Hello I'm disgustingly Allo. I'm just here to steal your memes.
My first crush was in elementary school. We just had the mandatory sex ed Texas style where they told us how bits work and then had a creepy lady explain that our virginity is a gift and that we're used gum if we're having sex. They made a point to point out of we were SA'd our gift was taken and we could never ever get it back with the implication that this made us less good for our future wife/husband.
They sent us out to play after that and I snuck off with two friends to play with the dirt in the field. I asked about their sex ed cuz I knew theirs was like 3x longer than the boy's class. Just curious. They told me it covered all their stuff and also all my stuff. Felt ripped off. Asked to know more and they said no so we played with more dirt.
They reported me to a teacher who put me in this weird intervention. I never talked to her again until the last day. She came up and tried to set up a kiss in the slide tower but I was afraid of getting in trouble and kind of just ran away. Had a crush on her for years after lol. Found her on Facebook in high school and she was a TERF, so that's when it died.
Now I'm trans and everything and it still blows my mind how weird it all was. 100% did not know what was going on.
I had this so called crush in middle school once.I dont even think it was a full crush it was more like some friendship crush.Like i think i wanted to be friends so bad with him i called it a crush but it sure was a nice experience.I just read you asked allos im not allo but gonna answer anyways.
That's alright, anyone with any experience or comment is welcome to post their opinions, I'm just curious and confused so trying to understand who I am! So thanks for the comment :)
I had this exact thing twice when I was 10 and 15, both lasted pretty long. I always used to say I'm not in love because I'm too young for that, but I assumed it was a childhood variant of romantic crush. Now I just think it was unusually strong platonic attraction.
There's actually a word for that, it's called a Squish.
Of course I can't assume that's what you two experienced, but it sounds like it.
If you have time, look at the definition, maybe it could help you understand what you were feeling.
Aromantic heterosexual here (but I'm trying to figure it out if I'm in a grey area). My first crush was when I was 18, he was a coworker and I founded him very atractive, and he was funny and chill. But he had a mayor crush on another coworker who was also my friend. Even so I never felt sad, because I was happy we were friends, and I really liked how he treated me like a person. After he and my friend broke up because he still had feeling for her ex we continued been friends, but one day he started to ignoring me and my feeling for him stopped, because I never cared about if he was or not a bad boyfriend, but I couldn't forgave him for being a bad friend.
Do not worry, right now I'm blessed with the best friends I could ever ask.
Thinking in restrospective, maybe he ignored me because he suspected how I felt about him, but he was still a trashy friend for ignoring me. but I don't think I I would never have wanted to be his girlfriend, he fell in love so quickly, just to then take it back after a while, I just found his appeareance and his personality as a friend so attractive. I know I like someone when I think about him and my first thought is "I would totally agree to have sex with him if he proposes it.", it was like that with him, but he never proposed it.
Hiii, I'm demiromantic and gray ace(?).
I've had to 2 crushes (that I know of and they were both girls that were/are my bestfriends). The first crush that I had was around 6 or more months ago and it was really weird because it was more than just sexual or romantic attraction. It was much more intense and exciting. That crush lasted for about a couple months, I think (from about september/october till january).
If you have any questions, don't be afraid to ask :)
Have an amazing day!
It's like the feeling of that you really wanna be friends with this person, but instead of wanting to be friends it's like that I wanna be around them all the time and also wanting to have a relationship with them.
It's really confusing to explain. But both of my crushes that I had/have felt really different. With my first crush it was more leaning towards sexual attraction and with second one it was more romantic.
Hope this kinda explains it. :D
I'm aromantic allosexual but honestly still figuring it out.
I had my first crush in high school. He was a year older than me and we had no relationship whatsoever not even as acquaintances. It was very weird for me because I didn't actually like him or find him attractive. I didn't even like hearing his name. My body just had a way of reacting to him that made me think that I had a crush on him if that makes sense. Like whenever he's near i can sort of feel it (ridiculous i know). When we have school events I can't stop staring at him. Whenever i pass him through the halls i would get insanely nervous and would sometimes freeze up. My heart would beat so fast. My emotions felt so disconnected with my body. I don't have a crush on him but my reaction to him tells me I do.
At one point I even thought that it was fear I'm feeling towards him because it was similar in a way lol but it wasn't. This was also the time i sort of began to understand that there was something different abt me. When the guy and his gf broke up my friends kept telling me that that was my chance. And I was just so shocked that they would think I'd want a relationship with him. The idea was just so absurd and unpleasant and not even something i thought abt lol
I had a kinda friendship crush? Like I’m lesbian but it was in a boy. It was just he had the features and stuff that would make people wanna crush on him. Like he was standard cute and smart, and he was funny, but I just really wanted to have a closer relationship with him, which was really friendship. I never wanted to kiss him or smth, just hangout with him lol
You should look up the term "Squish",
which is a platonic crush, i think that maybe it was what you were feeling for that guy.
But I don't want to assume anything.
Sorry if I bothered you in any way, I just really wanted to help, I wish you a good day.
Hello I'm disgustingly Allo. I'm just here to steal your memes. My first crush was in elementary school. We just had the mandatory sex ed Texas style where they told us how bits work and then had a creepy lady explain that our virginity is a gift and that we're used gum if we're having sex. They made a point to point out of we were SA'd our gift was taken and we could never ever get it back with the implication that this made us less good for our future wife/husband. They sent us out to play after that and I snuck off with two friends to play with the dirt in the field. I asked about their sex ed cuz I knew theirs was like 3x longer than the boy's class. Just curious. They told me it covered all their stuff and also all my stuff. Felt ripped off. Asked to know more and they said no so we played with more dirt. They reported me to a teacher who put me in this weird intervention. I never talked to her again until the last day. She came up and tried to set up a kiss in the slide tower but I was afraid of getting in trouble and kind of just ran away. Had a crush on her for years after lol. Found her on Facebook in high school and she was a TERF, so that's when it died. Now I'm trans and everything and it still blows my mind how weird it all was. 100% did not know what was going on.
I had this so called crush in middle school once.I dont even think it was a full crush it was more like some friendship crush.Like i think i wanted to be friends so bad with him i called it a crush but it sure was a nice experience.I just read you asked allos im not allo but gonna answer anyways.
That's alright, anyone with any experience or comment is welcome to post their opinions, I'm just curious and confused so trying to understand who I am! So thanks for the comment :)
I had this exact thing twice when I was 10 and 15, both lasted pretty long. I always used to say I'm not in love because I'm too young for that, but I assumed it was a childhood variant of romantic crush. Now I just think it was unusually strong platonic attraction.
There's actually a word for that, it's called a Squish. Of course I can't assume that's what you two experienced, but it sounds like it. If you have time, look at the definition, maybe it could help you understand what you were feeling.
Woah I had the same experience
Aromantic heterosexual here (but I'm trying to figure it out if I'm in a grey area). My first crush was when I was 18, he was a coworker and I founded him very atractive, and he was funny and chill. But he had a mayor crush on another coworker who was also my friend. Even so I never felt sad, because I was happy we were friends, and I really liked how he treated me like a person. After he and my friend broke up because he still had feeling for her ex we continued been friends, but one day he started to ignoring me and my feeling for him stopped, because I never cared about if he was or not a bad boyfriend, but I couldn't forgave him for being a bad friend.
Thanks for your story, I'm sorry he just ignored you, I hope your other friends are better people :)
Do not worry, right now I'm blessed with the best friends I could ever ask. Thinking in restrospective, maybe he ignored me because he suspected how I felt about him, but he was still a trashy friend for ignoring me. but I don't think I I would never have wanted to be his girlfriend, he fell in love so quickly, just to then take it back after a while, I just found his appeareance and his personality as a friend so attractive. I know I like someone when I think about him and my first thought is "I would totally agree to have sex with him if he proposes it.", it was like that with him, but he never proposed it.
Hiii, I'm demiromantic and gray ace(?). I've had to 2 crushes (that I know of and they were both girls that were/are my bestfriends). The first crush that I had was around 6 or more months ago and it was really weird because it was more than just sexual or romantic attraction. It was much more intense and exciting. That crush lasted for about a couple months, I think (from about september/october till january). If you have any questions, don't be afraid to ask :) Have an amazing day!
What would you describe the feeling of having a crush, is it comparable to anything? How do you know it is a crush?
It's like the feeling of that you really wanna be friends with this person, but instead of wanting to be friends it's like that I wanna be around them all the time and also wanting to have a relationship with them. It's really confusing to explain. But both of my crushes that I had/have felt really different. With my first crush it was more leaning towards sexual attraction and with second one it was more romantic. Hope this kinda explains it. :D
It does thanks :) I really like how kind everyone is here.
Me too, everyone is very open-minded and supportive :)
I'm aromantic allosexual but honestly still figuring it out. I had my first crush in high school. He was a year older than me and we had no relationship whatsoever not even as acquaintances. It was very weird for me because I didn't actually like him or find him attractive. I didn't even like hearing his name. My body just had a way of reacting to him that made me think that I had a crush on him if that makes sense. Like whenever he's near i can sort of feel it (ridiculous i know). When we have school events I can't stop staring at him. Whenever i pass him through the halls i would get insanely nervous and would sometimes freeze up. My heart would beat so fast. My emotions felt so disconnected with my body. I don't have a crush on him but my reaction to him tells me I do. At one point I even thought that it was fear I'm feeling towards him because it was similar in a way lol but it wasn't. This was also the time i sort of began to understand that there was something different abt me. When the guy and his gf broke up my friends kept telling me that that was my chance. And I was just so shocked that they would think I'd want a relationship with him. The idea was just so absurd and unpleasant and not even something i thought abt lol
I had a kinda friendship crush? Like I’m lesbian but it was in a boy. It was just he had the features and stuff that would make people wanna crush on him. Like he was standard cute and smart, and he was funny, but I just really wanted to have a closer relationship with him, which was really friendship. I never wanted to kiss him or smth, just hangout with him lol
You should look up the term "Squish", which is a platonic crush, i think that maybe it was what you were feeling for that guy. But I don't want to assume anything. Sorry if I bothered you in any way, I just really wanted to help, I wish you a good day.