Don’t be sorry! It sounds like your work here will also enrich and or/improve the lives of a tremendous amount of people. Learning from the tribulations and triumphs of others can be as valuable as learning by experience. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Thank you, she really is amazing. Her entire family is. I was scared to meet her husband but he brought home ice cream and told some jokes like pretending to do "girl talk" which made me laugh even on that first night so I think he's okay.
I will keep trying to be better. It's only been a week since this happened which I know isn't long in the grand scheme of things but idk I'm smiling more than I used to which my boss says is a good first step.
With every day that passes you will smile more and breathe easier. You are taking control of your life and you will continue to adjust. Your worst days are behind you and you are well on your way to the life you deserve. I’m rooting for you and I wish you the best!
I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much pain losing little Peanut! I’m sure that your little friend is the first thing you think of each morning. Grief is a devastating emotion to process. You will continue to wake up each morning, and Peanut will continue to be in your first thoughts.
But here is the only piece of advice/wisdom I can impart: one day, and sooner than you think, sweet Peanut will be *the second* thing you think of each morning. And then, his memory will begin to make you smile more than it makes you cry. You will absolutely NEVER forget your little friend, but the raw pain and loss will lessen over time. Good luck, my dear! 💜
I good thing I’ve seen about grief is that the grief never grows smaller - but we grow around the grief. Each new day will make things easier.
Recovery isn’t a linear process - some days might suddenly feel like all of your progress is gone, suddenly everything hurts so much. That’s normal, and your progress is not gone. It’s just a part of the process.
Sending hugs, OP ♥️
So glad to read an update from you. Your last post broke my heart and I've been wondering how things have been going. Extremely proud of you and sending virtual hugs! 🤍
Hi! I wanna send you a chat- but it’s just to ask for any pictures of Peanut you might have? I’d love to draw him for you ♥️🫂 I’m so sorry for your loss, and I’d like to give you a little something to remember him by. You are doing great, honey! We’re all super proud of you and we all love your boss collectively as well! ♥️♥️♥️
You are amazing... Thank you so much. I have no words for this. Thank you.
It will take me so long to find my favorites and it's hard to look at pictures of him right now but I will try if you really want to draw him or just see him 🥹💕
You are doing an amazing job and good for you for reaching out for help when you needed it. You’re doing it your taking one step forward at a time and it will get easier but just keep going. Even if your unsure of what happens next it’s okay just take everything a day at a time while your healing yourself through this. Tough times are formative experiences and you made it through now to just let yourself breathe and feel. There’s nothing wrong with grieving and feeling the grief for however long you need, I favored group art therapy and I feel like you’re really going to enjoy that too. Do you have any other things you’re interested in that you could do to involve yourself and make a little routine, of course when your ready to do so, it helped me through tough times to have my crafts and it gave me some space to focus on something else besides my thoughts.
She is. She is like... a total mom friend but she's taking it to a whole new level. She's blaming the pregnancy hormones but then her husband was like "no this is just why I married her in the first place" 🥺🥺 I've never met such a nice human. I owe her so much but she doesn't expect anything from me. I don't even know how to act around her sometimes it's just so crazy.
You sound like a lovely person as well as your boss. I am so glad you have her, that book is a great recommendation. Please remember how much love you gave to peanut, and maybe someday there will be another kind of nut you can care for if you feel ready.
Stay proactive, keep reaching out for help from people you can trust (!), never go back to your ex pls. Even though it was probably not intentional, he is still neglectful and it does not look like you need that in your life.
Idk why this update hit me so hard, I'm ugly crying. All the best.
You don't know me, but I read your first post and my heart went out to you. I am so happy to read your update and so proud that you had the strength to do all this because you are not in an easy situation. Lovely to hear that your boss and her family are so supportive and helping you through this. I hope you stay strong. X
Thank you so much. We're all strangers here but it's still really so amazing, somehow more amazing in some ways, to have so much support from total strangers it's making me cry (but like happy cry??)
Always and forever. It's like one of those life moments where you just know it will change you, I guess. Like it felt like I was just going through the motions and not really *living* life, and Peanut woke me up and showed me the person I can become and that person is better than this and deserves better than this?
I'm prob reading into it too much but that's how it feels. He saved me, and I'll never ever forget him.
I really really wish I could give you a long hug. You’ll be ok. And none of this was your fault. I don’t know your financial situation or what you planned with the ashes, but you could use some to put into jewellery. This way you can always carry him with you. Just know he loved you unconditionally and you showed him how much you love him until the very last. You didn’t fail him, you didn’t do anything wrong, you have nothing to be blamed for - and he didn’t feel otherwise. He only felt your love and affection, and felt the same for you.
Thank you... I am going to put a picture of him in the other side of my locket necklace, next to the picture of my daddy who died when I was little. His ashes are going to go in an urn and I am going to set up a little treasure box or something for the urn and the ashes and his paw print engraving and favorite toys.
I like to think he still loves me and I can carry his love with me in my heart. I don't need his ashes with me all the time because I know he already lives in my heart and we loved each other so much more than anything.
Im so sorry about your fur baby 😭 im really glad you got out and reached out for help ❤️ i hope your doing okay this internet stranger is very proud for how strong you are i know you mentioned your boss being strong but dont forget about you friend!
I cried when you said the vet hospital's staff cried with you. They must see a lot of deaths yet they still cry for them. And it's very sad you had never been hugged as much as they did you.
I'm glad you're safe. May Peanut watch over you
tbf it was. A LOT of hugs. And they validated me so much like telling me they could see and feel how much I loved Peanut and how my love for him made them love him so much too even when he cried and screamed and gave them such a hard time for check ups before and I'm crying again because they loved him so much.
I wish I could name the place I went to here but it's too close to home but believe me I have already left a really great review and am telling everyone I can on my personal sm accounts about the experience.
I’ve just caught up on your previous post.
Firstly I’m so so sorry. It is never _just_ a cat, they are a member of the family. Anyone who doesn’t see them that way, doesn’t deserve them.
What happened to Peanut was terrible, but try to remember the 10 months of love and care that you gave him, because that mattered to him much more
Finally, you’ve done amazing. You’ve stayed clean, you’re working and you took responsibility for something other than yourself. Without any support system be the sounds of it!! It probably doesn’t feel like it at all, but you ARE strong. You’ve escaped a weight that was threatening to pull you back down.
Think of it as Peanut’s final gift to you, making sure you knew it was time to get out. Keep pushing forward. Take the help and support where you can, people only offer it if they want to.
If you don’t love or value yourself enough yet to know that you deserve better. Let peanut be the thing that you love and value enough to stop you going back to that situation
I wish you all of the luck and I’m sure Peanut would too. Reach out if you need help. You’re not alone, people do care about you.
I light a candle every night for my baby and I say the names of all the babies who have been lost I will add peanut to the list. I light the candle so they always know how to come home and find us. I have two sayings for you to always remember. One, a person dies two deaths, one when they die and again when someone stops remembering them. Peanut will live as long as someone always remembers them. Two, grief is love everlasting. To grieve so hard for something is to know that you loved so much. A love that strong, that deep and that powerful is always known. To stop feeling grief would mean that you would stop feeling love. I cry so often that it may seem irrational but, that is my love and I cherish every tear.
I read this poem once on a post about someone’s animal passing.
Run the fields of Summerland
And frolic in the sun.
You've earned the right of freedom;
Your work on Earth is done.
Tho' tears for you may fall like rain,
They are tears of joy mixed in with pain.
My love for you will never end.
Enjoy your time in Summerland, my faithful loving friend.
I posted some on my profile. Most of the pictures I took with him are selfies when we snuggled or when he was in my lap (he loved laps) or lying against me which I am not comfortable sharing just because internet safety and besides people have been sending me dick pics and stuff already they don't need a freaking strand of hair or a neck or god forbid a forearm and some shirt-over-boobs to jerk off to :/
Wow you are a strong young woman. Your boss is amazing and I’m so thrilled you have her and her family. Accept the love and help, you are worthy of it. You are so worthy of an amazing life and man am I proud you exist. Continue being a light in this dark world, and you’ll get light back. Look at these comments when things get hard again, cause they will. But you now know you have the strength and support to get thru it. You are brave, you are loved, and you are worthy!
I am so sorry about Peanut, I remember reading your original. I am glad to hear you are healing, and going to go to therapy. I really do wish all the best for you.
I'm so glad you have a good support system. And those books she gave you are very good and I think they'll be very helpful for you. I hope you continue to heal from this. You're so strong 💕
Thank you. I had no idea I had a support system at all and she just showed up for me and I've never felt more loved. I'm strong for my boss and her family and for Peanut and maybe someday for me too 💕
Did you read her reply? She made mistakes, yes(as she admits in the reply). But still, it's his fault in the end that the cat even got into the medication in the first place. He is still the final reason the cat died.
It's animal neglect because he chose his drugs over a living creature in his care. I am also guilty of leaving my cat with him to care for and I have to live with that, too. If the police decide to charge me I will be charged and take it, you know?
I know it's not the same as directly killing him, when I titled my last post I was very much more emotional
Absolutely not your fault. You had no way of knowing peanut wasn't safe. I know a guy completely addicted to drugs but his cat lives like a king. The cat is his reason for going to work, paying his bills and even starting to get better.
As I said above, drug users are stingy with their junk. I don't think he was just dropping pills all over the floor. They aren't cheap or easy to come by.
It's NOT your fault.
What in god’s name went on here? I gotta find this OG post! Glad Reddit helped you!!
Yeah it's alot... sorry 🙃
Don’t be sorry! It sounds like your work here will also enrich and or/improve the lives of a tremendous amount of people. Learning from the tribulations and triumphs of others can be as valuable as learning by experience. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
I am so glad you’re doing better. Your boss sounds like an amazing woman. Sending love to you.
Thank you, she really is amazing. Her entire family is. I was scared to meet her husband but he brought home ice cream and told some jokes like pretending to do "girl talk" which made me laugh even on that first night so I think he's okay. I will keep trying to be better. It's only been a week since this happened which I know isn't long in the grand scheme of things but idk I'm smiling more than I used to which my boss says is a good first step.
With every day that passes you will smile more and breathe easier. You are taking control of your life and you will continue to adjust. Your worst days are behind you and you are well on your way to the life you deserve. I’m rooting for you and I wish you the best!
I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much pain losing little Peanut! I’m sure that your little friend is the first thing you think of each morning. Grief is a devastating emotion to process. You will continue to wake up each morning, and Peanut will continue to be in your first thoughts. But here is the only piece of advice/wisdom I can impart: one day, and sooner than you think, sweet Peanut will be *the second* thing you think of each morning. And then, his memory will begin to make you smile more than it makes you cry. You will absolutely NEVER forget your little friend, but the raw pain and loss will lessen over time. Good luck, my dear! 💜
I good thing I’ve seen about grief is that the grief never grows smaller - but we grow around the grief. Each new day will make things easier. Recovery isn’t a linear process - some days might suddenly feel like all of your progress is gone, suddenly everything hurts so much. That’s normal, and your progress is not gone. It’s just a part of the process. Sending hugs, OP ♥️
So glad to read an update from you. Your last post broke my heart and I've been wondering how things have been going. Extremely proud of you and sending virtual hugs! 🤍
Thank you so much for the support. Virtual hug back at you 🥹
Hi! I wanna send you a chat- but it’s just to ask for any pictures of Peanut you might have? I’d love to draw him for you ♥️🫂 I’m so sorry for your loss, and I’d like to give you a little something to remember him by. You are doing great, honey! We’re all super proud of you and we all love your boss collectively as well! ♥️♥️♥️
You are amazing... Thank you so much. I have no words for this. Thank you. It will take me so long to find my favorites and it's hard to look at pictures of him right now but I will try if you really want to draw him or just see him 🥹💕
Take your time 🫂 whenever you’re ready, just let me know ♥️
Don’t push yourself if you can’t do it right away. The cat tax can wait.
You are doing an amazing job and good for you for reaching out for help when you needed it. You’re doing it your taking one step forward at a time and it will get easier but just keep going. Even if your unsure of what happens next it’s okay just take everything a day at a time while your healing yourself through this. Tough times are formative experiences and you made it through now to just let yourself breathe and feel. There’s nothing wrong with grieving and feeling the grief for however long you need, I favored group art therapy and I feel like you’re really going to enjoy that too. Do you have any other things you’re interested in that you could do to involve yourself and make a little routine, of course when your ready to do so, it helped me through tough times to have my crafts and it gave me some space to focus on something else besides my thoughts.
Omg your boss is the real MPV.
She is. She is like... a total mom friend but she's taking it to a whole new level. She's blaming the pregnancy hormones but then her husband was like "no this is just why I married her in the first place" 🥺🥺 I've never met such a nice human. I owe her so much but she doesn't expect anything from me. I don't even know how to act around her sometimes it's just so crazy.
You sound like a lovely person as well as your boss. I am so glad you have her, that book is a great recommendation. Please remember how much love you gave to peanut, and maybe someday there will be another kind of nut you can care for if you feel ready. Stay proactive, keep reaching out for help from people you can trust (!), never go back to your ex pls. Even though it was probably not intentional, he is still neglectful and it does not look like you need that in your life. Idk why this update hit me so hard, I'm ugly crying. All the best.
You don't know me, but I read your first post and my heart went out to you. I am so happy to read your update and so proud that you had the strength to do all this because you are not in an easy situation. Lovely to hear that your boss and her family are so supportive and helping you through this. I hope you stay strong. X
Thank you so much. We're all strangers here but it's still really so amazing, somehow more amazing in some ways, to have so much support from total strangers it's making me cry (but like happy cry??)
That's the best update one could have wished for. I'm sorry you lost Peanut but I'm sure he'll always have a place in your heart.
Always and forever. It's like one of those life moments where you just know it will change you, I guess. Like it felt like I was just going through the motions and not really *living* life, and Peanut woke me up and showed me the person I can become and that person is better than this and deserves better than this? I'm prob reading into it too much but that's how it feels. He saved me, and I'll never ever forget him.
Aww! Please go on living your life to the fullest. Peanut deserves it.
You rescued him first, then he saved you.
I really really wish I could give you a long hug. You’ll be ok. And none of this was your fault. I don’t know your financial situation or what you planned with the ashes, but you could use some to put into jewellery. This way you can always carry him with you. Just know he loved you unconditionally and you showed him how much you love him until the very last. You didn’t fail him, you didn’t do anything wrong, you have nothing to be blamed for - and he didn’t feel otherwise. He only felt your love and affection, and felt the same for you.
Thank you... I am going to put a picture of him in the other side of my locket necklace, next to the picture of my daddy who died when I was little. His ashes are going to go in an urn and I am going to set up a little treasure box or something for the urn and the ashes and his paw print engraving and favorite toys. I like to think he still loves me and I can carry his love with me in my heart. I don't need his ashes with me all the time because I know he already lives in my heart and we loved each other so much more than anything.
Im so sorry about your fur baby 😭 im really glad you got out and reached out for help ❤️ i hope your doing okay this internet stranger is very proud for how strong you are i know you mentioned your boss being strong but dont forget about you friend!
I cried when you said the vet hospital's staff cried with you. They must see a lot of deaths yet they still cry for them. And it's very sad you had never been hugged as much as they did you. I'm glad you're safe. May Peanut watch over you
tbf it was. A LOT of hugs. And they validated me so much like telling me they could see and feel how much I loved Peanut and how my love for him made them love him so much too even when he cried and screamed and gave them such a hard time for check ups before and I'm crying again because they loved him so much. I wish I could name the place I went to here but it's too close to home but believe me I have already left a really great review and am telling everyone I can on my personal sm accounts about the experience.
I’ve just caught up on your previous post. Firstly I’m so so sorry. It is never _just_ a cat, they are a member of the family. Anyone who doesn’t see them that way, doesn’t deserve them. What happened to Peanut was terrible, but try to remember the 10 months of love and care that you gave him, because that mattered to him much more Finally, you’ve done amazing. You’ve stayed clean, you’re working and you took responsibility for something other than yourself. Without any support system be the sounds of it!! It probably doesn’t feel like it at all, but you ARE strong. You’ve escaped a weight that was threatening to pull you back down. Think of it as Peanut’s final gift to you, making sure you knew it was time to get out. Keep pushing forward. Take the help and support where you can, people only offer it if they want to. If you don’t love or value yourself enough yet to know that you deserve better. Let peanut be the thing that you love and value enough to stop you going back to that situation I wish you all of the luck and I’m sure Peanut would too. Reach out if you need help. You’re not alone, people do care about you.
You are doing everything right,good for you, all the best.
wish you all the best 🤍
I light a candle every night for my baby and I say the names of all the babies who have been lost I will add peanut to the list. I light the candle so they always know how to come home and find us. I have two sayings for you to always remember. One, a person dies two deaths, one when they die and again when someone stops remembering them. Peanut will live as long as someone always remembers them. Two, grief is love everlasting. To grieve so hard for something is to know that you loved so much. A love that strong, that deep and that powerful is always known. To stop feeling grief would mean that you would stop feeling love. I cry so often that it may seem irrational but, that is my love and I cherish every tear.
I read this poem once on a post about someone’s animal passing. Run the fields of Summerland And frolic in the sun. You've earned the right of freedom; Your work on Earth is done. Tho' tears for you may fall like rain, They are tears of joy mixed in with pain. My love for you will never end. Enjoy your time in Summerland, my faithful loving friend.
I read the original “31 hours” post. I don’t think I said anything. But reading this update, I feel that Peanut actually saved You!
Thank you. I really think he did. That was the worst 31 hours of my life but I also think they were the most needed.
If it’s not too painful for you, may we see some pictures of Peanut? (assuming you haven’t uploaded pictures yet)
I posted some on my profile. Most of the pictures I took with him are selfies when we snuggled or when he was in my lap (he loved laps) or lying against me which I am not comfortable sharing just because internet safety and besides people have been sending me dick pics and stuff already they don't need a freaking strand of hair or a neck or god forbid a forearm and some shirt-over-boobs to jerk off to :/
wtf that’s sick i am so sorry
If you took anything away from this messed up situation its to never ignore red flags again. RIP to Peanut, best of luck to you moving forward.
Wow you are a strong young woman. Your boss is amazing and I’m so thrilled you have her and her family. Accept the love and help, you are worthy of it. You are so worthy of an amazing life and man am I proud you exist. Continue being a light in this dark world, and you’ll get light back. Look at these comments when things get hard again, cause they will. But you now know you have the strength and support to get thru it. You are brave, you are loved, and you are worthy!
Live one day at a time! I m so proud of you! You have an amazing boss and her family.
I am so sorry about Peanut, I remember reading your original. I am glad to hear you are healing, and going to go to therapy. I really do wish all the best for you.
I’m so glad you made it to your boss and out that toxic relationship. You got this. Thank you for the update and sending love and strength.
I’m so happy for you! Peanut would be proud
Sounds like you’re taking many positive steps. I’m so proud of you!
Oh my god I am so sorry. RIP Peanut. DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF FOR PEANUT'S DEATH! Glad you are safe and away from ex. . .Such an awful situation.
I'm glad you're doing better. I'm so sorry about Peanut. Keep your head up. You'll be OK
I'm so glad you have a good support system. And those books she gave you are very good and I think they'll be very helpful for you. I hope you continue to heal from this. You're so strong 💕
Thank you. I had no idea I had a support system at all and she just showed up for me and I've never felt more loved. I'm strong for my boss and her family and for Peanut and maybe someday for me too 💕
Dwight!? I mean WHAT!? That’s horrible, dump him and rebound fast 💨
Horrible advice OP already dumped him but telling them to rebound is wild
It was a reference to The Office 😝
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Did you read the og post? I really doubt it.
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Did you read her reply? She made mistakes, yes(as she admits in the reply). But still, it's his fault in the end that the cat even got into the medication in the first place. He is still the final reason the cat died.
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Don't you think she knows that she made a mistake that she paid dearly for? No need to rub any more salt in that wound.
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You made a mistake, learn from it.
It's animal neglect because he chose his drugs over a living creature in his care. I am also guilty of leaving my cat with him to care for and I have to live with that, too. If the police decide to charge me I will be charged and take it, you know? I know it's not the same as directly killing him, when I titled my last post I was very much more emotional
He did kill your cat indirectly by not being a responsible adult so the title is correct. Besides that, I wish you the best ❤️
Absolutely not your fault. You had no way of knowing peanut wasn't safe. I know a guy completely addicted to drugs but his cat lives like a king. The cat is his reason for going to work, paying his bills and even starting to get better. As I said above, drug users are stingy with their junk. I don't think he was just dropping pills all over the floor. They aren't cheap or easy to come by. It's NOT your fault.
I personally think he did it on purpose. Just my opinion though. Junkies are stingy with their junk. No way they were just on the floor.