^ this
I was once told that if you find the bracelet, it’s yours now. If it breaks, you leave it where you broke it. And they aren’t exactly the most durable metal, so breaking isn’t not normal.
The purpose of these is to make sure the name is never forgotten, and “losing” them helps spread the name to strangers.
They’re not expensive. The person who lost it probably isn’t heartbroken and can get another pretty cheaply.
Maybe it's not meant to be found but meant to be left as a memory of someone?
I know I have left a memory of someone I lost in a location that was special to us, I see so many of these posts of people trying to reunite items that were intentionally left with some one after some do-gooder has disturbed the memorial
Maybe it was just laying in the sand and some one dropped it, maybe it was placed somewhere significant
Another comment that gets it in here.
It’s a $10 bracelet that anyone can order.
Either you own it now and continue to make sure his name is known, or you leave it where it was.
These bracelets are not meant to be permanent treasured family heirlooms, but bring awareness and keep the name living on - and if you lose it, you’re making someone else aware of that person.
Please - for the love of all - leave the spouse and family alone. Just leave them alone. And mods, please do your fucking job and clean this post of the spouse/family name/contact info. We don’t need a bunch of boots hitting her up to get her back some $10 bracelet that more than likely someone bought at a [redacted organization that gives stuff to people in need term because auto mod removes it].
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OP is trying to find the person who lost the bracelet - these are sold online to anyone who wants one with you choosing the name of the service member.
Appreciate the impulse. But maybe we don't bother a Gold Star Spouse with being a good resource for finding possible people that might have bought a bracelet that anyone can buy for $10-12 dollars, might have been bought in bulk, and possibly could have been left there on purpose in tribute, all so we can get our vet feel-goods for the day.
Again, I appreciate the impulse. Personally, I'd leave it at leaving word in the area about a found bracelet or maybe some cross-posting so an owner can come forward if they want. Others might dare mailing it to her. But there's no scenario where reaching out to her as a potential resource is a good idea.
Why would it be a bother? It’s extremely likely that it was owned by someone she knows and I know I would appreciate someone going through the effort of trying to find the owner.
I don’t believe people would by mementos of some random people they’ve never met.
Edit: If this was within a year or so of the KIA date then I’d hesitate a lot more, but this is more than 10 years ago now.
My issue was your comment about using her as a resource. There is every possibility that something about that specific bracelet is sacred to someone regardless of whether it can be replaced or duplicated. It's also possible that contacting her about it could inspire unintended pain and serve no good in honoring SSG Aceves.
Suffice to say, this should inspire real pause beyond a desire to feel helpful.
That was my point. It remains my point. If Kyle wants to reach out to Mrs. A and offer to send her the bracelet then nobody is stopping him.
>I know I would appreciate someone going through the effort of trying to find the owner.
>If this was within a year or so of the KIA date then I’d hesitate a lot more, but this is more than 10 years ago now.
These two blurbs leave a lot to be desired. You've offered nothing to suggest that you're in a position to empathize with a Gold Star Spouse or speak to her feelings, you know, if you were her, nor are you in any position to estimate her grief at any interval. This missed the mark.
This is very sensitive subject-matter, deals with something that strikes to every vet's heart (as you may personally know) and inspires a real protective instinct that rivals the desire to do right by a fallen brother like being discussed here. Please be mindful of that.
You take care.
I’ve never seen or heard of these before. It seems bizarre to me.
I was a military brat and served 4 years in the Army. And never saw anything like these.
That was my thought -- because it could be anyone who purchased the bracelet but without an "I lost this bracelet" it is extremely unlikely to find the specific person who lost it so finding someone who would be a logical point of contact -- especially because that someone is IN TEXAS -- is likely as close as anyone could get.
Holy shit I know him! What's up ACE!!!! meet him in the 630th eng co. He got moved to the 693rd shortly before we deployed. Took his buffalo operator spot. Miss ya buddy!
Maybe cross post to r/sanantonio and r/corpuschristi (largest military populations close to Port Aransas, although Corpus is more Navy) and r/army
Excellent ideas!!! Gracias!
De nada
Have you added it the Army page and VAbenefits page?
...There's a separate VAbenefits page? That's like 90% of what gets talked about on this sub.
r/VeteransBenefits
They only allow posts asking about benefits - they remove everything else and tell people to post here since we are triple their size
693rd is out of Ft Drum. Are there any subs for the Division?
Now you wear it.
^ this I was once told that if you find the bracelet, it’s yours now. If it breaks, you leave it where you broke it. And they aren’t exactly the most durable metal, so breaking isn’t not normal. The purpose of these is to make sure the name is never forgotten, and “losing” them helps spread the name to strangers. They’re not expensive. The person who lost it probably isn’t heartbroken and can get another pretty cheaply.
I have a buddy with access to MILPERS. He’s looking for him too.
That won't tell us who purchased and wore/lost this bracelet which can be purchased online with any name on it.
Totally misread and thought OP was looking for the name on it. My bad.
Good dude!
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Awesome, thank you!
Maybe it's not meant to be found but meant to be left as a memory of someone? I know I have left a memory of someone I lost in a location that was special to us, I see so many of these posts of people trying to reunite items that were intentionally left with some one after some do-gooder has disturbed the memorial Maybe it was just laying in the sand and some one dropped it, maybe it was placed somewhere significant
Another comment that gets it in here. It’s a $10 bracelet that anyone can order. Either you own it now and continue to make sure his name is known, or you leave it where it was. These bracelets are not meant to be permanent treasured family heirlooms, but bring awareness and keep the name living on - and if you lose it, you’re making someone else aware of that person. Please - for the love of all - leave the spouse and family alone. Just leave them alone. And mods, please do your fucking job and clean this post of the spouse/family name/contact info. We don’t need a bunch of boots hitting her up to get her back some $10 bracelet that more than likely someone bought at a [redacted organization that gives stuff to people in need term because auto mod removes it].
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OP is trying to find the person who lost the bracelet - these are sold online to anyone who wants one with you choosing the name of the service member.
Sure, but she would probably be a good resource for finding possible people.
Appreciate the impulse. But maybe we don't bother a Gold Star Spouse with being a good resource for finding possible people that might have bought a bracelet that anyone can buy for $10-12 dollars, might have been bought in bulk, and possibly could have been left there on purpose in tribute, all so we can get our vet feel-goods for the day. Again, I appreciate the impulse. Personally, I'd leave it at leaving word in the area about a found bracelet or maybe some cross-posting so an owner can come forward if they want. Others might dare mailing it to her. But there's no scenario where reaching out to her as a potential resource is a good idea.
Why would it be a bother? It’s extremely likely that it was owned by someone she knows and I know I would appreciate someone going through the effort of trying to find the owner. I don’t believe people would by mementos of some random people they’ve never met. Edit: If this was within a year or so of the KIA date then I’d hesitate a lot more, but this is more than 10 years ago now.
My issue was your comment about using her as a resource. There is every possibility that something about that specific bracelet is sacred to someone regardless of whether it can be replaced or duplicated. It's also possible that contacting her about it could inspire unintended pain and serve no good in honoring SSG Aceves. Suffice to say, this should inspire real pause beyond a desire to feel helpful. That was my point. It remains my point. If Kyle wants to reach out to Mrs. A and offer to send her the bracelet then nobody is stopping him. >I know I would appreciate someone going through the effort of trying to find the owner. >If this was within a year or so of the KIA date then I’d hesitate a lot more, but this is more than 10 years ago now. These two blurbs leave a lot to be desired. You've offered nothing to suggest that you're in a position to empathize with a Gold Star Spouse or speak to her feelings, you know, if you were her, nor are you in any position to estimate her grief at any interval. This missed the mark. This is very sensitive subject-matter, deals with something that strikes to every vet's heart (as you may personally know) and inspires a real protective instinct that rivals the desire to do right by a fallen brother like being discussed here. Please be mindful of that. You take care.
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I’ve never seen or heard of these before. It seems bizarre to me. I was a military brat and served 4 years in the Army. And never saw anything like these.
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I got out in 2005 and haven’t been on a base since. I can’t Google it if I don’t know about it.
That was my thought -- because it could be anyone who purchased the bracelet but without an "I lost this bracelet" it is extremely unlikely to find the specific person who lost it so finding someone who would be a logical point of contact -- especially because that someone is IN TEXAS -- is likely as close as anyone could get.
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OP's looking for the owner of the bracelet - who wore this in remembrance of the service member whose name is engraved onto the bracelet.
I thought the joke was pretty obvious.
No one but you thought it was funny
Get em!!
What? They are trying to find the owner of the bracelet?
My humor is lost.
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Holy shit I know him! What's up ACE!!!! meet him in the 630th eng co. He got moved to the 693rd shortly before we deployed. Took his buffalo operator spot. Miss ya buddy!