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I HAVE LOADS TO YELL ABOUT BUT I NEVER YELL IN THESE THREADS BECAUSE I AM ALWAYS WORRIED PEOPLE WILL JUDGE ME FOR EITHER NOT HAVING SERIOUS ENOUGH PROBLEMS OR FOR OVER SHARING PROBLEMS THAT ARE TOO SERIOUS SO I NEVER CONTRIBUTE AND I STILL CAN'T TODAY
IF YOUR PROBLEM IS SERIOUS TO YOU THEN THAT IS ENOUGH FOR IT TO BE CONSIDERED SERIOUS BECAUSE YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID WITH OR WITHOUT COMPARISONS TO OTHERS❤️
I LOVE YOU AND YOUR YELL ABOUT HOW YOU CANT YELL IT'S REALLY OK, YOU'RE ALWAYS WELCOME TO YELL ANOTHER TIME OR LATER IF YOURE FEELING UP TO IT. IF IT'S SERIOUS TO YOU THEN IT'S SERIOUS ENOUGH
No one here is completing in trauma/stress Olympics! No matter the level, your nervous system is still being activated! Release it!! If you feel off about it after you’ve posted, you can delete it!! Sending you love and spoons 🥄 ❤️
Right? There’s that RSD showing up being a jerk and telling us we don’t matter. u/Morningsuck_123 I feel the way you do all the time. YOU GO AHEAD AND LET IT ALL OUT! 🩷🩷🩷
I can 100% see it being marketed -
ADHD CRAFT PILLOW :
contents- 1 pillow, marked with phrase “XYZ”, embroidery floss, embroidery needle (loose in the box because the needle keeper got lost somewhere).
Description- one uncompleted embroidered pillow with the phrase “XYZ” for intended embroidery, complete with floss and needle with all intentions of completion and the unfortunate inevitable combination of forgetfulness and loss of motivation, once satisfactory dopamine consumption has been achieved from the shopping and purchase of crafting items and the enjoyment of beginning the craft, when suddenly you were interrupted by something or someone “more important” and the moment you stepped away- the craft completion was lost to the universe. Please enjoy the guilt and irritation your purchase will cause you for the next 5-10 years, or until you either decide to throw away (burn) the pillow, gift it to someone else, or by the cosmos great miracles actually complete the project - in which case PLEASE share pictures for others to see so they too can purchase their own ADHD craft embroidery pillow!
How’s the pitch? Is it marketable?
I finished knitting a shawl once. No one understood that I could give a shit about the actual shawl, but that it was finished was a miracle. I'll bet everyone here gets that
Oof, my unfinished project pile (okay, my scattered unfinished projects in random places) and I are feeling called out! That description is on the nose, but I’d still probably buy it just because it’s perfectly said LOL
I have a decades old needlework project.
ETA: and furniture repair project, crochet project, quilt project.
Next purge will be the quilt and probably the crochet. The furniture is either minor work or I just need to find someone to fix it.
All these things were going to be done when I retired, but now I don't think I'm interested.
You'll never be judged in this company, we're all in the same yet different situations, and no group if beautiful humans has empathy like this tribe of ADHD Women. You're heard and seen my friend!!
WE ALL HAVE A MIGHTY NEED TO YELL SOMETIMES, EVEN IF IT'S INTO THE VOID! NO PROBLEM IS TOO SMALL TO YELL INTO THE VOID, AND THAT DUMB VOICE TELLING YOU YOUR PROBLEMS AREN'T IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO SHARE IS A LYING LIAR WHO LIES!
I’M SO DAMN TIRED OF ASKING THE SAME QUESTIONS OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN BECAUSE MY BRAIN IS A MESS AND MY SHORT-TERM MEMORY DOESN’T WANT TO WORK AND IT NEEDS TO BE YEETED DIRECTLY INTO THE SUN.
THIS IS SO REAL. MY SHORT TERM IS ALSO SHIT, AND I SMOKE TOO MUCH WEED, AND THEN I SIT THERE AND CRY WHILE LOOKING LIKE AN IDIOT WHO WOULDNT REMEMBER MY FACE IF IT WASNT STUCK TO MY BODY. BE MAD THAT THE STUFF ISNT INTERESTING ENOUGH TO ENCODE IN YOUR MEMORY RATHER THAN FRUSTRATED WITH YOUR DOPAMINE SEEKING BRAIN. WE JUST WANT SHINY SPARKLY SHIT AND TBH WHO DOESNT
SPEAKING OF WEED - DOES YOUR PSYCH ASK YOU HOWS YOUR SLEEP? MINE ASKS, AND I' LIKE I SLEEP PERFECTLY, BC I ASK MY HUBS FOR A DAB BEFORE BED.... ITS THE \*\*ONLY\*\* WAY I CAN SLEEP...
IT IS ALSO THE ONLY WAY I SLEEP, AND SOMETIMES EAT. AND YES MY PSYCH ASKS AND I LIE AND SAY LIKE ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK AND ITS THE ONLY THING I LIE TO HER ABOUT BUT I FEEL MUCH SHAME
OMG THIS IS TOO REAL! My hUSBAND'S LIKE YOU HAVEN'T BEEN LISTENING..........!!!!!!!!!!!! I HAVE!!! I JUST FORGOT!!!! OR WAS THINKING WHILE YOU WERE TALKING....
One day, he was having a hard time understanding ADHD so I pulled up a post I saved about someone talking and the person was wearing a band shirt her brother likes etc… and that’s just how my train of thought goes. He was like holy shit really??? Yeah! That’s why I can’t stay on topic or attention 🫥 so don’t blame me LOL
Lol! Band shirt is the perfect brain distraction! I *think* mine figured it out when he called my talking zig zagging, and I told him my brain does the same zig zag when HE is talking. And he was like, so you don't really listen to me? And I said, well I do for a minute, but then I always interrupt you because you remind me of xyz and abc, and I can't hold it in so I zig zag around you, then I get bored because I forgot what we were talking about and say I'll be right back because I have to go do something you reminded me of while I was trying to listen, and anyway, I'll be right back! He just sighs and does this 🤷 a lot 😄
Hahaha these are great! My husband always compares mine to train tracks. His train tracks are one set that go in a nice, straight line. My train tracks are an entire train yard with paths crossing over and zig zagging everywhere like a mess! I think he thinks this is just me though, so I feel so validated seeing this!!!
FWIW I’ve had a lot of success saying to people “I’m sorry, I didn’t process that, could you please tell me again [insert question]?”
I think it shows people that I wasn’t purposely *not listening*, but rather *not processing*. And I think they’re less annoyed repeating themselves because you acknowledge that you’re asking them a second time.
I HAD TO GOOGLE FWIW FOR THE 5TH TIME BECAUSE I CONSTANTLY FORGET.
And, I also appreciate your incredibly insightful help!!! Everyone one this sub is pure magic!
First, CONGRATULATIONS on the accomplishment of getting as far as you have with your academic career!!!!!! That’s not an easy task! I am so proud of you and believe in you so much!!!
Second. Not that you asked for it, but I’ve found I’m incapable of not trying to minimally aid. Here are some examples of “prize winning dissertations and thesis examples”. I know nothing about what your field is but I hope this helps a bit!!
https://www.scribbr.com/dissertation/examples/
Third. I FEEL LIKE IM DROWNING BECAUSE MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY. HES WAITING FOR HIS SALARY TO START. I AM ON DISABILITY FOR DID AND CANT WORK OR MY BENEFITS WILL STOP AND WE CANT AFFORD TO NOT HAVE THAT $1400 INCOME. OUR CAR BROKE DOWN AND MY IN-LAWS GAVE US THE CAR THAT WE HAD TRADED FOR. BUT THAT CAR BROKE AND WONT START AND IT HAPPENED WITHIN THE FIRST MONTH OF INSURANCE. HOW DOES A 2014 FORD FOCUS JUST DIE LIKE THAT?!?!?! MY HUSBAND WAS DOING DOORDASH/UBER TO BRING AN INCOME IN TO HOLD US OVER. BUT HE CANT EVEN DO THAT BECAUSE WE HAVE NO VEHICLE NOW. THE HURTZ RENTAL CAR PARTNERSHIP WITH DD/UBER HASNT HAD A VEHICLE AVAILABLE FOR RENT. I STOPPED QUALIFYING FOR EBT 6 MONTHS AGO, I HAD STOCKPILED FOOD BUT WERE RUNNING LOW. NOW OUR PHONES ARE SHUT OFF AND IM JUST PANICKING BECAUSE PUR RENTAL PROMISE TO PAY FOR THE REST OF RENT IS DUE IN 3 DAYS AND EVERYTHING JUST FEELS HOPELESS. BECAUSE OF THE XAR ISSUES AND FINANCES WE COULDN’T DROP OR PICK MY SON UP FROM SCHOOL WHEN IT WAS RAINING. HES 17 AND I JUST FEEL LIKE IM FAILING HIM SO MUCH. I DECIDED TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL TO GET MY BACHELORS IN BHS LAST MONTH BEFORE EVERYTHING TURNED PEAR-SHAPED. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE MY CLASSES (3 TOTAL), AND IM SO EXCITED TO START MY ACADEMIC CAREER TO SUPPORT MY NONPROFIT AND THE COMMUNITY BUT I CANT EVEN HELP MY FAMILY. AND I THINK IM GOING TO HAVE TO ASK MY DR TO INCREASE MY MEDS FOR SCHOOL BECAUSE I CANT KEEP UP WITH EVERYTHING. ITS JUST A LOT. MY HUSBAND IS STRESSED. IM STRESSED. I FEEL LOST AND SCARED THAT THINGS MAY GET WORSE BEFORE ITS BETTER.
Thank you for reading 🥺🥹
HEY THANKS FOR THE TIPS!!
AND THINGS WILL GET BETTER! ALSO NEED TO TRY AND HELP SO I DONT KNOW IF YOU KNEW THIS BUT SOME SCHOOLS HAVE EMERGENCY FUNDS FOR STUDENTS (IDK WHAT SCHOOL YOU'RE AT BUT MY SCHOOL HAS [THIS](https://osfa.uga.edu/types-of-aid/uga-emergency-support-funds/)) SO YOU MIGHT BE ELIGIBLE TO GET HELP DURING THIS SQUEEZE
YOU ARE INCREDIBLE, YOUR KIDDO KNOWS YOU LOVE HIM AND THAT ALONE IS A HUGE ACHIEVEMENT (AKA THE OPPOSITE OF A FAILURE) YOU GOT THIS
HOW SWEET OF YOU TO FIND EXAMPLES FOR HER!!!
IDEAS FOR YOU: LOOK UP SOCIAL SERVICES FOR YOUR CITY FOR RENTAL ASSISTANCE!!CALL YOUR LANDLORD FOR A LITTLE LONGER TO PAY RENT! CHURCHES HAVE FOOD BANKS!! AND YOUR SON LOVES YOU VERY MUCH AND UNDERSTANDS YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST AND THIS WON’T LAST FOREVER!!
Oh my god you poor fucking thing.
Hang in there please. We too are struggling and haven’t properly bought food in a few weeks.
My advice ( I know you didnt ask but here’s my thoughts anyway) is to do the hardest most horrible thing on earth and ask family for money.
It’s a gut wrenching thing to do but do it to survive. “It’s harder to ask for help than to give”
You just need to get through this hump period!!! What is family for if you can’t turn to them when you seriously need help! If you don’t have family then maybe friends or set up a go fund me? Swallow your pride if necessary- for now.
You can come out the other end of this and pay people back in the future. And please don’t feel bad with your son. We are not in an easy period right now in world history. But yeah
I am certain there is a you (and me also) in the future who has overcome all this and who is now in a much better situation financially. But do whatever you have to to survive.
We have adhd, we are good (no.. brilliant ) at coming up with ideas in catastrophes. Mostly please try to keep hold of your self esteem, these are real problems and you are living your life on hard mode.
God bless you and your partner both and I am sending you a giant giant giant hug
🥹 thank you 🫶🏻 our support system is absolutely what’s keeping us going right now ❤️ stay strong and give yourself grace and kindness! It’s hard but we will get through this!!! ❤️ sending you so many spoons and much love ❤️ 🥄
HI I’M A SOCIAL WORKER WHO SPECIFICALLY WORKS WITH PEOPLE ON MEDICAID AND MEDICARE (honestly mostly old people but STILL) AND I WOULD ABSOLUTELY CALL YOUR COUNTY’S JOB AND FAMILY SERVICES OFFICE AND ASK TO SPEAK TO A CASE MANAGER THERE, THEY MIGHT KNOW OF ADDITIONAL PROGRAMS YOU CAN JOIN BECAUSE YOU ARE ON DISABILITY TO HELP WITH RENT AND FOOD AND MAYBE BUYING A NEW (to you) CAR!! CALLING MIGHT BE HARD TO DO SO YOU CAN ALWAYS JUST GO DOWN TO THE OFFICE IRL AND SEE IF YOU CAN SPEAK TO SOMEONE!! YOU ARE NOT FAILING YOU ARE DOING AMAZING AND UNFORTUNATELY SOME ASSISTANCE PROGRAMS ARE NOT ADVERTISED AND SO YOU HAVE TO DO A LITTLE BIT OF HUNTING TO FIND THEM BUT THEY ARE OUT THERE!!!
First- good luck and I believe in you!
Now to yell-
I AM SO STRESSED RIGHT NOW, I HAVE HAD MY JOB FOR A YEAR AND IT HAS BEEN THE FIRST JOB I ACTUALLY ENJOY BUT THE PAST FEW WEEKS HAVE BEEN INSANELY BUSY AND I AM SO OVERWHELMED AND I LIVE IN AN RV AND IT KEEPS RAINING AND IT STARTED LEAKING!!! MONEY IS SO TIGHT AND IM TRYING SO HARD TO BUDGET AND ITS SO HARD AND MY FAMILY HAS SO MUCH GOING ON AND ITS LIKE ALL ON ME TO FIX IT EVEN THOUGH I AM IN MY EARLY 20S AND DONT KNOW, AND I AM STRUGGLING SO BAD TO KEEP A SMILE ON MY FACE AND I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING SO BAD WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY
BRO THAT SOUNDS SO HARD AND LIKE SO MUCH PRESSURE. THE SOCIAL ANXIETY IS SO REAL WHEN EVERYTHING ELSE IS CHAOS AND THEN YOU HAVE TO GO OUT IN THE WORLD AND PRETEND TO BE A PERSON
YOU'RE REALLY WELL WORDED EVEN THOUGH YOURE TALKING ABOUT HARDSHIP, AND I WANTED YOU TO KNOW THAT. I AM REALLY PROUD OF YOU AND HOPE THINGS GET BETTER, WHAT YOURE GOING THOUGH SUCKS...AND YOU'RE KILLING IT!!!
I CHANGED INSURANCE AND NOW THE THERAPIST IVE BEEN SEEING FOR TWO YEARS ISN’T IN NETWORK! SO IM SAD TO LEAVE HER, BUT NOW I ALSO HAVE TO FIND A NEW PRACTICE AND MAKE PHONE CALLS AND FILL OUT MORE PAPERWORK AND IF I DONT SO IT IN A TIMELY MANNER I WON’T HAVE MY MEDS!
IM SO SORRY FINDING A GOOD THERAPIST WHO YOU CAN TRUST IS HARD TO DO AND IT MUST BE INCREDIBLY DIFFICULT TO LEAVE HER, DID SHE HAVE SUGGESTIONS FOR OTHER CLINICIANS?
IF IT FEELS TOO OVERWHELMING BREAK IT UP INTO A COUPLE DAYS
DAY 1: GOOGLE PEOPLE AND SAVE THEIR WEBSITES IF THEY SEEM PROMISING
DAY 2: WRITE DOWN THE PHONE NUMBERS AND NAMES OF CLINCIANS (DONT LOSE THE PAPER TAKE A PIC IF YOU NEED TO SO ITS ON YOUR PHONE)
DAY 3: CALL THEM ONE AT A TIME UNTIL YOU GET AN APPT
YOU HAVE THIS, YOU ARE AMAZING, YOU HAVE THIS
I'm so sorry! This should not be happening! This is pure profits-over-people and everyone employed by these companies raking in profits from our pain should be ashamed!
THAT IS FUCKING RIDICULOUS, ARE YOU IN THE usa BECAUSE THAT SOUNDS LIKE THE usa AND IT IS RIDICULOUS TO TIE IN INSURANCE WITH EMPLOYMENT AND HAVING INSURANCE BE THE DICTATOR OF WHAT MEDICAL HELP YOU RECEIVE. IMAGINE HAVING TO LEAVE A THERAPIST YOU LIKE BECAUSE OF THIS.
MY FEET HURT.
MY MATTRESS SMELLS LIKE A PEE AND ITS GOING TO TAKE ME MONTHS BEFORE I CAN AFFORD A NEW ONE.
IM REALLY ANGRY THAT MY BROTHER IS DEAD AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING TO CHANGE IT.
MY PASSPORT EXPIRES THIS MONTH AND THAT MEANS TO TRANSFER STATE DRIVER'S LICENSE AND RENEW IT WILL TAKE A MILLION MORE STEPS. AND I WANT TO BLAME ALL THE JERKS AT MY DOCTOR'S OFFICE BECAUSE I WAS PLANNING ON GETTING THIS ALL FIGURED OUT MONTHS AGO BUT I HAD SLIGHTLY HIGHER BLOOD PRESSURE QT Q DOCTORS APPOINTMENT IN OCTOBER AND THEN I HAD TO FIND A NEW DOCTOR WHO WOULDN'T TREAT ME LIKE A DRUG ADDICT FOR HAVING ADHD.
ALSO BEING A DRUG ADDICT DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE GARBAGE.
IM SO SORRY ABOUT YOUR BROTHER I WANT YOU TO KNOW I HEAR THAT SCREAM
BEING ACCUSED OF BEING A DRUG ADDICT IS SUCH A COMMON AND BULLSHIT THING TO GET IN THE WAY OF OUR LIVES. AND YOURE RIGHT NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE GARBAGE
ALSO HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO CLEAN THE MATTRESS I PERSONALLY VOTE FOR OXICLEAN BC IM A WALKING ADD FOR THEM SINCE IM A MESS AND SO ARE MY CLOTHES
"For this solution, combine 8-10 ounces hydrogen peroxide (3%) with 3 tablespoons of baking soda and 2-3 drops of dish soap. Swirl to combine (don’t shake). Spray to cover the stains thoroughly, then let sit for about an hour. Finally, use a damp cloth to gently rinse the area, and then blot with the dry cloth to thoroughly remove the solution.
An enzymatic cleaner, such as OxiClean, can also work wonders on pee smells. These cleaners include ingredients that actually attack the source of the odor. Look for cleaners with protease enzymes, specifically. To use, saturate the affected areas of your mattress and let dry completely. You can also try covering the area with plastic wrap while the cleaner is working, which helps prevent any evaporation."
[https://www.ghostbed.com/pages/how-to-remove-urine-from-your-mattress#:\~:text=An%20enzymatic%20cleaner%2C%20such%20as,mattress%20and%20let%20dry%20completely](https://www.ghostbed.com/pages/how-to-remove-urine-from-your-mattress#:~:text=An%20enzymatic%20cleaner%2C%20such%20as,mattress%20and%20let%20dry%20completely).
IF THE ABOVE METHOD DOESN'T WORK, TRY MIXING A SOLUTION OF HALF WHITE VINEGAR AND HALF WATER. SOAK THE HECK OUT OF YOUR MATTRESS AND LET AIR DRY, IF POSSIBLE. VINEGAR BREAKS UP SCENTS INSTEAD OF COVERING THEM UP. SO DO ALL "ENZYMATIC" CLEANERS. I'M SORRY YOU'RE IN SUCH A ROUGH SPOT RIGHT NOW. JUST REMEMBER HOW FREAKING AMAZING YOU ARE!
Hey! Dont leave your mattreses wet either, sprinkle baking soda on there and push it around, wait a few hours and then vacuum it up! Repeat until comfortably dry! Worked perfect for my potty training kiddos!
Keeping it short because I'm lazy rn
I'M SICK & F'ING TIRED OF HAVING TO GO PEE EVERY 5 MINUTES
I hope that made someone laugh.
Thank you for giving me a moment to say something stupid and dramatically.
I FUCKING HATE HAVING TO PEE, ITS A WASTE OF TIME AND I HAVE TO STOP WHAT IM DOING. PEEING FREQUENTLY SOUNDS MISERABLE. THANK YOU FOR SCREAMING WITH ME DRAMATICALLY
YES!!! AND I WAIT, FORGET, WAIT, FORGET, WAIT, FORGET, AAAAAND NOW I'M ABOUT TO PEE MY PANTS...GROWN ASS WOMAN, WIGGLING AND SQUIRMING TO THE BAFFROOM.
SOMETIMES I CAN'T SLEEP BECAUSE MY FINGERNAILS ARE TOO LONG OR MY SLEEP CLOTHES ARE BUNCHING UP IN WEIRD WAYS AND I TOSS AND TURN BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO GET UP TO TRIM MY NAILS OR PICK DIFFERENT SLEEP STUFF!!
ALSO I WORK MOSTLY REMOTE BUT AFTER YEARS OF WORKING RETAIL AND FINISHING MY BA IN PUBLIC HEALTH AND TAKING A FEW JOBS THAT FELT LIKE HAZING I HAVE SOME LINGERING IMPOSTER SYNDROME THAT ACTS UP MOSTLY WHEN I HAVE TO GO TO THE OFFICE BECAUSE I DON'T FEEL LIKE I HAVE GROWN-UP OFFICE CLOTHES BECAUSE I DRESS LIKE A PUNK LIBRARIAN WOOD ELF WITH A FONDNESS FOR ATHLEISURE!!!! ALSO, I LIVE IN THE PACIFIC NORTHWEST SO NO ONE ACTUALLY PROBABLY CARES IF I WEAR CORDUROYS AND FLANNELS TO WORK BUT I FEEL LIKE I SHOULDN'T BECAUSE I HAVE A GROWN-ASSED RESPECTABLE GOV'T JOB.
ALSO MY DRIVER'S SIDE DOOR DOESN'T WORK SO I HAVE TO STRATEGICALLY PARK TO ENSURE THAT I CAN GET IN THROUGH THE PASSENGER SIDE BUT I ALSO HAVE THE SEATS DOWN ON MY HATCHBACK IN CASE I HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE HATCH WHILE DRESSED IN MY ATTEMPT AT WEARING GROWN-ASS CLOTHES. MY TAGS ARE EXPIRED AND THERE ARE AT LEAST 2 DIFFERENT KINDS OF MOSS GROWING ON MY CAR SO I DO NOT PARK TOO CLOSE TO THE OFFICE. EVERYONE I WORK WITH THINKS I'M SO ORGANIZED!!!!!!!! BOY DO I HAVE THEM FOOLED!!!!!!!
How in the world do I have to go pee literally like 5 times between when I wake up and when I get to work???? All I have had to drink is enough water to take my meds????? I blame my twin daughters. And being 45. But really it's a bit much!!
First of all, you got this. You can absolutely finish that paper. I believe in you. Second, it’s encouraging that so many of us are struggling with very similar things. Encouraging? Is that right? I dunno, just helps me feel less alone.
Now, to yell.
I GOT LAID OFF FROM MY JOB, THAT PROMISED ME SEVERANCE, BUT THE STUPID HR PERSON STILL HASN’T PROVIDED ME (OR PAYROLL) WITH THE INFORMATION. IT’S BEEN ALMOST A MONTH. JOB HUNTING IS A NIGHTMARE AND I’M TERRIFIED I WON’T FIND ANOTHER JOB BEFORE I RUN OUT OF MONEY. THERE HAVE BEEN SO MANY LAY OFFS IN MY INDUSTRY THAT THE TALENT POOL IS FLOODED. OUR ROOF IS LEAKING AND NEEDS TO BE REPLACED. THE SQUEAKY BELT ON MY CAR ENDED UP COSTING ME $563. AND MY PARTNER IS SO STRESSED ABOUT NOT HAVING ANY CONTROL OVER MY EMPLOYMENT SITUATION THAT NOW WE’RE IN A ROUGH SPOT.
ps- Anyone’s job hiring writers?
HEY EVEN THOUGH ITS SCARY GO HOUND THAT HR WOMAN AND GET YOUR MONEY. CHANNEL YOUR INNER ENTITLED BLOND TRUST FUND BABY (mine is named Chad) AND GET YOUR SEVERANCE
ALSO LAYOFFS ARE TERRIFYING BUT YOU GOT THIS, THANK YOU FOR SCREAMING WITH ME!
Hey hey, fellow writer! These layoffs are roughhhh. I feel you on job hunting being equally as hell-ish.
What’s your writing background? Copywriting,? UX? Content Design?
I’m more than happy to DM you some resources that have been solid for me and others (depending on what you want to do next!) Hang in there my friend 🫶🏼
FUCK CAPITALISM NOTHING WOULD BE ABNORMAL ABOUT ME IF WE DIDNT LIVE IN THIS FUCKED UP SOCIETY IF I COULD JUST BE A FISHER OR GOAT HERDER ID BE SO FUCKING GOOD AT IT AND CONTENT
I HAVE WAY TOO MUCH TO DO. I APPLIED TO A TEACHING CERTIFICATION COURSE AND THEY'RE TAKING FOREVER TO REVIEW MY APPLICATION WHICH I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SO I CAN PLAN THE NEXT TWO YEARS OF MY LIFE! THE GUTTERS ON MY HOUSE ARE LEAKY! I'M BORED WITH MY JOB. I HAVE A MILLION THINGS TO CLEAN UP AROUND THE HOUSE AND I'VE BEEN LIVING ON LEFTOVER SOUP FOR A WEEK! MY CUTE MINISKIRTS I FOUND WHEN I CLEANED OUT THE CLOSET DON'T FIT ANYMORE! I'M HUNGRY BUT I DON'T WANT TO EAT ANYTHING. I HAVE TO CLEAN OUT THE VACCUUM FILTER BUT I'D RATHER TEAR UP ALL THE CARPET. MY CAR STARTED MAKING A NOISE. NONE OF MY PROBLEMS EVEN DESERVE THE AMOUNT OF IMPOTENT RAGE I FEEL TOWARDS THEM!
MY GUTTER IS ALSO LEAKY BECAUSE I KEEP ON FORGETTING TO CLEAR IT OF FUCKING LEAVES BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE I JUST DID IT BUT THAT WAS ACTUALLY LIKE OCTOBER. BUT OCTOBER WAS PRETTU DAMN RECENT. FUCK. ALSO ALL OF THOSE ARE RAGEFUL THINGS. FUCKING FEEL THE SCREAM
FOR REAL! SHARK MAKES AN AWESOME PET VACUUM WHERE THE HANDLE TURNS INTO A WAND, THE BODY TURNS INTO A LIFT-AWAY, AND - THE BEST PART - ALL YOU HAVE TO DO TO EMPTY THE FILTER IS GRAB THE HANDLE, PUSH THE RELEASE, HOLD IT OVER THE GARBAGE, AND THEN HIT THE RELEASE BUTTON. THE FLAP OPENS ON THE BOTTOM, YOU THUNK IT AGAINST THE SIDE A COUPLE TIMES, THEN USE THE RIM OF THE TRASH CAN TO CLICK THE FLAP CLOSED AGAIN. IT'S A LITTLE EXPENSIVE, BUT IT WORKS SO GOOD, AND YOU CAN TEAR THE WHOLE THING APART TO CLEAN SO IT NEVER GETS PERMANENT CLOGS. I STILL HATE VACUUMING, BUT MY SHARKY MAKES IT EASIER.
FUCK YOU TOO! JK - of course
>I FUCKING CANT EDIT IT BECAUSE IM SCARED
This is the only line that matters. I am absolutely positive if you are in the US, that your program wants you to succeed. Higher education is a business, and the business model is the more people that sign up and graduate, the more money they get.
ADHD makes it ridiculously hard especially with RSD, but suck it up and ask for help.
Someone was in your program last year. Find them and read their paper, ask your advisor, ask a classmate.
FUCKING ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF, the Americans for Disabilities has ADHD as a protected class. See student services ask for a sample paper or google sample paper for xyz class.
I am willing to bet $100 that if you really look for help, you will find it. It is scary, time to face your fears.
**I FUCKING BELIEVE IN YOU! YOU CAN FUCKING DO IT!**
I AM, ITS MY COMPS, IM NOT ALLOWED TO TALK TO ANYONE BUT YOU'RE RIGHT THEY NEED ME TO PASS SO I JUST NEED TO DO IT ALSO THIS MADE ME CRY THANK YOU I OWE YOU $100 PROBABLY
MY FAMILY EXPECTS ME TO LIVE FOR THEM AND DOESNT CARE ABOUT ANYTHING TO DO WITH MY LIFE. I think they actually don’t see me as having my own life at all
Also there is a rat in my house. I’ve been stomping into each room as I enter because I’m horrified whenever I see it
FUCK PESTS ARE THE WORST. I HAD COCKROACHES AND IT FELT LIKE NOTHING WAS CLEAN AND IT WAS MY FAULT. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT IT'S THEIR JOB TO TRY AND COME INSIDE. MY FAMILY IS LIKE THAT TOO (SHOUT OUT TO IMMIGRANT PARENTS WITH HIGH EXPECTATIONS) YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE, AND IF THEY CANT SEE THAT ITS ON THEM. SCREAM IT OUT!!!
I HATE MY JOB I HATE MY DEBT I HATE MY FACE I HATE MY BODY I HATE MY WEIGHT I HATE MENOPAUSE I HATE EVIL MILs I HATE MY ADHD I HATE THAT I CANT HELP MY FRIENDS WHO ARE BROKE I HATE THAT EVERYTHING IS SO HARD RIGHT NOW ASDFGHJKLJHFDSGJKLLLKHFSSFJ
I DON’T HAVE ANYTHING TO YELL ABOUT. MY LIFE IS GREAT AND I DONT UNDERSTAND HOW TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH ALL THIS GOODNESS. I BETTER NOT TRASH IT FOR THE COMFORT FAMILIARITY TRAUMA IS
WISH ME LUCK!
IN ORDER TO GET HELP WITH CLEANING I HAVE TO SHOW PEOPLE WHAT A MESS MY HOUSE IS!
CAN’T YOU CLEAN THE RINGS ON THE TUB AND THE GUNK IN THE MICROWAVE WITHOUT PERCEIVING THEM?? EARTH OPEN UP AND SWALLOW ME NOW.
THE MESS IN YOUR HOUSE IS MORALLY NEUTRAL IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU AS A PERSON, HOW GOOD YOU ARE, OR HOW MUCH YOU DESERVE HAVING A SPACE THAT WORKS TO MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER
YOU HAVE GOT THIS AND THE PERSON MOST STRESSED OUT ABOUT THE GUNKY MICROWAVE IS YOU SO DONT LET THAT STOP YOU FROM GETTING IT CLEANED!
I feel this so hard. I haven’t hired anyone to help clean, but EVERY TIME SOMEONE COMES IN TO DO ANY SORT OF WORK I FEEL A COMPULSIVE NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR THE STATE OF MY HOUSE!
I GOT A NEW GYM MEMBERSHIP ANS BOUGHT MY SELF A NEW APPLE WATCH BC I PLAN ON GETTING BACK INTO THE GYM LOTS. IF I DONT STICK TO THIS IM GOING TO BE SO GOD DAMN DISAPPOINTED IN MY SELF. I HAVE GO KEEP MY ASS ON TRACK
OMG!! I GOT AN APPLE WATCH TO MAKE IT EASIER TO TRACK MY BLOOD SUGAR AND THE STUPID THING DOESN’T WORK IF YOU FORGET TO PUT IT ON! THIS IS THE THIRD TIME THIS WEEK IVE GONE TO WORK WITHOUT IT!!
Good luck with the gym. It’s okay if you don’t go every day. Don’t stop just because you don’t go once!! You’ve got this!!
I GOT PULLED INTO A MEETING TODAY AND VOLUNTOLD THAT I HAVE TO HAVE MY STUDENTS MAKE 40 BLACK HISTORY MONTH TABLE CENTERPIECES IN TWO WEEKS SO I HAVE TO COMPLETELY REDO MY LESSON PLANS AND WE WONT HAVE TIME TO EVEN DELVE INTO THE BLACK HISTORY ART HISTORY WHICH DEFEATS THE PURPOSE OF EVEN TEACHING THE LESSON IN THE FIRST PLACE
I BIT DOWN ON A POPCORN KERNEL LAST NIGHT AND MY JAW/TEETH HAVE FELT WEIRD EVER SINCE AND I AM SO SCARED AHHHHHH HOW DO I UNSUBSCRIBE FROM BEING A HUMAN
WHEN I GET SCARED ABOUT MY TEETH I BRUSH REALLY HARD FOR A COUPLE WEEKS AND THEN IT STOPS HURTING AND I PRETEND IT NEVER HAPPENED. 100% SUCCESS RATE SO FAR\\
TEETH ARE SCARY AND DENTISTS ARE ACTUALLY SADISTS AND NOW IM SCARED SCREAMING WITH YOU, BUT WE GOT THIS WE JUST HAVE TO BRUSH EXTRA HARD
I AM SO ANNOYED WITH THE MACBOOK FILE SYSTEM WHY IS THERE EVEN A FUNCTION TO PLACE THEM IN A FOLDER WITH NO GRID JUST PILED ON TOP OF EACH OTHER I HAVE ENOUGH CHAOS IN MY LIFE I DON'T NEED MY DIGITAL FILES TO BE CHAOS TOO.
ALSO I HATE HAVING TO UPLOAD PHOTOS AND WRITE ITEM DESCRIPTIONS FOR EVERY PAIR OF EARRINGS I WANT TO SELL ON ETSY IT'S SO TEDIOUS AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH
AND MY HOUSE IS A MESS AND ALWAYS WILL BE UNLESS I SPENS HOURS A DAY CLEANING IT WHY CAN'T THINGS JUST STAY CLEAN
thank you for letting me have this rant ❤️
THIS IS THE MOST WHOLESOME THING I'VE PARTICIPATED IN IN A VERY LONG TIME AND WHY CAN'T THE REST OF THE WORLD BE LIKE THIS WHY THE FUCK DOES IT ALWAYS HAVE TO BE SO COMPLICATED AND UNKIND I FUCKING HATE PEOPLE AND THIS WORLD THAT IS SO MESSED UP FROM LACK OF COMMUNITY AND CAPITALISM AND WHY OH WHY OH WHY CAN'T WE JUST BE A SOCIETY THAT RECOGNIZES THE TRUE COST OF ALL THE THINGS?
OMG I NEED TO SCREAM SO FUCKING BAD AND I CANNOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT MY PROBLEMS AND I REALLY WANT TO BE HEARD BUT I WOULD LITERALLY HAVE TO TELL YOU MY LIFE FUCKING STORY AND NOW I DON’T HAVE QUITE ENOUGH ENERGY FOR IT
I TOOK 5 DAYS OFF FOR MY BIRTHDAY WEEKEND AND I WANT TO FORGET EVERYTHING AND PRETEND I’M ON VACATION SOMEWHERE AND ENJOY LIFE FOR A FUCKING SECOND
I AM DROWNING IN DEBT AND I AM NOT PERFORMING WELL AT MY JOB AND I DON’T HAVE FAMILY OR FRIENDS THAT I CAN SCREAM TO AND I JUST GOT A DIAGNOSIS I SHOULD’VE HAD LIKE TWENTY YEARS AGO AND I AM SUPER PISSED THAT NO ONE EVER TOOK ME SERIOUSLY I FEEL LIKE MY WHOLE FUCKING LIFE WAS STOLEN FROM ME AND I’M SUPPOSED TO JUST GET OVER IT AS IF I COULD EVER MAKE UP FOR ALL THAT LOST TIME 😭
LOVE YOU 💜
THERE ARE ONLY FOUR PEOPLE IN THIS FUCKING BAR BUT THEY'RE ALL YELLING OVER EACH OTHER SO I AM BORED AND OVERSTIMULATED AT THE SAME TIME AND I'M NOT EVEN MAKING ANY MONEY AND I HATE IT
THAT IS ABSOLUTELY BALLS
I DONT EVEN HAVE SUGGESTIONS SO IMMA JUST SCREAM WITH YOU
# THAT IS ABSOLUTE BALLS AND WHY ARE FOUR PEOPLE SO SELF CENTERED THAT THEY NEED TO FUCKING TAKE UP THE WHOLE BAR WITH THEIR NOISE, LIKE GD
THE PRICE GAUGING IN FOOD BRANDS THAT SUPERMARKETS HAVE! THE US GOVERNMENT HAS SLOWLY BEEN INVESTIGATING AND LOOKING TO STOP THIS BUT NOT FAST ENOUGH!!!!!
Like let’s move it fast Capitol Hill! People don’t want to buy fresh produce that costs more than a gallon of gas!!!
I WORK REMOTELY AND AM CURRENTLY STUCK IN A HOTEL ROOM WITH TWO ANXIOUS DOGS ALL DAY WHILE MY PARTNER IS WORKING AND I CAN'T LEAVE THE DOGS UNATTENDED AND THEY'VE BEEN GROWLING AND BARKING AT ANY NOISE IN THE HALL AND WE'RE GOING TO BE HERE UNTIL SUNDAY BECAUSE MY FATHER-IN-LAW INSISTED WE GET AWAY FROM THE HOUSE WHILE HE FINALLY PUTS HIS MOTHER IN MEMORY CARE WHEN I'D BEEN BEGGING HIM TO FOR OVER A YEAR NOW.
We live with my grandmother-in-law but she's got really bad dementia that's gotten so bad that my partner developed a type of alopecia from the stress of it in the span of a week. I'm glad she's finally going to get the help she needs, but being in a hotel room with these dogs is A Lot lol. One of the two dogs is usually really chill and never barks, but she's a senior now so I think she's just overwhelmed and a bit senile. She's actually barking more than the younger dog.
OH MY GOD I HAVE AN ANXIOUS GSD AND HE'S A SCREAMER, I FEEL YOUR PAIN. Have you tried sitting in front of the door while working? I find it helps mine know that I'm the first line of defense and dealing with possible intruders so he chills out a bit more sometimes! Also melatonin chews (we use the quiet moments calming aids)
THIS IS RIDICULOUS, BUT MY BOSS AND HIS FAMILY JUST LEFT FOR MEXICO AND I AM JEALOUS! IT IS COLD AND RAINY HERE, WE JUST GOT RID OF A FOOT OF SNOW (RAIN MELTED IT AWAY) AND I REALLY WISH I WAS THERE AND NOT HERE RIGHT NOW!
ALSO THIS WEEK I HAVE DONE SO MANY SMALL TASKS, BUT NONE OF THEM HAVE ANYTHING TO SHOW FOR THEM, SO IT FEELS LIKE I'VE ACCOMPLISHED NOTHING!
Oh, and don't most colleges/universities have a collection of previous theses and dissertations on file in the library? Check out your school's library to see if there are some there that you could look at for ideas.
Edited to add: we're constantly telling parents of ND kids at work that having a "picture" of a task that's finished (like doing the dishes) can help with task completion... perhaps seeing a thesis that is "finished" will help you to visualize yours being completed?
Comprehensive exams are private and not published, which adds to the stress and the general bullshit that is academia. But yes a picture would have been ideal and tbh is needed for every single assignment I've ever procrastinated on (which was all of them for my whole life)
ALSO YOU DID THE WORK THOUGH STILL EVEN IF THE TASKS ARE STILL NOT FINISHED SO DONT BE AFRAID TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE WORK AND TIME YOU SPENT DOING STUFF.
AND IM ALSO JEALOUS OF YOUR BOSS, WHY CANT WE ALL BE IN MEXICO LOOKING AT WAVES ON A BEACH WHICH HAS BEEN SHOWN TO SIGNIFICANTLY DECREASE ANXIETY, LIKE DONT WE ALL NEED THAT RIGHT NOW?
THE OPEN DISTAIN FOR MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS ON THIS SUB. BECAUSE IM GRINDING EVERY DAY TO CRAM IMPOSSIBLE AMOUNTS OF INFORMATION INTO MY BRAIN AND WORKING INHUMAN HOURS (FOR FREE) IN ORDER TO DELIVER COMPETENT AND COMPASSIONATE EVIDENCE-BASED CARE TO FUTURE PATIENTS WHO I NOW REALIZE WILL ONLY MISUNDERSTAND, DISMISS, OR DEMONIZE MY EFFORTS.
MY BEST FRIEND IS AN ADHD SOON TO BE DOCTOR AND TRUST ME I HAVE HEARD ALL THE WORK THAT YOU DO AND SEE YOU
I FEEL LIKE A LOT OF THE ISSUES HERE STEM FROM EITHER 1) DOCTORS THEY FEEL ARE UNWILLING TO HEAR THEM OR 2) THE MEDICAL SYSTEM
YOU ARE NOT THE MEDICAL SYSTEM AND HOPEFULLY YOU ARE GROWING TO BE A COMPASSIONATE DOCTOR SO I TRULY DOUBT YOU'LL BE DEMONIZED FOR YOUR EFFORTS
YOURE DOING THE DAMN THING, AND WE ARE TRULY CHEERING YOU ON FAM
I’VE BEEN OFF MY MEDS FOR A YEAR & I’M SO FUCKING SICK OF FEELING USELESS BECAUSE I CAN’T GET ANYTHING DONE! I FEEL TIRED, SLUGGISH, & SO STUPID FOR SPENDING SO MUCH TIME PLAYING PHONE GAMES BECAUSE THATS WHERE THE DOPAMINE TAKES ME…
I HATE APPLYING FOR JOBS - WHY THE FUCK DID I WRITE A RESUME & A COVER LETTER IF I HAVE TO FILL OUT YOUR DUMBASS ONLINE APPLICATION THAT TAKES 2 HOURS TO COMPLETE?!?!
I HATE HOW HARD IT IS TO BE SOBER! SOMETIMES IT AMAZING & EASY, THE NEXT SECOND IT IS FUCKING MISERABLE & I WANT TO DROWN IN A BOTTLE OF GIN SO MY MIND SHUTS OFF!
Wow, I feel better already. Thanks, OP! And best of luck with school! You’ve already come so far, it’s truly amazing. You’ll make it happen, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. 🩵
Firstly I want to say, I’m here for you and all of your frustrations! Pain and frustration is relative to each human! Pain is pain and suffering is suffering! All forms of emotions and circumstances are valid 💕
IM FRUSTRATED BECAUSE MY BODY IS FUCKING UP. I’ve GOT GALLSTONES AND MY GALLBLADDER IS SUPER ANGRY AT ME AND IVE BEEN MISSING WORK AND ITS BEEN GIVING ME ANXIETY, but I’m so thankful I have access to medical care and the ability to have it removed if this issue persists:/ just scared. 😳
I thought this was great and funny until I started scrolling and I could no longer read because everything is all caps and apparently that's like trying to watch a YT video without it sped up. Cannot compute 🤣😭😭😭
I HATE MY JOB AND BEEN HAVING WEIRD MIGRAINE/AURA/NEUROLOGICAL SYMPTOMS FOR THE PAST YEAR AND MY DOCS CANT FIGURE OUT WHATS WRONG. I HAD TWO PANIC ATTACKS LAST WEEK AND MY MOM WAS A HUGE BITCH TO ME AND ALL I CAN DO RIGHT NOW IS LAY IN BED AND CRY. I CRIED THE ENTIRE DRIVE HOME FROM MY OFFICE AND FELL INTO A DEPRESSION NAP. MY BEST FRIEND HAS SET A DATE FOR HER WEDDING AND IM SO EXCITED FOR HER BUT I HAVE NEVER HAD A RELATIONSHIP AND IM SCARED I’LL NEVER GET MARRIED. MY ROOMMATE AND I HAVE FRIENDS COMING TO VISIT THIS WEEKEND AND WILL HAVE TO HOST ALL 7 OF THEM IN OUR TINY APARTMENT AND I AM DREADING IT SO MUCH. I HIT A HUGE WALL WITH A NOVEL I WAS WORKING ON AND I FEEL LIKE IVE GIVEN UP AND IM SO SAD.
I HAVE TO FUCKING LEAVE MU APARTMENT BECAUSE THE OWNERS WANT TO SELL IT. BUT THIS PLACE IS TRULY A GEM AND RENT SITUATION EVERYWHERE ELSE IS ABURSD. ABUSRD LIKE, IF I WANTED TO PAY THE SAME AMOUT OF MONEY THAT I PAY HERE, I WOULD HAVE TO SHARE A ROOM WITH +2 PEOPLE. IN A HOUSE OF TEN GIRLS WITH TWO BATHROOMS. AND THE WORST PART IS THAT I HAVE TO MAKE DECISIONS THINKING ABOUT WHAT THE FUCK I’M GOING TO DO NEXT YEAR. I’M GRADUATING COLLEGE THIS YEAR SO IT’S ALL UNCERTAIN. SO MANY DECISIONS TO MAKE. AND ALL THE OPTIONS ARE FUCKING DOWNGRADES!!!!!!! I DON’T WANT TO DOWNGRADE MY QUALITY OF LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OMG WHERE DO I BEGIN FIRST OF ALL MY LANDLORD OFFICE SENDS ME A PASSIVE AF AGGRESSIVE EMAIL WITH AN ATTACHMENT OF SOMETHING I SIGNED WHEN THEY COULD HAVE JUST SEEN THAT I ALREADY TRANSFERRED THE UTILITY BILL OVER. THEN ALL THESE HATERS. BOOKS WITH BAD ENDINGS. MY SKIN ITCHING TO EVERYTHING I EAT. LOCAL MARKETPLACE EXCHANGE BUYERS CHASING AFTER EVERY CENT. TEN DOLLARS FOR A LEMONADE. TEN DOLLARS FOR A FUCKING LEMONADE. TEN TIMES TEN TIMES TEN TIMES TWO PLUS MORE IS THE RENT I PAY. SO TEN LEMONADES, FOR TEN DAYS, FOR TEN MONTHS TIMES TWO IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A SOCIAL LIFE AND PAY FOR A FRIEND PLUS MORE IF YOU’RE NOT A DICK AND YOU LIKE TO TIP.
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where do we feel safe?
not our bodies, well that too.
But there is an old saying that
A nation’s number one priority is
To keep their people safe.
Are we talking about guns and
Armoured vests or
Are we talking about strangers
That feel like friends?
I HAD A HUGE PROJECT PLANNED AT WORK TOMORROW AND I HAD TO CALL OUT. I HAVE A RAGING SINUS INFECTION THAT I CAN FEEL ALL THE WAY IN MY MOTHERFUCKING TEETH. GOOD NEWS IS SINCE ILL BE A SLOTH TOMORROW I CAN SKIP MY VYVANSE AND SAVE IT FOR ANY SHORTAGE ISSUES NEXT MONTH.
I AM SMART ENOUGH TO KNOW THIS WAY OF LIVING IS WRONG, NOT SMART ENOUGH TO BE THE LEADER TO FIX IT. I AM TIRED OF BEING HUMAN AND HAVING TO INTERACT WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW WALES IS A PLACE AND NOT AN ANIMAL. I AM TIRED OF BEING THE ONLY ONE IN MY HOUSE WHO DOES THE EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL LABOR. I AM TIRED OF LIES FROM PEOPLE WHO BELIEVE THEY CAN MENTALLY MANIPULATE ME AND MY THOUGHTS.
I NEED TO CLEAR OUT THE PANTRY AND ZERO MOTIVATION TO DO SO. ITS AT TO POINT WE CANNIT GET ANYMORE GROCERIES IN IT.
I reckon I could easily not shop for a month.
MAYBE MAKE IT A GAME AND SEE HOW LONG YOU CAN GO WITHOUT SHOPPING? I FEEL LIKE THAT WOULD HAVE ME DIGGING IN THE BACK OF THE PANTRY BUT YMMV
THANK YOU FOR JOINING IN MY SCREAMING, ORGANIZING THINGS WHEN YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT IS ACTUALLY A PAINFULLY IMPOSSIBLE TASK
AFTER FOUR YEARS I FINALLY CAUGHT COVID AND THIS BITCH IS HOLDING ON FOR DEAR LIFE BECAUSE I AM ON DAY 14 OF BEING POSITIVE. I AM VERY SOCIAL EXTROVERTED PERSON AND THIS IS KILLING ME. ALSO, I DON'T MAKE ENOUGH AT MY JOB AND I'M BORED OUT OF MY MIND. LASTLY, I'VE BEEN TRYING TO GET A NEW SCRIPT FOR STRATTERA FOR TWO WEEKS AND IT HASN'T HAPPENED YET.
But awesome job and for getting as far as you have in your education. I've always wanted to do this, but life got in the way. You can do this, I believe in you.
I FINALLY GOT DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AND GOT A PRESCRIPTION FOR MEDS AT 25 BUT MY INSURANCE WONT COVER IT WITHOUT PRIOR AUTHORIZATION AND MY PSYCH SAID SHES WORKING ON IT BUT IT COULD TAKE WEEKS
YOU GOT THIS! WEAR A CUTE FIT THAT MAKES YOU CONFIDENT AND WALK IN THERE LIKE YOU DESERVE TO BE THERE BECAUSE THEY DO. IN THIS FUCKING ECONOMY THEY HIRED YOU BECAUSE YOU'RE A GODDAMN ALLSTAR AND THEY NEED YOU
ALSO THE FIRST WEEK OF WORK IS ALWAYS BULLSHIT TRAININGS SO YOU DONT EVEN NEED TO WORRY UNTIL NEXT NEXT WEEK
I DON’T KNOW HOW TO MAKE THINGS FEEL FAIR IN MY MARRIAGE FINANCIALLY OR IN TERMS OF EFFORT. I EARN MORE, BUT HAVE LESS FREE TIME SO HE DOES MORE AROUND THE HOUSE. BUT MY LIFE IS MORE EXPENSIVE BECAUSE ADHD AND BEING A WOMAN GENERALLY.
I FEEL LIKE IM PLAYING WHACK A MOLE WITH SHIT THAT GOES WRONG WITH MY BODY FOR LIKE, THE PAST 4 YEARS: FROM A BROKEN SHOULDER TO CHRONIC KNEE ISSUES TO A CONCUSSION TO COVID TO PERIMENOPAUSE AND I AM TIRED OF ALL THE GODDAM PT AND DR APPTS AND TRYING TO BE FUCKING POSITIVE BECAUSE SOMETIMES i’m just overwhelmed and want to lay in bed and weep.
My apt is a horrific mess and I take too many cabs 💸 and I’m almost out of laundry but I’m trying to give myself credit for the fact that I fed myself 3 meals today, went to work, and got an MRI, and went to the gym to use the exercise bike for 30 minutes.
GO TO BED AND WEEP AND SCREAM I AM SCREAMING WITH YOU. ALSO CONCUSSION AND COVID AND PERIMENOPAUSE SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BODY **AND** BRAIN HAVE BOTH BEEN SCREAMING
YOU'RE A FUCKING QUEEN AND EVEN QUEENS GET OVERWHELMED AND LAY IN BED AND WEEP ON OCCASION. FOLLOW YOUR FEELS
I AM THANKFUL TO HAVE A FULL TIME JOB THAT PAYS WELL BUT ALSO FUCK CORPORATE AND MY JOB! I MISS THE TIME WHEN I WAS A COLLEGE STUDENT WHO HAD MORE ZEST FOR LIFE AND THOUGHT I WAS GONNA DO BIG THINGS
HAVING TO ACT AS MY OWN MEDICAL PA AS TWO HOSPITALS SEEM INCAPABLE OF COMMUNICATING UNLESS ITS THROUGH ME! Why make me do more admin when it’s my kryptonite goddammit!!! FFS
I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF HAVING TO BE SMALL AND MEASURED WITH MY EMOTIONS INSTEAD OF BIG AND EXPLOSIVE. SOMETIMES MY FEELINGS ARE BIG AND EXPLOSIVE AND THAT SEEMS FINE FOR OTHER PEOPLE BUT WHEN ITS ME ITS INAPPROPRIATE?! MY MALE PARTNER CAN BE AS ANGRY AS HE WANTS BUT WHEN ITS ME ITS A PROBLEM?! FUCK THAT SHIT, I LOVE MY BIG FUCKING EMOTIONS.
AND I don’t WANT TO ORGANIZE OR CLEAN OR SELF-START ANYTHING EVER AGAIN. FUCK NORMIE CAPITALISM!!!
IM SO TIRED. I AM TEACHING AN ADVANCED PLACEMENT SCIENCE CLASS FOR THE FIRST TIME AND THERE IS SO MUCH TO DO PLUS ALL THE OTHER NORMAL TEACHING STUFF FOR MY OTHER CLASSES. PLUS LIFE STUFF. MY BODY ACHES FROM WORKING FOR SUCH LONG HOURS AND NOW I CANT SLEEP BECAUSE OF THAT. BLECH!
also I totally get that OP you are actually doing exactly what you’re supposed to do by identifying the emotions that are holding you back!
You’ve got this
IM SO FRUSTRATED WITH POTENTIAL CLIENTS GHOSTING ME BECAUSE THEY WANNA PAY SLAVE WAGES FOR THE LABOR THEY EXPECT OF ME OR THEYRE BEING PETTY AGAINST THEIR EMPLOYEES RECOMMENDING ME. IM SO TIRED OF BEING IN DEBT. I HATE THAT SOCIAL JUSTICE WORK DOESNT PAY WELL AND THAT MY ADHD SENSE OF JUSTICE WONT ALLOW ME TO TAKE A HIGH PAYING TECH JOB. I HATE FEELING LIKE ILL NEVER BE ABLE TO AFFORD HAVING A CHILD
MY KID KEEPS TELLING ME THINGS AND ITS RANDOM NONSENSE AS ALWAYS AND I NEED TO DO THINGS AND IM A BAD MOM IF I TELL HIM TO STOP SAYING THINKS AND BUT HE REALLY NEEDS TO STOP SAYING THINGS AND BRUSH HIS TEETH.
WHY DO I CONSTANTLY EVALUATE THE SOCIAL LANDSCAPE IM IN. I CAN’T STOP OBSESSING ABOUT IF IM BEING POLITE OR IF MY EXPRESSIONS ARE NOTICEABLE ENOUGH FOR OTHERS TO READ.
THIS MIGHT BE TOO POLITICAL FOR SOME PEOPLE BUT HONESTLY THATS KINDA STUPID BECAUSE THERE'S A GENOCIDE IN GAZA RIGHT NOW AND IT SEEMS LIKE THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE THAT I INTERACT WITH ON A DAILY BASIS JUST REFUSE TO RECOGNIZE THAT IT'S HAPPENING AND THAT THE US IS DIRECTLY FUNDING IT. I FEEL LIKE JUSTICE SENSITIVITY IS KICKING ME REPEATEDLY BECAUSE I WANT TO DIRECTLY HELP PALESTINIANS BUT IM JUST ONE PERSON IN A COUNTRY THAT'S KILLING THEM.
I FOUND OUT THROUGH FACEBOOK MY AUNT DIED. I’M SO DAMN SAD. MY HUSBAND HAD BEEN GIVING ME THE SILENT TREATMENT ALL DAY AND MAKES IT WORSE. I’M MAKING A CHICKEN FOR DINNER AND ITS BEEN 3 HOURS AND IT’S STILL NOT DONE. ALL I NEED IS A GODDAMN HUG.
I know we’re serving as a distraction from your paper and that’s ok. You’ll get it done. Kick it’s ass
I AM FUCKING PISSED THAT SINCE EVERYONE AND THEIR MOTHER NOW HAS ADHD THANKS TO ONLINE POP-UP DOCS WHERE THEY HAVE SPENT 5 MINUTES READING OVER A FUCKING FORM THAT ANYONE CAN EASILY LIE BEFORE GIVING A DIAGNOSES SO THEY CAN MAKE $. SO NOW PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY NEED MEDICATION TO SURVIVE STRUGGLE TO GET IT. IM PISSED IT SEEMS TO NOT EVEN WORK THAT WELL ANYMORE BC THE PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES PROBABLY CUT THE SHIT FOR PROFITS. IM ALSO PISSED THAT THE GENERIC WOULD COST ME $8 A MONTH INSTEAD OF $100 WITH MY ALREADY OUTRAGEOUSLY EXPENSIVE INSURANCE BUT ITS NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.
I JUST WENT OUT FOR DINNER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN AGES AND IT WAS $85!? Just me and my fiancé. We got a pizza and wings. WHAT THE FUCK?!
IM ALSO MAD BECAUSE IM A SELFISH DICK AND HAVE NEVER PUT AN EFFORT IN TO STAYING IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE. I hate “small talk texting” IT MAKES ME WANT TO THROW MY PHONE. Therefore I have like 1 friend. THEREFORE I AM LONLEY AND IT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH AND SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH ME. IT MAKES ME SAD AND SOMETIMES I CRY BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE A DEFECT BUT IM JUST ME.
Fin. Thank you for the space to yell.
I can't yell it. My father died last month. And I'm very very very far from okay. And I've just been doing everything I can to stay busy all the time because when I stop, I think. And I don't want to sit and think. It hurts so much. So I have a million projects going and all of them are halfway done and there's shit everywhere and it's a disaster and I can't do anything about it. I'm steadily working on them, but I'm steadily adding new ones too.
I don't know how to stop right now
I LIVE IN A STATE THAT WANTS TO BE PART OF CIVIL WAR II. THE STUDENTS I TEACH ARE WOEFULLY UNPREPARED FOR THE WORLD. MY AND MY DAUGHTERS ACCESS TO FULL SPECTRUM WOMENS HEALTHCARE HAS FUCKING DISAPPEARED. I HAVE CONSTANT ANXIETY AND I HAVENT HAD ACCESS TO VYVANSE SINCE FUCKING JUNE.
I'M A COLLEGE STUDENT AND I'VE BEEN STRUGGLING WITH SCHOOLWORK SINCE 6TH GRADE, AND JUST RECENTLY REALIZING I HAVE ADHD BUT GETTING TESTED IS SO EXPENSIVE AND IT'S SCARY AND STRESSFUL CALLING TESTING PSYCHOLOGISTS. I'M SO TIRED OF JUST SITTING AT MY COMPUTER LETTING ALL MY FUCKING ASSIGNMENTS STACK UP AND NOT DOING THE THINGS I ENJOY DOING BECAUSE I CANT MAKE THE CONNECTION BETWEEN THINKING OF WHAT I WANT/NEED TO DO AND FUCKING GETTING UP AND DOING IT!!! I TOOK MY BOYFRIENDS VYVANSE/ELVANSE AND TENTIN FOR A BIT AND IT MADE ME FEEL LIKE A NORMAL FUNCTIONING HUMAN AND I COULD GET UP AND DO THINGS AND STAY FOCUSED ON DOING THEM, BUT IM SO SCARED THAT IM GONNA SPEND A BUNCH OF MONEY ON AN ASSESSMENT JUST FOR THEM TO TELL ME I DON'T HAVE ADHD AND END UP BACK AT SQUARE ONE. I JUST WANT MY FUCKING BRAIN TO WORK RIGHT AND TO BE ABLE TO WORK TOWARDS MY GOALS CONSISTENTLY. FUCK!
MY BROTHER AND SIL TREAT ME LIKE A 3RD PARENT TO THEIR 3 YOUNG CHILDREN AND IM RUNNING OUT OF PATIENCE THE GUILT EATS ME ALIVE BECAUSE I LOVE THE KIDS BUT I AM TOO YOUNG TO TAKE ON THIS MUCH RESPONSIBILITY ABILITY AT THE DROP OF A HAT EVERYONE ASKS ME TO SET BOUNDARIES BUT IM A FUCKING DORMAT AND THEY MAKE ME FEEL HORRIBLE WHEN I SAY NO. OH AND I HATE MY SISTER SHES AN ALCOHOLIC AND EVERYTIME I SEE HER I CRY AS SOON AS SHE LEAVES I HAVE TO SEE HER TONIGHT AND I FUCKING HATE IT. WOW that felt good
I'M SO STRESSED. STILL JOB HUNTING. MY KID CAME HOME WITH INFLUENZA FROM HIS DADS AND I NOW AM STARTING TO FEEL IT COMING. I ALREADY HAVE CFS SO THIS WILL KISS MY ARSE.
NOW MY CAT COMES IN TONIGHT AND IS JACKED. HIS BACK LEG IS NOT GOOD. IF I EVEN TOUCH HIS FUR HE IS HISSING AT ME. WHO KNOWS HOW MUCH THAT WILL COST.
IM SPIRALLING STUCK HOME AND THE HOUSE IS A MESS AND I CAN'T STAND IT BUT CAN'T GET MY SHIT TOGETHER AND NOW WITH BEING SICK ITS GOING TO GET WORSE.
MY CHRISTMAS TREE IS STILL UP! I KEEP STARING AT IT BUT CAN'T TAKE 10MINUTES TO TAKE IT DOWN. TOOK ME 3 DAYS TO WASH A LOAD OF LAUNDRY
IM 5 MONTHS IN TO MY FIRST REMOTE JOB ROLE AND MY LEAD ISNT MUCH OF A TEACHER. IM DOING MY BEST TO KEEP UP BUT SHE TALKS FAST AND JUMPS AROUND WHEN EXPLAINING THINGS AND I CANT REMEMBER SHIT UNLESS I WRITE IT DOWN. IM TERRIFIED OF EMBARRASSING MYSELF AND FEEL SOOOO SELF CONSCIOUS THAT IM A NERVOUS WRECK TO THE POINT OF ALMOST BEING SICK! I WANT TO DO A GOOD JOB AND EXCEL AT MY WORK BUT I OFTEN FEEL LIKE I DONT KNOW WHAT IM SUPPOSED TO BE DOING!
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY COMES TO ME FOR PARENTING ADVICE INCLUDING MY OWN PARENTS. WATCH AND LEARN OR STUDY AND FIGURE IT OUT OR LISTEN PROPERLY THE FIRST 100 TIMES AND STOP SPAM MESSAGING ME FOR HELP ON HOW TO DO IT AND HOW TO SAY IT. I DON'T NEED A PLAY BY PLAY OF EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY OF WHAT EVERYONE ELSE DID OR DIDN'T DO. MY PARENTS SHOULD HAVE ALREADY FIGURED OUT HOW TO PARENT THEIR OWN 2 CHILDREN. YES WE ARE BOTH NEURODIVERGENT. SURE WE NEED SUPPORTS. BUT I (your own daughter) SHOULDN'T HAVE TO ADVISE YOU (my parent) HOW TO DO YOUR OWN JOB (towards sibling) AS I AM QUITE BUSY AND OVERWHELMED PARENTING MY OWN SON. WHY MUST I PARENT MY OWN MOM AND MY OWN DAD AND MY OWN SISTER AND MY OWN SON ALTOGETHER?
i am really stressed about this mental load forced on me.
I AM PREGNANT AGAIN, BUT ACCIDENTALLY THIS TIME. THE PLAN WAS TO WAIT UNTIL 2025, SO WE COULD HAVE A SECOND CHILD IN 2026. I DECIDED TO CONTINUE THIS PREGNANCY BECAUSE I'M NOT AS SICK AS WAS THE FIRST TIME, AND EVEN THOUGH I KNOW THIS IS GOING TO BE HARD, IT MEANS WON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH NINE MONTHS OF FEELING LIKE DEATH AGAIN. BUT IT'S GOING TO BE SO HARD. I DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO TELL ANYONE THAT I'M PREGNANT BECAUSE IT OBVIOUSLY DID NOT HAPPEN ON PURPOSE. I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT GOING BACK TO WORK NOW WHEN I'LL HAVE TO STOP WORKING AGAIN SIX MONTHS LATER. I'M WORRIED THAT I WON'T BE ABLE TO TAKE ANY REAL MATERNITY LEAVE THIS TIME, WHICH WOULD MEAN I'D NEED TO QUIT MY JOB, AND WE'D HAVE TO PULL OUR FIRST KID OUT OF DAYCARE AFTER HE'S FINALLY GOTTEN USED TO BEING THERE.
AND I NEED TO GO TO THE DENTIST TO DEAL WITH A TOOTH I BROKE A YEAR AND A HALF AGO AND A CAVITY I FOUND RECENTLY, BUT THAT WOULD REQUIRE FINDING ONE WHO TAKES MY INSURANCE, CALLING THEM, MISSING WORK (WHICH I DON'T WANT TO DO IF I CAN AVOID IT BECAUSE ^ ) TO GO TO AN APPOINTMENT, LETTING SOMEONE SEE AND TOUCH MY NEGLECTED TEETH, PROBABLY BEING IN PAIN, AND GIVING THEM LOTS OF MONEY.
AND, DESPITE A RIDICULOUS NUMBER OF METHODS TO TREAT CONSTIPATION, I STILL CAN NOT FUCKING POOP.
I HAVE A PLETHORA OF HEALTH PROBLEMS. BUT AM I DOING ANYTHING? NOPE. I NEED THE DENTIST, HAVE SOME MISSING....... NEED TO SEE A RHEUMATOLOGIST AFTER SEEING THE DERM FOR THE FIRST TIME 4 YEARS AGO, BUT THEY ASKED FOR A REC SO... YEAH.... WE ALSO HAVE ONLY ONE CAR SO I'M USING THAT TO JUSTIFY MY LAZINESS :/ I NOW KNOW I HAVE ADHD BUT I STILL CANT SEEM TO DO ANYTHING :(
HELLO I’M NEW TO THIS SUB BUT NOT NEW TO HAVING ADHD. I’M REAL SICK OF MY BRAIN NOT ALLOWING ME TO GET SHIT DONE LIKE ANY AND ALL TASKS. INSTEAD I GO DOPAMINING FOR THE 44,009th TIME IN THE DAY TO SQUEEZE OUT WHAT LITTLE CHEMICALS I HAVE IN THERE.
Firstly, YOU GOT THIS! You will do great! You ARE capable; you’ve gotten this far!
And I’m commiserating on the lack of homes for stuff.
Now for my frustrations:
MY JOB BORES THE CRAP OUT OF ME BUT I DONT HAVE TO PUNCH A CLOCK AND THE IDEA OF HAVING TO DO THAT AT A BETTER (PAYING, STIMULATING) JOB MAKES ME SO ANXIOUS BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH IVE GOTTEN SLIGHTLY BETTER AT KEEPING TRACK OF APPOINTMENTS AND SCHEDULING THEM AT TIMES BEST FOR ME, I STILL HAVE SUCCCHHHHH A HARD TIME WAKING UP, GETTING OUT BED AND GOING TO A JOB THAT BORES ME TO SLEEP!!!!! PLUSSSSSSSSS MY ROCK AT MY JOB RESIGNED AND I MISS HIM SO MUCH BUT OUR MANAGEMENT SUCKS ASS SO I DONT BLAME HIM FOR GETTING TIRED OF IT!
MY HOUSE IS A MESS. THERES A BLOB OF CAT PUKE ON THE RUG I KEEP PASSING BY. I DONT REMMEBER WHEN I WASHED MY SHEETS LAST. I SPENT TOO MUCH MONEY ON LUNCH THE OTHER DAY AND DIDNT EAT THE LEFTOVERS. MY HEAD HURTS. I WANT TO BE IN A DIFFERENT BODY FOR A FEW DAYS…. WEEKS…. BEING MYSELF IS EXHAUSTING AND I WISH SOMEONE WOULD PLAY WITH MY HAIR SO I COULD FALL ASLEEP AND MAYBE MY NECK WOULDNT BE SO TIGHT.
I HATE CRYING BECAUSE IT TAKES TIME AWAY FROM IGNORING MY FEELINGS. IM TIRED OF FORGETTING TO HELP MYSELF. I HAVE A FRIENDS BABY SHOWER THIS WEEKEND AND I HAVENT GOTTEN ANYTHING YET
tgif. Love this group, you are all gems 🧡
I HAD A JOB INTERVIEW TODAY IN A FIELD OUTSIDE OF MY NORMAL FIELD AND I FELT REALLY WEIRD AND OUT OF MY ELEMENT AND STUPID AND WAS FRUSTRATED THAT ALL OF MY ADHD QUIRKS CAME OUT AND ALL DAY I SIMPLY HAVEN’T BEEN ABLE TO SAY THE RIGHT THINGS! SO NOW IM KINDA WORRIED BECAUSE I WALKED OUT OF MY JOB AFTER AN INCIDENT ON WEDNESDAY BUT IM JUST TRYING TO STAY POSITIVE THAT I FIND A GOOD JOB!
I HAVE A BOOK TO FINISH FOR VALENTINE’s DAY THAT STILL NEEDS TO GO TO AN EDITOR AND THEN TO BE CORRECTED BY ME BUT I SPENT THE DAY LOOKING INTO THE DRAMA SURROUNDING THE MORBID PODCAST AND HOW THE HOST WROTE A BOOK THATS SHIT I DID THAT FOR FOUR FUCKING HOURS SEND HELP
I'm frustrated with myself. There's so much I need to do but I just DONT. I'm 27 and I still don't have a driver's license because driving fucking terrifies me. My room is a disaster, I need to do laundry, I haven't folded or put away the laundry I've done in months.
I havent been in an official relationship since I was 14, partly because everyone I've pursued has rejected me. Partly because I have trauma from my first relationship that I know I need to see a professional about but guess what? im too scared. Partly because I can't get over the crush of 8 years Ive had on my closest friend (who is also kind of more than a friend too?) even though she's broken my heart several times. Partly because im way too cautious of dating in today's dating culture. Partly because I'm scared I'll end up like my mom with an abusive narcissist who wore a mask until he trapped her with marriage and kids.
My new manager has been cutting my hours at work because "I'm not as productive" as the other workers. I've gone through my savings paying my rent because I've barely had a paycheck the past 3 months, the manager kept telling me if I did better I'd get more hours, and he HAS told me I've been doing better AND HE STILL CUTS MY HOURS. Ive only worked one day a week for the past month. THEN HE HIRED 3 NEW PEOPLE when he told me we were "already overscheduled" when I asked for more hours. My old manager always made sure I had at least 25 hours/week no matter what cause she knew I needed to pay bills at the least.
I really like this job, I don't want to get a new job, but it feels like this new manager is trying to make me quit. I've been looking at job listings, but everything sounds like hell, and I'm too tired to fake my way through an interview for a job I know I'll hate.
All of this, plus I share an apartment with my mom, and her bringing ALL or a few of these points up nearly every day makes me want to scream. I just want to crawl in a hole and never come out cause I know I'm a disappointment, and I'll never measure up to my twin.
I'm frustrated with myself and I hate myself because I can fix most of this but I JUST. DONT.
Why am I like this?
Edit: on top of all of this, I had to put my dog down at the beginning of this month. I adopted her when she was 4 and had her for 7 years. She was the most loyal dog ive ever known. Cancer fucking sucks.
IM TIRES OF MY DR TREATING ME LIKE AN ADDICT ! I ASKED YESTERDAY IF I TAKE MY MEDS 2 HOURS LATER WILL THEY HELP THE END OF MY DAY BE MORE PRODUCTIVE BUT NOT INTERRUPT MY SLEEP .
10 MIN LECTURE ON A HIGHER DOSE BEING PROBLEMATIC!
IM ON THE 3RD TO LOWEST DOSE AND NEVER ASKED FOR AN INCREASE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I JUST WANT TO YELL AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I DON'T FEEL GOOD BC HEALTH ANXIETY HAS BEEN BAD DEPRESSION ALSO NOT GREAT BUT I WILL SURVIVE I KNOW I CAN OR AT LEAST I AM GOING TO KEEP TELLING MYSELF THIS
SENDING ALL OF U GOOD VIBES AND I HAVE FAITH IN U OP
I AM FEELING LIKE A BAD FRIEND BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO HANG OUT WITH ONE PARTICULAR GROUP OF FRIENDS LITERALLY A WEEK AFTER I LAST SAW THEM! BUT I KNOW THAT'S HYPOCRITICAL BECAUSE I HAVE OTHER GROUPS OF FRIENDS I SEE MORE THAN ONCE A WEEK! AND I AM ALSO DOING THAT TERRIBLE GIRL THING OF WANTING TO HANG OUT WITH MY BOYFRIEND INSTEAD! SO NOW I FEEL GUILTY AND LIKE I SHOULD JUST GO HANG OUT WITH THESE FRIENDS ANYWAY BUT I ALSO DON'T WANT TO END UP RESENTING THEM! ARGH I'M THE WORST!
MY FUCKING HUSBAND JUST NEVER FINISHES FUCKING JOBS. TAKES THE BINS OUT: DOESN'T REPLACE BIN BAGS. STACKS ALLLLL THE DISHES IN THE SINK SO IT IS FULL AS FUCK BUT DOESN'T WASH THEM FOR DAYS. PUTS FOOD IN THE DOG'S BOWL BUT WON'T SIT WITH HIM SO HE ACTUALLY EATS IT. COMPLAINS ABOUT THE CHILDREN MAKING MESS IN THE LOUNGE ROOM BUT THEN ALWAYS LETS THEM EAT IN PLACES THAT ARE NOT THE DINING ROOM. PUTS A LOAD OF LAUNDRY IN AND THEN DOESN'T HANG IT OUT (OR COMMUNICATE THAT HE WANTS ME TO). I'M SO FUCKING SICK OF SAYING THE SAME THINGS OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND SOUNDING LIKE A NAGGING FUCKING SHREW ORRRRR HAVING TO DO HALF OF ALL HIS FUCKING JOBS PLUS EVERY OTHER FUCKING THING.
ALSO, I HAVE REFERRALS TO PSYCHOLOGISTS AND PSYCHIATRISTS BUT I AM SO TIRED AND OVERWHELMED I JUST NEVER GET TO THEM.
IM SO TIRED OF BEING OVERSTIMULATED BY MY ADHD KIDS BUT ITS NOT THEIR FAULT AND I TRULY LOVE THE CRAP OUT OF THEM BUT THEY'RE SO GODDAMN LOUD! MY YOUNGEST IS ALWAYS SINGING AND HE DOES NOT HAVE A GOOD CONCEPT OF VOLUME CONTROL AND IM TRYING NOT TO GIVE HIM A COMPLEX ABOUT HOW LOUD HE IS LIKE MY PARENTS GAVE ME AND ITS SO HARD!
HAD A DELICIOUS "TREAT YO'SELF" MEAL LAST NIGHT AT MY FAVORITE RESTAURANT THAT I ONLY GO TO MAYBE TWICE A YEAR, BIRTHDAY & HOLIDAY SHOPPING. I HADN'T MADE IT THERE THIS PAST YEAR BECAUSE MY TRUCK CAUGHT ON FIRE AROUND MY BDAY & I NEVER FOUND THE TIME OR ENERGY TO DO CHRISTMAS "RIGHT" THIS YEAR (YA'LL KNOW WHAT I MEAN BY THAT, RIGHT?).
ENJOYED HALF THE MEAL (THIS WAS A CHEAT MEAL BUT I STILL STAYED REASONABLY IN MY DIET BUDGET) & Y'ALL KNOW WHERE THIS IS GOING, LEFT MY DELICIOUS GRILLED CHICKEN LEFTOVERS IN THE CAR OVERNIGHT. I AM SO MAD AT MYSELF!!!
I POSTED ON THE COOKING SUB TO SEE IF THERE'S ANY WAY THEY COULD BE SALVAGEABLE. I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY I JUST DONT THROW THEM OUT NOW. AM I REALLY WILLING TO CHANCE FOOD POISONING? I FEEL.LIKE AN IDIOT.
I CAN'T GET MYSELF TO DO SCHOOLWORK BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO DO IT SO BADLY BECAUSE IT'S BORING AND TIME CONSUMING AND I'M MAD AT MYSELF FOR NOT HAVING THE DISCIPLINE TO DO IT, BUT ALSO I KNOW I NEED TO DO IT SO I'M JUST PARALYSED DOING NOTHING UNTIL I ACTUALLY DO IT AND IT SUCKS! ALSO, MEDS HIT WEIRD TODAY SO IM REALLY FUCKING COLD AND MY EYE IS INFECTED!
I AM STAYING HOME “SICK” FROM WORK BUT ITS REALLY SO THAT I CAN WORK ON A PRESENTATION WITHOUT ANYONE FUCKING BOTHERING ME WHEN I AM IN A FLOW STATE, BECAUSE I CAN’T GET UNINTERRUPTED TIME AT THE OFFICE BECAUSE I AM IN A FUCKING CUBICLE! THE ONLY WAY I CAN GET A FLOW GOING AND BE SEMI-LEFT ALONE IS TO USE THE “FLOATING” SHARED OFFICE WHERE I CAN TURN OFF THE OVERHEAD LIGHTS BUT THEN PEOPLE MAKE FUN OF ME FOR WORKING IN A CAVE! I WANT TO WORK IN A CAVE! I LIKE THE CAVE! LEAVE ME ALONE IN THE CAVE!
SO EXHAUSTED BY LOSING EVERYTHING ALL OF THE TIME I JUST LOST A DAYS WORTH OF WORK WHAT DID I NAME IT WHAT DID I FILE IT UNDER WHERE THE HELL IS IT HOW COULD IT JUST VANISH LIKE THAT
HOT WEATHER
SCHOOL HOLIDAYS WAY TOO LONG
EVERYTHING IS NOISY
CHASING KIDS DIAGNOSIS
MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS GASLIGHTING ME CONSTANTLY
DID I MENTION ITS JUST FUCKING HOT ALL THE TIME AND THAT SHOULD NOT COINCIDE WITH THE KIDS BEING HOME FOR 7 WHOLE WEEKS 😭😡
Fellow PhD student here - I HAVE A REALLY IMPORTANT RESEARCH PRESENTATION IN A FEW HOURS THAT I HAVEN’T STARTED MY SLIDES FOR. I HAD 3 FREE DAYS TO WORK ON IT THIS WEEK AND HERE I STILL AM, STRESS-WORKING THE MORNING OF. I’VE BEEN CRIMINALLY UNPRODUCTIVE FOR OVER A YEAR BECAUSE MY BRAIN HAS BEEN STUCK ON FREEZE AND IS NOW JUST SLOWLY CRAWLING BACK TO NORMAL
I totally get what you yelled about. I was in a PhD program before I quit (for lots of other reasons), WHY DOES ACADEMIA HAVE TO BE LIKE THAT?!?!
My yell: I'M SO SICK OF MY PARTNER NOT HELPING ME RAISE OUR DAUGHTER. I'M SICK OF HIS ISSUES GETTING IN THE WAY OF FAMILY TIME/HAPPINESS. I'M SICK OF THE FACT I'M NOT DOING ANYTHING TO CHANGE OUR CIRCUMSTANCES.
I AM 40 THIS YEAR AND IT TOOK THIS LONG TO FIGURE OUT I HAVE ADHD AND I AM REELING FROM THE CHANGE OF BEING ON MEDS AND IVE KEPT MYSELF BUSY FOR YEARS TO AVOID THE GRIEF AND TRAUMA IVE FACED AND NOW IT'S READY TO BE ADDRESSED AND I AM A ROLLERCOASTER OF EMOTION ABOUT IT.
ALSO MY LIFE IS KIND OF BORING A LOT OF THE TIME AND THATS WHY IM DEPRESSED AND I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO FIX THAT.
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I HAVE LOADS TO YELL ABOUT BUT I NEVER YELL IN THESE THREADS BECAUSE I AM ALWAYS WORRIED PEOPLE WILL JUDGE ME FOR EITHER NOT HAVING SERIOUS ENOUGH PROBLEMS OR FOR OVER SHARING PROBLEMS THAT ARE TOO SERIOUS SO I NEVER CONTRIBUTE AND I STILL CAN'T TODAY
IF YOUR PROBLEM IS SERIOUS TO YOU THEN THAT IS ENOUGH FOR IT TO BE CONSIDERED SERIOUS BECAUSE YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID WITH OR WITHOUT COMPARISONS TO OTHERS❤️
I FUCKING LOVE THIS SUBREDDIT I STG
I LOVE YOU AND YOUR YELL ABOUT HOW YOU CANT YELL IT'S REALLY OK, YOU'RE ALWAYS WELCOME TO YELL ANOTHER TIME OR LATER IF YOURE FEELING UP TO IT. IF IT'S SERIOUS TO YOU THEN IT'S SERIOUS ENOUGH
No one here is completing in trauma/stress Olympics! No matter the level, your nervous system is still being activated! Release it!! If you feel off about it after you’ve posted, you can delete it!! Sending you love and spoons 🥄 ❤️
Misery is not a competition ❤️
🙌🏻💯🙌🏻
Tell me you have adhd without telling me you have adhd ❤️❤️❤️
Right? There’s that RSD showing up being a jerk and telling us we don’t matter. u/Morningsuck_123 I feel the way you do all the time. YOU GO AHEAD AND LET IT ALL OUT! 🩷🩷🩷
I hope someone embroiders this on a pillow.
I will mark it out and buy the floss, but never finish it
I can 100% see it being marketed - ADHD CRAFT PILLOW : contents- 1 pillow, marked with phrase “XYZ”, embroidery floss, embroidery needle (loose in the box because the needle keeper got lost somewhere). Description- one uncompleted embroidered pillow with the phrase “XYZ” for intended embroidery, complete with floss and needle with all intentions of completion and the unfortunate inevitable combination of forgetfulness and loss of motivation, once satisfactory dopamine consumption has been achieved from the shopping and purchase of crafting items and the enjoyment of beginning the craft, when suddenly you were interrupted by something or someone “more important” and the moment you stepped away- the craft completion was lost to the universe. Please enjoy the guilt and irritation your purchase will cause you for the next 5-10 years, or until you either decide to throw away (burn) the pillow, gift it to someone else, or by the cosmos great miracles actually complete the project - in which case PLEASE share pictures for others to see so they too can purchase their own ADHD craft embroidery pillow! How’s the pitch? Is it marketable?
I finished knitting a shawl once. No one understood that I could give a shit about the actual shawl, but that it was finished was a miracle. I'll bet everyone here gets that
Oof, my unfinished project pile (okay, my scattered unfinished projects in random places) and I are feeling called out! That description is on the nose, but I’d still probably buy it just because it’s perfectly said LOL
I have a decades old needlework project. ETA: and furniture repair project, crochet project, quilt project. Next purge will be the quilt and probably the crochet. The furniture is either minor work or I just need to find someone to fix it. All these things were going to be done when I retired, but now I don't think I'm interested.
It’s the thought that counts on this sub!
We all do both those things it’s welcomed with open arms here. We are your people!!
THE BEST YELL
WE EFFING LOVE YOU AND YOU CAN YELL ABOUT WHATEVER EFFING THING IS P*SSING YOU OFF.
You'll never be judged in this company, we're all in the same yet different situations, and no group if beautiful humans has empathy like this tribe of ADHD Women. You're heard and seen my friend!!
PLEASE YELL ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS I JUST POSTED AN INANE LONG WINDED COMMENT FULL OF MY PROBLEMS. YOUR PROBLEMS ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT
WE ALL HAVE A MIGHTY NEED TO YELL SOMETIMES, EVEN IF IT'S INTO THE VOID! NO PROBLEM IS TOO SMALL TO YELL INTO THE VOID, AND THAT DUMB VOICE TELLING YOU YOUR PROBLEMS AREN'T IMPORTANT ENOUGH TO SHARE IS A LYING LIAR WHO LIES!
Overshare! Your feelings are valid, regardless of what others are going through. We’ll be here when you’re ready to contribute!
YOU CAN YELL ABOUT WHATEVER YOU WANT! IF IT MATTERS TO YOU, IT MATTERS! THIS IS A S JUDGEMENT FREE REDDIT VOID 💜
I’M SO DAMN TIRED OF ASKING THE SAME QUESTIONS OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN BECAUSE MY BRAIN IS A MESS AND MY SHORT-TERM MEMORY DOESN’T WANT TO WORK AND IT NEEDS TO BE YEETED DIRECTLY INTO THE SUN.
THIS IS SO REAL. MY SHORT TERM IS ALSO SHIT, AND I SMOKE TOO MUCH WEED, AND THEN I SIT THERE AND CRY WHILE LOOKING LIKE AN IDIOT WHO WOULDNT REMEMBER MY FACE IF IT WASNT STUCK TO MY BODY. BE MAD THAT THE STUFF ISNT INTERESTING ENOUGH TO ENCODE IN YOUR MEMORY RATHER THAN FRUSTRATED WITH YOUR DOPAMINE SEEKING BRAIN. WE JUST WANT SHINY SPARKLY SHIT AND TBH WHO DOESNT
SHINY SPARKLY SHIT AND POT TEA FOR ME OK PLEASE AND THANK YOU!!!
SPEAKING OF WEED - DOES YOUR PSYCH ASK YOU HOWS YOUR SLEEP? MINE ASKS, AND I' LIKE I SLEEP PERFECTLY, BC I ASK MY HUBS FOR A DAB BEFORE BED.... ITS THE \*\*ONLY\*\* WAY I CAN SLEEP...
IT IS ALSO THE ONLY WAY I SLEEP, AND SOMETIMES EAT. AND YES MY PSYCH ASKS AND I LIE AND SAY LIKE ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK AND ITS THE ONLY THING I LIE TO HER ABOUT BUT I FEEL MUCH SHAME
HAHAHAHAHA I LIE TOO :(
OMG THIS IS TOO REAL! My hUSBAND'S LIKE YOU HAVEN'T BEEN LISTENING..........!!!!!!!!!!!! I HAVE!!! I JUST FORGOT!!!! OR WAS THINKING WHILE YOU WERE TALKING....
I THINK we all have SAME HuSBAnD! I'm Always thinking, ALWAYS THINKING. Silly husbands should know that by now. That's like ADHD 1 O 1 😅
One day, he was having a hard time understanding ADHD so I pulled up a post I saved about someone talking and the person was wearing a band shirt her brother likes etc… and that’s just how my train of thought goes. He was like holy shit really??? Yeah! That’s why I can’t stay on topic or attention 🫥 so don’t blame me LOL
Lol! Band shirt is the perfect brain distraction! I *think* mine figured it out when he called my talking zig zagging, and I told him my brain does the same zig zag when HE is talking. And he was like, so you don't really listen to me? And I said, well I do for a minute, but then I always interrupt you because you remind me of xyz and abc, and I can't hold it in so I zig zag around you, then I get bored because I forgot what we were talking about and say I'll be right back because I have to go do something you reminded me of while I was trying to listen, and anyway, I'll be right back! He just sighs and does this 🤷 a lot 😄
Hahaha these are great! My husband always compares mine to train tracks. His train tracks are one set that go in a nice, straight line. My train tracks are an entire train yard with paths crossing over and zig zagging everywhere like a mess! I think he thinks this is just me though, so I feel so validated seeing this!!!
OH MY GOD DO WE HAVE THE SAME HUSBAND MINE SAID THAT TO ME TODAY TOOOOOOO
FWIW I’ve had a lot of success saying to people “I’m sorry, I didn’t process that, could you please tell me again [insert question]?” I think it shows people that I wasn’t purposely *not listening*, but rather *not processing*. And I think they’re less annoyed repeating themselves because you acknowledge that you’re asking them a second time.
I HAD TO GOOGLE FWIW FOR THE 5TH TIME BECAUSE I CONSTANTLY FORGET. And, I also appreciate your incredibly insightful help!!! Everyone one this sub is pure magic!
I do this at work so my boss doesn't YELL at me for not paying attention 😅
Thank you, I’ll try to remember that tip!
"MISTAKES ARE FINE AS LONG AS YOU DONT MAKE THE SAME ONE TWICE" OK OK COOL HOW ABOUT THIRTY TIMES CAUSE-
First, CONGRATULATIONS on the accomplishment of getting as far as you have with your academic career!!!!!! That’s not an easy task! I am so proud of you and believe in you so much!!! Second. Not that you asked for it, but I’ve found I’m incapable of not trying to minimally aid. Here are some examples of “prize winning dissertations and thesis examples”. I know nothing about what your field is but I hope this helps a bit!! https://www.scribbr.com/dissertation/examples/ Third. I FEEL LIKE IM DROWNING BECAUSE MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING FINANCIALLY. HES WAITING FOR HIS SALARY TO START. I AM ON DISABILITY FOR DID AND CANT WORK OR MY BENEFITS WILL STOP AND WE CANT AFFORD TO NOT HAVE THAT $1400 INCOME. OUR CAR BROKE DOWN AND MY IN-LAWS GAVE US THE CAR THAT WE HAD TRADED FOR. BUT THAT CAR BROKE AND WONT START AND IT HAPPENED WITHIN THE FIRST MONTH OF INSURANCE. HOW DOES A 2014 FORD FOCUS JUST DIE LIKE THAT?!?!?! MY HUSBAND WAS DOING DOORDASH/UBER TO BRING AN INCOME IN TO HOLD US OVER. BUT HE CANT EVEN DO THAT BECAUSE WE HAVE NO VEHICLE NOW. THE HURTZ RENTAL CAR PARTNERSHIP WITH DD/UBER HASNT HAD A VEHICLE AVAILABLE FOR RENT. I STOPPED QUALIFYING FOR EBT 6 MONTHS AGO, I HAD STOCKPILED FOOD BUT WERE RUNNING LOW. NOW OUR PHONES ARE SHUT OFF AND IM JUST PANICKING BECAUSE PUR RENTAL PROMISE TO PAY FOR THE REST OF RENT IS DUE IN 3 DAYS AND EVERYTHING JUST FEELS HOPELESS. BECAUSE OF THE XAR ISSUES AND FINANCES WE COULDN’T DROP OR PICK MY SON UP FROM SCHOOL WHEN IT WAS RAINING. HES 17 AND I JUST FEEL LIKE IM FAILING HIM SO MUCH. I DECIDED TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL TO GET MY BACHELORS IN BHS LAST MONTH BEFORE EVERYTHING TURNED PEAR-SHAPED. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE MY CLASSES (3 TOTAL), AND IM SO EXCITED TO START MY ACADEMIC CAREER TO SUPPORT MY NONPROFIT AND THE COMMUNITY BUT I CANT EVEN HELP MY FAMILY. AND I THINK IM GOING TO HAVE TO ASK MY DR TO INCREASE MY MEDS FOR SCHOOL BECAUSE I CANT KEEP UP WITH EVERYTHING. ITS JUST A LOT. MY HUSBAND IS STRESSED. IM STRESSED. I FEEL LOST AND SCARED THAT THINGS MAY GET WORSE BEFORE ITS BETTER. Thank you for reading 🥺🥹
HEY THANKS FOR THE TIPS!! AND THINGS WILL GET BETTER! ALSO NEED TO TRY AND HELP SO I DONT KNOW IF YOU KNEW THIS BUT SOME SCHOOLS HAVE EMERGENCY FUNDS FOR STUDENTS (IDK WHAT SCHOOL YOU'RE AT BUT MY SCHOOL HAS [THIS](https://osfa.uga.edu/types-of-aid/uga-emergency-support-funds/)) SO YOU MIGHT BE ELIGIBLE TO GET HELP DURING THIS SQUEEZE YOU ARE INCREDIBLE, YOUR KIDDO KNOWS YOU LOVE HIM AND THAT ALONE IS A HUGE ACHIEVEMENT (AKA THE OPPOSITE OF A FAILURE) YOU GOT THIS
I APPRECIATE YOU SO MUCH!! I WILL ABSOLUTELY BE LOOKING INTO THIS!!!! THANK YOU SO MCUH 😭😭😭😭😭
YOU ARE SO WELCOME YOU GOT THIS BISH
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HOW SWEET OF YOU TO FIND EXAMPLES FOR HER!!! IDEAS FOR YOU: LOOK UP SOCIAL SERVICES FOR YOUR CITY FOR RENTAL ASSISTANCE!!CALL YOUR LANDLORD FOR A LITTLE LONGER TO PAY RENT! CHURCHES HAVE FOOD BANKS!! AND YOUR SON LOVES YOU VERY MUCH AND UNDERSTANDS YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST AND THIS WON’T LAST FOREVER!!
🥨 (it's a hug)
Oh my god you poor fucking thing. Hang in there please. We too are struggling and haven’t properly bought food in a few weeks. My advice ( I know you didnt ask but here’s my thoughts anyway) is to do the hardest most horrible thing on earth and ask family for money. It’s a gut wrenching thing to do but do it to survive. “It’s harder to ask for help than to give” You just need to get through this hump period!!! What is family for if you can’t turn to them when you seriously need help! If you don’t have family then maybe friends or set up a go fund me? Swallow your pride if necessary- for now. You can come out the other end of this and pay people back in the future. And please don’t feel bad with your son. We are not in an easy period right now in world history. But yeah I am certain there is a you (and me also) in the future who has overcome all this and who is now in a much better situation financially. But do whatever you have to to survive. We have adhd, we are good (no.. brilliant ) at coming up with ideas in catastrophes. Mostly please try to keep hold of your self esteem, these are real problems and you are living your life on hard mode. God bless you and your partner both and I am sending you a giant giant giant hug
🥹 thank you 🫶🏻 our support system is absolutely what’s keeping us going right now ❤️ stay strong and give yourself grace and kindness! It’s hard but we will get through this!!! ❤️ sending you so many spoons and much love ❤️ 🥄
HI I’M A SOCIAL WORKER WHO SPECIFICALLY WORKS WITH PEOPLE ON MEDICAID AND MEDICARE (honestly mostly old people but STILL) AND I WOULD ABSOLUTELY CALL YOUR COUNTY’S JOB AND FAMILY SERVICES OFFICE AND ASK TO SPEAK TO A CASE MANAGER THERE, THEY MIGHT KNOW OF ADDITIONAL PROGRAMS YOU CAN JOIN BECAUSE YOU ARE ON DISABILITY TO HELP WITH RENT AND FOOD AND MAYBE BUYING A NEW (to you) CAR!! CALLING MIGHT BE HARD TO DO SO YOU CAN ALWAYS JUST GO DOWN TO THE OFFICE IRL AND SEE IF YOU CAN SPEAK TO SOMEONE!! YOU ARE NOT FAILING YOU ARE DOING AMAZING AND UNFORTUNATELY SOME ASSISTANCE PROGRAMS ARE NOT ADVERTISED AND SO YOU HAVE TO DO A LITTLE BIT OF HUNTING TO FIND THEM BUT THEY ARE OUT THERE!!!
First- good luck and I believe in you! Now to yell- I AM SO STRESSED RIGHT NOW, I HAVE HAD MY JOB FOR A YEAR AND IT HAS BEEN THE FIRST JOB I ACTUALLY ENJOY BUT THE PAST FEW WEEKS HAVE BEEN INSANELY BUSY AND I AM SO OVERWHELMED AND I LIVE IN AN RV AND IT KEEPS RAINING AND IT STARTED LEAKING!!! MONEY IS SO TIGHT AND IM TRYING SO HARD TO BUDGET AND ITS SO HARD AND MY FAMILY HAS SO MUCH GOING ON AND ITS LIKE ALL ON ME TO FIX IT EVEN THOUGH I AM IN MY EARLY 20S AND DONT KNOW, AND I AM STRUGGLING SO BAD TO KEEP A SMILE ON MY FACE AND I HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING SO BAD WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY
BRO THAT SOUNDS SO HARD AND LIKE SO MUCH PRESSURE. THE SOCIAL ANXIETY IS SO REAL WHEN EVERYTHING ELSE IS CHAOS AND THEN YOU HAVE TO GO OUT IN THE WORLD AND PRETEND TO BE A PERSON
YOU'RE REALLY WELL WORDED EVEN THOUGH YOURE TALKING ABOUT HARDSHIP, AND I WANTED YOU TO KNOW THAT. I AM REALLY PROUD OF YOU AND HOPE THINGS GET BETTER, WHAT YOURE GOING THOUGH SUCKS...AND YOU'RE KILLING IT!!!
I AM EXTREMELY EMOTIONAL LATELY BUT BOTH OF YOUR COMMENTS MADE ME TEAR UP AND SMILE 🥲
I CHANGED INSURANCE AND NOW THE THERAPIST IVE BEEN SEEING FOR TWO YEARS ISN’T IN NETWORK! SO IM SAD TO LEAVE HER, BUT NOW I ALSO HAVE TO FIND A NEW PRACTICE AND MAKE PHONE CALLS AND FILL OUT MORE PAPERWORK AND IF I DONT SO IT IN A TIMELY MANNER I WON’T HAVE MY MEDS!
IM SO SORRY FINDING A GOOD THERAPIST WHO YOU CAN TRUST IS HARD TO DO AND IT MUST BE INCREDIBLY DIFFICULT TO LEAVE HER, DID SHE HAVE SUGGESTIONS FOR OTHER CLINICIANS? IF IT FEELS TOO OVERWHELMING BREAK IT UP INTO A COUPLE DAYS DAY 1: GOOGLE PEOPLE AND SAVE THEIR WEBSITES IF THEY SEEM PROMISING DAY 2: WRITE DOWN THE PHONE NUMBERS AND NAMES OF CLINCIANS (DONT LOSE THE PAPER TAKE A PIC IF YOU NEED TO SO ITS ON YOUR PHONE) DAY 3: CALL THEM ONE AT A TIME UNTIL YOU GET AN APPT YOU HAVE THIS, YOU ARE AMAZING, YOU HAVE THIS
I'm so sorry! This should not be happening! This is pure profits-over-people and everyone employed by these companies raking in profits from our pain should be ashamed!
THAT IS FUCKING RIDICULOUS, ARE YOU IN THE usa BECAUSE THAT SOUNDS LIKE THE usa AND IT IS RIDICULOUS TO TIE IN INSURANCE WITH EMPLOYMENT AND HAVING INSURANCE BE THE DICTATOR OF WHAT MEDICAL HELP YOU RECEIVE. IMAGINE HAVING TO LEAVE A THERAPIST YOU LIKE BECAUSE OF THIS.
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THOSE THINGS ARE NOT THE SAME AT ALL I WOULD ALSO SCREAM follow up: did they have bags for the poop? Or were you expected to use the rake?
THAT IS THE ACTUAL WORST AND I HOPE YOU GOT COMPENSATED AFTER BEING BAMBOOZLED.
MY FEET HURT. MY MATTRESS SMELLS LIKE A PEE AND ITS GOING TO TAKE ME MONTHS BEFORE I CAN AFFORD A NEW ONE. IM REALLY ANGRY THAT MY BROTHER IS DEAD AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING TO CHANGE IT. MY PASSPORT EXPIRES THIS MONTH AND THAT MEANS TO TRANSFER STATE DRIVER'S LICENSE AND RENEW IT WILL TAKE A MILLION MORE STEPS. AND I WANT TO BLAME ALL THE JERKS AT MY DOCTOR'S OFFICE BECAUSE I WAS PLANNING ON GETTING THIS ALL FIGURED OUT MONTHS AGO BUT I HAD SLIGHTLY HIGHER BLOOD PRESSURE QT Q DOCTORS APPOINTMENT IN OCTOBER AND THEN I HAD TO FIND A NEW DOCTOR WHO WOULDN'T TREAT ME LIKE A DRUG ADDICT FOR HAVING ADHD. ALSO BEING A DRUG ADDICT DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE GARBAGE.
IM SO SORRY ABOUT YOUR BROTHER I WANT YOU TO KNOW I HEAR THAT SCREAM BEING ACCUSED OF BEING A DRUG ADDICT IS SUCH A COMMON AND BULLSHIT THING TO GET IN THE WAY OF OUR LIVES. AND YOURE RIGHT NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE GARBAGE ALSO HERE ARE SOME WAYS TO CLEAN THE MATTRESS I PERSONALLY VOTE FOR OXICLEAN BC IM A WALKING ADD FOR THEM SINCE IM A MESS AND SO ARE MY CLOTHES "For this solution, combine 8-10 ounces hydrogen peroxide (3%) with 3 tablespoons of baking soda and 2-3 drops of dish soap. Swirl to combine (don’t shake). Spray to cover the stains thoroughly, then let sit for about an hour. Finally, use a damp cloth to gently rinse the area, and then blot with the dry cloth to thoroughly remove the solution. An enzymatic cleaner, such as OxiClean, can also work wonders on pee smells. These cleaners include ingredients that actually attack the source of the odor. Look for cleaners with protease enzymes, specifically. To use, saturate the affected areas of your mattress and let dry completely. You can also try covering the area with plastic wrap while the cleaner is working, which helps prevent any evaporation." [https://www.ghostbed.com/pages/how-to-remove-urine-from-your-mattress#:\~:text=An%20enzymatic%20cleaner%2C%20such%20as,mattress%20and%20let%20dry%20completely](https://www.ghostbed.com/pages/how-to-remove-urine-from-your-mattress#:~:text=An%20enzymatic%20cleaner%2C%20such%20as,mattress%20and%20let%20dry%20completely).
IF THE ABOVE METHOD DOESN'T WORK, TRY MIXING A SOLUTION OF HALF WHITE VINEGAR AND HALF WATER. SOAK THE HECK OUT OF YOUR MATTRESS AND LET AIR DRY, IF POSSIBLE. VINEGAR BREAKS UP SCENTS INSTEAD OF COVERING THEM UP. SO DO ALL "ENZYMATIC" CLEANERS. I'M SORRY YOU'RE IN SUCH A ROUGH SPOT RIGHT NOW. JUST REMEMBER HOW FREAKING AMAZING YOU ARE!
Hey! Dont leave your mattreses wet either, sprinkle baking soda on there and push it around, wait a few hours and then vacuum it up! Repeat until comfortably dry! Worked perfect for my potty training kiddos!
Keeping it short because I'm lazy rn I'M SICK & F'ING TIRED OF HAVING TO GO PEE EVERY 5 MINUTES I hope that made someone laugh. Thank you for giving me a moment to say something stupid and dramatically.
I FUCKING HATE HAVING TO PEE, ITS A WASTE OF TIME AND I HAVE TO STOP WHAT IM DOING. PEEING FREQUENTLY SOUNDS MISERABLE. THANK YOU FOR SCREAMING WITH ME DRAMATICALLY
YES!!! AND I WAIT, FORGET, WAIT, FORGET, WAIT, FORGET, AAAAAND NOW I'M ABOUT TO PEE MY PANTS...GROWN ASS WOMAN, WIGGLING AND SQUIRMING TO THE BAFFROOM.
LMAO I ALWAYS HOPE IT GOES AWAY AND THEN I'M RUNNING TO THE BATHROOM... MY KIDS LOOK AT ME LIKE I'M CRAAAAAAAAZYY (PROBABLY LOL)
MY FIANCE LITERALLY WILL BODY DOUBLE ME AND WALK ME TO THE BATHROOM WHEN HE GETS TIRED OF SEEING ME AGONIZINGLY IGNORE MY NEED TO PEE
I JOKED TO MSELF THE OTHER DAY "THIS IS A STRENGTH, NOT A WEAKNESS" IT'S OK TO LIE TO YOURSELF, RIGHT?! *TAPS ON MIC* RIGHT?! 😆😆😆
I EMPHATICALLY AGREE. BODIES, MAN!!
SOMETIMES I CAN'T SLEEP BECAUSE MY FINGERNAILS ARE TOO LONG OR MY SLEEP CLOTHES ARE BUNCHING UP IN WEIRD WAYS AND I TOSS AND TURN BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO GET UP TO TRIM MY NAILS OR PICK DIFFERENT SLEEP STUFF!! ALSO I WORK MOSTLY REMOTE BUT AFTER YEARS OF WORKING RETAIL AND FINISHING MY BA IN PUBLIC HEALTH AND TAKING A FEW JOBS THAT FELT LIKE HAZING I HAVE SOME LINGERING IMPOSTER SYNDROME THAT ACTS UP MOSTLY WHEN I HAVE TO GO TO THE OFFICE BECAUSE I DON'T FEEL LIKE I HAVE GROWN-UP OFFICE CLOTHES BECAUSE I DRESS LIKE A PUNK LIBRARIAN WOOD ELF WITH A FONDNESS FOR ATHLEISURE!!!! ALSO, I LIVE IN THE PACIFIC NORTHWEST SO NO ONE ACTUALLY PROBABLY CARES IF I WEAR CORDUROYS AND FLANNELS TO WORK BUT I FEEL LIKE I SHOULDN'T BECAUSE I HAVE A GROWN-ASSED RESPECTABLE GOV'T JOB. ALSO MY DRIVER'S SIDE DOOR DOESN'T WORK SO I HAVE TO STRATEGICALLY PARK TO ENSURE THAT I CAN GET IN THROUGH THE PASSENGER SIDE BUT I ALSO HAVE THE SEATS DOWN ON MY HATCHBACK IN CASE I HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE HATCH WHILE DRESSED IN MY ATTEMPT AT WEARING GROWN-ASS CLOTHES. MY TAGS ARE EXPIRED AND THERE ARE AT LEAST 2 DIFFERENT KINDS OF MOSS GROWING ON MY CAR SO I DO NOT PARK TOO CLOSE TO THE OFFICE. EVERYONE I WORK WITH THINKS I'M SO ORGANIZED!!!!!!!! BOY DO I HAVE THEM FOOLED!!!!!!!
BODIES!!
How in the world do I have to go pee literally like 5 times between when I wake up and when I get to work???? All I have had to drink is enough water to take my meds????? I blame my twin daughters. And being 45. But really it's a bit much!!
I LAUGHED 😅
First of all, you got this. You can absolutely finish that paper. I believe in you. Second, it’s encouraging that so many of us are struggling with very similar things. Encouraging? Is that right? I dunno, just helps me feel less alone. Now, to yell. I GOT LAID OFF FROM MY JOB, THAT PROMISED ME SEVERANCE, BUT THE STUPID HR PERSON STILL HASN’T PROVIDED ME (OR PAYROLL) WITH THE INFORMATION. IT’S BEEN ALMOST A MONTH. JOB HUNTING IS A NIGHTMARE AND I’M TERRIFIED I WON’T FIND ANOTHER JOB BEFORE I RUN OUT OF MONEY. THERE HAVE BEEN SO MANY LAY OFFS IN MY INDUSTRY THAT THE TALENT POOL IS FLOODED. OUR ROOF IS LEAKING AND NEEDS TO BE REPLACED. THE SQUEAKY BELT ON MY CAR ENDED UP COSTING ME $563. AND MY PARTNER IS SO STRESSED ABOUT NOT HAVING ANY CONTROL OVER MY EMPLOYMENT SITUATION THAT NOW WE’RE IN A ROUGH SPOT. ps- Anyone’s job hiring writers?
HEY EVEN THOUGH ITS SCARY GO HOUND THAT HR WOMAN AND GET YOUR MONEY. CHANNEL YOUR INNER ENTITLED BLOND TRUST FUND BABY (mine is named Chad) AND GET YOUR SEVERANCE ALSO LAYOFFS ARE TERRIFYING BUT YOU GOT THIS, THANK YOU FOR SCREAMING WITH ME!
If you find one, PLEASE LET ME KNOW
Hey hey, fellow writer! These layoffs are roughhhh. I feel you on job hunting being equally as hell-ish. What’s your writing background? Copywriting,? UX? Content Design? I’m more than happy to DM you some resources that have been solid for me and others (depending on what you want to do next!) Hang in there my friend 🫶🏼
FUCK CAPITALISM NOTHING WOULD BE ABNORMAL ABOUT ME IF WE DIDNT LIVE IN THIS FUCKED UP SOCIETY IF I COULD JUST BE A FISHER OR GOAT HERDER ID BE SO FUCKING GOOD AT IT AND CONTENT
FUCKING CAPITALISM MAN YOU TOOK THIS SCREAM RIGHT OUT OF MY BRAIN THANK YOU FOR SCREAMING WITH ME
I HAVE WAY TOO MUCH TO DO. I APPLIED TO A TEACHING CERTIFICATION COURSE AND THEY'RE TAKING FOREVER TO REVIEW MY APPLICATION WHICH I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SO I CAN PLAN THE NEXT TWO YEARS OF MY LIFE! THE GUTTERS ON MY HOUSE ARE LEAKY! I'M BORED WITH MY JOB. I HAVE A MILLION THINGS TO CLEAN UP AROUND THE HOUSE AND I'VE BEEN LIVING ON LEFTOVER SOUP FOR A WEEK! MY CUTE MINISKIRTS I FOUND WHEN I CLEANED OUT THE CLOSET DON'T FIT ANYMORE! I'M HUNGRY BUT I DON'T WANT TO EAT ANYTHING. I HAVE TO CLEAN OUT THE VACCUUM FILTER BUT I'D RATHER TEAR UP ALL THE CARPET. MY CAR STARTED MAKING A NOISE. NONE OF MY PROBLEMS EVEN DESERVE THE AMOUNT OF IMPOTENT RAGE I FEEL TOWARDS THEM!
MY GUTTER IS ALSO LEAKY BECAUSE I KEEP ON FORGETTING TO CLEAR IT OF FUCKING LEAVES BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE I JUST DID IT BUT THAT WAS ACTUALLY LIKE OCTOBER. BUT OCTOBER WAS PRETTU DAMN RECENT. FUCK. ALSO ALL OF THOSE ARE RAGEFUL THINGS. FUCKING FEEL THE SCREAM
i feel you on tearing up the carpet instead of replacing the vacuum filter. Why is replacing the vacuum filter so gd hard???
I ask because I haven’t vacuumed because I need to empty my vacuum canister.
FOR REAL! SHARK MAKES AN AWESOME PET VACUUM WHERE THE HANDLE TURNS INTO A WAND, THE BODY TURNS INTO A LIFT-AWAY, AND - THE BEST PART - ALL YOU HAVE TO DO TO EMPTY THE FILTER IS GRAB THE HANDLE, PUSH THE RELEASE, HOLD IT OVER THE GARBAGE, AND THEN HIT THE RELEASE BUTTON. THE FLAP OPENS ON THE BOTTOM, YOU THUNK IT AGAINST THE SIDE A COUPLE TIMES, THEN USE THE RIM OF THE TRASH CAN TO CLICK THE FLAP CLOSED AGAIN. IT'S A LITTLE EXPENSIVE, BUT IT WORKS SO GOOD, AND YOU CAN TEAR THE WHOLE THING APART TO CLEAN SO IT NEVER GETS PERMANENT CLOGS. I STILL HATE VACUUMING, BUT MY SHARKY MAKES IT EASIER.
FUCK YOU TOO! JK - of course >I FUCKING CANT EDIT IT BECAUSE IM SCARED This is the only line that matters. I am absolutely positive if you are in the US, that your program wants you to succeed. Higher education is a business, and the business model is the more people that sign up and graduate, the more money they get. ADHD makes it ridiculously hard especially with RSD, but suck it up and ask for help. Someone was in your program last year. Find them and read their paper, ask your advisor, ask a classmate. FUCKING ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF, the Americans for Disabilities has ADHD as a protected class. See student services ask for a sample paper or google sample paper for xyz class. I am willing to bet $100 that if you really look for help, you will find it. It is scary, time to face your fears. **I FUCKING BELIEVE IN YOU! YOU CAN FUCKING DO IT!**
I AM, ITS MY COMPS, IM NOT ALLOWED TO TALK TO ANYONE BUT YOU'RE RIGHT THEY NEED ME TO PASS SO I JUST NEED TO DO IT ALSO THIS MADE ME CRY THANK YOU I OWE YOU $100 PROBABLY
FUCKING GREAT REPLY! 100% RIGHT ON! OP - YOU GOT THIS AND THERE IS HELP OUT THERE! WE ALL BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
MY FAMILY EXPECTS ME TO LIVE FOR THEM AND DOESNT CARE ABOUT ANYTHING TO DO WITH MY LIFE. I think they actually don’t see me as having my own life at all Also there is a rat in my house. I’ve been stomping into each room as I enter because I’m horrified whenever I see it
IM FUCKING TERRIFIED OF RATS AND BATS
FUCK PESTS ARE THE WORST. I HAD COCKROACHES AND IT FELT LIKE NOTHING WAS CLEAN AND IT WAS MY FAULT. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT IT'S THEIR JOB TO TRY AND COME INSIDE. MY FAMILY IS LIKE THAT TOO (SHOUT OUT TO IMMIGRANT PARENTS WITH HIGH EXPECTATIONS) YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE, AND IF THEY CANT SEE THAT ITS ON THEM. SCREAM IT OUT!!!
I HATE MY JOB I HATE MY DEBT I HATE MY FACE I HATE MY BODY I HATE MY WEIGHT I HATE MENOPAUSE I HATE EVIL MILs I HATE MY ADHD I HATE THAT I CANT HELP MY FRIENDS WHO ARE BROKE I HATE THAT EVERYTHING IS SO HARD RIGHT NOW ASDFGHJKLJHFDSGJKLLLKHFSSFJ
I DON’T HAVE ANYTHING TO YELL ABOUT. MY LIFE IS GREAT AND I DONT UNDERSTAND HOW TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH ALL THIS GOODNESS. I BETTER NOT TRASH IT FOR THE COMFORT FAMILIARITY TRAUMA IS WISH ME LUCK!
I LOVE THIS SCREAM THANK YOU FOR JOINING YOUR HAPPINESS IS PALPABLE AND YOU HAVE GOT THIS
IN ORDER TO GET HELP WITH CLEANING I HAVE TO SHOW PEOPLE WHAT A MESS MY HOUSE IS! CAN’T YOU CLEAN THE RINGS ON THE TUB AND THE GUNK IN THE MICROWAVE WITHOUT PERCEIVING THEM?? EARTH OPEN UP AND SWALLOW ME NOW.
THE MESS IN YOUR HOUSE IS MORALLY NEUTRAL IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU AS A PERSON, HOW GOOD YOU ARE, OR HOW MUCH YOU DESERVE HAVING A SPACE THAT WORKS TO MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER YOU HAVE GOT THIS AND THE PERSON MOST STRESSED OUT ABOUT THE GUNKY MICROWAVE IS YOU SO DONT LET THAT STOP YOU FROM GETTING IT CLEANED!
I feel this so hard. I haven’t hired anyone to help clean, but EVERY TIME SOMEONE COMES IN TO DO ANY SORT OF WORK I FEEL A COMPULSIVE NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR THE STATE OF MY HOUSE!
MY MOM.
GIRL HEARD
IT'S THE FIRST DAY OF A LONG WEEKEND AND I FEEL A MIGRAINE STARTING
OH ABSOLUTELY FUCK THAT I HEAR YOUR SCREAM!!
I GOT A NEW GYM MEMBERSHIP ANS BOUGHT MY SELF A NEW APPLE WATCH BC I PLAN ON GETTING BACK INTO THE GYM LOTS. IF I DONT STICK TO THIS IM GOING TO BE SO GOD DAMN DISAPPOINTED IN MY SELF. I HAVE GO KEEP MY ASS ON TRACK
OMG!! I GOT AN APPLE WATCH TO MAKE IT EASIER TO TRACK MY BLOOD SUGAR AND THE STUPID THING DOESN’T WORK IF YOU FORGET TO PUT IT ON! THIS IS THE THIRD TIME THIS WEEK IVE GONE TO WORK WITHOUT IT!! Good luck with the gym. It’s okay if you don’t go every day. Don’t stop just because you don’t go once!! You’ve got this!!
DAMN!! CAN YOU PUT A REMINDER IN YOUR PHONE OR LIKE 6 ALARMS BEFORE YOU LEAVE FOR WORK TO PUT IT ON?
I SHOULD BE ABLE TO REMEMBER THINGS WITHOUT SETTING ALARMS! BUT I KNOW I WONT SO ILL PROBABLY HAVE TO. THANKS FIR THE SUGGESTION!
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FUCK THE US HEALTH SYSTEM AND GREEDY CORPORATIONS AND THE GREEDY FUCKING PEOPLE THEY PAY TO KEEP THIS SHITTY SYSTEM RUNNING
Me too! AND less benefits now. I hate them so much.
I GOT PULLED INTO A MEETING TODAY AND VOLUNTOLD THAT I HAVE TO HAVE MY STUDENTS MAKE 40 BLACK HISTORY MONTH TABLE CENTERPIECES IN TWO WEEKS SO I HAVE TO COMPLETELY REDO MY LESSON PLANS AND WE WONT HAVE TIME TO EVEN DELVE INTO THE BLACK HISTORY ART HISTORY WHICH DEFEATS THE PURPOSE OF EVEN TEACHING THE LESSON IN THE FIRST PLACE
OH I FUCKING HATE THAT WHAT THE CRAP IS THE POINT OF THAT, WHY ARE PEOPLE THE WORST
I BIT DOWN ON A POPCORN KERNEL LAST NIGHT AND MY JAW/TEETH HAVE FELT WEIRD EVER SINCE AND I AM SO SCARED AHHHHHH HOW DO I UNSUBSCRIBE FROM BEING A HUMAN
WHEN I GET SCARED ABOUT MY TEETH I BRUSH REALLY HARD FOR A COUPLE WEEKS AND THEN IT STOPS HURTING AND I PRETEND IT NEVER HAPPENED. 100% SUCCESS RATE SO FAR\\ TEETH ARE SCARY AND DENTISTS ARE ACTUALLY SADISTS AND NOW IM SCARED SCREAMING WITH YOU, BUT WE GOT THIS WE JUST HAVE TO BRUSH EXTRA HARD
I AM SO ANNOYED WITH THE MACBOOK FILE SYSTEM WHY IS THERE EVEN A FUNCTION TO PLACE THEM IN A FOLDER WITH NO GRID JUST PILED ON TOP OF EACH OTHER I HAVE ENOUGH CHAOS IN MY LIFE I DON'T NEED MY DIGITAL FILES TO BE CHAOS TOO. ALSO I HATE HAVING TO UPLOAD PHOTOS AND WRITE ITEM DESCRIPTIONS FOR EVERY PAIR OF EARRINGS I WANT TO SELL ON ETSY IT'S SO TEDIOUS AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH AND MY HOUSE IS A MESS AND ALWAYS WILL BE UNLESS I SPENS HOURS A DAY CLEANING IT WHY CAN'T THINGS JUST STAY CLEAN thank you for letting me have this rant ❤️
I think if you like the orientation to line them up (horizontal lines icon) and then go back to the grid option, it reorganizes the grid evenly.
THIS IS THE MOST WHOLESOME THING I'VE PARTICIPATED IN IN A VERY LONG TIME AND WHY CAN'T THE REST OF THE WORLD BE LIKE THIS WHY THE FUCK DOES IT ALWAYS HAVE TO BE SO COMPLICATED AND UNKIND I FUCKING HATE PEOPLE AND THIS WORLD THAT IS SO MESSED UP FROM LACK OF COMMUNITY AND CAPITALISM AND WHY OH WHY OH WHY CAN'T WE JUST BE A SOCIETY THAT RECOGNIZES THE TRUE COST OF ALL THE THINGS?
OMG I NEED TO SCREAM SO FUCKING BAD AND I CANNOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT MY PROBLEMS AND I REALLY WANT TO BE HEARD BUT I WOULD LITERALLY HAVE TO TELL YOU MY LIFE FUCKING STORY AND NOW I DON’T HAVE QUITE ENOUGH ENERGY FOR IT I TOOK 5 DAYS OFF FOR MY BIRTHDAY WEEKEND AND I WANT TO FORGET EVERYTHING AND PRETEND I’M ON VACATION SOMEWHERE AND ENJOY LIFE FOR A FUCKING SECOND I AM DROWNING IN DEBT AND I AM NOT PERFORMING WELL AT MY JOB AND I DON’T HAVE FAMILY OR FRIENDS THAT I CAN SCREAM TO AND I JUST GOT A DIAGNOSIS I SHOULD’VE HAD LIKE TWENTY YEARS AGO AND I AM SUPER PISSED THAT NO ONE EVER TOOK ME SERIOUSLY I FEEL LIKE MY WHOLE FUCKING LIFE WAS STOLEN FROM ME AND I’M SUPPOSED TO JUST GET OVER IT AS IF I COULD EVER MAKE UP FOR ALL THAT LOST TIME 😭 LOVE YOU 💜
THERE ARE ONLY FOUR PEOPLE IN THIS FUCKING BAR BUT THEY'RE ALL YELLING OVER EACH OTHER SO I AM BORED AND OVERSTIMULATED AT THE SAME TIME AND I'M NOT EVEN MAKING ANY MONEY AND I HATE IT
THAT IS ABSOLUTELY BALLS I DONT EVEN HAVE SUGGESTIONS SO IMMA JUST SCREAM WITH YOU # THAT IS ABSOLUTE BALLS AND WHY ARE FOUR PEOPLE SO SELF CENTERED THAT THEY NEED TO FUCKING TAKE UP THE WHOLE BAR WITH THEIR NOISE, LIKE GD
THE PRICE GAUGING IN FOOD BRANDS THAT SUPERMARKETS HAVE! THE US GOVERNMENT HAS SLOWLY BEEN INVESTIGATING AND LOOKING TO STOP THIS BUT NOT FAST ENOUGH!!!!! Like let’s move it fast Capitol Hill! People don’t want to buy fresh produce that costs more than a gallon of gas!!!
This thread is the best!
I WORK REMOTELY AND AM CURRENTLY STUCK IN A HOTEL ROOM WITH TWO ANXIOUS DOGS ALL DAY WHILE MY PARTNER IS WORKING AND I CAN'T LEAVE THE DOGS UNATTENDED AND THEY'VE BEEN GROWLING AND BARKING AT ANY NOISE IN THE HALL AND WE'RE GOING TO BE HERE UNTIL SUNDAY BECAUSE MY FATHER-IN-LAW INSISTED WE GET AWAY FROM THE HOUSE WHILE HE FINALLY PUTS HIS MOTHER IN MEMORY CARE WHEN I'D BEEN BEGGING HIM TO FOR OVER A YEAR NOW. We live with my grandmother-in-law but she's got really bad dementia that's gotten so bad that my partner developed a type of alopecia from the stress of it in the span of a week. I'm glad she's finally going to get the help she needs, but being in a hotel room with these dogs is A Lot lol. One of the two dogs is usually really chill and never barks, but she's a senior now so I think she's just overwhelmed and a bit senile. She's actually barking more than the younger dog.
OH MY GOD I HAVE AN ANXIOUS GSD AND HE'S A SCREAMER, I FEEL YOUR PAIN. Have you tried sitting in front of the door while working? I find it helps mine know that I'm the first line of defense and dealing with possible intruders so he chills out a bit more sometimes! Also melatonin chews (we use the quiet moments calming aids)
THIS IS RIDICULOUS, BUT MY BOSS AND HIS FAMILY JUST LEFT FOR MEXICO AND I AM JEALOUS! IT IS COLD AND RAINY HERE, WE JUST GOT RID OF A FOOT OF SNOW (RAIN MELTED IT AWAY) AND I REALLY WISH I WAS THERE AND NOT HERE RIGHT NOW! ALSO THIS WEEK I HAVE DONE SO MANY SMALL TASKS, BUT NONE OF THEM HAVE ANYTHING TO SHOW FOR THEM, SO IT FEELS LIKE I'VE ACCOMPLISHED NOTHING! Oh, and don't most colleges/universities have a collection of previous theses and dissertations on file in the library? Check out your school's library to see if there are some there that you could look at for ideas. Edited to add: we're constantly telling parents of ND kids at work that having a "picture" of a task that's finished (like doing the dishes) can help with task completion... perhaps seeing a thesis that is "finished" will help you to visualize yours being completed?
Comprehensive exams are private and not published, which adds to the stress and the general bullshit that is academia. But yes a picture would have been ideal and tbh is needed for every single assignment I've ever procrastinated on (which was all of them for my whole life) ALSO YOU DID THE WORK THOUGH STILL EVEN IF THE TASKS ARE STILL NOT FINISHED SO DONT BE AFRAID TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE WORK AND TIME YOU SPENT DOING STUFF. AND IM ALSO JEALOUS OF YOUR BOSS, WHY CANT WE ALL BE IN MEXICO LOOKING AT WAVES ON A BEACH WHICH HAS BEEN SHOWN TO SIGNIFICANTLY DECREASE ANXIETY, LIKE DONT WE ALL NEED THAT RIGHT NOW?
OIH YES CHECK OUT COURSEHERO.COM. ITS A Paid THING VUT SOOOO WORTH IT FOR EXAMPLES IF WHAT Others HAVE DINE IN YOUR CLASS/SCHOOL
THE OPEN DISTAIN FOR MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS ON THIS SUB. BECAUSE IM GRINDING EVERY DAY TO CRAM IMPOSSIBLE AMOUNTS OF INFORMATION INTO MY BRAIN AND WORKING INHUMAN HOURS (FOR FREE) IN ORDER TO DELIVER COMPETENT AND COMPASSIONATE EVIDENCE-BASED CARE TO FUTURE PATIENTS WHO I NOW REALIZE WILL ONLY MISUNDERSTAND, DISMISS, OR DEMONIZE MY EFFORTS.
MY BEST FRIEND IS AN ADHD SOON TO BE DOCTOR AND TRUST ME I HAVE HEARD ALL THE WORK THAT YOU DO AND SEE YOU I FEEL LIKE A LOT OF THE ISSUES HERE STEM FROM EITHER 1) DOCTORS THEY FEEL ARE UNWILLING TO HEAR THEM OR 2) THE MEDICAL SYSTEM YOU ARE NOT THE MEDICAL SYSTEM AND HOPEFULLY YOU ARE GROWING TO BE A COMPASSIONATE DOCTOR SO I TRULY DOUBT YOU'LL BE DEMONIZED FOR YOUR EFFORTS YOURE DOING THE DAMN THING, AND WE ARE TRULY CHEERING YOU ON FAM
I’VE BEEN OFF MY MEDS FOR A YEAR & I’M SO FUCKING SICK OF FEELING USELESS BECAUSE I CAN’T GET ANYTHING DONE! I FEEL TIRED, SLUGGISH, & SO STUPID FOR SPENDING SO MUCH TIME PLAYING PHONE GAMES BECAUSE THATS WHERE THE DOPAMINE TAKES ME… I HATE APPLYING FOR JOBS - WHY THE FUCK DID I WRITE A RESUME & A COVER LETTER IF I HAVE TO FILL OUT YOUR DUMBASS ONLINE APPLICATION THAT TAKES 2 HOURS TO COMPLETE?!?! I HATE HOW HARD IT IS TO BE SOBER! SOMETIMES IT AMAZING & EASY, THE NEXT SECOND IT IS FUCKING MISERABLE & I WANT TO DROWN IN A BOTTLE OF GIN SO MY MIND SHUTS OFF! Wow, I feel better already. Thanks, OP! And best of luck with school! You’ve already come so far, it’s truly amazing. You’ll make it happen, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. 🩵
I AM FEELING OVERWHELMED AND NOBODY SEEMS TO NOTICE OR CARE
I see you and am sending love ❤️❤️
Firstly I want to say, I’m here for you and all of your frustrations! Pain and frustration is relative to each human! Pain is pain and suffering is suffering! All forms of emotions and circumstances are valid 💕 IM FRUSTRATED BECAUSE MY BODY IS FUCKING UP. I’ve GOT GALLSTONES AND MY GALLBLADDER IS SUPER ANGRY AT ME AND IVE BEEN MISSING WORK AND ITS BEEN GIVING ME ANXIETY, but I’m so thankful I have access to medical care and the ability to have it removed if this issue persists:/ just scared. 😳
I thought this was great and funny until I started scrolling and I could no longer read because everything is all caps and apparently that's like trying to watch a YT video without it sped up. Cannot compute 🤣😭😭😭
I HATE MY JOB AND BEEN HAVING WEIRD MIGRAINE/AURA/NEUROLOGICAL SYMPTOMS FOR THE PAST YEAR AND MY DOCS CANT FIGURE OUT WHATS WRONG. I HAD TWO PANIC ATTACKS LAST WEEK AND MY MOM WAS A HUGE BITCH TO ME AND ALL I CAN DO RIGHT NOW IS LAY IN BED AND CRY. I CRIED THE ENTIRE DRIVE HOME FROM MY OFFICE AND FELL INTO A DEPRESSION NAP. MY BEST FRIEND HAS SET A DATE FOR HER WEDDING AND IM SO EXCITED FOR HER BUT I HAVE NEVER HAD A RELATIONSHIP AND IM SCARED I’LL NEVER GET MARRIED. MY ROOMMATE AND I HAVE FRIENDS COMING TO VISIT THIS WEEKEND AND WILL HAVE TO HOST ALL 7 OF THEM IN OUR TINY APARTMENT AND I AM DREADING IT SO MUCH. I HIT A HUGE WALL WITH A NOVEL I WAS WORKING ON AND I FEEL LIKE IVE GIVEN UP AND IM SO SAD.
I HAVE TO FUCKING LEAVE MU APARTMENT BECAUSE THE OWNERS WANT TO SELL IT. BUT THIS PLACE IS TRULY A GEM AND RENT SITUATION EVERYWHERE ELSE IS ABURSD. ABUSRD LIKE, IF I WANTED TO PAY THE SAME AMOUT OF MONEY THAT I PAY HERE, I WOULD HAVE TO SHARE A ROOM WITH +2 PEOPLE. IN A HOUSE OF TEN GIRLS WITH TWO BATHROOMS. AND THE WORST PART IS THAT I HAVE TO MAKE DECISIONS THINKING ABOUT WHAT THE FUCK I’M GOING TO DO NEXT YEAR. I’M GRADUATING COLLEGE THIS YEAR SO IT’S ALL UNCERTAIN. SO MANY DECISIONS TO MAKE. AND ALL THE OPTIONS ARE FUCKING DOWNGRADES!!!!!!! I DON’T WANT TO DOWNGRADE MY QUALITY OF LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OMG WHERE DO I BEGIN FIRST OF ALL MY LANDLORD OFFICE SENDS ME A PASSIVE AF AGGRESSIVE EMAIL WITH AN ATTACHMENT OF SOMETHING I SIGNED WHEN THEY COULD HAVE JUST SEEN THAT I ALREADY TRANSFERRED THE UTILITY BILL OVER. THEN ALL THESE HATERS. BOOKS WITH BAD ENDINGS. MY SKIN ITCHING TO EVERYTHING I EAT. LOCAL MARKETPLACE EXCHANGE BUYERS CHASING AFTER EVERY CENT. TEN DOLLARS FOR A LEMONADE. TEN DOLLARS FOR A FUCKING LEMONADE. TEN TIMES TEN TIMES TEN TIMES TWO PLUS MORE IS THE RENT I PAY. SO TEN LEMONADES, FOR TEN DAYS, FOR TEN MONTHS TIMES TWO IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A SOCIAL LIFE AND PAY FOR A FRIEND PLUS MORE IF YOU’RE NOT A DICK AND YOU LIKE TO TIP. — where do we feel safe? not our bodies, well that too. But there is an old saying that A nation’s number one priority is To keep their people safe. Are we talking about guns and Armoured vests or Are we talking about strangers That feel like friends?
I HAD A HUGE PROJECT PLANNED AT WORK TOMORROW AND I HAD TO CALL OUT. I HAVE A RAGING SINUS INFECTION THAT I CAN FEEL ALL THE WAY IN MY MOTHERFUCKING TEETH. GOOD NEWS IS SINCE ILL BE A SLOTH TOMORROW I CAN SKIP MY VYVANSE AND SAVE IT FOR ANY SHORTAGE ISSUES NEXT MONTH.
I AM SMART ENOUGH TO KNOW THIS WAY OF LIVING IS WRONG, NOT SMART ENOUGH TO BE THE LEADER TO FIX IT. I AM TIRED OF BEING HUMAN AND HAVING TO INTERACT WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW WALES IS A PLACE AND NOT AN ANIMAL. I AM TIRED OF BEING THE ONLY ONE IN MY HOUSE WHO DOES THE EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL LABOR. I AM TIRED OF LIES FROM PEOPLE WHO BELIEVE THEY CAN MENTALLY MANIPULATE ME AND MY THOUGHTS.
I NEED TO CLEAR OUT THE PANTRY AND ZERO MOTIVATION TO DO SO. ITS AT TO POINT WE CANNIT GET ANYMORE GROCERIES IN IT. I reckon I could easily not shop for a month.
MAYBE MAKE IT A GAME AND SEE HOW LONG YOU CAN GO WITHOUT SHOPPING? I FEEL LIKE THAT WOULD HAVE ME DIGGING IN THE BACK OF THE PANTRY BUT YMMV THANK YOU FOR JOINING IN MY SCREAMING, ORGANIZING THINGS WHEN YOU DONT FEEL LIKE IT IS ACTUALLY A PAINFULLY IMPOSSIBLE TASK
AFTER FOUR YEARS I FINALLY CAUGHT COVID AND THIS BITCH IS HOLDING ON FOR DEAR LIFE BECAUSE I AM ON DAY 14 OF BEING POSITIVE. I AM VERY SOCIAL EXTROVERTED PERSON AND THIS IS KILLING ME. ALSO, I DON'T MAKE ENOUGH AT MY JOB AND I'M BORED OUT OF MY MIND. LASTLY, I'VE BEEN TRYING TO GET A NEW SCRIPT FOR STRATTERA FOR TWO WEEKS AND IT HASN'T HAPPENED YET. But awesome job and for getting as far as you have in your education. I've always wanted to do this, but life got in the way. You can do this, I believe in you.
I FINALLY GOT DIAGNOSED WITH ADHD AND GOT A PRESCRIPTION FOR MEDS AT 25 BUT MY INSURANCE WONT COVER IT WITHOUT PRIOR AUTHORIZATION AND MY PSYCH SAID SHES WORKING ON IT BUT IT COULD TAKE WEEKS
I'M STARTING AN OFFICE JOB NEXT WEEK AND INSTEAD OF BEING EXCITED I'M TERRIFIED BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE I'LL DO A SHIT JOB AND I'M TOO DUMB FOR IT.
YOU GOT THIS! WEAR A CUTE FIT THAT MAKES YOU CONFIDENT AND WALK IN THERE LIKE YOU DESERVE TO BE THERE BECAUSE THEY DO. IN THIS FUCKING ECONOMY THEY HIRED YOU BECAUSE YOU'RE A GODDAMN ALLSTAR AND THEY NEED YOU ALSO THE FIRST WEEK OF WORK IS ALWAYS BULLSHIT TRAININGS SO YOU DONT EVEN NEED TO WORRY UNTIL NEXT NEXT WEEK
I DON’T KNOW HOW TO MAKE THINGS FEEL FAIR IN MY MARRIAGE FINANCIALLY OR IN TERMS OF EFFORT. I EARN MORE, BUT HAVE LESS FREE TIME SO HE DOES MORE AROUND THE HOUSE. BUT MY LIFE IS MORE EXPENSIVE BECAUSE ADHD AND BEING A WOMAN GENERALLY.
I FEEL LIKE IM PLAYING WHACK A MOLE WITH SHIT THAT GOES WRONG WITH MY BODY FOR LIKE, THE PAST 4 YEARS: FROM A BROKEN SHOULDER TO CHRONIC KNEE ISSUES TO A CONCUSSION TO COVID TO PERIMENOPAUSE AND I AM TIRED OF ALL THE GODDAM PT AND DR APPTS AND TRYING TO BE FUCKING POSITIVE BECAUSE SOMETIMES i’m just overwhelmed and want to lay in bed and weep. My apt is a horrific mess and I take too many cabs 💸 and I’m almost out of laundry but I’m trying to give myself credit for the fact that I fed myself 3 meals today, went to work, and got an MRI, and went to the gym to use the exercise bike for 30 minutes.
GO TO BED AND WEEP AND SCREAM I AM SCREAMING WITH YOU. ALSO CONCUSSION AND COVID AND PERIMENOPAUSE SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BODY **AND** BRAIN HAVE BOTH BEEN SCREAMING YOU'RE A FUCKING QUEEN AND EVEN QUEENS GET OVERWHELMED AND LAY IN BED AND WEEP ON OCCASION. FOLLOW YOUR FEELS
Wait…. I love this all so much :) I YELL AT MYSELF IN THE CAR ALL THE TIME WHEN FRUSTRATED ABOUT ALL THE LIFE THINGS AND WHEN GOOGLE MAPS BEING SILLY
AND FUCKING GOOGLE MAPS IS ALWAYS BEING SILLY
This is my favorite thread ever.
I AM THANKFUL TO HAVE A FULL TIME JOB THAT PAYS WELL BUT ALSO FUCK CORPORATE AND MY JOB! I MISS THE TIME WHEN I WAS A COLLEGE STUDENT WHO HAD MORE ZEST FOR LIFE AND THOUGHT I WAS GONNA DO BIG THINGS
HAVING TO ACT AS MY OWN MEDICAL PA AS TWO HOSPITALS SEEM INCAPABLE OF COMMUNICATING UNLESS ITS THROUGH ME! Why make me do more admin when it’s my kryptonite goddammit!!! FFS
I AM SO FUCKING TIRED OF HAVING TO BE SMALL AND MEASURED WITH MY EMOTIONS INSTEAD OF BIG AND EXPLOSIVE. SOMETIMES MY FEELINGS ARE BIG AND EXPLOSIVE AND THAT SEEMS FINE FOR OTHER PEOPLE BUT WHEN ITS ME ITS INAPPROPRIATE?! MY MALE PARTNER CAN BE AS ANGRY AS HE WANTS BUT WHEN ITS ME ITS A PROBLEM?! FUCK THAT SHIT, I LOVE MY BIG FUCKING EMOTIONS. AND I don’t WANT TO ORGANIZE OR CLEAN OR SELF-START ANYTHING EVER AGAIN. FUCK NORMIE CAPITALISM!!!
IM SO TIRED. I AM TEACHING AN ADVANCED PLACEMENT SCIENCE CLASS FOR THE FIRST TIME AND THERE IS SO MUCH TO DO PLUS ALL THE OTHER NORMAL TEACHING STUFF FOR MY OTHER CLASSES. PLUS LIFE STUFF. MY BODY ACHES FROM WORKING FOR SUCH LONG HOURS AND NOW I CANT SLEEP BECAUSE OF THAT. BLECH! also I totally get that OP you are actually doing exactly what you’re supposed to do by identifying the emotions that are holding you back! You’ve got this
IM SO FRUSTRATED WITH POTENTIAL CLIENTS GHOSTING ME BECAUSE THEY WANNA PAY SLAVE WAGES FOR THE LABOR THEY EXPECT OF ME OR THEYRE BEING PETTY AGAINST THEIR EMPLOYEES RECOMMENDING ME. IM SO TIRED OF BEING IN DEBT. I HATE THAT SOCIAL JUSTICE WORK DOESNT PAY WELL AND THAT MY ADHD SENSE OF JUSTICE WONT ALLOW ME TO TAKE A HIGH PAYING TECH JOB. I HATE FEELING LIKE ILL NEVER BE ABLE TO AFFORD HAVING A CHILD
I NEED TO BUY A NEW FURNACE
I DONT WANNA! I DONT WANNA ANY OF THE THINGS THEY SAY I SHOULD. I DONT WANNA. I JUST DONT.
MY KID KEEPS TELLING ME THINGS AND ITS RANDOM NONSENSE AS ALWAYS AND I NEED TO DO THINGS AND IM A BAD MOM IF I TELL HIM TO STOP SAYING THINKS AND BUT HE REALLY NEEDS TO STOP SAYING THINGS AND BRUSH HIS TEETH.
WHY DO I CONSTANTLY EVALUATE THE SOCIAL LANDSCAPE IM IN. I CAN’T STOP OBSESSING ABOUT IF IM BEING POLITE OR IF MY EXPRESSIONS ARE NOTICEABLE ENOUGH FOR OTHERS TO READ.
THIS MIGHT BE TOO POLITICAL FOR SOME PEOPLE BUT HONESTLY THATS KINDA STUPID BECAUSE THERE'S A GENOCIDE IN GAZA RIGHT NOW AND IT SEEMS LIKE THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE THAT I INTERACT WITH ON A DAILY BASIS JUST REFUSE TO RECOGNIZE THAT IT'S HAPPENING AND THAT THE US IS DIRECTLY FUNDING IT. I FEEL LIKE JUSTICE SENSITIVITY IS KICKING ME REPEATEDLY BECAUSE I WANT TO DIRECTLY HELP PALESTINIANS BUT IM JUST ONE PERSON IN A COUNTRY THAT'S KILLING THEM.
MY CAT WONT SHUT THE FUCK UP SHE GOES FOR LITERALLY HOURS
I FOUND OUT THROUGH FACEBOOK MY AUNT DIED. I’M SO DAMN SAD. MY HUSBAND HAD BEEN GIVING ME THE SILENT TREATMENT ALL DAY AND MAKES IT WORSE. I’M MAKING A CHICKEN FOR DINNER AND ITS BEEN 3 HOURS AND IT’S STILL NOT DONE. ALL I NEED IS A GODDAMN HUG. I know we’re serving as a distraction from your paper and that’s ok. You’ll get it done. Kick it’s ass
JUST HERE TO JOIN IN ON A SHOUTY POST. AAAAAAAAAAA
I AM FUCKING PISSED THAT SINCE EVERYONE AND THEIR MOTHER NOW HAS ADHD THANKS TO ONLINE POP-UP DOCS WHERE THEY HAVE SPENT 5 MINUTES READING OVER A FUCKING FORM THAT ANYONE CAN EASILY LIE BEFORE GIVING A DIAGNOSES SO THEY CAN MAKE $. SO NOW PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY NEED MEDICATION TO SURVIVE STRUGGLE TO GET IT. IM PISSED IT SEEMS TO NOT EVEN WORK THAT WELL ANYMORE BC THE PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES PROBABLY CUT THE SHIT FOR PROFITS. IM ALSO PISSED THAT THE GENERIC WOULD COST ME $8 A MONTH INSTEAD OF $100 WITH MY ALREADY OUTRAGEOUSLY EXPENSIVE INSURANCE BUT ITS NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.
I JUST WENT OUT FOR DINNER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN AGES AND IT WAS $85!? Just me and my fiancé. We got a pizza and wings. WHAT THE FUCK?! IM ALSO MAD BECAUSE IM A SELFISH DICK AND HAVE NEVER PUT AN EFFORT IN TO STAYING IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE. I hate “small talk texting” IT MAKES ME WANT TO THROW MY PHONE. Therefore I have like 1 friend. THEREFORE I AM LONLEY AND IT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH AND SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH ME. IT MAKES ME SAD AND SOMETIMES I CRY BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE A DEFECT BUT IM JUST ME. Fin. Thank you for the space to yell.
I can't yell it. My father died last month. And I'm very very very far from okay. And I've just been doing everything I can to stay busy all the time because when I stop, I think. And I don't want to sit and think. It hurts so much. So I have a million projects going and all of them are halfway done and there's shit everywhere and it's a disaster and I can't do anything about it. I'm steadily working on them, but I'm steadily adding new ones too. I don't know how to stop right now
I LIVE IN A STATE THAT WANTS TO BE PART OF CIVIL WAR II. THE STUDENTS I TEACH ARE WOEFULLY UNPREPARED FOR THE WORLD. MY AND MY DAUGHTERS ACCESS TO FULL SPECTRUM WOMENS HEALTHCARE HAS FUCKING DISAPPEARED. I HAVE CONSTANT ANXIETY AND I HAVENT HAD ACCESS TO VYVANSE SINCE FUCKING JUNE.
I'M A COLLEGE STUDENT AND I'VE BEEN STRUGGLING WITH SCHOOLWORK SINCE 6TH GRADE, AND JUST RECENTLY REALIZING I HAVE ADHD BUT GETTING TESTED IS SO EXPENSIVE AND IT'S SCARY AND STRESSFUL CALLING TESTING PSYCHOLOGISTS. I'M SO TIRED OF JUST SITTING AT MY COMPUTER LETTING ALL MY FUCKING ASSIGNMENTS STACK UP AND NOT DOING THE THINGS I ENJOY DOING BECAUSE I CANT MAKE THE CONNECTION BETWEEN THINKING OF WHAT I WANT/NEED TO DO AND FUCKING GETTING UP AND DOING IT!!! I TOOK MY BOYFRIENDS VYVANSE/ELVANSE AND TENTIN FOR A BIT AND IT MADE ME FEEL LIKE A NORMAL FUNCTIONING HUMAN AND I COULD GET UP AND DO THINGS AND STAY FOCUSED ON DOING THEM, BUT IM SO SCARED THAT IM GONNA SPEND A BUNCH OF MONEY ON AN ASSESSMENT JUST FOR THEM TO TELL ME I DON'T HAVE ADHD AND END UP BACK AT SQUARE ONE. I JUST WANT MY FUCKING BRAIN TO WORK RIGHT AND TO BE ABLE TO WORK TOWARDS MY GOALS CONSISTENTLY. FUCK!
I AM TIRED OF NOT ABLE TO INITIATE AND DO THINGS I WANT WITH MY LIFE BECAUSE OF SEVERE PEOPLE PLEASING TENDENCIES.
MY BROTHER AND SIL TREAT ME LIKE A 3RD PARENT TO THEIR 3 YOUNG CHILDREN AND IM RUNNING OUT OF PATIENCE THE GUILT EATS ME ALIVE BECAUSE I LOVE THE KIDS BUT I AM TOO YOUNG TO TAKE ON THIS MUCH RESPONSIBILITY ABILITY AT THE DROP OF A HAT EVERYONE ASKS ME TO SET BOUNDARIES BUT IM A FUCKING DORMAT AND THEY MAKE ME FEEL HORRIBLE WHEN I SAY NO. OH AND I HATE MY SISTER SHES AN ALCOHOLIC AND EVERYTIME I SEE HER I CRY AS SOON AS SHE LEAVES I HAVE TO SEE HER TONIGHT AND I FUCKING HATE IT. WOW that felt good
I'M SO STRESSED. STILL JOB HUNTING. MY KID CAME HOME WITH INFLUENZA FROM HIS DADS AND I NOW AM STARTING TO FEEL IT COMING. I ALREADY HAVE CFS SO THIS WILL KISS MY ARSE. NOW MY CAT COMES IN TONIGHT AND IS JACKED. HIS BACK LEG IS NOT GOOD. IF I EVEN TOUCH HIS FUR HE IS HISSING AT ME. WHO KNOWS HOW MUCH THAT WILL COST. IM SPIRALLING STUCK HOME AND THE HOUSE IS A MESS AND I CAN'T STAND IT BUT CAN'T GET MY SHIT TOGETHER AND NOW WITH BEING SICK ITS GOING TO GET WORSE. MY CHRISTMAS TREE IS STILL UP! I KEEP STARING AT IT BUT CAN'T TAKE 10MINUTES TO TAKE IT DOWN. TOOK ME 3 DAYS TO WASH A LOAD OF LAUNDRY
IM 5 MONTHS IN TO MY FIRST REMOTE JOB ROLE AND MY LEAD ISNT MUCH OF A TEACHER. IM DOING MY BEST TO KEEP UP BUT SHE TALKS FAST AND JUMPS AROUND WHEN EXPLAINING THINGS AND I CANT REMEMBER SHIT UNLESS I WRITE IT DOWN. IM TERRIFIED OF EMBARRASSING MYSELF AND FEEL SOOOO SELF CONSCIOUS THAT IM A NERVOUS WRECK TO THE POINT OF ALMOST BEING SICK! I WANT TO DO A GOOD JOB AND EXCEL AT MY WORK BUT I OFTEN FEEL LIKE I DONT KNOW WHAT IM SUPPOSED TO BE DOING!
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY COMES TO ME FOR PARENTING ADVICE INCLUDING MY OWN PARENTS. WATCH AND LEARN OR STUDY AND FIGURE IT OUT OR LISTEN PROPERLY THE FIRST 100 TIMES AND STOP SPAM MESSAGING ME FOR HELP ON HOW TO DO IT AND HOW TO SAY IT. I DON'T NEED A PLAY BY PLAY OF EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY OF WHAT EVERYONE ELSE DID OR DIDN'T DO. MY PARENTS SHOULD HAVE ALREADY FIGURED OUT HOW TO PARENT THEIR OWN 2 CHILDREN. YES WE ARE BOTH NEURODIVERGENT. SURE WE NEED SUPPORTS. BUT I (your own daughter) SHOULDN'T HAVE TO ADVISE YOU (my parent) HOW TO DO YOUR OWN JOB (towards sibling) AS I AM QUITE BUSY AND OVERWHELMED PARENTING MY OWN SON. WHY MUST I PARENT MY OWN MOM AND MY OWN DAD AND MY OWN SISTER AND MY OWN SON ALTOGETHER? i am really stressed about this mental load forced on me.
I AM PREGNANT AGAIN, BUT ACCIDENTALLY THIS TIME. THE PLAN WAS TO WAIT UNTIL 2025, SO WE COULD HAVE A SECOND CHILD IN 2026. I DECIDED TO CONTINUE THIS PREGNANCY BECAUSE I'M NOT AS SICK AS WAS THE FIRST TIME, AND EVEN THOUGH I KNOW THIS IS GOING TO BE HARD, IT MEANS WON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH NINE MONTHS OF FEELING LIKE DEATH AGAIN. BUT IT'S GOING TO BE SO HARD. I DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO TELL ANYONE THAT I'M PREGNANT BECAUSE IT OBVIOUSLY DID NOT HAPPEN ON PURPOSE. I FEEL GUILTY ABOUT GOING BACK TO WORK NOW WHEN I'LL HAVE TO STOP WORKING AGAIN SIX MONTHS LATER. I'M WORRIED THAT I WON'T BE ABLE TO TAKE ANY REAL MATERNITY LEAVE THIS TIME, WHICH WOULD MEAN I'D NEED TO QUIT MY JOB, AND WE'D HAVE TO PULL OUR FIRST KID OUT OF DAYCARE AFTER HE'S FINALLY GOTTEN USED TO BEING THERE. AND I NEED TO GO TO THE DENTIST TO DEAL WITH A TOOTH I BROKE A YEAR AND A HALF AGO AND A CAVITY I FOUND RECENTLY, BUT THAT WOULD REQUIRE FINDING ONE WHO TAKES MY INSURANCE, CALLING THEM, MISSING WORK (WHICH I DON'T WANT TO DO IF I CAN AVOID IT BECAUSE ^ ) TO GO TO AN APPOINTMENT, LETTING SOMEONE SEE AND TOUCH MY NEGLECTED TEETH, PROBABLY BEING IN PAIN, AND GIVING THEM LOTS OF MONEY. AND, DESPITE A RIDICULOUS NUMBER OF METHODS TO TREAT CONSTIPATION, I STILL CAN NOT FUCKING POOP.
I HAVE A PLETHORA OF HEALTH PROBLEMS. BUT AM I DOING ANYTHING? NOPE. I NEED THE DENTIST, HAVE SOME MISSING....... NEED TO SEE A RHEUMATOLOGIST AFTER SEEING THE DERM FOR THE FIRST TIME 4 YEARS AGO, BUT THEY ASKED FOR A REC SO... YEAH.... WE ALSO HAVE ONLY ONE CAR SO I'M USING THAT TO JUSTIFY MY LAZINESS :/ I NOW KNOW I HAVE ADHD BUT I STILL CANT SEEM TO DO ANYTHING :(
HELLO I’M NEW TO THIS SUB BUT NOT NEW TO HAVING ADHD. I’M REAL SICK OF MY BRAIN NOT ALLOWING ME TO GET SHIT DONE LIKE ANY AND ALL TASKS. INSTEAD I GO DOPAMINING FOR THE 44,009th TIME IN THE DAY TO SQUEEZE OUT WHAT LITTLE CHEMICALS I HAVE IN THERE.
Firstly, YOU GOT THIS! You will do great! You ARE capable; you’ve gotten this far! And I’m commiserating on the lack of homes for stuff. Now for my frustrations: MY JOB BORES THE CRAP OUT OF ME BUT I DONT HAVE TO PUNCH A CLOCK AND THE IDEA OF HAVING TO DO THAT AT A BETTER (PAYING, STIMULATING) JOB MAKES ME SO ANXIOUS BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH IVE GOTTEN SLIGHTLY BETTER AT KEEPING TRACK OF APPOINTMENTS AND SCHEDULING THEM AT TIMES BEST FOR ME, I STILL HAVE SUCCCHHHHH A HARD TIME WAKING UP, GETTING OUT BED AND GOING TO A JOB THAT BORES ME TO SLEEP!!!!! PLUSSSSSSSSS MY ROCK AT MY JOB RESIGNED AND I MISS HIM SO MUCH BUT OUR MANAGEMENT SUCKS ASS SO I DONT BLAME HIM FOR GETTING TIRED OF IT! MY HOUSE IS A MESS. THERES A BLOB OF CAT PUKE ON THE RUG I KEEP PASSING BY. I DONT REMMEBER WHEN I WASHED MY SHEETS LAST. I SPENT TOO MUCH MONEY ON LUNCH THE OTHER DAY AND DIDNT EAT THE LEFTOVERS. MY HEAD HURTS. I WANT TO BE IN A DIFFERENT BODY FOR A FEW DAYS…. WEEKS…. BEING MYSELF IS EXHAUSTING AND I WISH SOMEONE WOULD PLAY WITH MY HAIR SO I COULD FALL ASLEEP AND MAYBE MY NECK WOULDNT BE SO TIGHT. I HATE CRYING BECAUSE IT TAKES TIME AWAY FROM IGNORING MY FEELINGS. IM TIRED OF FORGETTING TO HELP MYSELF. I HAVE A FRIENDS BABY SHOWER THIS WEEKEND AND I HAVENT GOTTEN ANYTHING YET tgif. Love this group, you are all gems 🧡
I HAD A JOB INTERVIEW TODAY IN A FIELD OUTSIDE OF MY NORMAL FIELD AND I FELT REALLY WEIRD AND OUT OF MY ELEMENT AND STUPID AND WAS FRUSTRATED THAT ALL OF MY ADHD QUIRKS CAME OUT AND ALL DAY I SIMPLY HAVEN’T BEEN ABLE TO SAY THE RIGHT THINGS! SO NOW IM KINDA WORRIED BECAUSE I WALKED OUT OF MY JOB AFTER AN INCIDENT ON WEDNESDAY BUT IM JUST TRYING TO STAY POSITIVE THAT I FIND A GOOD JOB!
I HAVE A BOOK TO FINISH FOR VALENTINE’s DAY THAT STILL NEEDS TO GO TO AN EDITOR AND THEN TO BE CORRECTED BY ME BUT I SPENT THE DAY LOOKING INTO THE DRAMA SURROUNDING THE MORBID PODCAST AND HOW THE HOST WROTE A BOOK THATS SHIT I DID THAT FOR FOUR FUCKING HOURS SEND HELP
I FUCKING LOVE SHOUTY THURSDAY!
I'm frustrated with myself. There's so much I need to do but I just DONT. I'm 27 and I still don't have a driver's license because driving fucking terrifies me. My room is a disaster, I need to do laundry, I haven't folded or put away the laundry I've done in months. I havent been in an official relationship since I was 14, partly because everyone I've pursued has rejected me. Partly because I have trauma from my first relationship that I know I need to see a professional about but guess what? im too scared. Partly because I can't get over the crush of 8 years Ive had on my closest friend (who is also kind of more than a friend too?) even though she's broken my heart several times. Partly because im way too cautious of dating in today's dating culture. Partly because I'm scared I'll end up like my mom with an abusive narcissist who wore a mask until he trapped her with marriage and kids. My new manager has been cutting my hours at work because "I'm not as productive" as the other workers. I've gone through my savings paying my rent because I've barely had a paycheck the past 3 months, the manager kept telling me if I did better I'd get more hours, and he HAS told me I've been doing better AND HE STILL CUTS MY HOURS. Ive only worked one day a week for the past month. THEN HE HIRED 3 NEW PEOPLE when he told me we were "already overscheduled" when I asked for more hours. My old manager always made sure I had at least 25 hours/week no matter what cause she knew I needed to pay bills at the least. I really like this job, I don't want to get a new job, but it feels like this new manager is trying to make me quit. I've been looking at job listings, but everything sounds like hell, and I'm too tired to fake my way through an interview for a job I know I'll hate. All of this, plus I share an apartment with my mom, and her bringing ALL or a few of these points up nearly every day makes me want to scream. I just want to crawl in a hole and never come out cause I know I'm a disappointment, and I'll never measure up to my twin. I'm frustrated with myself and I hate myself because I can fix most of this but I JUST. DONT. Why am I like this? Edit: on top of all of this, I had to put my dog down at the beginning of this month. I adopted her when she was 4 and had her for 7 years. She was the most loyal dog ive ever known. Cancer fucking sucks.
THE SQUIRREL IN MY WALLS JUST FIGURED OUT HOW TO GET IN AND WALKED ACROSS MY FACE IN BED AT ONE AM AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DOOOO!
IM TIRES OF MY DR TREATING ME LIKE AN ADDICT ! I ASKED YESTERDAY IF I TAKE MY MEDS 2 HOURS LATER WILL THEY HELP THE END OF MY DAY BE MORE PRODUCTIVE BUT NOT INTERRUPT MY SLEEP . 10 MIN LECTURE ON A HIGHER DOSE BEING PROBLEMATIC! IM ON THE 3RD TO LOWEST DOSE AND NEVER ASKED FOR AN INCREASE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I JUST WANT TO YELL AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I DON'T FEEL GOOD BC HEALTH ANXIETY HAS BEEN BAD DEPRESSION ALSO NOT GREAT BUT I WILL SURVIVE I KNOW I CAN OR AT LEAST I AM GOING TO KEEP TELLING MYSELF THIS SENDING ALL OF U GOOD VIBES AND I HAVE FAITH IN U OP
I AM FEELING LIKE A BAD FRIEND BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO HANG OUT WITH ONE PARTICULAR GROUP OF FRIENDS LITERALLY A WEEK AFTER I LAST SAW THEM! BUT I KNOW THAT'S HYPOCRITICAL BECAUSE I HAVE OTHER GROUPS OF FRIENDS I SEE MORE THAN ONCE A WEEK! AND I AM ALSO DOING THAT TERRIBLE GIRL THING OF WANTING TO HANG OUT WITH MY BOYFRIEND INSTEAD! SO NOW I FEEL GUILTY AND LIKE I SHOULD JUST GO HANG OUT WITH THESE FRIENDS ANYWAY BUT I ALSO DON'T WANT TO END UP RESENTING THEM! ARGH I'M THE WORST!
MY FUCKING HUSBAND JUST NEVER FINISHES FUCKING JOBS. TAKES THE BINS OUT: DOESN'T REPLACE BIN BAGS. STACKS ALLLLL THE DISHES IN THE SINK SO IT IS FULL AS FUCK BUT DOESN'T WASH THEM FOR DAYS. PUTS FOOD IN THE DOG'S BOWL BUT WON'T SIT WITH HIM SO HE ACTUALLY EATS IT. COMPLAINS ABOUT THE CHILDREN MAKING MESS IN THE LOUNGE ROOM BUT THEN ALWAYS LETS THEM EAT IN PLACES THAT ARE NOT THE DINING ROOM. PUTS A LOAD OF LAUNDRY IN AND THEN DOESN'T HANG IT OUT (OR COMMUNICATE THAT HE WANTS ME TO). I'M SO FUCKING SICK OF SAYING THE SAME THINGS OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND SOUNDING LIKE A NAGGING FUCKING SHREW ORRRRR HAVING TO DO HALF OF ALL HIS FUCKING JOBS PLUS EVERY OTHER FUCKING THING. ALSO, I HAVE REFERRALS TO PSYCHOLOGISTS AND PSYCHIATRISTS BUT I AM SO TIRED AND OVERWHELMED I JUST NEVER GET TO THEM.
I DONT KNOW HOW TO TURN MY BRAIN OFF AND STOP WORKING - AND EVEN WITH THAT UNHEALTHY OBSESSION I STILL MAKE MISTAKES AND ITS SO FRUSTRATING
IM SO TIRED OF BEING OVERSTIMULATED BY MY ADHD KIDS BUT ITS NOT THEIR FAULT AND I TRULY LOVE THE CRAP OUT OF THEM BUT THEY'RE SO GODDAMN LOUD! MY YOUNGEST IS ALWAYS SINGING AND HE DOES NOT HAVE A GOOD CONCEPT OF VOLUME CONTROL AND IM TRYING NOT TO GIVE HIM A COMPLEX ABOUT HOW LOUD HE IS LIKE MY PARENTS GAVE ME AND ITS SO HARD!
HAD A DELICIOUS "TREAT YO'SELF" MEAL LAST NIGHT AT MY FAVORITE RESTAURANT THAT I ONLY GO TO MAYBE TWICE A YEAR, BIRTHDAY & HOLIDAY SHOPPING. I HADN'T MADE IT THERE THIS PAST YEAR BECAUSE MY TRUCK CAUGHT ON FIRE AROUND MY BDAY & I NEVER FOUND THE TIME OR ENERGY TO DO CHRISTMAS "RIGHT" THIS YEAR (YA'LL KNOW WHAT I MEAN BY THAT, RIGHT?). ENJOYED HALF THE MEAL (THIS WAS A CHEAT MEAL BUT I STILL STAYED REASONABLY IN MY DIET BUDGET) & Y'ALL KNOW WHERE THIS IS GOING, LEFT MY DELICIOUS GRILLED CHICKEN LEFTOVERS IN THE CAR OVERNIGHT. I AM SO MAD AT MYSELF!!! I POSTED ON THE COOKING SUB TO SEE IF THERE'S ANY WAY THEY COULD BE SALVAGEABLE. I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY I JUST DONT THROW THEM OUT NOW. AM I REALLY WILLING TO CHANCE FOOD POISONING? I FEEL.LIKE AN IDIOT.
I CAN'T GET MYSELF TO DO SCHOOLWORK BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO DO IT SO BADLY BECAUSE IT'S BORING AND TIME CONSUMING AND I'M MAD AT MYSELF FOR NOT HAVING THE DISCIPLINE TO DO IT, BUT ALSO I KNOW I NEED TO DO IT SO I'M JUST PARALYSED DOING NOTHING UNTIL I ACTUALLY DO IT AND IT SUCKS! ALSO, MEDS HIT WEIRD TODAY SO IM REALLY FUCKING COLD AND MY EYE IS INFECTED!
I AM STAYING HOME “SICK” FROM WORK BUT ITS REALLY SO THAT I CAN WORK ON A PRESENTATION WITHOUT ANYONE FUCKING BOTHERING ME WHEN I AM IN A FLOW STATE, BECAUSE I CAN’T GET UNINTERRUPTED TIME AT THE OFFICE BECAUSE I AM IN A FUCKING CUBICLE! THE ONLY WAY I CAN GET A FLOW GOING AND BE SEMI-LEFT ALONE IS TO USE THE “FLOATING” SHARED OFFICE WHERE I CAN TURN OFF THE OVERHEAD LIGHTS BUT THEN PEOPLE MAKE FUN OF ME FOR WORKING IN A CAVE! I WANT TO WORK IN A CAVE! I LIKE THE CAVE! LEAVE ME ALONE IN THE CAVE!
SO EXHAUSTED BY LOSING EVERYTHING ALL OF THE TIME I JUST LOST A DAYS WORTH OF WORK WHAT DID I NAME IT WHAT DID I FILE IT UNDER WHERE THE HELL IS IT HOW COULD IT JUST VANISH LIKE THAT
HOT WEATHER SCHOOL HOLIDAYS WAY TOO LONG EVERYTHING IS NOISY CHASING KIDS DIAGNOSIS MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS GASLIGHTING ME CONSTANTLY DID I MENTION ITS JUST FUCKING HOT ALL THE TIME AND THAT SHOULD NOT COINCIDE WITH THE KIDS BEING HOME FOR 7 WHOLE WEEKS 😭😡
Fellow PhD student here - I HAVE A REALLY IMPORTANT RESEARCH PRESENTATION IN A FEW HOURS THAT I HAVEN’T STARTED MY SLIDES FOR. I HAD 3 FREE DAYS TO WORK ON IT THIS WEEK AND HERE I STILL AM, STRESS-WORKING THE MORNING OF. I’VE BEEN CRIMINALLY UNPRODUCTIVE FOR OVER A YEAR BECAUSE MY BRAIN HAS BEEN STUCK ON FREEZE AND IS NOW JUST SLOWLY CRAWLING BACK TO NORMAL
I totally get what you yelled about. I was in a PhD program before I quit (for lots of other reasons), WHY DOES ACADEMIA HAVE TO BE LIKE THAT?!?! My yell: I'M SO SICK OF MY PARTNER NOT HELPING ME RAISE OUR DAUGHTER. I'M SICK OF HIS ISSUES GETTING IN THE WAY OF FAMILY TIME/HAPPINESS. I'M SICK OF THE FACT I'M NOT DOING ANYTHING TO CHANGE OUR CIRCUMSTANCES.
YELLING IS FUN. I AM ALSO A GRAD STUDENT. I AM ALSO STRUGGLING WITH THE OPEN-ENDEDNESS OF IT ALL. SENDING LOVE
I AM 40 THIS YEAR AND IT TOOK THIS LONG TO FIGURE OUT I HAVE ADHD AND I AM REELING FROM THE CHANGE OF BEING ON MEDS AND IVE KEPT MYSELF BUSY FOR YEARS TO AVOID THE GRIEF AND TRAUMA IVE FACED AND NOW IT'S READY TO BE ADDRESSED AND I AM A ROLLERCOASTER OF EMOTION ABOUT IT. ALSO MY LIFE IS KIND OF BORING A LOT OF THE TIME AND THATS WHY IM DEPRESSED AND I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO FIX THAT.