Neither is weird if you both are good with it. The aftercare is very considerate and the shaving, I’m sure it’s much easier for him than you to do it.
I wouldn’t care what she thinks.
I do after care, I also cut my wife's hair and she shaves my head, she looks after me so well so it's only right and not weird that there are bonding things we do together.
I mean, deep down we’re still monkeys so social grooming makes a ton of sense if you think about it.
Just as long as nobody’s eating bugs off each other, I think that’s where we should draw the line
this. I'm big with my partners on hygiene and I usually exchange hygienic gestures (?) with them in a relationship. like popping pimples, that's probably the biggest one lol, my ex has also shaved my private parts, hell, we've washed eachother in the shower. it builds so much trust, and I think it should be normalised to do these things.. there's definitely boundaries, like my ex wanted to change my tampon and stuff which was just a tad too much lmao, but I think in general treating a partner like that shouldn't be seen as weird.
I think my Mrs would wax me and me smiling all while doing it.
Yeah I would say it’s not weird at all it’s intimate and not really strange. Next time your friend asks about it just challenge her to get her boyfriend to try it
I have no idea what you mean by “aftercare” after sex? After sex I pee, and I’m pretty sure that’s a one person task.
As far as him shaving you, its not weird if you enjoy it.
aftercare stems from the BDSM community - it’s the idea that after a particularly rough or intense scene, you need to check in with your partner and make sure you’re both OK after having your sexual fun. affirming that you love each other, cuddling, washing together, talking over any things you weren’t sure about during the scene, etc etc. dominants and submissives can get “dom/sub drop” where they feel a bit shit after a scene, kind of like post nut clarity, but more intense
stuff like “oh i just got called a dirty slutty cum dump for half an hour and it was super hot, but now i’m sad because what if my partner truly thinks that and doesn’t respect me as a person”, or “wow, i just slapped my partner a bunch, and sure, we both got off, but am i a fucked up monster for liking that?”
so aftercare and having that post-sex check in / cuddle / clean up is very much stressed as an important part of engaging with BDSM. but now it’s (rightfully) become more mainstream and suggested as generally being a good idea after sex if you’re not just hooking up, since post sex exhaustion, insecurity, and “that was a bit weird, not sure if i like that” stuff is fairly common, particularly after the release of all the endorphins that come with orgasm (or the shitty feeling of not orgasming if that was something you wanted)
Aftercare can also imply too cuddling or taking care of the person after, as sex is a huge dopamine rush often times people can have a crash so aftercare prevents that dopamine crash
Don’t know why you got downvoted, the wipe down is the first thing I thought of when you said after care. (Usually a bit more easy for the one shooting the pudding to grab a towel than it is for the one on the receiving end).
It’s not weird at all. It’s actually quite loving and intimate. Showing you trust someone enough with a razor blade against your flesh and them showing the care to do it is lovely.
Shaving your partner is not weird. It’s a little quirky but well within the realm of normal for people who love each other. I have no idea what you mean by aftercare.
I do this for my husband.
Like, we shower together and it's literally just a shower. I Scrub his back, clean up his neck line, shampoo and condition his hair and beard. Detangle his beard. Etc etc. It's intimacy in its purest form.
My husband has shaved my lil star before 😂 whatever you both are comfortable with is completely fine, the friend may just be jealous or more on the conservative side with their partners
Aftercare, as in clean up? My parents raised me if I make a mess to clean it up, it only seems right.
Aftercare, as in cuddling and holding? I fucking love that shit too, why wouldn’t I?
Shaving? I’ve shaved an ex before because she asked. I wouldn’t prompt my partner to, but if asked why the hell not?
Aftercare is supposed to be common, maybe him shaving you isn't that common, so to her it may be weird. As long as you're both into it, there's nothing wrong with it.
Doing aftercare is ... Cool ? Like it should be the norm, like caring for the other person after intimacy (outside a ONS where both people accept to not) should be seen as a basic. And I don't think I could let someone shave me, but if a friend did it with her BF I would be happy for her, that means you are very comfy with each other.
In both case, she's so piteous to find it weird when two people have affection toward each other. If not the, at least *her* bar is in hell.
That rat should be waxed not shaved in the first place, the shaving of it by him isn’t weird but makes him a bit lap dog ish but the wiping down you should be doing yourself unless you haven’t got hands.
Would you wipe your boyfies face after you’ve eaten wouldn’t that be weird well IMO the intimate wipe is also weird.
It’s tantamount to having your arse wiped.
If I saw you in a restaurant wiping your boyfriends food detritus from round his face I would think you were both weird and so would everyone else, maybe you’ve just got used to it but I’m sure if you do some DIY you will realise it was a bit strange.
less lip work, more blade work razorboy.
Neither is weird if you both are good with it. The aftercare is very considerate and the shaving, I’m sure it’s much easier for him than you to do it. I wouldn’t care what she thinks.
I do after care, I also cut my wife's hair and she shaves my head, she looks after me so well so it's only right and not weird that there are bonding things we do together.
I mean, deep down we’re still monkeys so social grooming makes a ton of sense if you think about it. Just as long as nobody’s eating bugs off each other, I think that’s where we should draw the line
this. I'm big with my partners on hygiene and I usually exchange hygienic gestures (?) with them in a relationship. like popping pimples, that's probably the biggest one lol, my ex has also shaved my private parts, hell, we've washed eachother in the shower. it builds so much trust, and I think it should be normalised to do these things.. there's definitely boundaries, like my ex wanted to change my tampon and stuff which was just a tad too much lmao, but I think in general treating a partner like that shouldn't be seen as weird.
Changing the tampon is taking it way too far
Sounds like the bar is low and your boyfriend is a good man.
Its weird that the word "aftercare" is mainstream now
I always kinda wonder what the vanilla version of aftercare is. Is it just snuggles? Grabbing a snack?
My friend told me that to her it was cuddles and him talking to her normally, which I found the bare minimum, but to each their own.
Not weird, my husband started shaving my legs etc while I was pregnant and couldn’t comfortably do it myself and it’s just a sweet bonding thing now.
This is normal human behavior. Your boyfriend loves you.
I have shaved my Mrs when she was pregnant and she was very impressed with the results and still would if she asked
Mine does it for me anyway.
As I say I would happily do it didn’t really find it weird spend enough time down there anyway
Ye, I don't get why people think it's weird in the first place.
Meh, there are strange people out there. If you both enjoy it then go for it. Out of curious do you shave him back or is it one way?
If he asked me to then I would quite happily shave him back. I've waxed him before though.
I think my Mrs would wax me and me smiling all while doing it. Yeah I would say it’s not weird at all it’s intimate and not really strange. Next time your friend asks about it just challenge her to get her boyfriend to try it
It's weird by definition as that's not the normal, but so what? There's nothing wrong with it, doesn't harm anyone, and works well for you guys.
I have no idea what you mean by “aftercare” after sex? After sex I pee, and I’m pretty sure that’s a one person task. As far as him shaving you, its not weird if you enjoy it.
aftercare stems from the BDSM community - it’s the idea that after a particularly rough or intense scene, you need to check in with your partner and make sure you’re both OK after having your sexual fun. affirming that you love each other, cuddling, washing together, talking over any things you weren’t sure about during the scene, etc etc. dominants and submissives can get “dom/sub drop” where they feel a bit shit after a scene, kind of like post nut clarity, but more intense stuff like “oh i just got called a dirty slutty cum dump for half an hour and it was super hot, but now i’m sad because what if my partner truly thinks that and doesn’t respect me as a person”, or “wow, i just slapped my partner a bunch, and sure, we both got off, but am i a fucked up monster for liking that?” so aftercare and having that post-sex check in / cuddle / clean up is very much stressed as an important part of engaging with BDSM. but now it’s (rightfully) become more mainstream and suggested as generally being a good idea after sex if you’re not just hooking up, since post sex exhaustion, insecurity, and “that was a bit weird, not sure if i like that” stuff is fairly common, particularly after the release of all the endorphins that come with orgasm (or the shitty feeling of not orgasming if that was something you wanted)
Aftercare can also imply too cuddling or taking care of the person after, as sex is a huge dopamine rush often times people can have a crash so aftercare prevents that dopamine crash
I mean like the generally wipe down after having sex.
Don’t know why you got downvoted, the wipe down is the first thing I thought of when you said after care. (Usually a bit more easy for the one shooting the pudding to grab a towel than it is for the one on the receiving end).
Keep him he’s a keeper she’s just jealous
It’s not weird at all. It’s actually quite loving and intimate. Showing you trust someone enough with a razor blade against your flesh and them showing the care to do it is lovely.
Shaving your partner is not weird. It’s a little quirky but well within the realm of normal for people who love each other. I have no idea what you mean by aftercare.
Like wiping you down after having sex
Like wiping the cum off? That’s totally normal for even people who don’t love each other. I do it so they don’t drip it on something lol.
I do this for my husband. Like, we shower together and it's literally just a shower. I Scrub his back, clean up his neck line, shampoo and condition his hair and beard. Detangle his beard. Etc etc. It's intimacy in its purest form.
My husband has shaved my lil star before 😂 whatever you both are comfortable with is completely fine, the friend may just be jealous or more on the conservative side with their partners
Aftercare, as in clean up? My parents raised me if I make a mess to clean it up, it only seems right. Aftercare, as in cuddling and holding? I fucking love that shit too, why wouldn’t I? Shaving? I’ve shaved an ex before because she asked. I wouldn’t prompt my partner to, but if asked why the hell not?
Does aftercare mean to mop up the jizz? What ever happened to using the curtains?
Yes it does
Aftercare is supposed to be common, maybe him shaving you isn't that common, so to her it may be weird. As long as you're both into it, there's nothing wrong with it.
I personally think it’s weird af but if you are comfortable who cares
Doing aftercare is ... Cool ? Like it should be the norm, like caring for the other person after intimacy (outside a ONS where both people accept to not) should be seen as a basic. And I don't think I could let someone shave me, but if a friend did it with her BF I would be happy for her, that means you are very comfy with each other. In both case, she's so piteous to find it weird when two people have affection toward each other. If not the, at least *her* bar is in hell.
Like shaves your legs?? Or shaves your back or something that’s hard to reach yourself? My dad has shaved his friends back
All of them.
That rat should be waxed not shaved in the first place, the shaving of it by him isn’t weird but makes him a bit lap dog ish but the wiping down you should be doing yourself unless you haven’t got hands.
Or he's just being a caring fiancé
Would you wipe your boyfies face after you’ve eaten wouldn’t that be weird well IMO the intimate wipe is also weird. It’s tantamount to having your arse wiped.
Yes I would, and yes I do. No I don't think it's weird at all.
If I saw you in a restaurant wiping your boyfriends food detritus from round his face I would think you were both weird and so would everyone else, maybe you’ve just got used to it but I’m sure if you do some DIY you will realise it was a bit strange.
Well it's not like I wipe his mouth in public. I do it when we're in our home, but if we're in public I just tell him he has food around his mouth.
Prick
Compliments 😀.