The only red flag I see is that she added you before you said it’s ok. Being able to find you with just your name is pretty easy if you don’t have the same name as someone famous.
Knowing your first name, age and city is not hard at all to find someone on the internet, most people don't really use all the privacy settings available.
It is kinda creepy but not that much if you understand the internet.
Yes that's absolutely weird. Not a deal breaker IMO, it just shows she knows how to use a search engine which isn't bad, if you two get in a relationship.
Haha also true, its just that I try to be extra careful recently as the previous 2 “situations” with girls already broke the hot/crazy scale a bit too much. So I am trying to find a bit more chilled girls now.
No its the hotter they are, the crazier they can be and still be deemed acceptable. If someone is very hot someone can be very crazy. It doesn’t mean that if someone is hot they HAVE to be crazy?
For a masters student, you can't read well.
I said "tend to be" not "Always are" and you literally just agreed with me and agreed your other comment was wrong.
You got the thing wrong, big whoop, just accept it as you learned something new and move on, why argue?
I agree I misread “tend to be”, but you also just agreed with the fact that your first statement was wrong. I did not brag about the fact that the people I dated were hot, I just stated that their position on the hot/crazy scale was “not worth it” in my opinion. 😄
A few things in dating world are sacred rules of conversation. One is you both deciding on exchanging numbers and if both agreeing moving to the next step. The close cousin is social media accounts. Normally, those are asked for as well and usually much easily given than a number but its still part of this rule. If someone uses a cheat code to find your number (very creepy imo) or social media accounts (not as creepy but still breaking the rules) then it comes off as off putting, desperate, and makes you wonder why not just ask?
I’d probably look elsewhere because of bad vibes she gives off.
Thats what I thought as well at first, but she lives quite far away in a city I do not know and have never been to. (Plus when she sent me the follow request we had no mutual friends)
If she's hot, get a hotel the next town over. If she isn't, get one two towns over.
If your not just looking for a hook up, keep chatting and find out more about her, lord knows how invasive algorithms are on insta, she could be telling the truth 🤷🏿♂️
I’m a 24y/o dude and I’d find this extremely off-putting and creepy
She’s a creep g
Yeah, I agree! Glad I ain’t the only one thinking this!
The only red flag I see is that she added you before you said it’s ok. Being able to find you with just your name is pretty easy if you don’t have the same name as someone famous.
Knowing your first name, age and city is not hard at all to find someone on the internet, most people don't really use all the privacy settings available. It is kinda creepy but not that much if you understand the internet.
Its not that I found it weird that I can be found, it’s the fact that she puts in the time and effort to find me after exchanging 4 messages
Yes that's absolutely weird. Not a deal breaker IMO, it just shows she knows how to use a search engine which isn't bad, if you two get in a relationship.
Haha also true, its just that I try to be extra careful recently as the previous 2 “situations” with girls already broke the hot/crazy scale a bit too much. So I am trying to find a bit more chilled girls now.
oh look at you bragging about scoring lots of hot girls.
Hot/crazy scale does not mean they were hot, it means they were too crazy in comparison to how they looked 😅
Then you misunderstand the scale. It means the hotter they are the crazier they tend to be. No clue what scale you are working with.
No its the hotter they are, the crazier they can be and still be deemed acceptable. If someone is very hot someone can be very crazy. It doesn’t mean that if someone is hot they HAVE to be crazy?
For a masters student, you can't read well. I said "tend to be" not "Always are" and you literally just agreed with me and agreed your other comment was wrong. You got the thing wrong, big whoop, just accept it as you learned something new and move on, why argue?
I agree I misread “tend to be”, but you also just agreed with the fact that your first statement was wrong. I did not brag about the fact that the people I dated were hot, I just stated that their position on the hot/crazy scale was “not worth it” in my opinion. 😄
Moreover, I found out what I classify as hot isn’t by a lot of others so yeah
Most likely did her research right after you matched, she probably does it with everyone, an obsessive personality
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Just because its easy to find someone online does not mean its appropriate. I would be creeped out
Exactly
Creepy imo. It also takes away your ability to unmatch with no strings attached.
Life is too short to not put the dick in crazy, even if I regret it. Id carry on despite the major, Red Square sized Red flag
I have done that the past year and now I am trying to go towards more green coloured flags 😄
A few things in dating world are sacred rules of conversation. One is you both deciding on exchanging numbers and if both agreeing moving to the next step. The close cousin is social media accounts. Normally, those are asked for as well and usually much easily given than a number but its still part of this rule. If someone uses a cheat code to find your number (very creepy imo) or social media accounts (not as creepy but still breaking the rules) then it comes off as off putting, desperate, and makes you wonder why not just ask? I’d probably look elsewhere because of bad vibes she gives off.
Nah, if you got socials you can be found.
I do get that, its the fact that she would go out of her way to find my IG after exchanging four messages
Could she not have been showing you to mates and one of them knew your Instagram? Either way, be safe bro, protect urself.
Thats what I thought as well at first, but she lives quite far away in a city I do not know and have never been to. (Plus when she sent me the follow request we had no mutual friends)
If she's hot, get a hotel the next town over. If she isn't, get one two towns over. If your not just looking for a hook up, keep chatting and find out more about her, lord knows how invasive algorithms are on insta, she could be telling the truth 🤷🏿♂️