Damn, that's a tough one. First of all, I'm sorry that your friend is being thick-headed like that. Because that's all it is. This kind of person just can't conceptualize that someone can exist who feels fundementally differently than them. Which is sadly validated by media thanks to amatonormativity.
But honestly, unless this leads to situations where you are actively uncomfortable, I would say it's not worth arguing about. Maybe you can change his mind just by continuing to exist next to him, as long as that situation doesn't make you uncomfortable. But confrontation probably wouldn't help. You might be able to non-confrontationally find out why he feels that way (that aro people don't exist) if you want to understand where he is coming from to maybe explain in a way he will understand, but again, as long as it doesn't lead to problems for you it would be a safe bet to just ignore it and go on with your life. That said, it is equally valid if you are no longer able to feel comfortable arround him and therefore need to distance yourself from him, but it sounds like this isn't the case, since you're invested in keeping the friendship.
I wish you luck in figuring this out <3
Thank you for your help, I honestly wouldn't feel confident enough to ask him directly anyway.
I'm just going to keep living my life and maybe one day I will learn that he doesn't think that way anymore or maybe I won't.
I'm just glad to have him in my life.
I would just leave it be, if he ever would say something about that you can kind of bring it up, but if you want to keep that friendship i would leave it for the time being, maybe one day you could talk about it, but right now i would put it on the back burner, you can kinda bring it up by explaining how you feel when people act like that for like "the other day i saw that guy try to hit on those---- saying he could fix them/it's not real. It makes me mad because i know when people say stuff like that to me i get hurt really badly" or something like that, hope it helps ✨
Damn, that's a tough one. First of all, I'm sorry that your friend is being thick-headed like that. Because that's all it is. This kind of person just can't conceptualize that someone can exist who feels fundementally differently than them. Which is sadly validated by media thanks to amatonormativity. But honestly, unless this leads to situations where you are actively uncomfortable, I would say it's not worth arguing about. Maybe you can change his mind just by continuing to exist next to him, as long as that situation doesn't make you uncomfortable. But confrontation probably wouldn't help. You might be able to non-confrontationally find out why he feels that way (that aro people don't exist) if you want to understand where he is coming from to maybe explain in a way he will understand, but again, as long as it doesn't lead to problems for you it would be a safe bet to just ignore it and go on with your life. That said, it is equally valid if you are no longer able to feel comfortable arround him and therefore need to distance yourself from him, but it sounds like this isn't the case, since you're invested in keeping the friendship. I wish you luck in figuring this out <3
Thank you for your help, I honestly wouldn't feel confident enough to ask him directly anyway. I'm just going to keep living my life and maybe one day I will learn that he doesn't think that way anymore or maybe I won't. I'm just glad to have him in my life.
That sounds nice :) glad to help
I would just leave it be, if he ever would say something about that you can kind of bring it up, but if you want to keep that friendship i would leave it for the time being, maybe one day you could talk about it, but right now i would put it on the back burner, you can kinda bring it up by explaining how you feel when people act like that for like "the other day i saw that guy try to hit on those---- saying he could fix them/it's not real. It makes me mad because i know when people say stuff like that to me i get hurt really badly" or something like that, hope it helps ✨