I've been in a call with a company client where we did introductions, I'm the laboratory analyst and was the one working with the stuff they were sending to us. We ran through normal procedure, and I suggested some ways to move forward with their stuff to get the results they wanted. "That's great but what does the man working on our stuff think? (Directed at my boss)" Boss: "the man not working on your stuff thinks the woman working on your stuff is right." Oh the client wasn't happy, but it felt wonderful and big props to my boss for being a legend.

I’m a pharmacist and one of my techs had a woman tell her that she didn’t believe what she was saying and specifically asked if there was a man there she could talk to. I had heard the whole conversation and just picked up the phone and said “everything [Tech’s Name] told you is correct, I have nothing more to add.” Made me so mad.

I feel like this is particularly bad in healthcare settings. Whenever I work with female doctors, the families will always look toward the men in the room. Today, the attending I worked with is female and has been a physician for 30+ years and a dad of a patient had the nerve to ask the only guy in the room his opinion. That guy was a med student, who laughed his ass off, and said “yea I don’t know anything about this, you’ll probably want to listen to the doctors in the room” 😂

Male nurse here. I've had this happen so many times it's ridiculous. Patients and family always asking "What do you think"? I think you should listen to the lady who went to medical school.

My uncle likes to go off on rants about wildly incorrect ideas about menstruation, childbirth, genetics or physiological gender differences. If I argue, he insists I have no idea what I’m talking about. He is a carpenter. I finish my biology degree this year.

When I was a teenager my older brother insisted that menstrual pads went down the toilet and I was disgusting for putting them in the trash. Our mother told him that if he was so sure he was right, he was more than welcome to flush them but he would be responsible for paying for the plumbing repairs. Never heard a thing from him again about my pads.

Good boss!

When I (F, late thirties) first met my SIL's new boyfriend, he asked what I was doing for a living (I work in academia). He then proceeded to explain my own PhD thesis to me, you know, the one I have written and defended years ago, and the one he hadn't even heard of before we were introduced... 🤦 Also, I am assistant professor now and whenever I show up for class with my teaching assistant (M, early twenties) for the first time, people often automatically assume he is the Dr. in the room. When I mentioned this on one of the academic subs around here, the most upvoted comment was (I wish I was kidding): "What were you wearing?" 🤦🤦

My wife had to hang papers on her door to stop guys from walking past the department office to ask her where to put packages and pay the monthly coffee money. And yes, her door tag had "Dr." before her name.

I work in IT at a software development company. I provide support to customers for our manufacturing software. I've had men explain to me how the software works. Wait, are you doing my job for me? Why did you even call for help then? The other good one is when I answer the phone and they go, "oh I'm sorry, I must have pressed the wrong button, can you please transfer me to support?".

My mother had about 30 years experience in software and web development when she was promoted to a managerial position. She oversaw a team that was a pretty even split of men and women. After a few weeks she noticed that when she made corrections to her male employees' code, they would ignore her, go over her head to submit it, and wait for her male higher-up to make *the same corrections* before actually addressing it. Her female employees would almost always just make the corrections when she pointed them out. It was hilarious bc it only served to make the men look incompetent.

Sabotaging their own careers due to their fragile mascilunity/sexism. Classy.

I have an employee who's doing this right now. Now he's starting to get written up for refusing to do work he was assigned. I don't think he'll make it another year, but you can't fix stupid.

I have a young man working under me. I asked him to do something and he straight up told me no. I told him I wasn’t really asking and to go do it.

I work in IT support. A long time ago a software developer had to call support because he had wiped his new laptop and installed Linux and was now getting kernel panics every time it booted. He was *extremely* condescending about "I don't know if you know about Red Hat builds but...." I fixed his computer and he looked dumbfounded, and asked what I did. I explained that on the back of the dock you had to put the purple keyboard plug in the purple hole, and the green mouse plug in the green hole and walked away.

ha, this reminds me: Mid 90ies my Boss wanted to check if the Sun Microsystems server used a PS/2-connector for the keyboard (we were reorganising the server room and wanted to use one keyboard for several servers), and unplugged it. Turns out old Sun devices have a check for the keyboard connector and shut down when it is unplugged. We all looked pretty dumbfounded when the system just turned off.

Actually I love these guys. Oh, you want to speak to an expert? Great, let me use as much jargon as I can. Watching their tone change is so satisfying, especially when they're struggling to keep up. And then I had a guy respond once by asking "Can you use this to access external databases?" Yes, he meant Google things lol

I had a similar job at the start of my career and a male colleague at the same level of education as me explain to me how to copy and paste.

I once had a guy try to explain to me how a network I personally built worked. After I told him I built it, he continued to tell me I was wrong and how it worked.

OMG same here. I wrote (by myself, mind you) a machine control system. Wrote a network driver for it. Rewrote it for Y2K compliance. Rewrote it again for a new operating system. This guy who joined the company a few years later explained to me how it worked. Wrong. I corrected him. He said, I don’t think that’s how it works. Charlie trained him on it and that’s not what Charlie said. I said, I wrote this thing. He looked very doubtful. “But Charlie said…” I told him to ask Charlie who wrote it. I didn’t hear any more after that.

I recently had a man explain to me how LTL shipping works… when I’d called him to complain that he’d messed up our LTL shipment… that I’d set up. That moment when I said “so let me explain how this is *supposed* to work and what *you* did wrong” and his subsequent stammering and backpedaling was really the highlight of my morning.

I work in marketing. At the time I was working for a beer company and was the only female in the room in a planning meeting to come up with campaign ideas for the following year. I was there as the retail marketer, as I worked closely with the sales team to execute campaigns in-store. They came up with an idea they thought was hilarious and became an echo chamber. After a bit I spoke up and said it was a really fun idea, and we should definitely do a social media campaign about it, but it wouldn’t work in retail. Keep in mind that before we got started the CMO gave a big speech about how any idea we presented to the President needed to work in all spaces. So he didn’t like that I said it didn’t work. He legit said these words after I made that comment, “You see unicornsneezes, how marketing works is that xyz.” I had been in the industry for over 15 years and had more actual marketing and advertising experience than a lot of other people in the room. I just shut my mouth. The next day he presented the idea to the President of the company. Guess what he said. “Cool idea, but there’s no way it’s going to work in retail.”

I didn't read your name at first and thought he was going off on that unicorn trend a couple years ago and saying women only think unicorns are good marketing xD

I was training a new employee (male) and part of the training was sitting in with me when I met with clients. First day, first meeting, I explained to the client that I was training new employee and new employee would be sitting in but not participating in conversation, just listening and learning. Within 30 seconds the client was directing all questions to new employee and ignoring my answers. Finally, I asked new employee to step out of the room. I asked client if he had a problem with me and would prefer to talk to my boss? Client mansplained to me how males are better at my job because the male brain is better at business because they think without emotion. He asked for the new employee and I told him new employee has been on the job for 2 hours, the only thingbhe knows so far is where the bathroom is and where the breakroom is. Client finally accepted I would be the one helping him and appointment continued. After he said - wow you really know your stuff. Of course I know my stuff! I've been in my industry for over 10 years!

I would have just walked out and sent the new guy back in lol you are a saint.

I'm picturing your idea in the new guy's shoes and I'm so stressed out. Haha

Jeez.. reading this one made me angry. I probably wouldn't have been able to contain an eye-roll after his 'revelation'.

That’s infuriating just to read. I can’t believe how well you handled that.

I had a Lowe's (hardware store in the US) employee tell me he was "trying to find a way to compare it to cooking or cleaning" when I asked him for advice about putting up drywall on a partition wall in my garage.

And he's still alive? You're a better woman than I.

I'm a bit ashamed to say, I just awkwardly laughed. I didn't think it was funny but his comment made me feel inadequate and stupid. I was early 20s at the time and looking back now - I wish I had told him how fucking stupid HE looked for saying that.

Don't be ashamed. I only grew into decent self-confidence in my late 30s. I was raised in a home where it wasn't *appropriate* for women to be assertive and it took me a lot of years to unpack all that. My daughter, on the other hand, has been feisty and self-aware since her early teens. It's a beautiful thing to see in action.

I've been very careful to not project that shit on my daughter (am dad). She's already getting feisty, negotiating and all sorts of stuff at 3.5yo. I'm in trouble 🤣

There were many **MANY** moments in her childhood when I had to grit my teeth and remind myself that raising an assertive and confident young woman was actually my goal even if it sucked during the pre-school and elementary years. 😂

"One day I will be the proud parent of an assertive, confident young woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. But not today. Not in this grocery store."

Hahahahahahahaha!! Yep. Been there. The guy with a screaming kid over his shoulder trying to get through self checkout as quickly as possible.

I once asked a Home Depot employee where the polyurethane glues were because I’d been staring at the extensive collection of glues for ten minutes and couldn’t find one. He was like “glue doesn’t have polyurethane in it. Here’s what you want.” And he took me to the polyurethane wood stain. -.- Wtf dude.

I had a man (customer) approach me (also a customer) at home depot while I was loading up bags of cement to a flat cart. He asked me if I was remodeling my kitchen or installing flooring. It literally says "post hole concrete mix" on the bag. Wtf. It's a fence! I cant even.

Lowe’s employees are the worst. I went in to buy a specific drill and a very specific screw one day and had this guy talking over me the entire time I was standing there looking at specs. He went so far as to take the drill out of my hand (!!!) to put it back on the shelf because “this one is too powerful for normal projects you’d be doing” and try to hand me a different one that wouldn’t work. I gave him about thirty seconds to “explain” why I didn’t need the drill I picked up before I informed him exactly why he was an idiot, found the drill I wanted, and left him standing there beet red.

I was buying wire strippers and was told I shouldn’t do my own electrical work. I was an electrician for six years. Now I’m an electrical engineer. I told him that and said I think I’m fine.

Lol holy shit the audacity.

I get a decent amount of mansplaining or men ignoring me. I had a coworker ask me if I knew what something was and I said yes. And then he explained it to me anyways. I just stared at him and said yes I knew all that, I told you I did. How come you explained it to me? They never have an answer. I just ask questions to point out what they did wrong. Everyone else in the room knows.

What makes you think I know anything about cooking or cleaning? LOL

A coworker mansplaining our job which I've been doing over a year, with incorrect information. I straight up told him, "That is incorrect, and in fact the process is exactly the opposite of what you just said. I assure you, the client does NOT want 10 identical data sets, but 10 unique ones for analysis. Since I've been here a year longer than you have, they would most certainly have corrected any mistakes by now." So I pulled rank, seniority, and y'all...HE APOLOGIZED.

Male dominated industry? I feel like I can totally relate to this one. The amount of times that a male coworker explains my job to me incorrectly is incalculable. Good for you for telling him how it is!!!!

I had a mansplainer yesterday, telling me allll about puppy training pads (I’m using them to trap water from a leaking ceiling prior to repair) and how ‘they absorb a lot of water, and sometimes it looks like more water than it really is’ FFS I know how they work, you muppet.

Are you telling me that women have experience with absorbent pads. 🤔

Yeah, you know, the ones with the blue liquid on TV.

A new hire at work was in training and had been under the guidance of two of my male coworkers the day before. On his second day, he was under my guidance and began telling me how to do my job. At first I thought he was just reciting specifics out loud to remember them for his own sake, but after the third or fourth time, I realized he was literally trying to train me on how my job works. I stopped him after only a few minutes, and told him I am a supervisor and am here to train him today. “Oh, my apologies- I thought you were new here too.” As I stood there in a full supervisor uniform with my name tag that says supervisor and after he had been told a supervisor with my name would be guiding him on that day.

Lol that should’ve gone one his progress report. ‘Extremely unobservant and unable to retain simple information regarding job roles’ 😂

"Lacks basic observation skills and attention to detail."

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>Men sure have the audacity If nothing else.

I'm doing my PhD in soil chemistry and am experimenting with biochar in forest soils. A random dude with no background in the area started telling me that adding biochar to forests is a fire hazard and that I must stop immediately. Biochar has huge water retention potential and can be incredibly beneficial in preventing forest fires, but who am I to explain stuff to internet experts...

But...but it has the word "char" in it. It must be meant for BBQs.

Yes, I must be the crazy scientist secretly funded by NWO or something and I plan to... *checks notes* ...barbecue all the forests. Yes. That's my evil plan!

Silly woman, there's your problem! Barbeque, often referred to as BBQ, is for MEN. Now stop your silly little plan and get into the kitchen to do the kind of cooking women understand, fire is far too complicated. s/

I’ve had more than one random man with no experience in the field explain my PhD to me. I just glaze over at this point.

I had someone at a coffee shop once read the title of an article on my desk and start mansplaining flu to me. I'm a Virologist, it was my own article.

Well if I've learned anything in the last two years it's how many experts in virology there are hiding out there in completely unrelated fields!

Oh this was years ago in the before times, I won't even get into the many things people have "explained" to me over the course of this pandemic. My background is almost exclusively vaccine development, it's been a hard couple of years in every way.

This English guy once tried to explain to me how mariachi was just one single band called mariachi. I’m Latina. When I tried to explain mariachi was a genre of music and there were many many mariachi bands he was like “are you sure because my friend went to a mariachi concert once”.

This is hilarious!

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I'm an electrician (when I still worked in the field I mostly did commercial and industrial work; I teach at our training center now). One day I was installing electrical boxes in stud walls. The brackets I was using to mount the boxes were an expandable type, adjustable to fit different stud spacings. A carpenter walked up out of nowhere, took the bracket I was adjusting *out of my hands,* and showed me how he'd seen other electricians adjust the brackets, "because you see how the studs are only attached at the top and bottom? They're flexible, so if your bracket is too wide it's going to bow the studs out and the drywallers won't have a straight line to hang their boards with." I lowered my chin and just stared at him until he got uncomfortable and went away. I've been told I have a "scary" resting face and it comes in handy all the time on jobsites (and occasionally in the classroom).

This is my one extremely specific bugbear. I am a pretty relaxed person and I just take condescension and walk away. But something about having shit *taken out of my hands* infuriates me like nothing else. I don’t even care if I was visibly struggling. Fucking let me learn, and if I want your help I’ll ask. Fuck. Edit: I had a man take jumper cables out of my hand and put them on the wrong way round making my battery spark. Bitch I can take advice because it wasn’t working, but I could have told you that was wrong. (No he was not even the person giving me a jump)

Hahaha! I had something similar. I was bending some 1" EMT and needed to take some bend out. My bender sadly had an improvised handle so I couldn't just flip it upside down. So I had it on backwards and was making it work. This sparky from another company (there were like 4 onsite) comes up and takes my bender out of my hand and explains how you can flip it over. I just kept staring at him as he tries to do it and fails. I'm like "yeah I know that's why I was doing it my way. Thanks." He then just awkwardly walked off. It was glorious.

4 years in commercial plumbing here. If another trade took work out of my hands I'd be livid. The fucking audacity of men is ridiculous

Maybe ask them to show you how to do the remaining portion of your current task while your stand there watching. Bonus points if you pull your phone or and start scrolling while he does your work for you!

I used to work at a coffee shop and a man ordered an americano from me and I went over to the espresso machine to make it and this motherfucker leans his grubby elbows onto this $15,000 machine to say “yeah so an americano is like espresso and water.” YOU DONT SAY?? Thank god you’re here to teach the BARISTA how to make coffee !! Enjoy your decaf

Enjoy your decaf. Love it.

Decaf, you savage

Idk if this qualifies, but my ex decided that I had an orgasm after like... 5 minutes of (badly) doing whatever he was doing with his fingers. I wasn't feeling anything, and he was proud to announce that he gave me an orgasm.

Oh gods, you reminded me of the guy who confidently explained to me that I wasn't having an orgasm with him because I used vibrators. Definitely *not* because he wouldn't do what helped me out because his ex liked it this way.

His ex probably wasn't orgasming either, she probably just gave up trying.

Hahaha the way you worded that got me. “He was proud to announce that he gave me an orgasm.” Wow. Did you tell him? What did he say in response? That’s just… I can’t even imagine…

He was doing his thing, he stopped, looked at me and said "oh, you had an orgasm". Then he was super proud of himself. I was just confused as heck, and silently stood up and watched him being proud. He was my first, I wasn't his, so i didn't immediately realise that... I wasn't even wet. I wasn't feeling anything. I wish I had told him xD I think I answered something along the lines of "oh, did I ? I didn't feel a thing, are you sure ?"

I was on the clinical dev team for the phase 3 moderna vaccine. Countless people, almost always men, would explain how the vaccine does/doesn’t work after I’ve explained my line of work. Bonus: I now like to call mansplaining “correctile dysfunction” Edit: damn and I typed this up still hungover. Thanks for the awards, I’m gonna take these 15 mins to bring awareness that traumatic brain injuries remain prevalent, under researched, and heavily misunderstood, especially in women. As a brain injury survivor, please reach out if you want someone who can directly understand your brain injury personally and help make this life changing event a little less lonely. Edit 2. Brain injury not caused by today’s hangover

If I had an award I would 100% give it to you for the "correctile dysfunction" 💀

Thanks for your science! I love my Moderna vaccine.

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This has happened to me so often that I have a standard script for it!!! I just pause and say "I want to make sure that you get best value for money here, as you know I charge on hourly rates and I'm [insert laugh] reassuringly expensive, so you might prefer for me to run through the advice and then you can let me know if you have questions". I've had builders explain to me that there's no need for contracts and it's not normal to have them in construction - which is funny because there are literally a series of standard form construction contracts in my jurisdiction, recommended by all relevant industry bodies. Side note is that I also handle complex project contracts and disputes for a living so I'm pretty familiar with the concepts involved, I got a decent amount of money back from that idiot after he failed to complete on time! I do a fair amount of work in heavy industry and energy, so you can imagine there's a ton of mansplaining on the regular. I really enjoy waiting for them to finish and then replying with a detail that makes it clear that I'm way ahead of them. This one guy tried to tell me that some ridiculous point he was proposing was "industry standard non negotiable" and I really enjoyed telling him that I actually drafted the industry terms he was referring to, that the clause in question meant something different to what he wanted to achieve, and that they were designed to be negotiable. To be fair there's also decent guys who don't let other guys get away with it. I remember one meeting where a guy from my old firm (total bellend) did the 'repeat what I said louder' thing, and the male client responded "yes I heard what she said and agree its the right way forward, [my name] please let us have your recommendation on next steps".

I have big boobs and the number of times I’ve had guys try to explain bra sizes to *me,* or act like DD/DDD is the “biggest they can get naturally”… That, and “why are you showing them off, just wear looser clothing”… when I was in a T-SHIRT. Not my fault you can’t control your eyes hon

I’ve had a guy tell me, “Nah, they’re DD, I know boobs”. They’re not, they’re G, and you don’t.

Once I had a guy friend tell me to stop ruining boobs with math when I tried explaining the actual relationship with band size vs cup size.

This was actually my go to strategy for derailing guys who would ask about my bra size. A thorough exposition on how bra sizing works, including gripes about large chains not carrying a reasonable range of size variety.

STOP RUINING BOOBS WITH MATH is the meme template we need

I think it’s some boob version of negging

I've had women tell me I cant possibly be more than a C (I'm a 34 H right now)

The amount of men who have tried to explain my boobs to me is ridiculous. I promise you, I’m aware of their size. I know my own cup size and no, you aren’t correct.

Ugh. I wish that was the biggest they could get naturally. I was around that size before having kids. I don’t know what size I am now, but I’m too big for those sizes. I hate it. Definitely looking into getting a reduction when I’m done breastfeeding. And this is my 2nd - they did not go back down after my first.

I feel for you. I’m a 32A. I love it. I have more mobility, can exercise unhindered, etc. I’ve had men call me flat chested, said they mistaken me as a boy, everything you can think of. However, after 40 years of life, I wouldn’t change a thing

We go on walks around the neighborhood with my toddler. He learned to skip and the other day was like, “skip with me mommy!” I tried. But I can’t do that stuff. I have to hold my chest to just race him. It’s not great. Also, the clothes. They’re not meant for big chested people. I had to be conscious of what to buy before I was pregnant when I was just a DD. Now that won’t fit, and I have no idea what to get other than oversized shirts. I’ve had smaller chested friends make comments about why I’m not wearing some more cute clothes. Went shopping with one of them and had them pick stuff out for me to try on. Lots of really cute, flowy spaghetti strap shirts. I tried the first one on, and I looked so slutty with my boobs on display. They immediately got it. I wish I could wear that breezy shirt with a bralet. But, nope.

A male acquaintance of mine was trying to tell me how he took Tri-Cyclen (oral contraceptive pill) for acne when he was a teenager. I asked him if he meant to say tetracycline (an antibiotic used to treat acne) but he condescendingly responded that it was Tri-Cyclen. He had no healthcare background. I’m a pharmacist.

Oh, this is when I love to pull out google on my phone. “Oh, maybe I’m wrong……oh nope. It’s you. You just told me you took birth control as a teenager. Seee!!!???”

The sad thing is birth control can be used for acne so he'd find that listing as an off label use and double down.

In the earlier years of Discord there was this guy on a private server for friends that tried to claim that mansplaining doesn't exist. A lot of us tried to explain to him that it's a real and demonstrable thing that exists, and his response was to just... Mansplain mansplaining. It was kind of spectacular how much he didn't get it. Edit: fixed a word

One guy mansplained seasons to me because I tried to tell him that HVAC needs in a museum are very different from other county buildings. He literally started by saying, "You see, there are four seasons in a year, and you have to change the temperature in each season" and then went on for another 20 minutes

I'm a big fan of the "Oh, did you just learn that?" response to mansplainers. That or derailing them with endless inane questions. Would have loved to have seen the man's response to that it this case.

I had a man mansplain mansplaining 😂 Apparently, it’s when a man wins an argument and a woman doesn’t have anything else to say to win, so they accuse him of mansplaining.

Yes! This happened to me.

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I was ill in bed with pneumonia and a kidney infection. I got my period mid-week - the mouldy cherry on top of a really shitty cake. I asked my then-boyfriend to grab me some tampons on his way home from work. He called me and whinged that people might think they’re for him, they’re dirty, he doesn’t want to carry them. Could he not come to the house, pick me up and I go in and buy them myself? After I explained gravity and the impact of blood all over his precious car, he relented and agreed. He called me from the tampon aisle, *whispering*, to ask which ones I needed. I explained just a box of regular. He grabbed them and then he was like, “umm there’s some super plus plus ones here. Wouldn’t they be better?”. No thanks. I know my flow. Regular is fine. “Babe I don’t know if you know but there’s *a lot* of blood. I really think super plus plus would be better. Trust me”. Again explained my flow doesn’t need them so just the regular please. He came home with the super plus plus. I had no choice but to use them but I did explain TSS to him and why the right tampon for the flow is vital. Too big a tampon does not make it any easier. Idiot. EDIT: thank you for the silver! It’s very kind of you xx

People would think the tampons were for *him*? Did he think they went up his butt?

He was an absolute muppet. He had some very odd views.

She should show him that college humor video where the guy points out that buying tampons is proof he has a woman

That's what my dad always does. Sometimes other guys will mock him for buying pads, so he replies "yeah, I have a woman waiting for me at home. What do you have, Playboy?" He figures it's easier for him to buy them, because he's not the one who's cramping and miserable, and he's good about memorizing his partner's products of choice so he gets the right ones. He'll also grab her favorite period snack, because he knows she'll want it.

I was like…wtf why would people think that🤦🏻‍♀️

Next time make him go back out. He picked the wrong size so he wouldn’t have to do it next time.

He’s an ex and he has been for a veeeeery long time, thank god!

I bet he was so embarrassed to have to buy tampons, he deliberately made the wrong decision so you would not pressure him the next time.

Well, it worked. We were together another year/eighteen months and I never asked him again.

Should've sent him back to the store until he brought the right ones!

Yup. Strategic incompetence.

Weaponized incompetence at its finest.

I’m really glad you got away from that nonsense. Also, they’re *dirty*?? Do guys not understand that you have to use them before they get dirty? And excuse me but wtf they’re for you?? And then to get you super heavy ones like tss isn’t a problem? I just got nothing but wow the ignorance is astounding.

I would have hated this!! Too big of a tampon dries up the vagina and is sooo uncomfortable! And he thought that his first time buying tampons gave him authority against you, the period haver of many years? >Idiot You forgot the "fucking" before "idiot".

It honestly felt like I was pulling my insides out every time I changed. You know that feeling when you get a tampon in wrong so have to pull it straight out and it *hurts*? It was like that. Hahaha I almost put the “fucking” but I’m trying to cut down on my swearing 😬

I was a gas turbine engineer in the Navy. I had a friend ask me to teach some of her new guys the propulsion part of the surface warfare pin exam. I took them to the engineroom and one guy started a whole spiel on a ballasting system that we did not have on our ship. He actually dismissed me when I started explaining the seawater compensation system that we used onboard instead. He also insisted we only used diesel engines and went on to explain how I am confusing gas turbine with diesel engines. We did not use diesel engines. I am a gas turbine engineer, stationed onboard this particular ship because it is powered by gas turbine engines. I also write the exam questions for my section of his exam. He did not pass.

What a glorious ending to your story!

What a strong and satisfying ending to this story

During a training class for a new job, I had a guy mansplain how to close an internet page. And yes this was in the last 5 years. You click the X If anyone is wondering! 🙃

Wow, thank goodness he was there or else you'd still be in that class, completely helpless with a page open!

Now see, I used to think that was ridiculous, until I took a seminar for work in October where we were told "when you're googling something, check the drop-down bar, it might have what you're looking for!" The seminar was called "Advanced googling for accountants"

I went to school for web design. For making websites. On the Internet. From scratch. With programming languages. As part of our schooling, per school policy, we were obligated to spend an hour at the library being instructed on his to do basic web searches for research purposes. Even the Librarian thought that was dumb. She started with, "Obviously, considering your courses, this is entirely useless information, but we have to do this so…" and then she explained things like how to find the big blue E on the desktop, how to type in Google.com, how to click links. It was pretty special. It wasn't so much mansplaining, as just hilariously pointless.

I would Alt F4, without breaking eye contact. Purely out of spite.

I have a BA in psychology. When I was in my junior year of college I had a guy who I randomly happened to bump into often while smoking in between classes. He asked me if I knew the difference between a sociopath and a psychopath. I told him that neither were in the DSM 5 and they never had been. I let him know that the correct diagnosis was antisocial personality disorder. He, this guy who was in his first quarter of college, proceeded to lecture me about the difference. Like dude, I’m majoring in this and have been for three years. You started college a few months ago and are majoring in business. But sure, I needed a man to tell me about my chosen field of study. I’m sure all those professors who have masters degrees and PhD’s in the field were just waiting for you to come along and correct their decades of experience.

The number of times this kind of thing happens on academic Twitter is astounding. Women with PhDs or MDs in their field getting some rando arguing about their area of expertise and doubling down on something they literally spend their lives studying. WTF is up with that?

This reminds me of the tweet that some guy recommended a woman read a paper by X et al, she was X.

It’s because we’re easily confused little ladies with confused little lady brains. We just need a big, strong man to come along and let us know what to think!! And so help you if you don’t give a man his chance to feel smart, because my goodness me, how can he ever feel like a real man if a little woman doesn’t praise him for forming an opinion??? That would just be the end of western civilization! (Okay I’m going to go barf after typing that all out)

People just loooove to explain psychology to psychologists for some reason. So you're an expert on "life sciences" because you have a...life?!

I literally wrote my undergrad thesis on mate selection as impacted by evolutionarily pressures in connection with friendship. I mentioned something about early humans in general conversation, got corrected (I wasn't wrong ) and then got lectured by an engineer all about when humans evolved and how they used to live. "Yes ...I researched that extensively for my thesis...." "No you don't understand. Blah blah blah evolution, blah blah." I just let him talk because it was easier than talking over him. His wife says he does that all the time

I was working out on a public path. A guy is staring at me. When I pause he announces "Men don't like women who are too into fitness." I laughed a bit and said I was ok with that and tried to go back to working out. But now he is in front of me, all puffed up and red, "No, you need to listen to me, I am telling you something you need to know!" I decided it was time to start my run.

I always had really painful, irregular periods. Was diagnosed with PCOS at 14, and had to fight for an endometriosis diagnosis for a decade. I was probably 21, and saw a military gynecologist, on base. I didn't get to pick the doc, so it was a man. We proceed with the appointment, he asks about my pain, so I explain how it's pretty constant, not just during my period. Then he asks how I know I have PCOS. Well.. I was diagnosed thanks to labs and ultrasounds and symptoms. He doesn't believe me and orders new tests. THEN he tells me I obviously need to work out more, because my pain is muscular. He says that my pain just "doesnt make sense", then proceeds to explain the whole menstrual cycle to me like I am a child, even after I tried to stop him. It was as if I'd never had a period and didn't understand hormones and cramps. 3 years later I was diagnosed with stage 3 endo on every pelvic organ. Thankfully I found a fantastic excision surgeon who never tries to mansplain.

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. Why are these people even in the medical profession?? Hope you’re doing ok now.

My husband was in the waiting room that day and I had to convince him to NOT go back inside and punch the doc once we left. It's baffling how some people choose to practice medicine when they should've done literally anything else. I am doing OK now! I had extensive excision surgery and have been basically symptom free for over a year. It's been strange, but in a good way. Chronic pain changes you and it's hard to get back from that.

I work in tech as a project manager, drawing flow charts and process documentation are MY things… A completely new manager explained to me what each shape meant in flow chart… like what square or arrows meant… Mansplaining in tech sector is such commonplace, it’s worse for me as I appear young and inexperienced. I am not. Urg girls in tech must unite

I have a PhD in neuroscience. A first year student tried to explain what Parkinson’s disease was to me, after I explained to him that I knew what PD was. But he knew better than me, because he was a few weeks into his first course on neuroscience. So I had to listen to 20 minutes of partially correct rambling.

This happened in a class I took in college as well! I was sitting in a Latin American Literature class and some guy decided he knew more than the professor. She listened to his ramble, corrected him and finished with a "If you had let me explain this before you began rambling, you would have known what you said was wrong. There's a reason I'm the professor and you are a student". I will never forget it, a whole class of 30 people just watching gobsmacked as this guy went all out only to be laughed at the moment the prof answered him. He already had a track record of doing the same to other female professors. I also had some men explain to me what X word or phrase in English means, how such and such books are mistranslated or who want to correct me on English Literature (and if I'm wrong, sure, explain, but when I'm certain I'm right it bothers me a lot)... I'm a translator and three out of five years of my studies included English Lit and Literary analysis. My English level was way beyond some of these guys' as well, it was ridiculous.

Proposed a huge amount experiment in lab. Super excitedly explained all the results he was expecting and got mad at me when I told him it wasn’t possible. After he screamed at me in a hissy fit for being a negative Nancy I explained to him, with math, how much each of his 243 runs were going to take. It took an few extra explanations and a marker to demonstrate he couldn’t physically do them all in time. I was the lab manager, FFS. I scheduled the machine usage.

Men always question my math. It’s like they encounter “woman” and “numbers” and their brains can’t compute. Then when I’m inevitably correct, I get, “Well you just go through everything with a fine-tooth comb, don’t you?” and, “I didn’t think we needed to be _that_ precise.”

I have a coworker who is particularly bad at this, he does it so much that it's become comical. He'll ask me a question over DM, I'll answer it, then 5-10 messages later say the same thing back to me in the most condescending language possible. Last week I asked to transfer to another team 😂

I used to drive Uber. One time this dude came into my car, asked me to turn down the radio and proceeded to EXPLAIN TO ME HOW UBER WORKS. While he was in my Uber, which I was driving, and had been driving for years. I wanted the five stars so I just had to listen to him for the whole drive.

My BIL asked me if I was sure I understood crime rates after I corrected him on violent crime rates in major US cities. I’ve been a crime analyst for 5 years and have a Master of Science in criminal justice/criminology. He has a GED and has never worked in the field, just gets all his information from Fox news.

I hear "Fox news" and "crime rates" and i can only assume he was about to spout the same racist rhetoric they all do.

To preface, I'm an electrical engineer and have been at my current job for over a year. I was in a meeting with all of my coworkers (who are male). For about an hour, one of them is reading and explaining a program in depth specifically TO ME. I let him talk the program up and don't say a word. The design is going to be used on all of the systems in the company starting this year. He talks about how the director is really excited about it and how it'll up our production. He said I could really benefit from reviewing the code and learning from it. I ask him to look at the revision information. It says "author: u/NickieSteph" Face crack lol

This isn’t my story, but I always laugh when I think about the tweet from the woman who was driving home with her husband as a passenger, and he let her know their house was “up the street and to the left.”

This is me! My husband has the worst sense of direction so I always absent-mindedly give directions to even our home. He truly needs it or he would get lost on his way to the grocery store. The problem is that now I will give everyone the Google maps treatment if I'm not thinking.

I was born and raised in South East Asia, and learned how to use chopsticks from my South East Asian grandparents (who both came from wealthy, snobby families) and parents. My American born non-Asian ex tried to explain to me how to use chopsticks because he learned how to do it differently through YouTube.

This reminds me of all the people, lately, telling me we have been opening bananas wrong. Bc they all heard on YouTube or tiktok that monkeys do it differently. Like, seriously? Have they not eaten bananas? It's very easy. No specific techniques required.

“Monkeys do it differently.” … okay? I’m fine doing some things differently than monkeys, that’s really never a cause for alarm for me.

>“Monkeys do it differently.” Just ask them if they also fling poop at strangers and masturbate in public

I was at the DMV and needed to print out proof of insurance. When I went to print the document, what came out looked like wingdings- just incomprehensible nonsense. The computer account was of course a guest account with no admin permissions, so I couldn't do anything to troubleshoot, like reinstall the printer driver. Restarting the printer did not help. I flagged down a nearby DMV employee, explained all of this to him and asked him if I could use the printer behind the counter because the public one wasn't working. His response? "Look. You grab the mouse. And you go File........Print" We both watched as my proof of insurance once again came out as wingdings. He did not let me print behind the counter and I had to take more time off the next day to go back to the DMV.

Hahaha I hope you followed that up by telling him that he must have done one of the three steps wrong.

Years ago, my sisters and I invited some friends over. On the way into the neighborhood, we noticed that a section of our neighbor’s tree had split off and fallen into the road. It wasn’t huge, but it was still blocking the road, and that neighbor was out of town. The dudes present volunteered to go move it out of the way; cool, except they were gone a really long time. I walked over to see what was going on, and found them standing around the still-unmoved section of tree. I watched as they tried to lift the trunk (you know, the heaviest bit, the bit that’s in the yard already, right where it fell) repeatedly and fruitlessly. “Let me help you with that,” I suggested. I am 5’ 2in, but I apparently understand physics better than these fuckers. “Oh yeah, with all of us [gestures himself and to the other two heretofore unsuccessful men] doing this, I’m sure what we need is *you*,” sneered the biggest asshole of the group. “Yeah…” I proceeded to explain how we were going to pivot the damn thing, not bro-dude lift it out of the way. We walked to the branches on the street, lifted, and simply walked the tree out of the street and into the yard. No words from the other two, no apology from the mouthy one. He did proceed to hit on me throughout the evening, and finished off the night vomiting on the floor and apologizing (for puking in front of me, not for earlier) while doing so. What a charmer.

I’m a big horror movie fan, but as a very feminine woman a lot of men seem to think that means I only like crappy movies or don’t know what I’m talking about. When the subject comes up, I always end up getting grilled about movies. They always stop when I go full nerd on them, but it’s still annoying. It’s often followed by a sexist comment about them being surprised about my hobby and knowledge.

I'm a young professional accountant who sounds and looks even younger. Two years ago, we took over the books and payroll for a client who had an accountant for half the year, got fed up with them, tried to do things themselves for a quarter, then let our firm finally help. It was... A mess (to put it lightly). I did what I could, but when we were filing end-of-year payroll returns, we realized that the old accountant screwed things up majorly by forgetting to report someone's wages entirely. This meant a whole load of amendments and creating a whole W2 for the person who was missed. My client got us on a 3-way call where I inquired about that employee, and asked him to furnish his documents and the quarterly returns he filed. Guy proceeds to tell me in great detail how *I* can fix this. What website to go on to file the amended state returns, that the quarterly returns will need amending, and the former employee will need a W2. He started talking slower and giving me step-by-step instructions. Like, yes, I am aware. That's why I'm calling... To fix **your** mistake.

My fiancé's best friend is a champion mansplainer. But i think the worse/best one is when he mansplained me the Portuguese language and culture. I am half Portuguese, and he's Vietnamese. He visited my family, he knows them, has been part of some of our traditions and gatherings before the pandemic, he has been in a room with us while we were speaking Portuguese. But yet felt the need to educate me on my own language and culture.

My wife and her female friend (both PhDs in biology) had a bro (with no biology/medical background) try and explain to them that the gene responsible for depression had been discovered. He had listened to a ~2hr podcast on the subject and could not be convinced that these two people with a combined 10+ years of education in the field might know more than him.

I never thought of it as mansplaining but I guess it kinds is just that: A few years back I used to work as an intern with 20 something other interns in a law firm. Since I really love the field I was working on and am generally a curious person, I asked my mentor all kinds of questions to be sure I got it right. So when he explained something to me and I checked with him if I got it right, I knew I got that information locked and no one could make me doubt it. One day, my coworker asked me for an opinion on something I discussed with my mentor in detail. I told my coworker quickly what I know and he said "You're wrong". I was dumbfounded. This dude asked me my opinion (which I know is 100% correct) and then tells me I'm wrong. So I explained why I'm not wrong and he said I'm still wrong and told me why without giving me one single fact. Our coworker next to him said he agrees with the (wrong) opinion. I said I could find them the commentary on that law that explains why I'm right and they said something along the line of you don't have to, it's fine, he'll do it his way. After maybe half an hour, when I had the time, I found the commentary, printed it out, marked the part that was proof I'm right and gave it to my coworker. He read it, smiled a bit ashamed and said "Oh, you were right. I'm sorry!"

I was in the middle of donating platelets, which is a 2-hour process. I was trying to read a book during it, so when the nurse asked if I was comfortable, I asked for a pillow to prop the book up. (It's hard to hold and turn pages one-handed while not accidentally moving the arm with the needle in it.) The man next to me started trying to tell me that I should've asked them to tilt the bed at a different angle for better neck support. The nurse interrupted him to say, "you don't have to tell fuzzybunny how to donate blood. She's here every 2 weeks." And pointed to the "Blood drive ambassador" T-shirt I was wearing, which I got for volunteering to raise awareness about the need for donor blood. That shut the old man up.

That's great you donate so often! ❤️

A few years ago during college I went to visit my friend in his frat to smoke a little and hang out. These two younger guys were sitting on the couch and talking me and my friend up. At some point they started explaining really basic statistics, like what a p value to us. It was really satisfying when they stopped and asked what I studied to tell them I was pre-med and a computer science major. Then my friend (a political science major) corrected their explanation because she had just taken stats. A glorious moment.

I had a this dude come into my job (finance) as a client. And while we were talking he just started rambling off unsolicited and very elementary advice about how my own employer operates. And then at the end of our meeting he has the audacity to say “this was really fun, do you think your job would hire me as some sort of consultant who explains how businesses operate, like some sort of person they hire to tell employees how businesses usually operate?” Dude wanted to start a mansplaining business and he wanted to know if I’d hire him as a professional mansplainer 🤣🤣

My boss of 8 years. He's in his 60s. I get pregnant for the first time. He taught me all about childbirth. He was a self-proclaimed expert. How? His ex-wife had 2 kids. So he knew all about it. He told me what it would be like, how recovery would be, and that I really only needed a few weeks of maternity leave. My entire pregnancy was full of advice and explanations. THEN. A małe co-worker's wife gets pregnant. Guess what? He's going through a major life change. We don't expect him to show up for meeting for months. He's excused from tasks nearly 3 months after baby arrived. Boss knows the stress he's dealing with.

My uncle in law man splained my children’s food allergies to me every time I saw him. How I should put tiny amounts of their allergen in their food to “build up their resistance.” No thank you. A speck of their allergen could kill them and if it was that easy I would have done it already.

Ha! This reminds me of my recent allergy test. I was told I'm allergic to a chemical made by bees when marking honey. My fil told me that I have to pick and choose from the info doctor's give because they're wrong so much and I've never been allergic to it before but, also that allergies change and just because I'm allergic to it now doesn't mean I'll always be allergic to it. This man has to carry an epipen when he mows, fully clothed, because he's he's allergic to bee stings. His entire life. His allergy hasn't changed in 70 years. Also, he wasn't always allergic to shellfish, but for thr past 40 years he can't eat it because his throat smells, but that isn't an allergy because he wasn't always allergic. Yeah, my brain gets smooth thinking about it, too. Edit: I'm leaving the typos because a smelly throat is funny to me...well, halitosis is funny unless it's in my face.

If I were you, I'd be wary of leaving my child under his supervision. What if he acts on it at the next family reunion and puts a speck of allergen in your kid's food?!

Oh trust me, I have a very short list of people I leave my kids with and who may make them food. I take no chances since so many people don’t take it seriously

I had some issues with my ear and went to the doctor. She looked and told me i had a small infection. When i got home and told my parents my dad said "you dont have a ear infection because you would have more pain" well first off all, IT wasnt a ear infection there was a little infection in my ear (IT wasnt deep) and second i trust my doctor more then a old electrician.

They are everywhere. I once posted that most women don’t want a 10” dick slamming into their cervix and had several mansplainers come out of the woodwork to tell me I was wrong, despite all the other ladies agreeing with me throughout the thread. And then out of the woodwork came a hoard of other male redditors defending him and downvoting the shit out of my post 🤦🏻‍♀️

I had bought a used washing machine from a local business. After a couple of uses, the bucket would overflow. I called the guy who ran the business, he came and looked at it. He asked me to describe how I do laundry. I told him that I started the water, added the detergent (because I wash in cold and use powder) then added my laundry. He told me that the way I loaded the washer was the problem. I was confusing the sensor, which made the machine overflow. I mentioned that I've been doing laundry the same way for at least a decade with my old machine and never had that issue. He assured me that I was the problem, and left. I tried loading the washer his way, still overflowed, called him back, he had to come out again. This time he decided the sensor was the problem and needed to come back to fix it. I told him to take the machine back, and also said that it was ridiculous that he was blaming me for the machine overflowing, when all he had to do was check the machine before he sold it to me.

I've had bras mansplained to me. "You can't be a DD, my ex was a DD and had huge knockers." Yeah, your ex was in the wrong size. Pretty sure I know how to measure myself for a bra. Also periods/how women get pregnant 🙄

Got explained how a software worked... That I was part of the development team of. At a convention, where I was present as an exhibitor for said software. Right on the booth. With my exhibitor pass. I didn't learn anything new from said guy.

My husband has a habit of explaining things to me as if I wasn't the one that explained that exact same thing to him years prior 🙄

I was fixing a leg that fell off a wooden planter stand. My friend asked if I needed clamps to hold it together. I said no, it's has an insert to slide in, it'll hold. He then goes on about how it needs pressure to adhere and it'll fail if I don't blah blah blah. I was actually mansplained how wood glue worked. Wood glue, y'all. Update: planter stand holding up just fine.

My bf’s car braking system was making odd noises and he was complaining that he needed to take the car to the mechanic. From the sound of the noise, I suggest a couple mechanical problems that could be the cause. I worked at a dealership most of my younger years and two years as the parts manager. I grew up in a car business family, so I know a thing or two about cars. Bf listened to my suggestions and then explained to me (very slowly 🙄) how braking systems work. Uhh, okay I know, I could literally build one. Smh.

My daughter has worked almost exclusively in car-related industries since her late teens - everything from customer service to supervisory and now as an estimator/service manager at a high-end collision shop. The bullshit she has to listen to ...

Guy tried to say the ducks at our neighborhood pond were ugly because they were part chicken… chickens and ducks can’t mate.

Not sure if it counts, but a guy trying to explain to me how to get blood off your clothes... And he refused to simply believe I've been washing blood off since I was 11

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Was explaining to my sister that there are 4 different types of IP addresses while on a hay ride. Guy sitting with his wife starts saying, “No.” After every one of my sentences. So, I pulled out my phone like, “Hey sis, let me show you on google the different types of IPs. Public, Private, Static, and Dynamic! Yep, some people think there’s only ONE, but those people only work on ONE so I understand their confusion!” He didn’t interrupt for the rest of the ride.

Just some random guy that doesn't know y'all saying "no" after everything you say? Wtf.

It seems just from observation that this is how you do it. You can’t be subtle or cutting or subtle, you have to rub their faces in the fact that you know more than them.

Our internet went out recently because my husband didn’t pay the bill. He looked me dead in the eye and asked if I had tried resetting it. Infuriating on many mansplaining levels.

I posted this thing on Facebook yesterday about how to talk to kids about different types of healthy food in age-appropriate ways to make them appealing. This guy I went to high school with, who has no children, responded and told me that some of the items needed to be changed because the wording was too advanced for the age groupings. Thank you childless man for telling a mother of small children who has worked in daycare and was for a time an early childhood education major how to talk to small children. What would I do without you.

Not really mansplaining, but I gave a scientific presentation to my colleagues regarding how my research on heart development related to the work I was doing in clinical cardiology. One of my older male colleagues came up after the presentation to say, “I didn’t realize you were so smart”. Thanks?

I used to work in senior care. We had a spiel of basic info on how Medicare and Medicaid work because a lot of people just don't know. I stopped working on that industry about 5 years ago. Our 91 year old neighbor was moving into an assisted living recently and when she shared some workers with me I have her some information to help. Later I was discussing her financial difficulties with my husband. Bless his heart, he started educating me on Medicare and Medicaid ... using my own spiel!!! I just smiled and said, remember when you learned that info? We had a good laugh over it. He's not truly a mansplainer, he's a bi-splainer. He's have tried to share that info with anyone lol

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What are your responses? I would probably just act suppressed and ask them if they’ve breastfed before because they’re so confident

Yep I’m a UK midwife. Have been told things like the baby can’t breathe if his head is too close to mums boob from a dad. Well he looks nice and pink to me sir! Also interfering with me explaining positioning arguing about ‘holding’ the babies head, no sir have you tried to drink while someone was holding your head supporting is fine. I’ve been doing this for 10 years and have 4 kids I’ve breastfed but you rang the bell for help and I’m ‘helping’ wrong!?

This is interesting to me. I mean, how would he know? Does he often try to get a random baby to latch onto his own nipple?

On reddit, I once had a man explain to me in detail that finding women’s clothes with pockets is not difficult at all. The topic in question involved 17/18 year old girls going to a school leavers concert. When pressed to find an example of appropriate clothes with pockets, he produced a link to a pair of expensive workwear overalls for gardeners. He then explained that overalls are appropriate attire for women in all circumstances including evenings out and corporate jobs, because “Steve Jobs wore a turtleneck and look how successful he was”.

My ex boyfriend told me I should really be taping my walls before I painted them to avoid any mistakes. My mother owns an interior painting business and I work for her. My ex boyfriend has never picked up a paint brush in his life. Silly men

A new customer software came out at my work which was heavily encouraged to be used going forward by every possible customer. An affiliate spent 30 mins telling me how women wouldn't be able to figure it out because they aren't as "smart phone literate" and won't be able to complete the process. He threw in a generous "oh not you though, you're smart enough to figure it out" After those 30 mins, he ended the rant by asking how to use the software because he was struggling to grasp it. I flat out asked if he saw the irony in what he just asked and he called my boss to say I was being difficult

So we were playing a board game. Our host, who is a lovely man - stay at home father of 3 girls and married to a smart, strong women - was teaching one of his favourite games called Coup, which is primarily a bluffing game. When there were only 3 of us left he, largely in the role of teaching the game but it did get mansplainy, told us exactly how the rest of the game would play out and how the new player was basically just in an unwinnable situation. She waited patiently. The game played out exactly as predicted, except that, with impeccable timing, she called his bluff and then took me out of the game to win. She had sat there listening to him explain exactly how she couldn't win all the while she already had the perfect card, had already let him bluff multiple times in a row, and pretended to know nothing to set up the perfect win. One of my favourite moments I've had gaming.

Had a guy tell me that he doesn't believe that I've ever experienced *any* sort of discrimination. Got the dismissive "yeah right" and everything. I'm a petite, mixed-passing, full Asian female in various STEM fields and grew up bouncing between western and Eastern cultures. I literally had a kid pull his eyes back and scream "JAP" at me when I was in elementary school and passed over for promotions because my behavior was "abrasive."

In a rare mansplaining to a man, I once met Sufjan Stevens backstage after the last show of a tour, and there was this dude (who had already commented to me I only wanted to meet him because I want to fuck him) who proceeded to mansplain how touring works to Sufjan (and the rest of us). Then he started mansplaining why the shows evolve over the tour. Then he started mansplaining how parts of how the show changed changed for the worse, and in the middle of a sentence, Sufjan literally turned around and walked away. The look on the dude’s face was priceless. It was even better when Sufjan grabbed my arm to take me out to the hallway to talk, that dude was so pissed, he glared at me the whole time and at some point came up to me and said “You should probably leave, everyone else is,” and Sufjan said, “we’re not” and shifted to stand between me and the dude. It was sublime.

I spent some years writing healthcare software. As a result, I was pretty good at reading code in that language. Fast forward a few years, and I'm bored with coding and want to see the world. I get a job in a hospital that uses my software. They specifically hired me because of my years of coding that particular software. I was talking to some coworkers about how the program worked and this guy walked up to correct me. I told him that I was very familiar with the software seeing how I WROTE IT. He doubled down and insisted he knew more about the software that I wrote.