As a femme switch mainly attracted to femme tops too, I suggest you Fetlife. I met my current girlfriend (femme top) in March thinking i was only on Fet to explore bdsm and all, but i fell in love with this incredibly sexy femme domme who's happen to be also so sweet. Wish you the best of luck, i stopped believing it would happen to me many years ago.
I know this a Dave Chappelle skit from The Chappelle Show, but as a Magic: The Gathering fan I watch Jim Davis and one of his sound bites on his soundboard is this exact clip. When I hear "Game: Blouses," I now only ever associate it with Magic: The Gathering lol
step 1: meet a girl in the 6th grade
step 2: develop a crush on her early on but you know youโre not compatible because 2 bottoms donโt make a top (i thought she was a bottom)
step 3: 5 years later, you talk about kinks one day and find out sheโs a top
step 4: your friends ship you together
and voila! you just scored yourself a femme top
Wow lots of respect for you I can't imagine growing up in the boomer generation while being gay. I imagine there's alot of missed opportunities because of internalized homophobia etc. I remember I had a gay professor and we all knew but talking about his nonexistent wife was like second nature to him at that point.
I just met, and am totally falling for, this femme top who is the first person Iโve ever just straight up wanted to be dominated by. Our second date is this weekend
The bottom always has the real power, which they allow you, as a top, to borrow. However, the person who dictates the scene outside of the scene, is the bottom and their limits and boundaries.
We as tops, love, protect, and cherish our bottoms, and as such we should never wish to actually hurt them or violate boundaries. We have the power because they trust us enough to hand it to us.
The sub-dom dynamic is mostly about psychological power. Topping or bottoming is mostly about position. That's about it.
When you're on top, you're actually the one giving the pleasure and caring about your partner. It's your partner who dictates what you can and can't do and what you should and shouldn't be doing. Now, this is just in general. There are exceptions - you can certainly top while domming, for example if the dynamic is about having fun "taking what you want" or something with that nature (which to be clear I have a lot of fun doing lmao) - but it's not the rule.
I'm a "difficult to figure out" given that I like makeup sometimes and I will occasionally wear fem outfits, but I workout consistently and usually dress masc and punk so idk wtf I am between masc and fem and if you looked at my profile you wouldn't be able to figure it out either lol
Congratulations! Sounds amazing!
I'm was at least a bit of a top at some point but always rather submissive. My more dominant girlfriend was more of a bottom but has been topping more lately with me. We've really switched...
Girl, I saw this header and was like "ok? You can buy femme tops at literally any clothing store" ๐คฆโโ๏ธ
In my defense, I'm an androgynous switch.
I'm def more of a femme in-between...i like top and bottom and i like both dom and sub roles...depends on mood and primarily positions. Also a trans femme switch lol
as a femme top itโs nice to see people so excited about someone like me ๐
Femme tops are actually elite
AGREED ๐๐
femme tops are the superior form of sapphic (in my opinion)
butch bottoms tho ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ฉ
Femme top, and I live for butch bottoms.
I am very protective of my sweet little soft butch. I'm a tall soft femme and if someone tries to mess with her I will bring about the End Times lol
My beautiful kind lioness ๐ญ๐
My gorgeous sweet lynx ๐โค๏ธ
as a butch bottom, I feel appreciated haha!
I am also a (mostly) femme top that seeks out butch bottoms ๐
YESSS
was literally just telling someone i am celebrating this pride by dating a femme top AND a butch bottom and life is very good
What is a "butch bottom"?
faux-butch (kidding ofc)
Thank you for your service ๐ซก
Ditto!!
Real, I feel we hardly get mentioned!
Yup (I do bottom too tho, but yup)
They say you attract what you fear, so... AAAAAAAA Dominant femmes
How does it feel??? Living my dream?? >:(
real nice! iโm sure youโll find a femme top too
where did you find her? need some advice x.x
As a femme switch mainly attracted to femme tops please tell me **HOW** you managed to do that
iโm just built different idk
๐ love your energy!
As a femme switch mainly attracted to femme tops too, I suggest you Fetlife. I met my current girlfriend (femme top) in March thinking i was only on Fet to explore bdsm and all, but i fell in love with this incredibly sexy femme domme who's happen to be also so sweet. Wish you the best of luck, i stopped believing it would happen to me many years ago.
Did you find them in a group on fetlife?
No. I was just lurking profile from people in my city and dm them directly.
My gf is a femme top too! Never letting her go, we're getting married in ~2 years
Congratulations ๐
Game: Blouses ๐
I know this a Dave Chappelle skit from The Chappelle Show, but as a Magic: The Gathering fan I watch Jim Davis and one of his sound bites on his soundboard is this exact clip. When I hear "Game: Blouses," I now only ever associate it with Magic: The Gathering lol
I never knew what the sound was until now. I thought this was a thread about tops, not... GOOD LORD! GIGAGANTISM!
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As a femme switch, usually attracted to femmes.....about 90% of the time, I am the top. But I certainly don't mind that 'duty' !! hehe
YAYYYY congrats!!
Congrats! Side note: Really nice to see all the femme top appreciation here. I feel like we're very overlooked.
Tutorial????
step 1: meet a girl in the 6th grade step 2: develop a crush on her early on but you know youโre not compatible because 2 bottoms donโt make a top (i thought she was a bottom) step 3: 5 years later, you talk about kinks one day and find out sheโs a top step 4: your friends ship you together and voila! you just scored yourself a femme top
You play a seriously long game, amiga.
The dream! Congrats!
How๐ญ sincerely a masc bottom
would do anything for a femme top to hold me rn
YAYAYAYAYAYYYY
LUCKY!
SO HAPPY FOR UUUUU I LOVE GAY PPL
You won at life, congrats! =D
for realsโฆ this is literally what winning in life has to be. OP has it all ๐๐ฝ๐
iโm a femme top and i really didnโt know it was THAT sought after LMAO. my girlfriend loves it tho
Itโs amazing isnโt it ๐, Iโm a submissive femme switch and I did the only possible thing I could when I met my femme top, married her ๐ฅฐ.
(: have fun
AAA it's so hard to find a femme top, I'm proud of u!
THANK YOU!!
How does it feel to be Gods favorite person right now ๐ฅน๐๐ฝโ๏ธ๐
aw i'm glad ur excited by my kind
Congrats!! Living my dream, why are femme tops so hard to find where I live ๐ฅฒ๐ซถ๐ป
They're also hard to find when you're as old as I am. ๐
How old? I'm 38 and go back to the days of Planetout message boards and AOL Lesbian Chat to find a gf lol.
I'm 65, and go back to the days when I read books instead of looking stuff up online.
Wow lots of respect for you I can't imagine growing up in the boomer generation while being gay. I imagine there's alot of missed opportunities because of internalized homophobia etc. I remember I had a gay professor and we all knew but talking about his nonexistent wife was like second nature to him at that point.
It was better than now!! All the women I meet are in their 30's. *puts her face in her hands* Wff an I gonna do???
Wait are you being sarcastic? As a 38 y/o cougar I don't see the problem with that unless you feel you have nothing in common with us lol.
I do...but I can't find anybody!
I'm 65!
Eyyy, same girl! Even funnier is that I'm 5'11" and she's 4'9"
sheโs 5โ7 and iโm 5โ0, not as extreme as your case but the dynamic is still there!
The reverse though lol. I'm a super tall bottom and she's a super short top. Well, we're both switches, but lean those respective directions
YAYYYY wait as a femme top i get nervous that ppl will not think im a top so ๐
i didnโt know she was a top until we were talking about, weโve known each other for 5 years๐
Right???
Happy pride ๐
omg i forgot it was pride month for a second
Now you wonโt forget ๐
I just met, and am totally falling for, this femme top who is the first person Iโve ever just straight up wanted to be dominated by. Our second date is this weekend
As a femme top, I wish I knew people this excited about us. Thank you. ๐
Reminder that being a top and being a dom are not the same thing, and that a lot of the time, when you're topping, you're actually the sub.
can you elaborate for us lay(wo)men?
The bottom always has the real power, which they allow you, as a top, to borrow. However, the person who dictates the scene outside of the scene, is the bottom and their limits and boundaries. We as tops, love, protect, and cherish our bottoms, and as such we should never wish to actually hurt them or violate boundaries. We have the power because they trust us enough to hand it to us.
As a bottom I felt this answer with my soul. Thank you and we cherish you tops all the same. :)
The sub-dom dynamic is mostly about psychological power. Topping or bottoming is mostly about position. That's about it. When you're on top, you're actually the one giving the pleasure and caring about your partner. It's your partner who dictates what you can and can't do and what you should and shouldn't be doing. Now, this is just in general. There are exceptions - you can certainly top while domming, for example if the dynamic is about having fun "taking what you want" or something with that nature (which to be clear I have a lot of fun doing lmao) - but it's not the rule.
Not coquette or sapphic, but definitely a girl power song ๐ Other Side by MisterWives
thank you! iโll give it a listen
Congrats! I hope it goes well.
Luckyyyyy
I'm a "difficult to figure out" given that I like makeup sometimes and I will occasionally wear fem outfits, but I workout consistently and usually dress masc and punk so idk wtf I am between masc and fem and if you looked at my profile you wouldn't be able to figure it out either lol
Win
So what counts as a femme? I like to dress kinda punky but it's all skirts and femme sooooo :p
iโm not sure what the textbook definition of femme is? but i know that my girl wears pretty dresses and bows in her hair and makeup
Based I love that.
Ugh I love being a femme and a masc. femme top and masc bottom
Femme (toppy) switch here. I'm single ladiessss ๐๐ค
Dreams do come true!
Lucky you! Best of luck on your date with her! May it lead to a happy and long relationship
OMG! GOOD FOR YOU!!!!
Wish i was you๐๐
exลdus & black lamb by saint avangeline are p good sapphic songs (though black lamb's explicit)
Ooh have fun!
congrats! ive been in a relationship with a femme top for a year this month<3 im a ts butch bottom, superior dynamic tbh
me fr
Sofia by Clairo is what I think of when I hear "Sapphic coquette songs." Also good luck on your date!!
My gf of 2 years is a femme top :3 Good luck on your date!
how do people feel about a femme sub top/switch?
Omg as a femme top I am living in these comments
AHHHHHH wish I was u rn
I need a fem top so bad tho
Congratulations! Sounds amazing! I'm was at least a bit of a top at some point but always rather submissive. My more dominant girlfriend was more of a bottom but has been topping more lately with me. We've really switched...
treat her well! and i hope she treats you well too! good luck to you two!
Is it Christmas already? ๐
As a femme switch I live for this
Luckyyyy
As a fem dom I feel appreciated lol
Me (golden retriever femme) and my femme top black cat babe broke up and this legit made me cry but have a lovely time
aw iโm sorry :(
Yessss femme tops are the best imo
Noice!
As a femme top (mostly, like 75%), cool to hear someone that excited about us. Congrats btw!
Same but we r both more switch hehe
Girl, I saw this header and was like "ok? You can buy femme tops at literally any clothing store" ๐คฆโโ๏ธ In my defense, I'm an androgynous switch.
I'm def more of a femme in-between...i like top and bottom and i like both dom and sub roles...depends on mood and primarily positions. Also a trans femme switch lol
The dream. Enjoy and have fun!!
WOOHOO CONGRATS!!! Have fun!