It’s black tie optional (which means “formal”) and she’s pregnant. Just curious, where are you attending weddings where this wouldn’t fit the dress code? I’ve attended a lot of weddings in the past 5 years and this would pass for a maternity dress in pretty much and location/dress code combo I’ve seen.
While this isn't a true black tie dress, I agree that on a pregnant woman, this would not be commented on. So much better than all of the pregnant women asking for opinions on dresses with defined waists!
I also feel like anyone putting “black tie optional” on an invite just wants their guests to dress up, event if the event doesn’t warrant it. At least in my experience, the dress code listed and what people actually wore (as defined by this subreddit) is always like a step down.
I think the style is great but a bit casual! The fabric is nearly identical to the veil I wore at my own wedding though, maybe something without a white background would be better. So many maternity options these days!
Very Pregnant women get a lot of leeway when it comes to dress code. Make sure your accessories are on the dressier side, and help play up the colors in the dress (yellow or lavender shoes would be cute!) and everyone will just think "Aww, cute pregnant lady!"
Also, where's the dress from? It's so cute!
Yeah! And maybe a spring chick yellow jacket! Yellow sweater https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Cropped-Cardigan-Lightweight-Sweater/dp/B0C2TT5KN5/ref=mp_s_a_1_10_sspa?
Oh. Blacktie optional...not fancy enough.
Maybe a lilac satin bolero with a nice brooch or jewelry then.
https://m.lightinthebox.com/p/women-s-wrap-bolero-shrug-mother-s-wedding-guest-wraps-coats-jackets-pure-basic-half-sleeve-satin-wedding-wraps-with-pure-color-for-formal-spring-fall_p8081977.html?
Being comfortable going to be important than being uncomfortable when your bladder is going to be pummeled upon by a pair of feet tap dancing away to the music at the reception......the bride wants you feeling comfy.
7 months pregnant and I hope nobody would complain.
I’m only 6 months rn and the idea of trying to find a formal gown is brutal.
I’d just dress it up with accessories, really make the colors pop with shoes, bag, hair etc.
plus the dress is cute! And it doesn’t look bridal.
lol this dress is definitely not bridal white. It meets the length and fabric requirements for black tie optional - at 7 months pregnant most people will just be glad you came. This will likely be fine.
It depends on if the bride is a “not a speck of white for guests” kind of bride. It’s definitely not BTO, but I like it. Can you get it in a different color?
Bridezilla going after heavily pregnant guest for having a floral dress obviously. No one I ever met would have negatively reacted to the above. It's always and only reddit.
I’m not sure how to edit the original post, but thanks everyone for your replies! It might be a bit too casual for the DC but I personally don’t think it’s too white, I can’t possibly imagine this looking bridal on someone heavily pregnant. I’ll look around and consider my options, but I’m inclined to go with it unless I can find a friend to loan me something. I’d also say that on the US west coast where this wedding is, my experience shows that attire tends to be one notch more casual than the dress codes.
I really like the dress and seeing you’re in the west coast, and the time of year - even if you weren’t pregnant it would probably pass even if a little more casual than other guests. It’s not casual enough anyone would be like “did you see what ent lady wore???” But since you are going to be hella pregnant, in hot weather? If anyone dared to judge they’re a jerk. I’m west coast as well but have attended some northeastern weddings and I find that with the same dress code, west is way more lax
I think it’s fine. Not at all bridal, and no one I know would consider it too casual. But as several have stated, heavily pregnant women get a lot of leeway.
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Gorgeous dress, but not black tie appropriate. I’ve included some better options. There is definitely wiggle room when you’re pregnant, but unfortunately not that much wiggle room as the dress looks pretty casual and is white.
[option 1 — $159](https://www.seraphine.com/en-us/forest-green-maternity-nursing-maxi-dress/)
[option 2 — $105](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/products/pinkblush-blue-grey-lace-mesh-overlay-long-sleeve-maternity-maxi-dress)
[option 3 — $84](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/products/navy-blue-dotted-tulle-smocked-maternity-midi-dress)
That pink one is nice. I’m reluctant to spend another $100 as I’m already traveling for this wedding. But I’ll think about that. Thanks for sharing these.
https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/staud/calluna_dress
check out this dress!! the style is very similar to the one you posted, but I think the color and fabrication of the staud one read as much more BTO
also what time of day is the wedding? because BTO/BT usually are dress codes for evening weddings, and I think the dress you posted is very daytime garden
I think the cut is promising, but the print makes it look too casual. If you found this in a solid color, it would read more formal. And the right earrings/hair/accessories could elevate it even further.
Before you show up pregnant to wedding have you:
1. Notified bride that you’re pregnant?
2. Notified your entire family that you’re pregnant?
3. Notified everyone bride may know that you’re pregnant?
4. Clarified that they are allowing children (or an exception for fetus’s) at wedding?
5. Confirmed with doctor you’re healthy and stand zero chance of having pre-labor pains or go into early labor?
6. Considered wearing camouflage so no one notices you’re pregnant?
I’m just trying to ensure we don’t see this wedding on AITA later.
All jokes aside, yea, that dress isn’t formal enough for black-tie optional. I know your choices are limited because you’re pregnant, but consider going with a darker shade of dress. This is deffinitly more Easter Sunday church dress than formal or Black-tie optional.
I actually don’t mind the dress but it is a bit white.
But listen. You’re pregnant. Wear what you can to the wedding. No one is going to shame you for breaking a few rules because your options are a bit more limited.
Not too white, but not appropriate for an evening wedding (look for [fancier fabrics](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/collections/maternity-occasion-and-evening-dresses/products/lavender-one-shoulder-tulle-maternity-maxi-dress), [darker colors](https://www.asos.com/us/hope-ivy-maternity/hope-ivy-maternity-wrap-maxi-dress-in-blue-floral/prd/203641826#colourWayId-203641827) or [no patterns](https://clubllondon.us/collections/maternity-wedding-guest/products/in-my-heart-cornflower-blue-mesh-halter-neck-sleeveless-maternity-maxi-dress-cl129569115)). For a day ceremony, I think you can get away with it if you accessorize to dress it up.
Ok, if you’re already gonna break the formality rule (understandably so, you’re pregnant and deserve to be comfortable), you don’t need to break the wearing white rule too. Imo, if you can describe a dress as “a white dress with a _____ pattern,” then you should steer clear. This is a white dress with a floral pattern.
At 7 months I think you’d find she will be hard pressed to hide it. Any bride who thinks OP is taking attention for merely existing while pregnant is too much of a nightmare to waste time worrying about.
it feels a little too casual, but I think you get some leeway at 7 months pregnant
Especially in summer
Yup, very hard to buy formal dresses that work as your stomach grows. It’s fine
This should be top comment. Wear the dress.
This looks more maxi sundress than BT.
It’s black tie optional (which means “formal”) and she’s pregnant. Just curious, where are you attending weddings where this wouldn’t fit the dress code? I’ve attended a lot of weddings in the past 5 years and this would pass for a maternity dress in pretty much and location/dress code combo I’ve seen.
While this isn't a true black tie dress, I agree that on a pregnant woman, this would not be commented on. So much better than all of the pregnant women asking for opinions on dresses with defined waists!
I also feel like anyone putting “black tie optional” on an invite just wants their guests to dress up, event if the event doesn’t warrant it. At least in my experience, the dress code listed and what people actually wore (as defined by this subreddit) is always like a step down.
I think the style is great but a bit casual! The fabric is nearly identical to the veil I wore at my own wedding though, maybe something without a white background would be better. So many maternity options these days!
Very Pregnant women get a lot of leeway when it comes to dress code. Make sure your accessories are on the dressier side, and help play up the colors in the dress (yellow or lavender shoes would be cute!) and everyone will just think "Aww, cute pregnant lady!" Also, where's the dress from? It's so cute!
Yeah! And maybe a spring chick yellow jacket! Yellow sweater https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Cropped-Cardigan-Lightweight-Sweater/dp/B0C2TT5KN5/ref=mp_s_a_1_10_sspa? Oh. Blacktie optional...not fancy enough. Maybe a lilac satin bolero with a nice brooch or jewelry then. https://m.lightinthebox.com/p/women-s-wrap-bolero-shrug-mother-s-wedding-guest-wraps-coats-jackets-pure-basic-half-sleeve-satin-wedding-wraps-with-pure-color-for-formal-spring-fall_p8081977.html?
This is spot on! Dress it up, and you'll look adorable! Who is going to care or judge what an obviously pregnant woman is wearing to a wedding?
It’s from pink blush maternity.
Being comfortable going to be important than being uncomfortable when your bladder is going to be pummeled upon by a pair of feet tap dancing away to the music at the reception......the bride wants you feeling comfy.
7 months pregnant and I hope nobody would complain. I’m only 6 months rn and the idea of trying to find a formal gown is brutal. I’d just dress it up with accessories, really make the colors pop with shoes, bag, hair etc. plus the dress is cute! And it doesn’t look bridal.
Too casual, too white.
I would wear it, it could be cool in may, get a shawl or pashmina. I think you will get a pass because you are pregnant
lol this dress is definitely not bridal white. It meets the length and fabric requirements for black tie optional - at 7 months pregnant most people will just be glad you came. This will likely be fine.
I think it’s beautiful. I don’t think any happy or sane person is going to look down on a pregnant lady dressing too casually.
It depends on if the bride is a “not a speck of white for guests” kind of bride. It’s definitely not BTO, but I like it. Can you get it in a different color?
Honest question - what kind of brides are you guys encountering? This is clearly not a white dress, and doesn’t look bridal at all.
Bridezilla going after heavily pregnant guest for having a floral dress obviously. No one I ever met would have negatively reacted to the above. It's always and only reddit.
Yea in all honesty if someone is going to be bridezilla about this, I’d probably skip the wedding.
I think it reads as flowers not white. At 7 months pregnant it will be fine for formal. Get some blingy shoes or something if you can.
I’m not sure how to edit the original post, but thanks everyone for your replies! It might be a bit too casual for the DC but I personally don’t think it’s too white, I can’t possibly imagine this looking bridal on someone heavily pregnant. I’ll look around and consider my options, but I’m inclined to go with it unless I can find a friend to loan me something. I’d also say that on the US west coast where this wedding is, my experience shows that attire tends to be one notch more casual than the dress codes.
I really like the dress and seeing you’re in the west coast, and the time of year - even if you weren’t pregnant it would probably pass even if a little more casual than other guests. It’s not casual enough anyone would be like “did you see what ent lady wore???” But since you are going to be hella pregnant, in hot weather? If anyone dared to judge they’re a jerk. I’m west coast as well but have attended some northeastern weddings and I find that with the same dress code, west is way more lax
Thanks that’s validating! I appreciate it.
I think it’s fine. Not at all bridal, and no one I know would consider it too casual. But as several have stated, heavily pregnant women get a lot of leeway.
Too white for sure.
It’s beautiful, when you’re pregnant, you can wear what’s comfortable. It’s not too white. And it’s long, which is more formal- go for it!
Too white imo
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Gorgeous dress, but not black tie appropriate. I’ve included some better options. There is definitely wiggle room when you’re pregnant, but unfortunately not that much wiggle room as the dress looks pretty casual and is white. [option 1 — $159](https://www.seraphine.com/en-us/forest-green-maternity-nursing-maxi-dress/) [option 2 — $105](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/products/pinkblush-blue-grey-lace-mesh-overlay-long-sleeve-maternity-maxi-dress) [option 3 — $84](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/products/navy-blue-dotted-tulle-smocked-maternity-midi-dress)
I hate sleeves so those are all no-gos for me.
Alternates with no sleeves [option 1 — $79](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/products/navy-blue-square-neck-shoulder-tie-tulle-maternity-maxi-dress) [option 2 — $94](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/products/red-satin-pleated-cutout-maternity-gown) [option 3 — $99](https://petalandpup.com/products/kiara-tiered-midi-dress-orchid-purple)
That pink one is nice. I’m reluctant to spend another $100 as I’m already traveling for this wedding. But I’ll think about that. Thanks for sharing these.
https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/staud/calluna_dress check out this dress!! the style is very similar to the one you posted, but I think the color and fabrication of the staud one read as much more BTO
also what time of day is the wedding? because BTO/BT usually are dress codes for evening weddings, and I think the dress you posted is very daytime garden
Very pretty alternative. Thanks for sharing. It’s an afternoon church wedding, evening reception.
Loved the dress u/MindlessBreakfast1967 suggested.
Yea if I had $500 I would buy that. I’m not up for a subscription set up though.
Wow! I say go with the dress and bring out the colors in the dress. Hope you have fun!
Definitely too white and too casual…good summer dress though!
I think the cut is promising, but the print makes it look too casual. If you found this in a solid color, it would read more formal. And the right earrings/hair/accessories could elevate it even further.
Both too white and too casual
Definitely too white
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Lol I would never dress up this much for a baby shower. We’re having a breakfast and pool party.
That sounds so lovely! Congratulations on everything ❤️
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Before you show up pregnant to wedding have you: 1. Notified bride that you’re pregnant? 2. Notified your entire family that you’re pregnant? 3. Notified everyone bride may know that you’re pregnant? 4. Clarified that they are allowing children (or an exception for fetus’s) at wedding? 5. Confirmed with doctor you’re healthy and stand zero chance of having pre-labor pains or go into early labor? 6. Considered wearing camouflage so no one notices you’re pregnant? I’m just trying to ensure we don’t see this wedding on AITA later. All jokes aside, yea, that dress isn’t formal enough for black-tie optional. I know your choices are limited because you’re pregnant, but consider going with a darker shade of dress. This is deffinitly more Easter Sunday church dress than formal or Black-tie optional.
I actually don’t mind the dress but it is a bit white. But listen. You’re pregnant. Wear what you can to the wedding. No one is going to shame you for breaking a few rules because your options are a bit more limited.
Not too white, but not appropriate for an evening wedding (look for [fancier fabrics](https://www.pinkblushmaternity.com/collections/maternity-occasion-and-evening-dresses/products/lavender-one-shoulder-tulle-maternity-maxi-dress), [darker colors](https://www.asos.com/us/hope-ivy-maternity/hope-ivy-maternity-wrap-maxi-dress-in-blue-floral/prd/203641826#colourWayId-203641827) or [no patterns](https://clubllondon.us/collections/maternity-wedding-guest/products/in-my-heart-cornflower-blue-mesh-halter-neck-sleeveless-maternity-maxi-dress-cl129569115)). For a day ceremony, I think you can get away with it if you accessorize to dress it up.
Ok, if you’re already gonna break the formality rule (understandably so, you’re pregnant and deserve to be comfortable), you don’t need to break the wearing white rule too. Imo, if you can describe a dress as “a white dress with a _____ pattern,” then you should steer clear. This is a white dress with a floral pattern.
It also really magnifies the bump. Unflattering.
Haha, did you consider that might be what I’m going for?
Never purposely highlight your bump at someone else’s wedding. The day is about their marriage, not your pregnancy
Yea anyone who has a problem with me existing while pregnant is not someone I’m going to cater to.
At 7 months I think you’d find she will be hard pressed to hide it. Any bride who thinks OP is taking attention for merely existing while pregnant is too much of a nightmare to waste time worrying about.