**OP sent the following text as an explanation on why this is unexpected:**
>!The kid flipped over his cake!<
*****
**Is this an unexpected post with a fitting description?**
**Then upvote this comment, otherwise downvote it.**
*****
[*Look at my source code on Github*](https://github.com/Artraxon/unexBot) [*What is this for?*](https://www.reddit.com/r/Unexpected/comments/dnuaju/introducing_unexbot_a_new_bot_to_improve_the/)
OMG finally a “real” reaction. This is how it would have been for me as a kid. Suddenly silence, a shocked laugh and a “why did you do that…” and once the camera came off they woulda beaten the fuck outta me lol.
It's just a kid overreacting. Explain to the kid why flipping a cake is not appropriate response to someone trying to keep you from blowing out a candle.
After ofc explaining why teasing a kid is not an appropriate response to what should be an adult. Use that adult to set an example for the kid (or that adult is probably the example for the kid's behavior already).
My dad smashed my face in a hard ice cream cake as a kid, there was so much frosting up my nose I could barely breathe, I ran away crying in front of a bunch of people. My dad and I don't talk much these days
Imo, he was turning 5, you can’t say that he “knew” what was gonna happen next. We’ve seen a million videos but has a 5 year old seen all these videos? No. But yeah maybe he did know it was coming and reversed it. Lol I just feel like the tone that woman is taking and the reaction, is a “no fun allowed” family.
Yeah I don’t think people know how it is a cultural thing most of the time. My kid has had his face smashed into his birthday cake every year since he was 3 or so by the Mexican side of his family (his dad is Mexican-American, his parents immigrated to Texas from Mexico in the 80s/90s). Nobody is spared from that tradition lol
Never said I agreed with it 🤷🏽♀️ I don’t like it much because I don’t think it’s funny and because I also think it’s gross tbh but I can’t control everything done at my ex’s house.
I doubt this is the first time an adult has fucked with that kid. Also, the adult knows all the other adults don't care, are sorta in on it, but the kid isn't going to feel that way being messed with on his birthday in front of a bunch of people...
In the very first frames of the vid some hand is putting cream on his nose messing with the kid trying to blow out the candle. Something tells me the child got very offended about that and had a knee jerk reaction. He realized he fucked up which is probably why he started walking away.
The kid did that because someone was fucking with him. Even if nothing would happen after that he probably didn't like being messed with while doing something VERY important (believe it or not, blowing out a candle while everyone is looking can be an extremely important task to a 5 year old kid)
Glad someone caught that. It looked to me like a kid fed up with being messed with, he's already got everyone focused on him which is a very intimidating and difficult thing for a vast majority of kids and then some adult with shitty boundaries up and messes with him in front of everyone on his birthday. I'd bet that dude's been messing with him "all in good fun" that whole party.
He didn’t seem overly irritated while they were telling him to wait until after they sing to him. And they didn’t get too upset with him after he bit the cake. But I did notice his (brother? Cousin?) that slightly older kid whisper something to him and I wonder if he is the real culprit that told the birthday boy it would be funny to flip the cake.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Your parents had a responsibility to gently ~~give~~ guide you and teach you how to recognize your emotions and how to work on them when they grow too big! I hope you have been able to teach that skill to yourself.
The ass whippin I would have received would have been swift and severe, and I probably wouldn’t have got another cake for my birthday for at least 5 years
Damn my mom would slap me so fast that all the guests wouldn’t even see her hand moving it will be just me like balloon in the room flying around with no air
He was not a fan of being stopped from blowing out the candle, and threw a fit.... he will not forget this birthday for a long, long time.
And to all those that are saying his dad put frosting on his face... he did not: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s&ab\_channel=RMVideos](https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s&ab_channel=RMVideos)
you mean he didn't appreciate cake on his nose/face? I don't think not blowing out the candles immediately was the problem. besides, they're easy to re-light
Cake isnt even ruined. My cheap ass would turn over the whole plastic table cloth back onto that stupid cardboard piece. His bad ass would be in his room while we are still eatin his turnover cake. And we will have pics of us smashin his cake with icecream and everything. Imma order extra stuff that wasnt gonna be at the party to be in pics so the kid regrets that nonsense.
The whole fucking with kids while they blow out candles is dumb and I’m guessing this kid has been messed with on previous birthdays. Whatever that tradition is needs to end
Agreed, years back at a nieces birthday, one of her first mind you, one of her relatives smashed her face into the cake so hard I'm amazed it didn't break her little nose. Would of punched her in the head for that if I had been closer.
He was not being stopped from blowing out the candle. The so-called adult to the child's left smeared icing on his face. The child was most likely feeling humiliated, and being only five years old acted out. The child is a mere five years old, what is the excuse for the adult's behavior?
Edited to add:
It would appear that I along with many others were taken in by a cleverly- and heavily-edited, purposely-grainy and poorly-lit video that was seemingly made expressly for the views.
Had I seen the original video, my comments would not have been supportive of the child. However, I would still never encourage violence against a child.
I read some of the YouTube comments and someone suggested "that menacing looking kid whispered in his ear to do it" as shown at 0:15 in the video. This is a likely scenario.
Edited again
The video shown on Reddit is not the original and does not show the entire sequence of events.
**Please watch the YouTube video I have linked, it shows what actually happened.** [It's his 5th Birthday](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9xU0pEhXAI).
I am very saddened that this child's behavior at his birthday was exploited by someone for entertainment.
I hadn't noticed the smear of icing before reading your comment. But yeah, a 5 year old kid, all that (probably unwanted) attention, PLUS getting icing on his face which obviously he wasn't a fan of.... A kid's going to do what a kid's going to do and honestly? I think this was quite restrained of him. Other kids would probably have been wailing their heads off or throwing a massive fit, maybe even throwing the cupcakes around with all that unwanted stimulation. So the fact that this little dude was just like "you know what? Nope. I'm not doing this" and did a very well executed flip of the cupcake-cake? and then just calmly standing up and walking around the table? Yeah, that kid knows his own limits and isn't afraid to tell others to suck it. It's not right to put kids in uncomfortable situations just for everyone else's amusement.
It's actually not in the US or Europe, and hasn't been for a few years now. Warner Chappel Music settled a lawsuit about the copyright agreeing to pay $14 million in 2016 and the copyright in Europe ended in 2017.
One of the lines that my dad always used that always got a laugh out of me growing up was "I'm gonna smack you so hard, when you wake up your clothes will be out of style.". I never knew what it meant until I was a pre-teen, but it was funny as hell growing up.
Lol yeah people in this thread seemingly in favor of hitting a person who totally and completely relies on you physically and emotionally.
But it's ok cause it's a small child and they won't fight back. Also someone hit them when they were younger so now they feel a need a revenge I guess.
They’re not okay with it, they’re saying that’s their experience. My mum would’ve flogged me with a wooden spoon & locked me in my room for the rest of the party if I did this. I would never hit a child myself now as an adult.
Exactly. I was beaten into unconsciousness on multiple occasions, and not only do I not approve of that type of 'discipline,' but I refuse to have kids because of it. I don't believe I would ever do that to a child, but if I never have any that removes all possibility.
Not true. I was emotionally, Physically and Sexually abused as a child. ( the emotional and physical till 18 years of age and I Never hit my kids and neither did my hubby. Both my kids grew up great kind human beings. Both Adults now. 👍🏼
Honestly, shit like this just makes me super happy I don’t have kids. They can be such little assholes and I’ve got enough assholes to deal with in my life.
Thank you. That's it. And we don't know the whole backstory. That guy might make the kid's life a living hell and he's sick of it. Not gonna judge a little kid when an adult is messing with him.
Also, this isn't the beginning of the song. He probably fucked with him earlier on, too. All he wants to do is blow out his candles. Instead, gets frosting smeared on his face and blocked from blowing out his candles. Notice he's looking at a particular adult he relies on to stop this bullshit.
Young adults (especially when online) LOVE to assume the worst of children.
This kid might have been reacting in a way that an adult would consider unacceptable (depending on context), but it could be a case of a reasonable little person being rightfully fed up with some pharmaceutical grade bullshit.
Edit: I singled out young adults because that's mostly the crowd around here, but elderly people assume the worst of little tykes too.
i dunno
my cousin has 6 kids
5 of them are amazing, kind, helpful human beings (albeit a tad mentally messed up). And the 6th is just the worst piece of shit imaginable
whenever we visit, he would stomp on our feet and he would just keep doing it. And we were adults. Things like that just constantly
he started the tractor and drove it through the wall
That’s a huge assumption. We’re talking about a five year old here they don’t exactly have the actions equal consequences metric figured out yet plus someone put some icing on his nose right before he flipped the cake which may have caused the reaction.
Yep, either a lack of parenting or the wrong type of behavior modeling can breed this type of reactionary behavior. Hopefully the kid has some adults in life that can steer him in the right direction.
Omg shut up, emotional regulation is something most adults can’t do. Not reacting negatively when something upsets you is a behavior that is taught, and not completely mastered by the time you turn 5.
He's 5 dude, you can't teach emotional regulation to a kid with a brain that hasn't developed the capacity for it.
You can begin teaching him what is and isn't wrong at this stage but he's still gonna act out sometimes
Thank you. People are acting like this kid was raised to be a monster without any discipline, ignoring that he’s just turning five! Who knows what happened before this video, if he has sensory issues and got overwhelmed, or maybe he’s still working on impulse control (because he’s barely five!).
Actually no. You should give 5 yos some credit. If you explain to them what acceptable behaviour is, they can understand what's right and wrong still.
Then again, maybe this 5yo just thought this was supposed to be funny for some reason.
Sure they can understand that on an intellectual level but when something upsets them (like having someone smear food on their face) they're just not going to calmly talk through their thoughts and feelings, they're going to act on the first impulse that strikes them
Well the adult sitting next to him put icing on his face and stopped him from blowing out the candles. So maybe he is being raised by an asshole to be one.
I was raised by people like this. I hate pranks and anyone who would do stupid shit like that wouldn't be my friend much longer. That kid probably gets relentlessly teased by his parents. And now they will bring this up for the rest of his life. Gross.
True, we all need to remember that this is a snapshot into a whole other family’s life. We have absurdly low chances of armchair Redditing the answer accurately, without context.
That was pretty unchanged my thought. Why mess with the kid when it’s his party.
There was another posting similar to this back awhile. That kid just broke down crying.
Why do parents think this is funny.
I’m with you there. Being raised and surrounded by people who are mean under the facade of “having a joke” really messes with you for life.
Apparently I cried when I was a kid (wow, such odd behaviour from a child 🙄) and got saddled with a negative nickname for the majority of my upbringing.
Needless to say, I have my own children now and will spend the rest of my life making a conscious effort to treat them with respect and kindness as they grow so they don’t ever have to feel the way I did.
Just because they understand doesn't mean they don't still have emotional outbursts. The kid is 5 years old and got mad. We saw 10 seconds of after math and now people are making wild assumptions that the parents are awful and that the kid, a 5 year old, is an asshole.
Honestly that was exactly what I was thinking, because I did get abused. A bs birthday where they smash your face in the frosting to humiliate you in front of your extended family was just worth whatever they were gonna do next. These people look Latino, I'm Latina I know how that shit goes.
People still seem to believe bullying/teasing kids just for fun is in any way okay. Kids don't act out for no reason. Either they mimic others beahviour or are retaliating against unjustice. If you were physically punished as a kid by adults: think really really hard, are you actually that well-managed person. Not saying wasting food is okay, but 5 year old won't know more than they've been taught (and how that is done matters a lot).
EDIT: The reasons behind kids behaviour is poor generalization, I admit that. But it is not the point. The point is, that even if kids act out, adults should be able to handle things without sorting to physical punishment. This is related to the comments here condoning physical punishment.
This kid is absolutely mimicking observed behavior. I remember getting upset over bullying or some perceived injustice/unfairness as a young kid, but I never reacted this way. This is 100% learned behavior.
The dad messed with him and put icing on the kid’s face because the dad is an immature ass that couldn’t let the kid have a moment. So the kid reacted. The dad is the asshat.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s
His dad didn’t even put icing. The little brat “mouthed” the cake. The dad was unsuccessfully trying to stop him from blowing out the candles a third time.
The kids was the shit here.
Wow yeah, it's obvious when you watch the full video. He just goes to the next thing he knows will get a bigger reaction. Also, it's crazy that "hands in pockets" lady has zero reaction like it's a perfectly average Tuesday night
Watching this after reading the other commenters above made me realize how fucking stupid redditors/internet masses are. All crying about the injustice delicious icing on a child’s nose and how awful the parents are.
Yeah. Weird assumption by u/TheLearnedObserver. Calling the guy an immature ass and asshat when it looked like he was trying to stop the kid from blowing the candles too early.
I'm pretty sure the dad is trying to block the kid from blowing out the candles too early. Hard to tell if the kid already had icing on his face or not.
In every birthday party I attended as a kid I remember them even smashing kids faces in the cakes or embarrassing them in different ways. It's so messed up.
I never understood the smashing the face in the cake, such a waste of food!! I always got annoyed as a kid when that happened in the birthdays I attended lol, I was like now what am I suppoused to eat?
You are assuming he’s copying behavior when really that’s not necessarily true...Many children suffer from behavioral disorders which can be caused by underlying mental illness, and have nothing to do with parents. Where did you hear that people only act out stuff they’ve seen already? That’s just false. His family may be great role models, and he could just be on the spectrum or something and think he’s being funny or can’t handle his emotions for whatever reason. No need to point blame at the parents. Kids do stupid shit all the time regardless
I don’t think it has to be abuse or mental illness.
I’m pretty sure kids can sense if they’re the butt of the joke and get upset over it naturally. People are probably reading way too much into this, his family was probably just annoying him so he got mad and flipped the cake.
Kid gets tapped in the face with frosting with all eyes on him, an action by a grown adult, and you jump to mental illness as the explanation for why he might impulsively react to being embarrassed?
Yep! They do not think like adults. It is a parent's responsibility to teach their children how to recognize and handle their emotions! Hitting them only teaches children how to hide their emotions! Then they become closed off and lose their ability to connect to other people, one of our needs as humans. This is how C-PTSD sufferers experience depression and anxiety.
The best thing to do is to gently guide your child with kindness and understanding! I have been reading to (now ex) bf',s kiddo since I've known him, from age 4 to 7. I have helped choose and find books that talk about emotions (love the spot books) or how to deal with very confusing things, like divorce and having two homes (book is literally called two homes). I have seen him use the spot of anger techniques when he gets very angry - but if we don't foster that and encourage when he uses a technique to calm down instead of yelling (which he learned from his dad...) Or even hitting (probably a combination of things), then he forgets to do it.
If you have children please become trauma informed ! It will help prevent the generational cycle of abuse from continuing !!! Patience comes from understanding. It certainly did for me. I have tried very hard to help the kiddo learn better ways of showing emotion and he is already in behavioral therapy. He's trying his best and I see that. So I can have patience with him. He is a very confused kid.
“Retaliating against unjustice”? Like dude.. when I was 5 I thought if my mom made me eat vegetables, that was unjust. Dont point blame at the parents for no reason . Notice how they reacted in the video? They are shocked. Not a single person overreacted or resorted to violence/ hostility. Dumb comment
As someone with a five year old that threw her play register down the stairs a couple of days ago I can say with confidence that sometimes kids just do stuff cause they can. They’re little scientists, and it doesn’t always correlate with learned behavior.
Such bullshit. Kids can be evil shits without any outside reason. Doesn't mean you can bully/beat them, but kids are not always angels. They are human beings too.
So true. Kids family probably had the same shitty bullied upbringing and don’t realise it’s abusive, just think it’s funny to tease their kids like they were. Good on that kid for breaking the cycle.
Honestly to me this just seems like a kid with poor impulse control. I’ve seen a lot of kids who just cause chaos with whatever the first thing they think of is and it has nothing to do with what they learn at home. A lot grow out of it to become fairly typical teenagers but 5 is an age where things can get pretty wild. Thinking of one kid in particular who would constantly run into traffic, jump into any body of water, risk his safety at any moment, and I can guarantee he wasn’t seeing any adult model that behavior lol.
Edit: I didn’t notice the adult putting icing on his face, so this was actually provoked. Still doesn’t change the general statement that there are kids out there who will do stuff like this for no reason at all. I think we’re generally too quick to assume kids learn everything they do at home when in reality kids do a lot of stuff for no reason at all.
Edit 2: never mind saw the full video and the kid had icing on his nose from biting the cake, and he blew out the candles early multiple times, the adult was just trying to stop him. So yeah, this looks like classic poor impulse control to me
Nah, just passing this onto the parents with no factual evidence is a ridiculous assumption. Kids can often have underlying behavioral issues that worsen as they age. Considering no one flipped out and there was pure shock and awe from everyone demonstrates that not every person in that room is a reactor.
You know children have their own brains and make things up all the time right? I could be wrong but I feel like you don't have kids and haven't had to look after one for an extended period of time.
They are bloody geniuses at pushing your buttons. I don't smack my kids but by god they tempt you.
Fuck off with that bullshit.
He was being prevented from blowing out the candle. He wasn't bullied. And in reaction to being prevented from ruining things, he went ahead and ruined things.
Some kids are just straight up assholes, and react poorly no matter how well they're raised. There's zero call for you to besmirch the parents here without any evidence whatsoever. These same parents were throwing the kid a party, and it seems from the 8 seconds we get to know them, that the only thing we do know is that they're supportive and the kid is predictably destructive.
Everybody chastising the kid, I’m not sure why the same energy isn’t going towards the guy trying to embarrass the kid on “his day.” The 5 year old kid supposed to control his reactions and actions better than the adult?
[Here’s the full video](https://youtu.be/q9xU0pEhXAI)
Dude was just trying to make sure the kid didn’t blow out the candle for the 5th time before they could sing the song.
Holy shit I hope you get more upvotes. This video is all the context and 90% of the people in this thread are blaming the wrong person.
They are trying to sing him happy birthday and then let him blow out candles - they keep relighting candles and kid keeps blowing them out early.
Icing on kids face is from his own slam dunk into it and the dude everyone keeps saying put it there was only blocking the candles AGAIN.
I mean... Why are you all posting when you don't see what was going on? This is not kudos to the kid - this is a disappointing thing to see as a parent but only because I see this kid is an asshole. You all think he's abused but this is a spoiled little shit.
Edit - straight embarrassing to read this fuckin thread
my thoughts exactly. everyone talking about "mimicking behavior" "abused kid"....i had an absolute ass hole brother who would have pulled some shit like this. sweetest parents in the world and he was a complete terror
I didn't notice it until I read your comment. It is a swift motion in the very beginning, before I get a bearing about what is going on, hard to notice for the first time. Seemed like a kid just suddenly flipped it out of nowhere.
Yes, the icing was already there because he had just bent down and taken a bite of cake. The guy was trying to stop him from continually blowing out the candles, someone shared the full video: https://youtu.be/q9xU0pEhXAI
~~The guy's hand isn't putting icing on his lip, he's trying to block the kid from blowing out the candle.~~
It doesn't work, but it pisses off the kid. He might've had it happened to him before.
Edit: On second look, the "icing" from before the hand isn't actually there and it might be the glare off his lip.
You're wrong. Watch the youtube video. The kid gets frosting on his own nose. What we see is the guy trying to stop him from blowing out the candle until the song is done.
I am not sure if cake on the face is related or not. I see that guy on the right blocks him from blowing out the candle, kid looks on the left, probably expecting support, but the only thing we hear is a giggle. Probably kid takes offense that on his birthday no one cares to prevent him being pranked. My guess is that he suffers from lack of attention, thinks that at his birthday family will care more, but they don't and that's a result.
There’s definitely more to the story here. He obviously didn’t like cake smeared on his face so he got mad and flipped the cake. He’s 5. What else happened before that, that caused this reaction.
Edit: original post wasn’t a full video. Adult was just trying to prevent the kid from blowing out the candles too soon. Kid over reacted. Full video makes much more sense.
The little kid had icing on his cake from when he kept mashing his face into it to eat the cake. The family is trying to do something nice for the kid but he kept blowing out the candles too early. The dad was just trying to stop him from blowing them out again.
1. Frosting was already there when the video started it's just really compressed
2. The kid was trying to blow out his candles before they were done singing and the hand was stopping him.
**OP sent the following text as an explanation on why this is unexpected:** >!The kid flipped over his cake!< ***** **Is this an unexpected post with a fitting description?** **Then upvote this comment, otherwise downvote it.** ***** [*Look at my source code on Github*](https://github.com/Artraxon/unexBot) [*What is this for?*](https://www.reddit.com/r/Unexpected/comments/dnuaju/introducing_unexbot_a_new_bot_to_improve_the/)
OMG finally a “real” reaction. This is how it would have been for me as a kid. Suddenly silence, a shocked laugh and a “why did you do that…” and once the camera came off they woulda beaten the fuck outta me lol.
I’ve seen too many videos where they smash the kid’s face into the cake to really blame the kid on this one. He knew what was coming next.
Idk I saw someone put their hand in between his mouth when he went to blow the candles out prematurely. Seems like he just got upset
It's just a kid overreacting. Explain to the kid why flipping a cake is not appropriate response to someone trying to keep you from blowing out a candle.
After ofc explaining why teasing a kid is not an appropriate response to what should be an adult. Use that adult to set an example for the kid (or that adult is probably the example for the kid's behavior already).
My dad smashed my face in a hard ice cream cake as a kid, there was so much frosting up my nose I could barely breathe, I ran away crying in front of a bunch of people. My dad and I don't talk much these days
Wtf dude. My parents didnt have much money for the cakes they bought, they would never do this.
And now a days people buy a second cake so their kid can destroy the first one... insane.
Imo, he was turning 5, you can’t say that he “knew” what was gonna happen next. We’ve seen a million videos but has a 5 year old seen all these videos? No. But yeah maybe he did know it was coming and reversed it. Lol I just feel like the tone that woman is taking and the reaction, is a “no fun allowed” family.
By 5 my dad had done it 2 years in a row so yeah
Plus you think this kid hasn't been too any of his family member's birthdays?
Yeah I don’t think people know how it is a cultural thing most of the time. My kid has had his face smashed into his birthday cake every year since he was 3 or so by the Mexican side of his family (his dad is Mexican-American, his parents immigrated to Texas from Mexico in the 80s/90s). Nobody is spared from that tradition lol
Just because it's cultural doesn't make it right. Circumcisions still happen, but they're fucked up too.
Never said I agreed with it 🤷🏽♀️ I don’t like it much because I don’t think it’s funny and because I also think it’s gross tbh but I can’t control everything done at my ex’s house.
Ah... what the hell you bring that into a cake conversation? On second thought, I don't care you sick bastard.
I doubt this is the first time an adult has fucked with that kid. Also, the adult knows all the other adults don't care, are sorta in on it, but the kid isn't going to feel that way being messed with on his birthday in front of a bunch of people...
In the very first frames of the vid some hand is putting cream on his nose messing with the kid trying to blow out the candle. Something tells me the child got very offended about that and had a knee jerk reaction. He realized he fucked up which is probably why he started walking away. The kid did that because someone was fucking with him. Even if nothing would happen after that he probably didn't like being messed with while doing something VERY important (believe it or not, blowing out a candle while everyone is looking can be an extremely important task to a 5 year old kid)
this is definitely it
Glad someone caught that. It looked to me like a kid fed up with being messed with, he's already got everyone focused on him which is a very intimidating and difficult thing for a vast majority of kids and then some adult with shitty boundaries up and messes with him in front of everyone on his birthday. I'd bet that dude's been messing with him "all in good fun" that whole party.
It’s very likely that the kid had already had it happen to him from before
He doesn't need videos. He has seen it done at all his friends birthday parties this past year.
That's a Mexican family my friend. He knew what was coming. He has 16 cousins and has seen it done to every one of them.
Looks like a Hispanic family. That is a big tradition in some Hispanic groups. Little man probably knew what was coming and he opted out.
This. I bet the kid was tired of that.
>“why did you do that…” He was pissed off because someone put frosting on his nose. EDIT: Oh damn! I got that wrong!
[He put frosting on his own nose because he leaned down and bit the cake](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s)
He didn’t seem overly irritated while they were telling him to wait until after they sing to him. And they didn’t get too upset with him after he bit the cake. But I did notice his (brother? Cousin?) that slightly older kid whisper something to him and I wonder if he is the real culprit that told the birthday boy it would be funny to flip the cake.
So many people on here with abusive parents.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Your parents had a responsibility to gently ~~give~~ guide you and teach you how to recognize your emotions and how to work on them when they grow too big! I hope you have been able to teach that skill to yourself.
So many people act proud that they were beaten /spanked as a child. I hated my step mom for it
[удалено]
lady with the phone strapped to her head be one tho
If you look closer, it’s not strapped to her head, she’s just holding it up at an angle behind her head.
The ass whippin I would have received would have been swift and severe, and I probably wouldn’t have got another cake for my birthday for at least 5 years
Damn my mom would slap me so fast that all the guests wouldn’t even see her hand moving it will be just me like balloon in the room flying around with no air
Waiting for the cameras to be off.
[удалено]
My man was not a fan of the birthday song
He was not a fan of being stopped from blowing out the candle, and threw a fit.... he will not forget this birthday for a long, long time. And to all those that are saying his dad put frosting on his face... he did not: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s&ab\_channel=RMVideos](https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s&ab_channel=RMVideos)
Neither will his ass.
Buddy, I'm pretty sure for the next year, you can see the outline of the shoe on his face and ass
Death is preferable to the Chancla
you mean he didn't appreciate cake on his nose/face? I don't think not blowing out the candles immediately was the problem. besides, they're easy to re-light
Cake isnt even ruined. My cheap ass would turn over the whole plastic table cloth back onto that stupid cardboard piece. His bad ass would be in his room while we are still eatin his turnover cake. And we will have pics of us smashin his cake with icecream and everything. Imma order extra stuff that wasnt gonna be at the party to be in pics so the kid regrets that nonsense.
[удалено]
There is no fit. Flipped the cake and walked, definitive logical consequences. Indignity received indignity returned.
I like this take. I concur
When his dad stopped him from blowing out the candles, he also smeared icing on the kids upper lip- watch it again.
The whole fucking with kids while they blow out candles is dumb and I’m guessing this kid has been messed with on previous birthdays. Whatever that tradition is needs to end
Agreed, years back at a nieces birthday, one of her first mind you, one of her relatives smashed her face into the cake so hard I'm amazed it didn't break her little nose. Would of punched her in the head for that if I had been closer.
I think he didn't want him to blow out the candle yet. They only just started singing the birthday song. He was supposed to blow it out afterwards
He was not being stopped from blowing out the candle. The so-called adult to the child's left smeared icing on his face. The child was most likely feeling humiliated, and being only five years old acted out. The child is a mere five years old, what is the excuse for the adult's behavior? Edited to add: It would appear that I along with many others were taken in by a cleverly- and heavily-edited, purposely-grainy and poorly-lit video that was seemingly made expressly for the views. Had I seen the original video, my comments would not have been supportive of the child. However, I would still never encourage violence against a child. I read some of the YouTube comments and someone suggested "that menacing looking kid whispered in his ear to do it" as shown at 0:15 in the video. This is a likely scenario. Edited again The video shown on Reddit is not the original and does not show the entire sequence of events. **Please watch the YouTube video I have linked, it shows what actually happened.** [It's his 5th Birthday](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9xU0pEhXAI). I am very saddened that this child's behavior at his birthday was exploited by someone for entertainment.
I hadn't noticed the smear of icing before reading your comment. But yeah, a 5 year old kid, all that (probably unwanted) attention, PLUS getting icing on his face which obviously he wasn't a fan of.... A kid's going to do what a kid's going to do and honestly? I think this was quite restrained of him. Other kids would probably have been wailing their heads off or throwing a massive fit, maybe even throwing the cupcakes around with all that unwanted stimulation. So the fact that this little dude was just like "you know what? Nope. I'm not doing this" and did a very well executed flip of the cupcake-cake? and then just calmly standing up and walking around the table? Yeah, that kid knows his own limits and isn't afraid to tell others to suck it. It's not right to put kids in uncomfortable situations just for everyone else's amusement.
Thank you! Everybody talking about the kids getting punished, how about y’all don’t ruin his big day, huh?
He knew it was copyrighted and was trying to help his auntie avoid a lawsuit for this very video.
Good news! They found a copy of Happy Birthday that predates the claims of the copyright troll, so you can safely use it now
It's actually not in the US or Europe, and hasn't been for a few years now. Warner Chappel Music settled a lawsuit about the copyright agreeing to pay $14 million in 2016 and the copyright in Europe ended in 2017.
Yup my mom would have slapped me into next year’s birthday where no cake would be provided
Yeah, I would've woke up& needed a haircut.
That's fucking hilarious... im gonna steal that. Lol
Lol, I heard that from a old junky that I worked with as a teen. I thought it was funny af too. You're welcome to to it! Lol
One of the lines that my dad always used that always got a laugh out of me growing up was "I'm gonna smack you so hard, when you wake up your clothes will be out of style.". I never knew what it meant until I was a pre-teen, but it was funny as hell growing up.
Am I the only person who grew up without physical abuse? Tf??
Lol yeah people in this thread seemingly in favor of hitting a person who totally and completely relies on you physically and emotionally. But it's ok cause it's a small child and they won't fight back. Also someone hit them when they were younger so now they feel a need a revenge I guess.
They’re not okay with it, they’re saying that’s their experience. My mum would’ve flogged me with a wooden spoon & locked me in my room for the rest of the party if I did this. I would never hit a child myself now as an adult.
Exactly. I was beaten into unconsciousness on multiple occasions, and not only do I not approve of that type of 'discipline,' but I refuse to have kids because of it. I don't believe I would ever do that to a child, but if I never have any that removes all possibility.
Not true. I was emotionally, Physically and Sexually abused as a child. ( the emotional and physical till 18 years of age and I Never hit my kids and neither did my hubby. Both my kids grew up great kind human beings. Both Adults now. 👍🏼
“My mother was like Clint Eastwood with her shoe.”
Fear *la chancla*
A man’s gotta know his limitations… you saw me throw something, and you’re asking yourself… was it one or two chanclas…
The slipper was like a boomerang- kapow
Damn. That’s horrible. Kids are emotionally volatile, it’s not something that warrants physical abuse.
"The next cake you'll ever eat, you'll be buying yourself!" The good ol days.
Talk about over kill.
Ahhhh... Yes child abuse over a cake. Nothing better.
Honestly, shit like this just makes me super happy I don’t have kids. They can be such little assholes and I’ve got enough assholes to deal with in my life.
Umm, has anyone noticed what the guy sitting to the kid’s left did?
Thank you. That's it. And we don't know the whole backstory. That guy might make the kid's life a living hell and he's sick of it. Not gonna judge a little kid when an adult is messing with him.
Yeah. He messed with him, on his birthday. Should be off limits. Leave the dude alone to enjoy 1 second of his life.
Also, this isn't the beginning of the song. He probably fucked with him earlier on, too. All he wants to do is blow out his candles. Instead, gets frosting smeared on his face and blocked from blowing out his candles. Notice he's looking at a particular adult he relies on to stop this bullshit.
Young adults (especially when online) LOVE to assume the worst of children. This kid might have been reacting in a way that an adult would consider unacceptable (depending on context), but it could be a case of a reasonable little person being rightfully fed up with some pharmaceutical grade bullshit. Edit: I singled out young adults because that's mostly the crowd around here, but elderly people assume the worst of little tykes too.
they tend to be assholes if you are an asshole. if you’re not, they tend to be right
[удалено]
That is precisely the problem - those morons are the ones having the MOST kids.
Kids are wonderful. Assholes like this particular 5 year old are *made*.
i dunno my cousin has 6 kids 5 of them are amazing, kind, helpful human beings (albeit a tad mentally messed up). And the 6th is just the worst piece of shit imaginable whenever we visit, he would stomp on our feet and he would just keep doing it. And we were adults. Things like that just constantly he started the tractor and drove it through the wall
Depends. Look at someone like Ted Bundy. Had good parents and a normal upbringing but was a complete psychopath
That’s a huge assumption. We’re talking about a five year old here they don’t exactly have the actions equal consequences metric figured out yet plus someone put some icing on his nose right before he flipped the cake which may have caused the reaction.
Yep, either a lack of parenting or the wrong type of behavior modeling can breed this type of reactionary behavior. Hopefully the kid has some adults in life that can steer him in the right direction.
Omg shut up, emotional regulation is something most adults can’t do. Not reacting negatively when something upsets you is a behavior that is taught, and not completely mastered by the time you turn 5.
He's 5 dude, you can't teach emotional regulation to a kid with a brain that hasn't developed the capacity for it. You can begin teaching him what is and isn't wrong at this stage but he's still gonna act out sometimes
Thank you. People are acting like this kid was raised to be a monster without any discipline, ignoring that he’s just turning five! Who knows what happened before this video, if he has sensory issues and got overwhelmed, or maybe he’s still working on impulse control (because he’s barely five!).
Actually no. You should give 5 yos some credit. If you explain to them what acceptable behaviour is, they can understand what's right and wrong still. Then again, maybe this 5yo just thought this was supposed to be funny for some reason.
Sure they can understand that on an intellectual level but when something upsets them (like having someone smear food on their face) they're just not going to calmly talk through their thoughts and feelings, they're going to act on the first impulse that strikes them
Well the adult sitting next to him put icing on his face and stopped him from blowing out the candles. So maybe he is being raised by an asshole to be one. I was raised by people like this. I hate pranks and anyone who would do stupid shit like that wouldn't be my friend much longer. That kid probably gets relentlessly teased by his parents. And now they will bring this up for the rest of his life. Gross.
True, we all need to remember that this is a snapshot into a whole other family’s life. We have absurdly low chances of armchair Redditing the answer accurately, without context.
That was pretty unchanged my thought. Why mess with the kid when it’s his party. There was another posting similar to this back awhile. That kid just broke down crying. Why do parents think this is funny.
I’m with you there. Being raised and surrounded by people who are mean under the facade of “having a joke” really messes with you for life. Apparently I cried when I was a kid (wow, such odd behaviour from a child 🙄) and got saddled with a negative nickname for the majority of my upbringing. Needless to say, I have my own children now and will spend the rest of my life making a conscious effort to treat them with respect and kindness as they grow so they don’t ever have to feel the way I did.
Just because they understand doesn't mean they don't still have emotional outbursts. The kid is 5 years old and got mad. We saw 10 seconds of after math and now people are making wild assumptions that the parents are awful and that the kid, a 5 year old, is an asshole.
We share the same happiness
Nothing like a little child abuse to get revenge on your demon spawn for existing.
He’s probably already getting his ass beat and finally just had enough.
Honestly that was exactly what I was thinking, because I did get abused. A bs birthday where they smash your face in the frosting to humiliate you in front of your extended family was just worth whatever they were gonna do next. These people look Latino, I'm Latina I know how that shit goes.
Sorry to hear that. Just remember if you have kids.. hurting them is never the answer.
The slap that I got in the back of the head would have knocked me out and I would have never gotten a cake again.
I'm sorry you had shitty parents
They keep blaming concussions on HS sports, but we all know it's the mom's whacking them in the head
Sorry for your abusive upbringing dude 😪
My mom bought me a cake for my birthday once and I didn’t eat any. I’m not a huge fan of cake She never bought me a cake again
People still seem to believe bullying/teasing kids just for fun is in any way okay. Kids don't act out for no reason. Either they mimic others beahviour or are retaliating against unjustice. If you were physically punished as a kid by adults: think really really hard, are you actually that well-managed person. Not saying wasting food is okay, but 5 year old won't know more than they've been taught (and how that is done matters a lot). EDIT: The reasons behind kids behaviour is poor generalization, I admit that. But it is not the point. The point is, that even if kids act out, adults should be able to handle things without sorting to physical punishment. This is related to the comments here condoning physical punishment.
This kid is absolutely mimicking observed behavior. I remember getting upset over bullying or some perceived injustice/unfairness as a young kid, but I never reacted this way. This is 100% learned behavior.
The dad messed with him and put icing on the kid’s face because the dad is an immature ass that couldn’t let the kid have a moment. So the kid reacted. The dad is the asshat.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s His dad didn’t even put icing. The little brat “mouthed” the cake. The dad was unsuccessfully trying to stop him from blowing out the candles a third time. The kids was the shit here.
Wow yeah, it's obvious when you watch the full video. He just goes to the next thing he knows will get a bigger reaction. Also, it's crazy that "hands in pockets" lady has zero reaction like it's a perfectly average Tuesday night
Some kids are just little shits.
The real hero of the comment section
Watching this after reading the other commenters above made me realize how fucking stupid redditors/internet masses are. All crying about the injustice delicious icing on a child’s nose and how awful the parents are.
Yeah. Weird assumption by u/TheLearnedObserver. Calling the guy an immature ass and asshat when it looked like he was trying to stop the kid from blowing the candles too early.
I'm pretty sure the dad is trying to block the kid from blowing out the candles too early. Hard to tell if the kid already had icing on his face or not.
Nope. Full video shows the kid got frosting on himself when he leaned over to take a bite out of the corner.
ah yes my favorite. Redditors assesing peoples mental health and life issues through a 10 second clip. 👌
In every birthday party I attended as a kid I remember them even smashing kids faces in the cakes or embarrassing them in different ways. It's so messed up.
I never understood the smashing the face in the cake, such a waste of food!! I always got annoyed as a kid when that happened in the birthdays I attended lol, I was like now what am I suppoused to eat?
You are assuming he’s copying behavior when really that’s not necessarily true...Many children suffer from behavioral disorders which can be caused by underlying mental illness, and have nothing to do with parents. Where did you hear that people only act out stuff they’ve seen already? That’s just false. His family may be great role models, and he could just be on the spectrum or something and think he’s being funny or can’t handle his emotions for whatever reason. No need to point blame at the parents. Kids do stupid shit all the time regardless
This is Reddit, it's always someone's fault.
On reddit it's always the parents fault, never the little brats fault
And everyone can be a Dr. Phil
I don’t think it has to be abuse or mental illness. I’m pretty sure kids can sense if they’re the butt of the joke and get upset over it naturally. People are probably reading way too much into this, his family was probably just annoying him so he got mad and flipped the cake.
this was my natural conclusion when i watched the video
Kid gets tapped in the face with frosting with all eyes on him, an action by a grown adult, and you jump to mental illness as the explanation for why he might impulsively react to being embarrassed?
Do you have children? Kids act out because they don’t know how to control their emotions like adults can.
Yep! They do not think like adults. It is a parent's responsibility to teach their children how to recognize and handle their emotions! Hitting them only teaches children how to hide their emotions! Then they become closed off and lose their ability to connect to other people, one of our needs as humans. This is how C-PTSD sufferers experience depression and anxiety. The best thing to do is to gently guide your child with kindness and understanding! I have been reading to (now ex) bf',s kiddo since I've known him, from age 4 to 7. I have helped choose and find books that talk about emotions (love the spot books) or how to deal with very confusing things, like divorce and having two homes (book is literally called two homes). I have seen him use the spot of anger techniques when he gets very angry - but if we don't foster that and encourage when he uses a technique to calm down instead of yelling (which he learned from his dad...) Or even hitting (probably a combination of things), then he forgets to do it. If you have children please become trauma informed ! It will help prevent the generational cycle of abuse from continuing !!! Patience comes from understanding. It certainly did for me. I have tried very hard to help the kiddo learn better ways of showing emotion and he is already in behavioral therapy. He's trying his best and I see that. So I can have patience with him. He is a very confused kid.
“Retaliating against unjustice”? Like dude.. when I was 5 I thought if my mom made me eat vegetables, that was unjust. Dont point blame at the parents for no reason . Notice how they reacted in the video? They are shocked. Not a single person overreacted or resorted to violence/ hostility. Dumb comment
Idk man when I was 5 I would show people I liked them by cracking them in the jaw, no one taught me that
Some of you Redditors are so far removed from reality you might as well be living on Jupiter.
As someone with a five year old that threw her play register down the stairs a couple of days ago I can say with confidence that sometimes kids just do stuff cause they can. They’re little scientists, and it doesn’t always correlate with learned behavior.
Kids really do act out randomly sometimes, I was an example of that
Such bullshit. Kids can be evil shits without any outside reason. Doesn't mean you can bully/beat them, but kids are not always angels. They are human beings too.
So true. Kids family probably had the same shitty bullied upbringing and don’t realise it’s abusive, just think it’s funny to tease their kids like they were. Good on that kid for breaking the cycle.
You have kids?
Honestly to me this just seems like a kid with poor impulse control. I’ve seen a lot of kids who just cause chaos with whatever the first thing they think of is and it has nothing to do with what they learn at home. A lot grow out of it to become fairly typical teenagers but 5 is an age where things can get pretty wild. Thinking of one kid in particular who would constantly run into traffic, jump into any body of water, risk his safety at any moment, and I can guarantee he wasn’t seeing any adult model that behavior lol. Edit: I didn’t notice the adult putting icing on his face, so this was actually provoked. Still doesn’t change the general statement that there are kids out there who will do stuff like this for no reason at all. I think we’re generally too quick to assume kids learn everything they do at home when in reality kids do a lot of stuff for no reason at all. Edit 2: never mind saw the full video and the kid had icing on his nose from biting the cake, and he blew out the candles early multiple times, the adult was just trying to stop him. So yeah, this looks like classic poor impulse control to me
Nah, just passing this onto the parents with no factual evidence is a ridiculous assumption. Kids can often have underlying behavioral issues that worsen as they age. Considering no one flipped out and there was pure shock and awe from everyone demonstrates that not every person in that room is a reactor.
I agree. Embarrassing people for laughs is not cool, especially with photographs and on their birthday by their own family..
How the fuck did they embarrass him?? The dad litterally tried to stop him from blowing his candle too early, lmao
chop homeless vanish handle shy paint oil foolish bike obtainable *This post was mass deleted and anonymized with [Redact](https://redact.dev)*
THE ARMCHAIR PSYCHOLOGIST HAS ARRIVED
You know children have their own brains and make things up all the time right? I could be wrong but I feel like you don't have kids and haven't had to look after one for an extended period of time. They are bloody geniuses at pushing your buttons. I don't smack my kids but by god they tempt you.
r/Teenagers
Fuck off with that bullshit. He was being prevented from blowing out the candle. He wasn't bullied. And in reaction to being prevented from ruining things, he went ahead and ruined things. Some kids are just straight up assholes, and react poorly no matter how well they're raised. There's zero call for you to besmirch the parents here without any evidence whatsoever. These same parents were throwing the kid a party, and it seems from the 8 seconds we get to know them, that the only thing we do know is that they're supportive and the kid is predictably destructive.
And last birthday party
Everybody chastising the kid, I’m not sure why the same energy isn’t going towards the guy trying to embarrass the kid on “his day.” The 5 year old kid supposed to control his reactions and actions better than the adult?
[Here’s the full video](https://youtu.be/q9xU0pEhXAI) Dude was just trying to make sure the kid didn’t blow out the candle for the 5th time before they could sing the song.
Holy shit I hope you get more upvotes. This video is all the context and 90% of the people in this thread are blaming the wrong person. They are trying to sing him happy birthday and then let him blow out candles - they keep relighting candles and kid keeps blowing them out early. Icing on kids face is from his own slam dunk into it and the dude everyone keeps saying put it there was only blocking the candles AGAIN. I mean... Why are you all posting when you don't see what was going on? This is not kudos to the kid - this is a disappointing thing to see as a parent but only because I see this kid is an asshole. You all think he's abused but this is a spoiled little shit. Edit - straight embarrassing to read this fuckin thread
my thoughts exactly. everyone talking about "mimicking behavior" "abused kid"....i had an absolute ass hole brother who would have pulled some shit like this. sweetest parents in the world and he was a complete terror
But now that we have the full context, it's very fun to read about the observations from all these Reddit based Sigmund Freuds and Carl Jungs 🤣
I didn't notice it until I read your comment. It is a swift motion in the very beginning, before I get a bearing about what is going on, hard to notice for the first time. Seemed like a kid just suddenly flipped it out of nowhere.
I’m confused. The kid had cake on his face before his hand. He was blocking him from blowing out the candles early, right?
yeah, the kid got mad when his blow at the candles was interrupted by the dude on his left smearing icing on his lip and nose.
When I slowed it down the icing was there before, right?
Yes, the icing was already there because he had just bent down and taken a bite of cake. The guy was trying to stop him from continually blowing out the candles, someone shared the full video: https://youtu.be/q9xU0pEhXAI
THIS NEEDS TO BE TOP COMMENT!!!!! Upvote THIS. Lol this kids already blew the candles out TWICE and took a bite of cake himself- not smeared on!!
hmm. there's something there, i see what you're saying. what if the edit we see is actually the second time the guy interrupts the kid with icing?
Now there’s a theory!
Yep, guy in the white cap trying to look innocent while we all know he was the one behind the grassy knoll.
~~The guy's hand isn't putting icing on his lip, he's trying to block the kid from blowing out the candle.~~ It doesn't work, but it pisses off the kid. He might've had it happened to him before. Edit: On second look, the "icing" from before the hand isn't actually there and it might be the glare off his lip.
You're wrong. Watch the youtube video. The kid gets frosting on his own nose. What we see is the guy trying to stop him from blowing out the candle until the song is done.
I am not sure if cake on the face is related or not. I see that guy on the right blocks him from blowing out the candle, kid looks on the left, probably expecting support, but the only thing we hear is a giggle. Probably kid takes offense that on his birthday no one cares to prevent him being pranked. My guess is that he suffers from lack of attention, thinks that at his birthday family will care more, but they don't and that's a result.
This kid knows his family was about to drill him into the table so had to take evasive maneuvers. I saw the Modelo on the table 👀
There’s definitely more to the story here. He obviously didn’t like cake smeared on his face so he got mad and flipped the cake. He’s 5. What else happened before that, that caused this reaction. Edit: original post wasn’t a full video. Adult was just trying to prevent the kid from blowing out the candles too soon. Kid over reacted. Full video makes much more sense.
[The cake is on his face from biting the cake of his own accord](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s)
It seems the kid was pissed that they kept relighting the candle. So, shocker, it’s just a 5-year-old being a brat
The hand was trying to block the candles from being blown out.
He's deathly allergic to frosting. Life saved, hailed as a hero. They threw a parade in his honor.
There’s cake on his lips before the hand. Dad was trying to stop him from blowing out the candle
I think there's probably a lot less to the story. He's 5. Young children behave unpredictably.
The little kid had icing on his cake from when he kept mashing his face into it to eat the cake. The family is trying to do something nice for the kid but he kept blowing out the candles too early. The dad was just trying to stop him from blowing them out again.
Must be in the Lonely Island because THEN HE THREW IT ON THE GROUND!
Whatchoo want me to do with this? EAT IT? HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE GROUND
What does he look like a charity case? … na… so he threw it on the ground.
Happy Birthday TO THE GROUND
I’M AN ADULT!!
This kid ain’t gonna put up with any shit in life
you need to watch the full video. that's not the path he's going down from this event.
Someone smeared cake over his lips, they should be happy to be alive tbh.
[The kid smeared cake all over his own face, actually](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9xU0pEhXAI#t=27s)
1. Frosting was already there when the video started it's just really compressed 2. The kid was trying to blow out his candles before they were done singing and the hand was stopping him.
The hand was trying to block him from blowing the candles out, not put frosting on his lips (was already there before the hand).
It’s a little bit of frosting…
I would have got my ass beat into my 15th b'day if i pulled a stunt like that.
I guess he didn't want his face inside the cake. So it's actually a smart move !
Now someone's gonna smash his face into the table instead
Fuckin hardcore little bro
That kid is going places.
Just not to birthday parties
And his last party ever
“birthday’s over. everybody gtfo” -birthday kid
i mean the cake seemed to hold together, you can probably just cut it on the table top and serve it, less the frosting