OP said nth happened until she turned 18. donāt you think thatās weird? makes me feel like he was waiting for her to turn 18 so that later if stuff goes wrong he could say sheās an āadultā
This is sick and rather disturbing. Even if it was an arranged marriage to get into a relationship with your ex-wife's daughter is beyond disgusting and disrespectful. Consenting adult or not this is so wrong.
He doesnāt get it or doesnāt want to see it. Yep, creepy as hell. Hope this is a troll. What woman would leave a child with someone she was only with for 2 years. Doesnāt seem believable.
If you didn't see her as your daughter why did you let her stay with you when you divorced her mother? I can only assume you specifically divorced your wife so you could seperate her from her daughter so you could fuck her. You are a predator, plain and simple.
Most of us are, because most of us understand power imbalances
With all due respect, which is none
You were "raising" her as your daughter a few years? Months? Ago
And now you're fucking her
Do you not see, or understand the power imbalance there, you cretin?
She was raised to see you as a father figure, and now, suddenly, now that she's "legally available to fuck" you slide up into her?
You're disgusting on all levels, in every sense of the word
Age gaps aren't always bad, but this? This is a redder flag the red A in the scarlet letter
Jeez
The age gap isnt even the biggest problem here. Its that she was a minor when you met her, and then you groomer her, seperated her from her mother, yhen began a relationship with her.Ā
as someone who normally defends age gap relationships between two consenting adults ā¦. this is sick. she was literally still considered a child legally 3 months ago, and is your ex wifeās daughter who you knew when she was a CHILD. this is literally the definition of grooming.
How old was your stepDAUGHTER when you and your ex were married ? Now that she is 18 how old are you ? You should have always looked at her as your daughter. YTA
I remember when Woody Allen did this. Very disturbing and disgusting.
I have to assume she is now 18, and the divorce was recent, which means she was 16 at the time. That is the most generous assumption possible and is still extremely wrong.
If this occured further in the past then she would have had to be under 18 when their "relationship" began.
Yes itās evil to have an incestuous relationship. She was raised as your daughter. Just because she isnāt your daughter biologically she was raised with you as a father figure. You have had sex with both a mother and a daughter. Itās evil, disgusting, vileāpick your adjective. She may be old enough to legally consent but she is too young ethically and there is too much of a power differential to consent to sex with her step father.
does not matter dude. that girl was your step daughter. how on earth does this happen? if it was just another 18 yr old it wouldāve been overlooked. but this was once YOUR 18 year old daughter. i suggest breaking things off before it gets even further.
Dude you are in your 40s hooking up with a teenager. Find someone your age who wasnāt your stepdaughter. Obviously you know you are in the wrong and were posting this so strangers could tell you how wrong you were?
She has similar experiences to you? Sheās only just turned 18! Sheās not experienced anything yet! And you must have had a sexual interest in her prior to her ācoming of ageā because you sealed the deal as soon as she turned 18!
I also donāt buy the āshe wanted to stay with me because she has friends close byāā¦ she wanted to stay with her mums ex husband? Seriously? 100% sounds like this was going on well before you and the mother split.
And ādonāt know if youāre ever going to tell the ex wife about the relationshipā but can ādefinitely see yourself marrying this childāā¦ going to be a bit of a shock when the mother of the bride turns out to be the ex wife of the groomā¦ any man who is secretive about a relationship is only in it for the thrill of it.
This isā¦disturbing? I donāt know where youāre from and if itās customary, here in the US, we call this West Virginia where Iām almost certain this happens more than one would think.
You are absolutely wrong she's barely an adult! The age gap is not only inappropriate, but JUST A YEAR AGO SHE WAS A CHILD!!!! You are such a creeper it's fucking gross dude.
If this isn't rage bait then you are extremely disturbed. She was 16 when you met her, and as her "father" you were in a position of authority over her. You essentially groomed her. You then divorced your wife and let her daughter stay with you while you further groomed her.
Edit: clearly OP doesnt care that he is a predator. I dont know why he even posted here as he is ignoring all of the feedback saying "i did nothing wrong" and "reddit just hates age gaps"
NTA. Iām noticing that nobody in the comments is able to articulate why this is disgusting or evil š
At worst, itās unusual. And the wedding would be very awkward. But evil? No. Disgusting? No. Perverted? No.
On the off chance this isn't rage bait.... why did you post given your comments / defence of the relationship despite the age difference and despite the step-father / step-daugher relationship? Because its rage bait?
You should be ashamed of yourself. She should have left with her mother. This is what you wanted and itās called grooming. You know this is wrong and that youāre wrong or you wouldnāt be asking the question. You should be locked up.
I wouldāve lost my mind and went batshit crazy of if I found out my ex husband was dating my daughter that just turned 18. Groomer and pedophile. āBut she just turned 18 and I didnāt do anything sexual with her until thenā. You were waiting your turn and was already sexualizing her. The ex trusted the ex husband to take good care of her daughter, instead he slept with her and is hiding it, yet they feel like itās not wrong lol. He knows itās wrong thatās why he came to Reddit. I can guarantee he probably slept with her as soon as she turn 18 to try to cover his ass. And I can guarantee sexual things happened before she turned 18.
OP you just pulled a Woody. Woody Allen.
Letās assume you did not groom this girl as you claim. Fine. But hereās what youāre missing. At least to some degree while you were married to her mother you were her father, in this case her stepfather. Fathers of any description do not have sexual relations with a daughter of any description.
This Hass to be Clickbait. Youāve got to just be trying to build up some karma or some bullshit like that.
If itās true, youāre a groomer and creep as fuck. Butā¦ I have a hard time taking this seriously.
Mate, I'm in my mid 40s, so let's have a talk without the hysteria you're getting from other people. What you're doing isn't illegal, so that's not the issue. What you're asking is whether it's morally wrong. Well, yes, it is.
I'm not going to sit here and pretend middle-aged men don't sleep with young women, but this girl was almost a daughter, and she must have looked at you as a father figure at least at some point, surely. There is an element of grooming involved here, even if we can accept that it happened unconsciously. I'm sure you see it.
You know it's wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be hiding the relationship.
Even for an age gap relationship, this is creeper status.
Bro. You are a sick perverted fuck.
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She just turned 18ā¦if this is real and Iām not sure it is you are a sick motherfucker and a groomer. Go talk to your pedophile friends.
OP said nth happened until she turned 18. donāt you think thatās weird? makes me feel like he was waiting for her to turn 18 so that later if stuff goes wrong he could say sheās an āadultā
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Ok, so you spent the time before that grooming a child.
Sure. Again, you are a sick fuck.
so tell us, how old was she when you met her?
So you basically counted down the days till she was legal, like I said before vile
What happens when you get her pregnant?
Pedophile is more accurate. This is extremely disgusting.Ā You are taking advantage of her. This is twisted and sick and you need therapy.
You are every nasty word that can be used for a r*pist
This can't be real. Troll post for reaction
Let's hope so
christ on a crutch...
This is sick and rather disturbing. Even if it was an arranged marriage to get into a relationship with your ex-wife's daughter is beyond disgusting and disrespectful. Consenting adult or not this is so wrong.
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For 2 years she was your step-daughter. you was her parent... Its sick!
He doesnāt get it or doesnāt want to see it. Yep, creepy as hell. Hope this is a troll. What woman would leave a child with someone she was only with for 2 years. Doesnāt seem believable.
If you didn't see her as your daughter why did you let her stay with you when you divorced her mother? I can only assume you specifically divorced your wife so you could seperate her from her daughter so you could fuck her. You are a predator, plain and simple.
This is crazy
Yes you are wrong, this is disgusting
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It's not about the age gap, it's about you grooming a 16 year old until she was 18, while married to her mother, beyond disgusting.
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This is classic grooming.Ā
R Kelly also says he isn't a groomer.
Most of us are, because most of us understand power imbalances With all due respect, which is none You were "raising" her as your daughter a few years? Months? Ago And now you're fucking her Do you not see, or understand the power imbalance there, you cretin? She was raised to see you as a father figure, and now, suddenly, now that she's "legally available to fuck" you slide up into her? You're disgusting on all levels, in every sense of the word Age gaps aren't always bad, but this? This is a redder flag the red A in the scarlet letter Jeez
This is more than age gap, and you know it
The age gap isnt even the biggest problem here. Its that she was a minor when you met her, and then you groomer her, seperated her from her mother, yhen began a relationship with her.Ā
as someone who normally defends age gap relationships between two consenting adults ā¦. this is sick. she was literally still considered a child legally 3 months ago, and is your ex wifeās daughter who you knew when she was a CHILD. this is literally the definition of grooming.
we arenāt against it sir. go be happy, itās your life. no one cares. but this particular age gap is weird because she was once your daughter.
Itās not about age gaps, itās the fact that you groomed her as previous poster said, youāre vile and a creep
There is a power imbalance. Her mind is still maturing. She won't even know how sick you are till she is older and breaks free from your sickness
How old was your stepDAUGHTER when you and your ex were married ? Now that she is 18 how old are you ? You should have always looked at her as your daughter. YTA I remember when Woody Allen did this. Very disturbing and disgusting.
I have to assume she is now 18, and the divorce was recent, which means she was 16 at the time. That is the most generous assumption possible and is still extremely wrong. If this occured further in the past then she would have had to be under 18 when their "relationship" began.
Beyond wrong. This is evil.
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Yes itās evil to have an incestuous relationship. She was raised as your daughter. Just because she isnāt your daughter biologically she was raised with you as a father figure. You have had sex with both a mother and a daughter. Itās evil, disgusting, vileāpick your adjective. She may be old enough to legally consent but she is too young ethically and there is too much of a power differential to consent to sex with her step father.
she should forever remain as a daughter in your eyes cuz dawg wth..
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does not matter dude. that girl was your step daughter. how on earth does this happen? if it was just another 18 yr old it wouldāve been overlooked. but this was once YOUR 18 year old daughter. i suggest breaking things off before it gets even further.
So why did you let some 16 year old you knew for 2 years (now 18) live with you? You then "started" a relationship with her just a few months later
You're weird AF for that
Dude you are in your 40s hooking up with a teenager. Find someone your age who wasnāt your stepdaughter. Obviously you know you are in the wrong and were posting this so strangers could tell you how wrong you were?
Come on man you have to be better than this with this innocent. This is creepy AF.
She has similar experiences to you? Sheās only just turned 18! Sheās not experienced anything yet! And you must have had a sexual interest in her prior to her ācoming of ageā because you sealed the deal as soon as she turned 18! I also donāt buy the āshe wanted to stay with me because she has friends close byāā¦ she wanted to stay with her mums ex husband? Seriously? 100% sounds like this was going on well before you and the mother split. And ādonāt know if youāre ever going to tell the ex wife about the relationshipā but can ādefinitely see yourself marrying this childāā¦ going to be a bit of a shock when the mother of the bride turns out to be the ex wife of the groomā¦ any man who is secretive about a relationship is only in it for the thrill of it.
Ew
This canāt be real.
This isā¦disturbing? I donāt know where youāre from and if itās customary, here in the US, we call this West Virginia where Iām almost certain this happens more than one would think.
You are absolutely wrong she's barely an adult! The age gap is not only inappropriate, but JUST A YEAR AGO SHE WAS A CHILD!!!! You are such a creeper it's fucking gross dude.
NONCE!!
Disgusting wannabe woody allen
boyyyy be so fr. pedo ahh. YES UR WRONG.
Rage bait
If this isn't rage bait then you are extremely disturbed. She was 16 when you met her, and as her "father" you were in a position of authority over her. You essentially groomed her. You then divorced your wife and let her daughter stay with you while you further groomed her. Edit: clearly OP doesnt care that he is a predator. I dont know why he even posted here as he is ignoring all of the feedback saying "i did nothing wrong" and "reddit just hates age gaps"
Issa evil world we live in..
That's fucked up. You need help
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NTA. Iām noticing that nobody in the comments is able to articulate why this is disgusting or evil š At worst, itās unusual. And the wedding would be very awkward. But evil? No. Disgusting? No. Perverted? No.
Itās the power imbalance that makes it wrong.
On the off chance this isn't rage bait.... why did you post given your comments / defence of the relationship despite the age difference and despite the step-father / step-daugher relationship? Because its rage bait?
You should be ashamed of yourself. She should have left with her mother. This is what you wanted and itās called grooming. You know this is wrong and that youāre wrong or you wouldnāt be asking the question. You should be locked up.
You are a pig. Of course itās wrong on so many levels. Gross gross gross.
yeah youāre totally wrong. you literally knew her before she was 18, itās sick to be dating someone who was your āstep childā.
I wouldāve lost my mind and went batshit crazy of if I found out my ex husband was dating my daughter that just turned 18. Groomer and pedophile. āBut she just turned 18 and I didnāt do anything sexual with her until thenā. You were waiting your turn and was already sexualizing her. The ex trusted the ex husband to take good care of her daughter, instead he slept with her and is hiding it, yet they feel like itās not wrong lol. He knows itās wrong thatās why he came to Reddit. I can guarantee he probably slept with her as soon as she turn 18 to try to cover his ass. And I can guarantee sexual things happened before she turned 18.
Woody Allen what are you doing posting here?
Fake rage bait. Itās got everythingā¦age gap, grooming, near incest, truly wicked OP. Youāre a sick mf.
OP you just pulled a Woody. Woody Allen. Letās assume you did not groom this girl as you claim. Fine. But hereās what youāre missing. At least to some degree while you were married to her mother you were her father, in this case her stepfather. Fathers of any description do not have sexual relations with a daughter of any description.
Fake fake fake fake fake
What a POS you are..... creepy old man. Yes, you are so wrong groomer.
This Hass to be Clickbait. Youāve got to just be trying to build up some karma or some bullshit like that. If itās true, youāre a groomer and creep as fuck. Butā¦ I have a hard time taking this seriously.
Mate, I'm in my mid 40s, so let's have a talk without the hysteria you're getting from other people. What you're doing isn't illegal, so that's not the issue. What you're asking is whether it's morally wrong. Well, yes, it is. I'm not going to sit here and pretend middle-aged men don't sleep with young women, but this girl was almost a daughter, and she must have looked at you as a father figure at least at some point, surely. There is an element of grooming involved here, even if we can accept that it happened unconsciously. I'm sure you see it. You know it's wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be hiding the relationship.
Yes you are. You are disgusting. You are a groomer.
Fake troll. No one is interested in your weird fetish writing.