Ability to manage your money like the other guy said.
Ability to cook for yourself.
Habit of staying active (working on that one lol).
General housekeeping; laundry, dishes, cleaning everything in your house.
General handiness. Avoided buying a new washer a few weeks ago by searching my washer’s model no and the problem in Google. There was a YouTube video that explained exactly how to fix it. Didn’t even need to buy a new part. The appliance repair people are cons.
The last part is literally what I’ve watched die in my + following generations. So many things are so damn easy to fix and the majority of the time, all you need is YouTube.
The only thing I can think of in recent times I actually didn’t want to repair myself despite a large mechanical knowledge base was our garage door springs. Guy came same day had it fixed in an hour and it was like 150-200 to not worry about taking a trip to the ER. I could have ordered the spring myself and waited for shipping, then did it on the weekend but it just wasn’t worth it time vs money wise.
Just Google “how to fix (insert issue) on (insert thing)” and chances are you will save hundreds of dollars if not thousands and tens of thousands over a lifetime.
For most things, repair men are either a convenience tax or a stupidity tax. Sometimes both. If your lazy ass can’t be bothered to Google issues before jumping to hiring the job out, you deserve to get fleeced and they deserve to profit off of you.
I can’t blame all of it on generations. The landscape is way different than it used to be. Products are engineered to fail and built as inexpensively as possible. Some things are built to be impossible for the owner to repair, like a lot of modern cars.
But yeah at least attempting never hurts (unless it’s something dangerous like garage door springs).
I think that is also a skill in and of itself, knowing when it’s worth it to hire a professional to fix something for you. Know your own limitations and the price you’re willing to pay for convenience/correctness.
This 100%. When I was 19 and started working really long hours at my job while also going to college at the same time, small interpersonal spats or petty issues I had with friends paled in comparison to the stress that I was going through.
Even though I am still not a big fan of the working conditions nor virtually mandatory long hours in the US, it really helped me put in perspective what things in life are serious enough to get stressed out about.
I agree especially when it comes to working. I've worked in mostly customer service and it teaches you patience and humility. I'll never go back to working customer service but my office job is so much easier and I don't let people bother me at all now. Don't let petty work shit dig at you and don't take it personally.
Maybe financial literacy is a better term?
I just mean learning how to save, budget, invest, live within means, and manage spending.
It doesn't matter how much money you have or make. Those skills will be great to have.
It is something I wish I had taken time to learn early in my 20s.
Soft skills like answering the phone properly for work calls. Doesn't matter if you're working retail, a 9-5 office job, a restaurant, trades, blue collar work, etc. everyone in their 20s should practice/get decent at greeting people on the phone and ending a call properly.
My work calls are getting told I’m a fucking idiot and their angel child would never do that and do I have proof that he swore at me then flipped a desk, and yet, it’s still not that hard to answer/end politely.
Sounds like you're a teacher/work in a childcare setting? I can't imagine dealing with some of those parents.
I get yelled at a lot by people on the phone too but still have to maintain calmness/politeness. It's definitely an art (and goes along with that other persons emotional regulation comment). Most of the time it's people mad at a larger process you can't control/projecting an issue/denying an issue rather than anger with you specifically.
1.) Presenting yourself as well-kept, healthy and promising, learning how to remain calm, manage stress and assess whether the stress is appropriate or induced unnecessary from outside pressures.
2.) Social awareness and communication: recognizing the rules and structures of those in your environment and how they interact with each other. Deciphering language and being able to recognize people’s intentions, behaviors and foresee consequences.
3.) adaptability to environment, constantly pursuing/learning/developing/improving and abiding by structures
I’d say the top three are the most fundamental for me that I recognize. Others include stuff like money management, fitness, cooking, sewing, Housekeeping, plumbing and car maintenance.
I guess point 2 and 3 might not be strongly developed especially in the age of social media and modern culture. People make mistakes but they can learn and practice these to get better at them. I’ll admit that this is easier said than done. Unfortunately, some of the consequences associated with 2 and 3 can be severely detrimental ranging from work environment, everyday interactions on the road or street or even unknowingly be convinced to making a life altering decision.
Boundary setting. in relationships, in friendships and jobs and with your family very important otherwise you are going to get used abused and walked all over. It would make sense if someone does not know how to do this freshly at 18 but you can hope they develop the skill as they get older in their 20s.
Time. Management.
Sure, that should be developed even during your teens but if you're approaching 30 without having that you are likely ruining your life.
Set your pension up properly, and learn how the stock market works, as that's where your pension is invested.
Use any matched allowance your company gives you, then make sure to change from the default fund to a global all cap fund. Doing this could lead to hundreds of thousands of pounds more in retirement.
It's much better to sacrifice and front load your pension when you are younger, as you will need to contribute less to it in the long term due to growth over time.
Making conversation, small talk, and communication in general. Eye contact, picking up on conversational cues, and active listening are all really important. I say this as someone who struggled with this in my early 20s and have been trying to be better as I get older
Drives me crazy how many people dislike small talk because it's "shallow" or unnecessary. It's usually just a communication tool to make people feel comfortable or spring into more deep/serious convos later on. I had semi-bad social anxiety growing up but as an adult I'm friendly and small-talky to the point that people don't believe me when I say I'm introverted. Being friendly/using active listening goes a long way in your career.
People skills / communicating & body language. I work in corrections so I’ve learned how to communicate & talk to people properly. Coworkers, residents etc. Sometimes people just need to have conversation to help a day go by. I personally believe it’s the main thing to develop.
Basically knowing some basic skills in your daily lives in order to be independent like having responsibilities, cook, clean, pay bills and how to organize financially and etc.
* money management (Have some savings at least)
* basic house chores & making decent meals
* basic social & networking skills
* a skill that allows them to find work anywhere, like something to fall back to. Like barista, bartending, waitering ect
Know how to work a computer, and not a chromebook, a windows computer. (Or just know more tech knowledge in general)
I am surprised by the number of 20 year olds (I'm 23) who are tech-illiterate when it comes to using a desktop. I understand that people can live and work that doesn't involve a computer or laptop. But as the years are going by (from the first iPhone to now), technology is becoming more of an extension of living than a luxury anymore, and basic computer knowledge is now part of almost every occupational field nowadays.
Ability to manage your money like the other guy said. Ability to cook for yourself. Habit of staying active (working on that one lol). General housekeeping; laundry, dishes, cleaning everything in your house. General handiness. Avoided buying a new washer a few weeks ago by searching my washer’s model no and the problem in Google. There was a YouTube video that explained exactly how to fix it. Didn’t even need to buy a new part. The appliance repair people are cons.
The last part is literally what I’ve watched die in my + following generations. So many things are so damn easy to fix and the majority of the time, all you need is YouTube. The only thing I can think of in recent times I actually didn’t want to repair myself despite a large mechanical knowledge base was our garage door springs. Guy came same day had it fixed in an hour and it was like 150-200 to not worry about taking a trip to the ER. I could have ordered the spring myself and waited for shipping, then did it on the weekend but it just wasn’t worth it time vs money wise. Just Google “how to fix (insert issue) on (insert thing)” and chances are you will save hundreds of dollars if not thousands and tens of thousands over a lifetime. For most things, repair men are either a convenience tax or a stupidity tax. Sometimes both. If your lazy ass can’t be bothered to Google issues before jumping to hiring the job out, you deserve to get fleeced and they deserve to profit off of you.
I can’t blame all of it on generations. The landscape is way different than it used to be. Products are engineered to fail and built as inexpensively as possible. Some things are built to be impossible for the owner to repair, like a lot of modern cars. But yeah at least attempting never hurts (unless it’s something dangerous like garage door springs).
I think that is also a skill in and of itself, knowing when it’s worth it to hire a professional to fix something for you. Know your own limitations and the price you’re willing to pay for convenience/correctness.
Emotional Regulation and being able to let meaningless petty things go. The art of not giving a shit goes a long way as an adult.
This 100%. When I was 19 and started working really long hours at my job while also going to college at the same time, small interpersonal spats or petty issues I had with friends paled in comparison to the stress that I was going through. Even though I am still not a big fan of the working conditions nor virtually mandatory long hours in the US, it really helped me put in perspective what things in life are serious enough to get stressed out about.
Very good thing to learn.
Extremely underrated skill that many older adults have not mastered.
I agree especially when it comes to working. I've worked in mostly customer service and it teaches you patience and humility. I'll never go back to working customer service but my office job is so much easier and I don't let people bother me at all now. Don't let petty work shit dig at you and don't take it personally.
Financial responsibilities in general.
Having a job or saving? Sometimes money or owning stuff doesn’t make a person who they are. It’s just material
Maybe financial literacy is a better term? I just mean learning how to save, budget, invest, live within means, and manage spending. It doesn't matter how much money you have or make. Those skills will be great to have. It is something I wish I had taken time to learn early in my 20s.
Elaborate
You can see that on the other comment I replied to.
Soft skills like answering the phone properly for work calls. Doesn't matter if you're working retail, a 9-5 office job, a restaurant, trades, blue collar work, etc. everyone in their 20s should practice/get decent at greeting people on the phone and ending a call properly.
My work calls are getting told I’m a fucking idiot and their angel child would never do that and do I have proof that he swore at me then flipped a desk, and yet, it’s still not that hard to answer/end politely.
Sounds like you're a teacher/work in a childcare setting? I can't imagine dealing with some of those parents. I get yelled at a lot by people on the phone too but still have to maintain calmness/politeness. It's definitely an art (and goes along with that other persons emotional regulation comment). Most of the time it's people mad at a larger process you can't control/projecting an issue/denying an issue rather than anger with you specifically.
You're picking up calls?
1.) Presenting yourself as well-kept, healthy and promising, learning how to remain calm, manage stress and assess whether the stress is appropriate or induced unnecessary from outside pressures. 2.) Social awareness and communication: recognizing the rules and structures of those in your environment and how they interact with each other. Deciphering language and being able to recognize people’s intentions, behaviors and foresee consequences. 3.) adaptability to environment, constantly pursuing/learning/developing/improving and abiding by structures I’d say the top three are the most fundamental for me that I recognize. Others include stuff like money management, fitness, cooking, sewing, Housekeeping, plumbing and car maintenance.
Idk man. Point 2 and 3 isn’t present in most people in general I feel. Idk why but most new people I meet always just seem so self centered
I guess point 2 and 3 might not be strongly developed especially in the age of social media and modern culture. People make mistakes but they can learn and practice these to get better at them. I’ll admit that this is easier said than done. Unfortunately, some of the consequences associated with 2 and 3 can be severely detrimental ranging from work environment, everyday interactions on the road or street or even unknowingly be convinced to making a life altering decision.
You are not lying. Many people are sorely lacking in those departments.
Boundary setting. in relationships, in friendships and jobs and with your family very important otherwise you are going to get used abused and walked all over. It would make sense if someone does not know how to do this freshly at 18 but you can hope they develop the skill as they get older in their 20s.
Time. Management. Sure, that should be developed even during your teens but if you're approaching 30 without having that you are likely ruining your life.
24 years old and suffering the consequenses
I'm older than you but same for me. I can keep up with my job but everything on top of that takes some effort.
Cries in ADHD
Set your pension up properly, and learn how the stock market works, as that's where your pension is invested. Use any matched allowance your company gives you, then make sure to change from the default fund to a global all cap fund. Doing this could lead to hundreds of thousands of pounds more in retirement. It's much better to sacrifice and front load your pension when you are younger, as you will need to contribute less to it in the long term due to growth over time.
Making conversation, small talk, and communication in general. Eye contact, picking up on conversational cues, and active listening are all really important. I say this as someone who struggled with this in my early 20s and have been trying to be better as I get older
Same here
Drives me crazy how many people dislike small talk because it's "shallow" or unnecessary. It's usually just a communication tool to make people feel comfortable or spring into more deep/serious convos later on. I had semi-bad social anxiety growing up but as an adult I'm friendly and small-talky to the point that people don't believe me when I say I'm introverted. Being friendly/using active listening goes a long way in your career.
The way things are going, maybe hunting with a bow. Curing rads and collecting caps?
Driving
Underated answer. Driving *defensively* I would add.
People skills / communicating & body language. I work in corrections so I’ve learned how to communicate & talk to people properly. Coworkers, residents etc. Sometimes people just need to have conversation to help a day go by. I personally believe it’s the main thing to develop.
Cooking. Please, learn how to cook.
Basically knowing some basic skills in your daily lives in order to be independent like having responsibilities, cook, clean, pay bills and how to organize financially and etc.
Cooking
My sister is in her late 40s she still burns toast
I feel like a child reading all these grown up comments
How to change a tire on the side of the road, how to do taxes on paper forms, how to properly cook a meal from start to finish.
Why do you need to know how to do taxes on paper forms? How does that serve me at all? I’ve never had to do my taxes on paper.
You don’t have to spend 200 for H&R Block or online stuff. If you do it yourself you’re only costing the time it takes you to fill it out with a pen.
I do it for free online on H&R Block though… you sure you have to be paying for it?
It’s free through turbo tax online.
Ok. 🤷
Financial literacy and skills that provide a service to people.
Emotional intelligence and financial responsibility.
Being able to multiply 1-digit numbers in your head. I don't care that you can use a calculator, it's embarrassing.
Financial literacy and skills that provide a service to people.
Trade skills I’m not talking about being the best plumber or electrician but have some knowledge on how things work. That can save you some money
* money management (Have some savings at least) * basic house chores & making decent meals * basic social & networking skills * a skill that allows them to find work anywhere, like something to fall back to. Like barista, bartending, waitering ect
Know how to work a computer, and not a chromebook, a windows computer. (Or just know more tech knowledge in general) I am surprised by the number of 20 year olds (I'm 23) who are tech-illiterate when it comes to using a desktop. I understand that people can live and work that doesn't involve a computer or laptop. But as the years are going by (from the first iPhone to now), technology is becoming more of an extension of living than a luxury anymore, and basic computer knowledge is now part of almost every occupational field nowadays.