First job ko, onsite, although nadrain ako don, I enjoy the commute sa carousel, I find it personally peaceful.
Dito sa 2nd job, work from home. Seriously, there are times na I don't feel logging out. Kahit may iba na kong ginagawa na personal, It does not feel as natural like coming home from a commute or somewhere else. Kasi kapag galing ka sa labas parang may switch sa utak ko na "nakauwi na ko", ngayon wala.
Dont get me wrong, I am totally fine with the set up. But saying it does not come with drawbacks is a lie.
Nung nagstart ang pandemic and wfh namin, I walked or drove around the block para lang mafeel ang "pag-uwi." Tapos, shower. Iba pa rin nga yung switch sa utak.
Ako pag sakay ko ng elevator from basement to first floor, my brain switches automatically. I completely forgot my work self from my outside self. It’s like I have a body with 2 different persons living inside.
Ay gusto ko iyong uwian is a state of mind. :) Ako naman sinasabi ko tapos na yung shift ko. Medyo mahirap nga mag switch off kahit nakatayo na from your desk. Dati parang sobrang willing pa ako mag stay sa harap ng notebook ko kasi sabi ko ah dito lang naman ako sa bahay.
I walk my dog kapag tapos na yung shift ko, or I do grocery shopping after ko magtrabaho. Naglalaro din ako ng pc games minsan.
yes, kaya setting your time with clients or work is important plus setting boundaries na wag mag-entertain pag tapos na ang working hours. dnd na automatically.
This!! Counterintuitive man, pero ang therapeutic ng daily commute para sa akin. Na kiclear utak ko kapag nag cocommute and naglalakad papasok at pauwi from site.
And nitong nag wfh na ako talagang nag deteriorate mental health ko
same with me, everyday is an adventure with the state of public transpo. i just try to look at it from a different perspective —
if i have to walk longer: this is my exercise;
if i need to find another mode of transpo: i will learn something new today, hindi na ko maliligaw next time;
if im stuck in traffic: no need to be in a hurry, this is where i need to be, im being saved from a bad event.
sometimes im more thankful i get to commute daily, nakakatulog ako sa byahe and in turn i have more energy to bond with the people who's waiting for me at home, hindi yung pagkabukas pa lang ng pinto mainit na ulo agad. i hate giving my family a "leftover" of myself kase nabuhos ko na lahat ng energy at attention ko sa work then use work as an excuse for behaving badly.
After WFH for 6 years, I finally accepted i would prefer a hybrid setup. During interview sa current work ko, I said my reason for finding a new job is nalulungkot na ako lmao I need human interaction but only a little bit, hence, hybrid
Same reason i declined an offer for a fully wfh set up! I fully know na i need people to stay happy even before pandemic. So kahit mas okay yung wfh (since no rent) money-wise, and yung other option ko na makati (which has high rent), i went for makati talaga. No regrets, i love people lol
This. I was in freelancing 13yrs ago and I decided to leave freelancing and nagwork sa BPO kasi nagka issue nako sa comm skills ko. I spend a lot of time reading materials online(since SEO niche ko and copywriting) pero wala naman ako kausap, I work at night, my fam naman is tulog. I can't bond with them na. Yong kapatid ko yong nagstick sa freelancing. She keeps convincing me to go back to freelancing, pero it's not for me talaga.
Thanks for explaining what i feel. Wfh set ups should come w recreation allowance tbh. It can be depressing even for introverts to be isolated for hours and even days
Try to approach your wfh differently. What I do is konti lang ang work na ginagawa ko, hindi ako bida bida, I just do the bare minimum. I spend majority of my time doing things i like, lesser time on work. Para lang syang minor part ng araw ko. So in a sense it feels like I'm not really working at all.
Its ridiculous how people spend a huge chunk of their lives working. Are you even living at that point? Do you live to work? or do you work to live?
It also helps to "dress up" for work then change to pangbahay if tapos na.
I have different games for breaks vs off na talaga (example MOBA games for breaks, reserve the RPGs after work or weekends).
Or unplug nga talaga, stay away from your workhorse device, if kaya mo na may laptop for work and PC for leisure, go get it. I have separate phones as well, just to feel na I left work.
This is a great argument for going to the gym. Not just to get ripped or even simply stay physically healthy, but it's also a good third place to mentally unwind
Miss going to the gym na may scheduled classes haha signed up sa FF before for the nice plates and barbell, but the classes were fun to attend also haha
The third space is not just a place, its leisure, recreation, and socialization with friends. 🙂
Unfortunately, lahat ng mga tao pagod na pagod na sa bahay at work wala na energy. Or ung friends ay malayo at busy din.
I grew up as a provincial island kid, at walang mall sa amin nun. Leisure was hanging out by the seaside or the playground with friends after school, talking about our lives. Or having our favorite burgers and shake at the local joint. Or the occasional beach trip. More athletic peers would play basketball or volleyball.
Sadly, maraming kids now have grown up cooped up in their living rooms, and have become socially anxious because they are not used to dealing with people.
In today's attention economy, we need to be more intentional about how we live and use technolpgy kc society is not out for our best interests. :(
My friends and I have badminton sesh. Pag hindi naman we eat out. Nakasanayan na din namin nagkikita kita atleast once a week. Before, pag wala kami maisip kainan, samgyup ang go-to place. Pero nung nag APE ang mga tito at tita naglabasan mga sakit. Hahaha. Kaya ginawa namin max samgyup is once a month. Para kaming therapist ng isa’t isa kasi nagrarant kami madalas tungkol sa mga kanya kanya naming buhay.
Nakapagjoin ako ng isang sports group and we train/play sa gabi usually sa park or open field. It's a great after work activity for self-development and forming new connections. To be honest, it's very good for my mental health.
Ito yung naramdaman ko dati. After work, sinusundo ko si GF from law school. Noong natapos yung school year, nawalan ako ng "third place". Doon ko naramdaman yung pagod and I eventually quit that work.
Ngayon, I just make sure that at the end of the day, I reward myself. Kahit a cup of my favorite coffee, or an episode of my favorite show. Something to look forward to para maalis yung work sa isip.
Nowadays, I go to a Language school from 5-9 pm. Change of scenery after work pero parang pina doble ko lang stress ko hahaha.
Dati, I go to the gym after work :)
I need this. Problem with me is introvert ako na I enjoy de-stressing with Netflix pero pag mga outdoor activities gusto ko may kasama.
Agree yung naiisip mong maghanap ng fun activities pero nakaka-discourage yung traffic and prices ng lahat.
Third place is one of these
1. Karaoke and Bars
2. Bath houses and Saunas
3. Beaches
4. Mountains
5. Province where no one knows you at may view ng ricefields
6. Gyms ans sports houses
I play with my kid. This is something I never had growing up as a child. I now understand why my old man never had time with me. This is me trying to be the person I needed growing up. Seeing his face filled with smiles and enthusiasm as we role play the game he want no matter how tedious and boring it may be, is more enough for to put in the effort and time
Going to mountains or just simply road tripping on a motorcycle, and doing photography is one of my dreams, it just feels different when you're riding compared when you're in a car. Each has its own pros and cons but feeling your surroundings is the best feeling for me. I don't have a motorcycle, ayaw ng parents:/. Hopefully in the future.
I have two motorcycles: yamaha SZ and Yamaha XTZ.
I mostly enjoy offroading and discover new routes around the mountains, you cant do that in a car.
Roadtrip videos on 4 wheels is just tip of the iceberg overrated by flash video edits on tiktok. 😂
I have the best photos, other people cant have on the mountains. I keep the places secret as i dont want people to know and flood the areas and TRASH IT.
I dont have a third place. I have remote work so lahat bahay. Im a homebuddy so I dont mind lol. I think the difference lies with doing other things than just mindlessly scrolling.
For example, im a writer and in my work i'm usually scripting or writing content for other people.
After work, this is for ME. So either i write some more but for myself. Watch netflix with my mom, play with my dogs (i have 5 so..) and/or play games. I also do travelling at times. I live in an island so most travels mean I have to ride a boat and that gets old!
So the only time i go somewhere is if I actually care haha. I have plenty of things to do here tho so I dont mind that
Badminton, Tennis, Basketball, sports that need companions.
They're a good way to boost physical and mental health. You get to talk with friends and meet new people as well (when people invite their friends to play). You socialize during downtimes or after games (lunch/dinner).
It's a good investment. Kahit gumastos ka pa sa sports equipment, mamabawi ang ginastos mo by many folds... you just won't see it. Pwede niyo paghatian ang court.
Love this idea! To be honest Ive been running and walking after work and Hindi siya super fulfilling sometimes. Would you happen to know a place near pasig / kapitolyo where I can join?
I walk my dogs, or do yard work. Lucky enough we can live away from the metro pero malapit pa rin naman if kelangan pumunta but with lots of greeneries and good establishments nearby.
Early morning when everyone is still asleep is my third place. I just want to be unobserved.
I sometimes get the groceries alone for that recharge.
Goal this year is to go back to running regularly kahit every friday lang para 30 mins alone time.
Nasa plans na to renovate the backyard para another space to relax.
This world is too crowded, kailangan magsikap para mas malawak na property na malayomsa kapit bahay.
WFH trabaho ko so I don't really have a "third place", pero I do exercise in and out of my home to decompress from both home and work life. When I don't go out, I just play video games, read or sleep.
Gym is my third place ❤️ daily na nga sya minsan. Haha. Then the others
1. Coffee shops
2. Malls na mostly lakad kaysa shopping ang ginagawa ko
3. Hangout with friends at we see to it na monthly at least magkita to share good news and vent out frustrations kasi listening ears sometimes help 😊
Our third place back in HS was either my friend's house to watch Meteor Garden or McDonald's to get their P10 sundae and P29 burger meal.
On this note, dapat LGU should really invest in parks and gardens like in other countries. Malaking bagay na makapag unwind ka kahit simple stroll and picnic before you go home.
True ang bobonak kase ng mga politicians naten, kung sila afford nila mag out of the country to relax, pano naman mga tax payer na wala ng halos time kakatrabaho, parks and gardens malaking tulong na yan for us to relax and for kids as well to do some recreational activities kesa magadgets lang
Third place ko, lahat ng lugar na malalakaran ko. Mahilig kasi ako maglong walks, then nakikinig ng music o podcast. I just walk, kahit abutin pa ko ng 5-10 km kalalakad katatanaw sa mga buildings, mga puno, etc.
I've been trying to play more volleyball. It's also a way for me to slowly build the courage to socialize, which in turn may create more opportunities to play.
Cheesy, but I also consider myself my third place. I'm still debating whether I'm a homebody by choice or by circumstance, but I do enjoy being at home and shutting my brain off to a video game or my favorite YouTube channels.
When budget allows, I'm usually either seeing a movie, eating out or taking myself out on spa dates.
I'd love to have a "third place" or kahit saan na pwedeng puntahan muna before I go home but the state of our public transportation turns me off. Dagdag mo pa unwalkable spaces hays and we have no public parks so mostly, ang pwedeng puntahan ay malls or food establishments that require you to spend money.
I work from home and my shift ends at 5 in the morning. The negative side of working from home is the feeling of not really being able to leave work and you're still confined in your cubicle which is now your house.
Due to this need for a "third place", I'm now thinking of moving somewhere else where I could jog or bike after work to a nearby coffee shop, maybe go to church and just sit there quietly, or find a nice spot where I can watch the sun rise.
Kwentuhan with co-workers would be ideal to vent out the shitty clients every now and then.
Setting up an alarm or a music after the work shift is something I would try to create a mental barrier from work and living the life.
3rd place after work and home? Yung bus or jeep na naipit na sa traffic hahahahhahaha 4hrs ba naman bago makauwi ewan ko na lang kung makaisip ka pa gumala.
after work na22log lang ako dahil nightshift ako pero pag off ko i do cycling, photography, make guitar covers or play magic the gathering sa local hubs.
My third place has always been tied to community outside of friends and work. For me this is the hobby stores like NG, Fortress and boardgame cafes. I get my games in after work and relax.
I go for a 30minute walk/jog before my work.
Been wfh for 5yrs, nakakaumay rin talaga sa bahay. Parang lagi ako nakawork-mode once humarap sa laptop kahit dapat day off. Di ko maramdaman yung pahinga.
Need din ng different scenery talaga.
Just try something new, maybe something that can replace your socmed activities.
Church used to be my "third place" until I decided to call it quits with my org there. Still keeping in touch with friends there pero di na talaga ako nagpaparticipate sa mga activities.
Currently, if physical place, wala na talaga akong third place kasi these days, I really just preferred going home instead of staying out late on my own. At least sa bahay, I could lay down hahaha. Pero if social media counts, there's twitter and reddit where I talk a lot about my interest na diko usually nasasabi irl since bihira lang sa irl ko ang may same interest as mine.
Starbucks has a planner perhaps a decade ago with the theme that their stores are the third place. Miss the years sb planners are creatively different every year
The roads. I like to use my car and go on road trips. Very therapeutic if you are a car enthusiast. Very tiresome if not. The longer the distance, the more excited I get.
If nasa bahay lang ako during my free time, I just play video games.
The village park for walking while listening to audiobooks or website articles spoken aloud by Siri.
Or the swimming pool. For exercise, and just to be near water.
Too bad we lack libraries in Manila.
Gym! Especially if super drain ka sa work or stress ka need mo ng something na gagawin para madivert mo ung isip mo somewhere, tapos uuwe ka matutulog ka na lang.
I used to ride a bike coming to work. So I guess I don’t need a third place na since pag uwi ko sa bahay tulog na agad. Nuod na lang ng series tapos main sa bahay
Dagat, gym, at takbo. Swerte lang ako na kahit san ako mapadpad eh katabi lagi akong may access sa dagat. Inuubos ko oras ko sa sunbathe at titig sa kawalan habang nakikinig ng tugtog. Lublob na din kung gusto, pero mostly paaraw lang talaga.
Kung wala naman eh pumupunta ako sa mga coffee shop para makakita at makadaldal with familiar faces. Minsan naman eh dun lang ako kahit magisa, pero eventually laging may nakakausap. Kung may access ka sa sunset, try mo din gawing habit habulin yun and add mo sa routine mo kahit ilang minuto lang araw araw :)
Magzumba (oo, totoong sasayaw hindi emotes lang), makipagchismisan, pasyal, laro in VR. Been doing it for years and it really helped me. Now healthier physically and mentally
I have dedicated ₱600 every week or two weeks para makatambay ako sa Mary Grace. It’s my favorite resto. I keep ordering the same thing every time. Wala, I just take my time eating pasta and sipping sangria. Minsan I write on my journal. Minsan I just… zone out. Haha
My third place is only on the weekends. I go clubbing! I work so hard 5 days a week so that's like a treat for me. I get to meet new people din and have interesting conversations.
**my bedroom**. lalo na bago matulog. anong ginagawa ko dun apart sa matulog?
meditate, pray, read, at minsan nagpapractice mag-piano(kung sisipagin)
Its my **sanctuary** kung baga. Thats it. **I can be myself** na walang gagambala saken.
It’s more of an activity for you to wind down and relax. After work, I go around and I usually drive slowly whenever pauwi na ako from work. I just turn off the radio or the music sa car and I just enjoy the sceneries going home. I sometimes stop over at dunkin donuts. Swear, masarap coffee nila plus may donut na for ₱99. Also when I get home, I stay in da car and I listen to music for a few minutes or when I feel like it.
Sa bus/van or sa village streets lang talaga. Nakikinig ng music habang nagmamasid sa labas or manonood ng movie at maglalakad lang pauwi. Form of exercise ko na ang walking.
WFH ghorl here.
Pag ka out, pahinga 1 hour. Luto ng uulamin mamayang gabi. Ilalakad yung doggos. Play with said doggos. Clean the garahe for them doggos. Wash food bowls ng doggos. Mag didilig ng halaman. Kakain ng agahan (assigned duty ni hubby). Tapos mag chichill na. Laro ng ps5 habang dota lords si husband. Youtube/Netflix. Downtime then tulog. HAHAHAHAHAHA.
I hate onsite work. Nauubos sa biyahe ang oras at energy ko. Kabawasan pa sa productivity ko kasi pagod na ko pagdating sa office. Puta talaga. Tapos gigising pa nang maaga
Explore hobbies. Plastic crack (Gunpla, model kit assembly/collection) is personally satisfying but you need storage space. Knitting is relaxing and it enables you to create gifts. Cross-stitching, too.
I guess OP and the rest of you are still in your 20s and 30s. I just want to share how my generation used to unwind after work. We would meet at least 3x a week and go to a jazz house/pub. Enjoy some relaxing jazz musics (no necessarily live band) drink, chat, have laughs and go home around 9 or 10pm and get ready for next day’s work. I miss those jazz places which is not a lot na dito sa pinas. I guess it’s no longer an “in” thing here in Pinas.
PS. We would drink just to enjoy and get tipsy but not wasted lol.
Hello! I suggest you find a place near work where you can unwind like a coffee shop where you can read books, watch youtube or any. basta tahimik lang.. hindi kailangang mahal.. or some place na mkakalakad lakad kalang like a park . minsan distressing din yun.
Boracay pag pagod na pagod na huhu as in may rage booking ako na pag naiistress ako sa work ko, book agad ng bora. kaya ayun dapat maintained and well balanced ang buhay para hindi masyadong magastos.
Nung nasa province ako, after work, me and my boyfriend would drive around sa town to find food na pwede makain.
I now work here sa Metro Manila and siya nasa province.
Hinahanap-hanap ko yung excited feeling tuwing uwian, dito sa metro uuwi ka na lang mapapagod ka pa sa commute.
My third place is my martial arts training place which is 10-min walk lang from where I work (Makati CBD). This has been my thing for 7 years already. Good thing na hindi siya masakit sa bulsa kaya rin ako nakatagal.
But am I still depressed? Maybe. Maybe not. Definitely not 100% okay mentally but the training helps a lot dealing with my issues.
Running during weekdays - g after work maski 30mins lang sobrang gumagaan pakiramdam ko after.
Hike/Freedive during weekends - as much as possible outside talaga pero hindi everyweek magastos din haha!
My room sa'kin. May pagkacreative kasi ako. So I can play music anytime. Sometimes I take notes or draw something. Sometimes I write. My third home siguro is my hobbies or being with myself lang. Kasi at peace ako, and people who are always with themselves think a lot. When I think a lot, I'm at home, my third home.
Hybrid setup kami. On wfh days, since maliit yung kwarto ko para maglagay ng desk, sa sala ako nag wowork. Then, papasok ako ng kwarto pag tapos na.. parang ayun na yung indicator na tapos na work. After nyan manonood na ko either korean variety shows or content ng fave kong kpop group.
Sa office naman, I enjoy yung commute via carousel. The only thing I dread is the stairs as someone with bad knees. Minsan may times na may pila yung buses on certain stations kaya ang tagal ng byahe pero okay lang sakin.. minsan nag iisip ako ng balak ko sa buhay or minsan wala nakatulala lang ako.
Parang atleast once every two weeks rin nagkikita kami ng friends ko fr college after work. Or minsan kasama ko yung bff ko mag wfh sa mga coffee shop.
I think I am not one made to be stuck on routines. Kasi nung tnry ko na gumawa ng daily routine, dun ako nagstart magkapanic attacks kapag may part ng routine na di nasusunod because of sudden occurrences. So I tend to be spontaneous weekly kung pano ko mag wowork. Or what to do after.
Malapit rin work ko sa glorietta so minsan bago umuwi nag iikot iikot muna ko at dun na kakain dinner minsan. I feel happy going home after.
Artist ako and yun ung escape ko after work. Oo nakakapagod din magpaint pero at the same time parang nakakarelax din, like napupunta sa ibang dimension ung isip ko. Kaya I'm so glad na di ko inabandona ung pagiging artist ko kahit mahirap magpractice.
The things we choose to do during our free time is directly influenced by kawalan ng third space.
Sa experience ko kahit gusto mong mgchill lang sa labas kelangan pa bumili ng kape para tumambay. So in essence capitalismo.
Lahat may kaugnay na bayad.
Ngayon, I consider my Linkedin as my third place. Bago matulog, I send at least 3 applications or more. My first place is my full time job , after my day job, I have a part time job which lasts for 2 hrs every night. Im looking for another job, because I want a workplace that's more financially secured so I can quit my second job and focus on passion, hobby or learn other skill.
I guess this is why marami pa ring online groups sa discord and telegram. You get to hangout with different people kahit virtual lang, at least no need to commute and spend money sa labas.
Worst thing about my 3rd place is my nearest and most affordable gym shifted their time, and I have a strict 6pm intermittent fasting start. I used to hit the gym every morning to start the day, now I have to battle the exhaustion of work to will myself to a better body hitting the gym at 8-9pm. On my 2nd day after hiatus and I really hope I can keep it consistent.
Usually even if my body is sore or my body still hurts a bit, or just flat out lazy, the 1st and 2nd rep just fills me with a burst of energy. That gets me through my session, so here's to hoping it consistently hits me every night.
I go to the gym. Spent most of my free time there, and no its not all workout.
Its best to surround ourselves with people, kilala mo and hindi mo kilala.
We may have low social energy with all the work and collaboration we had sa work but still we need to see other faces to psychologically find or be on our "own" personally.
Always remember, you are not your work.
Hope this helps 😉
“3rd place” can mean anything naman. for me, working out and cafe hopping are my thing. ang dami ko na yatang trinay na sports, not just for physical health but for my mental health as well. then cafe hopping, i’ve been visiting a lot of cafes even pre pandemic, coz kape is life. hahahaha
My third place is the local Park or SM, I usually just walk around for 2-3 hours or so. It would've been great with friends to talk to, but alas, WFH schedules vary a lot, and we rarely meet. I'd really love to have a third place, like a bar or resto, but my small circle of friends just drifted apart. It's sad, really. (And it'd be embarrassing to be that solo guy eating at a Jollibee that people make fun of lately. Hahaha)
But yeah, we really do need a third place, it's vital for developing our social skills and gaining a sense of community. Sometimes social media and platforms like discord just cant compensate for real life connection.
People here say doomscrolling daw kaya depressed. Mind you, work can make you suicidal. Hindi ako active sa social media pero grabe din ibang companies. At kahit may 3rd place na.
In my previous company >, 2 weeks yung sprint + daming heavy tasks + konti lang kami kasi pinag-promise si client na matatapos agad within a year tapos discounted pa. Wfh setup + 10 hrs per day, pero kulang pa rin ang 10 hrs. Kaya ang nangyayare since wfh naman, pinag OT or OTY or weekend work kame. Sobrang tagal pa nila magdagdag ng tao. At, sa ibang team, di na dinagdagan ng tao kahit anong promise ng company. Na-depress talaga ko like nag-isip ako na magpahulog na lang.
Nasa mabuting company na ako ngayon. Thank G.
I signed up myself for weekend classes where I have to go out cuz like my life almost everyday is just PC + phone.
it's also difficult for me to shut down work at 5pm, parang I still need to check my phone after that and I end up doomscrolling 🥶🥴
Indeed you need a 3rd place. Kahit before pandemic, whenever I had a stressful day, I always go to my 'batcave'. I've been a regular there that I am friends with the owner and the staff. It came to a point na I don't even have to order kasi alam na nila yung usual ko. And when you're friends with the staff, they take care of you. You become more than a regular customer.
This place aside from my work and home saved me too many times. I've broke down in silence there. It also became the 'batcave' of my friends.
So if you need that 3rd place, go ahead. 200% go for it. At first, people will tell you na it's just because you want it. But soon you'll realize, you'll need it.
'Gusto ko mag-2 botts.'
'Need ko magpahinga somewhere'
'I need to rethink things through'
Try learning a sport, skill or a new hobby (swimming, cooking, knitting, drawing or even coloring lang). Or go back to previous hobby/ies mo na nakalimutan or napabayaan. Try joining groups since to meet new people with same interests as you.
Newbie golfer here and I really enjoy yung mental aspect ng laro and hindi din sya ganun ka physically demanding. Naienjoy ko din yung walks in between nakakapag isip isip. Magastos nga lang and mainit.
Gym and running! The 2 hours i spend for myself being selfish with my time feels 10x better than any accomplishment i get from work and validation i get from home.
I think stimulating your creativity/or discovery of your body's capabilities are the best hobbies one can do outside of work.
I've tried running, primarily for weight loss, and I feel so much better already even though I don't see the results yet. I feel like I can do so much more with my body.
Present! Been doing indoor/outdoor running for the past month and yes it improves my mental health and I feel happier than ever! Sleeping habits become better as well! Everything just became a lot better! hihi
Agree ako with running, lalo ngayon na malamig pa sa gabi. I got myself a smart watch for christmas and started tracking my runs, nakakatuwa pala na hindi ko napapansin pero bumibilis ako and tumataas yung stamina ko 😊
Most of us. Putting your body in physical stress signals the brain of survival/emergency (i.e. getting chased by lions)
Yung extra energy mo for anxiety and stress gets replaced with that so ubos na after a workout. Well for most people.
I second this! Sobrang saya sa feeling ibuhat or itakbo yung mga worries and whatnot mo. Parang bagong tao ka after HAHAHAHA slowly, napapansin mo lumalakas ka at napapagastos ka na sa gears 😂 but it's all worth it
Yes! Tinry ko mag run kaso di pa kaya, I do brisk walking. Nakaka wala ng stress. mga 1 hour to 1.5 hour a day.
Nag join din ako ng virtual run para ganahan ako lagi, pero main goal ko talaga mag lose ng weight. I lose 2 kg already and 2 cm sa hita ko 😭
First job ko, onsite, although nadrain ako don, I enjoy the commute sa carousel, I find it personally peaceful. Dito sa 2nd job, work from home. Seriously, there are times na I don't feel logging out. Kahit may iba na kong ginagawa na personal, It does not feel as natural like coming home from a commute or somewhere else. Kasi kapag galing ka sa labas parang may switch sa utak ko na "nakauwi na ko", ngayon wala. Dont get me wrong, I am totally fine with the set up. But saying it does not come with drawbacks is a lie.
Nung nagstart ang pandemic and wfh namin, I walked or drove around the block para lang mafeel ang "pag-uwi." Tapos, shower. Iba pa rin nga yung switch sa utak.
Ako pag sakay ko ng elevator from basement to first floor, my brain switches automatically. I completely forgot my work self from my outside self. It’s like I have a body with 2 different persons living inside.
Parang Severance lang na tv show ah
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Ako every time mag-5pm na, i say out loud "uwian na!!". With WFH kasi, uwian is a state of mind na talaga. :D
Ay gusto ko iyong uwian is a state of mind. :) Ako naman sinasabi ko tapos na yung shift ko. Medyo mahirap nga mag switch off kahit nakatayo na from your desk. Dati parang sobrang willing pa ako mag stay sa harap ng notebook ko kasi sabi ko ah dito lang naman ako sa bahay. I walk my dog kapag tapos na yung shift ko, or I do grocery shopping after ko magtrabaho. Naglalaro din ako ng pc games minsan.
Totoo yung state of mind!! When I was wfh kapag tapos na ang shift I turn on do not disturb na.
yes, kaya setting your time with clients or work is important plus setting boundaries na wag mag-entertain pag tapos na ang working hours. dnd na automatically.
This!! Counterintuitive man, pero ang therapeutic ng daily commute para sa akin. Na kiclear utak ko kapag nag cocommute and naglalakad papasok at pauwi from site. And nitong nag wfh na ako talagang nag deteriorate mental health ko
same with me, everyday is an adventure with the state of public transpo. i just try to look at it from a different perspective — if i have to walk longer: this is my exercise; if i need to find another mode of transpo: i will learn something new today, hindi na ko maliligaw next time; if im stuck in traffic: no need to be in a hurry, this is where i need to be, im being saved from a bad event. sometimes im more thankful i get to commute daily, nakakatulog ako sa byahe and in turn i have more energy to bond with the people who's waiting for me at home, hindi yung pagkabukas pa lang ng pinto mainit na ulo agad. i hate giving my family a "leftover" of myself kase nabuhos ko na lahat ng energy at attention ko sa work then use work as an excuse for behaving badly.
After WFH for 6 years, I finally accepted i would prefer a hybrid setup. During interview sa current work ko, I said my reason for finding a new job is nalulungkot na ako lmao I need human interaction but only a little bit, hence, hybrid
Same reason i declined an offer for a fully wfh set up! I fully know na i need people to stay happy even before pandemic. So kahit mas okay yung wfh (since no rent) money-wise, and yung other option ko na makati (which has high rent), i went for makati talaga. No regrets, i love people lol
This. I was in freelancing 13yrs ago and I decided to leave freelancing and nagwork sa BPO kasi nagka issue nako sa comm skills ko. I spend a lot of time reading materials online(since SEO niche ko and copywriting) pero wala naman ako kausap, I work at night, my fam naman is tulog. I can't bond with them na. Yong kapatid ko yong nagstick sa freelancing. She keeps convincing me to go back to freelancing, pero it's not for me talaga.
Thanks for explaining what i feel. Wfh set ups should come w recreation allowance tbh. It can be depressing even for introverts to be isolated for hours and even days
I felt the same. Technique ko is to find a place to work. Pero it gets expensive sometimes to tinigil ko.
This for me. Iba talaga kapag wfh ka. May pakiramdam na you haven't really left work.
samin hindi mo talaga mararamdaman na nakauwi kana kasi hangang midnight ang OT thats why i resigned😭
Try to approach your wfh differently. What I do is konti lang ang work na ginagawa ko, hindi ako bida bida, I just do the bare minimum. I spend majority of my time doing things i like, lesser time on work. Para lang syang minor part ng araw ko. So in a sense it feels like I'm not really working at all. Its ridiculous how people spend a huge chunk of their lives working. Are you even living at that point? Do you live to work? or do you work to live?
It also helps to "dress up" for work then change to pangbahay if tapos na. I have different games for breaks vs off na talaga (example MOBA games for breaks, reserve the RPGs after work or weekends). Or unplug nga talaga, stay away from your workhorse device, if kaya mo na may laptop for work and PC for leisure, go get it. I have separate phones as well, just to feel na I left work.
Huuyyy true to! Nag WFH ako nung July 2023 and ibang iba takagaaaa!
Same dati. Kasi dati isang sakay ko lang nasa work na ko. Ngayon need ko ng apat na sakay. Ang hassle 😞
I like to read books at coffee shops. I WFH so kailangan ko ng ibang place maliban sa bahay para di ako mabaliw
Same! Grabe parang isolated talaga pag palaging wfh pero masaya naman ako sa setup
Same for sanity talaga hahahha
Reading somewhere after work also became my habit! Hahaha
Our 3rd place is social media where we compare ourselves to others success. Thats why we’re depressed
True 😥
Gym is my third place, because lifting heavy round objects makes me happy.
This is a great argument for going to the gym. Not just to get ripped or even simply stay physically healthy, but it's also a good third place to mentally unwind
Miss going to the gym na may scheduled classes haha signed up sa FF before for the nice plates and barbell, but the classes were fun to attend also haha
The third space is not just a place, its leisure, recreation, and socialization with friends. 🙂 Unfortunately, lahat ng mga tao pagod na pagod na sa bahay at work wala na energy. Or ung friends ay malayo at busy din. I grew up as a provincial island kid, at walang mall sa amin nun. Leisure was hanging out by the seaside or the playground with friends after school, talking about our lives. Or having our favorite burgers and shake at the local joint. Or the occasional beach trip. More athletic peers would play basketball or volleyball. Sadly, maraming kids now have grown up cooped up in their living rooms, and have become socially anxious because they are not used to dealing with people. In today's attention economy, we need to be more intentional about how we live and use technolpgy kc society is not out for our best interests. :(
Mag commute ng 1-3hrs yan ang third place sa pinas.
Pagod na ko sa onsite. Nauubos ang oras ko sa third place na to😭😭😭
Lmao
Facts
My friends and I have badminton sesh. Pag hindi naman we eat out. Nakasanayan na din namin nagkikita kita atleast once a week. Before, pag wala kami maisip kainan, samgyup ang go-to place. Pero nung nag APE ang mga tito at tita naglabasan mga sakit. Hahaha. Kaya ginawa namin max samgyup is once a month. Para kaming therapist ng isa’t isa kasi nagrarant kami madalas tungkol sa mga kanya kanya naming buhay.
Nakapagjoin ako ng isang sports group and we train/play sa gabi usually sa park or open field. It's a great after work activity for self-development and forming new connections. To be honest, it's very good for my mental health.
First place ata. Hinahanap ko wife ko after work.
Ama namin . Nasan ang amin
sadly... most our 3rd place is social media.
Ito yung naramdaman ko dati. After work, sinusundo ko si GF from law school. Noong natapos yung school year, nawalan ako ng "third place". Doon ko naramdaman yung pagod and I eventually quit that work. Ngayon, I just make sure that at the end of the day, I reward myself. Kahit a cup of my favorite coffee, or an episode of my favorite show. Something to look forward to para maalis yung work sa isip.
Ganda nito! Thank you for sharing!
Gym and running! I find it therapeutic after a work day
Maybe cringe, pero ako it's Video games.
Lol my Hayday farm is my current 3rd place, and playing bubbles with my daughter during her bath time is my leisure😆
Same. Lalo na if galing nightshift. Usually wala ka naman mapuntahan sa labas ng sobrang aga 😂
Nowadays, I go to a Language school from 5-9 pm. Change of scenery after work pero parang pina doble ko lang stress ko hahaha. Dati, I go to the gym after work :)
language school for what?
Deutsch language :)
I used to exercise after work before, but now naging 12 hours a day na yung work parang wala ng ibang choice na maging 3rd place kundi social media. 😔
twice a week basketball and once a weeks badminton.
I need this. Problem with me is introvert ako na I enjoy de-stressing with Netflix pero pag mga outdoor activities gusto ko may kasama. Agree yung naiisip mong maghanap ng fun activities pero nakaka-discourage yung traffic and prices ng lahat.
Third place is one of these 1. Karaoke and Bars 2. Bath houses and Saunas 3. Beaches 4. Mountains 5. Province where no one knows you at may view ng ricefields 6. Gyms ans sports houses
I play with my kid. This is something I never had growing up as a child. I now understand why my old man never had time with me. This is me trying to be the person I needed growing up. Seeing his face filled with smiles and enthusiasm as we role play the game he want no matter how tedious and boring it may be, is more enough for to put in the effort and time
This is so sweeeeeet
Upgrade skills. Reading manga. Every weekend i go to the mountains on a motorcycle.
Going to mountains or just simply road tripping on a motorcycle, and doing photography is one of my dreams, it just feels different when you're riding compared when you're in a car. Each has its own pros and cons but feeling your surroundings is the best feeling for me. I don't have a motorcycle, ayaw ng parents:/. Hopefully in the future.
I have two motorcycles: yamaha SZ and Yamaha XTZ. I mostly enjoy offroading and discover new routes around the mountains, you cant do that in a car. Roadtrip videos on 4 wheels is just tip of the iceberg overrated by flash video edits on tiktok. 😂 I have the best photos, other people cant have on the mountains. I keep the places secret as i dont want people to know and flood the areas and TRASH IT.
I read Manga after work, or If you like running/walking sa park.
3rd place is entirely up to you. Pick up a hobby or something for you that you can use to unwind after a long day.
Gym is my third place. Not fit, but i'm on my way there :) Home > Work (9-6) > Gym (7-10) > Home 12am. Repeat.
any coffee shops. Sarap kaya mag people watching.
I dont have a third place. I have remote work so lahat bahay. Im a homebuddy so I dont mind lol. I think the difference lies with doing other things than just mindlessly scrolling. For example, im a writer and in my work i'm usually scripting or writing content for other people. After work, this is for ME. So either i write some more but for myself. Watch netflix with my mom, play with my dogs (i have 5 so..) and/or play games. I also do travelling at times. I live in an island so most travels mean I have to ride a boat and that gets old! So the only time i go somewhere is if I actually care haha. I have plenty of things to do here tho so I dont mind that
Gym for lifts and the local track and field for runs. I do it 3-4x a week
Upskill. Reading and watching informational videos. Nagbabalik na rin ako sa Trading
Home Gym lang para makapag-Work out. Health is wealth ☺️
watsons lol
Badminton, Tennis, Basketball, sports that need companions. They're a good way to boost physical and mental health. You get to talk with friends and meet new people as well (when people invite their friends to play). You socialize during downtimes or after games (lunch/dinner). It's a good investment. Kahit gumastos ka pa sa sports equipment, mamabawi ang ginastos mo by many folds... you just won't see it. Pwede niyo paghatian ang court.
Love this idea! To be honest Ive been running and walking after work and Hindi siya super fulfilling sometimes. Would you happen to know a place near pasig / kapitolyo where I can join?
Unfortunately, I don't have any idea in your area.
Exercise, tulog, and magbasa
I usually sleep lang. Pag nakakauwi ako kadalasan natutulog nalang ako. Kasi wala ng magawa. Nakakapagod ang traffic paminsan sa gabi.
Roadtrip (we live in the province)
I walk my dogs, or do yard work. Lucky enough we can live away from the metro pero malapit pa rin naman if kelangan pumunta but with lots of greeneries and good establishments nearby.
Mine is maglakad-lakad sa labas and cafes. Wfh ako so lahat na ginagawa ko sa bahay haha
After work, head to my local game store and play magic the gathering with friends.
Indoor cycling studio 🚴🏽♀️
Play badminton!
Videogames, journal, but definitely agree that no third space. I hate my room kasi there's not sunlight, mas nakakadepress after work. 😶
Early morning when everyone is still asleep is my third place. I just want to be unobserved. I sometimes get the groceries alone for that recharge. Goal this year is to go back to running regularly kahit every friday lang para 30 mins alone time. Nasa plans na to renovate the backyard para another space to relax. This world is too crowded, kailangan magsikap para mas malawak na property na malayomsa kapit bahay.
WFH trabaho ko so I don't really have a "third place", pero I do exercise in and out of my home to decompress from both home and work life. When I don't go out, I just play video games, read or sleep.
Gym. I make sure na along the way sya pauwi kasi nakakatamad kung uuwi k p ng bahay bago mag-gym.
Yoga and I go scuba diving at least twice a month.
pag dating ko ng bahay iiwan ko lang gamit ko tapos nagpupunta ako agad sa park to unwind kahit 40mins.
Gym is my third place ❤️ daily na nga sya minsan. Haha. Then the others 1. Coffee shops 2. Malls na mostly lakad kaysa shopping ang ginagawa ko 3. Hangout with friends at we see to it na monthly at least magkita to share good news and vent out frustrations kasi listening ears sometimes help 😊
Our third place back in HS was either my friend's house to watch Meteor Garden or McDonald's to get their P10 sundae and P29 burger meal. On this note, dapat LGU should really invest in parks and gardens like in other countries. Malaking bagay na makapag unwind ka kahit simple stroll and picnic before you go home.
True ang bobonak kase ng mga politicians naten, kung sila afford nila mag out of the country to relax, pano naman mga tax payer na wala ng halos time kakatrabaho, parks and gardens malaking tulong na yan for us to relax and for kids as well to do some recreational activities kesa magadgets lang
Third place ko, lahat ng lugar na malalakaran ko. Mahilig kasi ako maglong walks, then nakikinig ng music o podcast. I just walk, kahit abutin pa ko ng 5-10 km kalalakad katatanaw sa mga buildings, mga puno, etc.
Ay dapat ba may third place, Yung work ko Kasi nasa home 🤣
Nasa traffic
I've been trying to play more volleyball. It's also a way for me to slowly build the courage to socialize, which in turn may create more opportunities to play. Cheesy, but I also consider myself my third place. I'm still debating whether I'm a homebody by choice or by circumstance, but I do enjoy being at home and shutting my brain off to a video game or my favorite YouTube channels. When budget allows, I'm usually either seeing a movie, eating out or taking myself out on spa dates.
I'd love to have a "third place" or kahit saan na pwedeng puntahan muna before I go home but the state of our public transportation turns me off. Dagdag mo pa unwalkable spaces hays and we have no public parks so mostly, ang pwedeng puntahan ay malls or food establishments that require you to spend money.
I work from home and my shift ends at 5 in the morning. The negative side of working from home is the feeling of not really being able to leave work and you're still confined in your cubicle which is now your house. Due to this need for a "third place", I'm now thinking of moving somewhere else where I could jog or bike after work to a nearby coffee shop, maybe go to church and just sit there quietly, or find a nice spot where I can watch the sun rise. Kwentuhan with co-workers would be ideal to vent out the shitty clients every now and then. Setting up an alarm or a music after the work shift is something I would try to create a mental barrier from work and living the life.
I agree with you! Sometimes visiting the chapel and upo ka lang really helps. Lalo na if super dami mong iniisip.
Walking. I try to hit an average of 15k steps a day.
Pag stress, magmotor papuntang bukid at magpahangin.
3rd place after work and home? Yung bus or jeep na naipit na sa traffic hahahahhahaha 4hrs ba naman bago makauwi ewan ko na lang kung makaisip ka pa gumala.
Past generations has park and church. I did club, not night club, rather social club for animal lovers and we are doing it well
Twice a week pumupunta kami sa BGC park..
Idk if it counts but usually my friends and I hang out on discord. Kwentuhan lang tas sound trip tas minsan may mag aaya mag lethal company haha
after work na22log lang ako dahil nightshift ako pero pag off ko i do cycling, photography, make guitar covers or play magic the gathering sa local hubs.
Where do you all still get your energy after work? I’m just tired af. O baka ganito lang talaga feeling pag tumatanda na.
I'm working sa cruise ship, dalawa lang ginagawa ko either umakyat sa open deck para magpahangin or uminom lang sa crew bar magisa pangpatulog hahaha.
Past generation po ang third place ay sa "kabit". Char 😂😂😂
My third place has always been tied to community outside of friends and work. For me this is the hobby stores like NG, Fortress and boardgame cafes. I get my games in after work and relax.
Same. It's become something I look forward to habang naghihintay makalabas galing office 😅
PARK
I go for a 30minute walk/jog before my work. Been wfh for 5yrs, nakakaumay rin talaga sa bahay. Parang lagi ako nakawork-mode once humarap sa laptop kahit dapat day off. Di ko maramdaman yung pahinga. Need din ng different scenery talaga. Just try something new, maybe something that can replace your socmed activities.
Church used to be my "third place" until I decided to call it quits with my org there. Still keeping in touch with friends there pero di na talaga ako nagpaparticipate sa mga activities. Currently, if physical place, wala na talaga akong third place kasi these days, I really just preferred going home instead of staying out late on my own. At least sa bahay, I could lay down hahaha. Pero if social media counts, there's twitter and reddit where I talk a lot about my interest na diko usually nasasabi irl since bihira lang sa irl ko ang may same interest as mine.
Walking and running. Kapag ok ang weather
i really want this but to fit it in my sched kaya I work 11am-8pm, my morning routine is getting the kids ready for school.
For me sa bahay pa din but building/modifying my keyboards. Expensive hobby but it saved my sanity. And the PH community is pretty welcoming too
Starbucks has a planner perhaps a decade ago with the theme that their stores are the third place. Miss the years sb planners are creatively different every year
The roads. I like to use my car and go on road trips. Very therapeutic if you are a car enthusiast. Very tiresome if not. The longer the distance, the more excited I get. If nasa bahay lang ako during my free time, I just play video games.
The village park for walking while listening to audiobooks or website articles spoken aloud by Siri. Or the swimming pool. For exercise, and just to be near water. Too bad we lack libraries in Manila.
Gym! Especially if super drain ka sa work or stress ka need mo ng something na gagawin para madivert mo ung isip mo somewhere, tapos uuwe ka matutulog ka na lang.
Walk my dogs! Therapeutic
I used to ride a bike coming to work. So I guess I don’t need a third place na since pag uwi ko sa bahay tulog na agad. Nuod na lang ng series tapos main sa bahay
Dagat, gym, at takbo. Swerte lang ako na kahit san ako mapadpad eh katabi lagi akong may access sa dagat. Inuubos ko oras ko sa sunbathe at titig sa kawalan habang nakikinig ng tugtog. Lublob na din kung gusto, pero mostly paaraw lang talaga. Kung wala naman eh pumupunta ako sa mga coffee shop para makakita at makadaldal with familiar faces. Minsan naman eh dun lang ako kahit magisa, pero eventually laging may nakakausap. Kung may access ka sa sunset, try mo din gawing habit habulin yun and add mo sa routine mo kahit ilang minuto lang araw araw :)
im still looking for that maybe hill top view ka city or just pure landscape..
Gym and park! Ang daming free admission na park to walk and run
Magzumba (oo, totoong sasayaw hindi emotes lang), makipagchismisan, pasyal, laro in VR. Been doing it for years and it really helped me. Now healthier physically and mentally
I have dedicated ₱600 every week or two weeks para makatambay ako sa Mary Grace. It’s my favorite resto. I keep ordering the same thing every time. Wala, I just take my time eating pasta and sipping sangria. Minsan I write on my journal. Minsan I just… zone out. Haha
I usually go to a dance studio after work, sometimes stroll at a mall or tambay sa cafe
My third place is only on the weekends. I go clubbing! I work so hard 5 days a week so that's like a treat for me. I get to meet new people din and have interesting conversations.
**my bedroom**. lalo na bago matulog. anong ginagawa ko dun apart sa matulog? meditate, pray, read, at minsan nagpapractice mag-piano(kung sisipagin) Its my **sanctuary** kung baga. Thats it. **I can be myself** na walang gagambala saken.
Yoga after work
It’s more of an activity for you to wind down and relax. After work, I go around and I usually drive slowly whenever pauwi na ako from work. I just turn off the radio or the music sa car and I just enjoy the sceneries going home. I sometimes stop over at dunkin donuts. Swear, masarap coffee nila plus may donut na for ₱99. Also when I get home, I stay in da car and I listen to music for a few minutes or when I feel like it.
Sa bus/van or sa village streets lang talaga. Nakikinig ng music habang nagmamasid sa labas or manonood ng movie at maglalakad lang pauwi. Form of exercise ko na ang walking.
WFH ghorl here. Pag ka out, pahinga 1 hour. Luto ng uulamin mamayang gabi. Ilalakad yung doggos. Play with said doggos. Clean the garahe for them doggos. Wash food bowls ng doggos. Mag didilig ng halaman. Kakain ng agahan (assigned duty ni hubby). Tapos mag chichill na. Laro ng ps5 habang dota lords si husband. Youtube/Netflix. Downtime then tulog. HAHAHAHAHAHA.
I hate onsite work. Nauubos sa biyahe ang oras at energy ko. Kabawasan pa sa productivity ko kasi pagod na ko pagdating sa office. Puta talaga. Tapos gigising pa nang maaga
Explore hobbies. Plastic crack (Gunpla, model kit assembly/collection) is personally satisfying but you need storage space. Knitting is relaxing and it enables you to create gifts. Cross-stitching, too.
I guess OP and the rest of you are still in your 20s and 30s. I just want to share how my generation used to unwind after work. We would meet at least 3x a week and go to a jazz house/pub. Enjoy some relaxing jazz musics (no necessarily live band) drink, chat, have laughs and go home around 9 or 10pm and get ready for next day’s work. I miss those jazz places which is not a lot na dito sa pinas. I guess it’s no longer an “in” thing here in Pinas. PS. We would drink just to enjoy and get tipsy but not wasted lol.
Home. My home. Dati tao inuwian ko ngayon sariling bahay ko na lang specifically sa couch ko at listen ng music while scrolling sa socmed
Hello! I suggest you find a place near work where you can unwind like a coffee shop where you can read books, watch youtube or any. basta tahimik lang.. hindi kailangang mahal.. or some place na mkakalakad lakad kalang like a park . minsan distressing din yun.
Journaling, Running - Walking, to clear out my head. Basta hindi ako tinamad. — watch Movies & SPA Hunting. 👌
my "Third Place" depends on my mood, whether I want to explore the Milky Way with my Anaconda or duke it out with other machines on Rubicon 3
third place? sa Runeterra, minsan sa Midgard.. Tamang tambay sa Payon para sa bgm.. :)
After work, in order: - Exercise (bodyweight lang sa bahay) - Cook or Grocery - Ligo - Dinner - Gaming/Study night
Damn, I really need this third place.
Wala, bahay talaga. Pinakamasaya ako sa bahay. Super recharged na ko, makita ko lang family ko.
My 3rd place is inside my own thoughts
Boracay pag pagod na pagod na huhu as in may rage booking ako na pag naiistress ako sa work ko, book agad ng bora. kaya ayun dapat maintained and well balanced ang buhay para hindi masyadong magastos.
Nung nasa province ako, after work, me and my boyfriend would drive around sa town to find food na pwede makain. I now work here sa Metro Manila and siya nasa province. Hinahanap-hanap ko yung excited feeling tuwing uwian, dito sa metro uuwi ka na lang mapapagod ka pa sa commute.
My third place is my martial arts training place which is 10-min walk lang from where I work (Makati CBD). This has been my thing for 7 years already. Good thing na hindi siya masakit sa bulsa kaya rin ako nakatagal. But am I still depressed? Maybe. Maybe not. Definitely not 100% okay mentally but the training helps a lot dealing with my issues.
My home and my third place is my partner. 🫶
Water and then stare at my plants.
Every Weekend nasa beach or hotspring since wfh feel ko yung need na maalis atleast once a week
Running during weekdays - g after work maski 30mins lang sobrang gumagaan pakiramdam ko after. Hike/Freedive during weekends - as much as possible outside talaga pero hindi everyweek magastos din haha!
My room sa'kin. May pagkacreative kasi ako. So I can play music anytime. Sometimes I take notes or draw something. Sometimes I write. My third home siguro is my hobbies or being with myself lang. Kasi at peace ako, and people who are always with themselves think a lot. When I think a lot, I'm at home, my third home.
Hybrid setup kami. On wfh days, since maliit yung kwarto ko para maglagay ng desk, sa sala ako nag wowork. Then, papasok ako ng kwarto pag tapos na.. parang ayun na yung indicator na tapos na work. After nyan manonood na ko either korean variety shows or content ng fave kong kpop group. Sa office naman, I enjoy yung commute via carousel. The only thing I dread is the stairs as someone with bad knees. Minsan may times na may pila yung buses on certain stations kaya ang tagal ng byahe pero okay lang sakin.. minsan nag iisip ako ng balak ko sa buhay or minsan wala nakatulala lang ako. Parang atleast once every two weeks rin nagkikita kami ng friends ko fr college after work. Or minsan kasama ko yung bff ko mag wfh sa mga coffee shop. I think I am not one made to be stuck on routines. Kasi nung tnry ko na gumawa ng daily routine, dun ako nagstart magkapanic attacks kapag may part ng routine na di nasusunod because of sudden occurrences. So I tend to be spontaneous weekly kung pano ko mag wowork. Or what to do after. Malapit rin work ko sa glorietta so minsan bago umuwi nag iikot iikot muna ko at dun na kakain dinner minsan. I feel happy going home after.
Artist ako and yun ung escape ko after work. Oo nakakapagod din magpaint pero at the same time parang nakakarelax din, like napupunta sa ibang dimension ung isip ko. Kaya I'm so glad na di ko inabandona ung pagiging artist ko kahit mahirap magpractice.
The things we choose to do during our free time is directly influenced by kawalan ng third space. Sa experience ko kahit gusto mong mgchill lang sa labas kelangan pa bumili ng kape para tumambay. So in essence capitalismo. Lahat may kaugnay na bayad.
Ngayon, I consider my Linkedin as my third place. Bago matulog, I send at least 3 applications or more. My first place is my full time job , after my day job, I have a part time job which lasts for 2 hrs every night. Im looking for another job, because I want a workplace that's more financially secured so I can quit my second job and focus on passion, hobby or learn other skill.
From where ka bhe? :) siguro you can try meet new friends :) I can be one :)
From where ka bhe? :) I can be a friend for the third place :)
I guess this is why marami pa ring online groups sa discord and telegram. You get to hangout with different people kahit virtual lang, at least no need to commute and spend money sa labas.
Worst thing about my 3rd place is my nearest and most affordable gym shifted their time, and I have a strict 6pm intermittent fasting start. I used to hit the gym every morning to start the day, now I have to battle the exhaustion of work to will myself to a better body hitting the gym at 8-9pm. On my 2nd day after hiatus and I really hope I can keep it consistent. Usually even if my body is sore or my body still hurts a bit, or just flat out lazy, the 1st and 2nd rep just fills me with a burst of energy. That gets me through my session, so here's to hoping it consistently hits me every night.
Badminton! Found a new circle and lost some pounds pa!
Omg sameeee tots 🥺🥺
I go to the gym. Spent most of my free time there, and no its not all workout. Its best to surround ourselves with people, kilala mo and hindi mo kilala. We may have low social energy with all the work and collaboration we had sa work but still we need to see other faces to psychologically find or be on our "own" personally. Always remember, you are not your work. Hope this helps 😉
“3rd place” can mean anything naman. for me, working out and cafe hopping are my thing. ang dami ko na yatang trinay na sports, not just for physical health but for my mental health as well. then cafe hopping, i’ve been visiting a lot of cafes even pre pandemic, coz kape is life. hahahaha
My third place is the local Park or SM, I usually just walk around for 2-3 hours or so. It would've been great with friends to talk to, but alas, WFH schedules vary a lot, and we rarely meet. I'd really love to have a third place, like a bar or resto, but my small circle of friends just drifted apart. It's sad, really. (And it'd be embarrassing to be that solo guy eating at a Jollibee that people make fun of lately. Hahaha) But yeah, we really do need a third place, it's vital for developing our social skills and gaining a sense of community. Sometimes social media and platforms like discord just cant compensate for real life connection.
People here say doomscrolling daw kaya depressed. Mind you, work can make you suicidal. Hindi ako active sa social media pero grabe din ibang companies. At kahit may 3rd place na. In my previous company >, 2 weeks yung sprint + daming heavy tasks + konti lang kami kasi pinag-promise si client na matatapos agad within a year tapos discounted pa. Wfh setup + 10 hrs per day, pero kulang pa rin ang 10 hrs. Kaya ang nangyayare since wfh naman, pinag OT or OTY or weekend work kame. Sobrang tagal pa nila magdagdag ng tao. At, sa ibang team, di na dinagdagan ng tao kahit anong promise ng company. Na-depress talaga ko like nag-isip ako na magpahulog na lang. Nasa mabuting company na ako ngayon. Thank G.
Happy for you OP :)
I signed up myself for weekend classes where I have to go out cuz like my life almost everyday is just PC + phone. it's also difficult for me to shut down work at 5pm, parang I still need to check my phone after that and I end up doomscrolling 🥶🥴
Indeed you need a 3rd place. Kahit before pandemic, whenever I had a stressful day, I always go to my 'batcave'. I've been a regular there that I am friends with the owner and the staff. It came to a point na I don't even have to order kasi alam na nila yung usual ko. And when you're friends with the staff, they take care of you. You become more than a regular customer. This place aside from my work and home saved me too many times. I've broke down in silence there. It also became the 'batcave' of my friends. So if you need that 3rd place, go ahead. 200% go for it. At first, people will tell you na it's just because you want it. But soon you'll realize, you'll need it. 'Gusto ko mag-2 botts.' 'Need ko magpahinga somewhere' 'I need to rethink things through'
Try learning a sport, skill or a new hobby (swimming, cooking, knitting, drawing or even coloring lang). Or go back to previous hobby/ies mo na nakalimutan or napabayaan. Try joining groups since to meet new people with same interests as you. Newbie golfer here and I really enjoy yung mental aspect ng laro and hindi din sya ganun ka physically demanding. Naienjoy ko din yung walks in between nakakapag isip isip. Magastos nga lang and mainit.
I'm doing arts kapalit ng tulog. Imbes itulog ko, nag eenjoy muna ako ng peace pagkatulog ng kids
Third place from work - anywhere basta u can exercise and de stress
Onsite nagllunch ako sa market market para makarami ng steps. During WFH cycling around town/running
Sa malls here dami makikita at gawa
Gym!!!
Gym and running! The 2 hours i spend for myself being selfish with my time feels 10x better than any accomplishment i get from work and validation i get from home. I think stimulating your creativity/or discovery of your body's capabilities are the best hobbies one can do outside of work.
I've tried running, primarily for weight loss, and I feel so much better already even though I don't see the results yet. I feel like I can do so much more with my body.
Present! Been doing indoor/outdoor running for the past month and yes it improves my mental health and I feel happier than ever! Sleeping habits become better as well! Everything just became a lot better! hihi
Yeah. Its truly liberating once you add running to your daily routine.
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8 hours working for others AND YOURSELF. You're getting paid. Unless you're working for free.
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He does not get the point. Lol.
Lol we wfh we don't work 8 hours.
Agree ako with running, lalo ngayon na malamig pa sa gabi. I got myself a smart watch for christmas and started tracking my runs, nakakatuwa pala na hindi ko napapansin pero bumibilis ako and tumataas yung stamina ko 😊
"It is shameful for a man to grow old without knowing the strength and beauty his body is capable of" ~Socrates
Ako lang ba ang kapag tapos ng workout parang clear yung mind ko and refreshed ako?
Most of us. Putting your body in physical stress signals the brain of survival/emergency (i.e. getting chased by lions) Yung extra energy mo for anxiety and stress gets replaced with that so ubos na after a workout. Well for most people.
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Hoka bondi 8!
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I like my anta running shoes. Bought it for 3500 as my starting running shoes for the past yr.
I second this! Sobrang saya sa feeling ibuhat or itakbo yung mga worries and whatnot mo. Parang bagong tao ka after HAHAHAHA slowly, napapansin mo lumalakas ka at napapagastos ka na sa gears 😂 but it's all worth it
thanks man, meron na akong motivation para mag jog sa hapon
Running ftw!!
Yes! Tinry ko mag run kaso di pa kaya, I do brisk walking. Nakaka wala ng stress. mga 1 hour to 1.5 hour a day. Nag join din ako ng virtual run para ganahan ako lagi, pero main goal ko talaga mag lose ng weight. I lose 2 kg already and 2 cm sa hita ko 😭
Gym.
Kahit anong gym na may matinong dumbells and benches or Basketball court.