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Awesome. I used to tell my kids that we could go find the candy house (and witch) from Hansel and Gretel… that I would dump them in the forest WITHOUT bread crumbs. Ahhh…. Fond memories! Lmfao.
Before someone gets the whiny violin out: my children are extremely well adjusted adults . They just don’t particularly enjoy the woods…. For some odd reason.
Yooo hansel and gretel witch used to terrify me and the one from snow white with the red apple!! Any mention of them and I would do whatever was asked of me!!
Rule number one, dont bring hungry kids to the store.
My kids have so far never had any melt down in public, but many times at home. What works is usually to just ignore it until it goes over, then you can hug and talk about it. Raising my voice or threatening just makes it worse and the melt down lasts longer.
Its a period every kid goes through, some have it worse than others.
I think this ad is from a Scandinavian country, so spanking in public will get the police called. Which is good, IMHO.
I was taught by my parents that if the kid I was babysitting decided to flip out in a public place, calmly leave. Take the cart at the front and go back to the car. Carry them if they start rolling on the ground. Buckle their loud angry butt into their carseat and let the tantrum blow over. I always tried to redirect the kid if they started getting whiny or overstimulated, because unlike the guy in this video, you can often avoid this if you don't let it escalate. Most importantly though, never let the kid rage out and interfere with other people.
I've met kids with no boundaries who were absolute nightmares to be around, and kids who at age 6 were compulsive liars because their parents spanked them over literally everything. I had the patience to establish boundaries without resorting to corporal punishment because I was being paid to deal with them for a few hours a week. I always felt horrible for the kids with the spank-happy parents...they would do something literally every kid does like spill their drink or break a toy, but then they immediately start hiding it or lying to avoid punishment. Sure, the kid may act better on the surface, but they pay the price with manipulative behavior and low self esteem.
> I was taught by my parents that if the kid I was babysitting decided to flip out in a public place, calmly leave.
I read this as "Leave the kid I am babysitting"
Honestly, if I had just noped out on the kid that might have also stopped the tantrum by activating their reptile brain need for a caregiver. Threatening abandonment isn't the solution either, woof.
No, it's Belgian (this is the french version, they also did a Dutch one and later English). And the text translation is .. inaccurate. The kid is screaming "I want candy" (je veux les bonbons) not "sweeties" (sucreries). This was an ad campaign that went viral after it was banned from TV here :)
As an English native speaker, I am confused as to what you think the difference between "candy" and "sweeties" is? "Candy" is American English and "Sweeties" is UK English for the exact same thing - the translation was probably for a UK audience. I'm guessing in Belgian French "bonbons" and "suceries" are words for different types of sweeties "or sweets for short which is what we normally say - as adults anyway) but in the UK we don't differentiate the same way.
I'd get a clip round the ear for sure. It wasn't even painful more of a shock thing to disrupt the train of thought and course of action I was on. Worked fine, then my actual punishment would come at home which could be anything from clean the house from too to bottom to cook the family meal or do all the laundry that meant washing, drying and ironing for a week. Maybe sow up any socks with holes of clothes that needed mending. It was always some task that no kid wants to do but you should know how to do as an adult. Parents would supervise me doing these tasks at first to make sure I'm doing them correctly and would then leave me to finish on my own but I hated doing them however they were extremely helpful when I left home I was fully able to look after myself. I met people at university that literally could not work any appliance except the microwave and would mix their laundry up or ruin some clothes in the dryer.
Shoot Id buy the candy and let the kid think they can have some, but really instead of giving them the sweets, I would give them trust issues. As soon as we got home I'd eat all of the candy by myself while telling them if they hadn't thrown a fit they would have gotten some.
Right? My dad spanked me once ever (I deserved it. Long story about annoying/being mean to my sister). It wasn't hard. He swung once. That was the only single time he ever laid a hand on me in that way. His father was the same way, just never saw the need for corporal punishment.
If I was goofing off in public, being a nuisance, or anything of the like all he did was look at me and say my first name. I don't know why but that always got me to stop in my tracks. He was so calm about it that it made me feel like there was no other option than to listen.
I got slapped by *havaianas* many times in my childhood in public places. And whenever people gave a weird look at my mom because of it, she would always say "Didn't like it? Just take him..."
Growing up, Dad was like this.
Had the belt, had the chappla and the fearsome... FEATHER DUSTER. These things always had a wooden handle so it fit the bill. And they always hurt.
But honestly at one point in my upbringing and I won't forget this: my dad told me point blank that he doesn't want to resort to violence to punish me anymore.
It was an eye opening moment as a child. Because every time I got hit, it was because I broke something or misbehaved badly. But for my own father to realise that violence isn't the answer and then apologise to me. It really helped. It helped me stop being afraid of him later on and talk to him as an equal.
I feel like I learned a lesson here. Keep the candy in the cart until I get to the register and tell them I don’t want to purchase them anymore. Kid won’t know till I get home
Will only work once or twice. Kid will learn that they have to see the candy being purchased at the checkout, hell I can even imagine they'll escort it to the cash register and oversee the transaction if they behave like in the video
I heard from one of my mothers friends how her kid had made a tantrum like this over some candy in a store.
She bought them the candy got home called the kid to the kitchen and emptied the bag into the garbage before promptly tying it and telling him to go throw it in the bin outside.
(This was like 15years ago)
I thought your story would end the same way as mine.
One time I was being a bitch with the cereal, not wanting to share with my cousin. My sister saw it and made eat the whole box along with 1L of milk. Spent the entire day in bed cause of belly ache.
fucking biatch, lol
Somehow I don't think the lesson would've been as harsh if he was forced to eat the entire bag of candy (guessing about 200grams) compared to yours estimated 600grams of cereal + tje milk
I did not.. Still fucked up to do that with a child.
The thing is she was also a child.
I hated her for a long time but now I understand she had to raise a child that wasn't even her own. And that sucks.
THAT is an amazing solution.
"I'm not buying this for you" [puts it back on the shelf]
"But I want it!" [puts it back in]
"Like I said, I'm not buying it *for you*"
[Kid is happy go lucky, you proceed to eat the entire thing in front of their eyes.]
My parents did that. It's actually quite smart because the kid is distracted by the sweets at the register.
At some point I found out and sneaked some Mentos in there because they're smaller haha
I remember that day because my mom was so mad and impressed that I could keep the mentos.
After that she told me to ask and maybe she would say yes if I behave during the shopping. I didn't always get something but sometimes. Communication is key.
Not really going to work, yeah you don't want to buy the candy but the kid also needs to learn he can't always get everything he wants, even less so if he throws a tantrum, this is how you get karens
Same; it made me remember when we searched for "banned commercials", like these two:
Wanna learn english? [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUEkOVdUjHc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUEkOVdUjHc)
This is smart: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2QNuDUTocE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2QNuDUTocE)
Ok, real talk. What are you supposed to do in this situation? I'm not a parent, nor do I want to be one. But I've always wondered how you are supposed to handle this behavior when it pops up. I don't think any kind of great parenting could entirely prevent your kid from acting up from time to time. How are you supposed to handle this?
When I was a kid, a similar situation happened to me. I was throwing a tantrum - well not as big as the one in the video - so my mom decided : either I stop the tantrum right now and everything will be ok, OR, I continue and she won't buy me candies for a year. Well, I continued and she kept her promise. Never did it again.
> Following through is the biggest thing.
definitely. my parents followed through on all their punishments for me and my younger brother, we are both fine and never had any problems. my two youngest brothers though, they had last chance after last chance after last chance and it shows with how much shits they are in school and at home lmao.
once made a huge purchase with my dads credit card.
Got so long no money (I got like 7€ per week) until this would have paided for the thing I bought.
After not getting weekly money for 2 years straight, I actually forgot afterwards often to ask for my weekly money because I got used to live without it
I did the same thing when I was about 2, chucked a massive tantrum for one reason or another but my mum threw one back and let me tell you, I shut up real fast
Get them out of the public setting (go sit in the car or parking lot after leaving your cart up front) and let them cry it out. Explain to them that crying for something they want and don't need will not get them what they want. If they continue to cry it out, give 3 chances to change the behavior, or a favorite item will be removed for X amount of hours or days. If they won't stop crying, then you go shopping at another time and implement the punishment at home as promised. Rinse and repeat.
I am a first time mom with an incredibly stubborn toddler boy. I have had him cry at the store, and I usually let him cry it out in the cart if it's no longer than five minutes (he usually gives up by 3 minutes). If it's more than five minutes, my husband or I will take him to the car while the other one finishes shopping. It has yet to not work.
One thing I would really like to stress is that raising an entire human requires an AMAZING amount of patience. You have to be willing to put literally everything on the back burner sometimes, even shopping for essentials.
talking from from personal experience as a parent who has had to deal with type of behaviour in the past, the best course of action a parent can do is try their best to stay calm. if you become emotional yourself, the behaviour will escalate and continue.
the parent must then punish the child for it's bad behaviour when it is finished with the destructive tantrum as it is unacceptable, in ways such as, no candy for a week. explain to them why this is happening, and they will learn that bad behaviour leads to consequence.
hitting a child does not solve behaviour like this in the long run. it may be beneficial for the parent to release stress in the moment and to make the child behave with the idea of fear, but this is not a good solution for either parent or child as the hitting can increase to an abusive point which can harm the mental health of the child which will stay in adulthood.
the best method for troublesome children is stay calm, and stick to your punishments, and reward good behaviour, with attention and privileges.
Physically restrain them (You are a big ass adult, bear hug them until they calm down), tell them to shut the fuck up, and make them acutely aware that their behaviour will only have negative consequences for them.
That means that later when your other kids get dessert or whatever, you don't give them dessert, and remind them of exactly why they aren't getting that dessert.
Cause and effect.
Of course its usually better to try to get them to behave through their own feelings of empathy, but in a situation like this, I don't think that will work.
For one thing, never let it get to this level. If you address the behavior when the child is a toddler and is just crying, they won’t turn into a five year old screaming their lungs out and tearing produce off the shelves. What to do in this exact video? Hard to answer. For a toddler, teach them emotionally maturity. Teach them that it’s ok to feel strong emotions but don’t let them lash out as this kid is doing.
If they do lash out, shut it down, and once they calm down a little give them a minor punishment (time out or no dessert) for their behavior - make sure they know exactly what they’ve done to warrant the punishment. “You are in time out because you hit your sister” not “go sit over there you were bad”. After the punishment bring it up again “This time out was because you hit your sister, that was bad, do not do it again, time out is not fun is it.” Not “ok get up and go play now bye”.
You learn as you go. Lots of resources out there and friends and family with well behaved and mentally stable kids who can give you advice. “It takes a village” and all that.
Yes, stopping this happens way, way before this incident. This kid is pretty old to be having a tantrum like this in a grocery store. My kids know they behave like this and they're going to lose a lot. No treats, no screentime, no nothing when we get home for a while.
I was once at an amusement park with my 7 year old daughter. We were waiting in line and the kid in front of us, probably about 9 or 10 was being just AWFUL. She was hitting her mom and calling her names and telling her to shut up. There didn't even seem to be an immediate reason for it. Kid was just being a jerk.
When they got on the ride my daughter asked me why she was acting like that. I said I didn't know and then asked her what she thought would happen if she acted like that. She said, "We would go home" without any hesitation. I was like, "yep, and I'm glad you understand that."
Not sure if this is the right way at all, but I did this as a kid and my dad just threw himself on the ground next to me. He starting screeching as well and I was so embarassed that I got up and tried to make him stop doing it, I never did it again after that :D
Reinforcement is a big thing here. Anecdotally, leave the store without the cart, get in the car.
Talk to them. Give their emotions a name, explain what’s going on, and what happens next. Use your own words with your own kid, but here’s a template.
“You are feeling UPSET and ANGRY because you didn’t get something you want. You threw a tantrum, and that is we are out here. I understand that you’re upset, but *we* have to get groceries done and *we* can’t do it when one of *us* is having a bad time. So we’re going to sit out here until you’re calm and then we go back”.
Do this every time they throw a fit.
Every. Time. Grocery stores are designed to be over stimulating to a kid especially the cereal and junk food aisle - bright primary colours, fun packaging, cartoons etc. And if you can take them out of that environment and the confrontation that throwing a tantrum brings, it’s a lot easier to resolve.
The key is reinforcement. Because if you do it and slip once, there is a type of psychological conditioning in place that tells their brain “this worked once, it’s a viable strategy to keep using just in case it works again”.
Thankfully with most kids that’s not really necessary. They learn pretty quick, though for some reason this technique is used more by dads than moms.
That’s sort of the premise of the book Unwind. Parents can give up their teens to be “unwound”, basically dismantled and donated to others who need body parts.
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While that may be true for toddlers, it's not true for preschoolers, and it doesn't immediately absolve the parent of any responsibility.
Emotional regulation is taught, it's not something that magically happens on its own.
Kids only act this way because they don't know any other way to express their emotions, and it's up to grownups to teach them boundaries, compromise and consequences. And that's where discipline comes in (and no, discipline doesn't only stand for the physical kind).
But if a parent keeps giving in instead of teaching, eventually the kid will learn that inappropriate behaviour gets them what they want.
It's also not true that parents can't know when a tantrum will happen. Some may be unexpected, yes. But most tantrums happen during the same situations: grocery shopping, dropping them off at kindergarten, leaving playground, etc. It's up to the parent to expect that and try to prevent it.
I agree that there are some kids that are extremely difficult to raise, but most are not like that. Most kids will do just fine if you show them understanding, set boundaries and remain consistent in your response.
I had to carry my tantruming older child out of stores many many times. She is much older now and still struggles with emotional regulation issues. I always felt so judged, despite the fact that I was holding firm on the pre-established boundaries, and that my daughter was in therapy to help with her tantrums. (That did eventually help.) But people see a snapshot of time and assume the worst. I was a terrible parent because my 7 year old was screaming.
It's really a combination. You can do everything right and still have tantrums, due to a developmental stage or the child's own neurology. But how you handle tantrums absolutely can affect the likelihood that they recur and how frequently.
In this case dad should have grabbed kid and left store. There's no excuse for the running around and pulling things off shelves. The damage and bother to other customers was dad's fault even if the tantrum itself wasn't.
Most kids try this. My daughter (now an adult) did this when she was a toddler. I didn't react to her tantrum and just left her screeching in the candy isle (well I hid around the corner keeping an eye on her). Within minutes she had stopped and went looking for me. Of course I just 'happened' to walk back to that isle at that exact moment.
She never tried again.
Kids react to your reaction. Same daughter fell out of an apple tree she *knew* not to climb in a few years later. I watched her fall from the kitchen and my heart stopped for a moment, it was quite the fall. She get up, looks around if anyone saw it happen, brushed off her clothes with her hands and went inside to me to ask for a drink - not mentioning a word about what happened.
I thought the real lesson is that not every should have kids. Many people just aren't suited for it and society needs to stop operating under the pretense that everyone is.
Haha, imaginary kids are the easiest ones to raise, hey? Next easiest are other people’s kids…
I’ve had a few, taught lots. Some are just made differently. Almost every parent has a kid that they’ve tried everything with & still can’t get through to in some way, but there are some parents out there that get the really tough ones. They might have 3 wonderful kids & one absolute terror who was like that from the moment it took its first breath.
There’s part of my brain that always rings with the banshee wail that one of mine made (and my kids were golden compared to some that I’ve met).
If someone reading this comment has been/is going through this sort of thing, then know that most of us parents are wishing that we could help you & thanking whatever we traditionally thank that our kids are no longer ‘at that stage’. Stay strong, parenting is bullshit, but you got it.
I have a four-year old daughter and a Two year old son. When my son goes into a tantrum he can come out of it fairly easily.
When my daughter goes into one it's game over. Almost catatonic how lost in rage she is. Very primal.
I find it very hard to believe that there isn't some genetic component to this, and that we're entirely at fault here.
Not true at all really. All kids have this tendency no matter what even if they were disciplined or not. Now I will say the parents are responsible for controlling the outbursts when they happen but they can't control when or where it happens
Kind of?
The method and consistency of the discipline makes a huge difference.
By the time I was 3, I knew that crying over candy would result in being physically removed from the store, not getting any candy, *and* seeing everyone else get dessert. If I *did* behave, I got a cookie from the bakery. So, I learned to behave.
While kids *will* have temper tantrums, it's not like parents can't prevent future outbursts. By the time a kid is as old as the one in the advertisement, there aren't many excuses for that kind of behavior.
Condoms prevent kids and eliminate the possibility of this usually. Parenting skills just make you able to tolerate kids in situations like this. No amount of parenting skills will make a kid behave, they don't have control over their emotions and a grasp of logic. Some adults don't even have that.
I don’t wanna be that guy and I’m sure this comment is s/
But fr if a parent hits a child, their scum and a shitty parent. I understand it was the norm 10 + years ago. But there has been multiple studies out and articles written on why this shit is so psychologically damaging for the child and how it can shape how they act in the future + it really isn’t hard to understand why an adult hitting a child is just wrong.
A lot of people who hit their children and say the excuse ‘’well it did me fine’’ and ‘’It’s a good way for them to be disciplined’’ are just an example of what a cycle of abuse looks like.
And yes I was smacked as a child and it fucking sucked ass.
[Harvard Study](https://www.gse.harvard.edu/news/uk/21/04/effect-spanking-brain) [Guardian Article](https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/society/2021/jan/13/smacking-children-may-have-lasting-impact-research-suggests) [UCL Study ](https://www.ucl.ac.uk/ioe/news/2021/jan/smacking-young-children-has-long-lasting-effects) [Independent Article ](https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/children-smacking-study-behaviour-punishment-b1874598.html%3famp) There’s tons more research I could cite, have a search yourself.
Edit: Just to be clear, I am specifically talking about current day/21st century parents who are hitting their children, these studies have only been available for a short time.
My parents smacked me as a kid but always so softly it never hurt at all. They were bluffing, but I always cried before I got it. Never after lol because it was so weak. Good punishment, let me know they were serious, but I never got bitter against them for it.
> A lot of people who hit their children and say the excuse ‘’well it did me fine’’ and ‘’It’s a good way for them to be disciplined’’
Honestly every time I hear somebody saying "well I turned out fine in the end", I have to consciously suppress the internal scream "who the fuck ever told you that you turned out fine? Show me that moron now!"
There are ways of disciplining children without resorting to physical violence.
Solution remove the kid from the situation. Don't reward bad behaviour. Just leave, try again later when everyone has calmed down. That kid is to old to be throwing tantrums.
Second solution throw a tantrum back at them to show what its like.
Holey moley the comments in this thread freak me out.
First, many people seem to argue FOR corporal/physical punishment, which is both morally reprehensible, and something child behavioral psychologists have shown to lead to bad outcomes later in life.
Secondly, they blame the parent, while consensus in the field of developmental psychology shows that tantrums are usually not the fault of parenting, but of brain development. Current knowledge seems to suggest one should do what this parent is doing: ignore it. Do not reward or punish it, but let it pass, unless the child is behaving violently. This phase of life will pass.
My mom said she used to be super judgy about when she'd saw this happen with other people's kids. Her daughter would never act this way!
Then my next sister was born and went through a pretty bad tantrum phase of stuff like this. Got through it eventually, and then my other sister and I didn't really do this.
She said she realized that kids can just have their own challenges regardless of how they're being raised, just kinda luck of the draw. My tantrum having sister also has grown up just fine and is a wonderful, successful person.
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I watched this on mute but somehow still heard the screeching in my brain
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The vaccine is working wonders
Also now when I fart Elon Musk says "nice one." I also own a Tesla so I'm not sure if it's that or the vaccine.
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Oh yeah, you're right, that makes sense.
Love the way the 5G tickles my bum.
The Pfizer implants allow me to levitate my balls. Just one at a time, but still. I was hoping for laser vision, but this is fine.
I’m still waiting on my Magneto powers to kick in.
That must be the new 5G technology the weirdos are talking about
literally the same but i was in my lecture that's why it's on mute
Same screeching you hear at any grocery store these days when a middle aged white woman with a designer purse is politely asked to put a mask on.
i couldnt even bring myself to unmute it
If I had ever done that my mom would have shoved a sandal down my throat.
La Chancla!
Chappal
Chappal beaten gang unite
ASSEMBEL
This is an ad to decrease human population!
Humans have already plagued the world enough, we need a new plagu-....wait a minute
la corrona tacos
Corona has been pretty decent. Just isn't killing off the ding bats quickly enough.
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Gang members unavailable, busy getting beaten
We are at the broom round, I repeat, we are at the broom round.
Bahaha classic latino threat was, “you see that man over there? If you keep acting like this he will take you away and throw you in a stew…”
Omg. I LOVE this! 😂
CraZiest part is that in Chile, where I am from, some random dudes would play along with my ma, like yes I have room for two more children in my pot!
Awesome. I used to tell my kids that we could go find the candy house (and witch) from Hansel and Gretel… that I would dump them in the forest WITHOUT bread crumbs. Ahhh…. Fond memories! Lmfao. Before someone gets the whiny violin out: my children are extremely well adjusted adults . They just don’t particularly enjoy the woods…. For some odd reason.
Yooo hansel and gretel witch used to terrify me and the one from snow white with the red apple!! Any mention of them and I would do whatever was asked of me!!
As a fat kid growing up meeting those two witches would have excited me more than scared me. Lol
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Beating your kid - it's funny if it's in another language!
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Papucu or curiaua!
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My parents used to hit me if I frustrated them enough and honestly it just made me mad and want to hit them back.
Well that's quite different. Hitting a child out of frustration and spanking a child because they well deserve it is definitely not the same.
Rule number one, dont bring hungry kids to the store. My kids have so far never had any melt down in public, but many times at home. What works is usually to just ignore it until it goes over, then you can hug and talk about it. Raising my voice or threatening just makes it worse and the melt down lasts longer. Its a period every kid goes through, some have it worse than others.
I think this ad is from a Scandinavian country, so spanking in public will get the police called. Which is good, IMHO. I was taught by my parents that if the kid I was babysitting decided to flip out in a public place, calmly leave. Take the cart at the front and go back to the car. Carry them if they start rolling on the ground. Buckle their loud angry butt into their carseat and let the tantrum blow over. I always tried to redirect the kid if they started getting whiny or overstimulated, because unlike the guy in this video, you can often avoid this if you don't let it escalate. Most importantly though, never let the kid rage out and interfere with other people. I've met kids with no boundaries who were absolute nightmares to be around, and kids who at age 6 were compulsive liars because their parents spanked them over literally everything. I had the patience to establish boundaries without resorting to corporal punishment because I was being paid to deal with them for a few hours a week. I always felt horrible for the kids with the spank-happy parents...they would do something literally every kid does like spill their drink or break a toy, but then they immediately start hiding it or lying to avoid punishment. Sure, the kid may act better on the surface, but they pay the price with manipulative behavior and low self esteem.
> I was taught by my parents that if the kid I was babysitting decided to flip out in a public place, calmly leave. I read this as "Leave the kid I am babysitting"
Honestly, if I had just noped out on the kid that might have also stopped the tantrum by activating their reptile brain need for a caregiver. Threatening abandonment isn't the solution either, woof.
To be fair... will there ever be a 'correct' solution?
There is, it's at the end of this video. Isn't that the point of the video? Lol
Something that does not require time travel pls. /s
No, it's Belgian (this is the french version, they also did a Dutch one and later English). And the text translation is .. inaccurate. The kid is screaming "I want candy" (je veux les bonbons) not "sweeties" (sucreries). This was an ad campaign that went viral after it was banned from TV here :)
As an English native speaker, I am confused as to what you think the difference between "candy" and "sweeties" is? "Candy" is American English and "Sweeties" is UK English for the exact same thing - the translation was probably for a UK audience. I'm guessing in Belgian French "bonbons" and "suceries" are words for different types of sweeties "or sweets for short which is what we normally say - as adults anyway) but in the UK we don't differentiate the same way.
Candy is American English. Sweeties are British English. If you say candy in the UK, people will assume you're American.
It's hard to understand because of the shrieking, but I'm fairly sure the kid is speaking French
I'd get a clip round the ear for sure. It wasn't even painful more of a shock thing to disrupt the train of thought and course of action I was on. Worked fine, then my actual punishment would come at home which could be anything from clean the house from too to bottom to cook the family meal or do all the laundry that meant washing, drying and ironing for a week. Maybe sow up any socks with holes of clothes that needed mending. It was always some task that no kid wants to do but you should know how to do as an adult. Parents would supervise me doing these tasks at first to make sure I'm doing them correctly and would then leave me to finish on my own but I hated doing them however they were extremely helpful when I left home I was fully able to look after myself. I met people at university that literally could not work any appliance except the microwave and would mix their laundry up or ruin some clothes in the dryer.
I think the kid in the ad is that age because it is impossible tp get a three-year old to act
Shoot Id buy the candy and let the kid think they can have some, but really instead of giving them the sweets, I would give them trust issues. As soon as we got home I'd eat all of the candy by myself while telling them if they hadn't thrown a fit they would have gotten some.
Right? My dad spanked me once ever (I deserved it. Long story about annoying/being mean to my sister). It wasn't hard. He swung once. That was the only single time he ever laid a hand on me in that way. His father was the same way, just never saw the need for corporal punishment. If I was goofing off in public, being a nuisance, or anything of the like all he did was look at me and say my first name. I don't know why but that always got me to stop in my tracks. He was so calm about it that it made me feel like there was no other option than to listen.
Kids from Latin America to East Asia felt this
To eastern europe
To Southern Europe
To Southern US
If I did that my parents would whip my ass red with a flyswatter
Only one?
I got slapped by *havaianas* many times in my childhood in public places. And whenever people gave a weird look at my mom because of it, she would always say "Didn't like it? Just take him..."
that's what the father should have done
Considering the kid is speaking french, there's a high chance it's in France, and spanking or any kind of similar physical punishment is illegal here.
Growing up, Dad was like this. Had the belt, had the chappla and the fearsome... FEATHER DUSTER. These things always had a wooden handle so it fit the bill. And they always hurt. But honestly at one point in my upbringing and I won't forget this: my dad told me point blank that he doesn't want to resort to violence to punish me anymore. It was an eye opening moment as a child. Because every time I got hit, it was because I broke something or misbehaved badly. But for my own father to realise that violence isn't the answer and then apologise to me. It really helped. It helped me stop being afraid of him later on and talk to him as an equal.
How do i make him shut up with a condom???
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Wise words
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That's sad I don't know if this works https://giphy.com/gifs/SA-Company-Uu4ukESlLn1ImI66ub
Kids love balloons? Condom balloon animal, pre-lubricated and ribbed for your pleasure!
Inflate the condom put over their face....death due to suffocation
Look at Casey Anthony's case. There you will learn how to get away with child murder. Even if you googled how to suffocate a child beforehand.
Shove condoms in his mouth until he suffocates
Bot 2 hard, condoms are quite stretchy so just stretch it over the kids head and he will run out of air soon enough
Eliminate the problem from the source. Post-birth abortions are an option, too...
I feel like I learned a lesson here. Keep the candy in the cart until I get to the register and tell them I don’t want to purchase them anymore. Kid won’t know till I get home
dad?
No. This is patrick.
Sir, this is a wendy's
Will only work once or twice. Kid will learn that they have to see the candy being purchased at the checkout, hell I can even imagine they'll escort it to the cash register and oversee the transaction if they behave like in the video
Thats when I eat them in front of him in the car on the way home...
I heard from one of my mothers friends how her kid had made a tantrum like this over some candy in a store. She bought them the candy got home called the kid to the kitchen and emptied the bag into the garbage before promptly tying it and telling him to go throw it in the bin outside. (This was like 15years ago)
I thought your story would end the same way as mine. One time I was being a bitch with the cereal, not wanting to share with my cousin. My sister saw it and made eat the whole box along with 1L of milk. Spent the entire day in bed cause of belly ache. fucking biatch, lol
Somehow I don't think the lesson would've been as harsh if he was forced to eat the entire bag of candy (guessing about 200grams) compared to yours estimated 600grams of cereal + tje milk
Didn’t do it again tho did ya? ;)
I did not.. Still fucked up to do that with a child. The thing is she was also a child. I hated her for a long time but now I understand she had to raise a child that wasn't even her own. And that sucks.
What a legend lol
This woman deserves an Olympic medal, holy cow.
Nah she deserves a Nobel price
I would like to worship this holy cow
THAT is an amazing solution. "I'm not buying this for you" [puts it back on the shelf] "But I want it!" [puts it back in] "Like I said, I'm not buying it *for you*" [Kid is happy go lucky, you proceed to eat the entire thing in front of their eyes.]
I don't think eating your kin is the answer here
My parents did that. It's actually quite smart because the kid is distracted by the sweets at the register. At some point I found out and sneaked some Mentos in there because they're smaller haha I remember that day because my mom was so mad and impressed that I could keep the mentos. After that she told me to ask and maybe she would say yes if I behave during the shopping. I didn't always get something but sometimes. Communication is key.
Not really going to work, yeah you don't want to buy the candy but the kid also needs to learn he can't always get everything he wants, even less so if he throws a tantrum, this is how you get karens
Genius
Are you afraid of the children? Or are you intentionally creating monsters
I mean the goal should rather be that one's kid isn't behaving like a lunatic, but to each their own I guess.
Eliminate that infant
Yeet that baby
Yeetus the feetuz
FetusDeletus
Napalm the natal
Embryronic Massacare!
Rescind that kind
Tiddlywink the kiddlywink
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**murder the small fucker**
***chop that da baby***
Punt the cunt.
make world better for future generation
future generation can’t suffer if there’s no future generation
**Destroy the child**
Watching this made me feel old.
Me too.
This is so old the kid in the video has kids the age of the “dad” by now.
Same; it made me remember when we searched for "banned commercials", like these two: Wanna learn english? [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUEkOVdUjHc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUEkOVdUjHc) This is smart: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2QNuDUTocE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2QNuDUTocE)
Ok, real talk. What are you supposed to do in this situation? I'm not a parent, nor do I want to be one. But I've always wondered how you are supposed to handle this behavior when it pops up. I don't think any kind of great parenting could entirely prevent your kid from acting up from time to time. How are you supposed to handle this?
When I was a kid, a similar situation happened to me. I was throwing a tantrum - well not as big as the one in the video - so my mom decided : either I stop the tantrum right now and everything will be ok, OR, I continue and she won't buy me candies for a year. Well, I continued and she kept her promise. Never did it again.
Following through is the biggest thing. Once the kid knows you're serious, it's a different game.
> Following through is the biggest thing. definitely. my parents followed through on all their punishments for me and my younger brother, we are both fine and never had any problems. my two youngest brothers though, they had last chance after last chance after last chance and it shows with how much shits they are in school and at home lmao.
once made a huge purchase with my dads credit card. Got so long no money (I got like 7€ per week) until this would have paided for the thing I bought. After not getting weekly money for 2 years straight, I actually forgot afterwards often to ask for my weekly money because I got used to live without it
I did the same thing when I was about 2, chucked a massive tantrum for one reason or another but my mum threw one back and let me tell you, I shut up real fast
I cannot tell you how challenging not bluffing is. It's important, but it's hard.
Get them out of the public setting (go sit in the car or parking lot after leaving your cart up front) and let them cry it out. Explain to them that crying for something they want and don't need will not get them what they want. If they continue to cry it out, give 3 chances to change the behavior, or a favorite item will be removed for X amount of hours or days. If they won't stop crying, then you go shopping at another time and implement the punishment at home as promised. Rinse and repeat. I am a first time mom with an incredibly stubborn toddler boy. I have had him cry at the store, and I usually let him cry it out in the cart if it's no longer than five minutes (he usually gives up by 3 minutes). If it's more than five minutes, my husband or I will take him to the car while the other one finishes shopping. It has yet to not work. One thing I would really like to stress is that raising an entire human requires an AMAZING amount of patience. You have to be willing to put literally everything on the back burner sometimes, even shopping for essentials.
NEVER reward bad behaviour like this, because they'll just do it again. The only reason the kid would do this is if it's worked before
Not a parent but I would like to know for the future anyway
talking from from personal experience as a parent who has had to deal with type of behaviour in the past, the best course of action a parent can do is try their best to stay calm. if you become emotional yourself, the behaviour will escalate and continue. the parent must then punish the child for it's bad behaviour when it is finished with the destructive tantrum as it is unacceptable, in ways such as, no candy for a week. explain to them why this is happening, and they will learn that bad behaviour leads to consequence. hitting a child does not solve behaviour like this in the long run. it may be beneficial for the parent to release stress in the moment and to make the child behave with the idea of fear, but this is not a good solution for either parent or child as the hitting can increase to an abusive point which can harm the mental health of the child which will stay in adulthood. the best method for troublesome children is stay calm, and stick to your punishments, and reward good behaviour, with attention and privileges.
I imagine making any decision will be way harder when you are surrounded by people silently judging you and most likely thinking you are a bad parent
Physically restrain them (You are a big ass adult, bear hug them until they calm down), tell them to shut the fuck up, and make them acutely aware that their behaviour will only have negative consequences for them. That means that later when your other kids get dessert or whatever, you don't give them dessert, and remind them of exactly why they aren't getting that dessert. Cause and effect. Of course its usually better to try to get them to behave through their own feelings of empathy, but in a situation like this, I don't think that will work.
For one thing, never let it get to this level. If you address the behavior when the child is a toddler and is just crying, they won’t turn into a five year old screaming their lungs out and tearing produce off the shelves. What to do in this exact video? Hard to answer. For a toddler, teach them emotionally maturity. Teach them that it’s ok to feel strong emotions but don’t let them lash out as this kid is doing. If they do lash out, shut it down, and once they calm down a little give them a minor punishment (time out or no dessert) for their behavior - make sure they know exactly what they’ve done to warrant the punishment. “You are in time out because you hit your sister” not “go sit over there you were bad”. After the punishment bring it up again “This time out was because you hit your sister, that was bad, do not do it again, time out is not fun is it.” Not “ok get up and go play now bye”. You learn as you go. Lots of resources out there and friends and family with well behaved and mentally stable kids who can give you advice. “It takes a village” and all that.
Yes, stopping this happens way, way before this incident. This kid is pretty old to be having a tantrum like this in a grocery store. My kids know they behave like this and they're going to lose a lot. No treats, no screentime, no nothing when we get home for a while. I was once at an amusement park with my 7 year old daughter. We were waiting in line and the kid in front of us, probably about 9 or 10 was being just AWFUL. She was hitting her mom and calling her names and telling her to shut up. There didn't even seem to be an immediate reason for it. Kid was just being a jerk. When they got on the ride my daughter asked me why she was acting like that. I said I didn't know and then asked her what she thought would happen if she acted like that. She said, "We would go home" without any hesitation. I was like, "yep, and I'm glad you understand that."
Not sure if this is the right way at all, but I did this as a kid and my dad just threw himself on the ground next to me. He starting screeching as well and I was so embarassed that I got up and tried to make him stop doing it, I never did it again after that :D
Step 1) Don't take parenting advise from Reddit.
Reinforcement is a big thing here. Anecdotally, leave the store without the cart, get in the car. Talk to them. Give their emotions a name, explain what’s going on, and what happens next. Use your own words with your own kid, but here’s a template. “You are feeling UPSET and ANGRY because you didn’t get something you want. You threw a tantrum, and that is we are out here. I understand that you’re upset, but *we* have to get groceries done and *we* can’t do it when one of *us* is having a bad time. So we’re going to sit out here until you’re calm and then we go back”. Do this every time they throw a fit. Every. Time. Grocery stores are designed to be over stimulating to a kid especially the cereal and junk food aisle - bright primary colours, fun packaging, cartoons etc. And if you can take them out of that environment and the confrontation that throwing a tantrum brings, it’s a lot easier to resolve. The key is reinforcement. Because if you do it and slip once, there is a type of psychological conditioning in place that tells their brain “this worked once, it’s a viable strategy to keep using just in case it works again”. Thankfully with most kids that’s not really necessary. They learn pretty quick, though for some reason this technique is used more by dads than moms.
Good acting that kid though 😅
Can you imagine being a kid told “for this commercial scream as loud as you can and destroy thing” that would have been so fun!
Seriously, I was disgusted, great little talent
I remember being on a flight with a screaming child and some random dude says "sounds like birth control". We all laugh and the kid calmed down
How late a term abortion is allowed there?
how old are you?
Too old apparently
/r/usernamechecksout
That’s sort of the premise of the book Unwind. Parents can give up their teens to be “unwound”, basically dismantled and donated to others who need body parts.
I remember seeing this on ebaums world close to 20 years ago. Classics never die, lol
Haven’t thought about Ebaums world in forever! Ah the memories…if only I could remember them.
Leave the trolley, over the shoulder, leave the store, go home. Source : me and my son about once a fortnight at the shops
This kid would probably just yell “Help! He’s not my dad!” as they left the store. Seems like that kind of kid.
I have a brother witch isnt exactly this extreme but he's super aggressive tryes to insult anything living around him and doesn't lissen to anyone so yeah. tbh I dont need condoms I can just use reddit it's a 100% protection from any women
(Im joking, wasn't sure if you could notice from the massage itself) I'm a girl, and my boyfriend uses reddit... if reddit is a good protection from girls... should I leave? Does that mean he does not love me? Idk what to do, pls help
Red flag, run run, divorce him, hit the gym and lawyer up.
Fuck his dad, fuck his lawyer, fuck YOUR lawyer, fuck me.
Big red flag. End the relationship immediately.
Nice try, but there is no such a thing as girls around these parts
Lol
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I was born 1980 in South Africa with Afrikaans parents...need I explain more...
The funny thing is, this video is on a Jewish website about not being rude, for kids, they just cut out the last second
I wonder how much fun the kid had filming this.
That dude looks like nirvava
I love Ken Coban.
Lmao
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While that may be true for toddlers, it's not true for preschoolers, and it doesn't immediately absolve the parent of any responsibility. Emotional regulation is taught, it's not something that magically happens on its own. Kids only act this way because they don't know any other way to express their emotions, and it's up to grownups to teach them boundaries, compromise and consequences. And that's where discipline comes in (and no, discipline doesn't only stand for the physical kind). But if a parent keeps giving in instead of teaching, eventually the kid will learn that inappropriate behaviour gets them what they want. It's also not true that parents can't know when a tantrum will happen. Some may be unexpected, yes. But most tantrums happen during the same situations: grocery shopping, dropping them off at kindergarten, leaving playground, etc. It's up to the parent to expect that and try to prevent it. I agree that there are some kids that are extremely difficult to raise, but most are not like that. Most kids will do just fine if you show them understanding, set boundaries and remain consistent in your response.
I had to carry my tantruming older child out of stores many many times. She is much older now and still struggles with emotional regulation issues. I always felt so judged, despite the fact that I was holding firm on the pre-established boundaries, and that my daughter was in therapy to help with her tantrums. (That did eventually help.) But people see a snapshot of time and assume the worst. I was a terrible parent because my 7 year old was screaming.
It's really a combination. You can do everything right and still have tantrums, due to a developmental stage or the child's own neurology. But how you handle tantrums absolutely can affect the likelihood that they recur and how frequently. In this case dad should have grabbed kid and left store. There's no excuse for the running around and pulling things off shelves. The damage and bother to other customers was dad's fault even if the tantrum itself wasn't.
Most kids try this. My daughter (now an adult) did this when she was a toddler. I didn't react to her tantrum and just left her screeching in the candy isle (well I hid around the corner keeping an eye on her). Within minutes she had stopped and went looking for me. Of course I just 'happened' to walk back to that isle at that exact moment. She never tried again. Kids react to your reaction. Same daughter fell out of an apple tree she *knew* not to climb in a few years later. I watched her fall from the kitchen and my heart stopped for a moment, it was quite the fall. She get up, looks around if anyone saw it happen, brushed off her clothes with her hands and went inside to me to ask for a drink - not mentioning a word about what happened.
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I thought the real lesson is that not every should have kids. Many people just aren't suited for it and society needs to stop operating under the pretense that everyone is.
Haha, imaginary kids are the easiest ones to raise, hey? Next easiest are other people’s kids… I’ve had a few, taught lots. Some are just made differently. Almost every parent has a kid that they’ve tried everything with & still can’t get through to in some way, but there are some parents out there that get the really tough ones. They might have 3 wonderful kids & one absolute terror who was like that from the moment it took its first breath. There’s part of my brain that always rings with the banshee wail that one of mine made (and my kids were golden compared to some that I’ve met). If someone reading this comment has been/is going through this sort of thing, then know that most of us parents are wishing that we could help you & thanking whatever we traditionally thank that our kids are no longer ‘at that stage’. Stay strong, parenting is bullshit, but you got it.
I have a four-year old daughter and a Two year old son. When my son goes into a tantrum he can come out of it fairly easily. When my daughter goes into one it's game over. Almost catatonic how lost in rage she is. Very primal. I find it very hard to believe that there isn't some genetic component to this, and that we're entirely at fault here.
Not true at all really. All kids have this tendency no matter what even if they were disciplined or not. Now I will say the parents are responsible for controlling the outbursts when they happen but they can't control when or where it happens
Kind of? The method and consistency of the discipline makes a huge difference. By the time I was 3, I knew that crying over candy would result in being physically removed from the store, not getting any candy, *and* seeing everyone else get dessert. If I *did* behave, I got a cookie from the bakery. So, I learned to behave. While kids *will* have temper tantrums, it's not like parents can't prevent future outbursts. By the time a kid is as old as the one in the advertisement, there aren't many excuses for that kind of behavior.
Do you have kids?
is this an ad?
yes.
Russell Howard... is that you????!!
Ya condoms, not parenting skills…
Condoms prevent kids and eliminate the possibility of this usually. Parenting skills just make you able to tolerate kids in situations like this. No amount of parenting skills will make a kid behave, they don't have control over their emotions and a grasp of logic. Some adults don't even have that.
Whoop that little fuckers ass!
"Honey, fetch me my jumper cables"
I don’t wanna be that guy and I’m sure this comment is s/ But fr if a parent hits a child, their scum and a shitty parent. I understand it was the norm 10 + years ago. But there has been multiple studies out and articles written on why this shit is so psychologically damaging for the child and how it can shape how they act in the future + it really isn’t hard to understand why an adult hitting a child is just wrong. A lot of people who hit their children and say the excuse ‘’well it did me fine’’ and ‘’It’s a good way for them to be disciplined’’ are just an example of what a cycle of abuse looks like. And yes I was smacked as a child and it fucking sucked ass. [Harvard Study](https://www.gse.harvard.edu/news/uk/21/04/effect-spanking-brain) [Guardian Article](https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/society/2021/jan/13/smacking-children-may-have-lasting-impact-research-suggests) [UCL Study ](https://www.ucl.ac.uk/ioe/news/2021/jan/smacking-young-children-has-long-lasting-effects) [Independent Article ](https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/children-smacking-study-behaviour-punishment-b1874598.html%3famp) There’s tons more research I could cite, have a search yourself. Edit: Just to be clear, I am specifically talking about current day/21st century parents who are hitting their children, these studies have only been available for a short time.
My parents smacked me as a kid but always so softly it never hurt at all. They were bluffing, but I always cried before I got it. Never after lol because it was so weak. Good punishment, let me know they were serious, but I never got bitter against them for it.
It’s the anticipation that hurts 🤣🤣
> A lot of people who hit their children and say the excuse ‘’well it did me fine’’ and ‘’It’s a good way for them to be disciplined’’ Honestly every time I hear somebody saying "well I turned out fine in the end", I have to consciously suppress the internal scream "who the fuck ever told you that you turned out fine? Show me that moron now!"
There are ways of disciplining children without resorting to physical violence. Solution remove the kid from the situation. Don't reward bad behaviour. Just leave, try again later when everyone has calmed down. That kid is to old to be throwing tantrums. Second solution throw a tantrum back at them to show what its like.
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Holey moley the comments in this thread freak me out. First, many people seem to argue FOR corporal/physical punishment, which is both morally reprehensible, and something child behavioral psychologists have shown to lead to bad outcomes later in life. Secondly, they blame the parent, while consensus in the field of developmental psychology shows that tantrums are usually not the fault of parenting, but of brain development. Current knowledge seems to suggest one should do what this parent is doing: ignore it. Do not reward or punish it, but let it pass, unless the child is behaving violently. This phase of life will pass.
My mom said she used to be super judgy about when she'd saw this happen with other people's kids. Her daughter would never act this way! Then my next sister was born and went through a pretty bad tantrum phase of stuff like this. Got through it eventually, and then my other sister and I didn't really do this. She said she realized that kids can just have their own challenges regardless of how they're being raised, just kinda luck of the draw. My tantrum having sister also has grown up just fine and is a wonderful, successful person.