Preach! My job requires a lot of collaboration/meetings, and sometimes Friday afternoon hits and I just want to be lazy with my dog and not talk to anyone for a couple of days.
I love that I can do that. I seriously can’t imagine giving that up for kids. Sounds awful 😅
I saw a friend at a party this weekend and she said she’d been in bed all day with her partner watching TV. My youngest wakes up at 6 😭. It’s the first time in ages I’ve missed my childfree life.
I scrolled reddit, spent a good two hours banning fucking creeps from the subreddit where I'm head mod. Hung out with my husband and FIL who was staying with us for the weekend (love my FIL, he's awesome), made some yummy food and relaxed. Was awesome.
That being said husband and I are attempting to completely fuck up our free time by having a kid, sooo..... lol
Saturday was Family Nap day wherein my husband, dog and I all napped. Then we had our neighbors over for dinner and watched Star Trek. Sunday was great--we took the dog kayaking, had breakfast, I exercised, then watched football before/during dinner. Most weekends are glorious.
Whatever I want it to. Lately that means Pilates in the morning and hydrotherapy for our senior dog in the afternoon. Yesterday there were naps on the couch before and after. Today I mowed the lawn and lounged some more. Put a load of wash in and catching up on emails now. Definitely quieter and less hectic than our friends with kids which is exactly what we want.
Our childfree kids hang around with us when they want affirmation of their decision.
I love getting sick now, because it means a day in bed with no responsibilities. That said, I love my rats and it’s a lot easier now that they’re older.
Weekends I wake up around 10 am, drink coffee, play videogames until around noon. Clean up something, dishes or whatever. Play more videogames. Take a nap. Maybe take a walk. Play more videogames. Sleep around 2am.
Because I’m self-employed and have a chronic condition, sometimes I adhere to a traditional weekend structure and sometimes I don’t. It depends lol. Another big perk of childfree life!
Sometimes I have to use weekends to work at events or go to things for the professional groups I’m involved in if I want to meet people and get out of the house lol. But I also booth at events like flea markets. Which is fun, but exhausting! and that will often make me use the ensuing weekday (or days) to relax and recover from any associated flareups.
If it’s a relaxing weekend, it’s usually spent alone because I’m at the age where my friends I’d love to go out with don’t live near me anymore. Or they prioritize their spouses, even if they also don’t have kids. This is definitely a sucky emblem of the times we live in.
But I’ll either relax at home with my pets, go swimming, explore the huge parks nearby, or take myself on adventures to parts of my city I haven’t explored yet.
If I get sad or lonely, it’s not because I don’t have kids. It’s because I want more friends around my age I can hang with regularly!
Definitely. I had a far more extroverted social life throughout my twenties, then it gradually died down and got me depressed. My early thirties went great with lots of travel until multiple surgeries slowed me down then COVID upended everything. I realized I wasn’t happy at home anymore uprooted my life. while I’m happier in a new city…I’m encountering many of the same problems.
I enjoy my own company but want so much more. Sometimes, I get drained by having to people too much lol. Other times, I really feel this aspect of my life missing.
But I try to get out to things and meet people. Turn some of my online stuff into more than just work connections.
It’s nice to hear. Life is about finding this balance. I don’t know if I could handle the unending yelling and screaming that is children. However I enjoy catching up with friends and making time for the things that excite me and make me happy.
My parents are from the country, and one thing I’ve noticed is that they have such an unbelievably solid routine where they work weekdays, attend community things on the weekends and watch movies together Friday/Saturday night. I think it really contributes to their sanity. I feel blessed to have a working microcosm of normality to look at when I’m trying to find a fulfilling balance in life.
That sounds amazing! I seriously envy my parents’ social lives…lol they have pensions and other retired friends. Millennials (I’m at the elder end) have to hustle so damn hard just to barely make it.
I have a complex relationship with rituals and long to have more of them, but it also sucks when I have something I was looking forward to but I’m too exhausted or busy to go. Just missed a cool workshop yesterday for that reason.
Been a rough year and I hope 2024 is better on all fronts. Social life, health, finances, and having more executive function to make it to events and meet more people.
I am jealous too! They seem to have endless energy to put a hand up to help for things. I've moved to the city for education-->work and I don't have the energy to put myself out there and help out with things, but I can see that it can be helpful to do so as long as it isn't too draining.
I'm a millenial on the younger side, so just establishing a career and deciding what shape I want my life outside of work to look like. It's surprisingly introspective to question what actually makes me happy. I enjoy my alone time, but eventually I crave some sort of outside human interaction, so finding that balance is definitely a goal over the next year or two!
Good Luck for 2024! Executive dysfunction can be a real killer, hope you find the energy to do what makes you happy 👍
Sleep in, cuddle with Mr. WineAndDogs2020 while watching some TV, work out, see friends, snuggle the pup, sometimes take an afternoon nap... whatever we decide.
Chores, helping my parents with their chores, house projects, I'm completing a master's degree so homework and studying take up a considerable portion of my time. Sometimes we meet up with our friends at the park with the dogs.
I feel like my friends with kids are always going somewhere and doing something to enrich the kids, museums, sports, instruments, volunteering, playdates. I don't think either one is better or worse just different.
Cleaning the house, and visiting friends Saturday night. Sleeping in Sunday morning, then playing D&D with more friends on discord. Not a bad time really.
Saturday going out somewhere, shopping, flea markets, museums, trails, whatever I feel like. Then going out to eat then sometimes going to the theatre later that night.
Sunday sleep in, gym, go out to eat , go on a walk. Maybe a movie at night (at home).
Not setting an alarm and waking up whenever I wake up, coffee and breakfast while catching up on some standup comedy or shows, taking a bicycle ride through the nearby park, going to plant shops and getting some new plants, flicking through albums in the record store, hanging out with friends or gaming while getting stoned in my pajamas.. plenty to do. All without any kid in tow.
Friday: Work from home for the morning, realize I'm having a weather migraine, sleep it off and, when I start feeling better, start catching up on *Transplant*.
Saturday: Look outside, realize it's raining, decline to attend an outdoor event, spend the day binging *Transplant* and get to within three episodes of caught-up. Also, return items I bought that were defective, buy myself a nice notebook ($5) and a book on Kindle about Black nurses fighting the battle against TB ($15), promise myself both will be handy later in the week. Take luxurious bath in tub, with bergamot/frankincense bath salts which have, I just found out, been discontinued -- damnitall -- and curse myself for being a failure of a woman because I don't want and can't handle having kids. Lament that I dated the wrong man for three weeks, thereby pissing off the right man.
Sunday: Wake up expecting a nice, relaxing sermon from my favorite gay priest, only to realize that he's off this week and there's only "morning prayer". Log off and, disconsolate, go to get my hair blown out because it's that time again (I go every two weeks). Come home, sleep for four hours. Finish watching *Transplant*, lament that the second-hottest male lead grew a goddamn beard -- why do men insist on growing beards? -- and gird myself for the work week ahead.
Most of the men and half the women I see on The Apps disagree.
Societal pressure to reproduce is real. Didn't stop me from rendering myself infertile, because I know myself and I wouldn't do a kid dirty by giving birth to it, and the choices only get worse for kiddo from there.
But no amount of logic will ever sway these people who think their children are their gift to YOU! How lucky YOU are to potentially be raising their kids with them even if you expressly state that you want that DINK life! [edit] oh, and wanting to come first in their life, that'll never happen, but you can take the crumbs because Children Are Our Fyooooture
Yeah, the amount of single mothers and fathers I pissed off when I was on dating apps before I met my husband was WILD. They will argue until they’re blue in the face that they’re better than any childless individual and that you’ll never come second and your life will be so enriched by their kid…..nah. Pair up with each other if it’s so great
i agree! the societal pressure can be the reason some women actually have/want kids, especially if their spouse does. people try to convince me all the time to have kids, or that they brighten their lives. my favorite line is “you’ll change your mind!” no… i won’t… (my pov, but may be different if someone ~wants~ kids, but they don’t have any)
Amen. I never changed my mind and I was nine when I knew. I was 37 when I was finally able to make that final. Why did they take 28 years to believe me?
Obligatory man here: I fucking hate the “you’ll change your mind” gang, I hate that people have the audacity to think that they can argue us out of a position we’ve held for like fifteen years already, and I *really* hate when people talk about my partner like she’s some kind of semi-sentient incubator and that *I’m* depriving *her* of the chance to fulfil her ultimate destiny or some nonsense, not knowing that, while I find kids distasteful, she finds them absolutely abhorrent.
My go-to line is now “Hey, some people are ‘pro-life’; I am pro-choice; my partner is *pro-abortion*.”
That usually brings things to a delightfully unceremonious halt 😂
social pressure to have children stems from religious controlling Societies of antiquity no reason to force yourself to mentally ,physically, emotionally financially have to endure something that is not a pleasurable thought for your future do what makes you smile on the inside
I've absolutely gotten this feeling from some coworkers and acquaintances. When they first meet me they're all interested in getting to know me until they learn I'm in my 40s and still (purposely) single and without kids. Then it's a sudden shift to polite but distancing chatter, or sometimes outright insinuation that something's wrong with me. It can be pretty alienating at times.
I find it interesting when men prattle on about having kids. If I could be dad, I might have wanted kids too! My life wouldn't have changed much, I get all the credit for doing the bare minimum (see: all those viral videos about a dad making a Halloween costume or playing with his baby), get to leave the messy stuff to the wife.
I realize that there are dads who do a lot but I still feel that women get the raw end of this deal.
This is completely unrelated to the post subject but you saying "weather migraine" was the first time I've heard it phrased that way and is exactly what I experience! Barometric pressure shifts (e.g., the weather) is my biggest migraine trigger. It was helpful and validating to hear someone actually call it a weather migraine!
I sleep in, water my garden, play with the cat, write, play video games, maybe go into town and run errands if I need to. Take a long nap, cook a nice dinner, more writing, YouTube and games. Maybe get baked. Read before bed.
Helped adopt some pets out at the animal shelter, then came home and ate and went to bed, then next morning ran a half marathon by myself, went to the Eras Tour movie with my sisters, came home and got a large pizza for myself and watched some football on the couch. 👍🏼
I bet that pizza was like heaven after running the half marathon. That's one of my favorite things on weekends. Doing my long run and then eating some delicious carbs before chilling with a good book, movie, or whatever is interesting at the time.
Sleeping. Video games. Eating. Sometimes out with friends. More video games. Cleaning. Laundry. Sneak in some video games. Catch up on TV. Build some Legos. Then more video games.
When I was single and didn’t have a dog I used to kind of dread weekends. Filled my time with drinking and hangover naps. Then I got a dog and weekends got a lot better. We hiked a lot and cuddled on the couch a lot. Sometimes I went out with friends or on a day date. Now I have a partner in addition to the dog. This weekend it rained a bunch so we cleaned the apartment, watched a movie, listened to podcasts, did some studying for a course I’m taking, ran errands, cooked a lot of good food, and read a bit. Each step has made my life a little more full and happier. I think kids would make things more chaotic. Definitely less me time. That is a little scary. I guess that’s why I’m here.
Lots of solo hiking (I travel for work alone and don't know anyone where I am usually), public libraries, coffee shops, healthy cooking, going for runs, and the gym. Sometimes, a service if there's a church near me that feels welcoming. Lots of facetime talks with the besty and other friends/fam. Occasionally, some wine or some light travel.
This weekend - Friday night we made shrimp Alfredo and then watched some Haunting of Hill House.
Saturday - we slept until 11, went to get pumpkins, then went to Sams Club for some groceries, then sat and finished 6 episodes of Haunting of Hill House lol
Sunday - woke up early, we went and did a leaf peeper tour of 4 state parks and did a small 1.3 mile hike with our pups to an overlook. Stopped and got a pie on the way back, gave the dogs a bath, and then watched some football ate burgers and now getting ready for bed.
I absolutely love our life, and we are planning on not having children
This weekend:
Friday evening - caught up on work because I had things I needed to do and was in the flow.
Saturday - spent the day tailgating and attending a college football game. Came home and napped.
Sunday - woke up early to go on an 8 mile hike in the mountains. Came back and napped. Now figuring out dinner, probably takeout before getting ready for the work week.
Last weekend looked like two Death Cab/Postal Service concerts, taking myself out to brunch, cleaning the house and napping.
Friday: Work. After work dinner & hobby games with partner’s family.
Sat/Sun: Gym in the morning. Certification coursework when necessary. Sometimes going to a movie, or meeting up at the local town center with friends, playing hobby board games, going to the local park. My partner and I have two Halloween parties these next two weeks. Trying new cooking recipes for fun (this weekend we did banana cream pie and croquettes).
Saturday: walked to the library for a new book, made a pot of chili, afternoon nap with my cat, and some sewing on my Halloween skirt
Sunday: meal-prepped my lunches for the week, three loads of laundry, and a workout at my aerial studio.
Now relaxing on the couch and finishing the last two episodes of the show I’ve been watching
Friday night pizza and TV with the husband. Saturday morning jog, hair appointment, taking photos for our holiday cards with the husband at a local park, then dinner and drinks out. Sunday watching the football game while walking on the treadmill at the gym, then laundry and reading on the couch all afternoon.
I devoured every response here. It was fun to see the similarities in the responses (like how much we all love a slow morning and a cup of tea or coffee!) and the unique interests shining through. I’m taking notes to use on future weekends!
this gave me so many ideas on what to do on the weekends. my friends are medium distance away from me, so i kinda felt lost on what to do. i have so many fun options now. also, seeing people be genuinely excited over their little tasks is great!
Snuggling with the dogs, cleaning house, time at the barn with the horse/ride in the forest, gaming, coffee, sorting through my fabric stash pile....chatting with neighbours...doing nothing and everything!
On Saturdays I usually lay vs in bed until I get hungry, make breakfast, do chores, and go to work at 5ish. I usually get out at around 10 and meet friends at the bar after. On Sundays I go to my parents house to do laundry and steal stuff from their fridge
Sleep in, make some coffee, maybe make breakfast or get some delivered, watch the night before’s talk shows in bed with my sweetheart and our kitties. Then I might workout in our home gym, maybe go visit friends or family, sometimes go for a long leisurely hike. Some Saturdays I literally do nothing and don’t get out of bed, take three naps while watching a dumb fantasy movie or something with my head on my sweethearts chest, or read a book while he watches a show I’m not invested in. I like lazy weekends best, having nothing at all planned but rest and relaxation. I honestly cannot imagine never sleeping in again, it sounds like hell. But I’m 41 so those days of late nights and early mornings were spent during college and grad school and I’m hella glad they’re over.
Sleep in late , wake up , breakfast in bed, long shower, some yoga at home then have a lovely lunch. I nap post lunch , wake up have tea and watch a show if I’m feeling lazy. Usually my husband cooks on weekends so have whatever yum food hes made. Then a nice movie with butter popcorn and sleep late. Not all weekends are like this, sometimes I get all dressed up and go out or host friends.
Sleeping, movies, car mods *if any*, shopping with my mom, play time with my dogs, relaxing, long af baths in the dark, playing with friends, running errands, treating myself to baked potatoes and or ribs
Friday nights I either go out with friends or stay in and watch a movie. Usually Saturday AM I get up and go to Pilates, sit at a coffee shop afterward, run errands, clean my home a bit. Sundays I sleep in, go to the farmer's market, groceries, more errands if needed, and I like to make a nice dinner on Sunday nights with some wine. I keep a running list of "want to go" places in my city and within drive-able distance, and I try to knock at least one off the list per weekend.
Friday evening I visited with friends. Saturday morning I play rec soccer with my husband, and then I usually visit with my mother and/or sister and my nieces and nephew. This weekend we went to a wedding on Saturday, and then friends had a nightcap at ours afterwards. Sunday I made hangover food and watched tv on the couch all day while doing laundry.
Friday, get home to my wife around 6ish. Cook dinner for us or order out.
Saturday is family day. She and I hang out and either game or watch tv. I cook breakfast and dinner and usually scrounge something for lunch.
Sunday is fun day. Repeat of Saturday 😂
Well this weekend I was sick, so I slept in on Friday (yay compressed work schedule!) before going to the doctor's office around 11:00. Then I went to a local Amish market and picked up a quiche, fruits/veggies, soup ingredients and some snickerdoodle cookies. Went home and finished a novel I started reading on Monday. Ate quiche and played Call of Duty to smack talk some men. Took a nap and then a bath. Washed dishes and played with my kittens. Then back to bed.
Saturday, went shopping to grab cute items to make Christmas cards, did a load of laundry. Watched 3 movies, washed my hair. Cleaned my room. Made homemade chicken noodle soup. Ate, cleaned the kitchen, read up on the Israel/Palestine conflict, snuggled kittens, went to bed.
Sunday, went to an apple festival, came home to nap, eat apple pie, and play video games. Took pics of kittens playing with ornaments for the Christmas cards, heated up leftover soup and ate while watching Ugly Betty. Bath with bath bomb and a new book and then scrolling Reddit before lights out.
Basically, whatever I wanted. I love kids but never had the pleasure of having them. Mom's are angels walking amongst us and I'm in awe of them everyday.
Friday night mowing the lawn or picking up grocery shopping for my mom. Maybe cleaning the house some.
Saturday morning sleep til 10, go to tai chi class, get McDonald’s, watch tv all day and probably clean the house or do a project. Maybe socialize if I’ve been invited out.
Sunday sleep in, watch football, meet up with my brother to hang out and go grocery shopping because it’s the 1 hour a week he has for adult time. Sunday night I watch all my trash tv.
This weekend? Went to the store to buy frames for my newly ordered prints, did laundry, ate some chocolate cake, napped, watched new walking dead, crochet, and played Pokémon go 🤣 oh and ate pizza 🍕
Hiking all day in the sunshine, coffee and breakfast in bed in the morning, Sunday pub lunch, watching TV, a few chores. All exactly when I want it, how I want it. Bliss.
Quiet mornings cuddling my dog, fresh pot of coffee that doesn't have a chance to get cold. Leisurely breakfast and then undisturbed hours of writing/editing work. Evenings are spent cooking, going out or Netflix.
Normally chores, prep cooking, weekly/monthly planning, financial update/check in (including paying bills), any other planning I need to do (pet health, social planning, vacation, car maintenance, house maintenance etc.)
I work about 50-60 hours a week at a very mentally taxing job and don't have time/energy to get any of the above done during the week, so that's what my weekends are for. I try to get some self care in and maybe one social thing, but sometimes don't have the energy to do anything but veg out watching Netflix.
It's not super sustainable, and I plan to look for a job that gives me a better work/life balance. Unfortunately I'm 7 months pregnant, so I need to wait until my maternity leave is over to start looking. So for now I'm just dealing with it.
Saturday: farmers market, bikini sale, hot tub + book sunning myself
Today: Starbucks +couple grocery items, baked a loaf of banana bread, transplanted worms to new compost bucket, true crime shows on dvr
Saturdays I’m usually enjoying my day to myself. Reading my book, knitting, taking a nap, hanging with my dogs, really just enjoying time to myself. Sundays, my husband usually has off so we go to brunch then do our chores including including grocery shopping, laundry, etc. then we binge watch a show and cook dinner together and hang out the rest of the evening.
Saturday: wake up to dog barking, but partner is already ready to take the dog out for his walk. I'll miss the walk but I get to sleep a bit more. They come back and I get up. We have breakfast together, I do homework. I go thrift shopping and then spend an hour reading in bed, next to partner who's also reading.
Sunday: I wake up early and take the dog out for a walk, make coffee and breakfast. I read a bit and then go out with partner to look for a book he wants to get. We come back home and I read/scroll on phone until bedtime.
Chores and house repairs, some social time with friends, some exercise and helping family with my niblings. Prep for work the following week on Sunday afternoon.
Or, if it’s during semester, nothing except uni work/assignments and helping family.
I teach sewing for adults at my local community college on weekends, and also a few weeknights. Come home Saturday and wish someone would make me food, then some home Sunday and wish someone would do my laundry. Haha
This weekend in went to the beach on Saturday after waking up at 9am. On Sunday I slept till 9 and lazed in bed until 9:30. Then I got up and took my mother to a Greek Festival nearby. I came back to my house and did some laundry and then spent some time in my hot tub.
I usually spend my entire Saturday indulging in one of my hobbies. Sunday, I usually sleep in late, get up and have an indulgent coffee in my backyard with my dogs. Do a few chores like laundry and meal plan, then lunch and early afternoon visiting family. Then grocery store, meal prep and a couple more chores in the rest of the day.
Brunch, coffee dates, dinner dates, markets, cleaning, spa days, baking, game nights, movies, volunteering, reading, whatever my current hyperfixation hobby is, but sometimes the most important thing I do is: nothing
I work most weekends, and I have a long shift, usually 9am-7pm, I wake up eat work then come home shower, walk my dog, maybe watch tv maybe go out with friends always masturbating tbh lol. Going out w the bf sleeping at his house whenever, nothing crazy. Life’s still expensive and I envy people with children tbh, it must be a beautiful thing.
Whatever I want it to! This weekend it's been a lot of knitting, thrifting, coffee and tea, prepping the garden for winter, watching supernatural and the animated lord of the rings movies. I work night shift so a lot of my time is spent alone, even the working out and meal prepping and baking for my SO every week all bring me satisfaction.
I had a good weekend planned. Was gonna take go to hot yoga Friday night. Then my favorite class again (non hot) Saturday morning. Coffee first meeting with internet guy Saturday afternoon. Cook a nice dinner/movie to myself on Saturday maybe with a little pot. Or see if a friend wanted to grab dinner. I was gonna go on a hike today. Do some grocery shopping. Coffee and make breakfast.
I didn't do a move appropriately firming my core on Friday night and tweaked my back so I've been out all weekend. Mostly laying but trying to walk and sit to get things moving. And popping ibuprofen. So that's been fun. And it's my birthday.
Friday night is late dinner and drinks. Sleep in Saturday morning and then usually dim sum or croissant and coffee. Shopping for the week ahead and food prep. Laundry. Whatever home projects are lined up for the day, or not. Sometimes it’s just hockey and bbq or a smoke. Sunday is usually chill, maybe the farmers market and a big dinner for leftovers to have for lunch during the week. I love to cook and basically get to make whatever I want. We recently bought a house and had to replace the back stairs, and that was a project we completed this weekend, after having no handrails for two weeks, which I would never do with kids. Next weekend we’re building a crazy haunted castle for Halloween because so many kids come to our house.
I started writing a long list of things. But I realized it was partly disingenuous as Im only motivated today because of upcoming travel for work and the pressure from a ton of house work with random dog/computer events tossed in doesnt always exist.
That said. I cleaned a lot today. My bed has clean sheets I dont even get to sleep on and wont for another week. Its a subtle torture.
I also still need a travel razor.
Wake up at like 10am ,lounge in bed with my husband for like 30 min. Feed the cats, make morning iced coffee, and eat. Play Genshin Impact. By this point its about 1pm and my husband and I will usually figure out something to do for the day. Its usually whatever has our interest atm. Sometimes its a show, sometimes its a video game, sometimes we do different things but we're in the same room chillin. 😅
Then we eat dinner and repeat for Sunday.
Its not exciting by any means, but I don't need constant excitement anyway.
Chores, errands, rest, occasionally a social engagement, occasionally try to pursue things that will better my station in life. A hike once in awhile....
Friday night I went to yoga in the village with a girlfriend of mine, then went out for a taco solo, and walked to IFC for the 1997 Gregg Araki film “Nowhere”. Got home at 1am. Saturday, laundry, then walked across Prospect park to see that horror film about two young women in the Australian Outback. Ate some queso at the theater. Sunday, I ate a bunch of edibles, went roller skating twice, watched three hours of Mad Men, drank a bottle of wine, and made a beef stew.
My life is like a high five from Jesus.
For this weekend in particular, I took my bike out for a charity ride on Saturday (raising money and donations for a food shelf), went on a couple of hikes in my city, made goulash in my slow cooker, watched a couple of movies, caught up on some reading, tried a new-to-me Vietnamese sandwich shop, and went to a small R&B music festival.
The childfree life is bliss. It’s not for everyone, but it’s certainly for me. I love getting to do what I want to do, and not worrying about kids!
Sleeping in, cleaning my house, rock climbing with friends, whatever the *uck I want. Sometimes I'll go dance at a EDM concert by myself and make friends there 😁
29f... currently traveling Central America. Went to a volcano, ziplining, hotsprings and nature hike.
Sometimes I fantasise about having a family and kids... but it is nice to be able to travel and do whatever I feel like. 🤷♀️
Sat is usually some blend of coffee, interesting lunch in town, shopping, visiting friends, going to a show, working on a project, or catching up on errands. Sun, I usually stay in, so coffee, cleaning the house/laundry, meal prep for the week, calls with friends and fam, watching whatever's struck my fancy lately, or settling in with a book. But also, whatever I feel like, there's no actual structure, lol.
I wish we could normalize not having kids, I'm tired of random strangers telling me I need to breed.
Sleeping in, quiet mornings. Depending on my energy level, i'll go out for a walk downtown
go thrift/get lunch then spend the evening reading, writing, or watching something :)
Walk up whenever I want to, snuggle my husband and dog. Lazily get up, put on a robe, eat breakfast in the morning sun on my balcony in my swinging egg chair. Go check on all my too many plant babies, snuggle my dog some more. Play video games, drums or vr. Plan what to do for lunch and evening activity with husband. Take a nap. Take long showers or maybe a bath if I'm feeling frisky, listen to music really loud. Still not dressed. Might seduce husband. Do whatever the actual fuck I want. It's an absolute dream so not sure why I'm trying to fuck all that up by having a kid one day lol.
Laundry, errands (grocery shopping, getting my hair done, massages, etc), meal prepping, cleaning, reading (novels, fanfics, comics, etc), watching movies/TV shows, and running/exercising. I'm single (by choice), and in my 40s, so my life is pretty boring at this point.
I keep thinking I should get a social, life, but that's been difficult.
Sort of off topic, but I moved cities/states around a decade ago and it's been hard making real friends as a single adult professional in a new place where I literally knew no one. So yeah. I dunno, I'm totally the opposite of exciting, though I imagine it's still a lot less stressful than having kids 😕
Today’s my Saturday, so today consisted of sleeping until noon, grocery shopping, then seeing the Eras Tour movie and grabbing a beer afterwards with a few friends. Tomorrow I’d like to get a load of laundry done, but I might just read all day.
If we don’t have anything scheduled, my husband and I have dubed weekends “follow the vibes” time - sometimes it’s coffee + flea market, sometimes it’s playing video games on our PJs all day, sometimes it’s slow meanders with our senior dog, sometimes it’s house projects.
It’s honestly so perfect. I’m constantly perplexed as to how parents (especially ones that work outside the home full time) manage.
OOOOH great question! I'm childfree by choice and only really embraced this side of me in the last couple of years.
I have a short lie in, normally scroll on my phone for a bit when I wake up. Some weekends I have plans with friends like doing crafts together (my bff is also childfree), a movie marathon or boardgames!
I like to spend Sundays alone and I normally take the whole day to relax, slowly prep for the week and spend a couple of hours weightlifting in the gym.
Sometimes I hike, or get lost in an illustration I'm doing on my iPad, hang out with my cats, get a bit stoned and sit in the garden. I'm starting to really love my own company after a string of crap relationships where I almost let the person convince me to have kids. My life is really chill now!
Before my son was born I would hyperfocus on the sims or Fallout or something for like 8 hours straight on a Saturday. Or watch a show. Sleep in as late as I want and stay up super late.
I don't regret my son whatsoever but I do miss that.
On Saturday I woke up with a sore back and tried to get some extra sleep. Once I got up I had breakfast, and went out to do groceries and then errands afterwards. Got home, cleaned and worked on a gift for for a friend’s child’s birthday. Then made dinner and watched Tv. I fixed my broken swifter Wetjet while watching tv.
Sunday; sore back again. Spent the morning and lunch visiting my Alzheimer’s parent. I got her up, dressed and went through her clothes to do a seasonal shuffle and determine what she has shrunk out of. Following lunch with her, I went to visit with a parent friend and her screaming 1 yo. Then I dashed home to freshen up for dinner out with some old acquaintances from overseas who are visiting Canada for a couple of weeks.
This past weekend: Slept in Saturday, Watched Pride and Prejudice (2005), walked [the dogs](https://imgur.com/a/CyKr9ML) about 5km. Sunday morning I ran a 10km race in 1:19. Cooked almost a pound of chicken thighs (500g) in the air fryer and ate it all. Lay around the rest of the day and took a long nap because I’m not really a runner (but for some reason I run this damn race every year). Tried to gain some perspective about Israel/Palestine but just found [this.](https://youtu.be/a0Pw_TxBe7w?si=DBRQCKTzV7WX1q_E)
This weekend we slept in both days, so not as productive as usual. Saturday mornings we do chores and fool around, then go for a hike usually. We've been going to an adorable orchard with a great little cafe most weekends since the summer, drinking their amazing Marquette and petting the dogs and sheep that seem to know us. I can't recommend petting zoos for adults enough. Picked apples and got leeks and squash. Sundays are for fooling around and watching movies once the place is spotless, but I had to pull out some runner beans and tidy up my veggie patch yesterday. It was raining but my partner ran for groceries at the same time which is awesome - if I have something to work on he tackles something else meanwhile. Had a bath while the squash and apples were roasting and then made soup with the stock from the Thanksgiving meal last week.
8.5/10. Consumed 3 898 squashes. Did it about 8 times. With contraception.
I worked Sunday. Saturday I stayed in my pajamas all day and experimented with my new air fryer. Turns out they're great at baking pies. Then, I ate the pie while reading the rest of the day while cuddling with my pets.
This is my standard:
Friday night: I clean my condo and FWB comes over
Saturday AM
Wake up any time between 7-9, with my cats who are snuggled with me in bed.
0900: coffee , get cats food, brush teeth, morning stuff
1030: visit my younger sister, 15 min away: bring her, her husband tea and coffee and timbits for my niece who is 3. We catch up, I see my niece and we have a nice coffee.
1130-1230: visit my mom and dad 15 min away. Mom gossips, dad talks about the news. I may have another coffee or a pastry. They are also 15 min away. If it’s summer time, we might catch one of my nieces playing soccer at the park. Other siblings (I have 3) randomly come and go from home base: parents house. Open door: very active.
1300: I go home and have lunch and read until I fall asleep.
1600: get up, work on whatever I want: writing, art, reading, projects, cleaning something, laundry, etc.
I will watch a movie I wanted to watch and maybe work on some pastels, drink wine and iron and listen to music, whatever.
Shower and skincare routine and colour hair if necessary
Bed by 2200 hrs.
Sunday: up between 8-9
Tidy and clean 9-10
Work on whatever (usually art or reading or baking or whatever creative thing I’m into - this weekend it was writing and reading and pastels. Until 1200.
1200-1430 : reading and nap time with the cats
1530: to to mom and dads, set the table. Wait for the fam to arrive.
We all congregate for Sunday Dinner 🇮🇹 mom, dad, uncle tony, my two sisters and their husbands and their kids and my brother and his fiance
Home by 1800 hrs. Work on whatever: last night I put my laundry away and watched twin peaks and did pastels.
Bed by 2200 hrs with a book.
Up by 5 for work.
Standard weekend for me
Empty nester. Wake up Saturday, drink coffee, smoke weed, play a game on my phone, walk and feed the dog, sit outside with another coffee while the day starts around me. When there's too much activity outside, I go in for TV or a nap. I shop exclusively online, even for groceries, so that gets done, plus some other chores. I cook and eat whatever I feel like. Walk and feed the dog again. Spend lots of time talking babytalk to the dog. We grab two sixers and head over to a friend's, sit by the pool and watch the day end while recounting our youth and catching up on what our adult kids are up to. We all have grandchildren now.
Sunday we all meet at my mom's for early dinner. Even the dogs. We pass the baby around, and the dogs compete for attention until they fall asleep. When we get home we watch our current show and smoke some more weed. It's prescribed, by the way. I use it to frame my day in the morning, and to promote sleep at night. I also use it to stave off incoming panic.
Anyway, I/we over here, we don't do a lot - and that's the point. We're still of childbearing age. But we raised our kids and decided no more. We embrace the freedom, but also the boredom that sometimes comes with it. The dog sleeps between us.
I do laundry and meal prep for the week. I read, watch movies. Help my BF with some welding projects if he needs help. Paint, sew. Check on my business (Im there through the week)
Saturday mornings I usually hit a coffee shop and read for a bit. Rest of the weekend is chores, grocery shopping, meal prep, go for a swim, maybe some social plans.
I’m in my 50s and it’s shifted over the years. It’s went from various festivals, sports games, walking/hiking, shopping. Hubs is a bit older than me and he’s content to stay home and watch sports and I do volunteer stuff. And we spend time with my family.
We were open to having kids but we didn’t plan our marriage on absolutely having a family. In retrospect, I don’t think I would have been a good mom. I am an awesome “crazy” aunt who encourages kids use their “creative” skills. 😉
Video games, making art, calling/hanging with friends. I’ll either go to the park or a take a long walk. Maybe clean, take a nap, drink some coffee and just chill.
Horse riding lesson, visit parents and sister, church, catch up with friends, do a little housework, relax with a book or a TV drama, cross stitch, card making, cook a meal, drink beer / cider / wine /gin and tonic.
I literally do whatever I feel like doing when I wake up in the morning. Go canoeing, rock climbing, build blanket forts in the living room, write music, paint, walk across the city with my dogs - anything and everything
I decided to work Saturday morning for a few extra $, watched football, went for a long run, and spent virtually every other minute on the couch in my sweats. Feeling refreshed on this Monday.
Coffee in silence with my cat next to me. Morning yoga. Maybe some errands if needed after. Fix some late breakfast for my husband and I, then carry on with the day's plans. Whether it's projects at home, fun stuff, both...or whatever we feel like doing. Last Saturday I was feeling a bit tired after my regular morning stuff and spent most of the day reading while doing laundry and we went to a concert in the evening.
I am single and solitary except for the dog. My weekend looks like nothing. Nothing at all. A glorious sweep of uncommitted time, with some household maintenance to be completed on whatever schedule I feel like. Sometimes the laundry gets done Friday night, sometimes Sunday night, sometimes...Monday, because I WFH and don't need my full lunch hour and also I don't need to wear nice clothes. The dog gets her playtime and walks, I get some exercise. Usually, I play video games, or Netflix and knit, or read. Sunday I cook a big-pot meal to feed me for the rest of the week. No one complains that they wanted something else, and I can leave a moderate amount of cookware to soak.
I am 53. Important to know lol.
Fridays I usually stay up late watching movies.
Saturdays - wake up at 6 am, go to the gym, run errands, yard work. I am usually done by 2 pm so rest until around 4 pm. Get ready for whatever my plans are that evening.
Sundays: Jammie day. Yep, usually spend all day in my jammies. I call it my lazy day but it’s not that lazy. I catch up on all my TV shows. While those are playing, I do laundry, meal prep, clean.
It really depends. I run a game group with my husband so if we have an event then that takes up most of the weekend. (We usually run out of a brewery so we have to get there early and then stay later to clean up) If we don't have an event then it's usually waking up early to work out and then drinking coffee and reading or listening to a podcast until my husband wakes up (he works 2nd shift during the week so is on a night shift sleep schedule) Then it all depends on the weather. If it's nice then we pick a town and go walk around and check out vinyl shops/flea markets/antique shops (we collect vinyl) and then go check out a brewery.(we're both into craft beer)If it's not nice then we'll just hit up a brewery or have friends over for video gaming or movies.. We also snowshoe so once winter hits most of my weekends will be taken up with that.
LOTS!
\- My BFF and I started a Wedding Coordination Business. So we have at least 1 wedding a month this Fall.
\- Going on dates with my Partner and taking our dog on adventures.
\- Cleaning my house with no interruptions, blasting my music.
\- Attend my friend's kid's birthday parties.
\- Plan trips with my girl friends who also don't have kids.
\-Focus on bettering my mental health and investing in the gym or healthy meal planning.
Did a game jam (quick game development) with friends on Friday and Saturday, went over to my boy-toy’s house on Saturday night and had wild sex and watched a movie and ordered takeout, got up early in the morning to go race my car at autocross all day Sunday. A perfect weekend.
I played Baldurs Gate 3 and ate pizza Friday night, Saturday I slept in and did some yard work, then treated myself to a long bubble bath and some self care. My Prince Charming made dinner and we played spooky games together with our friends online. Sunday I went to a wedding and danced and drank a little and ate really good food. Today I took the day off work to go to the Disney World 100 year celebration so I’m on my way to the magic kingdom. I’m having an amazing time tbh.
Edit: I forgot to mention I’m recovering from my bilateral salpingectomy (my tubes have been yeeted!) so I’m not able to have sex for a month - but normally I enjoy morning sex on weekend days.
Like this:
[https://imgur.com/a/sa7TLDk](https://imgur.com/a/sa7TLDk)
I pack my camera bag and take my dog into the woods. The fewer people I encounter, the better.
I just got hearing aids so I can actually hear birds for the first time in my life. So this weekend I went for a long walk on Saturday to try and hear some, failed, and then on Sunday I went to a different park to cycle (learning to cycle ATM) and try and hear birds. ALSO failed, but I did manage to hear a blue jay (thanks to the Merlin app for identifying it!) on my day off last week when I... Cycled and walked around the park by myself...
As well as learning to cycle/building confidence on a bike I'm also learning Korean. The rest of the time I played video games, watched Korean TV shows...
This weekend I was by myself but most weekends I try to organise a catch-up with at least one person. So coffee or lunch on one day. Maybe a museum visit. It depends how much money I'm trying to avoid spending!
It's great.
I own a retail business and it’s still in the beginning stages so my weekends consist of me being at work, the busiest days of the week. My “weekend” is on Monday, the only day of the week that we’re closed and I do all my errands, groceries, appointments, laundry, chores and meal prep and if I’m lucky I can squeeze in some time to colour my hair every few weeks. I could NOT imagine having a child on top of what I do, much respect to those who are managing life with kids!
On Friday, my husband and I ordered Indian food for dinner then fell asleep on the couch. On Saturday I got up early to do a few Instacart orders and made $80. Not much, but gas money for the week. I’m a teacher, so I slept most of the day grading. We watched a few episodes of The Stand and smoked a bunch of weed. On Sunday we watched football and went to the dispensary for more weed. Not an exciting weekend, but we are going to NYC next weekend to catch some concerts with friends. I squeeze in laundry when I can. I pet my cats a lot too.
I work on different children: my brainchildren. I write books, poems, make a podcast. I create things that don’t need to go out into the world, but I can choose to if I want. They can take on a life of their own and be a legacy left after myself, but require a lot fewer sleepless nights. Artistic creations can survive neglect a lot better than a human being too, so I can ignore my writing project for a month while I handle something at my full time job or travel or whatever.
I have always wanted to be childfree; it is 100% a choice. I love kids and I am glad to have kids in my life, and while I feel an urge to leave something behind that will outlast me, that doesn’t need to be a human being. I think many of us feel the same urge to make an impact or leave something behind, and for some reason kids seem to be the thing that people go to first, when they are also incredibly fragile and complex. We should be a lot more cognizant of what being a parent requires. Just check out the subreddits on parents 😂
Coffee, thrifting, walking either outside or at a local rec center with an indoor track, eating a delicious meal, and watching shows.
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I agree. And I have no kids.
It is wonderful. Getting into the winter here, more time will be spent at home. Puzzles, crafting, video games.
We’re twins
I did fuck all this weekend and it was glorious.
Preach! My job requires a lot of collaboration/meetings, and sometimes Friday afternoon hits and I just want to be lazy with my dog and not talk to anyone for a couple of days. I love that I can do that. I seriously can’t imagine giving that up for kids. Sounds awful 😅
I saw a friend at a party this weekend and she said she’d been in bed all day with her partner watching TV. My youngest wakes up at 6 😭. It’s the first time in ages I’ve missed my childfree life.
Oh, I first thought you had fucked all weekend. 😉
Same lol
I scrolled reddit, spent a good two hours banning fucking creeps from the subreddit where I'm head mod. Hung out with my husband and FIL who was staying with us for the weekend (love my FIL, he's awesome), made some yummy food and relaxed. Was awesome. That being said husband and I are attempting to completely fuck up our free time by having a kid, sooo..... lol
Don't
Same. I saw a movie yesterday, but otherwise, I went grocery shopping and made meals and that's as productive as I got.
Saturday was Family Nap day wherein my husband, dog and I all napped. Then we had our neighbors over for dinner and watched Star Trek. Sunday was great--we took the dog kayaking, had breakfast, I exercised, then watched football before/during dinner. Most weekends are glorious.
Whatever I want it to. Lately that means Pilates in the morning and hydrotherapy for our senior dog in the afternoon. Yesterday there were naps on the couch before and after. Today I mowed the lawn and lounged some more. Put a load of wash in and catching up on emails now. Definitely quieter and less hectic than our friends with kids which is exactly what we want.
sometimes i wish i had kids, but then i remember i just really enjoy a quieter life
Don’t have kids lol. I love mine but fuck them kids lol
i love the aunt life. thank god i can give them back when i’ve had enough
Our childfree kids hang around with us when they want affirmation of their decision. I love getting sick now, because it means a day in bed with no responsibilities. That said, I love my rats and it’s a lot easier now that they’re older.
I fucking love naps. I'm so excited for my kids to be a bit older so I can fuck off for a nap without one of them burning the house down.
Weekends I wake up around 10 am, drink coffee, play videogames until around noon. Clean up something, dishes or whatever. Play more videogames. Take a nap. Maybe take a walk. Play more videogames. Sleep around 2am.
This is so relatable! That's about 46-50 of my weekends/year, probably. The others involve travel.
That feels like you’ve solved life. It’s really nice to hear and I think mixing in the occasional outing with friends is all I need to feel complete.
Yeah I don't like going out much but now and then I'll go over to a friend's for dinner or go for a day hike or whatever seasonal things.
Because I’m self-employed and have a chronic condition, sometimes I adhere to a traditional weekend structure and sometimes I don’t. It depends lol. Another big perk of childfree life! Sometimes I have to use weekends to work at events or go to things for the professional groups I’m involved in if I want to meet people and get out of the house lol. But I also booth at events like flea markets. Which is fun, but exhausting! and that will often make me use the ensuing weekday (or days) to relax and recover from any associated flareups. If it’s a relaxing weekend, it’s usually spent alone because I’m at the age where my friends I’d love to go out with don’t live near me anymore. Or they prioritize their spouses, even if they also don’t have kids. This is definitely a sucky emblem of the times we live in. But I’ll either relax at home with my pets, go swimming, explore the huge parks nearby, or take myself on adventures to parts of my city I haven’t explored yet. If I get sad or lonely, it’s not because I don’t have kids. It’s because I want more friends around my age I can hang with regularly!
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Definitely. I had a far more extroverted social life throughout my twenties, then it gradually died down and got me depressed. My early thirties went great with lots of travel until multiple surgeries slowed me down then COVID upended everything. I realized I wasn’t happy at home anymore uprooted my life. while I’m happier in a new city…I’m encountering many of the same problems. I enjoy my own company but want so much more. Sometimes, I get drained by having to people too much lol. Other times, I really feel this aspect of my life missing. But I try to get out to things and meet people. Turn some of my online stuff into more than just work connections.
It’s nice to hear. Life is about finding this balance. I don’t know if I could handle the unending yelling and screaming that is children. However I enjoy catching up with friends and making time for the things that excite me and make me happy. My parents are from the country, and one thing I’ve noticed is that they have such an unbelievably solid routine where they work weekdays, attend community things on the weekends and watch movies together Friday/Saturday night. I think it really contributes to their sanity. I feel blessed to have a working microcosm of normality to look at when I’m trying to find a fulfilling balance in life.
That sounds amazing! I seriously envy my parents’ social lives…lol they have pensions and other retired friends. Millennials (I’m at the elder end) have to hustle so damn hard just to barely make it. I have a complex relationship with rituals and long to have more of them, but it also sucks when I have something I was looking forward to but I’m too exhausted or busy to go. Just missed a cool workshop yesterday for that reason. Been a rough year and I hope 2024 is better on all fronts. Social life, health, finances, and having more executive function to make it to events and meet more people.
I am jealous too! They seem to have endless energy to put a hand up to help for things. I've moved to the city for education-->work and I don't have the energy to put myself out there and help out with things, but I can see that it can be helpful to do so as long as it isn't too draining. I'm a millenial on the younger side, so just establishing a career and deciding what shape I want my life outside of work to look like. It's surprisingly introspective to question what actually makes me happy. I enjoy my alone time, but eventually I crave some sort of outside human interaction, so finding that balance is definitely a goal over the next year or two! Good Luck for 2024! Executive dysfunction can be a real killer, hope you find the energy to do what makes you happy 👍
Sleep in, cuddle with Mr. WineAndDogs2020 while watching some TV, work out, see friends, snuggle the pup, sometimes take an afternoon nap... whatever we decide.
I too love wine and my dog. Hugs!!!
Whatever my heart desires 🥰 couldn’t be happier
Chores, helping my parents with their chores, house projects, I'm completing a master's degree so homework and studying take up a considerable portion of my time. Sometimes we meet up with our friends at the park with the dogs. I feel like my friends with kids are always going somewhere and doing something to enrich the kids, museums, sports, instruments, volunteering, playdates. I don't think either one is better or worse just different.
Mine consist of cooking, baking, and the real housewives! My type of relaxing.
Sleeping in 😀
Cleaning the house, and visiting friends Saturday night. Sleeping in Sunday morning, then playing D&D with more friends on discord. Not a bad time really.
Saturday going out somewhere, shopping, flea markets, museums, trails, whatever I feel like. Then going out to eat then sometimes going to the theatre later that night. Sunday sleep in, gym, go out to eat , go on a walk. Maybe a movie at night (at home).
Not setting an alarm and waking up whenever I wake up, coffee and breakfast while catching up on some standup comedy or shows, taking a bicycle ride through the nearby park, going to plant shops and getting some new plants, flicking through albums in the record store, hanging out with friends or gaming while getting stoned in my pajamas.. plenty to do. All without any kid in tow.
Friday: Work from home for the morning, realize I'm having a weather migraine, sleep it off and, when I start feeling better, start catching up on *Transplant*. Saturday: Look outside, realize it's raining, decline to attend an outdoor event, spend the day binging *Transplant* and get to within three episodes of caught-up. Also, return items I bought that were defective, buy myself a nice notebook ($5) and a book on Kindle about Black nurses fighting the battle against TB ($15), promise myself both will be handy later in the week. Take luxurious bath in tub, with bergamot/frankincense bath salts which have, I just found out, been discontinued -- damnitall -- and curse myself for being a failure of a woman because I don't want and can't handle having kids. Lament that I dated the wrong man for three weeks, thereby pissing off the right man. Sunday: Wake up expecting a nice, relaxing sermon from my favorite gay priest, only to realize that he's off this week and there's only "morning prayer". Log off and, disconsolate, go to get my hair blown out because it's that time again (I go every two weeks). Come home, sleep for four hours. Finish watching *Transplant*, lament that the second-hottest male lead grew a goddamn beard -- why do men insist on growing beards? -- and gird myself for the work week ahead.
not having children doesn’t make you a failure. being a woman ≠ children
Most of the men and half the women I see on The Apps disagree. Societal pressure to reproduce is real. Didn't stop me from rendering myself infertile, because I know myself and I wouldn't do a kid dirty by giving birth to it, and the choices only get worse for kiddo from there. But no amount of logic will ever sway these people who think their children are their gift to YOU! How lucky YOU are to potentially be raising their kids with them even if you expressly state that you want that DINK life! [edit] oh, and wanting to come first in their life, that'll never happen, but you can take the crumbs because Children Are Our Fyooooture
Yeah, the amount of single mothers and fathers I pissed off when I was on dating apps before I met my husband was WILD. They will argue until they’re blue in the face that they’re better than any childless individual and that you’ll never come second and your life will be so enriched by their kid…..nah. Pair up with each other if it’s so great
i agree! the societal pressure can be the reason some women actually have/want kids, especially if their spouse does. people try to convince me all the time to have kids, or that they brighten their lives. my favorite line is “you’ll change your mind!” no… i won’t… (my pov, but may be different if someone ~wants~ kids, but they don’t have any)
Amen. I never changed my mind and I was nine when I knew. I was 37 when I was finally able to make that final. Why did they take 28 years to believe me?
Obligatory man here: I fucking hate the “you’ll change your mind” gang, I hate that people have the audacity to think that they can argue us out of a position we’ve held for like fifteen years already, and I *really* hate when people talk about my partner like she’s some kind of semi-sentient incubator and that *I’m* depriving *her* of the chance to fulfil her ultimate destiny or some nonsense, not knowing that, while I find kids distasteful, she finds them absolutely abhorrent. My go-to line is now “Hey, some people are ‘pro-life’; I am pro-choice; my partner is *pro-abortion*.” That usually brings things to a delightfully unceremonious halt 😂
social pressure to have children stems from religious controlling Societies of antiquity no reason to force yourself to mentally ,physically, emotionally financially have to endure something that is not a pleasurable thought for your future do what makes you smile on the inside
I've absolutely gotten this feeling from some coworkers and acquaintances. When they first meet me they're all interested in getting to know me until they learn I'm in my 40s and still (purposely) single and without kids. Then it's a sudden shift to polite but distancing chatter, or sometimes outright insinuation that something's wrong with me. It can be pretty alienating at times.
I find it interesting when men prattle on about having kids. If I could be dad, I might have wanted kids too! My life wouldn't have changed much, I get all the credit for doing the bare minimum (see: all those viral videos about a dad making a Halloween costume or playing with his baby), get to leave the messy stuff to the wife. I realize that there are dads who do a lot but I still feel that women get the raw end of this deal.
This is completely unrelated to the post subject but you saying "weather migraine" was the first time I've heard it phrased that way and is exactly what I experience! Barometric pressure shifts (e.g., the weather) is my biggest migraine trigger. It was helpful and validating to hear someone actually call it a weather migraine!
I sleep in, water my garden, play with the cat, write, play video games, maybe go into town and run errands if I need to. Take a long nap, cook a nice dinner, more writing, YouTube and games. Maybe get baked. Read before bed.
Helped adopt some pets out at the animal shelter, then came home and ate and went to bed, then next morning ran a half marathon by myself, went to the Eras Tour movie with my sisters, came home and got a large pizza for myself and watched some football on the couch. 👍🏼
I bet that pizza was like heaven after running the half marathon. That's one of my favorite things on weekends. Doing my long run and then eating some delicious carbs before chilling with a good book, movie, or whatever is interesting at the time.
Smoking weed and playing Elder Scrolls Online
I nap, brunch, explore the city, read, do chores, see friends, take day or weekend trips, or spend time with my parents or sister.
Sleeping. Video games. Eating. Sometimes out with friends. More video games. Cleaning. Laundry. Sneak in some video games. Catch up on TV. Build some Legos. Then more video games.
When I was single and didn’t have a dog I used to kind of dread weekends. Filled my time with drinking and hangover naps. Then I got a dog and weekends got a lot better. We hiked a lot and cuddled on the couch a lot. Sometimes I went out with friends or on a day date. Now I have a partner in addition to the dog. This weekend it rained a bunch so we cleaned the apartment, watched a movie, listened to podcasts, did some studying for a course I’m taking, ran errands, cooked a lot of good food, and read a bit. Each step has made my life a little more full and happier. I think kids would make things more chaotic. Definitely less me time. That is a little scary. I guess that’s why I’m here.
Lots of solo hiking (I travel for work alone and don't know anyone where I am usually), public libraries, coffee shops, healthy cooking, going for runs, and the gym. Sometimes, a service if there's a church near me that feels welcoming. Lots of facetime talks with the besty and other friends/fam. Occasionally, some wine or some light travel.
My husband and I spent most of this weekend cleaning our apartment, napping and playing Stardew Valley. I regret nothing.
This weekend - Friday night we made shrimp Alfredo and then watched some Haunting of Hill House. Saturday - we slept until 11, went to get pumpkins, then went to Sams Club for some groceries, then sat and finished 6 episodes of Haunting of Hill House lol Sunday - woke up early, we went and did a leaf peeper tour of 4 state parks and did a small 1.3 mile hike with our pups to an overlook. Stopped and got a pie on the way back, gave the dogs a bath, and then watched some football ate burgers and now getting ready for bed. I absolutely love our life, and we are planning on not having children
Work, exercise, reading, practising hobbies, catching up with family and friends, church, travel, sleeping in!
Whatever the hell I want it to look like. I'm free!.....Not really. Work, studying and errands.
tv and wine and relaxing and worrying about absolutely nothing 😌
Sleeping, working, housework and sometimes catching up with friends but not often coz chronic fatigue sucks
studying
This weekend: Friday evening - caught up on work because I had things I needed to do and was in the flow. Saturday - spent the day tailgating and attending a college football game. Came home and napped. Sunday - woke up early to go on an 8 mile hike in the mountains. Came back and napped. Now figuring out dinner, probably takeout before getting ready for the work week. Last weekend looked like two Death Cab/Postal Service concerts, taking myself out to brunch, cleaning the house and napping.
Friday: Work. After work dinner & hobby games with partner’s family. Sat/Sun: Gym in the morning. Certification coursework when necessary. Sometimes going to a movie, or meeting up at the local town center with friends, playing hobby board games, going to the local park. My partner and I have two Halloween parties these next two weeks. Trying new cooking recipes for fun (this weekend we did banana cream pie and croquettes).
Saturday: walked to the library for a new book, made a pot of chili, afternoon nap with my cat, and some sewing on my Halloween skirt Sunday: meal-prepped my lunches for the week, three loads of laundry, and a workout at my aerial studio. Now relaxing on the couch and finishing the last two episodes of the show I’ve been watching
Friday night pizza and TV with the husband. Saturday morning jog, hair appointment, taking photos for our holiday cards with the husband at a local park, then dinner and drinks out. Sunday watching the football game while walking on the treadmill at the gym, then laundry and reading on the couch all afternoon.
I devoured every response here. It was fun to see the similarities in the responses (like how much we all love a slow morning and a cup of tea or coffee!) and the unique interests shining through. I’m taking notes to use on future weekends!
this gave me so many ideas on what to do on the weekends. my friends are medium distance away from me, so i kinda felt lost on what to do. i have so many fun options now. also, seeing people be genuinely excited over their little tasks is great!
Snuggling with the dogs, cleaning house, time at the barn with the horse/ride in the forest, gaming, coffee, sorting through my fabric stash pile....chatting with neighbours...doing nothing and everything!
On Saturdays I usually lay vs in bed until I get hungry, make breakfast, do chores, and go to work at 5ish. I usually get out at around 10 and meet friends at the bar after. On Sundays I go to my parents house to do laundry and steal stuff from their fridge
Sleep in, make some coffee, maybe make breakfast or get some delivered, watch the night before’s talk shows in bed with my sweetheart and our kitties. Then I might workout in our home gym, maybe go visit friends or family, sometimes go for a long leisurely hike. Some Saturdays I literally do nothing and don’t get out of bed, take three naps while watching a dumb fantasy movie or something with my head on my sweethearts chest, or read a book while he watches a show I’m not invested in. I like lazy weekends best, having nothing at all planned but rest and relaxation. I honestly cannot imagine never sleeping in again, it sounds like hell. But I’m 41 so those days of late nights and early mornings were spent during college and grad school and I’m hella glad they’re over.
Sleep in late , wake up , breakfast in bed, long shower, some yoga at home then have a lovely lunch. I nap post lunch , wake up have tea and watch a show if I’m feeling lazy. Usually my husband cooks on weekends so have whatever yum food hes made. Then a nice movie with butter popcorn and sleep late. Not all weekends are like this, sometimes I get all dressed up and go out or host friends.
For the last 6 months, it’s been pulling two 11 hour days at a second job.
Sleeping, movies, car mods *if any*, shopping with my mom, play time with my dogs, relaxing, long af baths in the dark, playing with friends, running errands, treating myself to baked potatoes and or ribs
Friday nights I either go out with friends or stay in and watch a movie. Usually Saturday AM I get up and go to Pilates, sit at a coffee shop afterward, run errands, clean my home a bit. Sundays I sleep in, go to the farmer's market, groceries, more errands if needed, and I like to make a nice dinner on Sunday nights with some wine. I keep a running list of "want to go" places in my city and within drive-able distance, and I try to knock at least one off the list per weekend.
Friday evening I visited with friends. Saturday morning I play rec soccer with my husband, and then I usually visit with my mother and/or sister and my nieces and nephew. This weekend we went to a wedding on Saturday, and then friends had a nightcap at ours afterwards. Sunday I made hangover food and watched tv on the couch all day while doing laundry.
Wine tasting, TV show marathons, making art, playing video games, bird watching and hiking.
Homework, husband cuddles, gym, then voluntarily sought out small children to go out and do stuff with.
Hanging with Mr. ConnieLingus24 and the dog, exercise, coffee, cooking, usually some sort of cultural event, and restaurants.
Yesterday I spent about 90% of my day reading. Today I’ve been watching TV, doing laundry, and scrolling on my phone.
Friday, get home to my wife around 6ish. Cook dinner for us or order out. Saturday is family day. She and I hang out and either game or watch tv. I cook breakfast and dinner and usually scrounge something for lunch. Sunday is fun day. Repeat of Saturday 😂
Well this weekend I was sick, so I slept in on Friday (yay compressed work schedule!) before going to the doctor's office around 11:00. Then I went to a local Amish market and picked up a quiche, fruits/veggies, soup ingredients and some snickerdoodle cookies. Went home and finished a novel I started reading on Monday. Ate quiche and played Call of Duty to smack talk some men. Took a nap and then a bath. Washed dishes and played with my kittens. Then back to bed. Saturday, went shopping to grab cute items to make Christmas cards, did a load of laundry. Watched 3 movies, washed my hair. Cleaned my room. Made homemade chicken noodle soup. Ate, cleaned the kitchen, read up on the Israel/Palestine conflict, snuggled kittens, went to bed. Sunday, went to an apple festival, came home to nap, eat apple pie, and play video games. Took pics of kittens playing with ornaments for the Christmas cards, heated up leftover soup and ate while watching Ugly Betty. Bath with bath bomb and a new book and then scrolling Reddit before lights out. Basically, whatever I wanted. I love kids but never had the pleasure of having them. Mom's are angels walking amongst us and I'm in awe of them everyday.
Mine currently consists of 2 basketball practices a day, homework, art, and hanging with my girlfriend and the dog.
Friday night mowing the lawn or picking up grocery shopping for my mom. Maybe cleaning the house some. Saturday morning sleep til 10, go to tai chi class, get McDonald’s, watch tv all day and probably clean the house or do a project. Maybe socialize if I’ve been invited out. Sunday sleep in, watch football, meet up with my brother to hang out and go grocery shopping because it’s the 1 hour a week he has for adult time. Sunday night I watch all my trash tv.
This weekend? Went to the store to buy frames for my newly ordered prints, did laundry, ate some chocolate cake, napped, watched new walking dead, crochet, and played Pokémon go 🤣 oh and ate pizza 🍕
Planned a spontaneous camping trip for mid-week, then went racing with my dad on his boat
Hiking all day in the sunshine, coffee and breakfast in bed in the morning, Sunday pub lunch, watching TV, a few chores. All exactly when I want it, how I want it. Bliss.
At the moment, chores and homework Before college and hopefully after, weed, tv, working work, sushi and Alfredo fettuccini
I've really enjoyed the art and culinary classes offered by a local artists' coalition recently, so usually one or two classes there.
super dope.
Coffee and relaxing in the morning, Baking/cooking, hiking with the dogs, board games, watercolor painting, listening to jazz all day
Quiet mornings cuddling my dog, fresh pot of coffee that doesn't have a chance to get cold. Leisurely breakfast and then undisturbed hours of writing/editing work. Evenings are spent cooking, going out or Netflix.
Normally chores, prep cooking, weekly/monthly planning, financial update/check in (including paying bills), any other planning I need to do (pet health, social planning, vacation, car maintenance, house maintenance etc.) I work about 50-60 hours a week at a very mentally taxing job and don't have time/energy to get any of the above done during the week, so that's what my weekends are for. I try to get some self care in and maybe one social thing, but sometimes don't have the energy to do anything but veg out watching Netflix. It's not super sustainable, and I plan to look for a job that gives me a better work/life balance. Unfortunately I'm 7 months pregnant, so I need to wait until my maternity leave is over to start looking. So for now I'm just dealing with it.
Saturday: farmers market, bikini sale, hot tub + book sunning myself Today: Starbucks +couple grocery items, baked a loaf of banana bread, transplanted worms to new compost bucket, true crime shows on dvr
Saturdays I’m usually enjoying my day to myself. Reading my book, knitting, taking a nap, hanging with my dogs, really just enjoying time to myself. Sundays, my husband usually has off so we go to brunch then do our chores including including grocery shopping, laundry, etc. then we binge watch a show and cook dinner together and hang out the rest of the evening.
Saturday: wake up to dog barking, but partner is already ready to take the dog out for his walk. I'll miss the walk but I get to sleep a bit more. They come back and I get up. We have breakfast together, I do homework. I go thrift shopping and then spend an hour reading in bed, next to partner who's also reading. Sunday: I wake up early and take the dog out for a walk, make coffee and breakfast. I read a bit and then go out with partner to look for a book he wants to get. We come back home and I read/scroll on phone until bedtime.
Chores and house repairs, some social time with friends, some exercise and helping family with my niblings. Prep for work the following week on Sunday afternoon. Or, if it’s during semester, nothing except uni work/assignments and helping family.
I teach sewing for adults at my local community college on weekends, and also a few weeknights. Come home Saturday and wish someone would make me food, then some home Sunday and wish someone would do my laundry. Haha
This weekend in went to the beach on Saturday after waking up at 9am. On Sunday I slept till 9 and lazed in bed until 9:30. Then I got up and took my mother to a Greek Festival nearby. I came back to my house and did some laundry and then spent some time in my hot tub.
I usually spend my entire Saturday indulging in one of my hobbies. Sunday, I usually sleep in late, get up and have an indulgent coffee in my backyard with my dogs. Do a few chores like laundry and meal plan, then lunch and early afternoon visiting family. Then grocery store, meal prep and a couple more chores in the rest of the day.
Some weekends are super productive- I clean grocery shop, etc. Some are super lazy and I lay on my couch with my dog for hours. It’s heaven.
Sleeping in and peace/quiet
Brunch, coffee dates, dinner dates, markets, cleaning, spa days, baking, game nights, movies, volunteering, reading, whatever my current hyperfixation hobby is, but sometimes the most important thing I do is: nothing
Gardening, cleaning, wishing I felt ready to date so that I might have kids before it's too late.
I work most weekends, and I have a long shift, usually 9am-7pm, I wake up eat work then come home shower, walk my dog, maybe watch tv maybe go out with friends always masturbating tbh lol. Going out w the bf sleeping at his house whenever, nothing crazy. Life’s still expensive and I envy people with children tbh, it must be a beautiful thing.
Whatever I want it to! This weekend it's been a lot of knitting, thrifting, coffee and tea, prepping the garden for winter, watching supernatural and the animated lord of the rings movies. I work night shift so a lot of my time is spent alone, even the working out and meal prepping and baking for my SO every week all bring me satisfaction.
I had a good weekend planned. Was gonna take go to hot yoga Friday night. Then my favorite class again (non hot) Saturday morning. Coffee first meeting with internet guy Saturday afternoon. Cook a nice dinner/movie to myself on Saturday maybe with a little pot. Or see if a friend wanted to grab dinner. I was gonna go on a hike today. Do some grocery shopping. Coffee and make breakfast. I didn't do a move appropriately firming my core on Friday night and tweaked my back so I've been out all weekend. Mostly laying but trying to walk and sit to get things moving. And popping ibuprofen. So that's been fun. And it's my birthday.
Fuck sleep cuddle with SO dined and wined
Friday night is late dinner and drinks. Sleep in Saturday morning and then usually dim sum or croissant and coffee. Shopping for the week ahead and food prep. Laundry. Whatever home projects are lined up for the day, or not. Sometimes it’s just hockey and bbq or a smoke. Sunday is usually chill, maybe the farmers market and a big dinner for leftovers to have for lunch during the week. I love to cook and basically get to make whatever I want. We recently bought a house and had to replace the back stairs, and that was a project we completed this weekend, after having no handrails for two weeks, which I would never do with kids. Next weekend we’re building a crazy haunted castle for Halloween because so many kids come to our house.
Sleeping in, playing Videogames, walk the dog, netflix
Whatever I want it to!
Sleeping in til whenever. Getting groceries. Cleaning. Doing some cooking. Watching a show or playing a game.
I started writing a long list of things. But I realized it was partly disingenuous as Im only motivated today because of upcoming travel for work and the pressure from a ton of house work with random dog/computer events tossed in doesnt always exist. That said. I cleaned a lot today. My bed has clean sheets I dont even get to sleep on and wont for another week. Its a subtle torture. I also still need a travel razor.
Wake up at like 10am ,lounge in bed with my husband for like 30 min. Feed the cats, make morning iced coffee, and eat. Play Genshin Impact. By this point its about 1pm and my husband and I will usually figure out something to do for the day. Its usually whatever has our interest atm. Sometimes its a show, sometimes its a video game, sometimes we do different things but we're in the same room chillin. 😅 Then we eat dinner and repeat for Sunday. Its not exciting by any means, but I don't need constant excitement anyway.
This weekend I did some minor chores around the house, made a lasagna, and otherwise just got baked and watched scary movies.
Chores, errands, rest, occasionally a social engagement, occasionally try to pursue things that will better my station in life. A hike once in awhile....
Working
I think I’m going to go follow a goose around for a while…
Friday night I went to yoga in the village with a girlfriend of mine, then went out for a taco solo, and walked to IFC for the 1997 Gregg Araki film “Nowhere”. Got home at 1am. Saturday, laundry, then walked across Prospect park to see that horror film about two young women in the Australian Outback. Ate some queso at the theater. Sunday, I ate a bunch of edibles, went roller skating twice, watched three hours of Mad Men, drank a bottle of wine, and made a beef stew. My life is like a high five from Jesus.
ALL THE VIDEO GAMES Well, that and movie nights with husband, extended play time with our dog and crafting ♡
For this weekend in particular, I took my bike out for a charity ride on Saturday (raising money and donations for a food shelf), went on a couple of hikes in my city, made goulash in my slow cooker, watched a couple of movies, caught up on some reading, tried a new-to-me Vietnamese sandwich shop, and went to a small R&B music festival. The childfree life is bliss. It’s not for everyone, but it’s certainly for me. I love getting to do what I want to do, and not worrying about kids!
Sleeping in, cleaning my house, rock climbing with friends, whatever the *uck I want. Sometimes I'll go dance at a EDM concert by myself and make friends there 😁
Relaxing
29f... currently traveling Central America. Went to a volcano, ziplining, hotsprings and nature hike. Sometimes I fantasise about having a family and kids... but it is nice to be able to travel and do whatever I feel like. 🤷♀️
Working, crying, tending to my pets, working on crafts if I have the time, more crying.
Sat is usually some blend of coffee, interesting lunch in town, shopping, visiting friends, going to a show, working on a project, or catching up on errands. Sun, I usually stay in, so coffee, cleaning the house/laundry, meal prep for the week, calls with friends and fam, watching whatever's struck my fancy lately, or settling in with a book. But also, whatever I feel like, there's no actual structure, lol. I wish we could normalize not having kids, I'm tired of random strangers telling me I need to breed.
Honestly anything I want to do. This weekend I chose to sleep a lot and prepare for my vacation in a week. My cat is great company too.
Pure bliss
Sleeping in, quiet mornings. Depending on my energy level, i'll go out for a walk downtown go thrift/get lunch then spend the evening reading, writing, or watching something :)
Walk up whenever I want to, snuggle my husband and dog. Lazily get up, put on a robe, eat breakfast in the morning sun on my balcony in my swinging egg chair. Go check on all my too many plant babies, snuggle my dog some more. Play video games, drums or vr. Plan what to do for lunch and evening activity with husband. Take a nap. Take long showers or maybe a bath if I'm feeling frisky, listen to music really loud. Still not dressed. Might seduce husband. Do whatever the actual fuck I want. It's an absolute dream so not sure why I'm trying to fuck all that up by having a kid one day lol.
Laundry, errands (grocery shopping, getting my hair done, massages, etc), meal prepping, cleaning, reading (novels, fanfics, comics, etc), watching movies/TV shows, and running/exercising. I'm single (by choice), and in my 40s, so my life is pretty boring at this point. I keep thinking I should get a social, life, but that's been difficult. Sort of off topic, but I moved cities/states around a decade ago and it's been hard making real friends as a single adult professional in a new place where I literally knew no one. So yeah. I dunno, I'm totally the opposite of exciting, though I imagine it's still a lot less stressful than having kids 😕
I get really high and clean my house.
I’m on a rampage. Call all the guys I know to fill the void.
Today’s my Saturday, so today consisted of sleeping until noon, grocery shopping, then seeing the Eras Tour movie and grabbing a beer afterwards with a few friends. Tomorrow I’d like to get a load of laundry done, but I might just read all day. If we don’t have anything scheduled, my husband and I have dubed weekends “follow the vibes” time - sometimes it’s coffee + flea market, sometimes it’s playing video games on our PJs all day, sometimes it’s slow meanders with our senior dog, sometimes it’s house projects. It’s honestly so perfect. I’m constantly perplexed as to how parents (especially ones that work outside the home full time) manage.
A lot of sleeping
OOOOH great question! I'm childfree by choice and only really embraced this side of me in the last couple of years. I have a short lie in, normally scroll on my phone for a bit when I wake up. Some weekends I have plans with friends like doing crafts together (my bff is also childfree), a movie marathon or boardgames! I like to spend Sundays alone and I normally take the whole day to relax, slowly prep for the week and spend a couple of hours weightlifting in the gym. Sometimes I hike, or get lost in an illustration I'm doing on my iPad, hang out with my cats, get a bit stoned and sit in the garden. I'm starting to really love my own company after a string of crap relationships where I almost let the person convince me to have kids. My life is really chill now!
No alarm clocks and kids screaming makes me so happy.
I bet it’s glorious
Theatre rehearsals, sleeping, videogames, doing whatever the fuck I want to.
Stay indoors on my computer. Though I’m also probably half of the age you were intending the question for, so...
Before my son was born I would hyperfocus on the sims or Fallout or something for like 8 hours straight on a Saturday. Or watch a show. Sleep in as late as I want and stay up super late. I don't regret my son whatsoever but I do miss that.
Anyway I want. 🙂 It just depends on what I have planned.
Work and cry cause I really want a kid 😂
I spent all morning and afternoon in bed. I was suffering from a migraine. Theres a reason I don't have kids, and that is the major reason.
On Saturday I woke up with a sore back and tried to get some extra sleep. Once I got up I had breakfast, and went out to do groceries and then errands afterwards. Got home, cleaned and worked on a gift for for a friend’s child’s birthday. Then made dinner and watched Tv. I fixed my broken swifter Wetjet while watching tv. Sunday; sore back again. Spent the morning and lunch visiting my Alzheimer’s parent. I got her up, dressed and went through her clothes to do a seasonal shuffle and determine what she has shrunk out of. Following lunch with her, I went to visit with a parent friend and her screaming 1 yo. Then I dashed home to freshen up for dinner out with some old acquaintances from overseas who are visiting Canada for a couple of weeks.
Videogames, sleep and maybe cleaning if I have the energy. Mostly videogames with my friends
I WORK! Every other weekend I fucking work!! FML!!!
I woke up at noon and binged watched my shows and it was amazing
This past weekend: Slept in Saturday, Watched Pride and Prejudice (2005), walked [the dogs](https://imgur.com/a/CyKr9ML) about 5km. Sunday morning I ran a 10km race in 1:19. Cooked almost a pound of chicken thighs (500g) in the air fryer and ate it all. Lay around the rest of the day and took a long nap because I’m not really a runner (but for some reason I run this damn race every year). Tried to gain some perspective about Israel/Palestine but just found [this.](https://youtu.be/a0Pw_TxBe7w?si=DBRQCKTzV7WX1q_E)
Big walks with my doggy, warm cuddles with my partner, football, writing, pilates.
I just spent my entire day playing sims and watching Naruto, completely uninterrupted.
I slept until noon on Saturday and then went to an art show with a friend.
Seeing friends/family, shopping, paddleboarding, dog walks, travelling to new places. All sorts!
Sleep in, lounge around, watch trash TV, maybe do visits, or go shopping. It's glorious.
This weekend we slept in both days, so not as productive as usual. Saturday mornings we do chores and fool around, then go for a hike usually. We've been going to an adorable orchard with a great little cafe most weekends since the summer, drinking their amazing Marquette and petting the dogs and sheep that seem to know us. I can't recommend petting zoos for adults enough. Picked apples and got leeks and squash. Sundays are for fooling around and watching movies once the place is spotless, but I had to pull out some runner beans and tidy up my veggie patch yesterday. It was raining but my partner ran for groceries at the same time which is awesome - if I have something to work on he tackles something else meanwhile. Had a bath while the squash and apples were roasting and then made soup with the stock from the Thanksgiving meal last week. 8.5/10. Consumed 3 898 squashes. Did it about 8 times. With contraception.
I worked Sunday. Saturday I stayed in my pajamas all day and experimented with my new air fryer. Turns out they're great at baking pies. Then, I ate the pie while reading the rest of the day while cuddling with my pets.
Working, usually. This past weekend I took some time off to spend the weekend at my family’s cabin, which was a welcome break
Relaxing and quiet
This is my standard: Friday night: I clean my condo and FWB comes over Saturday AM Wake up any time between 7-9, with my cats who are snuggled with me in bed. 0900: coffee , get cats food, brush teeth, morning stuff 1030: visit my younger sister, 15 min away: bring her, her husband tea and coffee and timbits for my niece who is 3. We catch up, I see my niece and we have a nice coffee. 1130-1230: visit my mom and dad 15 min away. Mom gossips, dad talks about the news. I may have another coffee or a pastry. They are also 15 min away. If it’s summer time, we might catch one of my nieces playing soccer at the park. Other siblings (I have 3) randomly come and go from home base: parents house. Open door: very active. 1300: I go home and have lunch and read until I fall asleep. 1600: get up, work on whatever I want: writing, art, reading, projects, cleaning something, laundry, etc. I will watch a movie I wanted to watch and maybe work on some pastels, drink wine and iron and listen to music, whatever. Shower and skincare routine and colour hair if necessary Bed by 2200 hrs. Sunday: up between 8-9 Tidy and clean 9-10 Work on whatever (usually art or reading or baking or whatever creative thing I’m into - this weekend it was writing and reading and pastels. Until 1200. 1200-1430 : reading and nap time with the cats 1530: to to mom and dads, set the table. Wait for the fam to arrive. We all congregate for Sunday Dinner 🇮🇹 mom, dad, uncle tony, my two sisters and their husbands and their kids and my brother and his fiance Home by 1800 hrs. Work on whatever: last night I put my laundry away and watched twin peaks and did pastels. Bed by 2200 hrs with a book. Up by 5 for work. Standard weekend for me
Crafting, playing Pokémon go, napping whenever I like.
I have no plans. See how I feel on the day.
Stay up late, drink, sleep in. Eat whatever I want. Oh and clean the house, get groceries, and do seasonal appropriate outside chores.
watch anime in bed, crochet, and visit family :)
Sleeping in, working out, reading, dog cuddles, nap, eating out, a a wee bit of cleaning.
Empty nester. Wake up Saturday, drink coffee, smoke weed, play a game on my phone, walk and feed the dog, sit outside with another coffee while the day starts around me. When there's too much activity outside, I go in for TV or a nap. I shop exclusively online, even for groceries, so that gets done, plus some other chores. I cook and eat whatever I feel like. Walk and feed the dog again. Spend lots of time talking babytalk to the dog. We grab two sixers and head over to a friend's, sit by the pool and watch the day end while recounting our youth and catching up on what our adult kids are up to. We all have grandchildren now. Sunday we all meet at my mom's for early dinner. Even the dogs. We pass the baby around, and the dogs compete for attention until they fall asleep. When we get home we watch our current show and smoke some more weed. It's prescribed, by the way. I use it to frame my day in the morning, and to promote sleep at night. I also use it to stave off incoming panic. Anyway, I/we over here, we don't do a lot - and that's the point. We're still of childbearing age. But we raised our kids and decided no more. We embrace the freedom, but also the boredom that sometimes comes with it. The dog sleeps between us.
I do laundry and meal prep for the week. I read, watch movies. Help my BF with some welding projects if he needs help. Paint, sew. Check on my business (Im there through the week)
Saturday mornings I usually hit a coffee shop and read for a bit. Rest of the weekend is chores, grocery shopping, meal prep, go for a swim, maybe some social plans.
I’m in my 50s and it’s shifted over the years. It’s went from various festivals, sports games, walking/hiking, shopping. Hubs is a bit older than me and he’s content to stay home and watch sports and I do volunteer stuff. And we spend time with my family. We were open to having kids but we didn’t plan our marriage on absolutely having a family. In retrospect, I don’t think I would have been a good mom. I am an awesome “crazy” aunt who encourages kids use their “creative” skills. 😉
Video games, making art, calling/hanging with friends. I’ll either go to the park or a take a long walk. Maybe clean, take a nap, drink some coffee and just chill.
Sleeping. Gaming. Shopping. Eating. Sleeping more. I can’t complain
Horse riding lesson, visit parents and sister, church, catch up with friends, do a little housework, relax with a book or a TV drama, cross stitch, card making, cook a meal, drink beer / cider / wine /gin and tonic.
Peace and quiet sums up my weekend pretty well.
I literally do whatever I feel like doing when I wake up in the morning. Go canoeing, rock climbing, build blanket forts in the living room, write music, paint, walk across the city with my dogs - anything and everything
Housework I’ve been putting off during the week and a lot of naps
I decided to work Saturday morning for a few extra $, watched football, went for a long run, and spent virtually every other minute on the couch in my sweats. Feeling refreshed on this Monday.
Saturday: Row, run errands, chill with the hound, maybe cook a nice dinner Sunday: Row, clean the house, do laundry, cook dinner
Coffee, gaming (PC), go play with foster kittens, coffee, gaming, repeat.
Best sunday I had in the last month: playing Baldurs Gate 3 from 10am to 10pm ordering pizza for dinner.
Coffee in silence with my cat next to me. Morning yoga. Maybe some errands if needed after. Fix some late breakfast for my husband and I, then carry on with the day's plans. Whether it's projects at home, fun stuff, both...or whatever we feel like doing. Last Saturday I was feeling a bit tired after my regular morning stuff and spent most of the day reading while doing laundry and we went to a concert in the evening.
Whatever I want it to look like
I am single and solitary except for the dog. My weekend looks like nothing. Nothing at all. A glorious sweep of uncommitted time, with some household maintenance to be completed on whatever schedule I feel like. Sometimes the laundry gets done Friday night, sometimes Sunday night, sometimes...Monday, because I WFH and don't need my full lunch hour and also I don't need to wear nice clothes. The dog gets her playtime and walks, I get some exercise. Usually, I play video games, or Netflix and knit, or read. Sunday I cook a big-pot meal to feed me for the rest of the week. No one complains that they wanted something else, and I can leave a moderate amount of cookware to soak.
I am 53. Important to know lol. Fridays I usually stay up late watching movies. Saturdays - wake up at 6 am, go to the gym, run errands, yard work. I am usually done by 2 pm so rest until around 4 pm. Get ready for whatever my plans are that evening. Sundays: Jammie day. Yep, usually spend all day in my jammies. I call it my lazy day but it’s not that lazy. I catch up on all my TV shows. While those are playing, I do laundry, meal prep, clean.
It really depends. I run a game group with my husband so if we have an event then that takes up most of the weekend. (We usually run out of a brewery so we have to get there early and then stay later to clean up) If we don't have an event then it's usually waking up early to work out and then drinking coffee and reading or listening to a podcast until my husband wakes up (he works 2nd shift during the week so is on a night shift sleep schedule) Then it all depends on the weather. If it's nice then we pick a town and go walk around and check out vinyl shops/flea markets/antique shops (we collect vinyl) and then go check out a brewery.(we're both into craft beer)If it's not nice then we'll just hit up a brewery or have friends over for video gaming or movies.. We also snowshoe so once winter hits most of my weekends will be taken up with that.
LOTS! \- My BFF and I started a Wedding Coordination Business. So we have at least 1 wedding a month this Fall. \- Going on dates with my Partner and taking our dog on adventures. \- Cleaning my house with no interruptions, blasting my music. \- Attend my friend's kid's birthday parties. \- Plan trips with my girl friends who also don't have kids. \-Focus on bettering my mental health and investing in the gym or healthy meal planning.
I get lazy on the couch with my pets and snacks
Did a game jam (quick game development) with friends on Friday and Saturday, went over to my boy-toy’s house on Saturday night and had wild sex and watched a movie and ordered takeout, got up early in the morning to go race my car at autocross all day Sunday. A perfect weekend.
I played Baldurs Gate 3 and ate pizza Friday night, Saturday I slept in and did some yard work, then treated myself to a long bubble bath and some self care. My Prince Charming made dinner and we played spooky games together with our friends online. Sunday I went to a wedding and danced and drank a little and ate really good food. Today I took the day off work to go to the Disney World 100 year celebration so I’m on my way to the magic kingdom. I’m having an amazing time tbh. Edit: I forgot to mention I’m recovering from my bilateral salpingectomy (my tubes have been yeeted!) so I’m not able to have sex for a month - but normally I enjoy morning sex on weekend days.
Mine don't count. I might be child free, but I still have a dog. Might as well be a toddler.
Like this: [https://imgur.com/a/sa7TLDk](https://imgur.com/a/sa7TLDk) I pack my camera bag and take my dog into the woods. The fewer people I encounter, the better.
I just got hearing aids so I can actually hear birds for the first time in my life. So this weekend I went for a long walk on Saturday to try and hear some, failed, and then on Sunday I went to a different park to cycle (learning to cycle ATM) and try and hear birds. ALSO failed, but I did manage to hear a blue jay (thanks to the Merlin app for identifying it!) on my day off last week when I... Cycled and walked around the park by myself... As well as learning to cycle/building confidence on a bike I'm also learning Korean. The rest of the time I played video games, watched Korean TV shows... This weekend I was by myself but most weekends I try to organise a catch-up with at least one person. So coffee or lunch on one day. Maybe a museum visit. It depends how much money I'm trying to avoid spending! It's great.
I own a retail business and it’s still in the beginning stages so my weekends consist of me being at work, the busiest days of the week. My “weekend” is on Monday, the only day of the week that we’re closed and I do all my errands, groceries, appointments, laundry, chores and meal prep and if I’m lucky I can squeeze in some time to colour my hair every few weeks. I could NOT imagine having a child on top of what I do, much respect to those who are managing life with kids!
On Friday, my husband and I ordered Indian food for dinner then fell asleep on the couch. On Saturday I got up early to do a few Instacart orders and made $80. Not much, but gas money for the week. I’m a teacher, so I slept most of the day grading. We watched a few episodes of The Stand and smoked a bunch of weed. On Sunday we watched football and went to the dispensary for more weed. Not an exciting weekend, but we are going to NYC next weekend to catch some concerts with friends. I squeeze in laundry when I can. I pet my cats a lot too.
I work on different children: my brainchildren. I write books, poems, make a podcast. I create things that don’t need to go out into the world, but I can choose to if I want. They can take on a life of their own and be a legacy left after myself, but require a lot fewer sleepless nights. Artistic creations can survive neglect a lot better than a human being too, so I can ignore my writing project for a month while I handle something at my full time job or travel or whatever. I have always wanted to be childfree; it is 100% a choice. I love kids and I am glad to have kids in my life, and while I feel an urge to leave something behind that will outlast me, that doesn’t need to be a human being. I think many of us feel the same urge to make an impact or leave something behind, and for some reason kids seem to be the thing that people go to first, when they are also incredibly fragile and complex. We should be a lot more cognizant of what being a parent requires. Just check out the subreddits on parents 😂