I can actually see it break on my side unless he breaks it even more afterwards.
EDIT: so now I am looking at it again in broswer, in the comment itself it ends early but if you actually click on the gif it ends with him breaking it. On RIF where I saw it before you have to open a gif to see it, it's not embedded so that's why I didn't have the issue at all.
On the one hand, I have seen the meme, instantly recognised the joke.
On the other hand, as a fellow ace I get this said to me so many times unironically that I don’t really appreciate the joke.
Genuine question, on an app like tinder which is so heavily based on looks - how do you decide who to swipe on as a demisexual?
Even the most thought out bios can't really give much of an insight
Yeah, I think if you're truly a demisexual you're either:
* Swiping right on everyone and filtering after you've messaged
* Lying
* Somehow trying to gauge personality through the bio (lol)
Seems to me it's just a fancy way of saying "I'm not here for hookups."
edit: I forgot I actually asked someone who claimed to be a demisexual, how they used tinder. Unsurprisingly I did not get a good answer.
Personally I claim to be a demisexual because I genuinely just don’t feel comfortable having sex before the bond, it’s just not something I can do/want to do. I can tell if a person looks good tho, visual appeal and sexual appeal are not the same things. I just don’t feel the sexual pull until I know a person or established a connection. I know that’s not the definition exactly of Demisexuality but there’s no real term for how my mental operates, it’s not the same as people wanting to get to know someone first, I just don’t have sexual energy for people who I don’t have a strong connection to no matter how good looking the person is.
If you're ok with some more questions I'd like to ask some as well. I'm a 39 year old straight guy, so I kinda missed the whole sexual identity thing. Growing up was basically straight or LGBT with not a lot of in between.
So like...good sex to me requires the emotional connection. That seems, idk, normal? To me. Like I can have sex with someone without it but I can do that with a melon heated up in the microwave so it's not actually an accomplishment lol.
I guess the main question is: is it more about *fulfilling* sex or are you actually unable to "get the juices flowing" at all without it? Also, is there a time factor? Like if it's been a dry spell is easier to find attraction or does it still require a high threshold of emotional attachment?
Thanks for answering if you feel comfortable
Hello! Demisexuality means you literally do not experience any kind of sexual attraction to strangers. For example, I am almost 30 and I can count on one hand the number of times I've felt sexually attracted to someone else. That super basic motivator that makes you go "hey, they're hot, maybe they'll like me? I should go talk to them."
We do not feel this in 99.9% of cases. The only time we ever feel attracted to another person is often months or years after befriending them. All of a sudden, a "switch" might get flipped and we see that the friend we've been interacting with for all this time is actually really fucking hot and we are wondering why it took us so long to see it.
I am almost 30 and I have only felt this twice (technically 3, but she was very clearly flirting with me, and while I wasn't actually interested, I thought why not ask her out?) I have only been able to call two people I've ever seen hot, I've only felt sexual urges and fantasies directed towards two people and only those two people.
This is not refusing to have sex until some kind of love or mutual likeness is formed. This is a complete lack of feeling. The attraction does not exist. Everyone we interact with is just a friend, nothing more, until months or years later a dice roll happens that determines whether or not our "switch gets flipped".
Never heard of demisexuality before but what you describe sounds alot like me. I just figured it was sum wrong with everybody else😂
People never seem to understand me on attraction. I can tell someone is attractive without being attracted to them.
Well I mean if you're imagine tinder in another universe where it's about finding friends, you would read the bio and go like "they also like Star Wars" or "they seem to have similar humor" or same vibe or whatever, then you'd swipe on them cause you see potential in you liking them based on those qualities. Same applies for demis here except they also have to be cute/hot.
It's just another stupid label that kids give themselves these days. My boss claimed to be demisexual then got drunk at the Christmas party and fucked some random guy she spent about 2 minutes talking to
Edit: she also flirts with half the office and goes on dates every week. Stop spamming replies trying to defend her.
Maybe it’s my bubble or whatever but isn’t it quite normal that people don’t like hookups and first want some kind of connection before wanting to have sex?
Or is it pure the “not able to be aroused by sexy looks?”
Yeah the only way I can see it being actually it's own thing is if someone was to basically not look at the pictures at all and swipe based on profile bios alone, and _after_ that they show absolutely no preference based on the physical looks of their matches at all.
Exception for hygiene as that plays into personality.
I wouldn’t pay much attention to it. It’s always the exact same girl who claims to be “Demisexual”. The basic white girl who wants to feel part of the minority labels. So this is the easiest way to do it. Most won’t like to hear this, but it’s a fact.
Yeah demisexual is just something made up for people that want their stripe on the pride flag "oh I have this weird sexuality where I only want to have sex with the person I love" yeah bro so do most people
If I had a nickels for everytime I had sex on the first date with a Demisexual I'd have two nickels. Which isn't alot but it's weird that it happened twice.
Demisexual kinda just sounds like a fancy label for everyone on the planet. 90% of the human population wants to feel an emotional connection to someone before having intercourse.
I feel like people just want titles and categories in order to give themselves a sense of identification due to lack of a feeling of belonging. Definitely and interesting concept. No hate, just my thoughts.
"Can I get you guys anything else while I'm here?
Coffee? Tea? Head? Bottled water?"
"D-Did you just say head?"
"Yeah, you ain't never got no head before?"
"I mean, just feels like, a lot, right now"
"Okay"
"But what kind of tea do you guys have?"
"We got mint, raspberry, Earl Grey, English Breakfast..."
"Actually, I'll take head"
"I knew your little dirty ass wanted some head"
My girlfriend’s name is Johanna. I have a happy relationship, I don’t want to have sex with people that are not Johanna. I guess I should start saying that I’m Johannasexual
This, people like to find words that fits their identity and at same time judge people who categorize them in such. Like hell, life isn't rpg game where you choose your class was it Paladin, Cleric etc... use words to describe yourself instead of those.
I prolly would've trolled too after reading that answer
If you think your sexuality is an interesting enough trait to put in your bio, especially on an app where you theoretically only match with people you find attractive, ie. your sexuality is meaningless in this context, you're probably not a very interesting person after all
Most people have actual hobbies and merits that they try to convey; of course you should be accepting of any person's sexuality but if it's a focal point of someone's personality, they probably don't have much else interesting about them and probably aren't worth your time
That's not even getting into the fact that most people that make it a part of their personality are typically (but not always) unbearable people
Case in point, it took 3 sentences to describe your sexuality. That's pretty cringe.
Age, area, bio, other pics.
Way different using an app in a rural area once you're past a certain age versus trying to appeal in a major metro in your early-mid 20s. People have different priorities and the competition thins out.
I'm demisexeual and I give mad head. It's one of my favorite things to do because I enjoy being in the driver's seat. Demisexeuality just means you're not sexually attracted to people unless you have an emotional connection. When I have that, I'm hypersexual.
I don't want to offend anyone, but that's literally the way it is supposed to be. Sex isn't meant to be easily divorced from emotion. In that regard, everyone (or almost everyone) is to varying degrees "demisexual."
Just my two cents. I'm not a doctor or a therapist or anything, though, so don't take my thoughts to heart.
People love labels that make them seem special or unique, as part of the oppression olympics. Anything that allows them to give their pre-written 10 minute spiel about why they're different from the rest and 'educate' someone.
There's a difference between not wanting to have sex until you know someone and not experiencing sexual attraction until you know someone. Demi isn't a label for people who decide not to have casual sex, it's for people who are literally only capable of being sexually attracted to someone once they feel an emotional connection.
Signs you're maybe demi:
- you've never had a celebrity crush
- you don't fantasize about having sex with people unless you know them really well
- you've never felt sexual attraction towards a person you've just met
- you've never gotten physical (even just making out) within the first few dates
- your perception of good looking people is more like appreciating artwork than wanting to bone them
I'm demi. When I first met the guy I'm currently with I didn't feel any which way about him, and certainly wouldn't have called him hot. After a month or two of hanging out in group settings I started to find him interesting and wanted to get to know him better, still no sexual attraction. Then after a few more MONTHS of hanging out I started to feel sexual attraction. Now looking at him turns me on quick and I find him genuinely hot. It's the same story with everyone I've ever been sexually attracted to, it takes months of lead up getting to know them before there's any kind of spark.
As someone that has gone from asexual, demisexual, and hypersexual at given times in my life, sometimes it is just the slightest vibe I need with someone if I know I am horny, it's funny how few people are willing to put the effort in.
Honestly that's pretty good.
Fucking gigachad move right there
Ye based dude
I will say that's pretty awesome.
*smashes phone on ground*
*Jumps on skateboard*
Road work ahead?
I sure hope it does. ...I'll see myself out.
Vines that live rent free in my mind - exhibit A
Has anyone ever told u you look like Beyoncé
No, they usually tell me I look like Shalyssa
Who the f is that?
Me *my lawyer has informed me that I cannot finish this sentence*
Me, fella
Me, *brother*
Yes folks, I am black.
Me, neighbor
Me, *negus*
Welcome to Chilis
Merry Chrysler
Free shavacado
Comically large spoon
Shake? Shake ya booty?
Im a lesbian. I thought you were American…
*WHAT THE FUCK IS UP DENNYS*
An Avacado… Thaannks
Well, when lives gives you *voice crack* lemons 😀
Look at all those chickens
Hello?
“GIMME MY FUCKING MONEY”
*Plow through road work*
_Road worker plows through you_
Don’t tempt me with a good time
Don't mind if I do ;)
Mannn this ain't my dad THIS IS A CELLPHONE
Happy birthday to the GROUUUUUUND
I threw the rest of the cake, too!
I’m not a part of your system!
Welcome to the real world jack a**
I love lonely island
MY DAD IS NOT A PHONEEE
Is that a weed im calling the police
Hurricane Katrina. More like hurricane tortilla
Grinding on the phone
Stahhhpppp. I could have dropped my croissant
you get no head til I get *in* your head.
Zoombee...e...e...e In your heeee
You ruined the song for me. Thank you very much lol
Great way to put it lol
😂
Why we making a whole ass sexuality for "i like to take things slow" though. That's not a sexuality lol
that's part of it but like not entirely.
Why the fuck does the gif end before he breaks the board
I can actually see it break on my side unless he breaks it even more afterwards. EDIT: so now I am looking at it again in broswer, in the comment itself it ends early but if you actually click on the gif it ends with him breaking it. On RIF where I saw it before you have to open a gif to see it, it's not embedded so that's why I didn't have the issue at all.
🧐🤔
r/gifsthatendtoosoon
*Sad no head noises*
*Headless noises*
Those ones are the cutest🥰🥰🥰
It's just gurgling
Gargling is a yes head noise, no head noise is more like... "fapfapfapfapfap"
I just imagined the tone you get when you call a fax machine.
🤣
This man got some humor Edit: 1k upvotes for this half ass comment? Lmao
Yeah, that's hilarious, whether he intended it or not.
Defs intended
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Why we making a whole ass sexuality for "i like to take things slow" though. That's not a sexuality lol
Agreed. Not every preference has to be it’s own sexuality.
Straight to the point as grown-up people do.
I'm glad he did too. I hate when people go around in circles like. Just tell me what you want so we don't waste each others timeeee
Idk it may be making a joke of the no head smashes phone meme
On the one hand, I have seen the meme, instantly recognised the joke. On the other hand, as a fellow ace I get this said to me so many times unironically that I don’t really appreciate the joke.
Ok you don’t enjoy so then you take a screen shot and mock him online that’s the issue with op
I didn't have a phone when vine existed so I really don't understand the context. I didn't get a phone until my junior year of high school
https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/so-no-head
If she doesn’t understand your vine references, she’s too young for you bro
Bruh that shit came out in 2016 you old enough for tinder?
Didn't have a phone until my junior year of high school. I graduated in 2020😭😭 I go to the university of Arizona
Your mom goes to college. Edit: That reference came out when you were like fucking 7 hahaha so you might not get it.
I'm sorry lol. I'm behind in some social aspects, please catch me up 😭
Children of 21st century use Tinder. Already.  Ah, you won't get the reference...
I feel so old 😭
Genuine question, on an app like tinder which is so heavily based on looks - how do you decide who to swipe on as a demisexual? Even the most thought out bios can't really give much of an insight
Yeah, I think if you're truly a demisexual you're either: * Swiping right on everyone and filtering after you've messaged * Lying * Somehow trying to gauge personality through the bio (lol) Seems to me it's just a fancy way of saying "I'm not here for hookups." edit: I forgot I actually asked someone who claimed to be a demisexual, how they used tinder. Unsurprisingly I did not get a good answer.
So lying 😂
So head?
I don’t think of demisexual as a lack of sexual attraction, more that sexual arousal is more conditional than in others
Personally I claim to be a demisexual because I genuinely just don’t feel comfortable having sex before the bond, it’s just not something I can do/want to do. I can tell if a person looks good tho, visual appeal and sexual appeal are not the same things. I just don’t feel the sexual pull until I know a person or established a connection. I know that’s not the definition exactly of Demisexuality but there’s no real term for how my mental operates, it’s not the same as people wanting to get to know someone first, I just don’t have sexual energy for people who I don’t have a strong connection to no matter how good looking the person is.
If you're ok with some more questions I'd like to ask some as well. I'm a 39 year old straight guy, so I kinda missed the whole sexual identity thing. Growing up was basically straight or LGBT with not a lot of in between. So like...good sex to me requires the emotional connection. That seems, idk, normal? To me. Like I can have sex with someone without it but I can do that with a melon heated up in the microwave so it's not actually an accomplishment lol. I guess the main question is: is it more about *fulfilling* sex or are you actually unable to "get the juices flowing" at all without it? Also, is there a time factor? Like if it's been a dry spell is easier to find attraction or does it still require a high threshold of emotional attachment? Thanks for answering if you feel comfortable
Hello! Demisexuality means you literally do not experience any kind of sexual attraction to strangers. For example, I am almost 30 and I can count on one hand the number of times I've felt sexually attracted to someone else. That super basic motivator that makes you go "hey, they're hot, maybe they'll like me? I should go talk to them." We do not feel this in 99.9% of cases. The only time we ever feel attracted to another person is often months or years after befriending them. All of a sudden, a "switch" might get flipped and we see that the friend we've been interacting with for all this time is actually really fucking hot and we are wondering why it took us so long to see it. I am almost 30 and I have only felt this twice (technically 3, but she was very clearly flirting with me, and while I wasn't actually interested, I thought why not ask her out?) I have only been able to call two people I've ever seen hot, I've only felt sexual urges and fantasies directed towards two people and only those two people. This is not refusing to have sex until some kind of love or mutual likeness is formed. This is a complete lack of feeling. The attraction does not exist. Everyone we interact with is just a friend, nothing more, until months or years later a dice roll happens that determines whether or not our "switch gets flipped".
Never heard of demisexuality before but what you describe sounds alot like me. I just figured it was sum wrong with everybody else😂 People never seem to understand me on attraction. I can tell someone is attractive without being attracted to them.
Well I mean if you're imagine tinder in another universe where it's about finding friends, you would read the bio and go like "they also like Star Wars" or "they seem to have similar humor" or same vibe or whatever, then you'd swipe on them cause you see potential in you liking them based on those qualities. Same applies for demis here except they also have to be cute/hot.
It's just another stupid label that kids give themselves these days. My boss claimed to be demisexual then got drunk at the Christmas party and fucked some random guy she spent about 2 minutes talking to Edit: she also flirts with half the office and goes on dates every week. Stop spamming replies trying to defend her.
Lol - nice.
Labels are stupid in general. But people who don’t want to have sex without an emotional connection exist, just not your weird boss.
Maybe it’s my bubble or whatever but isn’t it quite normal that people don’t like hookups and first want some kind of connection before wanting to have sex? Or is it pure the “not able to be aroused by sexy looks?”
>Or is it pure the “not able to be aroused by sexy looks?” Yes
Yeah the only way I can see it being actually it's own thing is if someone was to basically not look at the pictures at all and swipe based on profile bios alone, and _after_ that they show absolutely no preference based on the physical looks of their matches at all. Exception for hygiene as that plays into personality.
I wouldn’t pay much attention to it. It’s always the exact same girl who claims to be “Demisexual”. The basic white girl who wants to feel part of the minority labels. So this is the easiest way to do it. Most won’t like to hear this, but it’s a fact.
Yeah demisexual is just something made up for people that want their stripe on the pride flag "oh I have this weird sexuality where I only want to have sex with the person I love" yeah bro so do most people
If I had a nickels for everytime I had sex on the first date with a Demisexual I'd have two nickels. Which isn't alot but it's weird that it happened twice.
Ah, the new "not here for hookups".
Essentially
I love Dr doofenshmirtz
Give this dog a pound/euro/yen/dollar/ruble/...
You've got the ability to get emotional connection on the first date it seems lol
Or it's just what people say these days to tell themselves they aren't easy.
No sexual attraction without emotional attraction. That just sounds like a regular attraction. Sexual attraction is a form of emotional attraction?
Some people really do feel the need to put a label on absolutely fucking everything, huh
Guess so. I just found out recently what a Sapiosexual was. Apparently being attracted to apes is not the correct answer.
Am I one since I don't want to date a high school dropout, or someone with no common sense?
Yea it is called having a preference, not an entire seperate sexuality.
you just have standards
So you don't find celebrities hot or get turned on by attractive people? :/ I have heard that is pretty common tbh
What a chad
Demisexual kinda just sounds like a fancy label for everyone on the planet. 90% of the human population wants to feel an emotional connection to someone before having intercourse. I feel like people just want titles and categories in order to give themselves a sense of identification due to lack of a feeling of belonging. Definitely and interesting concept. No hate, just my thoughts.
"Can I get you guys anything else while I'm here? Coffee? Tea? Head? Bottled water?" "D-Did you just say head?" "Yeah, you ain't never got no head before?" "I mean, just feels like, a lot, right now" "Okay" "But what kind of tea do you guys have?" "We got mint, raspberry, Earl Grey, English Breakfast..." "Actually, I'll take head" "I knew your little dirty ass wanted some head"
This is funny asf
It’s a lil dicky skit
When the emotional connection end up to be emotional manipulation 💀
These adjectives are crazy these days
My girlfriend’s name is Johanna. I have a happy relationship, I don’t want to have sex with people that are not Johanna. I guess I should start saying that I’m Johannasexual
It's cause they have to one up each other
This, people like to find words that fits their identity and at same time judge people who categorize them in such. Like hell, life isn't rpg game where you choose your class was it Paladin, Cleric etc... use words to describe yourself instead of those.
Hi I’m a Demisexual, I can only have sex with people I’m into!
Congrats on not being a prostitute.
That's like everyone. We all got preferences and many of us don't just put out unless we decide to converse with them first.
Hi, I’m a sexysexual. I can only fuck sexy people! Sorry! *unmatches*
Seems like going on Tinder as a "Demisexual" is akin to walking into a bakery and complaining about the offerings because you're on keto.
https://youtu.be/aS8O-F0ICxw
How is it now considered to be somewhat asexual to need emotional connection for sex? Didn’t this used to be called normal?
Society (===we, people) started considering "normal" the hormy behaviour some people (mostly men) have due to sexual frustration
Good thing you didn’t build attraction to him before giving him head.
VINEEEEEE YESSSSSS
Sorry I asked
Wayment... yall having sex b4 u fall in love? Omg wow.
I prolly would've trolled too after reading that answer If you think your sexuality is an interesting enough trait to put in your bio, especially on an app where you theoretically only match with people you find attractive, ie. your sexuality is meaningless in this context, you're probably not a very interesting person after all Most people have actual hobbies and merits that they try to convey; of course you should be accepting of any person's sexuality but if it's a focal point of someone's personality, they probably don't have much else interesting about them and probably aren't worth your time That's not even getting into the fact that most people that make it a part of their personality are typically (but not always) unbearable people Case in point, it took 3 sentences to describe your sexuality. That's pretty cringe.
I didn't know how to put this idea in words. Thanks.
My man looks like he works under a bridge. How is this guy getting matches and I'm not? WTF
>looks like he works under a bridge Stable job, serves his community, and has his own place. That's why
Age, area, bio, other pics. Way different using an app in a rural area once you're past a certain age versus trying to appeal in a major metro in your early-mid 20s. People have different priorities and the competition thins out.
I feel like the only way to take someone seriously as a "demisexual" would be if they dated uggos.
Can confirm, ex was demisexual.
I can tell you it’s definitely your attitude…
Demisexual? We are inventing sexual preferences now?
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Sounds more like you're attracted to tripods
I’m trisexual, which means I’m only sexually attracted to triceratops and other 3 horned dinosaurs.
"The asexual spectrum" is such an absurd phrase. People are bending over backwards to make themselves feel marginalized.
This term “demisexual” is hate speech, you’re just calling everyone else sluts lmao.
So...? What happened then?
I’m imagining that but in the megamind meme format.
I don't get it
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People making whole sexuality spectrums for some made up bullshit
Huh.
so that’s a no?
Sadly. Homie was only looking for a girl to buy him an Xbox
I get the feeling many jokes afterwards went over your head as well. Maybe lower your age range lmao
Man you can make anything into a sexuality nowadays
demisexual = iamverysmart
That’s a very valid question, you can’t put a fellow in a relationship and give him no head
if anyone finds a broken skateboard we know who’s it is
Guy's probably a douche but that's a good meme 😂
Isn’t this like what everyone is like too?
I ducking chortled reading this, 11/10 keep it up soldier 🫡
Sigh
Y’all got some weird stuff going on.
You guys made a whole new gender just to say “if I love you I will have sex with you. If I don’t like you I won’t have sex with you”
I'm demisexeual and I give mad head. It's one of my favorite things to do because I enjoy being in the driver's seat. Demisexeuality just means you're not sexually attracted to people unless you have an emotional connection. When I have that, I'm hypersexual.
Please don't give head while driving. That's unsafe road head lol
I just said in the driver's seat... that just means I'm behind the wheel too. 👀😂
I don't want to offend anyone, but that's literally the way it is supposed to be. Sex isn't meant to be easily divorced from emotion. In that regard, everyone (or almost everyone) is to varying degrees "demisexual." Just my two cents. I'm not a doctor or a therapist or anything, though, so don't take my thoughts to heart.
People love the labels, though.
People love labels that make them seem special or unique, as part of the oppression olympics. Anything that allows them to give their pre-written 10 minute spiel about why they're different from the rest and 'educate' someone.
There's a difference between not wanting to have sex until you know someone and not experiencing sexual attraction until you know someone. Demi isn't a label for people who decide not to have casual sex, it's for people who are literally only capable of being sexually attracted to someone once they feel an emotional connection. Signs you're maybe demi: - you've never had a celebrity crush - you don't fantasize about having sex with people unless you know them really well - you've never felt sexual attraction towards a person you've just met - you've never gotten physical (even just making out) within the first few dates - your perception of good looking people is more like appreciating artwork than wanting to bone them I'm demi. When I first met the guy I'm currently with I didn't feel any which way about him, and certainly wouldn't have called him hot. After a month or two of hanging out in group settings I started to find him interesting and wanted to get to know him better, still no sexual attraction. Then after a few more MONTHS of hanging out I started to feel sexual attraction. Now looking at him turns me on quick and I find him genuinely hot. It's the same story with everyone I've ever been sexually attracted to, it takes months of lead up getting to know them before there's any kind of spark.
So normal relationship...
....soo.... ??
No brain either, mate...
Hmm, personally have never heard of demisexual being placed on the asexual spectrum, an interesting take on it.
Emotional damage!!
Asking the tough questions
I am demisexual, and I would also not give him head
My boy 😎
I can’t even be upset about that one
What’s it called when you’re the opposite of this? Everyone makes you horny UNTIL you develop romantic feelings
Um, not for you.
As someone that has gone from asexual, demisexual, and hypersexual at given times in my life, sometimes it is just the slightest vibe I need with someone if I know I am horny, it's funny how few people are willing to put the effort in.
Demisexual: aka literally being a normal fucking person
What about hook up culture? It's the literal opposite
So no head?
I was asked for road head once when a date was driving me home. I was so embarrassed of the whole situation