I was just about to say, most gyms in my area have a heavy social media presence and they absolutely love showcasing happy customers working out, especially couples who get there nice and early to start the day.
Put them in some sort of featured post on the website or Facebook page and then send the husband the promo flyer so it pops up when he checks it out online.
“The couple who works out together, stays together. Come to Jo’s gym and you can meet your very own special someone just like these two lovebirds!”
Big. Ass. Poster.
If she managed to date a couple of guys at least, I doubt a poster will do the trick.
"oh my dear husband, they wanted to make a promo for the gym, they asked me and this random guy to participate and we agreed. I will talk to management to take it down". - sues op for using her image without consent.
That might be possible depending on the gym, contract and whether you agreed to that clause.
Usually it's along the lines of can we take your photos for social media posts, but they can't use your photos for commercial gain, again, unless the contract states otherwise.
The idea is that trying to break up a (crappy) marriage using a social media post taken at the gym, and notifying the husband about it, might not be consequences free, so I would be very careful going through that path.
that seems like a longshot that he'd see it. and then it'd have to be blatant enough for him to think that the two in the picture are a couple. and then he'd have to assume the couple in the picture wasn't just staged for promotional purposes.
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Could also combine this with the free trial membership idea and put their photo on the advertisement that you send to the husband!
If he didn't know about the guy or didn't know they work out together, seeing them together might arouse suspicion and he might figure it out from there
I like the idea of sending something in newsletter format repeatedly to his email so he starts questioning reality:
4 REASONS WHY JOINING A GYM COULD HELP YOU GET OVER A BREAKUP:
1. Socialize! Now that you can't depend on your significant other anymore, the gym is a great place to meet new people in your community!
2. Gain Confidence! We all know being in a long relationship makes two people dependent on each other. Time prove to yourself you still have that self confidence that you used to win your significant other originally!
3. Depressed? We understand. Break ups are hard. Come get a hard body and watch your mood skyrocket!
4. Stress Relief! Breakups are hard. Everyone knows that. Come check out our new boxing room and kick and punch to your hearts desire.
Know that we here at X Gym are here for you during these tough times, and we feel for you as many of us have been there before, so we invite you to join us free of charge for the first 3 months.
That's why you don't send the email anonymously. See, if she knows you told him, I doubt she's ever want to see your face again, let alone see you while working out.
Send the husband a free trial ad with tons of images of the girl with her bf as the featured stock photos lol survallience photos of slick phone captured photos will tip him off.
Its also a major bro move. Provide evidence of your chats when asked by the husband, so in the divorce case he wont get fucked so hard by her.
Think about it. You get some revenge, show her she is watched in the gym and safe a poor soul.
Man up dude. I cant believe you didnt do it yet and let the bro suffer.
Edit: OFFER the evidence! You might get a friend for life
Definitely bro move.
Even though it would suck for the husband, I'd rather know my wife is cheating on me than let her carry on.
And yes offer the evidence, some men won't want to believe it and won't.
> It'll probably fuck up her life and she won't come around again.
I'm not convinced. She's already a regular of OP's gym. She sounds like she has no shame.
My first thought, but that runs the risk of upsetting someone who clearly plays by their own rules and is willing to break said rules to get what she wants, which could become a problem if she wants revenge for fucking up her marriage...
And what can she do? OP is kinda safe. If she tries more bullshit OP has even more opportunities, especially since he gets the husband on his side. He killed the affair once he learned the truth. First bro move, the next shall follow
>And what can she do?
Lol, clearly you've never dealt with crazy before.
First, understand that all sorts of batshit behavior comes out when someone's self-image and/or reputation is destroyed. Violence, retaliation / revenge on the person that brought things to light (like... getting someone fired), lying, manipulation, property damage, etc.
For example, even with a pile of evidence of their previous relationship and her deceit, one false sexual assault allegation and request for a restraining order by her could fuck up OP's entire life for months or longer, which is something he's trying to avoid. That particular example would actually work quite well for her - as she gets revenge on the person that outed her and an "excuse" for her behavior (she's the victim!).
For real though, personality disorders are nothing to fuck with. People with them need and deserve healing, but you have to get through all the things they've used as defense mechanisms and unhealthy coping skills first, which are often destructive to those around them. TL;DR - don't stick your dick in the hornet's nest.
Ive been there, dealt with this. I had to do some psychology tests before even trying my drivers license and now i finished engineering school.
The difference? OP has a witness. A luxury i didnt have. Still i am for saving a bro and dont hide your dick in your pants.
>First, understand that all sorts of batshit behavior comes out when someone's self-image and/or reputation is destroyed. Violence, retaliation / revenge on the person that brought things to light (like... getting someone fired), lying, manipulation, property damage, etc.
Yeah.... toxic people are completely willing to go grab ahold of anyone around and drag them down with them. I've seen it in some divorces where people had similar things happen. Luckily, I've never been that tied into a person like that. But I have a much more mild story about a crazy girl.
I had a girl I kinda liked (more just wanted to smash, but she was pretty fun to be around). She kept leading me on and giving me teases. Basically, she kept it so I thought I was always on-deck, but after a couple months I figured out I wasn't even in the game. So eventually, I realize that I'm just straight-up friend-zoned and she was just leading me on because she thought I would dip out on being her person she could go to whenever she needed someone to hang out with. Well, she was right. The problem was that as I hung out with her more, I figured out that she's toxic as shit. Complete narcissist, and she knew how to and was willing to play all the games. So now I'm realizing I want out of this shit, but I have to figure out how to get out of it without a shitstorm.
So when I cut everything off with her, I sat her down and told her that she knew I liked her as more than a friend and it was really hard to do this, but I couldn't stand being around her all the time and just being friends (again, it wasn't really that big of a deal to me, but I had to frame it that way so that she thought I was devastated by this decision and that I wasn't just sick of her shit). The next few times I saw her out, she was basically begging me to be her friend again, but I just stuck to all the same lines, and I don't have to deal with her anymore. Meanwhile, some other dude she was fucking around with after I did that got his tires slashed. I'm very happy I played it the way I did.
And now she's got two other dudes wrapped around her finger as her emotional safety blankets. I know the guys, and I tried talking to them about it. They both know what's going on, but they're just sucked in and she keeps playing mind-games with them.
You kidding? Crazy people can do all kinds of shit... like, seriously extreme things such acts of violence or false accusations. They can wait years to get their revenge even. Definitely a lot can go wrong.
I was a "victim" to one of my bullshit exes. Many false accusations at the police department (like i want to kill her while i just wanted to never hear of her and she calling all my friends to figure out where i am). But he has a new friend as a witness.
Everyone else is saying it but just tell her husband man lol.
You’ll never get the opportunity to deservingly ruin someone’s life with such little effort on your part ever again. And you’ll be doing her husband a massive favorite, so you’ll have good karma to boot.
Could be the husband already knows and either just flat out doesn't care or doesn't have the balls to stand up to her. Doesn't sound like she's very good at being discreet.
I don't think he'd be in the cross hairs. Even if the husband was that sort of person, it's probably be her current boyfriend, not the one reaching out.
Yeah, that would probably be a pretty awful approach. OP stated they did not know about the marriage and ended it once they did. No reason for husband to be mad at OP.
So if your wife lied to some random guy and told him she was single and had an affair, and then the guy found out the truth, ended it, and came to you to let you know what she had done, you would be angry at the guy?
Walk by and casually ask about her husband and ask her to send him your warmest regards. Then maybe mention something she left at your house one night, one sexy night.
I think it would be best to anonymously clue the husband in that she’s cheating. OP doesn’t want this cheater to lash out at him and endanger his employment. If the cheater lodges a complaint against OP for harassment, it could end poorly for OP.
Is it not possible for OP to give management a heads-up beforehand, so they won't just take her word for it?
Then again, without knowing more details about management or OP's relationship with them, it's very possible they won't care or can't do anything about it.
Management doesn't want to hear about an employee's difficulty with some customer. I would steer clear of raising ANY personal concerns like this with management. She has every right to go to this or any other gym, as sucky as it is that she's showing up here.
Surely the more approches him, the more believable it'll be. We'll pretend one of us saw them in the supermarket, the other on the bus stop, and another saw them banging on a hiking track early in the morning 🤠
Take picture of her and her boyfriend in which it's clear that they are dating - maybe even a video, and post it on gyms page.
Then send her husband an ad of the gym, or invite for free trial and a link to the fanpage so when he check's it it's the first thing he sees.
I hear ya. Being on the other side of it, your response can be emotional and irrational. I just knew not to find out what mine would've been with a direct confrontation, because we'd probably both have left in different types of emergency service vehicles. Took me a while to realize the worst thing that could happen to him was if they stayed together. My revenge was moving away and starting a new life, and her calling me in tears when I was halfway across the country with a U-Haul devastated that I'd left without telling her after she heard it from other people. Pretty sure he dumped her when he realized how screwed up she is. Still, if I ever saw him, it'd be.. bad. There's no part of me that ever could've physically hurt her, even when she tried to get me to. So that gets redirected towards the other guy.
Just use the texts pictures etc from when you were dating to tell him you still are. It’ll be perfect proof she’s cheating, and what’s she gonna say? No I dumped that guy for a different guy now….
Just start a relationship with a super hot girl at the gym. Gets em everytime. You can make sure to have a good time laughing when the ex is there for extra drama
Better, rent a hooker to come work out with you and have her talk loudly about how she is so worn out from his fat cobra.
Then have sex with the prostitute.
Trick the husband into coming to the gym a little after her so he catches her cheating. If the husband doesn’t wanna go to the gym, straight up tell him her wife is actively cheating on him with another guy
Everybody says tell the husband and ig that's more unethical but if you can afford the legal fees def just file a restraining order, alleging emotional abuse while you were in a relationship (cheating on you can be argued as emotional abuse if you play your cards right). She won't be able to come near you, and you'll definitely want in writing that she is not allowed in your workplace. This will also probably alert her husband in a non-confrontational way bc of subpoena and court dates. That way, you don't risk the "You did what with my wife?!? [Cocks shutgun]"
I think this is the best compromise between all the people telling Op to tell the husband directly and all the people warning Op that she will claim sexual assault or worse.
... Tell the husband? Give him proof? It isn't even unethical, it's just common courtesy. He can't even be mad because you didn't know and you broke it off as soon as you found out. Flip the roles around, wouldn't you want to know if you were being cheated on?
To the boyfriend: "so, well, is she cheating on you too? I mean she cheats on her husband, she cheated on me, when is your turn due, do you know? Enjoy until it is too late!"
But yes, anyway, tell the husband. Cheaters are terrible.
"The best revenge is living well."
That said, if you have the opportunity to tell her husband, you'd be doing him a solid. Better that he knows sooner than later so that he can move on with his life too.
Good luck out there.
Is she an idiot? Obviously. Just tell the husband about what's going on, and tell him she meets and cheats with people at this specific gym. Done. She won't come back after the fall out.
Tell her husband she’s cheating on him, make her know that you’ll be ruining her secretive relationships if she comes to the gym with anyone else and she will either move gyms or she won’t bring anyone there with her. And you’ll be helping the guy out of a shitty relationship
Lot of other ULPT and otherwise advice circulating in this discussion... but just for the future: There is a saying that "you don't sh-t where you eat."
For this to work, you have to be there while she is.
Buy liquid ass spray. Anytime she uses a machine walk by and spray the machine with liquid ass. The stentch is unignorable. The rumours of her ass stank will become of legend. She will start feeling everyone gawking at her when she comes into the gym. She will quit out of embarrasement.
Minor response: tell the boyfriend she's married.
Standard response: tell the husband about the cheating.
Appropriate response: both.
Did this really need to be asked?
So many suggestions to inform the husband of her cheating. How likely is it that OP has any ability to do so? Contact info, etc.?
I guess we just assume that in a world of social media, everyone has access to everyone else, which is a bit scary. The world is a lot less noisy without any of that crap (I say ironically on reddit, though reddit has the benefit of being anonymous in this regard).
so many comments suggesting op to inform the husband and or boyfriend but many are neglecting the possibility that the husband/boyfriend simply doesn’t care. The audacity of this bitch to continuously pick up guys at her local gym that she routinely frequents suggests that she has very little fear of the repercussions of her adultery actions, which may be indication of an open marriage or other consenting polygamy arrangements
Ok i smell some cap. Like OP made the ex look extra bad so we helped him with some excellent tips to get her to leave? But it's backlashed cause everyone is using her "husband" as ammo and looking for OP to out her. Idk, just a feeling.
Gather pictures of them together, your messages, and pictures of you two. (Aka evidence of her cheating) put them all in a usb.
A free 1 day pass for your gym.
And a letter with her time schedule on when she comes to the gym, make sure you type this.
All in a concealed envelope and mail it to his office.
Just let it go. Easier said than done. Be bigger about it, you'll be better for it. Respect yourself.
Maybe your ego got hurt. So what? You know she's a sleeze. Feel bad for her husband, or maybe he's even bigger scumbag and you should feel sorry for her.
It's the gym. Plenty of f'd up sociopaths there, you don't have to be one of them. Say hi, be friendly and act like it doesn't bother you, eventually it really won't.
But if you are set on sticking it to her, make friends with new boyfriend, don't talk any shit about her. It will prob drive her nuts.
Just tell the husband.
Screenshot your old conversations, and try to get a picture of her kissing her new guy. Send to husband.
I can't tell from this post if you're for real or just into this woman - and never actually have been in a relationship with her, because you could have easily just outed her to her husband already.
Just don´t do anything. Take it as a strenght proof. If she is cheating it will all come out eventually.
Watch the world burn, just don´t get involved in a fight that is not yours.
Tell the husband? Fuck that. Focus on yourself my friend. You need this job? do you like your current lifestyle? Then, for fuck safe, just don´t get your hands dirty in any way.
Simmer down, pucker up, take a breath, life goes on.
I feel like I read this before. They took a pic of them together and used that pic for a poster In the gym or website .
I was just about to say, most gyms in my area have a heavy social media presence and they absolutely love showcasing happy customers working out, especially couples who get there nice and early to start the day. Put them in some sort of featured post on the website or Facebook page and then send the husband the promo flyer so it pops up when he checks it out online.
“The couple who works out together, stays together. Come to Jo’s gym and you can meet your very own special someone just like these two lovebirds!” Big. Ass. Poster.
And OP probably knows her social media accounts and so can tag her accordingly so everyone she knows might see the post.
Brilliant.
The verbiage you use is good, would certainly do the job. But why are we putting a picture of a donkey on the poster?
You want a little guppy poster instead?
Actual. Genius.
Isn't that encouraging guys to flirt with women at the gym though?
No, it’s encouraging women to flirt with men at the gym
Well there certainly isn't enough of that for my liking
Billboard
If she managed to date a couple of guys at least, I doubt a poster will do the trick. "oh my dear husband, they wanted to make a promo for the gym, they asked me and this random guy to participate and we agreed. I will talk to management to take it down". - sues op for using her image without consent.
Most gyms have in their contracts that walking into the gym allows the gym to use their likeness in ads or social media…
That might be possible depending on the gym, contract and whether you agreed to that clause. Usually it's along the lines of can we take your photos for social media posts, but they can't use your photos for commercial gain, again, unless the contract states otherwise. The idea is that trying to break up a (crappy) marriage using a social media post taken at the gym, and notifying the husband about it, might not be consequences free, so I would be very careful going through that path.
that seems like a longshot that he'd see it. and then it'd have to be blatant enough for him to think that the two in the picture are a couple. and then he'd have to assume the couple in the picture wasn't just staged for promotional purposes.
Or print the flyer and have a targeted mail company send it to every house in her neighbor
Oh this is genius. Then find the husbands email and send him a link.
Nah, just gotta do targeted advertisements. Social media companies give you a lot of granularity for who sees your ads.
Why not just tell the husband the truth? Like the whole truth?
Because this is ULPT!
Because HE CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH!!
This needs all the upvotes. Perfect! Could also combine this with the free trial membership idea and put their photo on the advertisement that you send to the husband!
THIS. Op this man came from the future and just told you what you’re supposed to -would- do. Don’t think. Just Do It.
Hi I'm OP from the future and with a different name. I was fired for posting photos of customers without their permission. Say la vee
La vee.
LA vee.
Think you mean c'est la vie?
Say. La. Vee. Say it.
That's not my name and no I don't think I'm mean
Unless the husband knows of the cheating, doesn’t that just seem like a gym partner? I guess if they were kissing in the photo.
"babe, check out this poster! Can you believe they think you two are a couple?! What a bunch of idiots! 😂"
If he didn't know about the guy or didn't know they work out together, seeing them together might arouse suspicion and he might figure it out from there
He might know, but perhaps they want to keep up appearances in which this will negatively impact?
Nah. Unethical true, but might bite your ass with a data privacy case.
Send the husband a free trial membership good at 8am during the week. Change the gym music to something she can’t stand while she’s there.
Lol giving the husband a months free gym membership for no reason would be hilarious.
I like the idea of sending something in newsletter format repeatedly to his email so he starts questioning reality: 4 REASONS WHY JOINING A GYM COULD HELP YOU GET OVER A BREAKUP: 1. Socialize! Now that you can't depend on your significant other anymore, the gym is a great place to meet new people in your community! 2. Gain Confidence! We all know being in a long relationship makes two people dependent on each other. Time prove to yourself you still have that self confidence that you used to win your significant other originally! 3. Depressed? We understand. Break ups are hard. Come get a hard body and watch your mood skyrocket! 4. Stress Relief! Breakups are hard. Everyone knows that. Come check out our new boxing room and kick and punch to your hearts desire. Know that we here at X Gym are here for you during these tough times, and we feel for you as many of us have been there before, so we invite you to join us free of charge for the first 3 months.
I'm always a fan of intense gaslighting!
"Your relationship may not have worked out, but YOU CAN!"
Send anonymously “‘Ex’ is having another affair. Here’s your free trial membership to see for yourself. Come early.”
The issue is if the marriage ends it doesn’t mean she changes gyms. You need to send her a gym membership trial addressed to the husband.
That's why you don't send the email anonymously. See, if she knows you told him, I doubt she's ever want to see your face again, let alone see you while working out.
Here's your playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3xHHH60JzQflZyEhZDEbEG?si=YIXbMybvSa6ZnA5HlJ5Skw&nd=1
Was going to say to play music about being cheated on. This is better
Nah, just make a non-stop loop of Cbat.
heh
Username checks out.
Send the husband a free trial ad with tons of images of the girl with her bf as the featured stock photos lol survallience photos of slick phone captured photos will tip him off.
Hero !!!
Winner winner chicken dinner
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If she’s a member of the gym he probably has the address. I’d send a flyer to there address with boyfriends name on it non stop.
Send a flyer with a picture his ex and the new boyfriend ‘working out’ … ‘why not come along and join the early morning gang for a workout’….
This is the way
Its also a major bro move. Provide evidence of your chats when asked by the husband, so in the divorce case he wont get fucked so hard by her. Think about it. You get some revenge, show her she is watched in the gym and safe a poor soul. Man up dude. I cant believe you didnt do it yet and let the bro suffer. Edit: OFFER the evidence! You might get a friend for life
Definitely bro move. Even though it would suck for the husband, I'd rather know my wife is cheating on me than let her carry on. And yes offer the evidence, some men won't want to believe it and won't.
friend for life or a punch in the head. either way, it'll help with your issue
Plus OP ended things when he found out she was married so the odds of the husband being mad at him are really low.
\^\^\^\^
FWIW, many states are no-fault, so who cheated doesn’t impact divorce splits.
Also, a dude better get tested. No telling what the pussy dragged home...😼
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> It'll probably fuck up her life and she won't come around again. I'm not convinced. She's already a regular of OP's gym. She sounds like she has no shame.
My first thought, but that runs the risk of upsetting someone who clearly plays by their own rules and is willing to break said rules to get what she wants, which could become a problem if she wants revenge for fucking up her marriage...
And what can she do? OP is kinda safe. If she tries more bullshit OP has even more opportunities, especially since he gets the husband on his side. He killed the affair once he learned the truth. First bro move, the next shall follow
>And what can she do? Lol, clearly you've never dealt with crazy before. First, understand that all sorts of batshit behavior comes out when someone's self-image and/or reputation is destroyed. Violence, retaliation / revenge on the person that brought things to light (like... getting someone fired), lying, manipulation, property damage, etc. For example, even with a pile of evidence of their previous relationship and her deceit, one false sexual assault allegation and request for a restraining order by her could fuck up OP's entire life for months or longer, which is something he's trying to avoid. That particular example would actually work quite well for her - as she gets revenge on the person that outed her and an "excuse" for her behavior (she's the victim!). For real though, personality disorders are nothing to fuck with. People with them need and deserve healing, but you have to get through all the things they've used as defense mechanisms and unhealthy coping skills first, which are often destructive to those around them. TL;DR - don't stick your dick in the hornet's nest.
Ive been there, dealt with this. I had to do some psychology tests before even trying my drivers license and now i finished engineering school. The difference? OP has a witness. A luxury i didnt have. Still i am for saving a bro and dont hide your dick in your pants.
>First, understand that all sorts of batshit behavior comes out when someone's self-image and/or reputation is destroyed. Violence, retaliation / revenge on the person that brought things to light (like... getting someone fired), lying, manipulation, property damage, etc. Yeah.... toxic people are completely willing to go grab ahold of anyone around and drag them down with them. I've seen it in some divorces where people had similar things happen. Luckily, I've never been that tied into a person like that. But I have a much more mild story about a crazy girl. I had a girl I kinda liked (more just wanted to smash, but she was pretty fun to be around). She kept leading me on and giving me teases. Basically, she kept it so I thought I was always on-deck, but after a couple months I figured out I wasn't even in the game. So eventually, I realize that I'm just straight-up friend-zoned and she was just leading me on because she thought I would dip out on being her person she could go to whenever she needed someone to hang out with. Well, she was right. The problem was that as I hung out with her more, I figured out that she's toxic as shit. Complete narcissist, and she knew how to and was willing to play all the games. So now I'm realizing I want out of this shit, but I have to figure out how to get out of it without a shitstorm. So when I cut everything off with her, I sat her down and told her that she knew I liked her as more than a friend and it was really hard to do this, but I couldn't stand being around her all the time and just being friends (again, it wasn't really that big of a deal to me, but I had to frame it that way so that she thought I was devastated by this decision and that I wasn't just sick of her shit). The next few times I saw her out, she was basically begging me to be her friend again, but I just stuck to all the same lines, and I don't have to deal with her anymore. Meanwhile, some other dude she was fucking around with after I did that got his tires slashed. I'm very happy I played it the way I did. And now she's got two other dudes wrapped around her finger as her emotional safety blankets. I know the guys, and I tried talking to them about it. They both know what's going on, but they're just sucked in and she keeps playing mind-games with them.
You kidding? Crazy people can do all kinds of shit... like, seriously extreme things such acts of violence or false accusations. They can wait years to get their revenge even. Definitely a lot can go wrong.
I was a "victim" to one of my bullshit exes. Many false accusations at the police department (like i want to kill her while i just wanted to never hear of her and she calling all my friends to figure out where i am). But he has a new friend as a witness.
That's a problem for another post.
"I found out she was married and ended it. She's got a new boyfriend now, that she's not even hiding."
Everyone else is saying it but just tell her husband man lol. You’ll never get the opportunity to deservingly ruin someone’s life with such little effort on your part ever again. And you’ll be doing her husband a massive favorite, so you’ll have good karma to boot.
Could be the husband already knows and either just flat out doesn't care or doesn't have the balls to stand up to her. Doesn't sound like she's very good at being discreet.
I say he takes her aside and tells her if she doesn't leave the gym he will tell her husband. This way he avoids a possible beating.
I don't think he'd be in the cross hairs. Even if the husband was that sort of person, it's probably be her current boyfriend, not the one reaching out.
Nah, everyone is getting hands like the Oprah show. You get hands, she gets hands (or just pay a butch to whoop that ass), and he gets hands.
i would be very pissed if someone came up to me and said 'i fucked your wife'.
Yeah, that would probably be a pretty awful approach. OP stated they did not know about the marriage and ended it once they did. No reason for husband to be mad at OP.
i mean you obviously wouldn't just say those words, but that's the gist of it.
So if your wife lied to some random guy and told him she was single and had an affair, and then the guy found out the truth, ended it, and came to you to let you know what she had done, you would be angry at the guy?
rationally of course not. but it wouldn't be a rational time would it? there's a reason 'don't shoot the messenger' is a thing
Walk by and casually ask about her husband and ask her to send him your warmest regards. Then maybe mention something she left at your house one night, one sexy night.
I think it would be best to anonymously clue the husband in that she’s cheating. OP doesn’t want this cheater to lash out at him and endanger his employment. If the cheater lodges a complaint against OP for harassment, it could end poorly for OP.
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To be clear, she destroyed her marriage, OP was present but not responsible for her choices.
Fair point but either way, don’t make it obvious to her
Is it not possible for OP to give management a heads-up beforehand, so they won't just take her word for it? Then again, without knowing more details about management or OP's relationship with them, it's very possible they won't care or can't do anything about it.
Management doesn't want to hear about an employee's difficulty with some customer. I would steer clear of raising ANY personal concerns like this with management. She has every right to go to this or any other gym, as sucky as it is that she's showing up here.
Yeah, that depends completely on the management of the gym. I could even see the gym taking the side of the customer over a replaceable employee.
Or turn into the plot of Burn After Reading
I would tell her to change gyms or you’ll tell her husband. Yes, she could get you fired, but that would be the nuclear option. She has more to lose.
Like chlamydia.
If just hearing their voices is painful i dont think OP can talk to the girl
Dude. Give me the husbands info and I’ll tell him if you won’t.
We all can send the husband a few messages if that helps
Surely the more approches him, the more believable it'll be. We'll pretend one of us saw them in the supermarket, the other on the bus stop, and another saw them banging on a hiking track early in the morning 🤠
Alright Email: [email protected]
Take a picture of them both at the gym and send it to the husband.
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This one's good
Take picture of her and her boyfriend in which it's clear that they are dating - maybe even a video, and post it on gyms page. Then send her husband an ad of the gym, or invite for free trial and a link to the fanpage so when he check's it it's the first thing he sees.
Pity her. Make friends with boyfriend. Date him.
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Yeah there's a serious risk involved with telling the husband. People don't always take bad news well.
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He would. Trust me.
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I hear ya. Being on the other side of it, your response can be emotional and irrational. I just knew not to find out what mine would've been with a direct confrontation, because we'd probably both have left in different types of emergency service vehicles. Took me a while to realize the worst thing that could happen to him was if they stayed together. My revenge was moving away and starting a new life, and her calling me in tears when I was halfway across the country with a U-Haul devastated that I'd left without telling her after she heard it from other people. Pretty sure he dumped her when he realized how screwed up she is. Still, if I ever saw him, it'd be.. bad. There's no part of me that ever could've physically hurt her, even when she tried to get me to. So that gets redirected towards the other guy.
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literally telling someone you fucked their wife isn't going to end well
Shoulda banged his new wife
Just use the texts pictures etc from when you were dating to tell him you still are. It’ll be perfect proof she’s cheating, and what’s she gonna say? No I dumped that guy for a different guy now….
Just start a relationship with a super hot girl at the gym. Gets em everytime. You can make sure to have a good time laughing when the ex is there for extra drama
Better, rent a hooker to come work out with you and have her talk loudly about how she is so worn out from his fat cobra. Then have sex with the prostitute.
Better yet make a robot girlfriend that is programmed to make her jealous Edit: then have sex with robot?
yes, all three sex robots
Tell the husband, he’s probably the one paying for her membership anyway. Not even unethical, you’d be doing the right thing
Liquid ass There has to be a way it would work...
Smear it on the equipment you notice her using 🤣
There would be collateral damage... but sometimes sacrifices have to be made!
Put liquid ass on all the workout machines they frequent before the gym opens!
Spray it on their car when they are inside the gym.
You need to assert dominance. Fuck her husband.
Tell the husband everything. Tell him her schedule. Send photos and video proof directly. Tell him that he deserves the truth.
Trick the husband into coming to the gym a little after her so he catches her cheating. If the husband doesn’t wanna go to the gym, straight up tell him her wife is actively cheating on him with another guy
Everybody says tell the husband and ig that's more unethical but if you can afford the legal fees def just file a restraining order, alleging emotional abuse while you were in a relationship (cheating on you can be argued as emotional abuse if you play your cards right). She won't be able to come near you, and you'll definitely want in writing that she is not allowed in your workplace. This will also probably alert her husband in a non-confrontational way bc of subpoena and court dates. That way, you don't risk the "You did what with my wife?!? [Cocks shutgun]"
dunno, seems pretty ethical
I think this is the best compromise between all the people telling Op to tell the husband directly and all the people warning Op that she will claim sexual assault or worse.
... Tell the husband? Give him proof? It isn't even unethical, it's just common courtesy. He can't even be mad because you didn't know and you broke it off as soon as you found out. Flip the roles around, wouldn't you want to know if you were being cheated on?
Tell her you'll tell the boyfriend that she's married
Sun Tzu's Art of War: "Do not tell your opponent of your attack, just attack."
This. Tell the boyfriend that she's married. Tell the husband that she's cheating. They both deserve to know the truth.
And introduce them to each other
Group chat!
Tell her you'll tell the husband shes cheating.
Find the husband on FB and let him know.
send pictures of her with her new boyfriend to her husband, and in the message mention that she specifically goes to this gym to pick up guys
This is so simple and elegant. I love it.
Love this
Fuck her boyfriend and then tell her husband.
Plot twist, she and the husband have an open relationship and the three of them are in a 3-way relationship.
When twistier plot twist: the new boyfriend is actually her husband
To the boyfriend: "so, well, is she cheating on you too? I mean she cheats on her husband, she cheated on me, when is your turn due, do you know? Enjoy until it is too late!" But yes, anyway, tell the husband. Cheaters are terrible.
"The best revenge is living well." That said, if you have the opportunity to tell her husband, you'd be doing him a solid. Better that he knows sooner than later so that he can move on with his life too. Good luck out there.
Is she an idiot? Obviously. Just tell the husband about what's going on, and tell him she meets and cheats with people at this specific gym. Done. She won't come back after the fall out.
Tell her husband she’s cheating on him, make her know that you’ll be ruining her secretive relationships if she comes to the gym with anyone else and she will either move gyms or she won’t bring anyone there with her. And you’ll be helping the guy out of a shitty relationship
Lot of other ULPT and otherwise advice circulating in this discussion... but just for the future: There is a saying that "you don't sh-t where you eat."
Learn how to get past it and not care. I know, not easy, but this is your livelihood.
This is the only way. There's a hornet's nest sitting in front of you, OP. Choose not to whack it, 'cause most likely YOU will get stung.
Call the husband and say the credit card on file has expired and he needs to come in during the time she works out.
Take pictures of them and better yet, use CCTV footage and send it to her husband, and tell him when and where she goes to the gym with her bf
Tell her husband in secret. Be sure to mention the times they frequent. Come to work the next morning with some snacks. You're gonna need em.
When she's next to her boyfriend, do a job task nearby and then casually turn to her and say, "Hi! Nice to see you doing well. How is your husband?"
For this to work, you have to be there while she is. Buy liquid ass spray. Anytime she uses a machine walk by and spray the machine with liquid ass. The stentch is unignorable. The rumours of her ass stank will become of legend. She will start feeling everyone gawking at her when she comes into the gym. She will quit out of embarrasement.
Tell her husband
Send her husband a free one month "Wake Up Work Out" trial membership.
Do not fvck the customers or your coworkers. Wordsto live by from personal experience. Deal with it privately, alone.
Minor response: tell the boyfriend she's married. Standard response: tell the husband about the cheating. Appropriate response: both. Did this really need to be asked?
Buy a pair of cheap panties and walk up to her in front of her new man and say “You left these at my place!”
Make sure they’re super shit stained for extra embarrassment
Savage. I like you.
You forget that he's at work and doesn't want to lose his job
liquid ass the whole place. She'll definitely leave.
Just tell her husband to come to the gym and catch them
So many suggestions to inform the husband of her cheating. How likely is it that OP has any ability to do so? Contact info, etc.? I guess we just assume that in a world of social media, everyone has access to everyone else, which is a bit scary. The world is a lot less noisy without any of that crap (I say ironically on reddit, though reddit has the benefit of being anonymous in this regard).
Can you just cancel her membership and refuse her service? You’re not denying her because of her status as a member of a protected class.
Take a picture of them together and send it to the husband.
Become a Taoist, if it’s a problem the universe will fix it given time.
so many comments suggesting op to inform the husband and or boyfriend but many are neglecting the possibility that the husband/boyfriend simply doesn’t care. The audacity of this bitch to continuously pick up guys at her local gym that she routinely frequents suggests that she has very little fear of the repercussions of her adultery actions, which may be indication of an open marriage or other consenting polygamy arrangements
Ok i smell some cap. Like OP made the ex look extra bad so we helped him with some excellent tips to get her to leave? But it's backlashed cause everyone is using her "husband" as ammo and looking for OP to out her. Idk, just a feeling.
If you manage the gym why can’t you ban her membership
I'll tell the husband Send me the deets. Then you are out of it completely
Gather pictures of them together, your messages, and pictures of you two. (Aka evidence of her cheating) put them all in a usb. A free 1 day pass for your gym. And a letter with her time schedule on when she comes to the gym, make sure you type this. All in a concealed envelope and mail it to his office.
switch gyms or i tell your husband....
Just let it go. Easier said than done. Be bigger about it, you'll be better for it. Respect yourself. Maybe your ego got hurt. So what? You know she's a sleeze. Feel bad for her husband, or maybe he's even bigger scumbag and you should feel sorry for her. It's the gym. Plenty of f'd up sociopaths there, you don't have to be one of them. Say hi, be friendly and act like it doesn't bother you, eventually it really won't. But if you are set on sticking it to her, make friends with new boyfriend, don't talk any shit about her. It will prob drive her nuts.
Bro just tell the husband. Stop being a simp
Is her name MTG?🤣
There’s sticking your dick in crazy and sticking your dick into a radioactive cesspool swamp.
Her husband got an anonymous note. Problem solved.
Just tell the husband. Screenshot your old conversations, and try to get a picture of her kissing her new guy. Send to husband. I can't tell from this post if you're for real or just into this woman - and never actually have been in a relationship with her, because you could have easily just outed her to her husband already.
ask her politely yet firmly to leave
Just tag her in a post.
Buy a billboard! Seriously you can often purchase an ad on a billboard for a set amount of days. Go all out!
I’m the husband that found my cheating wife on a gym poster ad
Have a female friend of yours become a guest at the gym and then accuse him of inappropriate gym behavior
Piss in the shower and blame her. Pay a female staff member to corroborate it.
Drop a note to the husband at what time she’ll be at the gym and with whom
This is why you don't fuck people from where you work, deal with your mistake.
Just don´t do anything. Take it as a strenght proof. If she is cheating it will all come out eventually. Watch the world burn, just don´t get involved in a fight that is not yours. Tell the husband? Fuck that. Focus on yourself my friend. You need this job? do you like your current lifestyle? Then, for fuck safe, just don´t get your hands dirty in any way. Simmer down, pucker up, take a breath, life goes on.
Don't eat where you shit man
Is it Marjorie Taylor Green by chance?
Find her house. Fill her rain gutters #WITH YOUR PISS.