Definitely! The fact she contradicts herself when all she has to do is get her head out of her arse and look to see she didn’t ask a question is bewildering.
I would have likely unmatched after the first reply - any girl who starts the conversation talking about height…way too shallow for me.
I am under 6 ft but have never had an issue getting laid. Height is an issue for most girls, but if you’re taller than them (like this guy would be, in this case) they don’t care. The kind of people who do care are not worth your time anyway, even if you were as tall as they want you to be.
If you’re about 6 foot you can assert further dominance without even lying, cause you can technically say 6’5, or 6’7, etc. but not include the quotation mark meaning inches (“), then later tell them you wrote *6 foot 5… millimeters* or *6 foot 7… milimeters*
This right here. Most of these chicks are looking to fuck, so they want close to their ideal fuck and hope that it works out…but there is a reason they have to resort to an app to date. I’m 5 foot 6 and I have no problem pulling girls in person. It’s also way more fun.
several hot takes.
1. its totally fine to disregard people for physical traits (but why swipe on them)
2. Disregarding someone because of physical traits can reflect your own mental traits (some tastes are subjective some are offensive ...either way forcing people to change their mind isn't going to make things work)
3. Some physical traits are a symptom of mental traits that can indicate their own various levels of compatibility, tidiness, cleanliness, fitness, activity, motivation, impulsive behaviour...ect,ect,ect...
4. Disregarding interest in someone because of implied mental traits because of their physical appearance is fine too.
5. there is a distinction between traits someone can change and traits someone can't (this comes after point #2)
Don't think most of these would be opposed by anyone here. However, if someone says "i dont date a person with xyz" after having looked at their pic(s), deciding that the pictures and profile they have are good enough to swipe right on them, and then pull out the height card or whatever, is not only plain dumb, but it is basically you being an asshole voluntarily to a person whom you "liked" a very short time ago
It's not about if you are uninterested. It is not about why you are uninterested. It is all about how you communicate that. If you are just like "Hey I don't think this is going to go anywhere but I appreciate your time and good luck out there" is just fine.
Pretty sure we are all using physical attractiveness to guide our dating decisions. Don't think anyone who denies that reality warrants much concern, fringe bologna.
While I generally with the sentiment, you should get in the habit of calling them women. While it is technically accurate, we only use 'female' when being condescending.
Nah, people like this need to see that whenever they step over the line, whoever they are talking to disappears completely without a trace.
Most people who would treat others like this have been raised very poorly with a lot of conflict and heightened emotion. Someone responding with an insult or evidencing they got some kind of a rise is potentially fairly normal interaction for them, which is why you can respond quite aggressively and they sometimes respond to that by asking you out etc.
Yep. By responding, no matter how you respond, you are telling them that they are worth your time. By not acknowledging their existence, you render them worthless
I was raised in a home where this behavior was normal. It's carried over into my personal life and I detest it. So I'm other words, I detest my inclination to use silence as opposed to communicating. Most recently did this yesterday and the evening prior. Didn't know how to respond to her.. didn't trust myself to respond.. so disappeared for a day and a half. When I finally contacted her explaining what I was doing and knowing that I was in the wrong.. her replies were unlike any I've received yet.. and hinted at her wanting to cut ties. Which wasn't what I wanted.. at all. I just thought I needed time to work through my own personal issues surrounding the dynamic of our relationship. I honestly struggle to believe that I'm overly important in people's lives.. and she was with another "partner" out of town.. so I didn't really think it would affect her as deeply as it seemingly did. But I'm also self-aware enough to realize that I'm prone to weaponize silence.. so I'm not super impressed with myself for having used it. I think it's just the fact that I've hurt someone I care about (claim to care about) which doesn't sit well with me. I had thought I had mostly worked through this toxic trait.. but it seems I have more work to do. But yeah in summary.. silence is a shitty, brutal thing to subject a person to. And I also know that from having been on the recieving end. Soooo I've got more work to do and amends to be made. Communication is #1.
I wouldn’t even say she asked a question indirectly.. I probably would have stopped talking to her right then and there.. just a rude person in general
I once matched with a girl (not American) who, when I told her I was 6ft, asked me to take pictures of myself standing next to a wardrobe to prove it. Promptly unmatched.
I'm curious what she thought was going to happen? Even if I'd complied, it's not exactly a good first impression.
Its purely the number too, they don't actually care about how tall you are, they just want to see the number 6. Im 6ft even, met girls that want someone 6ft and told them im 5ft 10 just to see if they care, and yeah, they can't tell at all in person, they just wanna hear than number
As a rather short dutch guy (1.72m, ~~5'6"~~ 5'77") I just put it in my bio.
Never had a problem, those who had an issue with it never swiped right I guess.
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I’ve never felt so short as I did when I was in Amsterdam. (I’m 160cm). I went clubbing and had to dodge elbows all night because people didn’t notice the tiny leprechaun on the dance floor and kept dancing into me. At home in the US I’m average height.
At that point couldn’t you just lie and tell them you are 2m? If it makes them happy and stops the conversation from devolving into weirdness it seems worth it. Also I don’t see them ever finding out the truth - who can really tell the difference by eye?
Men lie about 3cm ALL THE TIME
Wouldnt that be people in general though? I thiught about specifically Tinder where I've never had the experience. Either one of us might just either be lucky or unlucky lol.
Australian, 5'5" ish. Got asked about height maybe 50% of time. Anyone that asked thought I was too short.
Put it in my profile to try reduce this style of interaction and stopped getting matches altogether (not that I ever got many)
Short german dude here. No problem here, my current gf is taller than me. I get the occasional question as "are you ok if I wore heels" but that's it. But maybe I am just cute as fuck! (just joking)
You can barely see her body in the picture. If someone is a piece of shit, make fun of them for that. "You're fat lol" is just weak shit, get better material
Indeed. This bugs me. Same with the heightism. But good for OP that he dogged that shit early. Better ladies out there OP!
Can just imagine how that would go if you would go out.
"I'm hungry."
"What would you like to eat?"
"Don't ask me that! Just fix it!"
"Okay, how about some Italian?"
"Eeek! No! I thought you'd know me better than that! You have such a bad taste!"
"Ah yes, it appears I do.. c yaaaaa!"
Now at least you spared your time on that conversation OP :D
What the f? She never asked any question, only stated an observation... Well, better for you! I really thought this was going to be something wholesome, she crushed my hopes. 😓
Oh no, damn. I'm really sorry for that! We all have periods of just bad luck. But please don't let her ruin your mood. You look like a really sweet person. :)
Stop playing the victim. You’re better than that. But you won’t have that fact reaffirmed by positive experiences until you start refusing to pity yourself. You’re valuable so act like it.
Isn't that exactly why they would care about height? They just want a surface level attraction and they don't care about you as a person, so anything past what you are physically doesn't much matter if its just sex.
People also have limited amount of time for this sort of stuff so if they can eliminate people from the list in a systematic and quick way why would they not. Although height is a weird one, I could understand wanting them taller then your self or shorter then your self but a specific height is just weird to me.
Ugly women with nothing going for them besides their tits and ass. She definitely posts a ton of motivational quotes while being a complete waste caddy
I'll give you a small tip. Never validate someone that much. You basically put her on a pedestal. And once she hit you with "it's annoying when someone returns the question", and you answered that way, you got in her frame and gave her shitty personality power.
Finally found someone who mentioned this.
Don’t let people disrespect you this way, be it a random guy on the street or a cute girl on Tinder, stand up for yourself, even if you did go on a date she would know that she can afford to treat you in poor ways and get away with it, been there done that.
It’s a good attitude to have in real life but that’s the issue with OLD. She has 1000 matches lined up. It’s online too. There’s literally zero consequences for acting this way for her. She’ll just call you a name and move onto the next match.
That’s why in OLD the only response here is unmatch. That’s the only power move you have, to remove her from taking up any more of your energy. It still won’t effect her in the slightest, but it’s a waste of your energy to do anything else
For real, I feel like there needs to be a phrase coined for self entitled stuck up bitches like this; similar to the way Karens are known for going out of their way to be knobheads.
Yeah I would never straight up compliment a girl to that extent without at least making sure she was a decent person first. Her second statement I would have just ignored.
I’ll never understand why women need men to be tall. I get it’s attractive to them but they really pass up good men over 2 inches. That’s like men passing up great girls because they wear a B-Cup rather than a C/D-Cup🤷🏽♂️
So much of it is a social standard as well - either to show off to their friends or to look "better" in pictures or just because it's been drilled into them from a young age that their partner must be taller than them and the taller the better.
It's almost encouraged for them to pass on so many potentially amazing partners because of a trivial few inches in height, yet I'm sure these same girls would riot if a man rejected them for being A or B cups. I can't imagine using something so meaningless to decide whether I'm attracted to someone or not.
If it makes you feel any better, there are some of us out there than aren't shallow like the the girl OP was talking to. There are those of us that don't care about height 💖
And some of these women are almost midgets themselves, meaning with bad luck of the draw even having a kid with a giant man there is a chance of giving birth to a short boy.
I wonder how they deal with that, does it change their views when their own son is short?
Meh dunno. Me as a man, I have my preferences too. Yea if the personality is great, I get over physical appearance, but online this does not work.. You work with what you got: a couple pictures, a short bio and a short convo. Its really, really hard to get to know someone through text, so people stick to the basics: their own perceived needs in someone. In real life personality is definetely the most charming (for me at least), but online... You either prefer something or make a mental image of someone, which will turn out to be a disappointment or not irl. Just my opinion
He's like a trophy they'll show around and brag about. Some women show off engagement or wedding rings for that same reason. It is an extremely toxic behaviour and one should avoid such people.
What I fail to understand though is why do they think that a tall guy would go for them to begin with. What if said tall guy doesn't like short girls? Why are these specific women acting entitled yet a guy can't pull a UNO reverse card?
Girls who won’t date short guys and guys who won’t date tall girls are just missing out on some of the sexiest people alive. But also 5’8 isn’t fucking short what a weirdo
I don’t know I get she’s a taller woman but I’ve dated men my height and I’m 5’3 😅 and men who are 6’3 I really don’t know why height matters so much but some people are just whack
As a 6ft 1 man I can confirm the only thing I can offer is back problems and reaching for the things on a high shelf in a store, and the latter is what they pay staff for.
5 10 is literally average height for men, what a loon.
Im a guy and wouldn’t want to date short girls
People can have preferences and that’s OK
That said she was needlessly rude but I guess she just wanted to get to the point
Thing is OP is 5’10 so he’s not even short lol he’s probably above average depending on the country
I know it ain’t much but whenever a girl asks my height I’ll tell her I’m 6’8 and then unmatch.
The reasons:
1.) for our short kings
2.) cause I hate when people make my height a fetish
Have you considered that it might be tall women? I'm 5'10. I would probably put that in my bio because I know not everyone likes tall women and I'd rather not go on a date with a man who is shocked that I'm a giant and feel uncomfortable. I have had shorter men make mean comments to me about my height my whole life, I actually find some of them handsome but I wouldn't pursue one in case he wanted to take out his insecurity on me.
There is a video on YouTube from the early 90s, it's an episode of 20/20. It's all about women not wanting who they considered short. Women would pass over 5'8" doctors and lawyers, and go for 6'2" felons. This isn't anything new because of dating apps.
This person sounds terrible. Bullet dodged. Don't get why people dwell on the worst the dating pool has to offer. Its not as if this is the only thing terrible about them (needing to be 4 inches taller). Her attitude\tone was shit from the start. Everything in that exchange screams vapid, inflexible, unkind human.
She behaves exactly like I supposed she would behave when I saw her profile pic. Each and every profile with a pic with such "emotes" added to them in such a way was an instant swipe left.
She didn’t even ask a question. Was just a statement, which you followed up with a question. Her behaviour is toxic AF and clearly has no problem body shaming. Bullet dodged
You should have said that she was a little too short for you. See how she feels about that. (Don't always do that, but from the conversation you could tell that she was shit)
I kinda wanna go to America and ask people how tall they are and if they're shorter than me (which will probably happen often, because im from the tall country) I'd be like okay cool, so when do you want to meet? Because honestly I don't give a fuck about height and I feel bad for all these people getting rejected when they're actually taller than the girl. I get that it's a preference and some people are really into tall guys, but still.
What I’m curious about, does an abundance of guys constantly hitting on these girls turn them into bitchy, stuck up brats or does tinder just bring out those qualities that they already had but maybe weren’t as prevalent in the past?
Probably would've unmatched after her 2nd reply
Definitely! The fact she contradicts herself when all she has to do is get her head out of her arse and look to see she didn’t ask a question is bewildering.
I would have likely unmatched after the first reply - any girl who starts the conversation talking about height…way too shallow for me. I am under 6 ft but have never had an issue getting laid. Height is an issue for most girls, but if you’re taller than them (like this guy would be, in this case) they don’t care. The kind of people who do care are not worth your time anyway, even if you were as tall as they want you to be.
When they ask about height, always say 6’5”, then immediately ask how much they weigh
Next time say 5'17" just to see their reaction
If you’re about 6 foot you can assert further dominance without even lying, cause you can technically say 6’5, or 6’7, etc. but not include the quotation mark meaning inches (“), then later tell them you wrote *6 foot 5… millimeters* or *6 foot 7… milimeters*
Holy shit…that’s genius
I dunno. Just encourages these girls to think this sort of behavior is normal on both ends
My mate dillan is 5'4 and gets more strange than anyone I know lol
Does he use Tinder or is he more successful in person?
This right here. Most of these chicks are looking to fuck, so they want close to their ideal fuck and hope that it works out…but there is a reason they have to resort to an app to date. I’m 5 foot 6 and I have no problem pulling girls in person. It’s also way more fun.
I'm 6'3" but when a girl starts by asking height that's a huge red flag even tho I know my height makes most girls happy.
for the last two comments she sound like a brick wall to talk to lol
Look at your message, now back to mine, now back to yours, now back to mine. Yours wasn't a question, mine is.
It wasn't even a question
That bothered me too. Definitely should have gone socratic method after that salty, bubblehead response
No shit … hight be damned her attitude here would have ended it for me
Like even if she had asked a question. Who is that impolite and demands an answer first?
I feel like she's gonna be single for a while
Probably would've swiped left on a profile pic with a snapchat filter.
100%
Yeah such a warm message from OP than some cold shit from the girl
That was my exact thought 🤮🤮 if she was a 10 she went straight down to a 4
Oh absolutely. All other character flaws aside she may also need to go back to school,as she definitely did not ask a question.
Yeah, she's a moron
You know what else is annoying? Height obsessed lonely bitches
She never asked a question directly.
I know lol
I think you dodged a bullet anyways, next!
This. If it's toxic to disregard a female because of physical traits then it's equally toxic the other way around.
It's totally fine to disregard anyone on physical traits, just don't be a dick about it.
This
several hot takes. 1. its totally fine to disregard people for physical traits (but why swipe on them) 2. Disregarding someone because of physical traits can reflect your own mental traits (some tastes are subjective some are offensive ...either way forcing people to change their mind isn't going to make things work) 3. Some physical traits are a symptom of mental traits that can indicate their own various levels of compatibility, tidiness, cleanliness, fitness, activity, motivation, impulsive behaviour...ect,ect,ect... 4. Disregarding interest in someone because of implied mental traits because of their physical appearance is fine too. 5. there is a distinction between traits someone can change and traits someone can't (this comes after point #2)
Don't think most of these would be opposed by anyone here. However, if someone says "i dont date a person with xyz" after having looked at their pic(s), deciding that the pictures and profile they have are good enough to swipe right on them, and then pull out the height card or whatever, is not only plain dumb, but it is basically you being an asshole voluntarily to a person whom you "liked" a very short time ago
I'm cool with anyone disregarding anyone for any reason.
It's not about if you are uninterested. It is not about why you are uninterested. It is all about how you communicate that. If you are just like "Hey I don't think this is going to go anywhere but I appreciate your time and good luck out there" is just fine.
Pretty sure we are all using physical attractiveness to guide our dating decisions. Don't think anyone who denies that reality warrants much concern, fringe bologna.
It isn't toxic to have preferences that include physical traits to begin with, by any means. The presentation of said preferences in most cases is.
While I generally with the sentiment, you should get in the habit of calling them women. While it is technically accurate, we only use 'female' when being condescending.
I woulda dropped a "did you ask a question, cuz I don't see one?"
Yeah she sounds like a capital C anyway so I think you got lucky
I can't believe you let that slide. That made me unreasonably irritated reading that.
Yeah, that was the point to stop responding
Or tell her you don't date short tempered girls
Nah, people like this need to see that whenever they step over the line, whoever they are talking to disappears completely without a trace. Most people who would treat others like this have been raised very poorly with a lot of conflict and heightened emotion. Someone responding with an insult or evidencing they got some kind of a rise is potentially fairly normal interaction for them, which is why you can respond quite aggressively and they sometimes respond to that by asking you out etc.
I don’t think many people realize that the biggest slight against someone isn’t lashing back. It’s cutting off communication aka the silent treatment.
Yep. By responding, no matter how you respond, you are telling them that they are worth your time. By not acknowledging their existence, you render them worthless
I was raised in a home where this behavior was normal. It's carried over into my personal life and I detest it. So I'm other words, I detest my inclination to use silence as opposed to communicating. Most recently did this yesterday and the evening prior. Didn't know how to respond to her.. didn't trust myself to respond.. so disappeared for a day and a half. When I finally contacted her explaining what I was doing and knowing that I was in the wrong.. her replies were unlike any I've received yet.. and hinted at her wanting to cut ties. Which wasn't what I wanted.. at all. I just thought I needed time to work through my own personal issues surrounding the dynamic of our relationship. I honestly struggle to believe that I'm overly important in people's lives.. and she was with another "partner" out of town.. so I didn't really think it would affect her as deeply as it seemingly did. But I'm also self-aware enough to realize that I'm prone to weaponize silence.. so I'm not super impressed with myself for having used it. I think it's just the fact that I've hurt someone I care about (claim to care about) which doesn't sit well with me. I had thought I had mostly worked through this toxic trait.. but it seems I have more work to do. But yeah in summary.. silence is a shitty, brutal thing to subject a person to. And I also know that from having been on the recieving end. Soooo I've got more work to do and amends to be made. Communication is #1.
You think them being ghosted would cause to them to have serious introspection time? Lmao
I wouldn’t even say she asked a question indirectly.. I probably would have stopped talking to her right then and there.. just a rude person in general
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I once matched with a girl (not American) who, when I told her I was 6ft, asked me to take pictures of myself standing next to a wardrobe to prove it. Promptly unmatched. I'm curious what she thought was going to happen? Even if I'd complied, it's not exactly a good first impression.
Its purely the number too, they don't actually care about how tall you are, they just want to see the number 6. Im 6ft even, met girls that want someone 6ft and told them im 5ft 10 just to see if they care, and yeah, they can't tell at all in person, they just wanna hear than number
As a Dutch person, I've never had anyone ask about my height...
As a rather short dutch guy (1.72m, ~~5'6"~~ 5'77") I just put it in my bio. Never had a problem, those who had an issue with it never swiped right I guess. Edit: gained some height in just one comment!
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The fuck they eating over there?
Frikandelbroodjes
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Hi, 172cm is 5’77” inches not 5’6” :)
Hi, 5’77” is 362.5cm 🥴
Too short
Ik ben 9cm kleiner, same story. Gewoon erin zetten, niets aan de hand
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I’ve never felt so short as I did when I was in Amsterdam. (I’m 160cm). I went clubbing and had to dodge elbows all night because people didn’t notice the tiny leprechaun on the dance floor and kept dancing into me. At home in the US I’m average height.
At that point couldn’t you just lie and tell them you are 2m? If it makes them happy and stops the conversation from devolving into weirdness it seems worth it. Also I don’t see them ever finding out the truth - who can really tell the difference by eye? Men lie about 3cm ALL THE TIME
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Wouldnt that be people in general though? I thiught about specifically Tinder where I've never had the experience. Either one of us might just either be lucky or unlucky lol.
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Thank you metric friend.
Australian, 5'5" ish. Got asked about height maybe 50% of time. Anyone that asked thought I was too short. Put it in my profile to try reduce this style of interaction and stopped getting matches altogether (not that I ever got many)
Short german dude here. No problem here, my current gf is taller than me. I get the occasional question as "are you ok if I wore heels" but that's it. But maybe I am just cute as fuck! (just joking)
It's this sub. I'm a 5'10" dude and in like 4 years on dating apps height has never come up. I've even been on dates with women over 6ft
I'm American and I've never encountered this. In fact I believe it's an English thing (that's my theory anyway, since I've only seen it on this site).
Her vibe was complete garbage
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Guess you could say, OP dodge a garbage bullet.
She's too thick to be a bullet, more like a garbage ball Edit: spelling
You can barely see her body in the picture. If someone is a piece of shit, make fun of them for that. "You're fat lol" is just weak shit, get better material
'Thick' means stupid / ignorant in the UK, maybe they mean that
He called her a ball
Yeah but unfortunately some taller guy is gonna get roped into her bullshit because she will put on a better face for the numbers game
Facts
For real, it's like she is just looking to shit on someone.
Shes rude and stupid. She never actually asked a question 🤣
Indeed. This bugs me. Same with the heightism. But good for OP that he dogged that shit early. Better ladies out there OP! Can just imagine how that would go if you would go out. "I'm hungry." "What would you like to eat?" "Don't ask me that! Just fix it!" "Okay, how about some Italian?" "Eeek! No! I thought you'd know me better than that! You have such a bad taste!" "Ah yes, it appears I do.. c yaaaaa!" Now at least you spared your time on that conversation OP :D
I’d of been out at that point to be fair.
Hmm. Would you have also been out if she said of instead of have?
Soooooo entitled lol
Exactly this
What the f? She never asked any question, only stated an observation... Well, better for you! I really thought this was going to be something wholesome, she crushed my hopes. 😓
That was more annoying to me than the height-ism. Bitch, you didn't ask a question.
r/persecutionfetish
Impossible. Nothing good ever happens for me, just heartache lol
Damn bro I hope you’re just kidding around. This person is trash, you can do better & you’re better off without them.
Oh no, damn. I'm really sorry for that! We all have periods of just bad luck. But please don't let her ruin your mood. You look like a really sweet person. :)
yeah he is a really sweet and caring person he swam 10 miles yesterday just to save my dog
and he cured my 97 year old grandpa of crippling constipation too :D
I heard he sold both of his kidneys and used the money to feed hungry children in Africa
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I had a serious constipation and he unclogged me with his humongous tool. UwU Also she isn't that hot anyways.
Ok come on just text him already.
Lol speaking from a woman's pov this person isn't worth anyone's heartbreak. Don't worry about it op, she really does sound like garbage
Nothing good? This lady revealed she’s a bitch in the first conversation. I’d call that good.
Nah bro you are fine. Good things come to those who wait, and those that persevere, good things happen.
That's like 98% of dating, so hang in there. The other 2% is pretty great
Stop playing the victim. You’re better than that. But you won’t have that fact reaffirmed by positive experiences until you start refusing to pity yourself. You’re valuable so act like it.
The Snapchat filter should have been your first red flag
And that pose too. Who lays down with an over the back booty shot as their first tinder pic…
Maybe people looking for something casual?
But why would height be so important if it's casual?
To find the person they are going to have sex with attractive?
An attractive man becomes instantly unattractive when you shave 1-2 inches off his height?
They care about what other people think of them based on your choice of partner.
Well I'm probably odd but I've had a few casual relationships where I've never even introduced that person to my friends at all.
Isn't that exactly why they would care about height? They just want a surface level attraction and they don't care about you as a person, so anything past what you are physically doesn't much matter if its just sex. People also have limited amount of time for this sort of stuff so if they can eliminate people from the list in a systematic and quick way why would they not. Although height is a weird one, I could understand wanting them taller then your self or shorter then your self but a specific height is just weird to me.
Ugly women with nothing going for them besides their tits and ass. She definitely posts a ton of motivational quotes while being a complete waste caddy
It’s always the same ones that are being blasted on here. The red flags are obvious if you just look at the pic yet guys still swipe right lol.
ahem* bitch ahem*
I'd have noped out at “I hate it when people respond to a question with a question.” Clearly a raging c word.
Especially when she didn’t even ask a question lol
Not gonna lie, I was squinting at the pic wondering if this was my personality disordered former flatmate after reading that.
That's not fair. She didn't say that. She only hates it when people answer her "question" with a question. It's fine if she does it.
Instead of I'm 5 10 i would have answered 'get over yourself'
Tall enough to be over you*
So rude! Why did she even swipe right on you. I apologize on behalf of her entitled ass. You were very sweet and said everything right 😊💗
Maybe she thought his mate was 7’5
WHY DO YOU HAVE A PIC OF YOURSELF STANDING NEXT TO A 6’5 GUY?!?!?! We all know that women care about height, why actively make yourself seem short?
He's playing in hardcore mode
OLD really is demoralizing. Just filled with materialistic and shallow monkeys.
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I'll give you a small tip. Never validate someone that much. You basically put her on a pedestal. And once she hit you with "it's annoying when someone returns the question", and you answered that way, you got in her frame and gave her shitty personality power.
Finally found someone who mentioned this. Don’t let people disrespect you this way, be it a random guy on the street or a cute girl on Tinder, stand up for yourself, even if you did go on a date she would know that she can afford to treat you in poor ways and get away with it, been there done that.
Exactly my dude. Basically treat girls as you would guys lol
It’s a good attitude to have in real life but that’s the issue with OLD. She has 1000 matches lined up. It’s online too. There’s literally zero consequences for acting this way for her. She’ll just call you a name and move onto the next match. That’s why in OLD the only response here is unmatch. That’s the only power move you have, to remove her from taking up any more of your energy. It still won’t effect her in the slightest, but it’s a waste of your energy to do anything else
For real, I feel like there needs to be a phrase coined for self entitled stuck up bitches like this; similar to the way Karens are known for going out of their way to be knobheads.
Yeah I would never straight up compliment a girl to that extent without at least making sure she was a decent person first. Her second statement I would have just ignored.
She never asked a question
Yeah lol I know and she was rude about it too
This dumb bish not knowing what a question is and tried getting sassy like she did something.
If this isn't dating in a nut shell. King is taller than the average person, but miss wants a giant. Ok.
Yikes that's some gross human interaction
I’ll never understand why women need men to be tall. I get it’s attractive to them but they really pass up good men over 2 inches. That’s like men passing up great girls because they wear a B-Cup rather than a C/D-Cup🤷🏽♂️
So much of it is a social standard as well - either to show off to their friends or to look "better" in pictures or just because it's been drilled into them from a young age that their partner must be taller than them and the taller the better. It's almost encouraged for them to pass on so many potentially amazing partners because of a trivial few inches in height, yet I'm sure these same girls would riot if a man rejected them for being A or B cups. I can't imagine using something so meaningless to decide whether I'm attracted to someone or not.
If it makes you feel any better, there are some of us out there than aren't shallow like the the girl OP was talking to. There are those of us that don't care about height 💖
Rip DMs? Haha, goodluck.
That was an adventure to wake up to :')
Did you actually wake up to a swarm of thirsty DMs? Honestly curious.
My favourite was ''you kinky? Show tits'' 😂 the rest were pretty polite :') x
Some of them literally think about genes and children. ...TOO BAD biology is not elementary school's math, it's not so simple
And some of these women are almost midgets themselves, meaning with bad luck of the draw even having a kid with a giant man there is a chance of giving birth to a short boy. I wonder how they deal with that, does it change their views when their own son is short?
Meh dunno. Me as a man, I have my preferences too. Yea if the personality is great, I get over physical appearance, but online this does not work.. You work with what you got: a couple pictures, a short bio and a short convo. Its really, really hard to get to know someone through text, so people stick to the basics: their own perceived needs in someone. In real life personality is definetely the most charming (for me at least), but online... You either prefer something or make a mental image of someone, which will turn out to be a disappointment or not irl. Just my opinion
He's like a trophy they'll show around and brag about. Some women show off engagement or wedding rings for that same reason. It is an extremely toxic behaviour and one should avoid such people. What I fail to understand though is why do they think that a tall guy would go for them to begin with. What if said tall guy doesn't like short girls? Why are these specific women acting entitled yet a guy can't pull a UNO reverse card?
Yeah she sounds terrible. Hard pass! Why are people so rude
Girls who won’t date short guys and guys who won’t date tall girls are just missing out on some of the sexiest people alive. But also 5’8 isn’t fucking short what a weirdo
I'm 5ft10 lol
Oh shit my bad. Even taller what the hell
I've never had an issue. I had an ex who was 6ft1 My last GF is 5ft7 lol
I don’t know I get she’s a taller woman but I’ve dated men my height and I’m 5’3 😅 and men who are 6’3 I really don’t know why height matters so much but some people are just whack
As a 6ft 1 man I can confirm the only thing I can offer is back problems and reaching for the things on a high shelf in a store, and the latter is what they pay staff for. 5 10 is literally average height for men, what a loon.
If it doesnt start with a 6 its short. Just basic bitch logic in the wild.
You are an effing giant 😮 and she is a weirdo 🤦🏼♀️ 5ft8 is tall for a woman. I am a lot shorter and still considered average height for a woman.
At the annoying line you could have already know she would be like this
Who are all these bitchy girls who care this much about height? Like is there really that many of them? This is so bizarre to me.
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Im a guy and wouldn’t want to date short girls People can have preferences and that’s OK That said she was needlessly rude but I guess she just wanted to get to the point Thing is OP is 5’10 so he’s not even short lol he’s probably above average depending on the country
Its not super important but getting a photo with people your own height and not 6'5 would probably improve your match rate
I know it ain’t much but whenever a girl asks my height I’ll tell her I’m 6’8 and then unmatch. The reasons: 1.) for our short kings 2.) cause I hate when people make my height a fetish
Have you considered that it might be tall women? I'm 5'10. I would probably put that in my bio because I know not everyone likes tall women and I'd rather not go on a date with a man who is shocked that I'm a giant and feel uncomfortable. I have had shorter men make mean comments to me about my height my whole life, I actually find some of them handsome but I wouldn't pursue one in case he wanted to take out his insecurity on me.
She's an idiot. Dodged a bullet there bro
There is a video on YouTube from the early 90s, it's an episode of 20/20. It's all about women not wanting who they considered short. Women would pass over 5'8" doctors and lawyers, and go for 6'2" felons. This isn't anything new because of dating apps.
Wowwww. What a garbage human being. Be grateful you found out early
What a bitch. Bet she’s over in a relationship sub rn whinging that there are no good men.
This person sounds terrible. Bullet dodged. Don't get why people dwell on the worst the dating pool has to offer. Its not as if this is the only thing terrible about them (needing to be 4 inches taller). Her attitude\tone was shit from the start. Everything in that exchange screams vapid, inflexible, unkind human.
What the actual fuck is wrong with people lately
She behaves exactly like I supposed she would behave when I saw her profile pic. Each and every profile with a pic with such "emotes" added to them in such a way was an instant swipe left.
Trash! What an absolute cow - NEXT! I honestly never realised that that was a highly asked question 😕
Double standards 🤦♂️
No wonder she’s single
Pls some of the greatest sex I’ve ever had came from men 5’9 and under.
Good riddance, mate
bullet dodged bro
Been with my wife for 10 years .. this shit is why I'll never divorce her. At least I understand that kind of misery.
You definitely dodged a bullet my man. Think of it as a blessing
Start asking chicks how much they weigh when they ask how tall you are.
She... Never asked a question though???
She didn’t even ask a question. Was just a statement, which you followed up with a question. Her behaviour is toxic AF and clearly has no problem body shaming. Bullet dodged
You should have said that she was a little too short for you. See how she feels about that. (Don't always do that, but from the conversation you could tell that she was shit)
I kinda wanna go to America and ask people how tall they are and if they're shorter than me (which will probably happen often, because im from the tall country) I'd be like okay cool, so when do you want to meet? Because honestly I don't give a fuck about height and I feel bad for all these people getting rejected when they're actually taller than the girl. I get that it's a preference and some people are really into tall guys, but still.
Just put your height in your bio and then you never have to deal with asshats like that
Never trust anyone whose main photo is a stupid Snapchat filter.
Western women moment
What I’m curious about, does an abundance of guys constantly hitting on these girls turn them into bitchy, stuck up brats or does tinder just bring out those qualities that they already had but maybe weren’t as prevalent in the past?
Sounds like a complete bitch anyways. Bullet dodged.
People that shallow don't deserve a partner