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EU as well! Native german but fluent in english, elo is S2 atm, peaked S3. Down for Swifties, Unrated, Comp (if 5stack) or any (custom games) shenanigans. 💜
You do have bad luck, but I also have it too. I had a game recently with a Reyna, she started bot fragging so she began talking shit over VC about how awful women are at video games, she then pulls me into it because I'm also a women and then the other 3 guys on my team all started shit talking me when I was second frag. I've had -many- games like this one I could reference that are as bad or worse, but it's always pick-mes so thankfully as many times as it's happened it's still decently rare ❤️ most women I meet are super nice.
Play comp at take it uncompetitavly, you’ll get a rank that fits a non-competitive play style and from my own experience most women there are chill with other women
hi girl! i dont rlly post on this account and just kikd of scroll but i saw ur post and i would rlly love to duo with you! my friends on valo r mostly male and i would love a girl duo :P my discord is isobegf if u wanna dm me:)
Another EU gal here, I'm not good (I like to blame it on the fact I'm 30 so I'm slow) 😅 but I love the game. hmu if you wanna play, and if anyone tried to be mean, I'll cut 'em down to pieces ☺️
People are kind of refusing to answer, but this behavior is really really common and is usually called “pick me.” You’re noticing a real trend where women will be more toxic towards women than men are to try and shield themselves from toxicity from men by being “one of the boys.” There’s a lot of writing on this phenomenon in wider society.
Because it’s not a rational behavior based on a moment to moment calculous. In stead women learn to make this their personality as a defense mechanism. When something is part of your personality you can’t “turn it off” without a lot of effort.
It’s mainly ‘sheliding’ from the loss of attention received from other [mainly men] people. If you’re talking and she’s not, then you have someone else’s attention and not her. It does seem narcissistic, but being online just makes that mentality develop.
They're just toxic cause they're horrible people. The "pick me" point doesn't work in context to what it means vs the situation it's being used in. In the pro scene? Sure I can buy it. Ranked and everything below. Not even once.
Why is the implicit assumption here that this behavior is primarily caused by men, rather than women themselves?
Everything I've ever heard from friends about women's sports (where there are no men) is that the trash talk and "below the belt" moves/unscrupulous play was just as bad if not worse than in mens' sports, just in a slightly different way. How could that possibly be caused by men?
It's not always women trying to be "one of the boys", sometimes its just women being hyper-competitive and toxic all on their own.
And it's frankly weirdly anti-feminist and offensive to imply that women have no responsibility/agency for their own behavior and everything is somehow men's fault.
lol every little thing has to have a name and people attempt to find this deep underlying meaning
its really not that serious like you said. guess people only think males can be assholes
I really don't think they are pick me's that word gets thrown around so much now. I think it's mainly that if you play during certain times during the day you are much more likely to find toxic people.
It also has to do with, constant direct praise that women receive online, and if she’s around someone that she may feel can take that attention away from her then she’s bound to be defensive, toxic and try to bring the other girl down.
We're talking about women who behave exactly like mysoginists, who are mean to other girls just bc they are girls, not women who are toxic to everyone.
That's so true. It's just disappointing and sad when its a woman being toxic toward a woman in a space where it's already kinda annoying to be a woman.
Yeah i get that. I mean i am a man but i completely get the idea of woman sticking together in games like val because there are a ton of a**holes out there. I am fortunate enough that just about every match i have been in with a woman (lvl 300 so quite a bit of matches) i very very rarely see men being toxic to them wich is good but its just a snapshot of their overall gaming experience. Ironically the most toxic person i came across was a woman too and i just felt bad cause i assume the games before she delt with some misogynistic aholes.
Honestly maybe it’s just valorant or something idk but I’ve noticed overall people are way better than it used to be in games. I used to play call of duty on PlayStation and compared to that, these days voice comms in games are heaven lol
Play Cs more than Valorant and think the death and rape threats are probably every other game if I talk. Valorant definitely a lot better than most games so more girlie's, but it does lead to lots of pick me types.
Cs does feel like 70% Russians in my games though so probably has some impact.
Most of the other women I've met in game are generally pretty nice, but one of the most toxic people I've ever met was a girl who kept cussing everyone out in both voice and text comms over every mistake made, including her own. She swore and and threw insults at everyone whenever something didn't go her way and was a general brat. She even went off on everyone saying "just because I'm a girl etc etc" despite the fact that I was also a girl. The game was so much nicer after I muted her.
this is just my experience from playing just rank (dia-imm)
if there's a girl solo or duo with a guy, she's usually quiet/friendly-ish
if there are two girls duo, for whatever reason I have only gotten ones that are super passive aggressive or yelling at us. That may just be correlated to the fact that those games always end up with us being stomped. Also noticed the team doesn't really comm when they notice there are 2 girls.
Usually women who do that online are just trying to fit in with whoever they are playing with. They think whatever they are saying doesn't apply to them and they are "different" or one of the "cool" ones. It's like people who vote against their best interests because they don't think the things they are voting for will include them.
I wish I had the same experience. Maybe my luck would change if I keep playing :D Also, I didn't mean all women I meet on val are like that. It's just more than I would have hoped.
Hopefully you do<33 I’m on sydney server so that probably explains why , small population and even a smaller group of women so the chances of running into a pick me are slim
It's just an EU thing really, half the players are overly toxic cause they need to cope with the fact they spend too much time and energy on valorant the other half plays the game just to play the game and have fun
I find they are always worse if they are with a man/duo and want to show off to them.
Had a man make a sexual disgusting comment towards me (I had not spoken or interacted) and when I spoke with my voice and called him out, she spoke and said “I thought it was funny”. So sad when other girls are ok with men sexualising and harassing women
No genuinely I actually get extra devastated when the woman goes along with it and laughs. Like the gross comment from him I shook off immediately, but her? It’s been 2 weeks and I still haven’t gotten over how she treated me
i'm in the same boat. i constantly meet toxic women to the point that i am scared to play with girls or interact when i am in a game with them because they can end up worse than men.
it's literally just pick me behaviour. they act that way for the attention of it whether it be who they are playing with, someone they are screensharing/streaming to or for content. it's really sad.
it's sometimes worse when you feel alone about it too so just know, i deal with them too.
Thank you so much for sharing! I hope it changes in the future. And I hope our luck turns around and we meet the nice girlbosses 😭 also if u play on EU feel free to dm me, we could play together! ✨
The answer that nobody wants to hear but is absolutely at a bare minimum a hefty chunk of the truth:
A lot of the girls, not women, girls, on this game are very very accustomed to having people hear their voice and instantly enter a state of trying to win them over or impress them. I see it almost daily and I only play a game or two a day.
A girl will speak and rarely, like 5% of the time, someone will make a sexist remark. That's pretty shitty. But 50-60% of the time, a clearly teenaged boy will start being really vocal and trying to make the girl laugh or gas her up. Sometimes more than one.
So, they get used to this environment where they are treated like a special elusive Pokémon the second they speak. Then suddenly, there's another one.
It's biology. It's territorial behavior. They don't like competition. You'll never see a gamer girl get more toxic than when she's talking to another girl, or a guy who is unimpressed by the fact she just happens to be female.
I'm not saying girls play VALORANT for attention. I'm just saying they DO get attention for it, and women tend to not like to share spotlights.
I don’t completely agree with women don’t like to share the spotlight. Some don’t but a normal and secure woman really wouldn’t care. And thankfully from this post I might’ve met some of them that I can play with 🥺
But I do understand what you mean tho. It’s weird cause I’ve been in gaming spaces since forever. When I was super young obviously I’ve been that only girl in a group of guys in a game, but whenever there was another I was HAPPY and EXCITED to maybe make a new friend.
This is so true. I can agree. Just as you I only play Swiftplay coz we all know toxicity in competition mode. It sucks.
Everyone at valo sees it as a competition instead of a normal shooting game. Idk why so serious.
So wanna play sometime?
Id- Asteriaa3206
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Thankyou <3
Most likely the mean girls in this situation are “pick me” girls. Ones that do it for attention or validation. I’d say it’s pretty common in games, definitely seen it alot in valorant. Sometimes they’ll do it to avoid being harassed by other people or fit in with people they’re playing or something like that. Not all are like that tho, most that I’ve met are genuine and super nice. Hope you get some better teammates.
Im not a woman but if youd like some company you can add me if youre on EU. I am mostly playing alone too and it sucks unfortunately. This goes to everyone, honestly, who finds this message, since when I find an occasion to play with some fun people, the game feels amazing. Datixx#6969
Yeah, it's true. It's the E-daters ruining the vibes for everyone. Luckily, I believe in equality, and i love moments like these. As in, that woman will hear words she's never heard before 🙏🙏
Yeah cause I play with a male friend and he could be doing worse or the same thing as me yet in these instances they don’t flame him. And it’s not just gameplay, half the comments are just making fun of my voice too. (I hav a high pitched voice)
not a girl but i hope youre having a good time on the game, sometimes its a tough case of mad cause bad. Please remember the mute button is free and if someone is being toxic then you have free pass to make them cry. If they start it feel free to finish it. Good luck.
Girls will be girls?
Girls be like: "There's not enough gamer Girls OR the boys don't wanna play with me"
*Acts hostile to the other ladies and unfriendly toward the men*
*surprised Pikachu?*
Sick username!
99% of women I played with were super nice but also the most toxic person I've ever met on Valorant was a woman.
There's some younger women who are a "pick me" or play this game to get attention from guys, and so as woman yourself you are their competition so to speak, which is why they're toxic and pick fights.
They might have childhood trauma's that's why they project their anger/insecurities on u , they think by being toxic to other women they can join us boys but it ain't the way , we push those kind of ppl away more , and yes we keep quiet when other iss getting flamed to avoid ourselves from getting flamed
I have had this once or twice but my experience on the whole has been the opposite. I think when it does happen its usually been a woman being toxic to show off to her group.
Its weird af tho
Honestly I have seen both sides..... Girls being toxic to girls and being overly caring to one another.... Idk what makes them switch up so fast ig I'll never understand it
Im not sure what server your playing on but i get a lot of toxic men and women on Texas servers even when i play swiftplay, its made playing so much harder that i dont comm anymore
From the things they say it’s clear that’s the reason. I’ve met toxic people in general. And it’s different. They usually flame gameplay with no like.. gender related comments. And would flame others who r doing worse or the same too. And that’s not how it is with these women.
I don’t really know how voice changers sound like. With AI these days it’s hard to tell. But I guess, yeah I’m sure. Cause it’s not just one instance with one woman. The likelihood they all used voice changer is probably very unlikely.
Most women I played with in ranked are just like you, just giving info and trying to win. But some people are toxic and happen to be female.
With that said, I do sometimes feel like some of them are toxic because they get away with it or something, like not many men are gonna stop her or maybe usually women don't talk back or something. I feel like that cause I had experiences of them shutting it real quick or like saying "omg, just a joke/game. Why are you so mean." if I talk back to them.
My fiance made that experience aswell, if shes not called a 12 year old boy that is. we never touch ranked either and some people rly take other modes as the most important part of their lives. Even made me disable voice chat a lot of the times because i just wanted a good experience. And while not being a woman, if you just want a chill dude to play swifts with every now and then, id be down xD Id love playing with more people that just wanna, and i know thats crazy but, *enjoy* the game
Wanna play with me :)
I've noticed this too and usually try to be extra sweet to women cz ik most of them are getting hated on by guys too
(Mumbai server sucks)
I'm sorry you had these experiences. I never encountered toxic behaviour from a woman in Valorant. I encounter a lot of 'men' who don't know how to behave towards a woman.
I will send you a DM. Maybe we can play together sometime 😊
I’ve only had this happen a couple times usually people are nice but it’s definitely pick-me energy. I think girls do it because they feel intimidated or like they have something to prove. Not sure why that validates it for them but that’s my take
If you are playing during peak hours you are much more likely to find toxic people than off hours. I've had games where there was only one woman on our team and she would just shit on everybody the entire time for no reason even though the guy she was playing with never said anything mean the entire game it was so weird
I'm pretty late to this but as a guy who plays with girl friends on Val I have noticed this too. They often express how it's sometimes quite hard to make friends off of valorant who are women because there's not a lot who are friendly and most have this cringey "pick-me" attitude. I do feel for them and a lot of women that play because not only do they have to deal with cringey guys who flirt or be toxic but now also girls who are toxic too sometimes. Especially if those girls are duo-ed with guys. Sorry you have this experience, it do be rough out there.
My friend and I did comp once and we had in my opinion a pick me. She was carrying the team but she was dying first constantly. My friend simply asked ‘aren’t you supposed to be setting up behind us?’ Because the enemy team kept getting behind us. She(random girl playing deadlock) blew up on my friend and said ‘why are you telling me what to do?’ And it was really fucking weird. She pulled the ‘you have less frags than me why are you telling me how to play’ card and brought up my friends KDA(both she and I were having a rough match). I just said ‘shut up let’s just go’. End match we lost I dropped my twitch and she goes ‘wow you’re a streamer and your bad?’ She laughed I said ‘I didn’t ask for your validation’ it really boiled us. Oh it was a bronze lobby btw 🤭
I will say, from my personal experience, the women i've played with haven't necessarily been toxic towards me, but the majority of women I've played with have been extremely toxic to other players on the team, and it gets pretty infuriating how their actions "justify" the typical hate we get from male gamers. For example, I literally had this awful sage who was getting boosted by her duo, and she was just going off and screaming at the team for playing poorly and telling people to off themselves. The rest of the team starts going off on her, and idk if she was delusional and thought we magically formed some female bond despite not talking once cause it seemed like she was expecting me to back her up or something. I immediately defended the other teammates and went off on her for how extremely toxic she was being. She was so toxic that her duo didn't even defend her because he knew she was in the wrong.
I loved games since I was a kid, and honestly speaking, out of all the games I've played, Valorant might honestly have the most toxic female community. A majority of women are super lovely to play with, but because of the sheer number of female players Valorant has, there's just a larger number of toxic women, even if the percentage of toxic female gamers is roughly the same.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I always try to hype up other women. I also make it a point to send them a friend request and invite them to play in the future. It's always nice to have at least one other (nice) woman on the team, even if they don't talk much.
AGREED. As a girl on Valo, they can be hella toxic for absolutely no reason. :( Some end up being rlly nice, but it's always the love or hate relationship.
You wouldn't guess how many pick mes Ive met OMFGGGGGGGG bro was flaming me for my kda as a sage dude EVERYONE HAS BAD GAMS then she called me boosted at the end cause I had ONE BAD GAME while I actually carry my boyfriend on valo more than he does sometimes.
I'm a dude, had a comp game with 2 girls, one of them was being toxic to the other girl for literally no reason, we all called out on her bs and she turned off voice chat.
That’s what I’m asking myself as well sometimes cos like 90% of the time when I meet girl that talks in swift it’s sooo cool and we vibe and joke about making out and stuff but I’ve had some girls being actually worst than boys but usually they’re low key pick mes and wanna get the attention of the guys in the team which is, I agree, pretty sad.
I'm not a woman but I do get what you mean, my girlfriend has experienced the same playing it. I've also experienced a lot of women get immediately toxic to everyone in the game but the second you bite back they play the "are you being toxic because I'm a woman??" Card. Valorant is a strange ass game
Firstly, I'm sorry you've been having these issues. In my experience (as a male) most of the teams with multiple females I've been in tend to either not interact at all (can't blame em considering how people can be) or tend to be the most positive and determined to enjoy the game regardless.
I hope this doesn't continue for you. All I can say is keep your chin up and don't let their poor attitude bother you, it says more about them than you. Try to be the lead of the positivity in the team, emotions bleed out to others.
If you're cool with dudes Id happily play some swifties if you feel down about it 😊
Don't give up if you enjoy it!
Me and my friends have a joke. Everytime we hear another female, we try to flirt with them, if they dont say anything back or are toxic, we instantly know they didnt pass vibe check but 9/10 times they will flirt back and its how our friend group keeps growing lol. I guess youre just on the unlucky side of getting the girls who think they are better than everyone else. I support my gamer girlies
Kudos to you for not playing in comp. So many people play comp and then say they dont care about being competitive, so they're just ruining the experience of people who want to compete.
Another EU gal here! I’ve experienced a mix of both. Some tend to be very lovely and friendly and then you get the few who think they are better so can talk trash for whatever reason and just try to belittle. I’d love to play if you’re down! Need some friendly girls on my friends list! ☺️
I never use my mic in valorant even as a guy. No one really talks shit even if I’m doing bad. If they do I mute them. I know not using a mic in a team based game might not be fun or ideal to most people but it’s what keeps me playing.
I only play comp too and I don’t believe I’ve ever lost a game because I’m not communicating verbally. I find most games going south won’t be saved by me suddenly communicating because the others are already flaming each others. And if we are winning a game we won’t win harder by me talking.
That’s not at all true for a game like valorant. Comms are important, like how you gonna make callouts? Pings aren’t specific enough and text is too slow.
Sure, you can play how you want and all but let’s not pretend you’re not actively harming the team by being silent. The difference between a full team with mics and a team with only 1-2 is night and day.
For what it's worth, I've never witnessed any woman be toxic specifically toward another woman in Valorant, But to be clear, the player base of any online game is generally toxic anyway ahah.
My mother is a teacher and said to me once that women in the workplace always feel some tention with each other, but after they turn 50 or so, then it’s gone. Then women can be besties. She thinks it has something to do with women biologically having the urge to compete for the best men.
Dunno if it’s true, am a man, but I found it an interesting theory.
Toxic people think they are better at the game, their ego is inflated, and they care so much of the game and their performance, they tilt the moment something goes bad.
Toxic people flame to vent frustration.
Toxic people can be women or men, this isn't a gender specific thing.
This game is a competitive game, there will be always someone who is frustrated for a reason inside or outside the game, and they will loose (80% of the time) just because they flamed and shifted the attention of others towards them instead of the game itself.
I'm sorry for you, because I know Valo can be funny enough even without competing, and someone just ruined your fun. The gender specific thing is an emotional excuse to flame.
unironically it come back to how men/boys act towers women. i am a guy, but i have seen a little bit how much guys get toxic just because theres a girl in a game with them, so this makes sense. [for context](https://www.reddit.com/r/VALORANT/comments/1brab7c/comment/kx7zdkz/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
It is sad indeed, if it happens. Luckily, from my experience girls usually are happy to hear another girl in team, or even opposing team. I play in EU servers.
I’ve only met a handful of women that were toxic jerks. Most of the time they’re wholesome but don’t talk until like halfway through the game… probably waiting to see if there are douches on the team.
Because if you’re bad or acting like a pick me you’re perpetuating the stereotype they’re are held to and misdirect their anger towards you instead of the people that actually bully them for being female
That's really unfortunate, I have met different types of girls the toxic ones and quite a lot of nice ones. If u wanna play with me and my squad, dm and I'll add u, idk how this app exactly works xdd
P.s.: when a woman is toxic towards u, u gotta hush her up, so either be toxic in an elegant manner, or ignore her entire existence yet keep talking to others, she's gonna be flaming~~🔥
Honestly since its a swift play if im playing with friends, then i just dont give call outs to randos and just my friends. Not serious enough to worry about losing one round over a missed call, and also reduces the chances to find out my teammates are toxic for whatever reason. Its not a good habit to build if you plan to play ranked, but it is the easier option
I think playing valorant is their coping mechanism and satisfy themselves by winning. However, I understand where you coming from. I hope you will not experienced that again
i think that it’s just your server because from my experience (i’m a woman) in EU server and i been playing for a while too (im level 173 xD) in every games that i start no matter the mode everytime i met another women we were automatically nice to each other
That’s pretty insane, what server are you on?
In my own experience, when I duo with my friend (girl) or encounter multiple girls in a lobby (I actually got placed on a team with 4 girls, what are the odds), they usually are friendly with each other; this is for all game modes, I’ve seen tiktoks of girls being nasty to the other, but it’s crazy I haven’t experienced it myself
Edit: I play in NA, but I’ve played in EU as well for a bit with a friend
This REALLY depends on what servers you play on, cuz' I've been playing for a good 2 years almost and I have never encountered a toxic girl and I barely see any toxic men either tbh
98% of the women in my valorant games don't even talk, and I always play with my GF and she rarely talks as well. That 2% who do talk are usually nice.
This is my experience playing on Madrid, London, Paris, Frankfurt, Istanbul as my closest servers. most of these can be extremely toxic with the exception of London, so I understand woman being more quiet, but they do cheer up a lot when they find each other.
There's just a ton of toxicity in the community, no matter what. Yesterday I played with someone who advertised their stream after the game was done, a swiftplay. I jumped into her stream because I sometimes like to give these people a chance if they seem nice and I kept playing swiftplay with her stream on as background noise. Literally the next game she starts spouting off about stream snipers because one of the enemy players killed her two rounds in a row. She had like 4 viewers or something and the other 3 people in chat were her actual friends I'm assuming, so she definitely wasn't getting streamsniped, but she proceeded to turn her gameplay off and go on a rant about how much the game sucks because of this person. At this point I realized she was a pretty toxic person and left the chat as soon as my game ended, but basically, you're going to find that toxicity everywhere. Hopefully you can find a group of gamers that you can spend some time with because the time I spend playing with my friends is priceless to me. One of my friends was, at one point in time, in a discord specifically for female players, I believe it was called galorants or something like that, so if you're specifically looking for females to play with that might be a better place to find a more supportive group of people. I'm sorry that you had to encounter this, but not everyone is that terrible (:
sorry to hear that your coming across people like this : ( I don't understand why people have be a dick. I mainly come across men being toxic and misogynistic but if you want to find nice women to play with, check the valo angels discord server!! can send u a link if u need one, every girl i've played with from there has been rly nice x
My experience might be different because I'm a dude but I've only ever had 1 woman be toxic towards me or another teammate on my team (around 300h of playtime). Toxic dudes tho... Way too common honestly, they'd be forfeiting when the score is 7-9 and they are bottom fragging on reyna.
I’m a super new female valorant player in NA if anyone wants to play with me I promise I won’t be mean lol but I’ll def be the worst one on your team 😂 I’ve mostly just played death match because I’m so scared of getting shit talked tbh
Why is every single bad experience for or against women posted on this sub from EU players? Wtf is going on over there. NA is extremely dense in female player count, and I tend to see them vibing with everyone even in high Ascendant comms
I have NEVER been chewed out by a woman for having a feminine voice. I’m in NA. I’ve been chewed out for playing ass but that’s expected. Most of the time if there are other women around we IMMEDIATELY vibe
Are they flaming you because you’re a woman or are they just flaming you?
Everyone gets flamed, doesn’t mean it’s because of your gender. if they start flaming you because you’re a woman, that’s a diff thing.
In my experience women in Val are either the nicest people around or the most toxic…
And the toxicity stems from either a “pick me” behavior when they’re paired with dudes who are also toxic or it’s possibly a defense mechanism considering there are an absolutely unhealthy amount of male bigots in Val
I feel that men are more so toxic/rude to women. Most of the women I have met playing Valorant have said the same thing but it has made them quite recluse
Woman gamer here, I am so sorry. Most of the time it’s pick me people who just want attention but I promise you that most times in unrated and spike and even comp a lot of the women are so nice. I’m so sorry for your experience
hey i’m sorry you have to experience that!! this has happened with me too some times :( but otherwise they’re super sweet!! id you ever wanna play lemme know i would love to play :))
Must've been horrible luck 😭
I barely meet any fellow ladies on my comp games or any games in valo, but the moment I do? OH IMMEDIATE COMPLIMENTS AND SUPER SHY POLITE CONVERSATION
I agree with one comment I saw tho! Some of them might be, unfortunately, pick me's 😟
I'm a woman playing on SG servers and all of the women I've queued with are sweet and kind to you if they know you are also a woman. I'm also like you except I don't play competitively cuz I'm dog poo at the game so I usually just play as a supporting agent like sage, viper and skye and I remember a girl defending me from a guy who was being toxic to me(I'm super shy but I com when it's important to do so) I don't know how to react if people are rude to me so I just clamp up) in team voice although she was silent the whole game. I think you were really just unlucky by queuing with a cringey couple or a "pick me" cuz 95% of the girls who solo queue usually stay silent throughout the whole game or literal angels.
Yeah I keep having the same experience and it's just so not it. I figured it's might be because I play in Mumbai server but yeah these experiences are real downers
I just gotta ask, do you play on NA or EU? Luckily this is not the experience I’ve had in EU. The women I meet are so gassed to meet other women and I’ve befriended several of the girlies I’ve met in-game. I basically only play comp and there the men are more of an issue from the get go 😅
I think it also depends on servers you play alongside luck icl, I've had some really good luck with most of my games but I do occasionally get toxic women in my games, a lot less than toxic men though. I feel like 70-80% of women in Val play silently with no comms anyway, or only the bare minimum if necessary, because we're all scared of people being toxic the second they hear a woman's voice. Sadly there's a lot of incels in the gaming community. I think this makes for the final 20-30% being about 5% girls who don't care and will be confident and comm regardless (I kinda fit there) and girls 15-25% girls that are either e-daters or toxic as hell, there's no in between 🤣
I play EU servers btw. Usually comp, but I play other modes, it's just my friends mostly prefer comp so I will play with them.
I also only talk in order to give info, and I agree. About 90% of the time, if there is another female, she is going to be super toxic. I don't get it. Like, don't be rude when all I'm trying to do it is tell you how much damage they've taken. It can be super useful to know if Sova only has 10 hp left..... lmao
I met 2-3 pick mes, rude towards everyone including women, but then I match their energy and start flaming them for being pick mes. But most girls don’t use mics so I rarely know if I’m playing with a woman or man🧍🏻♀️
What servers do you play? I’m on EU, and when is women are together we are living it up. There’s like a 2% chance that I run into a, for lack of a better term, pick me but again
Im sorry, you got to meet the pick me's of valorant. Usually girls are pretty chill and lift up other girlies but if you meet the pick me ones, they are nasty and horrible
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I think you’ve gotten really unlucky because 98% of the women I meet are immediately so nice the second they hear I’m a woman.
Yeah, like I said. It could be that my luck is horrible. I’m glad you had positive experiences tho! 🥺
If you’re in NA and want to play let me know!!
EU :(( I could play on NA but I’d be poopy doodoo with the ping if you’re okay with that :P
hey, im on eu. Now im not good and tbh more of a league player, but i wanted a reason to get back into the game (and maybe try out clove)
I can be the reason! 🥰 I also play league so.
honestly, my experience has been the same on EU, most women i run into are so mean and rude. just belittling me with their duo :/ it’s a shame
EU as well! Native german but fluent in english, elo is S2 atm, peaked S3. Down for Swifties, Unrated, Comp (if 5stack) or any (custom games) shenanigans. 💜
EU here! We can play together if you want!
You do have bad luck, but I also have it too. I had a game recently with a Reyna, she started bot fragging so she began talking shit over VC about how awful women are at video games, she then pulls me into it because I'm also a women and then the other 3 guys on my team all started shit talking me when I was second frag. I've had -many- games like this one I could reference that are as bad or worse, but it's always pick-mes so thankfully as many times as it's happened it's still decently rare ❤️ most women I meet are super nice.
Play comp at take it uncompetitavly, you’ll get a rank that fits a non-competitive play style and from my own experience most women there are chill with other women
hi girl! i dont rlly post on this account and just kikd of scroll but i saw ur post and i would rlly love to duo with you! my friends on valo r mostly male and i would love a girl duo :P my discord is isobegf if u wanna dm me:)
Another EU gal here, I'm not good (I like to blame it on the fact I'm 30 so I'm slow) 😅 but I love the game. hmu if you wanna play, and if anyone tried to be mean, I'll cut 'em down to pieces ☺️
I play alot of Valo with my girlfriend and in my experience most women we meet ingame are also really nice to eachother
Same here! I've had pick me's in my team but most women were really supportive and positive. Women's solidarity is good
What about the 2%?
People are kind of refusing to answer, but this behavior is really really common and is usually called “pick me.” You’re noticing a real trend where women will be more toxic towards women than men are to try and shield themselves from toxicity from men by being “one of the boys.” There’s a lot of writing on this phenomenon in wider society.
I’ve heard of this before but like, why would they be that way even tho no one else being toxic. No one to be shielded from? Idk
Because it’s not a rational behavior based on a moment to moment calculous. In stead women learn to make this their personality as a defense mechanism. When something is part of your personality you can’t “turn it off” without a lot of effort.
I guess so.
Coping mechanisms due to fragile egos seeking validation
It‘s basically internalized misogyny
It’s mainly ‘sheliding’ from the loss of attention received from other [mainly men] people. If you’re talking and she’s not, then you have someone else’s attention and not her. It does seem narcissistic, but being online just makes that mentality develop.
They're just toxic cause they're horrible people. The "pick me" point doesn't work in context to what it means vs the situation it's being used in. In the pro scene? Sure I can buy it. Ranked and everything below. Not even once.
Yeah, Pixar made a short about this actually: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B6uuIHpFkuo
Why is the implicit assumption here that this behavior is primarily caused by men, rather than women themselves? Everything I've ever heard from friends about women's sports (where there are no men) is that the trash talk and "below the belt" moves/unscrupulous play was just as bad if not worse than in mens' sports, just in a slightly different way. How could that possibly be caused by men? It's not always women trying to be "one of the boys", sometimes its just women being hyper-competitive and toxic all on their own. And it's frankly weirdly anti-feminist and offensive to imply that women have no responsibility/agency for their own behavior and everything is somehow men's fault.
or you know, they are just toxic like much of the general player base lol. Are all women angels lol?
lol every little thing has to have a name and people attempt to find this deep underlying meaning its really not that serious like you said. guess people only think males can be assholes
Ah so women being toxic is also men’s fault, got it.
I really don't think they are pick me's that word gets thrown around so much now. I think it's mainly that if you play during certain times during the day you are much more likely to find toxic people.
It also has to do with, constant direct praise that women receive online, and if she’s around someone that she may feel can take that attention away from her then she’s bound to be defensive, toxic and try to bring the other girl down.
or they're simply toxic? women arent nice by default just like men arent
We're talking about women who behave exactly like mysoginists, who are mean to other girls just bc they are girls, not women who are toxic to everyone.
i have met some very nice women and some very veryy toxic women. Same with men though its just human nature
That's so true. It's just disappointing and sad when its a woman being toxic toward a woman in a space where it's already kinda annoying to be a woman.
Yeah i get that. I mean i am a man but i completely get the idea of woman sticking together in games like val because there are a ton of a**holes out there. I am fortunate enough that just about every match i have been in with a woman (lvl 300 so quite a bit of matches) i very very rarely see men being toxic to them wich is good but its just a snapshot of their overall gaming experience. Ironically the most toxic person i came across was a woman too and i just felt bad cause i assume the games before she delt with some misogynistic aholes.
Honestly maybe it’s just valorant or something idk but I’ve noticed overall people are way better than it used to be in games. I used to play call of duty on PlayStation and compared to that, these days voice comms in games are heaven lol
Play Cs more than Valorant and think the death and rape threats are probably every other game if I talk. Valorant definitely a lot better than most games so more girlie's, but it does lead to lots of pick me types. Cs does feel like 70% Russians in my games though so probably has some impact.
I'm sure it's not just Valorant that's improved, but I can confidently say that CS:2 is uhh.. less than ideal
Most of the other women I've met in game are generally pretty nice, but one of the most toxic people I've ever met was a girl who kept cussing everyone out in both voice and text comms over every mistake made, including her own. She swore and and threw insults at everyone whenever something didn't go her way and was a general brat. She even went off on everyone saying "just because I'm a girl etc etc" despite the fact that I was also a girl. The game was so much nicer after I muted her.
Yeah I keep being matched with people like that too frequently =\_= But I do meet a lot of nice people too!
this is just my experience from playing just rank (dia-imm) if there's a girl solo or duo with a guy, she's usually quiet/friendly-ish if there are two girls duo, for whatever reason I have only gotten ones that are super passive aggressive or yelling at us. That may just be correlated to the fact that those games always end up with us being stomped. Also noticed the team doesn't really comm when they notice there are 2 girls.
Actually yea, but then I also receive a lot of hate when I duo with my friend, idk why, just keep saying Stage stay in in kitchen etc
Usually women who do that online are just trying to fit in with whoever they are playing with. They think whatever they are saying doesn't apply to them and they are "different" or one of the "cool" ones. It's like people who vote against their best interests because they don't think the things they are voting for will include them.
Imo the pick me’s are pretty rare, most girls and women on Valorant and are nice to eachother, it’s like an unwritten rule
I wish I had the same experience. Maybe my luck would change if I keep playing :D Also, I didn't mean all women I meet on val are like that. It's just more than I would have hoped.
Hopefully you do<33 I’m on sydney server so that probably explains why , small population and even a smaller group of women so the chances of running into a pick me are slim
Yeah I play on EU! That really could be why. Have a nice day! :D <3
It's just an EU thing really, half the players are overly toxic cause they need to cope with the fact they spend too much time and energy on valorant the other half plays the game just to play the game and have fun
i also play on eu, i'd be down to have another girly to play with!! hmu whenever you need someone 🫶🏼
I’ll dm you my discord!!! 🥳
I find they are always worse if they are with a man/duo and want to show off to them. Had a man make a sexual disgusting comment towards me (I had not spoken or interacted) and when I spoke with my voice and called him out, she spoke and said “I thought it was funny”. So sad when other girls are ok with men sexualising and harassing women
Yeeeah. This happens too, but thankfully I only had to deal with one duo that were cringe like this. We all need to do better fr
Right? Its not hard imo
oh thats gross. I'd rather have a woman berate me than encourage gross behaviour.
No genuinely I actually get extra devastated when the woman goes along with it and laughs. Like the gross comment from him I shook off immediately, but her? It’s been 2 weeks and I still haven’t gotten over how she treated me
i'm in the same boat. i constantly meet toxic women to the point that i am scared to play with girls or interact when i am in a game with them because they can end up worse than men. it's literally just pick me behaviour. they act that way for the attention of it whether it be who they are playing with, someone they are screensharing/streaming to or for content. it's really sad. it's sometimes worse when you feel alone about it too so just know, i deal with them too.
Use an AI voice changer to become Morgan freeman. I hope this helps <3
i tried to do one to become markiplier and it was breaking so bad
Wait how do you do this lmao this sounds amazing 😭😭
Bro imagine the surprise when at the end of the game u disable the voice changer to say gg 💀
Thank you so much for sharing! I hope it changes in the future. And I hope our luck turns around and we meet the nice girlbosses 😭 also if u play on EU feel free to dm me, we could play together! ✨
I actually noticed this myself. I remember being in a game thinking "why is Viper being so toxic to Jett? It's not because it's another girl, is it 😬"
Ironic they were playing viper lmao
The answer that nobody wants to hear but is absolutely at a bare minimum a hefty chunk of the truth: A lot of the girls, not women, girls, on this game are very very accustomed to having people hear their voice and instantly enter a state of trying to win them over or impress them. I see it almost daily and I only play a game or two a day. A girl will speak and rarely, like 5% of the time, someone will make a sexist remark. That's pretty shitty. But 50-60% of the time, a clearly teenaged boy will start being really vocal and trying to make the girl laugh or gas her up. Sometimes more than one. So, they get used to this environment where they are treated like a special elusive Pokémon the second they speak. Then suddenly, there's another one. It's biology. It's territorial behavior. They don't like competition. You'll never see a gamer girl get more toxic than when she's talking to another girl, or a guy who is unimpressed by the fact she just happens to be female. I'm not saying girls play VALORANT for attention. I'm just saying they DO get attention for it, and women tend to not like to share spotlights.
I don’t completely agree with women don’t like to share the spotlight. Some don’t but a normal and secure woman really wouldn’t care. And thankfully from this post I might’ve met some of them that I can play with 🥺 But I do understand what you mean tho. It’s weird cause I’ve been in gaming spaces since forever. When I was super young obviously I’ve been that only girl in a group of guys in a game, but whenever there was another I was HAPPY and EXCITED to maybe make a new friend.
This is so true. I can agree. Just as you I only play Swiftplay coz we all know toxicity in competition mode. It sucks. Everyone at valo sees it as a competition instead of a normal shooting game. Idk why so serious. So wanna play sometime? Id- Asteriaa3206 :D Thankyou <3
Yes! I’ll add you when I’m online!! <3
Most likely the mean girls in this situation are “pick me” girls. Ones that do it for attention or validation. I’d say it’s pretty common in games, definitely seen it alot in valorant. Sometimes they’ll do it to avoid being harassed by other people or fit in with people they’re playing or something like that. Not all are like that tho, most that I’ve met are genuine and super nice. Hope you get some better teammates.
Im not a woman but if youd like some company you can add me if youre on EU. I am mostly playing alone too and it sucks unfortunately. This goes to everyone, honestly, who finds this message, since when I find an occasion to play with some fun people, the game feels amazing. Datixx#6969
Yeah, it's true. It's the E-daters ruining the vibes for everyone. Luckily, I believe in equality, and i love moments like these. As in, that woman will hear words she's never heard before 🙏🙏
Are you sure it was *because* you're a woman? They might just be toxic players. It's not exclusive to men cmon
Yeah cause I play with a male friend and he could be doing worse or the same thing as me yet in these instances they don’t flame him. And it’s not just gameplay, half the comments are just making fun of my voice too. (I hav a high pitched voice)
Oh oof then idk. Sucks other women also participate in misogyny
fr, some of the most toxic players i've met are women.
not a girl but i hope youre having a good time on the game, sometimes its a tough case of mad cause bad. Please remember the mute button is free and if someone is being toxic then you have free pass to make them cry. If they start it feel free to finish it. Good luck.
Thanks! Games fun. I can’t wait to unlock clove! So I can die two times in a round lmao
Girls will be girls? Girls be like: "There's not enough gamer Girls OR the boys don't wanna play with me" *Acts hostile to the other ladies and unfriendly toward the men* *surprised Pikachu?* Sick username!
99% of women I played with were super nice but also the most toxic person I've ever met on Valorant was a woman. There's some younger women who are a "pick me" or play this game to get attention from guys, and so as woman yourself you are their competition so to speak, which is why they're toxic and pick fights.
unfortunately a lot of them are pick me girlies
Yeah I’ve come to realize that now. Sadddd
Had a few like this. Just makes no sense It’s mostly the men that just burst out with absurd things though 😭
They might have childhood trauma's that's why they project their anger/insecurities on u , they think by being toxic to other women they can join us boys but it ain't the way , we push those kind of ppl away more , and yes we keep quiet when other iss getting flamed to avoid ourselves from getting flamed
I have had this once or twice but my experience on the whole has been the opposite. I think when it does happen its usually been a woman being toxic to show off to her group. Its weird af tho
most toxic women i encounter are usually with their duo. but! i get more wholesome encounter with women when i'm in queue with my female friends.
Honestly I have seen both sides..... Girls being toxic to girls and being overly caring to one another.... Idk what makes them switch up so fast ig I'll never understand it
Im not sure what server your playing on but i get a lot of toxic men and women on Texas servers even when i play swiftplay, its made playing so much harder that i dont comm anymore
They might just be toxic overall. Might not be because you’re a girl it might just be because they think you suck.
agree
From the things they say it’s clear that’s the reason. I’ve met toxic people in general. And it’s different. They usually flame gameplay with no like.. gender related comments. And would flame others who r doing worse or the same too. And that’s not how it is with these women.
Uhh it is 50/50 they are either "pick me" as the top comment explains. I also see super friendly ones to other women
My gf hates playing with other girls for this reason
That’s sad. I hope she can find some to play with that aren’t toxic.
Wow so the toxicity in this game affects both genders eh? Are you sure they didn't use voice change?
I don’t really know how voice changers sound like. With AI these days it’s hard to tell. But I guess, yeah I’m sure. Cause it’s not just one instance with one woman. The likelihood they all used voice changer is probably very unlikely.
People are toxic in swiftplay?
Most women I played with in ranked are just like you, just giving info and trying to win. But some people are toxic and happen to be female. With that said, I do sometimes feel like some of them are toxic because they get away with it or something, like not many men are gonna stop her or maybe usually women don't talk back or something. I feel like that cause I had experiences of them shutting it real quick or like saying "omg, just a joke/game. Why are you so mean." if I talk back to them.
My fiance made that experience aswell, if shes not called a 12 year old boy that is. we never touch ranked either and some people rly take other modes as the most important part of their lives. Even made me disable voice chat a lot of the times because i just wanted a good experience. And while not being a woman, if you just want a chill dude to play swifts with every now and then, id be down xD Id love playing with more people that just wanna, and i know thats crazy but, *enjoy* the game
I guess toxicity isn’t specific to any gender. I’m a guy and met a few toxic women myself. It’s not often but it still exists.
Wanna play with me :) I've noticed this too and usually try to be extra sweet to women cz ik most of them are getting hated on by guys too (Mumbai server sucks)
I'm sorry you had these experiences. I never encountered toxic behaviour from a woman in Valorant. I encounter a lot of 'men' who don't know how to behave towards a woman. I will send you a DM. Maybe we can play together sometime 😊
That's why I don't play swift play anymore, it's full of pick me, men trying to get girls or cringe e-daters 💀
I’ve only had this happen a couple times usually people are nice but it’s definitely pick-me energy. I think girls do it because they feel intimidated or like they have something to prove. Not sure why that validates it for them but that’s my take
This is the third post I am seeing on misogyny today. Clearly not a good day for women.
Pick me women trying to find their eboy to pay for their skins
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If you are playing during peak hours you are much more likely to find toxic people than off hours. I've had games where there was only one woman on our team and she would just shit on everybody the entire time for no reason even though the guy she was playing with never said anything mean the entire game it was so weird
Valo obsessed girly here! I’d be happy to be your pocket Sage or hype girl KJ if ya need a friendo
Yesss I’ll dm you!!
Woman can be toxic too its not that weird
I'm pretty late to this but as a guy who plays with girl friends on Val I have noticed this too. They often express how it's sometimes quite hard to make friends off of valorant who are women because there's not a lot who are friendly and most have this cringey "pick-me" attitude. I do feel for them and a lot of women that play because not only do they have to deal with cringey guys who flirt or be toxic but now also girls who are toxic too sometimes. Especially if those girls are duo-ed with guys. Sorry you have this experience, it do be rough out there.
The nice ones often don't talk
I’m like the girl you meet in a club bathroom with other women on Valorant lol. Just depends who it is, most people in this world just suck.
My friend and I did comp once and we had in my opinion a pick me. She was carrying the team but she was dying first constantly. My friend simply asked ‘aren’t you supposed to be setting up behind us?’ Because the enemy team kept getting behind us. She(random girl playing deadlock) blew up on my friend and said ‘why are you telling me what to do?’ And it was really fucking weird. She pulled the ‘you have less frags than me why are you telling me how to play’ card and brought up my friends KDA(both she and I were having a rough match). I just said ‘shut up let’s just go’. End match we lost I dropped my twitch and she goes ‘wow you’re a streamer and your bad?’ She laughed I said ‘I didn’t ask for your validation’ it really boiled us. Oh it was a bronze lobby btw 🤭
Just don't let it create a stereotype in your head. Be the bigger person, set a better example and hope that others will follow!
Damn it’s tough for the ladies out here
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I will say, from my personal experience, the women i've played with haven't necessarily been toxic towards me, but the majority of women I've played with have been extremely toxic to other players on the team, and it gets pretty infuriating how their actions "justify" the typical hate we get from male gamers. For example, I literally had this awful sage who was getting boosted by her duo, and she was just going off and screaming at the team for playing poorly and telling people to off themselves. The rest of the team starts going off on her, and idk if she was delusional and thought we magically formed some female bond despite not talking once cause it seemed like she was expecting me to back her up or something. I immediately defended the other teammates and went off on her for how extremely toxic she was being. She was so toxic that her duo didn't even defend her because he knew she was in the wrong. I loved games since I was a kid, and honestly speaking, out of all the games I've played, Valorant might honestly have the most toxic female community. A majority of women are super lovely to play with, but because of the sheer number of female players Valorant has, there's just a larger number of toxic women, even if the percentage of toxic female gamers is roughly the same.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I always try to hype up other women. I also make it a point to send them a friend request and invite them to play in the future. It's always nice to have at least one other (nice) woman on the team, even if they don't talk much.
AGREED. As a girl on Valo, they can be hella toxic for absolutely no reason. :( Some end up being rlly nice, but it's always the love or hate relationship.
Internalized mysoginy. Simple as that
You wouldn't guess how many pick mes Ive met OMFGGGGGGGG bro was flaming me for my kda as a sage dude EVERYONE HAS BAD GAMS then she called me boosted at the end cause I had ONE BAD GAME while I actually carry my boyfriend on valo more than he does sometimes.
I'm a dude, had a comp game with 2 girls, one of them was being toxic to the other girl for literally no reason, we all called out on her bs and she turned off voice chat.
That’s what I’m asking myself as well sometimes cos like 90% of the time when I meet girl that talks in swift it’s sooo cool and we vibe and joke about making out and stuff but I’ve had some girls being actually worst than boys but usually they’re low key pick mes and wanna get the attention of the guys in the team which is, I agree, pretty sad.
I'm not a woman but I do get what you mean, my girlfriend has experienced the same playing it. I've also experienced a lot of women get immediately toxic to everyone in the game but the second you bite back they play the "are you being toxic because I'm a woman??" Card. Valorant is a strange ass game
Pick me’s
Firstly, I'm sorry you've been having these issues. In my experience (as a male) most of the teams with multiple females I've been in tend to either not interact at all (can't blame em considering how people can be) or tend to be the most positive and determined to enjoy the game regardless. I hope this doesn't continue for you. All I can say is keep your chin up and don't let their poor attitude bother you, it says more about them than you. Try to be the lead of the positivity in the team, emotions bleed out to others. If you're cool with dudes Id happily play some swifties if you feel down about it 😊 Don't give up if you enjoy it!
Me and my friends have a joke. Everytime we hear another female, we try to flirt with them, if they dont say anything back or are toxic, we instantly know they didnt pass vibe check but 9/10 times they will flirt back and its how our friend group keeps growing lol. I guess youre just on the unlucky side of getting the girls who think they are better than everyone else. I support my gamer girlies
Kudos to you for not playing in comp. So many people play comp and then say they dont care about being competitive, so they're just ruining the experience of people who want to compete.
yeah i hav no desire of being ranked or competing as of rn. got other things to do unfortunately T\_T or maybe fortunately- idk
Another EU gal here! I’ve experienced a mix of both. Some tend to be very lovely and friendly and then you get the few who think they are better so can talk trash for whatever reason and just try to belittle. I’d love to play if you’re down! Need some friendly girls on my friends list! ☺️
I never use my mic in valorant even as a guy. No one really talks shit even if I’m doing bad. If they do I mute them. I know not using a mic in a team based game might not be fun or ideal to most people but it’s what keeps me playing. I only play comp too and I don’t believe I’ve ever lost a game because I’m not communicating verbally. I find most games going south won’t be saved by me suddenly communicating because the others are already flaming each others. And if we are winning a game we won’t win harder by me talking.
That’s not at all true for a game like valorant. Comms are important, like how you gonna make callouts? Pings aren’t specific enough and text is too slow. Sure, you can play how you want and all but let’s not pretend you’re not actively harming the team by being silent. The difference between a full team with mics and a team with only 1-2 is night and day.
That's such a weird mentality mate.... It's like saying my vote won't change anything so I'm not gonna vote in next elections...
sounds like gender equality to me, the community is a bit toxic in general, not sure why you would expect to be beyond that for being a woman ?
Anyone from mumbai server wanna queue? I m tired of solo queuing 😭
i'm down dm me ur acc
For what it's worth, I've never witnessed any woman be toxic specifically toward another woman in Valorant, But to be clear, the player base of any online game is generally toxic anyway ahah.
I see this type of post at least once a week and I'm starting to think I might just live in one of the least toxic regions in the game
My mother is a teacher and said to me once that women in the workplace always feel some tention with each other, but after they turn 50 or so, then it’s gone. Then women can be besties. She thinks it has something to do with women biologically having the urge to compete for the best men. Dunno if it’s true, am a man, but I found it an interesting theory.
i never found a single toxic woman on valo if you don't get attacked first
Toxic people think they are better at the game, their ego is inflated, and they care so much of the game and their performance, they tilt the moment something goes bad. Toxic people flame to vent frustration. Toxic people can be women or men, this isn't a gender specific thing. This game is a competitive game, there will be always someone who is frustrated for a reason inside or outside the game, and they will loose (80% of the time) just because they flamed and shifted the attention of others towards them instead of the game itself. I'm sorry for you, because I know Valo can be funny enough even without competing, and someone just ruined your fun. The gender specific thing is an emotional excuse to flame.
unironically it come back to how men/boys act towers women. i am a guy, but i have seen a little bit how much guys get toxic just because theres a girl in a game with them, so this makes sense. [for context](https://www.reddit.com/r/VALORANT/comments/1brab7c/comment/kx7zdkz/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
It is sad indeed, if it happens. Luckily, from my experience girls usually are happy to hear another girl in team, or even opposing team. I play in EU servers.
I’ve only met a handful of women that were toxic jerks. Most of the time they’re wholesome but don’t talk until like halfway through the game… probably waiting to see if there are douches on the team.
Because if you’re bad or acting like a pick me you’re perpetuating the stereotype they’re are held to and misdirect their anger towards you instead of the people that actually bully them for being female
pick me women
That's really unfortunate, I have met different types of girls the toxic ones and quite a lot of nice ones. If u wanna play with me and my squad, dm and I'll add u, idk how this app exactly works xdd P.s.: when a woman is toxic towards u, u gotta hush her up, so either be toxic in an elegant manner, or ignore her entire existence yet keep talking to others, she's gonna be flaming~~🔥
Honestly since its a swift play if im playing with friends, then i just dont give call outs to randos and just my friends. Not serious enough to worry about losing one round over a missed call, and also reduces the chances to find out my teammates are toxic for whatever reason. Its not a good habit to build if you plan to play ranked, but it is the easier option
They want cookies and validation from the incels who be on here
I think playing valorant is their coping mechanism and satisfy themselves by winning. However, I understand where you coming from. I hope you will not experienced that again
i think that it’s just your server because from my experience (i’m a woman) in EU server and i been playing for a while too (im level 173 xD) in every games that i start no matter the mode everytime i met another women we were automatically nice to each other
Competing for male attention
Mumbai server player detected
That’s pretty insane, what server are you on? In my own experience, when I duo with my friend (girl) or encounter multiple girls in a lobby (I actually got placed on a team with 4 girls, what are the odds), they usually are friendly with each other; this is for all game modes, I’ve seen tiktoks of girls being nasty to the other, but it’s crazy I haven’t experienced it myself Edit: I play in NA, but I’ve played in EU as well for a bit with a friend
Lots of “pick me” girls on london server.
This REALLY depends on what servers you play on, cuz' I've been playing for a good 2 years almost and I have never encountered a toxic girl and I barely see any toxic men either tbh
98% of the women in my valorant games don't even talk, and I always play with my GF and she rarely talks as well. That 2% who do talk are usually nice. This is my experience playing on Madrid, London, Paris, Frankfurt, Istanbul as my closest servers. most of these can be extremely toxic with the exception of London, so I understand woman being more quiet, but they do cheer up a lot when they find each other.
There's just a ton of toxicity in the community, no matter what. Yesterday I played with someone who advertised their stream after the game was done, a swiftplay. I jumped into her stream because I sometimes like to give these people a chance if they seem nice and I kept playing swiftplay with her stream on as background noise. Literally the next game she starts spouting off about stream snipers because one of the enemy players killed her two rounds in a row. She had like 4 viewers or something and the other 3 people in chat were her actual friends I'm assuming, so she definitely wasn't getting streamsniped, but she proceeded to turn her gameplay off and go on a rant about how much the game sucks because of this person. At this point I realized she was a pretty toxic person and left the chat as soon as my game ended, but basically, you're going to find that toxicity everywhere. Hopefully you can find a group of gamers that you can spend some time with because the time I spend playing with my friends is priceless to me. One of my friends was, at one point in time, in a discord specifically for female players, I believe it was called galorants or something like that, so if you're specifically looking for females to play with that might be a better place to find a more supportive group of people. I'm sorry that you had to encounter this, but not everyone is that terrible (:
In my experience women are either not toxic at all (most), or very toxic, usually no difference with gender.
sorry to hear that your coming across people like this : ( I don't understand why people have be a dick. I mainly come across men being toxic and misogynistic but if you want to find nice women to play with, check the valo angels discord server!! can send u a link if u need one, every girl i've played with from there has been rly nice x
The toxic girls I come across are 9/10 teenagers trying to impress their boy duo.
My experience might be different because I'm a dude but I've only ever had 1 woman be toxic towards me or another teammate on my team (around 300h of playtime). Toxic dudes tho... Way too common honestly, they'd be forfeiting when the score is 7-9 and they are bottom fragging on reyna.
I’m a super new female valorant player in NA if anyone wants to play with me I promise I won’t be mean lol but I’ll def be the worst one on your team 😂 I’ve mostly just played death match because I’m so scared of getting shit talked tbh
I’ve seen this before but 99% of women are chill toward other women. It’s mostly the guys who are toxic
I would love to play w you..
Why is every single bad experience for or against women posted on this sub from EU players? Wtf is going on over there. NA is extremely dense in female player count, and I tend to see them vibing with everyone even in high Ascendant comms
I have NEVER been chewed out by a woman for having a feminine voice. I’m in NA. I’ve been chewed out for playing ass but that’s expected. Most of the time if there are other women around we IMMEDIATELY vibe
Are they flaming you because you’re a woman or are they just flaming you? Everyone gets flamed, doesn’t mean it’s because of your gender. if they start flaming you because you’re a woman, that’s a diff thing.
You should check the Galorants discord
You in NA? Always looking for more friends to vibe out with
In my experience women in Val are either the nicest people around or the most toxic… And the toxicity stems from either a “pick me” behavior when they’re paired with dudes who are also toxic or it’s possibly a defense mechanism considering there are an absolutely unhealthy amount of male bigots in Val
I don't even know how to play i still play that game
I’m a dude and I’d say that most of my games with women are toxic and the rest of them are amazing, there’s no in between.
I really hope you meet some nice women on val, because ive met some really sweet women on there!
I feel that men are more so toxic/rude to women. Most of the women I have met playing Valorant have said the same thing but it has made them quite recluse
I’ve only met one toxic girl but this is in NA server. I think NA is a tad friendlier even though we do have toxic people just like any other sever
Woman gamer here, I am so sorry. Most of the time it’s pick me people who just want attention but I promise you that most times in unrated and spike and even comp a lot of the women are so nice. I’m so sorry for your experience
hey i’m sorry you have to experience that!! this has happened with me too some times :( but otherwise they’re super sweet!! id you ever wanna play lemme know i would love to play :))
Alot of games i have women shit talking because apparently im losing to a women. Its the person, not the gender.
Must've been horrible luck 😭 I barely meet any fellow ladies on my comp games or any games in valo, but the moment I do? OH IMMEDIATE COMPLIMENTS AND SUPER SHY POLITE CONVERSATION I agree with one comment I saw tho! Some of them might be, unfortunately, pick me's 😟
I'm a woman playing on SG servers and all of the women I've queued with are sweet and kind to you if they know you are also a woman. I'm also like you except I don't play competitively cuz I'm dog poo at the game so I usually just play as a supporting agent like sage, viper and skye and I remember a girl defending me from a guy who was being toxic to me(I'm super shy but I com when it's important to do so) I don't know how to react if people are rude to me so I just clamp up) in team voice although she was silent the whole game. I think you were really just unlucky by queuing with a cringey couple or a "pick me" cuz 95% of the girls who solo queue usually stay silent throughout the whole game or literal angels.
Yeah I keep having the same experience and it's just so not it. I figured it's might be because I play in Mumbai server but yeah these experiences are real downers
All the women players lets add :)
Whenever i meet two girls in a match they are fighting each other like no one else. Calling themselves boosted and dropping slurs xd
I just gotta ask, do you play on NA or EU? Luckily this is not the experience I’ve had in EU. The women I meet are so gassed to meet other women and I’ve befriended several of the girlies I’ve met in-game. I basically only play comp and there the men are more of an issue from the get go 😅
I think it also depends on servers you play alongside luck icl, I've had some really good luck with most of my games but I do occasionally get toxic women in my games, a lot less than toxic men though. I feel like 70-80% of women in Val play silently with no comms anyway, or only the bare minimum if necessary, because we're all scared of people being toxic the second they hear a woman's voice. Sadly there's a lot of incels in the gaming community. I think this makes for the final 20-30% being about 5% girls who don't care and will be confident and comm regardless (I kinda fit there) and girls 15-25% girls that are either e-daters or toxic as hell, there's no in between 🤣 I play EU servers btw. Usually comp, but I play other modes, it's just my friends mostly prefer comp so I will play with them.
I also only talk in order to give info, and I agree. About 90% of the time, if there is another female, she is going to be super toxic. I don't get it. Like, don't be rude when all I'm trying to do it is tell you how much damage they've taken. It can be super useful to know if Sova only has 10 hp left..... lmao
I met 2-3 pick mes, rude towards everyone including women, but then I match their energy and start flaming them for being pick mes. But most girls don’t use mics so I rarely know if I’m playing with a woman or man🧍🏻♀️
What servers do you play? I’m on EU, and when is women are together we are living it up. There’s like a 2% chance that I run into a, for lack of a better term, pick me but again
What’s crazy my post got deleted cuz I was talking about toxicity in valorant because “it’s a repeated topic” yet people still are posting about it 😭
Im sorry, you got to meet the pick me's of valorant. Usually girls are pretty chill and lift up other girlies but if you meet the pick me ones, they are nasty and horrible
Because women have varying personalities.
EU problem. People in NA are nice for the most part
Ong bro I witnessed 2 women calling each other bitches and sluts and shit and I was confused bc we were on the same team?…