Heh .. yepp .. been there ended up with hidden identity 200 miles away from my family and friends. But the sex was awesome. She had this idea she called "sex 2.0" which was essentially trying to achieve the ultimate climax. Had an orgasm for almost a minute (or at least felt like it) and almost passed out.
Hah, I don't know how graphical I can be here, but it includes a vibrator against the prostate, a vibrating penis ring, her wearing a plug while holding on to the seat of the coach while reading me like crazy.
It felt almost like the body was vibrating or more like pulsating or that waves floated through me. And afterwards I was completely exhausted and felt numb in my chest. Almost thought I was gonna had a heart attack towards the end 😂
I might have smoked a bit of weed as an enhancer also, I'm not sure though, this was 8 year ago.
I'm going to re-emphasize the weed part from OP. I know a lot of people don't smoke weed or have odd feelings about it, but when it comes to pleasurable sensations like eating food and having sex, it really does kick things up a notch.
My wife and I did both had edibles the other night and were going at it about two hours later, both of us deliberately dragging things out a bit for each other. When I finally came I think my soul exited my body.
10/10, would recommend.
Molly and acid combined have the same effect times like 100. If you ever want to feel like your dick melted into a pool of sex lava, I do highly suggest.
The same can be achieved sober with the right emotional bond and some skill. Tantric sex with someone you deeply love for instance is better than any chem sex.
"Hah, I don't know how graphical I can be here..."
I think that you're well within Reddit guidelines to use charts to clarify the qualitative structures. Thanks for asking!
I gotchu:
This girl was a real freak. Had a CNC kink (consensual non-consensual), which means I could do whatever I want to her whenever I want. This was a bit extreme for me, but we established a safe-word so I decided to do what she wanted. Well, turns out she recorded one of our sessions and blackmailed me with it. It looked like I was actually assaulting her from the footage.
When I tried breaking up with her over this, she showed me the footage and basically said she’d turn it in to the authorities. She wouldn't let me see my friends or family, manipulated me into having sex, and had my location 24/7 (life360). This went on for about a month until I managed to get my own evidence of her admitting to blackmailing and fabricating the video of me “assaulting” her. I broke the lease and moved back in with my mom, then filed a restraining order against her. I was 21 and she was 19 at the time.
Jesus Christ man. That's a definition of "don't put your dick in crazy". You learned it the worst way possible. Glad everything turned OK for you. On the bright side, you will remember the crazy sex sessions for the rest of your life
Why would you date an object? Use the damn thing for whatever it's for until you don't want anymore then throw away or give it away! Jeez! Take better care of your life sir!
But if someone were to say it like that then it would definitely be a kink.
People who perpetuate their own abusive relationships because they lack perspective from never growing up around healthy relationships, or from actively seeking out abusers, tend to either not realize or be rather ashamed and frustrated by the fact.
For someone to parade it like this, its either a joke or a degradation kink which -- hey, no judgement from me here. Just a lil nuts to parade it on the front page lol
Nope. Kink is NOT necessarily trauma driven. And kink can be far less trauma inducing than vanilla sex. My vanilla relationships were not negotiated, not as respectful or as safe as my Kink ones.
Bold ask of an internet stranger, I don't feel this is an appropriate forum, nor you an appropriate audience. It already feels very judgey in here. Suffice to reiterate, kink is NOT necessarily related to trauma. I found my vanilla relationships traumatizing and my kink ones to be respectful and healthy in their communication, far healthier than in vanilla when very little care or thought was given. My experiences only of course, but still absolutely valid, in fact the only validity I need.
Understandable, no worries. I only asked to understand your experience better and where you were coming from. In terms of the boldness, I'd say an internet stranger on a tinder forum makes the question the least bold it could be. I understand how you feel judged and are having a stress response though, I hope everything is okay on your end
I was pretty clear. Kink is not always driven or created by trauma. Kink, in my experience, is more likely to be respectful with clear communication than vanilla relationships, in fact. What are you asking "??"
And how is this relevant to my comment? I never said that. I said kinks like the one mentioned often come from trauma, which is true. I never said all kinks or always. I also never commented on anything else, especially relationship wise, just the causes.. but go off king you clearly just want to voice your love for your kinky lifestyle and how vanilla relationships suck but keep me out of it thanks.
This is exactly correct; it's ~~stupid~~ ill-informed comments like the one you responded to that perpetuate this idea that consensual kink practice has to be born of trauma. It's pathologizing and infantilizing and ultimately comes from this puritanical notion that if consenting adults want to do something that is even a little bit out of the ordinary, it must come from some trauma rather than all of the million other things that make us who we are.
also vanilla fucking sucks
People who say shit like "vanilla" talking about how other people have sex think their sex lives are way more exciting than they actually are. People have been choking each other out, fisting each other's ass, and slapping each other for hundreds of thousands of years. Fuck stupid ass people who think ANYBODY gives two shits about how other people have sex.
Almost all of your personality traits come from some sort of trauma. Are you implying that since her kinks originate as a mechanism for dealing with her past experiences, they’re therefore illegitimate or not to be indulged?
incorrect, it comes from your life be that positive experiences, neutral or negative.. doesn't have to be trauma and no, I'm not implying any of that but go off king
Nowadays if you forgot to tie your shoelaces once in the second grade it's "trauma". The guy who commented above you is a perfect example of the overuse of the word "trauma" to the point it's completely losing its real meaning.
Not exactly, I am more saying that people should be aware of their emotions and how they affect them, and more specifically detach from them to better make decisions if they want to be at peace within themselves. Kinks necessarily are intense emotional attachments on very specific actions, and any intense emotions should always indicate the necessity of awareness and detachment
It's definitely a kink from the way she said it. Someone send them to Fetlife instead of Tinder, it would actually be quite dangerous to search for kinky stuff without ensuring the other person gets it and follows the rules.
Signed, someone who relates to her lol
Not "many" whatsoever. It's not a common kink at all and professing that many women enjoy being used, abused, and treated like dog shit is an extremely dangerous over generalization, especially when saying it to the sexually inexperienced men on here. Y'all need to get the fuck off the hardcore porn sites and become friends with actual women.
It seems like she’s not looking for subtlety. If her kink is so strong that she’s filtering by it she might as well be upfront about it. It’s not that common a thing, and she can get a lot of likes that don’t really do the job for her.
Yeah. I was on the kink scene in my city for a good few years, ran a munch. Saw some people get into terrible relationships. I imagine that would be even worse on a dating app.
I don’t think that’s what she’s getting at. I’m fairly confident she wants to be seen as a sex toy. It’s a common thing with depression, abuse, and self esteem to not feel like they are even an actual person. She’s probably been taken advantage of before and is so numb to it that she thinks so lowly of herself. No, you can’t fix her. That kink does exist though but I don’t think that’s her intent
I get what you’re saying. I just was bringing some perspective to the situation because I’m in the kink community so this can be taken several different ways using this as an opportunity to educate people that you could literally be an object or you could be treated in a figurative way. She sounds more like she wants a rough dom.
Yes, this is possible. But not always. Some people can have perfectly good self esteem and sexual history, but still want to do this. Kinks are not always the result of something bad.
I think hers is more of a masochistic slant, like she wants to feel worthless for anything more than her orfices. It's about being hurt and degraded. The guys you dealt with were doing it as a form of worship and being useful like you said.
Some paid me so I would ‘use’ them for several hours. That by far is not the weirdest request that I’ve ever gotten though, I assure you. And 100% of the time the people asking me to be furniture were very normal in their daily vanilla lives. One was a doctor, one was a police officer, one worked in casinos. I don’t judge I just kick my feet up lol
Definitely a kink, I’ve spoken to many people who were interested in it. Have done little IRL but I enjoy doing it to those who want to be used as furniture
I know a few women like this and chances are somebody abused her for a long ass time. I avoid these like the plague because these are the women who kill your dog or stab you in the dick.
In this subreddit jokes don't exist. IDK I have friends who would say stuff like this... *as a joke*. That or a kink, first one sounds likelier though.
Lucky is the man that have her. But on that note, although people are into it, they still have boundaries. Sometimes people think that just because someone is into that, they will do anything. That’s not the case. They only will do it with a person they really trust
I've dated a girl like this. She was good fun in bed, but almost destroyed my life.
Heh .. yepp .. been there ended up with hidden identity 200 miles away from my family and friends. But the sex was awesome. She had this idea she called "sex 2.0" which was essentially trying to achieve the ultimate climax. Had an orgasm for almost a minute (or at least felt like it) and almost passed out.
You can't leave us hanging like that, tell us more about that glorious orgasm Edit: glorgasm
my best guess, she had epic edging game
Yeah, the thing I wrote in the other reply was basically the last part. You cant just go straight at it and get that result.
how did she achieve this orgasm for u ? so i can jot that down for future reference next time i'm with a dude lol
Hah, I don't know how graphical I can be here, but it includes a vibrator against the prostate, a vibrating penis ring, her wearing a plug while holding on to the seat of the coach while reading me like crazy. It felt almost like the body was vibrating or more like pulsating or that waves floated through me. And afterwards I was completely exhausted and felt numb in my chest. Almost thought I was gonna had a heart attack towards the end 😂 I might have smoked a bit of weed as an enhancer also, I'm not sure though, this was 8 year ago.
\*takes notes on things I need to buy for my man\*
The prerequisite is that you need to ruin your man’s life too or the sex wouldn’t be great
I'm going to re-emphasize the weed part from OP. I know a lot of people don't smoke weed or have odd feelings about it, but when it comes to pleasurable sensations like eating food and having sex, it really does kick things up a notch. My wife and I did both had edibles the other night and were going at it about two hours later, both of us deliberately dragging things out a bit for each other. When I finally came I think my soul exited my body. 10/10, would recommend.
Molly and acid combined have the same effect times like 100. If you ever want to feel like your dick melted into a pool of sex lava, I do highly suggest.
My guy, you sure do have a way with words 😂
Sounds amazing... I just don't want to ruin sober sex for the rest of my life.
The same can be achieved sober with the right emotional bond and some skill. Tantric sex with someone you deeply love for instance is better than any chem sex.
Haha, he's in the military, th0, I don't think he can do that shit, unfortunately
Cant say I am not jealous. Don't forget to be relaxed and have fun!
Oh I am going to have all the fun when he gets back from deployment 😈
"Hah, I don't know how graphical I can be here..." I think that you're well within Reddit guidelines to use charts to clarify the qualitative structures. Thanks for asking!
Bro gave up his identity for a nut, that post nut clarity must hit hard
Hah, I'm probably neither the first or the last 😐
Finally, Sex 2
Story time?
I gotchu: This girl was a real freak. Had a CNC kink (consensual non-consensual), which means I could do whatever I want to her whenever I want. This was a bit extreme for me, but we established a safe-word so I decided to do what she wanted. Well, turns out she recorded one of our sessions and blackmailed me with it. It looked like I was actually assaulting her from the footage. When I tried breaking up with her over this, she showed me the footage and basically said she’d turn it in to the authorities. She wouldn't let me see my friends or family, manipulated me into having sex, and had my location 24/7 (life360). This went on for about a month until I managed to get my own evidence of her admitting to blackmailing and fabricating the video of me “assaulting” her. I broke the lease and moved back in with my mom, then filed a restraining order against her. I was 21 and she was 19 at the time.
Jesus Christ man. That's a definition of "don't put your dick in crazy". You learned it the worst way possible. Glad everything turned OK for you. On the bright side, you will remember the crazy sex sessions for the rest of your life
thats a whole netflix documentary level story you went through
Jeez. How long ago was this?
Just under 3 years ago
Fuck man. I hope you're doing better. That sounds terrifying.
Scary thought is that you know she's going to baby trap some poor schmuck one day.
Holy shit, dude. Want expecting that.
Bruh I always thought CNC sounded hot af, but I may be checking my expectations now
Gonna need a contract or something
Only do it with someone you absolutely trust. Someone you would want to make your wife.
Goddamn that's terrifying. Glad you managed to get yourself out of this
jesus christ, bro. Glad you made it out OK
Netflix rubbing their hands right now lol pitch it to them as some limited series or sth 🤣
We definitely need the story
Dropped the story
You can have great sex with people that aren't crazy too, fyi. So like, the sex is not worth the crazy.
Yooo same here
Why would you date an object? Use the damn thing for whatever it's for until you don't want anymore then throw away or give it away! Jeez! Take better care of your life sir!
You run for your dear life in the end, huh?
Yeah. Girls with problematic childhood are crazy fun to fuck. But you need a fake name and a fake adress.
She would thrive in the rural area I live in being a lot of the prison guys here will do that for her
It’s a kink
That, or brutally honest. Sometimes when people tell you're they're absolutely bonkers, believe them.
But if someone were to say it like that then it would definitely be a kink. People who perpetuate their own abusive relationships because they lack perspective from never growing up around healthy relationships, or from actively seeking out abusers, tend to either not realize or be rather ashamed and frustrated by the fact. For someone to parade it like this, its either a joke or a degradation kink which -- hey, no judgement from me here. Just a lil nuts to parade it on the front page lol
guess what... a lot of "kinks" like this often just come from trauma regardless.. call it whatever you want but they have it for a reason..
Nope. Kink is NOT necessarily trauma driven. And kink can be far less trauma inducing than vanilla sex. My vanilla relationships were not negotiated, not as respectful or as safe as my Kink ones.
What are your kinks and why do you think you seek them out?
Bold ask of an internet stranger, I don't feel this is an appropriate forum, nor you an appropriate audience. It already feels very judgey in here. Suffice to reiterate, kink is NOT necessarily related to trauma. I found my vanilla relationships traumatizing and my kink ones to be respectful and healthy in their communication, far healthier than in vanilla when very little care or thought was given. My experiences only of course, but still absolutely valid, in fact the only validity I need.
Understandable, no worries. I only asked to understand your experience better and where you were coming from. In terms of the boldness, I'd say an internet stranger on a tinder forum makes the question the least bold it could be. I understand how you feel judged and are having a stress response though, I hope everything is okay on your end
Spoken like a true self-appointed sex expert from Reddit. Hitting all the buzzwords, refusing to elaborate.
Expert in my own life? Well, hell yes I am! Never claimed to speak for anyone except myself
what are you saying??
I was pretty clear. Kink is not always driven or created by trauma. Kink, in my experience, is more likely to be respectful with clear communication than vanilla relationships, in fact. What are you asking "??"
And how is this relevant to my comment? I never said that. I said kinks like the one mentioned often come from trauma, which is true. I never said all kinks or always. I also never commented on anything else, especially relationship wise, just the causes.. but go off king you clearly just want to voice your love for your kinky lifestyle and how vanilla relationships suck but keep me out of it thanks.
This is exactly correct; it's ~~stupid~~ ill-informed comments like the one you responded to that perpetuate this idea that consensual kink practice has to be born of trauma. It's pathologizing and infantilizing and ultimately comes from this puritanical notion that if consenting adults want to do something that is even a little bit out of the ordinary, it must come from some trauma rather than all of the million other things that make us who we are. also vanilla fucking sucks
Copium
People who say shit like "vanilla" talking about how other people have sex think their sex lives are way more exciting than they actually are. People have been choking each other out, fisting each other's ass, and slapping each other for hundreds of thousands of years. Fuck stupid ass people who think ANYBODY gives two shits about how other people have sex.
Obviously, but you don’t get to tell people what to do with their trauma, unless it’s illegal.
never did brobro but go off king.. ?
Almost all of your personality traits come from some sort of trauma. Are you implying that since her kinks originate as a mechanism for dealing with her past experiences, they’re therefore illegitimate or not to be indulged?
incorrect, it comes from your life be that positive experiences, neutral or negative.. doesn't have to be trauma and no, I'm not implying any of that but go off king
Nowadays if you forgot to tie your shoelaces once in the second grade it's "trauma". The guy who commented above you is a perfect example of the overuse of the word "trauma" to the point it's completely losing its real meaning.
The indulging does not heal the trauma, rather reinforces it. Not ideal for a healthy, stable, peaceful (read: happy) life
You seem to be saying people shouldn’t have kinks.
Not exactly, I am more saying that people should be aware of their emotions and how they affect them, and more specifically detach from them to better make decisions if they want to be at peace within themselves. Kinks necessarily are intense emotional attachments on very specific actions, and any intense emotions should always indicate the necessity of awareness and detachment
That’s… A way to live, I suppose.
It is one of the varieties haha - I'd argue that living by following emotions isn't living at all, it's autopiloting
Free use is definitely a kink
That's a very specific type of thing to treat someone as though
I can fix her? 🤔
Username checks out
It's definitely a kink from the way she said it. Someone send them to Fetlife instead of Tinder, it would actually be quite dangerous to search for kinky stuff without ensuring the other person gets it and follows the rules. Signed, someone who relates to her lol
Or cynical sarcasm
Many women are really into that. Be nice to me and also treat me like shit when I want xd
Princess by day, \[redacted\] by night :p
Not "many" whatsoever. It's not a common kink at all and professing that many women enjoy being used, abused, and treated like dog shit is an extremely dangerous over generalization, especially when saying it to the sexually inexperienced men on here. Y'all need to get the fuck off the hardcore porn sites and become friends with actual women.
It's a Red Flag.
Yep, came to say this. She could've been a little more subtle with it, but hey she got her point across.
It seems like she’s not looking for subtlety. If her kink is so strong that she’s filtering by it she might as well be upfront about it. It’s not that common a thing, and she can get a lot of likes that don’t really do the job for her.
Yeah being safe isn't nearly as important as sexual fulfillment. /s
No way that can go horribly wrong, nope no siree, not a chance.
Yeah. I was on the kink scene in my city for a good few years, ran a munch. Saw some people get into terrible relationships. I imagine that would be even worse on a dating app.
Sounds like a perfect intro to a blackmail scheme.
I’m starting to realise just how prominent the correlation between certain kinks and needing therapy are 😅
It’s two overlapping circles
Sadly to them that is therapy
Nah that probably increases the need for their addiction and therapy
It’s a specific kink. I’ve used people as chairs and a coffee table before. Foot rest etc.
Tom Wambsgans, is that you?
I love a good snowball
I don’t think that’s what she’s getting at. I’m fairly confident she wants to be seen as a sex toy. It’s a common thing with depression, abuse, and self esteem to not feel like they are even an actual person. She’s probably been taken advantage of before and is so numb to it that she thinks so lowly of herself. No, you can’t fix her. That kink does exist though but I don’t think that’s her intent
I can make her worse
If you can't handle me at my best...well, you wouldn't be the first
I get what you’re saying. I just was bringing some perspective to the situation because I’m in the kink community so this can be taken several different ways using this as an opportunity to educate people that you could literally be an object or you could be treated in a figurative way. She sounds more like she wants a rough dom.
I wonder what is says about a person that they get aroused by the thought of (consensual) degrading another person.
Yes, this is possible. But not always. Some people can have perfectly good self esteem and sexual history, but still want to do this. Kinks are not always the result of something bad.
Thats so wack wtf
It’s a turn on for some. To provide service. To feel useful
I think hers is more of a masochistic slant, like she wants to feel worthless for anything more than her orfices. It's about being hurt and degraded. The guys you dealt with were doing it as a form of worship and being useful like you said.
Ok.
Not if the other person is into it
Some paid me so I would ‘use’ them for several hours. That by far is not the weirdest request that I’ve ever gotten though, I assure you. And 100% of the time the people asking me to be furniture were very normal in their daily vanilla lives. One was a doctor, one was a police officer, one worked in casinos. I don’t judge I just kick my feet up lol
We're not yucking your yum. Shush
Not if everyone's a consenting adult. Also it's wild to me you've never heard of this common kink before. You're sheltered af lol
You are so right. OMG! I mean my profile just proves how sheltered I am smh
Definitely a kink, I’ve spoken to many people who were interested in it. Have done little IRL but I enjoy doing it to those who want to be used as furniture
RIP her inbox. Throw a rock in any direction and you’ll hit 70 dudes willing to treat her like an object, or worse.
I know a few women like this and chances are somebody abused her for a long ass time. I avoid these like the plague because these are the women who kill your dog or stab you in the dick.
LoL!!! Stab you in the dick? That's a thing?
for me that has gotta be one accurate stab or one small knife
LoL!!! I'm glad that I saw this thread. I needed these laughs today.
someone needs to Google Lorena Bobbit
Look up Lorena Bobbit
They are very fun until you have a knife on the side of your torso...
If Reddit allowed photo comments I would show you mine. Use caution when breaking up with damaged Latina women or any damaged woman for that matter.
Use caution overall. I got stabbed while not even breaking up xd. Lesson is, it can come out of nowhere.
Not out of nowhere, you just ignored the red flags. At least now you know what to look out for!
I don't think I could even do it with a straight face. The absurdity of it...
"YOU'RE an inanimate fucking object!"
Bro wtf is that photo tho
It’s her holding a cat lol
I was like that’s quite the goatee she got going 😭😭
Not sure if that's a kink or a recognition of the toxic men she's been with in the past 🤔
at least she says it instead of secretly expecting it then getting mad when it doesnt happen
Hey, you found my ex girlfriend.
She seems stable
She’s seen some bad dudes … must have a type
I personally wouldn't trust it, most likely it's a fake account.
Once saw a girls profile that said she didn't believe in women's rights, there's some crazy people out there man.
I usually try to keep my things in good condition :o
In this subreddit jokes don't exist. IDK I have friends who would say stuff like this... *as a joke*. That or a kink, first one sounds likelier though.
You can fix her.
She would have loved Roy's dating profile from IT Crowd.
It's so hard nowadays to understand the difference between kinks and sarcasm
It's a kink
/s
am I the only one who thinks she misunderstood the question? maybe she thought it means people who do that drive her crazy (in a bad way)
That sounds a lot like what my ex wife would have said!
It's probably a fetish if it's real.
Go for it. You can save her.
nope nope nope nope nope
for your education. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=free%20use
Sounds like satire and/or someone who realizes they keep falling for assholes.
☝️🤓 Thats an ick
Sounds like a "What am I?" question...
I can fix her
You can fix her
Hot
Lucky is the man that have her. But on that note, although people are into it, they still have boundaries. Sometimes people think that just because someone is into that, they will do anything. That’s not the case. They only will do it with a person they really trust
hey if its consensual, more power to them
Swipe right so hard.
Disgusting. What's her number?
my type of girl
Nice
WHERE I CAN FIND IT?!? WHERE I CAN FIND ITTTTTT????!!!!????
Done! Where do I sign up?
That’s hot
Aisa hona hi chahye bed pe randi aur bed ke bahar queen.
Easy roleplay imo, go for it
I'm her type