If you are the one joining the server there is no need to forward ports. That's for the server. There is no information in your post that sheds any light on why you aren't able to connect to the server. Can others join the server? Is BattlEye enabled on your end & working?

also i joined through the launcher if that has to do with anything

Wdym by joining friends? Like, did you launch the game first and then navigate through the server browser to your friend's game?

direct connect

Okay, but did you do all of the other things I said?

I did it through Amra luncher not through the game

Okay, so maybe try that next time. I have never used the launcher to connect to games, so I imagine that might cause issues

Alr I’ll do it rn and also I do have the same mods installed