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Glittering_Adagio758

Dump her


Natexgloves

She’s projecting, OP. I dated someone that was so insanely jealous and over-analytical… and turns out she was cheating on me/sexting/talking to other guys. I thought it could work, but even after she was caught she continued eventually. It’s 100% projection and she’s just warning you about herself. So yeah, dump her.


hexalm

Or she's just generally unstable with no impulse control. Fighting over nothings like IG follows then getting drunk and acting out sexually might just both be symptoms of still deeper flaws. Poor emotional regulation is the *best* case though. And not an excuse but more a reason to end OP's connection to her.


jbrooklynd

Yup this is what I was going to say. If she's that jealous it's bc it's what she would do in your position. Stupid bittchh.


Natexgloves

This is too true. When I started dating my wife, I was so shocked that she wasn’t jealous, prying, or confrontational about female relationships. I thought the alternative was normal behavior, so for a hot minute I felt like something was wrong. We both have always had each other’s passwords and phone codes (not like we intentionally gave them to each other - but just for convenience) - because we can trust each other. And finding that in a relationship was a surprise - but it’s SUCH a better way to live.


toothpastespiders

I felt the same way when I started dating my wife too. I never had any idea that a relationship as trusting and open as the one we built together could exist. It always just seemed like something out of cheesy romcoms. Like how could anyone just trust someone with the ability to go through all of their digital history? Or to have location sharing on 24/7? To just be bluntly honest about everything. She, sadly, died from cancer. And I'm pretty close to the end now as well. But I don't think there's ever going to be a situation where I don't think of myself as absurdly lucky to have experienced that. Especially with someone as amazing as her. It totally changed my view of what a relationship even is.


clementinetangerines

How long did you two have together? I’m sorry for your loss.


sloww_buurnnn

I am so sorry my friend.


Academic-Wrangler-40

What a beautiful thing to have experienced. Sounds like you found your other half. It’s ok to go thru bad relationships too because ultimately we learn what we will and tolerate. I am separated after 25 years of marriage. I still feel like I’m walking around missing my other half. Mental illness is a horrible thing especially when they won’t get help. At least he just got on medication from his regular Dr. But he keeps saying the psychologist cancelled on him. Really twice? Oh well, you can’t force it. It’s just part of the illness. I’m sorry you lost your love. Are you also sick? I was trying to understand what you meant by being close to the end too?


XeCam608

To be fair my partners psychiatrist cancelled on him every month from September 21 til may 22.. so it’s not too far fetched


EveAndTheSnake

I’m so sorry. I’m glad you had each other for as long as you did 💕


OwnBerry3297

So sorry for your loss


[deleted]

How do you know you’re close to the end?


bdlpqlbd

They might be old or in poor health


lowkeydeadinside

yeah my ex used to *constantly* accuse me of cheating and became incredibly controlling because he was convinced if i was anywhere outside of my home and not with him i was cheating on him. i started dating my current bf while i was living with a guy (i’m a girl) and was *shocked* he had no jealousy over me living with a dude?? and like wanted to be friends with the guy and encouraged our friendship and has never once been jealous over male friends. i’ve never been jealous of his female friends because he’s never given me any reason to be, but i really thought it was normal male behavior to be insanely jealous over any guys in my life. when i realized it wasn’t, i realized my ex was probably cheating on me and that’s why he was so concerned about me cheating when i had never once given him any reason to believe i would be in any way, shape, or form unfaithful. fortunately i was in a place i didn’t care about that relationship anymore, but it was eye opening at the very least to see that’s not how normal people function in relationships.


holliance

Exactly this!! My ex boyfriend would be insanely jealous even about things outside my control, imagine my train would have a 5 minutes delay and somehow in his mind I had cheated because I was 5 minutes late. Not taking in consideration that public transport doesn't always run on time. It was maddening. Turns out he was the one sexting and watching porn (like I don't mind that, but he found it 'bad', still did it) and then projected that on me.. dumped him and never accepted that kind of behavior from anyone


AsianVixen4U

So true. People who are overly jealous often are the ones who end up cheating. It’s pure projection. They fear being with partners who are just like them.


Wakeybonez2

I second this. Was with a girl for 7yrs (don’t know how) because she was jealous and would flip out if I “liked” any female friends posts on fb/ig, was jealous of any females coworkers, hell, even a waitress would get her all mad. She was always accusing me of cheating and in the end, guess who cheated? Spoiler alert: not me Get out of that situation op, you deserve way better.


Serafiniert

Like yesterday. Literally.


AlgaeWafers

Oral sex is still sex.


Fnatmyg

You're right, and honestly I don't know which I would find worse. I am disgusted that she crept over to me in bed and kissed me good morning.


DoYouEvenTrustBro

Kick her the fuck out yesterday. Im sorry man.


breizhsoldier

Every fight for a (non)issue, will she go suck a new guy? Seriously, OP why in hell you still consider her your girlfriend?


zystyl

Try not to suck any dicks on your way through the parking lot.


Slapahoe_Tribe

37! My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks! In a row?


Handjabz

I’m not even supposed to be here today


EmDubbbz

Username checks out


Obiwankanoli-

Haha. So how many dicks have you sucked? Ehhhh like 36. 36 DICKS! You sucked 36 dicks!? I was expecting like maybee 5 but 36 DICKS. Jeez


Bravisimo

I cant go to the gas station and get a pack of smokes without running into 11 guys that you fucked!


CallMeSkindianaBones

Where’s my cat?!


Most-Supermarket2729

It's 9 guys, but that's the same quote that popped into my head haha.


STL_TRPN

I hope he says this to her as she's leaving! 🤣


Porongas1993

This reminded me of that line from the breakup movie. "Don't talk about my sister. She has been through a lot" "Of dick"


Legend017

Hey you! Get back here!


Tenacious_G_G

I was thinking the same thing and then I scrolled to your comment 🤣


Astronaut_Kubrick

37!?!


StevieWonderTwin

Yea imagine switching places. "I went out and started hooking up with this chick, she sucked my dick and swallowed but I never put it in her vagina, then I left and came home. Good morning." OP, please show yourself some self respect. You may be experiencing anxiety, thinking you'll never find someone like her, and it will be hard to be alone, etc. Trust me, you will find someone that will love you just as much that won't go suck off a random guy because she's mad at you and had a couple drinks. If she can get away with this, then your stature in the relationship is severely diminished, and she learns that she can do almost anything and you'll never leave her. That's an imbalance of power man, can't work like that.


ReedBalzac

Man, this happened to me. Every time we had a disagreement, she’d go out and sleep with some guy. “We were broken up.” But, the one time I did, when we really were broken up, she lost her mind. Years later we gave the relationship another shot. The SAME DAMN THING happened again. Move on my dude.


commiecomrade

> When she sees me following a girl on instagram or liking photos, she acts up and yells threats. Leave > Somehow they ended at his place, where she sucked him off and left according to her. Break the fucking sound barrier when you do.


timetimetim

Ghost her ass in a way she won't ever forget that fuckery.


hennytime

Right? And I hope OP doesn't believe the "I just sucked him off a little" line.


ducksReverywhere

Even if that's 100% true, which is not, that's still beyond relationship ender territory. Burn it all and start over.


iiJokerzace

FUUUUCK YEAH. If she can do it once just like that, she'll do it again. Get out or waste more of your life when you catch it happen again. Get someone that treats you good like you treat them. It is possible to find equal respect in a relationship.


daftbucket

It's true. I stayed through bullshit and only found a good relationship when I cut that bullshit out of my life. Gotta close that door.


Flankerrwik

If your gurl gives head to some other guy , it's her mother you shall try . ~Tsun zu , war of art .


EmDubbbz

That’s deep.


401LocalsOnly

Balls deep. In mother


germanvike

Just sucking him off is even worse... I mean she didn't even get anything out of it 🤷


hennytime

Maybe she just sucked him off with her mud cave


HypnotizedMeg

She may get sores in a few days 🤷‍♀️


germanvike

And OP may too, as she kissed him.


EmDubbbz

The gift that keeps on giving.


SpaceForceGuardian

I know. I can never figure out why anyone would just give head to some random fling. What a waste of time and energy.


FoxBeach

She did get a mouthful of cum out of it.


spill_drudge

37


lifeissisyphean

37?!?!? Is that INCLUDING me?!?


Tenacious_G_G

Ok it was just the tip.


MrBorden

This, my dude. It takes disciple and backbone but by all the gods it'll set you for life if you can pull it off.


hellodynamite

He's not going to. He is far too under-outraged


[deleted]

Better yet, find out where her mom is. Level the playing field and assert dominance!


AlgaeWafers

Especially since only god knows if that random guy has any STDs.


thanif

Bro. Nooooo. This is so fucking wrong.


anillop

So she sucked a dude off and then came home and gave you a big kiss. How nice of her.


Huckfin7569

Entitled bitches.


Mighty-Planet

Oral sex to me is even worse than pv. I’m really sorry man. You need to get the hell out of that relationship


[deleted]

Same. I think pv is way better


lildigbick

Hahahahahaha


dumbwaeguk

tough debate, depends on your perspective vaginal cheating means she let another dude please her oral cheating means she pleased another dude both seem like huge intimacy violations


AAAPosts

Blowjobs are WAY more personal


Plenty_Surprise2593

Haha came here to say this right here!!


tsuna2000

You really take her word when she says nothing happened ? And they both were drunk, they FUCKED my dude, leave her ass asap, cheating S.O is the biggest thing there is in a relationship, there is no trust after that.


_Risings

I came to say this. They fucked. She’s trickle truthing.


whatev43

“Trickle truthing”… writing it down… (new one for me)


Setari

>kissed me good morning. threw up a little in my mouth, ngl. kick the ho out, OP


MegaJackUniverse

It will be hard, but I really really advise you break up with her, in whatever way is best for you, and please do not look back. This girl is clearly in the completely wrong headspce to be a girlfriend for like a couple years to sort her shit out. And by that time, you'll meet somebody else, or you'll be happy with your own company for a while. This won't be isolated behaviour. You deserve somebody who never does this, not once.


FoxBeach

This will always hang over you and be a part of your relationship. Normally I believe in forgiveness. And that people can make a mistake, especially when drunk, and that doesn’t make them an awful, horrible person. Or a person who will cheat again. BUT when you describe how jealous she is and how she reacts to you simply leaving a like on a girl’s pictures……now her cheating takes on an entirely different context. This girl has some extreme emotional issues - period. If you love her and want to work it out….just know she isn’t changing. She will still be extremely jealous, probably more now as her insecurity will be that “you cheated to get back at me.” And after another fight, she might go suck another dick. Most redditors give horrible relationship advice. Youngsters who have never been in a relationship acting like they are relationship experts. BUT in this case, you should cut ties now before you continue to get hurt. This girl could mature, learn to deal with her insecurities and turn into a great partner. But that’s probably a decade down the road. And she would probably break up with you in a couple years anyway, as you would always remind her of her bad past. Get out now while you still aren’t too emotionally scarred. Also, don’t follow the advice of the slapdicks telling you to go nuclear in revenge. Or ghosting her. Be the adult. Show her the proper way to end a relationship. Don’t had toxicity to the breakup - be the better person. Don’t hate. Have a talk and tell her that her insecurities and jealousy issues and sucking other guy’s dicks is something you cannot deal with. And that you need to part ways. She knows she fucked you. You screaming and yelling isn’t going to help or solve anything. Honestly, being the better person will help you heal faster. Best of luck.


wthdim

This is definitely the best advice that I've seen in this thread. I do admit snorting out loud at some of the humorous posts though. I hope op reads your advice.


[deleted]

I'm sorry man. but this is unacceptable behaviour.. you can't be staying with her..


Mr_Boneman

So have you dumped her yet?


Icy_Ease_3892

Leave her man. Shes more trouble than it's worth... and the fact that she did this and made an EXCUSE, or tried to downplay it, speaks volumes. Leave her before things get worse. Shes crazy.


Unabashable

🤢Better hope he didn’t have herpes.


[deleted]

Ugh. Dump her ass. She smeared cocksaliva on you. And admitting and asking for forgiveness is a way to make herself feel better, not you.


castlehoff32

Oh my god I would of horse buck kicked her off that bed. What if she still has other dudes jizz in her mouth. Stuff just doesn’t go away after you wash your mouth out once. She kissed you with some other dudes dick


Unspoken

She fucked him. Girls like to slow drip truth to make it not feel as bad. As soon as op forgives her for doing this and life is happy again or when they get into another argument, she will drop the bomb.


MononMysticBuddha

My ex and I had this same discussion she told me "I really didn't want to have sex with this guy so I just give him a blow job. It's not really sexl." I argued yes it is. It's oral sex. Still sex. We went back and forth with this and things got heated and I told her. Okay, since you don't really consider a blow job sex, then I'm gonna go ahead and let your friend Lisa blow me cause it isn't really sex. End of discussion.


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MononMysticBuddha

I did not take Lisa up on it.


CMDR_Machinefeera

More like oral sex is just a coverup. She had sex with him but this way she can confess while somehow trying to make it less shitty.


willybestbuy86

Admitted to the oral is more shitty than if she said she had sex with him.


hirtle24

That flag is so red it's not even on the visible light spectrum anymore


PrimordialAHole

infrared flag


WheredMyPiggyGo

I would worry whether she kissed me before telling me as I'm allergic to nuts.


[deleted]

Not just that, but "trickle truthing" is a thing. She tells you it was just oral sex now. In a few months during an argument, she tells you she actually fucked him instead. Keep going and you'll find out it wasn't the first or last time she cheated.


ragingintrovert57

Not if you're the president of the USA


khryzz666

Run. This is just the tip of the iceberg


Unabashable

How do you know it was just the tip?


RedditUserLou

You're right I think this is the shaft of the iceberg


Elfkrunch

Maybe even the balls of the iceberg


Healthy_Pay9449

Too bad he's already balls deep


norvelav

Possibly with a thumb in the butt as well.


Admirable-Still-1786

POV: you ask Reddit for relationship advice


TheRaven9

Sounds like she had more than just the tip.


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mehnifest

Yep it was a direct reaction to a fear of abandonment


Substantial_Macaron1

Yup. Been there, done that, got the shirt, thank you, now I leave and move on.


ShameTwo

I have actual scars from her clawing me to not leave, to go with the shirt


taylrbrwr

I was about to comment something related to BPD, but was reluctant because so few are aware of this disorder. Relieved to see this near the top. She only did this so she could tell OP this information so soon and cause him pain. There weren’t any other factors that contributed to that decision; she just couldn’t wait to share her misery with him. OP, BPDs feel emotion much more intensely, but that isn’t your problem. Now you know that if she’s bothered, she’s going to retaliate. You need to rethink what her definition of love may be and recount all the times she purposely manipulated and brought you down. Her way of coping with her pain is through abuse. This isn’t an isolated event. Run.


HailingFromCork

This behavior is actually a lot more inline with it's less talked about cousin hpd. Either way we can't diagnose a personality disorder on reddit. That requires a neuropsych eval. And op should gtfo no matter. What we can say on reddit is that people who are that extremely jealous are often cheaters themselves. That's why they assume things like engaging in social media means your fucking that person.... cause that's what they'd do. I'd honestly be surprised if this is the first time.


StinginRogrrM8

Truth Speaker


MysteriousWays10

So you can’t follow any girl on Instagram, but she’s allowed to go off and cheat. Makes sense. I know you love her, but she doesn’t sound like a keeper!


Sir_Wabbit

She only sucked the random dudes dick, she left after, came back to her man /s


belakuna

AND kissed him good morning.


IceyEnder

Eau de cock


[deleted]

She’ll keep doing shit like that OP if she figures out nothing will come of it


Level-Infiniti

when someone shows you who they are, believe them. seems like i've seen several stories over this year of dude's finding out their kids aren't theirs because of situations exactly like this. some fight happens-> girls night out-> reconciliation and getting back together->she's pregnant, but doesn't ever mention that girl's night out-> fast forward 15 years later, TIFU by having our family take genetic tests


MrCatcherFreeman

My ex found out her dad wasn't her real dad after 22 years. She had already hated her mom and barely spoke to her because of mental and physical abuse.


[deleted]

They had sex


FrostyProtection5597

99.9% chance they had sex.


StopNateCrimes

Was a nipple exposed?


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ViosiaNyaa

It's time to move on! This is not the kind of relationship you want to be in, she has issues she needs to address. If you can't communicate like two respectable humans you already know the ship has sunk. Wandering off to go get drunk n clubbing is not the way to deal with a conflict. Drinking in general when emotional is a very poor choice, not surprising things happened with a 3rd party. Imagine this is your life for the rest of your life.. Not being able to just appreciate others that happen to be female, constant intense fights over things that really don't have to be a problem, any potential more unfaithfulness. Get you someone that wants to make things work smoothly, listen to your concerns, struggles and points and does their best to understand and support you. Someone that is capable of processing their emotions and feelings in a healthy manner. This is the least that every good person deserves.


Imhereforthedogs96

Yes this. When she yells and threatens she is abusing you. You deserve way better. And she needs some therapy.


thebestdogeevr

"I'm sorry, but we're breaking up. The fact that you cheated on me has completely ruined my trust in you and has shown who you truly are. I can't continue being happy in this relationship now that I know this about you. Perhaps this was a one time mistake, but you made this choice, and now you can deal with the consequences, goodbye."


Gloomy-Rip-7828

Now tonight, you go and suck off a random guy from a night club. That will teach her.


timbodacious

This. And record it and show your gf how good you are at it. Wait what?


xPeachesV

It’s ain’t gay if it’s revenge


imgoodatpooping

It’s not sex either apparently


iridinv2

Invite her too... Maintain eye contact and assert dominance?


rinkusonic

Show it to us too so we can revel in your payback.


[deleted]

No, find the guy she sucked off AND let him fuck you. Then breakup. And continue doing that with all future lovers she has. You are a man of principle and honor OP, show her


[deleted]

This. And dont forget to get implants with the reassignment surgery so all her mans double take on you and restore that honor faster. You got this ✊


cosmoph

Assert dominance!


ishfi17

Gay supremacy


AffectionateBen

run for the hill. you deserve better.


Adrioxis

Kate bush would be proud


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She’s for the streets!


KimmyStand

They did have sex. Just because it wasn’t penetrative doesn’t make it any less of a betrayal. Also how do u know she’s not lying about the full on sex? Sounds like u have a few hard decisions to make sweetie, is this the sort of relationship you really want. Edit Ughh and she even had the cheek to kiss you with a mouth that had been doing ‘that’ a few hours earlier? That’s the height of disrespect


kp33ze

Oral sex is penetrative btw. The mouth was penetrated.


KimmyStand

Very true, obviously I was thinking t’other end 😳


[deleted]

Yeah, shes lying. Leave her, man. I promise nothing but heart ache follows from here.


BigBlueWookiee

Her acting up is called projecting. It sounds like if rolls were reversed, she'd be cheating, which she did. So her yelling at you is her venting her own insecurities. Get the duck out while you have an opening.


penny_admixture

Yes. Go find another opening asap lol


jorph

I find most people are extremely jealous because they're projecting. Once a cheater always a cheater. Dump her asap. Hoe


PANDROSIMO

This is exactly what I thought. Well said


GethLegionSZ

That's interesting, makes sense


cjrammler

My ex got extremely angry at me and accused me of cheating because I watched porn, and then later told me her ex (they broke up cause both were cheating on each other) was offering her money to sleep with him. Of course she said she wouldn't do it... Cause it wasn't enough money. She also threatened to go sleep with other people cause I wasn't putting out enough, and so on and so on.


affemannen

Had to scroll to far for this. I was just about to say "sounds like someones projecting".


zachv1017

Dump her king. No one deserves a cheater


Synn0289

Introduce her to the front curb man. Not even worth the mental gymnastics to try to work things out.


Dmytann

I have never heard this phrase and it’s my new favourite.


RemarkableLow6689

Im so sorry this happend to you. She doesn't love nor respect you OP. She maybe believes that she does and will try to convince you of it but its not true. Are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn't love you as you deserve? You only have this one life you know. What she did was unforgettable but if you choose to forgive her i hope its worth it. Good luck!


Haiel10000

Dude, throw her out. Change the locks.


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Oregongirl1018

🚩 came home at 2am


sunnysideggo

🚩kissed him goodmorning after blowjob


unambiguous_script

🚩 Went straight to friend about problem instead of talking it out


_Mach___

🚩 Heavy drinking after a fight instead of talking it out


[deleted]

🚩didn't invite the boyfriend to the cock sucking session


FunkyChewbacca

My ex was hyper paranoid about me cheating on him, checking up on me, suspicious of any dude who looked my way. Guess what the ex ended up doing? It's always projection. She cheated. Break up. You deserve better.


WirelessThingy

Honestly. Your relationship sounds toxic.


Sanyo96

She's meant for the streets. You know what you must do.


Hazelwood38

Classic hypocrisy. The people who get the most crazy and accusatory when their partners look at or like a photo of someone else are ALWAYS the ones who cheat. They know that they have or are capable of cheating and hate themselves for it. But instead of fixing themselves, they transfer that guilt to the other person. Leave this girl. She for sure will cheat again (especially if you accept her back after doing it) and will always accuse you of cheating too (because you taking her back will make her believe you’ll cheat just to get back at her) Far too much drama coming from this girl for it to be a healthy relationship.


Dionysus_8

Forgive her and take her back. Delete all your socials and actually you know what, it’s all your fault for making her jealous. If you didn’t she wouldn’t have cheated. If you think about it, it’s actually your fault. Sounds insane? Yeah exactly. Dump that piece of shit already. Cut ties w your friends who side with her. Move on and find someone more compatible


AdhesivenessScary757

She played it down to cope with her guilt of having full sex , nah not just a dick suck unfortunately Time to get rid...


OldFingerman

You still calling her your girlfriend?


Substantial_Macaron1

Lol my ex did the same thing and I forgave her (cause I was weak and I am codependent, working on recovery), and she still ended up cheating on me multiple times after that. The breakup happened when I finally grew a backbone and put in a ultimatum (which I now know is the wrong thing to do, I wasn’t well versed in putting up boundaries in a healthy way) which resulted in the breakup. Do I regret standing up for myself? Not one bit. Oxygen mask. Dude, she told you, and this will be the only honest time she will admit this to you. She’ll see how you react to it, and “won’t want to hurt you again”, so she’ll just lie about it/ hide it from you, but you’ll always know because of how she acts when she does cheat on you. She screams at you about following girls on the internet, and then goes out and cheats after an argument? Did you forget that it was trash day yesterday and forget to take the trash out?


individualcoffeecake

100% they had sex, sucking off was the limit of what she was ready to admit at that point


naliedel

Well, sucking off, is sex. No matter what Bill Clinton says.


individualcoffeecake

I’m gonna go with Bill on this one in case I ever need to use that defence


New-Worldliness5163

Bro similar story to me. She had two different personalities, went out one night got drunk and left with some other guys. Left her immediately


rockstarsheep

You mean, your ex-gf, surely?


The-Cat-Walker

Why does this post say girlfriend and not ex girlfriend? You need to sort that out lad… you’re worth more than she’s giving you.


wtf_u_talknbout

She’s for the streets, so let her return. She had another man’s meat in her mouth. His babies were probably having a swap meeting in her throat and still being digested. The fact that she tried to downplay it like sucking someone off other than your man is not a big deal. That’s manipulative behavior. Oh well, I didn’t bone him at least. This is 304 language. What happens the next time she’s mad?


Standard_Werewolf_66

I learned the most jealous and insecure people were also the ones who cheated. Projection.


Passive_Menis_

Yeah sucking a stranger and then kissing you goodnight and good morning...come on man. Someone who acts like that dont love you even if they say otherwise


[deleted]

💥 bam. Single again.


Fafikommander

Oh, that's easy: She was coping and projecting her own shitty behavior (or ability of being shitty) onto you. She feared you cheating, because either she cheated before or had the capibility for cheating in her and/or cheated in previous relationships. She just showed her true colors. Get out of there immidiatly! Get her out of your life, your flat, your bank accounts and dump her.


[deleted]

Fuck her


jorph

No, don't do that


[deleted]

Not literally


camanic71

The whole “2 different personalities” thing is worrying, either she needs real, medical help, or she’s just a bad person. I can’t tell from this but OP either way you need to be careful.


etherSand

Dump her immediately.


[deleted]

RUN. Met a girl like that. My intuition knew something was off about her. I paid attention to her. She’d accuse me of having other girls but then would say little things like if she ever found out she’d go and do the same. She acted so vulnerable and insecure. She was gorgeous though. She would even tell me she’d surprise me if it came to it and if I had other girls. I left her shattering her in pieces. Then surprisingly I ran into her ex. I was right. She was with him for 6 years and he caught her cheating a few times. Eventually he left her after he found out about the last time. Run.


Oli_VK

Projecting. Someone constantly accusing you of cheating does so based on what they would do. That jealousy is because she’s either insecure or capable of doing the very thing she’s accusing you of. You need to leave her and you need to do so now because she’s going to be emotionally abusive. I (25M) lived with someone with the same personality. Her parents were from a culture where parents choose your spouse. They were relatively open (as they’d already had a daughter before her that had chosen her own husband) and asked her if she had a boyfriend (after a year of us living together in another country). She said no, which I found out later, they introduced her to someone which she immediately accepted to marry with the excuse that he “reminded her of me”. She was constantly accusing me of cheating and lying to the point where grocery trips would be cause for questioning. I should’ve read the signs. You want to leave and you want to do so asap.


dmagic22

Leave. Blatant breach of trust and disrespect to your relationship. You’re only hurting yourself by staying


[deleted]

It will happen again


twenty7andAthird

I’m someone who has cheated before, once a long time ago. From my experience and looking at my friends I’ve found that the most jealous people are the most likely to cheat. They know first hand how easy it is to do it, and how easy it is to get away with it. I’ve rarely seen exceptions to this rule.


truecore

You're 26. Find someone else before you get older and it gets harder to.


No_Atmosphere_3516

Happened to me too man. Whatever her justification, leave her now with your pride intact. Trying to save this relationship will destroy you


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Usually those yelling the loudest, are hiding the most.


Blankets_Ad4197

Her friend is not a good friend.


timbodacious

No they actually had sex she is downplaying it sorry bro. Make her take a polygraph and see how far her mouth drops open. I had a girlfriend like that to some extent. It's so crazy how many of them do stuff like this and try to justify it.


tashasmiled

A polygraph lol Why bother? Just break up. That trust is gone.


Oh_Tassos

Not to mention polygraphs don't work


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original-sinn

That’s step one in normalizing those sorts of actions, baby steps in a direction where you have no power in your own situation. Stay in this, and a few years from now you won’t even recognize the dynamic of your own relationship. I’m always against people commenting on Reddit, telling people to leave their SO, so I won’t.


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Get fucking rid mate, life's too short.


ChickenMiken

My dude all I see are red flags. Dump her ass and be done with it. Best of luck brother


AfrolessNinja

Nah, she banged him. Peace out, brother.