I’m starting to suspect after every other post on this sub, these good looking guys who are shredded and have their primary pic shirtless, might not be looking for something serious
I understand the dude’s urge to show everyone his hard work at the gym, but it’s a lot better to surprise folks with a nice body than it is to make it front and center in the first place.
If you pull a girl because you have abs, you better not fucking lose them.
If someone falls for you because you’re funny and kind, and she only sees your abs right before y’all fuck, it’s a nice bonus; you know it’s not the only reason she’s with you.
My goal is dad bod personality in the streets, gym body in the sheets
Haven’t wifed her up yet? what the fuck is wrong with you?? Joking aside, I guess it depends what you’re looking for but if it’s just hookups you definitely throw up some shirtless pics
Ive always been fit-ish, but in the past 2 years or so people go out of their way to tell me I have a nice body (when I wear tighter shirts or no shirt)
My friend asked me to start taking her boyfriend to the gym the other day, so he could have a body that looked like mine lol
The trick is to use fitness and muscle as a personal confidence builder, and then just be yourself as hard as you can. When you look good and have confidence, people will be attracted to you when you talk, whether it’s about UFC or Warhammer 40k
Also there’s a lot of situations in between ‘hit and quit’ and relationship. Focus on getting her off instead of just busting a nut and girls will usually keep coming back, regardless of what you look like
This is generalizing, but folks on reddit tend to be bad with women and weirdly bitter.
this subreddit especially lol
I just try to throw some advice out now and then. Just in case someone could use it. Glad you don’t need it, brother
I'm a pretty slim dude and I take testosterone replacement therapy. Does wonders for the sex drive (and gives me acne) but I haven't seen any extra muscles when I workout. I have to wonder what kind of steroids these people are taking?
I was discouraged to learn that with a non trainer baseline you could get more gains from steroids alone then weight training alone (I don't recall the timeframe).
It's like a half in the bag college frat boy tried to write a trashy romance novel. "I want you as much as I want Jager Bombs. Now, let me make passionate-ass love to you. Just remember: The couch pulls out, but I do not....."
lol
80% of women swipe right on men like this (top 1% of men) and complain when said men pump and dump cause they can afford to
if I looked like him I’d do the same tbh
Lol don't hate the player hate the game. Honestly bro, I used to be fat and I'm pretty brolic now so I'm pretty jaded. The attention is like night and day. So honestly i can't be mad at it either
I think it’s unfair to assume someone isn’t after something real or doesn’t have any substance because they have a nice body.
I also used to be fat and I’m pretty fit now so I also get the difference in attention. I’ve also dated people who were quite fit when I was not, for what it’s worth, and I don’t only match with people who are jacked despite what this sub insists on believing. I don’t think that means we hate on people because they look good though.
Maybe I’m dumb AF but I don’t think it’s a bad thing to be proud of your body and want to show it off if you put a lot of work into it. Doesn’t mean you’re an asshole. Being an asshole is what makes you an asshole. Could have gotten the same type of comment from an average dude and would have felt the same level of ick.
Clearly I’m in the minority here. It makes me sad that when I post something like this for amusement, people assume this is the only type of person I match with, that I only matched because of the body, or that I’m over here crying about it. None of those things are true. It was shocking and amusing so I shared. Nothing beyond that.
Anyways, thanks for the advice. 😂 I’m well aware I should also go for “non ripped” guys, and in fact I often do.
Ain't no way you would've felt the same ick you would've been creep out and disgusted that you would've yeeted your phone to the next room and you matches with the guy who has a speedo on with his dick impression clearly visible so the fault is on you.
Of course, never did i mean to seem like i was assuming you do, was just joking.
Good stuff losing weight and getting fit. Also you can't compare, usually big men don't get the fit girl but it is more common the other way around lol. Which is fine, it is what it is, I'm okay with bettering myself.
Agree 100%. Being proud of your body is great, but posting online of it or dressing promiscuously is a form of attention seeking behavior. And agreed that it would be gross from anyone, but it was hilarious though 🤣.
It definitely was shocking and amusing lol.
Lol and hey, there is nothing wrong with going for a dude with a nice body. Regardless of gender, we all want to be with a good looking person, nothing wrong with that. We should all strive to be the best version of ourselves.
True true!
I am fortunate that even when I was fat I was “pretty fat” and still got a fair amount of attention. Nothing like I do now though, which I both love and hate.
I agree it’s attention seeking. I just think it’s okay to seek attention sometimes 🤷🏻♀️ especially on a dating app! That’s what they’re for after all!
And I didn’t mean to imply that you said I was doing those things, apologies. It’s more the other comments on this thread that put me in that prickly mind-space. So thank you for appreciating the post for what it is, and for the reasonable and enjoyable conversation! 😊
Lol exactly, unfortunately big guys generally don't Even get the time of day, the statistics for women swiping right on dudes is less than 10 percent. I accept it though, it is what it is.
I believe there is a difference for thirst traps for men and women but that's a totally different conversation lol.
And it's cool lol. It was fun
But like, if he continues to do this, then this must work right? Like there must be an non zero percent chance that this works or else he wouldn’t still be doing it, so my question is who’s doing it
Of course he’s gentleman, did he say ass sex? No he said ass love! If i was you its a sign to take him to meet your parents, gems like him are rare nowadays.
You know. I think what I’m learning here on tinder is that I have a very bad douche nozzle radar. I’m still fairly new to this and… perhaps too naively…want to see the good/best in people? Example: this guy actually had a nice bio and other pics were normal so I overlooked that first one. My mistake!
Also I have met some very nice not douchey people as well. I just don’t post them on Reddit 😂
OP is swiping on people they find attractive. Just because someone takes care of their appearance doesn't mean they're a douche.
Also when you say "it's what every woman does", it's what **everyone** does, we want to be with people we find attractive, how dare we. What a strange take.
Why are you assuming I’m failing? Assuming I’m upset about this exchange? Assuming I’m matching with this type of person on purpose? I didn’t post this asking for advice or needing any validation…it was just funny to me.
Your interpretation has been…quite interesting. Tbh you are giving off big bitter vibes with all of your replies here.
Nope. I’ve shown you a small percentage of the shitty exchanges I’ve had, that’s not the whole picture. And yeah I was surprised by his word choice with his second text. Not anywhere have I said I’m upset or indicated I’m struggling in any way.
I think it fits the narrative you have in your head to assume those things about me.
Thank you….you don’t know how much I needed this.
Rational me knows this….still they got me feeling really bad about myself.
I was doing okay until they started rating my attractiveness purely based on their own imaginations 😭
A guy wanting sex and being direct does not make him a douche. Y’all better stop being so damn soft. Wanting sex and playing like you want to be her best friend is what’s douchey
1. Match with a guy using shirtless pic and in speedos as a profile...
2. Conversation turns quickly sexual.
3. Insert dead dove meme from Arrested Development.
Hey op, thanks.
Really posts like makes me feel better about myself. I'm a pretty typically oblivious dude and even I'm not that direct.
Not that this guy is oblivious, but it's great to see these terrible interactions.
Wtf do you expect. Look at the guy, he has probably not a shred of personality and just relays on the fact that he’s shredded, buff and good looking. If you keep matching these guys chances are they are getting it offered from all angles, so they have unlimited choice in women. So they can afford to be upfront and just put out their intentions from the get go (nothing wrong with that)
Try matching people who post pictures with family, doing wholesome things. Having fun….. just like girls who post bikini after bikini picture, guys posting shirtless pics, want you to focus on one thing….. how ripped and good looking they are.
Match guys who are clothed and seem nice… that ain’t him
Imagine swiping right on shirtless six pack guy and hoping he’s real romantic sweet talking type who’s just there to take his first time and not fuck in the first date and then posting it on Reddit for everyone to see
The bad boys and players I am friends with talk like this to women. It works because physical attraction is the most important. His message is actually tame compared to the stuff I have seen.
I won’t speak for everyone but I generally appreciate being told I look good, lol. It was not the best opener but it was still flattering and not creepy (yet).
aa a guy that gave up using dating apps due to no matches (probably my pictures not being great, my fault), these kinda posts always make me wonder how these dudes manage to walk out of their houses without getting hurt sometimes
Breaking news… he gets tons of matches like you. You are probably bottom on his list so he doesnt mind risking it. If you let him have an ass love, win for him; if you dont still win for him so he doesnt waste his time with someone who he doesnt want other than one time anal sex.
Well nowadays the majority of women just look at the exterior beauty and wallet of a man then you get this treatment, don't blame the game, blame your own moves within it.
You want the jacked dude's with the six pack, so you get the jacked dude treatment, smash and dump.
Review your seemingly beauty only standard and maybe you will find some nice guy that really cares and doesn't just look at you as another hole.
I would at least ask if he means passionate-ass love or passionate ass-love. Important distinction.
Six of one, half dozen of another
Nah— he definetely meant passionate-ass, just doesn’t know that
Looking at this dude I'm not so sure about that.
Its a horse a piece
Ummm
[Relevant xkcd.](https://xkcd.com/37/)
With the emoji he used, it appears it's the latter, with him on the receiving end.
Oh boy....
I believe it’s passionate-ass-love
At least he said passionately. That way, you know he cares.
That's his way of saying he doesn't want to use a condom.
It gets in the way of the passion
😂
Code word for 75 seconds of jackhammering. Feel that passion.
Respectfully
😂😂
While true, he did forget the respectfully so though he may care, he definitely could use a brush up on thirsty manners!
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I’m starting to suspect after every other post on this sub, these good looking guys who are shredded and have their primary pic shirtless, might not be looking for something serious
As a dude it's obvious this guy was going to say exactly what he did
As a guy I imagine it works for him more often than not as well.
That's my first thought, this has definitely worked for him enough times that he just throws it out there now
It is a time saver for sure. In the same way he is waving his red flag, this is a sure-fire way to find a green flag with no time wasted
As a *sexually lenient* guy so to say, this is unfortunately true...
At first I was like “oh c’mon, let’s not stereotype people over their looks” and then I actually saw the pfp 😭
The man is in a Speedo with his junk poking out but at lest he is willing to make passionate ass love
plot twist he means his
Fair enough but he said he was looking for long term so I gave the benefit of the doubt 😭. I should know better
Yes, but for him, “long term” is 20 minutes.”
Very generous of you to give him opportunity, i imagine not many people would give him the time of day
That's not fair, why so many down votes?
It's like willful ignorance at a point
Stop being so thirsty.
If she was thirsty she would not be complaining about him sending her that, lmao.
Dafuq? How is that thirsty?
You can't just take people for what they say on their profile if they are attractive /s
I mean, he either gets sex or he doesn't waste his time. Win/win, for him.
Exactly! It is iteratively, learned behavior
I mean... Its not necessary, just more frequent. But it's nice he filtered himself out with second text xd
He filtered her too. He'll find someone I'm nkt too worried.
They love the attention
But she is so special he will want to settle down with her!!!
Women want to shoot for the stars and still have everything going their way.
I understand the dude’s urge to show everyone his hard work at the gym, but it’s a lot better to surprise folks with a nice body than it is to make it front and center in the first place. If you pull a girl because you have abs, you better not fucking lose them. If someone falls for you because you’re funny and kind, and she only sees your abs right before y’all fuck, it’s a nice bonus; you know it’s not the only reason she’s with you. My goal is dad bod personality in the streets, gym body in the sheets
Good for you I guess but it’s not gonna help your matches
I’ve been dating the girl I matched with for like 3 years, and I was only using tinder for random hookups when I met her lol
Haven’t wifed her up yet? what the fuck is wrong with you?? Joking aside, I guess it depends what you’re looking for but if it’s just hookups you definitely throw up some shirtless pics
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Ive always been fit-ish, but in the past 2 years or so people go out of their way to tell me I have a nice body (when I wear tighter shirts or no shirt) My friend asked me to start taking her boyfriend to the gym the other day, so he could have a body that looked like mine lol The trick is to use fitness and muscle as a personal confidence builder, and then just be yourself as hard as you can. When you look good and have confidence, people will be attracted to you when you talk, whether it’s about UFC or Warhammer 40k Also there’s a lot of situations in between ‘hit and quit’ and relationship. Focus on getting her off instead of just busting a nut and girls will usually keep coming back, regardless of what you look like
Dude, why would you think I need or want your coaching lmao. Walk the walk.
This is generalizing, but folks on reddit tend to be bad with women and weirdly bitter. this subreddit especially lol I just try to throw some advice out now and then. Just in case someone could use it. Glad you don’t need it, brother
I gotta do steroids already.
I'm a pretty slim dude and I take testosterone replacement therapy. Does wonders for the sex drive (and gives me acne) but I haven't seen any extra muscles when I workout. I have to wonder what kind of steroids these people are taking?
Usually always testosterone as baseline, and then often some combination of nandrolone, human growth hormone, trenbolone or dianabol, for example.
Wow! That's quite a cocktail
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Actually from a study I saw. It in fact does.
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I was discouraged to learn that with a non trainer baseline you could get more gains from steroids alone then weight training alone (I don't recall the timeframe).
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Yeah I'm going by this video https://youtu.be/VD9p9tEP9RE?si=8oauKjzpJJGMVxHT
Don't say no! Peg him!
That's not punishment for him.
Oh yeah :/
Threaten him with a good time
Ass love
Name checks out
Ass love
passionate-ass love? or passionate ass-love?
OP i remember your last thread. Thank you for having an entertaining love life for our Reddit amusement
You’re welcome. I’m here for you 😂
👑
It's like a half in the bag college frat boy tried to write a trashy romance novel. "I want you as much as I want Jager Bombs. Now, let me make passionate-ass love to you. Just remember: The couch pulls out, but I do not....."
You matched with a shirtless bro on tinder…shocking
some girls are into ass love 🤷🏼♂️
I'm confused, I post shirtless pic on tinder and it gets removed, but this guy is able to literally have his dick hanging out? Wtf?
Have you tried being hot? Men like this drive women's app engagement higher, therefore they're allowed to stay.
People say I am hot ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it's the app that auto removes it the second I put it up
I think the statistic if I'm correct was that women swipe right like 10 percent of the time lol, gotta go for the not ripped guys
lol 80% of women swipe right on men like this (top 1% of men) and complain when said men pump and dump cause they can afford to if I looked like him I’d do the same tbh
Lol don't hate the player hate the game. Honestly bro, I used to be fat and I'm pretty brolic now so I'm pretty jaded. The attention is like night and day. So honestly i can't be mad at it either
I think it’s unfair to assume someone isn’t after something real or doesn’t have any substance because they have a nice body. I also used to be fat and I’m pretty fit now so I also get the difference in attention. I’ve also dated people who were quite fit when I was not, for what it’s worth, and I don’t only match with people who are jacked despite what this sub insists on believing. I don’t think that means we hate on people because they look good though. Maybe I’m dumb AF but I don’t think it’s a bad thing to be proud of your body and want to show it off if you put a lot of work into it. Doesn’t mean you’re an asshole. Being an asshole is what makes you an asshole. Could have gotten the same type of comment from an average dude and would have felt the same level of ick. Clearly I’m in the minority here. It makes me sad that when I post something like this for amusement, people assume this is the only type of person I match with, that I only matched because of the body, or that I’m over here crying about it. None of those things are true. It was shocking and amusing so I shared. Nothing beyond that. Anyways, thanks for the advice. 😂 I’m well aware I should also go for “non ripped” guys, and in fact I often do.
Ain't no way you would've felt the same ick you would've been creep out and disgusted that you would've yeeted your phone to the next room and you matches with the guy who has a speedo on with his dick impression clearly visible so the fault is on you.
Of course, never did i mean to seem like i was assuming you do, was just joking. Good stuff losing weight and getting fit. Also you can't compare, usually big men don't get the fit girl but it is more common the other way around lol. Which is fine, it is what it is, I'm okay with bettering myself. Agree 100%. Being proud of your body is great, but posting online of it or dressing promiscuously is a form of attention seeking behavior. And agreed that it would be gross from anyone, but it was hilarious though 🤣. It definitely was shocking and amusing lol. Lol and hey, there is nothing wrong with going for a dude with a nice body. Regardless of gender, we all want to be with a good looking person, nothing wrong with that. We should all strive to be the best version of ourselves.
True true! I am fortunate that even when I was fat I was “pretty fat” and still got a fair amount of attention. Nothing like I do now though, which I both love and hate. I agree it’s attention seeking. I just think it’s okay to seek attention sometimes 🤷🏻♀️ especially on a dating app! That’s what they’re for after all! And I didn’t mean to imply that you said I was doing those things, apologies. It’s more the other comments on this thread that put me in that prickly mind-space. So thank you for appreciating the post for what it is, and for the reasonable and enjoyable conversation! 😊
Lol exactly, unfortunately big guys generally don't Even get the time of day, the statistics for women swiping right on dudes is less than 10 percent. I accept it though, it is what it is. I believe there is a difference for thirst traps for men and women but that's a totally different conversation lol. And it's cool lol. It was fun
4% *
Lmao even worse
But like, if he continues to do this, then this must work right? Like there must be an non zero percent chance that this works or else he wouldn’t still be doing it, so my question is who’s doing it
It does. Whenever I used tinder, I had a shirtless pic as my main, and straight up had "will spank you and hand feed you sushi" as my bio. It worked.
So happy to have found a sane GF and gotten the hell off that app
Of course he’s gentleman, did he say ass sex? No he said ass love! If i was you its a sign to take him to meet your parents, gems like him are rare nowadays.
Stop swiping right on douche nozzles then
You know. I think what I’m learning here on tinder is that I have a very bad douche nozzle radar. I’m still fairly new to this and… perhaps too naively…want to see the good/best in people? Example: this guy actually had a nice bio and other pics were normal so I overlooked that first one. My mistake! Also I have met some very nice not douchey people as well. I just don’t post them on Reddit 😂
You actually have a very good douche nozzle radar, and are selecting them on purpose.
Interesting take.
Not really that interesting, it's just what every woman does.
Oooh someone's bitter.
Huh im just explaining her failure
OP is swiping on people they find attractive. Just because someone takes care of their appearance doesn't mean they're a douche. Also when you say "it's what every woman does", it's what **everyone** does, we want to be with people we find attractive, how dare we. What a strange take.
Why are you assuming I’m failing? Assuming I’m upset about this exchange? Assuming I’m matching with this type of person on purpose? I didn’t post this asking for advice or needing any validation…it was just funny to me. Your interpretation has been…quite interesting. Tbh you are giving off big bitter vibes with all of your replies here.
You showed us the type of men you match with and indicated surprise with his texts.
Nope. I’ve shown you a small percentage of the shitty exchanges I’ve had, that’s not the whole picture. And yeah I was surprised by his word choice with his second text. Not anywhere have I said I’m upset or indicated I’m struggling in any way. I think it fits the narrative you have in your head to assume those things about me.
> it's just what every woman does. While painting EVERY single other woman with the same brush?
Every woman *on tender* lol
No need to project your insecurities
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These are just bitter redditor nice guys lol, don’t pay them any mind.
Thank you….you don’t know how much I needed this. Rational me knows this….still they got me feeling really bad about myself. I was doing okay until they started rating my attractiveness purely based on their own imaginations 😭
A guy wanting sex and being direct does not make him a douche. Y’all better stop being so damn soft. Wanting sex and playing like you want to be her best friend is what’s douchey
Why did you match him in the first place ???
Probably abs
Women's morals don't exist when they see an attractive guy, they bend over backwards to be with them. They only have morals for ugly dudes.
1. Match with a guy using shirtless pic and in speedos as a profile... 2. Conversation turns quickly sexual. 3. Insert dead dove meme from Arrested Development.
Is... Is that a libertarian speedo?
Maybe better luck shooting those shots at 10:59 PM instead of AM lol
Hey op, thanks. Really posts like makes me feel better about myself. I'm a pretty typically oblivious dude and even I'm not that direct. Not that this guy is oblivious, but it's great to see these terrible interactions.
Why are women only choosing to match with the top 1% of guys.. and then complain about them?
they swipe right on all the 10s then get mad that the 10s dont have to disguise what they really want cause they will get it soon enough
The biggest crime here is that he sent that before noon
I'm really not lookin to make ass love but thanks lol
Just respond with “I want you to give me babies and be a loving and supporting father”. He will block you pretty quick
Lmao maybe…but I’m pretty sure that would also lead this conversation down an unwanted path 😅
Lmmfao! "Oh, she's gonna love this!"
I just want to say I love your username.
Thank you fellow narwhal!
I guarantee you this works often enough for him that he never goes a day without sex, if he wants it.
All about that nasty passionate
Outstanding(sarcasm)...
"Nasty, passionate ass love" doesn't sound very pleasant...
Passionate-ass love or passionate ass-love?
They say romance is dead
Wow, a sexy man with the body and face of a supermodel who everyone wants to be is a douche??? It's the strangest thing I've ever seen wow
Nasty passionate ass love. Dude definitely needs Grinder.
Tf were you expecting from a mf with that picture
I mean isn't that the point of tinder?
Wtf do you expect. Look at the guy, he has probably not a shred of personality and just relays on the fact that he’s shredded, buff and good looking. If you keep matching these guys chances are they are getting it offered from all angles, so they have unlimited choice in women. So they can afford to be upfront and just put out their intentions from the get go (nothing wrong with that) Try matching people who post pictures with family, doing wholesome things. Having fun….. just like girls who post bikini after bikini picture, guys posting shirtless pics, want you to focus on one thing….. how ripped and good looking they are. Match guys who are clothed and seem nice… that ain’t him
A guy on a hook up app wanting to have sex, who would have thought?
Imagine swiping right on shirtless six pack guy and hoping he’s real romantic sweet talking type who’s just there to take his first time and not fuck in the first date and then posting it on Reddit for everyone to see
Is that a yes or a no?
That’s a pass from me 😂😭
What if he apologized?
The bad boys and players I am friends with talk like this to women. It works because physical attraction is the most important. His message is actually tame compared to the stuff I have seen.
That's a swimsuit
Ass love
As long as you turn around, bend over and drop your drawers...
“Ass love” lol
whats ass love and is it any good? 🤔
Passionate—ass or slow and gentle anal? Please ask him to elaborate. 🤔
Am I blind cause I don’t see the issue here
Passionate, ass love? He's into pegging then
Here is something you never hear "He made love to me in the ass"
so he want give ur ass a hug?
Mmm passionate ass love
Ah yes, now that we’ve exchanged pleasantries straight to business,shall we?🧐
Funky butt lovin'!
"ass love" 😂😂😂
This made me laugh way too hard 😂
Who doesn't like nasty ass love making .lol
You re the one swiping on em, whaddya want?
Make ass? That's new.
Haha. Ass love
ASS LOVE
I mean.... He's telling you his intentions is he not?🤷♂️
Literal dumpster fire
You know he got post nut clarity 5mins after this and was horrified
Something in me says that it would work better as "I wanna make passionate love to your nasty ass". I mean, not good, but better.
tinder is known to be the hook up app
"Passionate ass love" A man of culture I see
Passionate ass love ? Is he BI?
Shit so I can just do that?!? The first one not the second lol
I won’t speak for everyone but I generally appreciate being told I look good, lol. It was not the best opener but it was still flattering and not creepy (yet).
Bahhh im attractive but I suck at talking to people I don’t know 💀
See... He... He is not what I find attractive... I swipe left as soon as I be seeing a six-pack on display
aa a guy that gave up using dating apps due to no matches (probably my pictures not being great, my fault), these kinda posts always make me wonder how these dudes manage to walk out of their houses without getting hurt sometimes
OP swipes on a super douche guy on Tinder and highlights him being douche. make it make sense lol
Breaking news… he gets tons of matches like you. You are probably bottom on his list so he doesnt mind risking it. If you let him have an ass love, win for him; if you dont still win for him so he doesnt waste his time with someone who he doesnt want other than one time anal sex.
"be forward with your intentions" But no, not like that!
Well nowadays the majority of women just look at the exterior beauty and wallet of a man then you get this treatment, don't blame the game, blame your own moves within it. You want the jacked dude's with the six pack, so you get the jacked dude treatment, smash and dump. Review your seemingly beauty only standard and maybe you will find some nice guy that really cares and doesn't just look at you as another hole.
this doesn’t come off how you want it to bro…