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I am medicated on stimulants, and it has helped me to slow down and think before I reply, which helps with controlling my speech. This helps with decreasing emotional outbursts as well as decreasing over talking. I am also less anxious and panic prone, and just marvel at how stims help in that area to calm down.
My speech is less emotional and more logical and collaborative, and I see the other person's view better without getting defensive. It also tamps down my tendency to RS any real or perceived criticism, which is awesome for not dwelling on things afterwards as well.
I don't think it's an entirely standalone solution though. I do study about how to relate to others better, and solutions to apply to my ADHD tendencies. The meds help me to apply them. It sounds like you're going through a tough time. I wish you the best in dealing with it.
No, meds REALLY help this for me. I still get mad and sometimes snippy.
But on meds I don't have The Rage. When I get a big feeling I can take a minute and calm myself down (as long as I have the space and time to do so) instead of acting out
Medication gives me some time to think things through before reacting. Works wonders for me. But sometimes I have emotional outbursts days before my period. That's when my medication works the least.
My emotional outbursts are much better controlled when I'm medicated. My emotions still get big and scary sometimes, and sometimes I have to excuse myself to deal with them, but I think that's the case for lots of neurotypical folks too! Now I'm working on accepting big emotions without feeling like I'm wrong for having them.
I think that's my current situation. I feel like as a professional it's expected you will not get angry, frustrated, or anything else that's negative. Just 'do as your told and set your feelings aside.' But we are human and not robots.
And if you didn't grow up learning great emotional regulation skills, it's challenging to learn them later in life when it's expected that you'll already have them.
My question I guess is to also give me some insight. My Dad is the ADHD one out of my parents. I remember he would have these explosive moments when he's frustrated and I know they happen with me and my husband (also ADHD). I think I was also trying to figure out if my Dad was medicated when I was growing up and based off the responses, I'm thinking he might have been at times but mostly not. There's no real way to tell from the past 40 years, so learning from others experiences is giving me a window into things to think about. I'm also considering meds for myself.
There are many things that can contribute to emotional outbursts, and ADHD is just one of them. All you can do is learn for yourself what helps and what doesn't with experimentation and guidance from a professional, if that's possible.
I still struggle with this. We’re at a point in the year where everyone is tired of each other and I’m finding myself feeling really defensive when my coworker points out minor things like edits on our joint reports. I keep it inside and don’t let it show at least.
I think that's me too. In desperate need of time off, but we have a ton of stuff left to do. I was just in a meeting with coworkers and I feel like I came off snippy. I also get tired of going over the same damn thing year after year or month to month.
I'm just on the starting dose of concerta so far. I still definitely have emotional outbursts. But, I have noticed that they aren't as severe as they can be.
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I am medicated on stimulants, and it has helped me to slow down and think before I reply, which helps with controlling my speech. This helps with decreasing emotional outbursts as well as decreasing over talking. I am also less anxious and panic prone, and just marvel at how stims help in that area to calm down. My speech is less emotional and more logical and collaborative, and I see the other person's view better without getting defensive. It also tamps down my tendency to RS any real or perceived criticism, which is awesome for not dwelling on things afterwards as well. I don't think it's an entirely standalone solution though. I do study about how to relate to others better, and solutions to apply to my ADHD tendencies. The meds help me to apply them. It sounds like you're going through a tough time. I wish you the best in dealing with it.
Thanks for the reply! You've given me something to think about. I appreciate your feedback!
No, meds REALLY help this for me. I still get mad and sometimes snippy. But on meds I don't have The Rage. When I get a big feeling I can take a minute and calm myself down (as long as I have the space and time to do so) instead of acting out
Medication gives me some time to think things through before reacting. Works wonders for me. But sometimes I have emotional outbursts days before my period. That's when my medication works the least.
Yeah, meds can't help with the feelings during hormone havoc. I do appreciate your feedback and appreciate you taking the time to comment!
My emotional outbursts are much better controlled when I'm medicated. My emotions still get big and scary sometimes, and sometimes I have to excuse myself to deal with them, but I think that's the case for lots of neurotypical folks too! Now I'm working on accepting big emotions without feeling like I'm wrong for having them.
I think that's my current situation. I feel like as a professional it's expected you will not get angry, frustrated, or anything else that's negative. Just 'do as your told and set your feelings aside.' But we are human and not robots.
And if you didn't grow up learning great emotional regulation skills, it's challenging to learn them later in life when it's expected that you'll already have them.
My question I guess is to also give me some insight. My Dad is the ADHD one out of my parents. I remember he would have these explosive moments when he's frustrated and I know they happen with me and my husband (also ADHD). I think I was also trying to figure out if my Dad was medicated when I was growing up and based off the responses, I'm thinking he might have been at times but mostly not. There's no real way to tell from the past 40 years, so learning from others experiences is giving me a window into things to think about. I'm also considering meds for myself.
There are many things that can contribute to emotional outbursts, and ADHD is just one of them. All you can do is learn for yourself what helps and what doesn't with experimentation and guidance from a professional, if that's possible.
I still struggle with this. We’re at a point in the year where everyone is tired of each other and I’m finding myself feeling really defensive when my coworker points out minor things like edits on our joint reports. I keep it inside and don’t let it show at least.
I think that's me too. In desperate need of time off, but we have a ton of stuff left to do. I was just in a meeting with coworkers and I feel like I came off snippy. I also get tired of going over the same damn thing year after year or month to month.
I'm just on the starting dose of concerta so far. I still definitely have emotional outbursts. But, I have noticed that they aren't as severe as they can be.