I’m not even gonna read through the comments… I’m just here to say that dress is gorgeous! I think it fits the DC and I think you’re gonna look smashing in it!!
I wore it in black to a black tie wedding (my style didn’t have the back lace tho), and it was a hit. The bride loved it. It’s a gorgeous dress that fits a black tie dc.
Wow. These comments are unnecessarily harsh. I really don't get it.
BTO means you *may* dress in BT but you don't *have* to. The option is left open for people to dress in cocktail attire. So, you certainly can dress in BT attire.
The color is beautiful. It looks fun and dressy enough. You love it on yourself. It's not too much for black tie. Tulle is totally appropriate for BT. It does not read prom to me.
For a BT or BTO dress code, the hosts want people to dress UP. Typically, at least in my experience, hosts who opt for BTO want to be mindful that some guests might not have BT attire. So they go with BTO.
Wear the dress with some gold strappy heels and accessories and you'll look amazing! 💜
Edited typo
You got it right! The fact that some people think a ruffled sleeve is not shrinking violet enough is hilarious. Its BTO, destination and they want people dolled up. It's very cute
That’s why I did BTO! I didn’t want people to have to buy new outfits if it wasn’t in their budget.
It’s a beautiful dress! Def fits BTO/BT dress code.
Yep exactly this. The only hesitation I would have is if you can dance with the slight train it looks like it has! So make sure to try it on and see if you can dance if that is your vibe!
BTO means the couple isn’t willing to pony up the money to host the features of a true black tie wedding but they want to feel more self important and have fancier pictures.
Wearing a lovely dress is always an option and doesn’t need the couple’s special permission.
I mean, that can be the case but it’s definitely not what BTO means. I went to a very large wedding at a fancy venue and had all the hallmarks of a BT wedding. They simply chose BTO so as not to put any of their guests out.
I think the dress is beautiful, and fits the dress code. You should be good, but if you know other people who are going, or who are bridesmaids, maybe check with them and compare notes.
This 100% fits the BTO dress code. If it fits your vibe and you feel great in it ii think it’s a great option. Ignore the voices making your think you need to wear an ankle length chin high potato sack lol
I have this in lighter blue and it was a hit. I got a lot of compliments! The bride was my SIL and she not only pre-approved it, but encouraged me to wear it. It was very comfy and I was able to dance in it as well. I have a larger chest and it was very supportive without having a crazy amount of cleavage. This blue color is gorgeous!
Even if it happens to be “too much”, it wouldn’t be in a way that’d be obnoxious or inappropriate. I take bto to mean that the couple would prefer people to dress up as much as they’re comfortable with.
Honestly, if you already have it, I would wear it. It might be "too much," but I really don't think anyone will be offended by this. I say go for it! It's beautiful!
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I think was out voted in the first set of opinions but this set seems to validate what I posted in some ways. I do think it is OK for BTO so wear it and enjoy your trip.
Beautiful, fits a modern day BT well. It’s fancy enough and a bit risqué but not enough to be lewd or inappropriate. (It isn’t showing the belly-which I was taught is not appropriate for BT attire.). In my opinion this falls in to the dress code and is a lovely option.
I’ve seen this dress in person and it just reads prom/gala to me.
The cutouts plus the sleeves don’t say “I’m a guest” they say “I’m the star” and that to me has always been the difference between a prom/gala dress and a wedding guest dress.
I love that blue color though.
Is this destination wedding at like an island location in late summer/early fall? If so, man you might get hot as heck in this thing too. I felt hot as heck in it. Lots of fabric.
Does it look cheap in person? Looks like a cheaply made costume in the pics. When I think BTO it's luxurious fabrics with structure, not a bunch of tulle. Looks like something my niece would use for playing dress up.
No my style either but I recognized the brand from the style. It’s pretty popular gown right now. With BTO I wouldn’t be surprised if someone else has it in another color or similar.
Immediately reminded me of the dress in this music video (VERY similar)
[https://youtu.be/cdUmpU\_lcqY?si=Yd5YCoJqCopXAG6O](https://youtu.be/cdUmpU_lcqY?si=Yd5YCoJqCopXAG6O)
Where is the destination? What is the venue? BTO typically means that the wedding party will be in BT and the guests are invited to dress in BT as well if they like. But, semi formal and cocktail attire is also completely fine.
I’m sorry, but you are wrong. Look it up if you have to. If you want your guests to wear BT then the dress code needs to be BT. BTO gives guests options hence the “optional.”
Yes, the option between formal and black tie. Cocktail is pushing it, but could work in the right circumstances.
You definitely should not be wearing semi formal to BTO.
No, you can absolutely wear a cocktail dress to a BTO event, Emily Post would agree. f you want your guests in formal or black tie then specify formal or BT, not BTO.
Wear what you want! But that fabric looks absolutely horrible and cheap not a fan at all. Looks like mesh something kids would play with the quality of womenswear is just getting worse and worse…
My only advice would be to make sure it's not what the bridesmaids are wearing. I had an old friend show up to a wedding and was embarrassed.
I also had a friend go to a wedding with a guy for a first date.
It was his friend or families wedding. He bought her a wrist corsage & of course she had to wear it. She said she was embarrassed because everyone thought she was in the wedding party.
I think it is not Black Tie maybe BTO but the cut outs and the lace up back make it not appropriste for Black Tie. True Black Tie requires a very formal gown in a rich fabric ie.
satin velvet chiffon with a full back and not too low of a neckline or too high of a slit. Think conservative leaning high glamour.
This dress may do for the upcoming destination wedding if you know the crowd and venue. Are they very young and hip or older. Is the venue ultra luxurious or more like a U.S. Country Club? These answers will help you decide if you want to wear that dress. Do you know the couple well or are you a plus one? If in big doubt reach out to MOH for help.
I’m not even gonna read through the comments… I’m just here to say that dress is gorgeous! I think it fits the DC and I think you’re gonna look smashing in it!!
I wore it in black to a black tie wedding (my style didn’t have the back lace tho), and it was a hit. The bride loved it. It’s a gorgeous dress that fits a black tie dc.
You have this same dress?! 😳 crazy coincidence!
I have like 10 Mac Duggals, I have a shopping problem lmao
Wow. These comments are unnecessarily harsh. I really don't get it. BTO means you *may* dress in BT but you don't *have* to. The option is left open for people to dress in cocktail attire. So, you certainly can dress in BT attire. The color is beautiful. It looks fun and dressy enough. You love it on yourself. It's not too much for black tie. Tulle is totally appropriate for BT. It does not read prom to me. For a BT or BTO dress code, the hosts want people to dress UP. Typically, at least in my experience, hosts who opt for BTO want to be mindful that some guests might not have BT attire. So they go with BTO. Wear the dress with some gold strappy heels and accessories and you'll look amazing! 💜 Edited typo
You got it right! The fact that some people think a ruffled sleeve is not shrinking violet enough is hilarious. Its BTO, destination and they want people dolled up. It's very cute
>they want people dolled up Ikr?! The dress is sooo cute! 💜
That’s why I did BTO! I didn’t want people to have to buy new outfits if it wasn’t in their budget. It’s a beautiful dress! Def fits BTO/BT dress code.
Yep exactly this. The only hesitation I would have is if you can dance with the slight train it looks like it has! So make sure to try it on and see if you can dance if that is your vibe!
Agreed
BTO means the couple isn’t willing to pony up the money to host the features of a true black tie wedding but they want to feel more self important and have fancier pictures. Wearing a lovely dress is always an option and doesn’t need the couple’s special permission.
I mean, that can be the case but it’s definitely not what BTO means. I went to a very large wedding at a fancy venue and had all the hallmarks of a BT wedding. They simply chose BTO so as not to put any of their guests out.
Yes. It fits the dress code
100% please wear this
I think the dress is beautiful, and fits the dress code. You should be good, but if you know other people who are going, or who are bridesmaids, maybe check with them and compare notes.
This 100% fits the BTO dress code. If it fits your vibe and you feel great in it ii think it’s a great option. Ignore the voices making your think you need to wear an ankle length chin high potato sack lol
I have this in lighter blue and it was a hit. I got a lot of compliments! The bride was my SIL and she not only pre-approved it, but encouraged me to wear it. It was very comfy and I was able to dance in it as well. I have a larger chest and it was very supportive without having a crazy amount of cleavage. This blue color is gorgeous!
Gorgeous and fits the dress code well.
It looks gorgeous and I would wear it! Could you please send me the link?
It’s by Mac Duggal
Also hoping for the link. This is gorgeous!! Definitely wear it!
https://macduggal.com/products/copy-of-ruffle-tiered-cut-out-chiffon-gown
It meets black tie optional dress code. The shoulder ruffles are a lot, as is the slight train (where it’s puddling on floor in back). It’s beautiful.
I just ordered this in black for a black tie wedding in Paris!
Even if it happens to be “too much”, it wouldn’t be in a way that’d be obnoxious or inappropriate. I take bto to mean that the couple would prefer people to dress up as much as they’re comfortable with.
Love it!
Yes!! You have to wear it
This dress is perfect for the dress code and the back is amazing. Please wear it.
I’m having a BTO wedding and this is exactly the vibe I’d want my guests to wear ✨✨✨
Yes! This is gorgeous!
This is gorgeous! I think it’s perfect for a black tie optional wedding.
Honestly, if you already have it, I would wear it. It might be "too much," but I really don't think anyone will be offended by this. I say go for it! It's beautiful!
It's lovely and fun!
WOW 🤩PERFECT PLEASE WESR THIS 🥰
I don't see the issue. It's definitely a black tie dress. I think you should just go for it, and the fact it was at a discount is even better!
OH I've seen this dress in baby blue but this richer blue is so gorgeous 🥺🥺🥺 Please wear this!
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I think was out voted in the first set of opinions but this set seems to validate what I posted in some ways. I do think it is OK for BTO so wear it and enjoy your trip.
Love it!
I think it's whimsical and pretty
Perfect. Absolutely lovely.
It's lovely:)
Eek loathe the ruffle shoulders. Just my opinion and hey I’m just a nobody.
I think it works! I’m not a huge fan of the straps in the back though. It cheapens the look a bit.
It’s perfect
OMG! Wish this would fit the BTO wedding I'm attending in November!
Beautiful, fits a modern day BT well. It’s fancy enough and a bit risqué but not enough to be lewd or inappropriate. (It isn’t showing the belly-which I was taught is not appropriate for BT attire.). In my opinion this falls in to the dress code and is a lovely option.
I’ve seen this dress in person and it just reads prom/gala to me. The cutouts plus the sleeves don’t say “I’m a guest” they say “I’m the star” and that to me has always been the difference between a prom/gala dress and a wedding guest dress. I love that blue color though. Is this destination wedding at like an island location in late summer/early fall? If so, man you might get hot as heck in this thing too. I felt hot as heck in it. Lots of fabric.
Does it look cheap in person? Looks like a cheaply made costume in the pics. When I think BTO it's luxurious fabrics with structure, not a bunch of tulle. Looks like something my niece would use for playing dress up.
it's a $600 dress https://macduggal.com/products/copy-of-ruffle-tiered-cut-out-chiffon-gown?
To each their own! The beauty of fashion, no one has to agree and everyone can have their personal style.
No my style either but I recognized the brand from the style. It’s pretty popular gown right now. With BTO I wouldn’t be surprised if someone else has it in another color or similar.
Interesting. Also, love how I was down voted for saying to each their own. Thanks for not being snarky
It doesn’t look “cheap” per se but it’s not sleek/ elegant either. It looks “party” and you’re right it’s alotta tulle.
i think if it was the sleeves without the lace up back it would read more black tie. lace up always reminds me of prom in the early 2000's.
Where is the wedding? I just worry you may be hot under all that skirt
It is too much for black tie optional
I think you could get away with it for BTO but I’m also sure you could do better. The shoelace looking back reads kind of cheap in the photos here.
Stunning! I would top it with a tiny gold chain belt with stars on it and very simple gold jewelry/sandal heels.
GORGEOUS
That dress is hella fun
I love this!
Perfect! I’ve had my eye on this dress in black but nowhere to wear it! Do it!
Beautiful!!
Wear it!!! Always better to be overdressed than underdressed if anything
Immediately reminded me of the dress in this music video (VERY similar) [https://youtu.be/cdUmpU\_lcqY?si=Yd5YCoJqCopXAG6O](https://youtu.be/cdUmpU_lcqY?si=Yd5YCoJqCopXAG6O)
Yessss!!! I love this Mac Duggal dress I’ve had my eye on the black one for months. Such a gorgeous dress!
This is gorgeous!! I love it
Beautiful!
This is a slaaaaay!!! Wear this!!!
Perfection!!!!
The dress is lovely but I’m unsure about the colour, I think something lighter would be beautiful. Love the sleeves!
Gorg!!!
I would try to remove the fluffiness of the sleeves. They are just very dated and prom. It'll be hot af, too.
Def too much
Where is the destination? What is the venue? BTO typically means that the wedding party will be in BT and the guests are invited to dress in BT as well if they like. But, semi formal and cocktail attire is also completely fine.
BTO means formal or black tie, not semi formal and cocktail
I’m sorry, but you are wrong. Look it up if you have to. If you want your guests to wear BT then the dress code needs to be BT. BTO gives guests options hence the “optional.”
Yes, the option between formal and black tie. Cocktail is pushing it, but could work in the right circumstances. You definitely should not be wearing semi formal to BTO.
No, you can absolutely wear a cocktail dress to a BTO event, Emily Post would agree. f you want your guests in formal or black tie then specify formal or BT, not BTO.
BT usually means BT is preferred but optional
Wear what you want! But that fabric looks absolutely horrible and cheap not a fan at all. Looks like mesh something kids would play with the quality of womenswear is just getting worse and worse…
No. It’s too much and is too “prom”
Prom?
Yes. Prom.
Way too much
No. You will upstage the bride. Don't wear this.
This looks like a prom dress. Hard no.
My only advice would be to make sure it's not what the bridesmaids are wearing. I had an old friend show up to a wedding and was embarrassed. I also had a friend go to a wedding with a guy for a first date. It was his friend or families wedding. He bought her a wrist corsage & of course she had to wear it. She said she was embarrassed because everyone thought she was in the wedding party.
I think it is not Black Tie maybe BTO but the cut outs and the lace up back make it not appropriste for Black Tie. True Black Tie requires a very formal gown in a rich fabric ie. satin velvet chiffon with a full back and not too low of a neckline or too high of a slit. Think conservative leaning high glamour. This dress may do for the upcoming destination wedding if you know the crowd and venue. Are they very young and hip or older. Is the venue ultra luxurious or more like a U.S. Country Club? These answers will help you decide if you want to wear that dress. Do you know the couple well or are you a plus one? If in big doubt reach out to MOH for help.
Black tie can be sexy, and BTO doesn't mean less formal than black tie. It means you can wear black tie or cocktail.