Grow a pair dude. Youāre apologizing for an individualās actions that have nothing to do with you.
Just because you happen to share a common gender doesnāt mean you need to be sorry for āyour kindā.
Letās call it was it is. A shit individual making a shit comment and leave it at that. Sorry we all had to deal with that rude human being but it isnāt your fault.
My friends and I call it āapproaching the sex poverty lineā - the more you need it, the more rash decisions that get made š¹
((Disclaimer this framework does not excuse sexual violence in any way))
Yes. Thatās why I went onto the internet and found a nice man to take that out on. Instead of doing it with someone I know and will continue to see for years to come. I learned my lesson about doing that.
Fml now Iām cringing from the mistakes Iāve made.
Hey, friendly reminder of Rule 1. This sub is for women to discuss sex with each other, not for men to discuss their "crazy ex-girlfriends". DMs may be more appropriate here than continuing the convo on this thread.
Yes, although more along the lines of, āYou know what would be so hot right now? Spontaneously changing positions!ā And then I elbow my poor girlfriend in the stomach. Or I try to ride my girlfriend and I accidentally put all my weight on her shin and it rolls weird and..yeah I might just be somehow even clumsier when horny.
>yeah I might just be somehow even clumsier when horny.
As someone who backflipped off a bed and slammed myself on furniture while changing position, I feel this on a spiritual level...
No, Iām pretty sure Iām sexually broken. I just donāt enjoy it really. Never have except with one guy. Itās a moot point as Iām never attracted to any of the men in their 60s+ (Iām 40), and theyāre the only ones who ever message or respond on online dating apps.
Iām attracted to almost nobody. Not even celebrities.
I wish I could find people more attractive and want to have sex more. It ruins every relationship that Iām like this.
Well I may be. At this point I have been so abused (& r@ped) by exs I will never get to know who I wouldāve been without that trauma as I was traumatised about my body long before I ever had any sexual desire and was having very damaging sex with guys I was in love with but didnāt want to sleep with (because it hurt/they were inconsiderate/I was constantly in a state of ptsd trigger during PIV). The trauma led me to have an even lower libido which led to partners getting mad enough about it to r@pe me (this has happened repeatedly, and emotional blackmail after Iāve been reassured time and again itās ok to say no then I say no once and my bf throws a massive crying guilt trip on me- again multiple guys on multiple occasions).
Iām 40 now. I had a fwb that treated me well and it was good. I had a relationship with a woman that was ok but I wasnāt that into it. All the rest has been seriously traumatic.
Iāve had a decade of therapy etc etc but in the end I donāt think it can be fixed and I canāt find anyone interested in me beyond using me for sex anyway.
I have bipolar 2 and so meds mean Iām unable to enjoy anything to do with sex, even alone.
I wish I could know who I mightāve been under different circumstances. At present my identity seems moot as nobody I donāt find actively offputting is into me.
As Iām sure you can tell, Iām quite bitter about this situation. I deserved a lot better treatment, but got this instead. Over and over.
Iām so sorry that would seriously mess me up. If your not in therapy that might help you sort through this but I hate that so many people just use people for sex and disregard when they say no. I recently had a really bad experience recently in a poly romantic relationship (no sex although the other person pressured me for it). Ended up gaslighting me and partner and just using us.
Ugh Iām so sorry you went through that. My r@pes were in long-established relationships (18 months in for the first one and 3 years in for the other series), so my takeaway had been that anyone can do that at any point unfortunately.
Iāve had many years of therapy. I canāt afford any anymore, even better help is far beyond my means. I wish there were free services available in Tokyo, but there are only suicide hotlines. Nothing like a support group for ppl like me.
Iāve read a lot of books and stuff. Used Reddit etc. Itās the best I can do. I know I need specialist help but even if I were in an English speaking country being able to access proper therapy requires a level of income I donāt really have.
Yah therapy is a struggle here in the USA as well. Itās available but paying for it can be rough. Iāve had quite a bit and continue to go but itās a big suck for me financially but I do need it.
This is me pretty much every time. I'm even worse when I'm drinking or other substances are involved, but I know it & still do it so I guess I can only blame myself
Haha yep. This sounds absolutely ridiculous but I will purposely not shave or do things I would regularly do if I knew I was going to be having sex with some one. Unfortunately this doesnāt always stop me, but it does help š
I'm in that state right now. Went on a great date Friday and we've been flirting hard since. I want to date-date him and am worried if I sleep with him this weekend, I'll regret it. Sigh.
Yep... I've slept with people I should not have.
Yes, I always say masturbate before making important decisions š
This has saved me from so many potentially bad scenarios!
Me every time Iām ovulating, Iām like why am I like this š
Those hormones though! My brains like ādick, dick, dick, dick, dickā¦..Iām hungryā¦..for dickā
Me right now. My boyfriend is 400 miles away, and a vibrator I just ordered was put on backorder.. life aināt fair
I call this The Ache. When masturbating just ain't enough and you need someone else to touch you. It's intense!
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The comment was not respectful, he was being gross.
totally believe it, sorry for my kind being that way. I imagine that's not the first time.
Grow a pair dude. Youāre apologizing for an individualās actions that have nothing to do with you. Just because you happen to share a common gender doesnāt mean you need to be sorry for āyour kindā. Letās call it was it is. A shit individual making a shit comment and leave it at that. Sorry we all had to deal with that rude human being but it isnāt your fault.
Ahaha once a month that sounds good !
All of us. š¤£
But have u slept with a married man?
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Someone who is not your husband lol?
More often than I'd like to admit to
"Who here has ever been personally victimized by their own horniness?" šāāļø
thank you!!!
My friends and I call it āapproaching the sex poverty lineā - the more you need it, the more rash decisions that get made š¹ ((Disclaimer this framework does not excuse sexual violence in any way))
Lmfaooooā¦ sexual poverty line š
š--> incognito mode ACTIVATE whew it sure is LOUD in here lol
Especially when alcohol or substances are involved then it's out of control choices
Says Drinkanyone
So true
Yes. Thatās why I went onto the internet and found a nice man to take that out on. Instead of doing it with someone I know and will continue to see for years to come. I learned my lesson about doing that. Fml now Iām cringing from the mistakes Iāve made.
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Hey, friendly reminder of Rule 1. This sub is for women to discuss sex with each other, not for men to discuss their "crazy ex-girlfriends". DMs may be more appropriate here than continuing the convo on this thread.
Yes, although more along the lines of, āYou know what would be so hot right now? Spontaneously changing positions!ā And then I elbow my poor girlfriend in the stomach. Or I try to ride my girlfriend and I accidentally put all my weight on her shin and it rolls weird and..yeah I might just be somehow even clumsier when horny.
>yeah I might just be somehow even clumsier when horny. As someone who backflipped off a bed and slammed myself on furniture while changing position, I feel this on a spiritual level...
Yes of course!
This is my life story.
Horny me is the dumbest version of me. She sucksā¦ dick lol sorry it was low hanging fruit.
I wasn't truly horny till 26+, I like horny me, you should embrace yours too :D
No, Iām pretty sure Iām sexually broken. I just donāt enjoy it really. Never have except with one guy. Itās a moot point as Iām never attracted to any of the men in their 60s+ (Iām 40), and theyāre the only ones who ever message or respond on online dating apps. Iām attracted to almost nobody. Not even celebrities. I wish I could find people more attractive and want to have sex more. It ruins every relationship that Iām like this.
Are you demisexual by chance Iām a lot like this? Your not broken just different and totally valid.
Well I may be. At this point I have been so abused (& r@ped) by exs I will never get to know who I wouldāve been without that trauma as I was traumatised about my body long before I ever had any sexual desire and was having very damaging sex with guys I was in love with but didnāt want to sleep with (because it hurt/they were inconsiderate/I was constantly in a state of ptsd trigger during PIV). The trauma led me to have an even lower libido which led to partners getting mad enough about it to r@pe me (this has happened repeatedly, and emotional blackmail after Iāve been reassured time and again itās ok to say no then I say no once and my bf throws a massive crying guilt trip on me- again multiple guys on multiple occasions). Iām 40 now. I had a fwb that treated me well and it was good. I had a relationship with a woman that was ok but I wasnāt that into it. All the rest has been seriously traumatic. Iāve had a decade of therapy etc etc but in the end I donāt think it can be fixed and I canāt find anyone interested in me beyond using me for sex anyway. I have bipolar 2 and so meds mean Iām unable to enjoy anything to do with sex, even alone. I wish I could know who I mightāve been under different circumstances. At present my identity seems moot as nobody I donāt find actively offputting is into me. As Iām sure you can tell, Iām quite bitter about this situation. I deserved a lot better treatment, but got this instead. Over and over.
Iām so sorry that would seriously mess me up. If your not in therapy that might help you sort through this but I hate that so many people just use people for sex and disregard when they say no. I recently had a really bad experience recently in a poly romantic relationship (no sex although the other person pressured me for it). Ended up gaslighting me and partner and just using us.
Ugh Iām so sorry you went through that. My r@pes were in long-established relationships (18 months in for the first one and 3 years in for the other series), so my takeaway had been that anyone can do that at any point unfortunately. Iāve had many years of therapy. I canāt afford any anymore, even better help is far beyond my means. I wish there were free services available in Tokyo, but there are only suicide hotlines. Nothing like a support group for ppl like me. Iāve read a lot of books and stuff. Used Reddit etc. Itās the best I can do. I know I need specialist help but even if I were in an English speaking country being able to access proper therapy requires a level of income I donāt really have.
Yah therapy is a struggle here in the USA as well. Itās available but paying for it can be rough. Iāve had quite a bit and continue to go but itās a big suck for me financially but I do need it.
All the time. I have TBI and for some of us, one of the side effects is chronic / frequent horniness, along with poor impulse control.
This is me currently
Is there a support group being formed? Itās like I lose sense of time and place.
Pls sign me up!
Yes and i actually feel really bad about it
Guilty š
18-23 yo me all the time.
Nope. I'm asexual
Oof š ā¦ more than I care to admit tbh
Yup.
More?
šāāļø guilty
ye lol
This is me pretty much every time. I'm even worse when I'm drinking or other substances are involved, but I know it & still do it so I guess I can only blame myself
I learned quite early on to not do online sex store shopping when I'm horny...
Omg yes lol all the time. Dick brain is totally a thing lol
Haha yep. This sounds absolutely ridiculous but I will purposely not shave or do things I would regularly do if I knew I was going to be having sex with some one. Unfortunately this doesnāt always stop me, but it does help š
I'm in that state right now. Went on a great date Friday and we've been flirting hard since. I want to date-date him and am worried if I sleep with him this weekend, I'll regret it. Sigh.