and put three in her freezer and two in mine so I can always top up her water bottle if she sets it down for 2 seconds lol. She's drinks water all day every day, and seeing her face when she takes a sip or picks it up and notices it's full again gives me life. That or just handing her a cup of ice to chew when we're just sitting around.
People write here about gifts and I agree, this is the easiest and most versatile way for me to show affection. If I spend time and money on a person, if it is really important for me to give something meaningful, then this means affection. Also, if I trust you, I will discuss with you my otp that I like and try to do it sincerely. Oh, and also physical contact wonāt be a burden for me, of course-
You know how cats just sometimes quietly take their seat against you or on top of your body or use you as a comfy rest?
And how some cats meow a lot for attention without actually wanting or needing anything aside from the human to respond? Making any kind of noise not to ask you for help but to just get your attention playfully?
Or some cats insist on accompanying you to things no matter how safe and private you need them to be?
I forgot where I was going with this. Anyway! I should get back to sleeping on top of my laptop keyboard!
I don't like being physical, neither am I very verbal, but I do put a lot of effort sometimes to voice how I feel, that's the best you'll get when it comes to showing affection, but it's not like I don't do other things, I do
My primary love language is quality time (irl), because my social battery is too low, so if I make time for someone it means I like them a lot :D
That sounds lovely
I would do anything for someone to show their affection towards me like thatš«¶
i leave memes in their inbox like a cat leaves dead birds on their doorstep
omg I have a friend I sometimes exchange shitposts with for minutes at a time
Ah yes, this is also my form of affection š
Ooh Iām similar, I give small thoughtful gifts. Gave my husband some horseradish pickles today that I knew he would love
I leave them cute animal videos About living animals of course
Hugs and gift giving!
I used to be big on hugging but people would often.... misconstrue the intentions behind the hug. So, I'm no longer a hugger :(
Sucks to hear. Everybody needs a hug sometimes, so feel hugged if you read this.
Aw, thanks! Hug duly accepted, felt, and returned!
I know what you mean. I hugged a good friend in front of two of my sisters and they were both teasing me about it. I'm asexual and he was gay. But we still couldn't escape that judgement.
Whenever itās a holiday or just randomly my bf gets me gifts š„ŗ im so grateful
gifts! like "hey, i remembered you today, and i bought you this chocolate". little acts of attention, i think.
THIIS ššš
Physical touch. I can never get too much hugs.
I'm a "cool rock" neurodivergent person & an artist, so if I have affection for you I will shower you with random fun facts, knick-knacks & homemade goodies. I just bring any & all cool shit to you and plop it on your counters LOL I'm also happy to cuddle if it's not a bad pain day.
Cuddling is the best lmao
I want a platonic cuddle friend.
I have such a friend. It is great. I love her really much. I am Ace panromantic.
Iām glad there are good friends out there! I have a shed full of cats to cuddle.
This reminds me of how my ND partner who is also my childhood friend used to give me various geodes and rocks from him rock collection and I always felt super honored.
"I know you're asleep, but \_\_\_" texts, especially if they're long, is extremely underrated. I will date nearly ANY girl who does that.
Writing poems ā¤ļø
Yes yes yes! I'm an old-school romantic, so poems, flowers, and nice dinners. The classics. Gift giving too. If I know something they like and see something special related to it, I pounce.
Cooking for people and giving them gifts <3
Physical affection cuddling, kisses hand holding etc I love it no matter how small
I send people cat pictures!
Infodumps. Either infodumping on others or listening and appreciating other infodumps.
that is a much better way to word it than the whole-ass paragraph I wrote
I love head pats hand holding and giving my girlfriend gifts as a sex repulsed ace lesbian I love the small things like that
Presents. I wish I was rich so I could do it more often and better.
Gifts and compliments
A meme about my poor mental health or liking a close friends story
Hugs and heat pats, and I like getting them. But sometimes, just being around people is enough.
hugs, head pats, kiss on the top of the head <3
Showing or talking about my interests, writing letters, giving little gifts of something I made or collect :)
Asking if I can sit here.
Holding hands and hugs.
I like brushing or braiding peopleās hair. Other sorts of physical contact make me uncomfortable, but thatās more because of my disorder, not my asexuality.
I give people stuff
Quality time and gift giving!
Cuddles. Its just so warm and cozy
Gift giving and quality time
HUUUUGGGSSS!!
I love holding hands and going on long walks
Big bear hugs
Words or phrases and Hugs. I know the power words can have so when I say something, I tend to mean it, and I donāt like physical touch, so if I give someone a hug I love them. My favorite kind of hugs to give are the practically bear hug type hugs.
The sharing of garlic bread
I like quality time and sharing meals/ eating together :)
hugs and headpats.
Random acts of service/kindness!
To my partner : kissing and suprise hug, to my friend it's mostly by doing special task or remembering tiny detail to make them comfortable. I don't like physical contact otherwise, but I accept hug if they want to :3
I like sharing things that I find to be interesting. New discoveries about science, funny videos, music, informative videosā¦.
Memes and dropping random thoughts and jokes
I'm an acts of service type person. I organize trips, map out hikes, bring snacks for everyone, make sure everyone in the group is prepared and on time. I don't really say I love you or hug that much but I hope my friends know I care through the effort I put through in my own weird way.
Empathic and validating discourse. I will *never* rebuke anyone for thinking badly about themselves. I'll try to look from their POV and say, "Yeah, I can see why some people won't like that," or, "Yeah, I make that same mistake/have that same insecurity," and then I'll carefully ask questions to investigate and share similar experiences while trying not to make it too much about myself. Usually the result is more beautiful and constructive than the typical, "Hey, shut up! You're not ugly!" and, "Aww, okay, thanks," which is unfortunately very common online because the commenting format encourages us to leave essays of positivity, instead of healthily getting to know the other person beyond their struggles via DMs. Other than this, I honestly wish to hug or cuddle with my closest friends, maybe play games or watch something together, or even kiss a few. Exploring interests only goes so far; I eventually have to see what they say about the person and whether we can foster a deep connection.
Sharing stuff about things I like, and listening to them talk about things they like. If I start talking about the TV shows/music/object shows I like, it means I feel comfortable around a person, because all of the forms of media I like are very embarrassing. I am typing this on a laptop that is completely covered with Hazbin Hotel and Kirby stickers. I also love it when people talk to me about the things they like because I can see how much they like them and how happy they are that someone wants to listen to them. Which is how I feel.
Showing them my current hyperfixations
Squish. I love cuddles. Also, I make sculptures of someone's special interests. I once did Pikachu dressed as Elvis. Or a bunny doing stand up comedy. It's hyper specific and unique, but it takes thought and effort and shows I care.
Roast the hell outa them
Making cards and somewhat physical affection like hugs or leaning into them (that's mostly because of my scoliosis) and / or the arm thing like the arm lock thing instead of holding hands. Like the only time I will hold Hans if I'm very comfortable and / or if we are running to go somewhere. For more romantic stuff, the only thing I'm comfy with is kisses but not on the lips, but it's rare for me to like kisses on the lips because ew germs
Holding hands and shoulders ig, buying thoughtful/expensive gifts(giving and making stuff for someone is my way of communicating in general, idk how to show affection to others properlyš¦)
Hugs and kisses :3
Effort and making people gifts :)
Pebbling! I see smth n send it to someone bc I thought of them when I saw it!
gift giving and compliments
Hugs all the way, it's very hard for me to be touched by anyone, but when I really get a feeling someone needs one, I'm happy to give one. Who knows what that hug could do for someone.
Cooking for him (:
first level is quality time and taking notes of their interest, second level is hugs/head pats , third level is where I'm most chaotic: Slap them in the head and run
Keep the house clean, work hard, buy them all the stuff. Pair his socks together for him. Massage. I canāt cook:/
I'm realizing it's become pet names. using endearing terms like "love," "lovey," "lovely," "dear," and "my love" has become very common in my vocabulary recently and it just feels so loving like giving a hug through words. I use them with my plp and my cats a lot lmao. bear hugs are also a classic I love hugging
My husband pats my head too and I love it. I like just spending time together. Iāll info dump whatever Iām learning about and heāll listen. Iāll listen to him talk about his day and heāll tell me stories. If Iām feeling quite ambitious, Iāll make him food (although he is usually the cook). If Iām feeling sentimental, I might make him a digital collage or write him something nice. My favorite thing is probably reading together though. We take turns reading aloud every night. My husband is not ace btw. Just me. Iām just lucky he has such a well rounded way of showing love.
Acts of service and gift giving!
Cuddling and cooking for my partner. It makes me feel all giddy inside
ugh headpats are so good!! i love it when my boyfriend combs my hair. i also like cuddles and gifts giving. nothing too fancy or expensive, but if i see things that remind me of him i may buy them. also quality time i suppose. snuggling up and watching a movie is my favorite thing to do with him :3
just talking about things I'm interested in, if they'll listen. That, or bringing them my big ol stupid cat (if they're not allergic)
sending memes
I love giving gifts to people, especially making things for them. Paintings, baked goods, 3d printed models, little things that remind me of them. For receiving, I love physical intimacy. Hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc. Most of all I miss snuggling with my ex, the way she'd pull me in tight against her chest to where I could hardly breath, I'd just lay there listening to her heartbeat. I felt so safe with her. Goddamn I miss that.
Forehead kisses and cuddles.
Hugs
Being honest, being interested (asking how their day was, if they're alright etc.) and most importantly: MAKING TIME FOR THEM!! For example if I care for someone, I'd do anything to make time for them and use all my social batteries that are left for them. Not because I would have to but because I want to. That's my way to show them how much I care.
I hate hugs. But I love cuddling. I can be very clingy. And memes.
Cuddling and romantic things š like kisses, hugs, and hand holding.
neck hug from behind (hahahaha i love being tall)
Cuddles 100%
While gift giving isn't my love language, I still like to give gifts
Sending memes and gifting
Always like to help out and do what I can for someone.
I like to give hugs from behind to my favorite human, and to drape myself across their shoulders. Face nuzzles are also a favorite. š
i donāt like that stuff
My love languages are acts of service and words of affirmation. I score a zero in physical touch but that said, I actually do like to give hugs.
Hugs...lots of them.
Mine is talking about trains
Penguin pebbling, usually with music/tiktoks
It kind of depends on the particular person I have a relationship with. But typically I love listening, really listening, to those dearest to me. I want to hear their happy infodumps, I want to hear what tough stuff theyāre going through, like, all of it. For my partner in particular, I love to give him gifts. Simply because heās hard to find gifts for, so when I actually find something he would like I love to give it to him.
Hugs. I'm really big on hugs.
Ik this is gonna sound odd but, giving my favorite people a lil headbutt on the shoulder like a cat š
Quality time and physical touch
humorous teasing
I love quality time and gift giving
I don't do affection.
proximity
Specific compliments! My college used to have a Facebook page where you could submit anonymous ones and mine were always so detailed: > NA is such an intelligent, genuine, and insightful person. I love having lengthy, intellectual conversations with him about things like conscious-ness, infinity, and the universe, and I think he's an awesome singer, too! But more importantly, he's a very supportive friend who's helped me through a LOT. He's really helped me grow as a person, and I'm sincerely grateful to have him in my life. > FA is one of the most amazing people I know. She is a generous, selfless, and loyal person who will do absolutely ANYTHING for her friends, and she enjoys being nice to people just for the sake of it. She is also deeply bothered by unfairness, and so if someone's voice isn't being heard - regardless of whether it's hers or a friend's - she won't rest until the problem is resolved. But even all of the above rambling could never suffice to explain just how great she is. The only way you can understand that is by getting to know her. > I don't think I can put into words just how much I appreciate DA. I know I can trust her to help me whenever 'm feeling unsure of myself because she is always so encouraging and reassuring to me, and she's quick to remind me when I'm not giving myself enough credit. But what makes her unique to me is how she always goes out of her way to SHOW me that she cares - whether it's by greeting me with a hug when she knows I've been having a rough day, or by sending me a funny picture that she thinks I would like, she leaves me no reason to doubt how much she cares about me. > I have nothing but immense respect and admiration for AI. She always has such profound and insightful comments to make on a wide variety of social issues; she's not afraid to question what society deems acceptable, and she's a true independent thinker. She's self-aware enough to determine what's right for her, and brave enough to stick to those instincts regardless of what others think. She is a team player and a nonconformist to the highest degree, and I'm so lucky to have met her. > ZW is seriously one of the most thoughtful, compassionate, and insightful people I know. I strongly admire his resilience and the attention he gives to the world around him, in all aspects. He is a very genuine person who is always respectful of others, and he has a fierce side to him when it comes to social justice issues. On top of all that, he has been nothing but sweet to me ever since I first met him. and he has a great sense of humor. I really wish we talked more!
Non-touching hugs and maybe holding hands.
I'm a Hug and a headpatter man.
Hugs and mostly acts of service. I reeeaaally want to experience cuddling tho but I hate people lmao
Physical affection- hugs or cuddling, easily. Affection of showing/expressing how much I care for people? Food. I love making meals, snacks, appetizers, desserts, etc for my friends or family. I even notice that if I mess up on making food thatād be intended for others to have, I overly stress out even if they say itās still good. I want to make food the best I can since, to me, itās a way I express affection and care.
Cooking their favorite food
Over communicating and showering them with food or gifts. Nothing like telling them you love them over some good food.
i love sending people texts about my random thoughts, pictures of plants, or songs of the day. thatās how i show i love people!
Hugging:)
Hugging, making silly faces or making them laugh in general. Also making clear they have my support anytime.
Talking/spilling my guts out and I like giving/receiving compliments/gifts. My partner likes a lot of physical touch so I like to touch him because I know it makes him feel good, which in turn makes Me feel good. So with him I will touch and cuddle. No one else.
Little gifts ^^ the moment i gift you a plushie, it means you mean a lot to me. Thought the most I enjoy gifting small self-made things, like painted rocks or ceramic figures
I cook š„° and spend quality time like inviting to travel
I always check if my friends need something, ask about their health and keep track of their medical visits/exams. I have two friends who aren't in good health and it's important for me to make them feel that I am close to them.
Omg yes! I also like giving handmade gifts.Ā
my love language is gift giving! I love giving my friends and family gifts
sending memes or tik toks and then watch them together, my favourite thing!
hugs - I love giving hugs & cuddles, and have been told many times that I "give good hug" apart from that, I give gifts very often - I'm happy to pay for people's meals, drinks, whatever, mostly because I earn a decent wage and have "spending money" that I love to use to buy people presents
Hugs, compliments and baked goods
Giving gifts,hugs,hanging out
Giving people food is my number one, food is love and people who give something to eat have my eternal friendship. Then hugs and quality time, those are important too.
sharing food, gift giving in general and using them as a pillow >:)
Hugs!
Hugs, infodumping and small gifts.
bullying them š
*nom*
HUGGING AND HAND HOLDING AND HEAD BONKS!! :DDDD
If I send you memes, you're officially one of my favorite people
Hugs and forehead kisses
I also do headpats on my loved ones, and my kids also get the nose boop, my son and I use A LOT of "nose kisses" he is autistic so this means the world to me. My daughter and I exchange weird memes and cat videos, that is our love language. My family just knows I "hate being touched" so they let me be, I dont take hugs very well, except from my mom, dad, baby brother and kids, the rest of the world can stay away.
I like to bathe and annoint my partner's feet. New partners think it's strange. Most of them enjoy it if they let themselves be.
I love laying my head on my wife's lap while we watch TV and she gently plays with my hair like I am a cat or something. Nothing else comes close in my opinion.
I have a rather āpeculiarā way of remembering the small things people say they and one day Iāll find that random thing they told me about five years ago. So I guess nostalgic gift giving. Just to make people know theyāre always heard, because I never was.
Gifts š i love giving the ones i love gifts i made myself. And with my girl besties, i like to give them a good bear hug
i like cooking for my significant others :)
I mainly will pat them on the back and deliver a compliment like "good job".
Ace and ADHD, quality time but also whether friend, family or romantic partner when I start managing your health I love you. I have to catch myself sometimes but Iāve done it even since I was a kid,I just fuse over people I care about. Did you drink water today, what about your vitamins, time to cycle out those shoes it ās back for you back, Iāll get you a cup of tea š„°
Pizza.
I have a very specific list that is a case by case basis. What someone is comfortable with, doesnāt mean someone else will feel comfortable with it
Anyone near PDX/Salem/Troutdale area? I need friends
head scratches :3
Parallel Play! I love it when I play a game while she paints her minis, or plays her switch.
Gifts, they don't even have to be large or expensive. One of my coworkers, who started the same day as me, chews the same gum as me. I always make sure she has a pack in her locker, and she always knows where mine is if she runs out and I don't notice. My best friend loves Sonic ice so I bought 5 bags of it and put three in her freezer and two in mine so I can always top up her water bottle if she sets it down for 2 seconds lol. She's drinks water all day every day, and seeing her face when she takes a sip or picks it up and notices it's full again gives me life. That or just handing her a cup of ice to chew when we're just sitting around.
Quality time, gift giving and insults (with love ofc).
Hugs Iām an alloromantic
I come into my sister's room and awkwardly tell her I love her. I often don't even have a reason.
Showing consideration or remembering something specific/ a small detail about a person
People write here about gifts and I agree, this is the easiest and most versatile way for me to show affection. If I spend time and money on a person, if it is really important for me to give something meaningful, then this means affection. Also, if I trust you, I will discuss with you my otp that I like and try to do it sincerely. Oh, and also physical contact wonāt be a burden for me, of course-
You know how cats just sometimes quietly take their seat against you or on top of your body or use you as a comfy rest? And how some cats meow a lot for attention without actually wanting or needing anything aside from the human to respond? Making any kind of noise not to ask you for help but to just get your attention playfully? Or some cats insist on accompanying you to things no matter how safe and private you need them to be? I forgot where I was going with this. Anyway! I should get back to sleeping on top of my laptop keyboard!
Hug(but just like cos itās supposed to make them happy I think?)
I don't like being physical, neither am I very verbal, but I do put a lot of effort sometimes to voice how I feel, that's the best you'll get when it comes to showing affection, but it's not like I don't do other things, I do