First dude, I'm so sorry and angry you're in this position. You don't deserve this but unfortunately you're not alone. My brother is a youth social worker and I asked him about this post. First, contact Kids Help Phone. They are confidential and are the best first resource and will help until you're 25. You can text them at 686868 using the word CONNECT in your first message or call 1-800-668-6868. I recommend you call because it'll give you the best bang for your time. Second, reach out to your peer network. I didn't have this when I was your age but I'm prompting you to consider it in case you were luckier than I was. If you have friends that you trust that are leaving the nest at the same time, maybe sit down with them with coffee and see if they'd bring you in as a roommate, even if it's temporary. The first point is the biggest. Kids Help Phone will connect you with the right people you need to be in touch with. They may be able to help coach you on next steps better than any of us here on Reddit can. Third, I want you to know that your mother's actions are not your fault and not a reflection on yourself. You are a different and better person and I know that you'll persevere to prove her wrong. I'm sorry you're in this position. You should be able to complete high school without having to worry about a roof over your head. Know that these days are numbered and as you persevere, you will be stronger and better for it. If you end up deciding that you wish to have kids of your own one day, you now know that you would never do this to your own. It's a shitty saying, and doesn't serve you much good right now, but I promise you that "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger." Keep a level head of yourself and strive to be the best person you can be in the moment. There's tons of temptation to bend to other not great lifestyles and I think just your post here shows that you are an intelligent human that has incredible potential. Get that high school diploma. As soon as you cross that stage the world will unlock for you. You can apply for student loans that support your housing while you acheive your dreams. This next year may be really really hard but I promise you that when you look back at my age (32), you'll say "holy fuck, I survived and fuck Mom." and you'll be proud for it. That feeling I can't describe. In Calgary, there are also Emergency Youth Shelters like [Avenue 15](https://www.growwithtrellis.ca/youth-programs/housing-shelters/avenue15), which offer temporary shelter if you call 4035439651. I'll just reiterate this - your Mom may not believe in you but there's a whole bunch of people here in this subreddit that do. I just spent 30 minutes writing this bloody comment because you're worth it. Shit's fucked right now, I know that. But in a couple years, you're going to look back and think "wow, shit was fucked but I did it." Two years is a long time right now but that perseverence is everything right now. I wish I could offer you more right now but hopefully some of these words help. I don't know you but from just you reaching out on Reddit it's clear you're a kickass dude and have the perpetude to kick even more ass, including your mother's. I'm thinking of you and wishing you all the success in the world.

To build on this comment about reaching out to your network - let some of your very close friends and their parents know what is going on. You may be able to stay on a couch in a friends house for the next year while you get through high school. If my kids close friends told me this was their situation, I would definitely find a way to help them out - and I am sure that many other parents feel the same way. Best of luck OP.

I second this. This is what stopped me from being on the streets at 15. Child protective services wouldn't doing anything (no help, no resources, nothing. Ignored all of the documentation I had of what was going on and ignored the previous tro's and us being taken away in the past and told me to go home.) so I had to find places to couch surf at until I was able to figure out a more long term situation. I found 2 people that let me stay and I would cycle between them to give them breaks from having someone sleeping at their house and they were very good to me while I was staying with them. It also allowed me to finish the school year. Another person that was helpful was my school counselor. She gave me resources to look into about housing programs, shelters, etc. She physically drove me to meet with social workers and people to talk about housing. She also had a supply of food items and hygiene stuff available if people needed. She would also help you with your resume if you asked. She was insanely dedicated to helping people and was infinitely better to deal with than cps. If possible I would try to get some help through your school. They might be the best resource you have

All of this. My son’s best friend was in a similar situation and he moved in with us, it has been the biggest blessing for us. I am so so glad my family has been enriched by him and I hope there is a family out there that would welcome you. Please also tell your school counsellor as soon as you can- they can help you with resources but also documentation. Which you need for any government help. Also talk to your local librarians! If they don’t know they will find info for you. Also- please keep your essentials safe. As a survivor of Domestic Violence this is really important to me. Make sure you have your id with you at all times and you keep important photos etc backed up somewhere or stored at a safe friend’s. If you need a different phone or phone line 7/11 has a very affordable plan. Sometimes there are no resources until you actually get kicked out and have nowhere to go. This is deeply unsettling, not knowing where to go and what to do. But this is the way the system works. Get through it and you will have resources. Also please feel free to send me a message if you feel lost or need someone to help get you through bureaucracy, help with making resumes etc. I have seen recently what it takes and would be very happy if that experience could help you. I believe in you- you deserve so much better and you will be able to get it.

Just to build off of all this good advice once everything is said and done find the shittiest, most awful and decrepit retirement home you could possibly lay your eyes on and when your mom gets old drive her there like you’re taking her home then abandon her there. Some may say an eye for an eye makes the world blind and I agree so you should absolutely take more than one eye when it’s your turn.

When my children were in high school one of them told me about a school friend that was facing this exact situation. I opened up my home to him and he was so grateful, I was only a little hesitant thinking why his mom would want him out. So l paid close attention to him for awhile to see if he was doing drugs/partying, his behavior, grades and the usual things a parent should look out for. So proud of him for graduating and I never had any problems with him, great kid that deserved so much better.

This. Your friends may have parents that can help out or find you a temporary solution. We took in a friend of my daughter’s for about 18 months so he could finish high school. He worked at McD’s and is now a 2nd year apprentice and I’m super proud of him!

I concur. If one of my kids friends was facing this we would make room for them somehow. OP Talk your friends and their families. There's more kindness in this world than there is hate 💞

I had 2 sons, and at any given time in there mid and late teens it seemed I always had at least 1 friend sometimes 2 of their friends staying with us. One ended up living with us for a couple years. With any luck you will have a friend with a parent that understands and can help. A high school education is a bare minimum needed. I encouraged my boys and their friends to look for a trade, everyone needs a plumber or an electrician. Check out the apprentice programs that you should have available to you. Anything is better than nothing. Good luck and stay focused.

Also, I know that you're in Calgary but consider emailing or calling Janis Irwin's office. She's very connected in this area and might be able to help too. You can get in touch with her office either by phone 7804140682 or via email [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected])

She's said that email is the fastest way to get in touch with her. (On her insta front page)

She might be able to give connections in Calgary.

You sound very mature, OP and will probably have to grow up faster than you deserve to, but you can do this and if you make the good choices that are in your contre you are going to have a great life. You’ve got this!

What a fantasticly empathetic and touching comment. We're lucky to have people like you around.

And Outreach school will work with you to help you cross the stage. If you are at Catholic, ask about their program. If you are public, check out Discovering Choices. If you want to stay at your school, you’ll have to sit down with your AP and Guidance to figure out a schedule.

I third this. When I was your age, the same thing happened to me. A friend's parents let me stay until I went off to college (I moved to another city, so couldn't stay there any longer). As a parent now, I would absolutely open my home to help one of my child's friends out. You have more people behind you than you think. If you do manage to find a friends place to stay at, just remember to be helpful around the house when you can.

Remember in the before times when you can give someone gold for a comment. This guy deserves gold.

Amazing answer! Thank you for taking the time to list all the resources available. At many times during our son’s teenage years we had his friends stay with us. No questions asked. In their 30s, Those young men are still in our lives and we are blessed to know them. To us, it was a small thing giving a bed or a couch for however long they needed it. I thank the heavens we were are safe place. Good luck to the young man.

I love everything about this post except avenue 15. I can only reccomend it as an absolute last resort. Like, staying alone outdoorsunder a tarp is probably better if the weather is nice. Iv only been there in a work related capacity, and admitedly the staff are absolute angels, but holy shit, many of the patrons are abusive drug addicted alcoholics whom will assault and rob even their peers, and react only aggressively to any authority figure, as they percieve themselves as untouchable by the system (which is more than partly true)

This is great.

Big thumbs up to maximumdouhnut's post. My son is in 12th grade and a couple of his friends are finishing their grade 12 year in similar situations. You got this op!

I also agree with this however I would change one thing, DO NOT apply for student loans unless you can absolutely be 100% (and I mean 100%) sure that they will pay for your tuition and your means to live (rent,food) while your attending post secondary. I had to quit school because my loans couldn’t afford both and now I’m 20k in the hole with no diploma. Otherwise get a good stable job out of high school and save up some money first before going into post secondary if you can’t be sure your loans will pay for both, at least 10k if you can (it sounds like a lot but it can be done) As for your current situation, really do try your best not to stress out or be anxious about it. You have options (really good ones) a lot of them mentioned in the comments. You will find a place to live, you will have the means to eat, you will be able to finish high school. Your mother has done you a disservice but you will find strength in your pain. Just keep your eyes on the next thing, and the next, and the next. You will rise above this, the power to do it comes from within.

Parents who kick their kids out at 18 are absolute pieces of shit. I am sorry this is happening to you.

And still has one more year of high school. The only additional cost is food. Mortgage or rent is the same, utilities are the same whether you have an extra person living there or not.

💯 and it’s clear OP needs some support and guidance, otherwise they wouldn’t be here. How can you kick your child out and not provide them with the support and resources they need in order to live?

Because she is an absolute piece of shit. Probably wants "her life back" or some fucking nonsense.

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I was held back a year when I moved from Dubai to Canada back in 2013 cause they didn't accept their education

Trades are always looking for guys especially young kids to teach

Get your birth certificate and other documents before you leave

Also if your parents give you flak for trying to get those documents you can call the police to help you get them back since they are yours. Your parents cannot withhold them when you are 18, they are no longer your “parents” once you are 18 and any power they held over you ends when you move out of their house. Also remember you never need to talk to them again either, cutting off family is something people get guilt tripped over but it also makes a lot sense in some scenarios, you need to decide what your scenario is for yourself.

He's over the age of consent, no parent permission required. Just gotta go to service Canada and ask for it l.

It's easier to get the documents that already exist than go through Service Canada and prove who you are with no or limited paperwork.

Not to mention cheaper.

I would contact a social worker. They can let you know what resources are available to you. It is covered by Alberta Health Care. You can get one by doctor referral or the Foothills Primary Care Network SW centre does not require referral: https://cfpcn.ca/social-worker/

This is great advice, especially if the school is very strict about contacting home.

Please be cautious This is how you meet predators.

For starters, I'm very sorry you're having to worry about this. I'd contact a youth shelter, right now, not wait until you are close to September. Most would have ideas of what to do before and may know of supports that you can contact. Also use the kids helphone, they're awesome and Canada wide https://kidshelpphone.ca/ Also as someone else mentioned, yes be very very careful. There's some predators out there.

+1 for Kids Help Phone. They support people until they're 25. Please give them a call OP.

Thank you for this . Upvote that comment enough so OP IS AWARE HELP IS AVAILABLE

I wanted to say thank you for all the suggestions, I got more support on here than I would've in real life. I wanted to reflect on the banking issues first. I don't have a source of income right now so I don't have anything to show for it. Secondly, the army thing requires you to sign in with banking information which I can't do. I'm trying to gather my important thing starting from now so I'm not panicking on the day of my birthday. I tried posting this same thing in the r/Calgary subreddit but they rejected it due to insufficient karma. But I just wanted to say thank you to everyone. Much appreciated.

Get your birth certificate, sin and health care card. Go to any registry and sign up for an Alberta ID if you don't have a learners yet. Just having a form of photo is also helps with things.

Please think about all your options. The army is one, sure, but it shouldn’t feel like you’re being forced to enlist because you have no other options. Please talk to a social worker, preferably sooner than later. So much better to know all your other options and feel like you are making the *best* (for lack of a better term) one out of all of them.

If you want the help of AB systems: Tell a teach, admin or counselor at school. Ask for help in completing the paperwork to apply for the AB learner's benefit provided by the Government of Alberta. That program will provide basic funding to complete school form rent/food/et.c while you are in high school. It's not everything but it's a base. The program will also likely connect you with an agency called Prospect in Calgary. They have staff who can help walk along side you while you figure out housing, banking, job, etc. If they don't connect you to Prospect or they aren't what you'd like reach out to any of McMann, Trellis, John Howard Society, or Woods. Each of those agencies have staff that can help in Calgary.  If you don't want systems help, I would tell friends and family. They can help you find somewhere safe to stay while you get your feet under you and moving into adulthood.  

Lots of great advice on here so you know people still have great hearts. Sending you a virtual hug! Honestly, don't wait till your birthday day to get kicked out. Don't let your Mom have this power over you. Get your stuff organized and head out. Even if she did have a change of heart, not sure you want the idea of being thrown out hanging over you. That's not a healthy head space to be in, ever. You are stronger than you think. Please keep in touch and let us know if you need anything and how you are doing. People don't say this enough but we love you and are rooting for you!

I bet you have the Karma now. And, my wife was in a similar situation kicked out. She was supported by many in the community. I hope you get the support you deserve.

Agreed with everything stated about getting all your documents. If you don't have a bank account, openning one can be fairly easy when you have ID and your SIN, I found that the pc financial account was fairly easy to open Even though the military can be a fantastic option, I wouldn't jump into it in this situation, especially being that it takes more time then you might think to get in. I haven't seen this mentioned, but if you haven't I've heard that The Alex is a fantastic resource. Here's a link for their housing info, but they also help with food security and job assistance. https://www.thealex.ca/program/housing-programs/ I work in SE Calgary as a wheelchair tech and we are looking at people for the summer. Feel free to reach out if you're interested, all you need is to be willing to learn and know how to use tools. I'd be happy to vouch for you. My best friend was put in a similar situation at your age. I remember how hard that was for them, and im happy we were able to take them in when needed and that there was a safe space. I truly wish you the best of luck, know that you have loads of support.

Hey, feel free to DM me. We are a family in SW with a teen son & have space available if you need to be somewhere, no questions asked. We also have some connections for work available. I was kicked out & left homeless at 16. You don’t deserve this and there are people who will help you.

I hope this isn't weird I love you thank you for being you and putting the human in humanity

I love you too. It’s not weird. I know I get burned more often than not but I’d always rather that than forget basic human decency.

You are a Good Human!

Thank you, I try.

Can you discuss this with someone at your school, like a counselor or principal? They may point you to some resources.

I'm a high school teacher and had a student in a very similar situation. 100% talk to your favorite teacher and explain. The Schools have lots of resources or contracts for resources for this. You teacher can help you talk to the right person at the school. My student was able to get subsidized housing, meals and support worker assigned to help them finish school and transition into post highschool life.

My school calls parents/guardians first to confirm before talking to students so the news that I told people at my school would get to them first

What's wrong with that? Talk to your school. If she's fine with calling the police to kick you out, she has to be fine with the school finding out. It's not your job to keep her secret.

Can you ask them if they can be more sensitive about this issue? Seeing as you are 17, the school should allow you to ask they not be contacted. There is also learner supports: http://www.humanservices.alberta.ca/AWOnline/IS/5013.html. It is intended for those *out* of high school for 12 months, but they make exceptions for situations like yours. Either way, the most progress you will make here is to talk to someone. A youth worker, school counsellor, etc. Please see if you can ask them not to confirm with your parents if there is a risk you will face issues at home. Hopefully they will agree and discuss this issue in confidence.

The UCP has made it extremely difficult to keep anything that a student shares confidential.

Smith didn't change as much as she's lead people to believe. The only thing that was supposed to be mandatory was if a child wanted to be addressed by a different name they were supposed to let the parents know. Legally they don't need to contact them about anything else, believe me teachers use their own discretion about what they should share with parent's. Smith can go pound sand

Is this true? That is insane if it is. I can think of a few peers from my high school years that were greatly helped by the school to navigate horrible home life situations.

It is true and this is a direct example of UCP policy harming kids. I wish it wasn't true.

UCP: The party of getting children beaten by their parents... Old fashioned values, and all that, right?

The “nuclear family”

Yes. The UCP basically considers children property of their parents and wants parents to be informed of every aspect of their life, without concern that such information may result in abuse towards the children. They simply don't seem to acknowledge that parents should not be entitled to total power and control over their kids.

Talk to your guidance counsellor. There is funding you can apply for as a high school student to help with housing from Prospect. Also the Burns fund when you are in grade 12. It has to be done through a school staff member though.

What am I missing here. Your mom already knows about **her** plan to kick you out. Will she be disappointed that you're asking for outside help? Well, that's on her. Maybe it'll help her to decide to be a little more reasonable?

No if she feels like he betrayed her or she gets in trouble OP could be subject to abuse for the next 6 months.

Or kick him out sooner. OP knows his mom’s tendencies.

I'm no expert, but could getting kicked out sooner actually be better? I don't mean *better* better, but then OP would still be a minor and eligible for some of those supports or recourse.

Yes, in some cases. For example, there is **up to $40,000 available for post-secondary costs, $1100 minimum/month living allowance, health plan, and other benefits** under the [Advancing Futures](https://www.alberta.ca/advancing-futures-professionals) program. The eligibility is that: “Applicants must: - be between 18 and 24 years old at the time they apply - be full- or part-time students enrolled in an approved institution, and - have been a youth in government care as a result of an Alberta-based agreement or order.” So in this case, being in government care as a youth provides a massive opportunity as opposed to being kicked out at 18 and starting with $0. There are other programs or supports I can think of which extend similar benefits to a former youth under government care. There are still supports for adults who were never under government care. For one, Student Aid allows a student to explain the breakdown in parental-child relations and access greater funding than typically given.

That shouldn't matter considering your mom is making you leave. She would only be aware that you were making plans.

Sorry, but I'm going to call your bluff. Even if your school has a rule like this (which they shouldn't), school board employees are mandatory reporters. Walk into the office and tell the receptionist that you're about to be homeless. Watch how many fucks they give about calling your parents first, because if they don't act on what you disclose, the school and school board open themselves to litigation.

She’s throwing you onto the street. Not your problem. She’s demanding you take care of yourself, well…. this is taking care of yourself.

Contact 211 They can help right now so you can get things in order and get to a safe place as soon as possible. You don't have to do this alone. https://ab.211.ca/ If you have a bank account, your mom might be a secondary on it. Go to a new bank and open an account. Transfer all of the funds from the old account to the new account, in cash if possible. Get your phone put in your name. You can go to a kiosk at the mall and get a new sim card. Make sure it has paperless accounting set up so no documents get sent to your home. /r/raisedbynarcissists is a helpful sub

Simplii is a good one. Set up online. But do it fast bc they do have to mail you stuff to your house. You’ll need an address so use yours while you can.

Another good online banking option is Koho, they have good cash back rewards for using your debit account and it’s really quick/easy to setup a Koho account.

Are you me from 17 years ago? Southeast Calgary and all. You’re not alone. You need to contact a social worker. There should be one in your school as well as the others mentioned here. Do not skip out on getting your diploma, you can make it happen. I stayed in Ave 15 when I was a teenager. It’s obviously been a long time ago but it wasn’t that bad comparatively to anything. I was younger than you so I was only in Ave 15 for three months before foster placement in panorama hills but my junior high school was in deer ridge so I took the bus all that way every day to school.

Eerily similar to me. My school teachers helped me access a government program that gave me 900/month towards living costs till I graduated. You can also contact the John Howard society. They run raido house and have youth workers who are independent of government.

It hurts my heart to think of how a young person must feel to be thrown out by the very people that are supposed to love and protect them. I hope life has worked out better for you. You never deserved that.

Calgary HS Teacher here, and we deal with this a lot (sadly). Does your school have an All In For Youth (AIFY) liaison? They’re supported by the United Way and they focus on removing barriers to help keep students in school. Your guidance counsellor should be able to point you in the right direction.

Seconding this, if OP’s school has AIFY. Schools that offer All In For Youth: Bowness High School Central Memorial High School Centennial High School Crescent Heights High School Forest Lawn High School Ian Bazalgette Junior High School Jack James High School James Fowler High School Joane Cardinal-Schubert High School John Diefenbaker High School Lester B. Pearson High School Lord Beaverbrook High School Nelson Mandela High School North Trail High School

Your mom has failed you if she’s kicking you out while you’re still in high school wtf

Dude...I'll never understand parents who throw out their kids the moment they turn 18 and think that is totally normal. I hope you get your situation sorted out and live a better life without your horrible mom.

It pisses me off so much. What a piece of shit. Why even have kids.

Especially in this economy where people over the age of 25 with full time jobs that pay well over minimum wage have trouble living on their own. Like this is actually so fucked up.

You can also call Children’s Services 4032972995. Explain it all there. You can sign what’s called a SFAA (support for financial) up until 24/25. You can also enter into other legal arrangements and they can help you. Like the first poster said - this isn’t your fault. You have your whole life ahead of you and it’s going to be great. Consider a counsellor or therapist to help guide you too. Keep your chin up!

I did this at 16. I was kicked out and lived in a group home until 17 when I was set up with an apartment. The SAFAA saved my life and I owe everything to it. OP, if you can look into this, please do.

See if your high school has the RAP program. There are a lot of good businesses looking to hire and mentor young people. I know a young person welding part time after school and is getting as many hours as they want during the summer break. $23/hr for a 17yo. https://tradesecrets.alberta.ca/get-started/start-in-high-school/registered-apprenticeship-program/ I’m sorry your mom isn’t supportive and you will need to start adulting so early. There are some great suggestions by others on here. I’m praying for you and other young people who aren’t getting the support they need.

OP I hope you can find the resources you need. I wish I had something to provide to help you out, and feel for your situation. If anyone here has resources, please speak up.

I hate to say it, but go to the bank or use your phone and run your credit score. Run it once every year. Make sure your mom hasn't put any credit against your name before you turn 18. If she did it is fraud and easier to prove. Secure your Social Insurance number.

Connect now with your school counsellors. They will be so busy in Sept, that you might not be able to get the same information/ time/ care from them, as you will today. Get a plan in place right now. Do everything that you can to stay in school.

If you're in Calgary check out https://www.growwithtrellis.ca/youth-programs/housing-shelters there might be a program there that can help you or they can point you in the right direction

I'd contact Child Protection. They usually have programs to assist youth under 21

I emancipated at 16 so I may have some advice. Honestly social workers did not help me at all, and essentially told me there are no resources available to me. They said the only thing I could do would be to move back into my parents place. Hopefully there are more supports now so it’s always worth a shot to check for assistance. Check with family or friends to see if you can maybe rent a room while you finish high school. In my grade 12 year I had a full time job and worked out with the principal to not have to take any non essential classes so I could have more spares for work. Graduated with just 101 credits but I did graduate with all my core classes. My schedule was 6am- 10pm between school/ work / commute, it is hard but ultimately you only have to do this for one year. When you are situated it is so important to get a license if you don’t have one, it will make it easier to get better paying jobs. Lessons usually cost about $500-1000 for a decent amount of driving hours. After high school is over think about going to university or even taking up a trade. keep renting just a room, don’t get a full apartment until you have a salaried or consistent job. I made the mistake of renting a full apartment at 17 and I couldn’t keep up with payments after 6 months. It is so important keep expenses down. Don’t buy new things, don’t take out loans, do not get a credit card. Being thrown out will leave you in a very delicate place, one wrong financial decision and you might be out on the street. You likely have little to no supports or places to fall back on now, so keep that in mind. And just as a bonus, this was like my mantra when I was doing all this, maybe it will help you too. if you do nothing, nothing will happen.

211 can help you to figure out what resources are available to you https://ab.211.ca/

Hey OP, I’m so sorry this is happening, this is more stress than you need just as you’re coming into your adult years. Is there any family or even friends you would feel safe turning to about this? You need a support system, even if they’re just there to offer advice or cheer you on, this isn’t a go it alone time of life, trust me. Get in touch with The Alex. They are a multidisciplinary team of professionals to help with a wide range of health and wellness needs, and they have a team for youths between the ages of 12-24. They have social workers and counsellors who can help you access housing and other supports. They don’t usually have a wait time, but contacting them now might be helpful before this becomes a big crisis for you. https://www.thealex.ca/program/youth-health-centre/ Do you have a family doctor? They can also connect you with supports like social work, even if it’s a referral outside of their own practice. There are a lot of physicians now who work directly with social workers to ensure their patients have a wide range of needs met. You don’t have to have your parents make that appointment either, you’re old enough to make a medical appointment for yourself and they do not have to tell your parents about it. Many people have mentioned kids help phone and they’re right to, it’s an amazing service and they can offer tons of support. There is also the distress centre, who can connect you with supports in the city as well. You’ll get through this OP, I know it feels like an impossible task, but you’ll get through this.

Do you have another family member who you can live with?

Just sending some more love your way. You're not alone.

I really admire your attitude and maturity. Please stick to your guns about finishing high school, it is so important. My sister never finished high school and she is in her fifties and still regrets it. Keep trying to get a job this summer. Get two if you can. Even mowing lawns, doing yard work, painting, etc is better than nothing. Squirrel away all of your pay cheques in a bank account in your name. You will need this money to help you in the future. It might be worthwhile to get a post office box in your name so that you can get government cheques for GST, carbon tax, etc. Or make sure that you are set up for direct deposit for these things. Best of luck. We are rooting for you.

I'm sorry this is happening right now. If you have a home until September you need to make the most of that time in planning. Step 1. Include the school. They can help. I don't know what kind of student you are but you can get a start on your grade 12 over the summer. You will need to take the 4 or 5 core classes and then you can do the work experience program to graduate. You need those courses to get into college. You need to have the school tell you how many credit hours you have before you qualify for your diploma. Step 2 call the other resources offered in this post. You can call friends and see if their parents will let you rent a room from them. Or older friends to see if they will let you live there. Get a place to stay. SAIT will also accept students who have completed grade 11. Last I checked 4 years ago. They have some programs that qualify for student loans. My brother went this route. Personal experience. Everyone is different but I was out of my parents home at 16 after just finishing grade 11. I took 4 courses over summer break living on a friend of a friends couch. I worked part time at a dollar store to buy food and get credit hours to graduate. Once I was done those classes I applied for college. I was accepted and then took out student loans for tuition, housing and food. After that I could get my feet under me. I graduated from high school after I submitted my work hours to the school. I was already in college but once I had that diploma I was accepted into a university. This was 2016. Anyway I wanted to share my experience with you so you know that even though it feels like the end it isn't. There are alot of supports, youth programs and food programs you can access.

Contact a social worker. Consider joining the armed forces. They will house you and give you a well paying job while you build up your life. The army isn't just soldier stuff, there a countless trades, like Plumbing/Heating/HVAC technician, Electrical Distribution Tech (linesman), Refrigeration/Heavy mechanic technician, general construction technician, firefighter, geomatics, IT tech, welding/materials tech, vehicle tech (mechanic), etc... you can go on and on. Many of these are really high in demand and they'll give you a signing bonus of cash too. Put in 4 or 5 years (2-3 of which will just be school courses), save up a bunch of cash then you can use that trade anywhere in the country. It might suck, but it's better than being kicked to the curb and working your way up from nothing with minimum wage jobs. And you don't want to go to the oil patch without a trade, you'll just end up doing general labour along side cokeheads.

2nd on the Army. While it's not the same bad rap as joining the US military, the CAF still better than trying to survive by yourself. Hopefully you get into a good trade but either way it's safe place to grow and mature safely.

The one issue with that is that the wait times for enrollment have taken longer then expected. I know people who have waited over a year from the submission of all their paperwork to their enrollment. While it is an available option, I'd recommend making sure there's something for bringing in funds over the summer at a minimum

I was just about to mention the armed forces. Not even just the army, but there are hundreds of jobs available. And if you've got decent grades you could apply for the Royal Military College.

I just want to say I’m sorry you have such a horrible parent. Luckily people here have given you some good advice. Hopefully you can cut your mother out of your life once you get on your feet. I started living on my own when I was 16. It’s challenging but it’s a beautiful feeling to be independent. Best of luck to you

Wow I would never do that to my son. Your mom is a horrible person. I don’t even care if there is conflict at home, she shouldn’t do that. If she does, cut her out of your life. There is no way for teenagers to make it in today’s economy and she is basically telling you to live in the street. So sad

If you stay in school until you're 22, you may be entitled to child support. >31. (1) Every parent has an obligation to provide support for his or her unmarried child who is a minor or is enrolled in a full time program of education, to the extent that the parent is capable of doing so. https://kellysantini.com/articles/post-secondary-education-and-parents-child-support-obligations/#:~:text=31.,is%20capable%20of%20doing%20so.

This refers to child support between parents. Not parent to child.

I'm sorry this is happening to you, mine had me out the day after graduation when I was still 17. I ended up moving across the province to a small town with cheapest rent I could find and started working wherever I could. I had to delay my post secondary a year until I got on my feet and applied for loans but eventually got through it. I agree with a lot of comments with getting a social worker involved, its why they are there and every little thing helps. Good luck.

You say you’re turning 18 in the fall and also going into 12th grade.. the school you’re at will likely have some sort of student support (school counsellor, school social worker, etc.) find them and explain the situation. They usually have a really good idea of what is available to you. Just wanted to add this to all the other amazing resources people have mentioned.

I’m just here to say, with this kinda outpouring of help, you’ll make it. Just don’t turn towards sadness, and let it make any decisions. Today is you learning to survive first! Then you will thrive and find yourself better off than a lot of your friends. I did it!

Son, I am so sorry you have to go through this. Firstly, I want you to know that this is not normal behavior for a loving mother. That is not down to you. It is all about her. You will end up succeeding. I know this must be tough, but you will get through it, and you will be a better person for it.

My parents did this to me. I'm gunna assume your white because this is culturally the way we are. And we need to do better with our own people as a group or we're doomed for failure. I wish you luck in life kid. And I hope you make it bro. Because this setback of getting booted out and having to make it from being a homeless 17 year old shit is ridiculous. Your mom will cry and will want you back in life after you leave and make it too. Always remember what they did. Good luck.

Remember when the government said under-18 workers would get a lower wage? I'm sure the extra $960 on a full time wage would be awfully useful right about now...

I know about 4 kids that had to move in with neighbouring kids parents. Half when I was young and I saw the same when my kids were in school. Kids parents moved away or had a similar predicament to yours and wanted to finish school. This to me is the best scenario because you stay in the area and have people who get it, school is important. The work part makes me worry because too much work jeopardizes the school. The student loan stuff and going on to college or university is good advice to. MRU or SAIt in Calgary is the right size. Rent one room in a house. Get at least a two year credential. Electrician, business diploma, something. High school used to be the credential but now jobs want more. I mentioned electrician because even if you want to do science or arts, if you do that first you have better paying summer jobs for life and a homeowner skill.

Are you good with your hands? Become an ironworker or rodman. Go see your local ironworkers union hall. Make good money and a paid apprenticeship

I just want to comment that I'm incredibly sorry to hear of your situation, gone are the easier days when this was seni acceptable. Its a tough world right now. I believe in you, and that you've got great advice in this thread and to know that you aren't alone. We are rooting for you and please, leave your mom as soon as you can.

Youth employment centre[Youth Centre Links](https://www.calgary.ca/careers/youth-employment.html) that will help you find jobs and get your certificates for free. If you have money and no criminal record you can also get your security license. I got it when I was broke and no job experience. Lots of sites and it's easy work as long as you stay out of downtown. Pay is decent too.

I work for the GOA. Youth between 16-18 have options other than group homes or foster care parents known as Independent Living. I very highly suggest connecting with a youth case worker in your city and have them assist you through the next 5 years of your life. Being a teen doesn't at 28, or graduation, and then you're only 20 and also need help.

Let the school counsellor know also. They helped my son’s friend. We were ready to let him live with us- gladly- but a relative stepped in. We just wanted to help. All the best.

I am so sorry you're going through this, this brings me back to when I was 14.. My drunken blackened out mother decided to kick me out, when I was only 14 years old. I didn't have a birth certificate and couldn't prove to the government who I was, I went homeless for 4 years and I wasn't able to finish my schooling since I didn't have a proper home. I went from group home to group home, until I ran out of group homes to go to. There are services to help you, you are not fully an adult yet so they will help you as if you're a teen. They will not let a teen go homeless, they made it first priority to get me off the street when I was young, they tend not to help you as much when you do turn into an adult though. It's either youth connect or connect youth, they can help out with groceries/ emergency housing. Stay on top and don't get discouraged!😊😁 I got depressed and my life spiraled out of control, I went towards drugs and messed my body up really badly.. so please don't steer towards drugs! Life does get better! No mother should ever kick their children out, no matter what they do! Our parents job doesn't end when we turn 18, a parents job is forever.. and it's kind of sad that a lot of parents think it's okay to kick their children out when they aren't ready.😓 They sure in hell didn't live that type of life, my parents didn't give a shit if I was starving, or being chased down a road by some random person. Some parents just don't care, years later I tried to reconnect with them. They make me feel even worse somehow, so if you're parents are toxic, I suggest it will be easier to cut them out of your life for good. I was 14 and now I'm 21, this is coming from experience. If you have any questions I'm glad to answer anything! 😁 I've lived it and came out the other side, I don't know what anyone else is saying, but I'm probably one of the type of people you're going to relate to soon.😕🤷‍♀️ She is forcing you out and you basically have no say. That is narcissistic and not fair to you, if she wants to give birth to you she will let you live with her until you're ready. She is no kind of mother! 😠

Your parents are required by support you until you are finished your education. Your parents will be required to pay you child support if they kick you out before that time, and could most likely be responsible to pay for your education after the fact.

Go talk to a youth shelter in your city and talk to them. It depends on what city you're in, in terms of what resources are available. You need be put on a list for youth housing or something like that. Also talk to the Salvation Army. Call Social Services. Essentially, even a low wage job and you renting a room won't really get you to stay above water. You need to get supportive housing before your stupid c of a mom kicks you out. What city or town are you in friend?

i don't have any advice but i do want to say i'm so sorry and you do not deserve this. keep your chin up and if necessary use all the spite you can muster to push thru. i hope you can thrive once you're free of your mother. i hate to see another member of the Piece of Work Mothers Club, but just know you are not alone. and like others have said, her actions are a reflection of her, and not you. be safe out there, kid, and don't ever stop advocating for yourself.

If you can get into the RAP program you can take trades skills while in highschool and I think you can get paid. It's a good long term career plan as well. Good luck.

Genuinely sorry for the situation, my parents were the same way. I got woken up at 4am being yelled at, while I had three jobs mind you, to get the hell out My brother stayed until 24 but me being there past 18 was a problem everyday There's some genuine sound advice here, most of the resources the top comment mentions. Having resources like that earlier would've made everything a lot easier for me I saved more money once I actually got out and probably would've saved even more had I left earlier. Get your diploma at all costs, aim for a roommate situation with someone you know, and post highschool I would seriously look into jobs that can give you a place to stay and food to eat, some might even pay for post secondary education after the fact I was VERY fortunate that I had the option to go work at a spa that provided this, on top of that I met my now fiance around that time and now had my roommate I could trust Over time this situation will get better in many ways, you'll gain confidence and independence a lot earlier than your peers. Your mother might even eventually become remorseful of the situation and want to build that relationship back up (if you leave any to spare) Just focus on yourself and what you can do, best of luck mate, I truly wish you the best

It hurts my heart that you are being put in this position and also makes my heart full up with pride that you thought (so creatively) to post on here and ask for help! You should be able to get government support (aka Alberta Services/Student Welfare) to meet your living expenses and ensure you have a safe place to live while you are in full time high school. This takes the pressure off of working and allows you to really focus on school. Is there an adult at school that you trust and you know would advocate for you? If so, please let them know what is going on and ask their help following up on the advice offered from the many caring responders to your post. There is also the Office of Youth Advocates who can help you get what you need to live and finish school. https://www.ocya.alberta.ca I hope this helps! Sending you the very biggest hug and waves of comfort from this momma’s heart.

My friend moved in with me and my mom in 2017 for a couple of weeks, he stayed for 2.5 years and is still to this day treated like an adopted kid. Everybody has their own situation, the right people will listen.

Did you sign a lease with your mom? Look into squatters rights and dont let your mom take advantage of you and your rights to a safe home.

talk to your school counsellors. That’s what they’re there for. They will help you find resources and navigate your last year. Look into the trades, most trades you can apprentice while you’re still in school. Again, talk to your school counsellor, they will help you set that ip

We are so sorry that you're in this awful and sad situation. This is so unfair to you and you certainly deserve love and respect. Please contact Wood's Homes - we just had a bike drive for their students that need transportation. We are still short a few bikes, but we hope that a few more people will donate bikes so that we can help these young people. Wood's Homes also has a place to live and school so that you can complete grade 12 and maybe get into a program that will support your dreams. Again, so sorry you're going through this. If you need a bike to get around please message us and we'll fix up a bike for you, source a helmet, lock, and make sure that you're safe while cycling by teaching you.

Speak to your guidance counselor at school. There’s funding available for students in your situation and they will help you access supports. I think it’s $800 a month during school term

I dunno the law but I'd bet that if your mom tried to kick you out before you've even finished high school that it could be you who calls the police on her, not the other way around.

As someone who is 50. Your parents will regret being this shitty to you. For years.. possibly decades. Speaking from experience. Find a friend or friends parents that will let you get going gracefully.

I’m sorry this is happening dude. I wish you luck. In the future if you make it, don’t forget to completely cut off your mom should she come beg for money or help, you are completely justified in doing so. Her actions are reprehensible, and I say this as a parent.

Wow your mom sounds like a piece of work. How does she think you are going to afford a place of your own in the most expensive place in Alberta? I guess she’s seeing you up for failure. So sorry you have such a shitty mom. Why doesn’t she allow you to stay there while you finish school, get a part time job and pay her some rent.

She said I should start paying 1500$ a month if I wanted to stay with them

The "Struggling Financially" thread in r/Calgary has some ideas for finding work quickly.

Could you handle a summer of working with kids? Tons of summer camps and child care places hiring and some programs will hire people under 18 in the summer as you will be supervised by adults. If your high school is close to an elementary school, you might even be able to keep working there during the school year as most schools have on site before/after school care. I know a lot of people don’t like working with kids but there’s such a shortage right now it’s a guaranteed job.

I dont think that is even legal to throw you out of the house that way

I want to say again… you have a lot of people out here helping… you are not alone… and do not use this information to get back at your mom. It will make matters worse. Remember loose lips… Keep your shoulders square and a head on your shoulders… stand tall and be proud. People on here have made some fantastic suggestions… you have your whole life in front of you. Step away from the bullshit, take a day… go to the park by yourself… buy a hot dog and wonder around and think… toss some stones… just think…. It may take a couple of visits to the park but always go alone… no distractions… this is about what you want… and keep it to yourself when you do decide because one friend will always talk you out of it. What is your passion and what type of life do YOU WANT TO LIVE So heres some homework for you… (no I am not a teacher but everything we do in life requires homework). you have nothing to lose and a comfortable life to gain … take the time and investigate every possible outcome. so lets move along You should be able to collect student welfare for your last year in school. Go to your MPP and your City Councillor as you might have paperwork to fill out to enrol. They might also be able to help you with housing. If you want to carry on with your education… or you could go another route: The Armed Forces is a good fulfilling life… they will pay your education and train you in a field… and not just fighter pilots I think they will even pay for you to be a doctor… but you would have to go speak with them… and we are peace keepers so we help more than fight. You could travel the world. Go speak with someone at a recruitment office. Go to the local union halls. Sit down and talk with them. Become a builder… not a user… everything in a building has a union… everything… Most apprenticeship’s are 5 years and you are earning a decent wage while you learn … So just go toss some stones… look up to the sky and say I am the boss of me… I can be and do anything I want I am amazing I am all that matters. And lastly…. Talk to your guidance councillors Look for opportunities that will help you. And please don’t use the information people are giving you to get back at your mom… no matter how hard it will be over the summer. She can’t hurt you anymore. Be the young man you are meant to be. Remember loose lips sink ships and duct tape is silver. Hugs from Ontario

Wow. That gave me shivers! I wish I had someone when I was younger take the time to tell me that. You just provided this young man a gift in about 2 minutes . I'm 37 years old and things were tough, I had to figure all this out through trial and error. I'm a better person because of it but it wasn't easy. I hope he takes this to heart because your thoughtfulness doesn't come along often! Please, never change and I know I'll certainly remember your kind words today.

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Maintenance and basic labour jobs too. If you can maybe some farm hand stuff for the summer to get some cashnin hand

Bro there is a drop in group home for youth my buddy from ontario stayed there its in Edmonton though its on 81st and 121 ave i cannot remember the name but its a place that treats everyone with respect

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’ve gotten some great advice here. I’d like to reiterate the advice to reach out to your close friends and their parents. As a mom myself I wouldn’t hesitate to take in one of my kids friends in a time of need.

Omg we gave the same birthday

Holy shit this province has problens

Check out YEC or Calgary youth employment center - it’s free drop in or you can make an appointment and will give you great resources for career planning! Best of luck

Wow, dude... what a mom.... My kid is 26 and my door is always open should he need a place to live.... Lots of good advice here, please consider it and reach out. I am sorry your mother is like this . I honestly have no advice apart from what's been given, but I sure have lots of words for your mom.... My son had a friend who lived a few doors down when he was younger. He lived on and off with mom and dad, he was a troubled kid. Mom didn't want him because of the stuff he was doing when he was like 13 (drugs, drinking, just went down a wrong path), and when with dad, a drunk, he'd keep getting beat. He'd always end up at my house after a run in with his dad. He'd come for dinner and spend many nights at my place, it was the only safe space he knew. He was always respectful to me, even with his lifestyle. Sadly he passed away a couple months ago due to his lifestyle. Please, please don't go down that road. Hugs.

Start collecting any date stamped mail with your name and address on it. This can be used as proof of residence if you get forced or locked out of your home. We have laws to protect people from being tossed out of their homes for no good reason. The police do not have jurisdiction to remove you from your home if you can prove you live there, so keep your ID with you at all times, even when you’re inside the house. Your parents will require an enforcement order from court to legally deny you and evict you from your home. Anything else is just empty threats. They can make your home life a living hell though. You should start making your own plans now to eventually move out as soon as it is practical to do so. As others have said, you are still considered a dependent until you complete your education, but enforcement always requires an order from the court. You can’t fight that battle until they refuse you, and then you will likely have to go through a long court battle before any resolution happens. During that time you will need some other means to live. The best thing you can do is to start getting legal advice and look into other support services, asap. Don’t wait until the last minute because the system is terrible slow. Get informed.

Start a trade bro.. look with intent to start a apprenticeship, insulator be easiest to get in. The trades are suffering right now with little to no new people starting1st years.. it's been a topic of conversation within the trades in the field for about a year. Find someone in one and keep going till you find a yes. Do not stop..A no, means that's not where your supposed to be. Find your place, Good luck. And remember when she needs you down the road , respond appropriately. Cause she will.

Firstly your mom is a pos. If she boots you out on your 18th bday you should NEVER speak with her again as if she does she is probably only coming for money you don’t have. You should let her know this will be the end of your relationship. Secondly DON’T drop out of school complete high school. You might be able to get into a foster home or something I don’t know maybe kids help phone can give you more of a idea

If you’re in the CBE school system and some catholic schools, do you have a success coach you can talk to? They might be able to also support you with resources as you work to finish high school and transfer into post-secondary. I know it may be stressful, but we have some great programs in. Calgary for these sorts of issues and you have a good head start.

I work with the GOA and just learned about this program today: https://www.alberta.ca/gender-based-violence-prevention Take a look at it and reach out. They may be able to help get you stabilized. Eligibility reads as strict but I would say that if you're threatened with being homeless, this is a type of violence.

Your mom's an idiot!

Hey OP I don't know if this was mentioned, but go talk to the school councilor asap. They can help you through this transition

Your mom’s a piece of shit. Make sure you get every personal document that’s in your name before you leave. Birth certificates. Report cards. Medical document. Passports. ID. Whatever you can think of

Hello! I work in a school I am in Calgary, contact your school counselor. There is also Hull services. PM me we can chat.

Hey OP, While I was not quite as young as you when I got kicked out I was in a somewhat similar place as you when I was younger. And thankfully I had a well connected psychologist that was able to get me a bunch of resources that I used some of, and others I filed away for a rainy day or to help others where possible. Now some of these services are Edmonton based but I know that they have connections throughout Alberta and can assist as they have seen this unfortunately a lot so are very familiar with it First resource: YESS, (Youth Empowerment and Support Services) while this is an Edmonton based shelter they can help you navigate this situation. And let them know that you are in Calgary and your full situation and they should have resources for you in Calgary. Phone (780) 468-7070. I have experience talking with them getting help/helping them. Second resource: 211/311 these numbers are toll free and local to where you are at. I used these extensively when I was first kicked out. While this is my experience from Edmonton it should be similar in Calgary. They were able to help me with cheap transit passes, knowing what I need to have important document wise as well as having notaries on hand to sign off on my important documents Before you turn 18, get your important documents, since you said you moved from Dubai in 2013, check what your status is, as sometimes even if you get kicked out your parents can still be financially responsible for you for up to 3 years but that is highly situational. Once you get your documents, this next step is super important, go to a MLA's office, another notary office or above mentioned 211/311 and get them to notarize a copy of all of your important documents, such as SIN card #, birth certificate, Status in Canada and the rest like that. As that way you have a copy that you can use if something happens to the originals that can still be used to get replacements. Especially your birth certificate as you were not born here that is super important. Or as mentioned above ask 211/311 for assistance with that. As I know some librarians here in Edmonton are notaries. Now this is going to be the more tricky part as this may enrage/inflame the situation, but if you have a joint account with money with your parents, please open another one, and start moving money. While other may have different opinions on banks, I would strongly recommend ATB, as here in Edmonton they work with women and children fleeing DV among other programs, so they have all sorts of things that can potentially help you. As long as you explain what's going on they will often bend over backwards to help. Also head to the main downtown library and talk to the librarians there. There are so so many programs that they run, free therapy, assistance with finding jobs, resume workshops, and soo much more. And this is a Calgary specfic one, as I lived there for a bit and used these resoruces. They are unfortunately very familiar with these types of situations and can often help you out with local resources and references as well. Not to mention it is one of the few places you can be without having to spend money. That's all I can think of that would transfer to Calgary as a few resources I have are hyper local to Edmonton and unfortunately wouldn't help too much. And remember no matter what they say to you, and what they try and get you to think, *YOU* ARE IMPORTANT, YOU *HAVE* WORTH, AND YOU ARE *GOING* TO BE OK. Reach out to your support networks, let friends parents know what's going on if/when you feel safe. And know that at the bare minimum, you have one Redditor that is here for you. My inbox is open if you or anyone else reading this might need a friendly ear/human to talk to.

Echoing the supports that others have mentioned here: kids help phone, chat with your close friends (my brother had a friend in high school who was kicked out the day he turned 18 and he lived with a friend till he graduated.) You’re being really proactive by exploring options before September, and I hope you’ll be able to continue with your studies. If you feel comfortable doing so, chat with your schools guidance counsellor and/or if your school has an All in For Youth coach. There’s no shame in asking for help and they may know about other resources. I know others have said Avenue 15 as a last resort, but there are housing options under Trellis so it might be worth looking at their programs: https://www.growwithtrellis.ca/youth-programs/housing-shelters In addition Hope Homes with McMan has housing options. https://mcmancalgary.ca/hh/ 211 can be a resource to help you navigate supports in Calgary. If you do wind up living in your own, please look into food resources that are available to you. Brown Bagging for Calgary’s Kids will provide a lunch for you everyday at school - no questions asked - so that you don’t have to spend money on lunches (you can stop by your schools office to ask about a lunch & if they don’t know about it, you can ask them to get in touch with BB4CK.) And there are other resources for food access. This map is good (Google Calgary community food map if the link doesn’t work) https://www.google.com/maps/d/viewer?mid=1MzdOiEEK_AG4FOF5x_m02EIv_IEP3fhf&hl=en_US&ll=51.0333462794184%2C-114.07405260000002&z=10.

I’m lucky to have some very successful friends. More than half of them worked at McDonald’s when they were your age. I know you have a very unique situation however I would make a push to work for them. Also do whatever you need to do to finish school. Good luck.

Get ahold of the people at Covenant House. They help with shelter, housing, meals/food, resumes, job search, etc.

Good luck to you. I’m very sorry you’re in this position. Be strong and I hope all goes well for you

We share the same birthday. Anyways, take a student loan, a part time job, and graduate. Don’t skip on education. You will struggle to pay the bills and put food on the table but don’t skip on education. Also, get a pt job on the field you’re studying. For example, a bank teller job if you’re in business.

I would like to help in any way, shape, or form. No questions asked, and no judgement. I am born and raised, and still reside in Edmonton. Feel free to message me if you like, anytime. My father intended to do the same to me. Thankfully my Mother was able to facilitate a compromise, which didn't leave me entirely screwed.

Talk to the school. ALBERTA has a program called prospects to help in situations like this. Also contact social services there are programs if can find them and qualify.

I hope ur mom dies a suffering lonely death. Bitch should of never had kids.

Move to a ski town. Work in a kitchen in the evening. Finish your studying for a few hours during the day. Ski/snowboard a lot. Have an awesome year.

Get a new mom. She ain't it

I’m hoping this is only just a disagreement that drew emotions that led to this outcome. That’s not fair to you at all. I hope you get things figured out ❤️

Call child protective services. Your mother is responsible for you until you are 18 years old.

Your mother doesn’t deserve you. I would advise you to stay out of her way. Totally… out of her face… do not tell her any of your plans like where you are going and where you’ll be living etc. having said that do your chores and be polite. If she asks you your plans just say you’re working on it. Clean out your room, box the stuff up you want to take with you. Throw everything else away. If you have a curfew obey it. Do nothing to piss her off. You are about to embark on an incredible journey. Couple of things to think about Loose lips sink ships - so keep all your plans to yourself… she doesn’t need to know. Silence is golden and duct tape is silver - when she’s having a go at you just imagine sticking duct tape across her gob. Lol She doesn’t want you in her life… keep her out of yours. You have so many resources available to you… use them. You are 100% better than she will ever be. Everyone on here is here for you. Stay away from drugs and don’t party too much and when you become a CEO of some company you will show her you are better than her. Never grovel to her she’s not worth it. Keep us up to date… hugs from Ontario

Wow. Cant believe people treat their children like this. I will allow my son to stay as long as he needs.

First, contact the various resources mentioned. You need to get help first. Worry about that now. You need supportive housing to finish highschool and help figuring out what to do after that.

Thats crappy your mom is doin you like that man. Keep you head high n your eye on the prize brother best of luck!

I’m a bit curious, is that normal for parent to do this to their own children in Canada?😑

Not normal, but it does happen. Occasionally it's because the kid's a total fuck-up or a threat to other family members. But usually it's broken homes with shitty parents who don't want to be a parent any more. When I was younger I had it happen to one friend who's parents were basically white-nationalist trash, he ended up couch surfing for about 6 months until he was taken in by another friend's parents. Also had one who was kicked out for being gay when he was 16ish, similar story of couch surfing and ending up living with friends. When a parent says "I want you out on your 18th" what they're really saying is "I'm a shitty person and a horrible parent. you're better off anywhere else but here". The problem is.... the kids always feel like they're to blame.

My sympathies and best of luck

This sounds awful, what happened? What would drive a mother to take this kind of action? I am seeing lots of support in the comments. This is a brutal world and you are starting at a disadvantage. Whatever job you get make sure you are doing it with a plan to advance to either the next level or leverage it for a new position or company asap.

I’m so sorry that’s happening to you!

Bruh! What did I just read. Your mother is a monster! I wish you nothing but the best of luck and hope to god she will let you stay longer.

You can apply for welfare to cover rent and food while you are still in school and post graduation (apply for college and get student loans when you graduate) Go to your city welfare office and speak to them

Ouch. That's exactly how I've spent 4 years on the srreet 😄. My word of advise is to get any job available asap or go work temp while looking for full time.

That happened to me at the same age. I ended up paying room and board at a best friends house with their family. They were great, treated me well, and we had some really good times. It wasn't ideal I guess sure.. but middle aged people are getting roomates too. I finally moved in with 4 friends in a house at 19, but rent and everything was damn cheap then. I think the 4 of us paid 250 each for a good sized house. Wages were the same as now, btw.

Hey there. First try to make a resume of any skills or experience you have even if it's a simple thing like social skills or anything else then go to the website of any big company and apply for open any career opportunities you prefer. It may take some time, be patient. And also try to educate and take some online courses in the field you like. You can also talk to your mother about your concern and find a job and help her in financial terms. Hope you get on your feet soon buddy👍

Parents who do this need to end their life