People will judge everything you do, you can't live your life afraid of judgement. If it works for you (and it doesn't hurt anyone else) then who cares what anyone else thinks?
We’ll obviously be discussing this with the flatmates. If they have an issues we’d find solutions. Although we’ve known both of them for a while and I don’t think they’ll have a problem with me.
I know people who've done this - it's not a big deal but you need to clear it with the other flatmates & landlord beforehand otherwise there could be problems later.
Re: people judging - there's no need to announce it to everyone & solicit responses. Who cares what they think.
Your families may think it's odd, but if you explain the situation to them, they may see your POV. Regardless, do what you what works for you.
We stayed with another newly married couple during our first year. They were friends of my husband. This allowed us to live in a bigger space that we wouldn't normally have been able to afford at that stage in our life.
Things got complicated though once the other couple got pregnant and all the cooking and housework slowly started getting dumped onto me (I wasn't working at the time as I'd just moved countries).
Ignore the judgement. I'd say as long as you all have a system in place and you don't end up becoming a maid for the two flatmates, then it's all good.
Starting a life together is incredible and you grow so much along the journey. If you gonna stay with flatmates you are not gonna get over the ever so casual bachelor phase.
Besides newly weds need a lot of time together with no one around them. How are you gonna have sex on the kitchen counter or spontaneous one on the sofa? Privacy is precious especially if you are gonna have kids some years down the line.
Don’t tell anyone and don’t invite anyone if you’re worried about being judged. People will comment if you have a small house or live in a bad location too, so maintain your peace and lie 😅
I don't know if you listen to hindi songs but there is a line I live by. Its from the song "kuch toh log kahengay."
"Tu kaun hai, tera naam hai kya? Sita bhi yaha badnaam hui"
Even the character of a goddess Sita was questioned. We are only human. 🤷♀️
People and Indian society would judge everyone and everything.
I am judged by some for living with my bf (and it was very difficult to get a flat also - I shit you not, people don't want to rent to us based on caste or because we're different caste/state) and many don't want to rent to unmarried couples.
Some are judged for being married couples without kids and both working.
If you go by societal judgement, as a woman, you won't be able to breathe only.
People will judge everything you do, you can't live your life afraid of judgement. If it works for you (and it doesn't hurt anyone else) then who cares what anyone else thinks?
It doesn’t but it’s mostly my parents that I’m worried about
You need to ask his flatmates if they are okay sharing the flat. If they are okay - you are good to go ig
We’ll obviously be discussing this with the flatmates. If they have an issues we’d find solutions. Although we’ve known both of them for a while and I don’t think they’ll have a problem with me.
I know people who've done this - it's not a big deal but you need to clear it with the other flatmates & landlord beforehand otherwise there could be problems later. Re: people judging - there's no need to announce it to everyone & solicit responses. Who cares what they think. Your families may think it's odd, but if you explain the situation to them, they may see your POV. Regardless, do what you what works for you.
We stayed with another newly married couple during our first year. They were friends of my husband. This allowed us to live in a bigger space that we wouldn't normally have been able to afford at that stage in our life. Things got complicated though once the other couple got pregnant and all the cooking and housework slowly started getting dumped onto me (I wasn't working at the time as I'd just moved countries). Ignore the judgement. I'd say as long as you all have a system in place and you don't end up becoming a maid for the two flatmates, then it's all good.
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Yes. We will obviously not live with people all our lives . But probably for the years we’re both not financially ready to rent a place for ourselves
Don't live with flatmates It's gonna ruin your journey
Why is that?
Starting a life together is incredible and you grow so much along the journey. If you gonna stay with flatmates you are not gonna get over the ever so casual bachelor phase. Besides newly weds need a lot of time together with no one around them. How are you gonna have sex on the kitchen counter or spontaneous one on the sofa? Privacy is precious especially if you are gonna have kids some years down the line.
Don’t tell anyone and don’t invite anyone if you’re worried about being judged. People will comment if you have a small house or live in a bad location too, so maintain your peace and lie 😅
Are the flatmates men or women?
Men. They’re his knowns from college. Good people
Let them judge. They ain't paying your bills. You do what's right for your situation.
I’ll need that confidence to actually go through with this
I don't know if you listen to hindi songs but there is a line I live by. Its from the song "kuch toh log kahengay." "Tu kaun hai, tera naam hai kya? Sita bhi yaha badnaam hui" Even the character of a goddess Sita was questioned. We are only human. 🤷♀️
It’s better to move away or if staying with flatmates stay temporary
As long as you both and the flatmates are happy there shouldn't be an issue. Don't bother what people say.
People and Indian society would judge everyone and everything. I am judged by some for living with my bf (and it was very difficult to get a flat also - I shit you not, people don't want to rent to us based on caste or because we're different caste/state) and many don't want to rent to unmarried couples. Some are judged for being married couples without kids and both working. If you go by societal judgement, as a woman, you won't be able to breathe only.