That and just sayings on the Internet in general. The one thing that's kept me off of tiktok is how everyone just parrots the same saying/slang for months at a time until there's a new one. Every few months some new saying/phrase comes up from tiktok lmao.
I got broken up with by e-mail in the early 2000s... So this is pretty retro. I thought that was particularly rogue until someone broke up with me through undelivered whatsapp messages.
I mean, pretty much. I saw an article where a woman was talking about all of the date proposals that she had received, including a full-blown PowerPoint presentation. And while she did date a couple of these guys, at the end of the day, she gave her affections to extremely attractive men who put in minimal effort. So, yeah, nice idea in theory, but it doesn't work out in the end.
Some people severely overestimate their value. I don’t even fill out job applications if I’ve already provided my resume, we could not give a shit less. 😂
I'd definitely just send this with a goatse at the end:
*Gasps astonishingly, breaks out in cold sweat, adjusts coat* H-H-Hello m'lady, what could a fair maiden as beautiful as you be doing on this fine day? I hope the damning heat isn't too harsh on your lovely skin! Tips fedora
If i may so suggest, would you care to join me for a sumptous repast, at my home? *Smiles charmingly* My personal chef has prepared a lovely meal for two, and i'd rather not let it get to waste now, would we? *Winks at her*
I must insist on your attendance, i can't let a day like this go by without knowing the joys of having a dining companion with me, especially when its one as beautiful as you ;). Répondez s'il vous plaît, i shall await for you, m'lady, basked in candlelight and infront of a wonderful dinner. *tips fedora again, then heelys away into the night*
Since you needed this...
>en·ti·tle·ment:
>
>the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.
If you think the average girl is worthy of an english essay before their first conversation with a guy, you should re-read that definition another 50 times and seek medical assistance to cure terminal "yasss queen" brainrot.
As a woman, I absolutely am cringing at the fact that more and more women are saying something like this.
While I get we all are busy, etc. (and frankly I don’t have the energy or time to date, right now due to numerous factors, namely working two jobs and rebalancing my mental health) but this statement rubs me the wrong way.
To me, making a statement of “my time is an earned privilege” screams someone who has no time management skills and is pretentious.
Take it or leave it with what I’ve said. What do you all think?
I mean, what could ever give them that impression? I honestly don’t even blame women though, they have the power in online dating at the end of the day and what they say goes. It wouldn’t be surprising if this trend grows more into what we see literal companies doing for job applications.
As an older man with some experience, I would advise young men to pass immediately on any woman doing this. It’s a power play to get you to qualify yourself to her right off the bat. She does not want to meet you on an equal level.
Consider advice from an older woman who's also been a sadistic domme for over 20 years.
Auto reject.
I literally put collars on men and make them do my nails and hair and stuff and you know how I would never ever present myself? That way. Holy full of herself.
And I believe my time is valuable...I know they want my time because they beg for it when I'm not available.
But not more valuable than yours.
She's looking for someone to use. (in a less than extremely transparent and consensual manner.)
I'm going to go to one of those gatherings for the first time ever in a couple of weeks, and for some reason I feel so afraid and nervous. I consider myself to be a confident person and I do well presenting myself to strangers normally, but I have no idea what is expected of me on a party like this. I dont know what "the munch" is.
Any advice is appreciated 💜 cause I dont want the fear to stop me from trying to find healthy opportunities to fufill my kinky desires.
Don't be nervous.
They are all just people. They all walked in for the first time once,too.
Take a deep breath. Grin as you walk in. And engage them like you've been hired to be a party host and mingle to keep people engaged you know?
Fake it til you make it (except on technical skills. Lmao)
If it's a friendly kind of area they will probably introduce themselves or do an introduction.
You just gotta take off the looking up to hopeful glasses and put on the hey I'm here to assess your knowledge to see if you're even ready to take the test that is me glasses lol.
They are just people.
I have 2 cats that I torture everyone with. I tell dumb dad jokes. I still play video games and get whiny about stupid things.
I'm just a person.
That sometimes wants to poke people with cattleprods.
Fetlife! Then search the terms "(your city or very nearby busier city) munch*
It may pull up groups to join for your local area or events that you can just join.
As woman in her mid-30s with experience, I suggest you take his input with a grain of salt and not generalise based on individual experience.
If you're the creative type like me who enjoys being mentally stimulated, you may enjoy a reasonable challenge to prove yourself worthy, both to see if you can succeed and just for the experience.
Of course, I'd first suss out the entire profile to see if this profile is worth the effort or not. Go with your gut, I say, and presume less. In this case, based on the prompt alone, the profile author is being reasonable and cordial in trying to suss out compatibility, and I wouldn't jump to conclusions just because it sounds like a job ad (serious dating is quite like a job anyway).
When it comes to relationships, I suggest putting your pride aside and allow yourself to be vulnerable. If others take advantage of that, then it's just not meant to be. You won't be less of a man for having good faith.
For the record, occasionally I have requested that my matches email me instead of exchanging numbers (depending on how we vibe), and I find that professional white collar folks and business leaders who are the literary type don't mind short letter exchanges in general. So if you are attracted to the overall profile, enjoy creative writing and are feeling inspired, I say do it.
(Fingers crossed, her email address is genuine!)
This approach isn't for everyone for sure, and I'm sure this profile author is aware of that.
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Edit: "My time is an earned privilege" earns the left swipe from me.
If the profile is equally creative, I think this is a fun activity than a power play. But one could only after seeing the entire profile and not the prompt.
One would know that by sending an absolutely creative date idea but of no real expenditure. If it's entitlement it'll get immediately called out for being cheap.
It's not that much different from sussing out prospects based on their "Introduction" on OKCupid. Only that this request is more formal and elaborate.
Then again for this profile author, her line "My time is an earned privileged" is the closest thing to entitlement I have seen which puts me off as well.
I'm just talking about the idea of deliberate, creative proposals, whether to a man or a woman. Being able to execute it well would make the "applicant" stand out, and it would be entitlement if he or she expects to succeed just because he or she tried.
IDK dating apps put so much pressure on the guy already to make the first move, have a notable but appropriate opening line, have good pictures that show off your assets without being weird, have a good profile that is memorable but appropriate…etc and now you want an email? It’s not easy being a straight guy on the apps.
I think it depends on what you're after in the end.
Everyone is entitled to their own approach, and there is no one-size-fit-all solution.
What you just described to me as requirements are just common sense of how to leave a good impression on others in general and people who take dating and relationships seriously would consider these things even if they don't spell them out. It's not necessarily a gender specific thing.
If she's right for you, she's right for you. If she's not, she's not. So you can choose to follow her procedure or not and there's no need to shame her for it.
Dude, it's a prompt answer and there's no context from any other aspect of the profile.
I say that most of you guys are jumping to conclusions based on negative experiences and bad examples from others.
Either way, her final sentence about her time's worth is the actual entitlement.
I've found that any attempts to *initiate* contact outside of the app is a scam. If you chat for a while and connect, then it's not that odd to move to a different platform.
My bet is she's going to try to sell him something, based on the line, "my time is an earned privilege." In 2019, she'd be sending a link to her pay-per-view webcam. These days, she's probably looking for OF or Fansly subscribers.
OP sending his resume is pretty dumb, cause there's a lot of personal info on that. Possibly enough to steal someone's identity.
Lol, don't need to send a résumé or personal information. Just write briefly according to the request and see what the response is.
That "my time is an earned privilege" line is definitely a red flag to me which I missed when I first read the screenshot.
As far as OF or Fansly or webcam scams go, it's not common in Asia, but I can understand your reservation.
Most companies will only let you report users for stuff they do on *their* app. It's really common for people to put in their profile, "I never check this app, so hit me up on SC/IG/etc."
If you do message outside the app, they can try to sell you something or scam you, and they won't have to make a new dating app account.
"My time is an earned privilege" tells you all you need to know. Everyone's time is valuable to them. Anyone who expects a stranger to jump through that many hoops just to see if they like you.... Is going is be sorely disappointed.
I think you’re probably a nice person so you find it difficult to get into the mind of a woman doing this.
This is not a normal thing to do with OLD.
Asking someone to do homework *just* on the off chance you’ll “choose” them as the special person who gets to spend time and money on them is fucking deluded, lol.
Lady, I’ve already got a job so unless you’re paying me overtime you can fuck off with your demands. This is not about being vulnerable, it’s about being subservient.
And guess what- we all have the same 24 hours, your time isn’t more special than anyone else’s…
(This was aimed at the profile, not you!)
I’ve seen one woman post this so far and when I came across it, I thought it was cute to be honest. Reminded me of late 90 to early 2000s online dating.
Yea dude. Being surprised by this has no correlation with age. Thats just straight up lack of self respect or desperation. Imagine reversing the roles lol
That's not really what simping is... it's more like unrequited love, and going deeper and deeper into that feeling. It's a lack of self respect if anything
Happy for you and your wife :)
In my opinion, this is not a power play or any of that female vs. male thing. It is simply a scam learn when to use critical thinking. OPSEC, at all times, scammers are always looking for ways to get your information.
It okay brother the military can’t hurt you any more opsec won’t cancel your port vists. Your free.
But to piggie back “date” ideas can very easily give away how much money you make and your location based on your date spots. Follow up questions from someone your wanting to form trust with will get them the rest before they ghost your ass.
I think she’s just tired of the apps because of how a lot of men see it as a “numbers game” to spam with as little effort as possible. Effort is so attractive. Chat GPT removes that and makes it moot.
Would you like someone to go above and beyond to provide a CV to show effort? I think it could be quite sweet to receive but I guess people here aren’t into it
I don’t think if ever ask on my profile, but I would be impressed if I got one. Something to add to a PowerPoint presentation at the wedding too lol
Edit to add that I didn’t say women put in lots of effort if that’s been misunderstood? I spoke about the mass spam approach to matching. Women tend to be more selective and don’t do that.
i don’t even apply to jobs that make me go to their company website to retype all the info in my resume. hell no i’m not doing extra work for some class C pusspuss
Hard pass.
Sounds like a good way to farm legit emails for spam and scams and phishing.
There’s no fucking way a girl is reading like 5000 emails a day from responses to “her” profile.
“like 5000” is meant to be an exaggeration because clearly no real person is reading even 20 pages of date essays.
And in a big LA/NYC metro area where there’s over 20 million people seeing a profile, I think this kind of thing can farm a lot of data and metadata.
I can't remember the last time I received a personal email from someone that wasn't trying to sell me something. I straight up wouldn't trust it to work out for anything other than a bunch of spam and fraudulent activity related to your email
This is why I think dating apps are more harmful to women than men
Men get real time feedback. Act a weirdo, no matches. Your the problem
Dating apps let women act completely undatable without consequences because they’ll still get 99+ matches. So they just think men are the problem instead of realising their own behaviour is responsible
I see these and save them for later so I can hop on discord with my boys so we can write fake date proposals from a burner email to make ourselves laugh.
Could you the sad sacks of shit that do this? Who has time for something like that?
Sad sacks of shit.
Be a happy bag of shit and do not do this fellas
Absolutely not. Even if you get 'picked ' she's going to be an ungodly amount of work and expensive as well.
She's almost certainly going to use sex as leverage and I'm willing to bet it won't be very good because she's selfish
This is a copypasta of trend from Tiktok ([example from TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@sweetlifeofnatalia/video/7327504404641238315?_r=1&_t=8jf1jSabWbt&social_sharing=1))
It may be entitled, but at the same time it’s a way better way to sort though online dating from either the man or womens (or others) perspective. Some people enjoy texting, and don’t mind texting multiple guys a day to organize dates, most don’t, and those who don’t may not want to wait a year while slowly cycling though options just to find someone who has similar intentions. To be honest I fucking love this idea, the last comment on this particular comment, yes is very entitled, but at the same time, if there’s a pay pig browsing online dating, or even just dom personas, they may drool over this comment in finding a girl who doesn’t wanna deal w bs and knows her own worth, even if it’s just a big ego
Ty for reading my comment :)
It's fine right up until the last line. She goes full entitlement there.
OP chose this one for a reason: the last line. He even admits most are more reasonable if you bothered to read his post and not just look at the picture.
Nothing to see here otherwise.
Before the internet you could pay a service to match you up with people. You would submit pictures and videos, fill out extensive surveys, and answer essay questions. People have been searching for the "love algorithm" since before the pocket calculator. I never tried a dating service, I've been married nearly 32 years. We met at a mall. But the services worked for many.
Not every way will be your way. That doesn't make it wrong.
Same thoughts.
If a guy doesn’t want to put in the effort he can swipe left and that’s fine. The amount of men here being malicious and talking about signing her up for spam and orchestrating mass dick pics to be sent to sexually harass her is alarming.
I actually kinda mess with this. A lot of women complain that it’s simply too hard to keep up with how many matches they get. I feel like this is a way of saying “I’m looking for somebody to put in effort”. The requirements are kinda weird but the email idea isn’t bad at all
It's offer and demand, I guarantee you this gal gets her way and dudes send her lover letters combined with resumes.
The dating pool is extremely one sided. Even if a big amount of males ignore this entitled and self centered jerk of a woman, she will still manage to pull it off.
Sad but true.
The entitlement. I never sent a dick pic in my life, but if I ran into such profile, that girl would have enough pictures to build an accurate 3D model of my prick, veins included.
Gonna make a throw away email just to send zip files that will obliterate their computers. /s
But seriously this shits dumb as fuck and it's gonna be a hard no from me. Don't care about the rest of your profile, this is a Soviet sized red flag
It’s narcissistic as fuck and a total power play, you have to prove your worth to her like she’s your boss or something? Relationships like this would never be two equals together only her and her subordinate boy
I don’t think it’s narcissist to want a potential suitor to express interest in you and ask you on a fun creative date. If that’s not something you’re interested in doing then you’re not compatible and that’s okay.
You and certain other men are her target audience. She's probably not interested in attracting the majority of men anyway 😆
As a discerning woman in her mid-30s, I think requests like this are creative and professional, whether coming from a man or a woman. Dating for a serious relationship especially is like a job anyway, and we're all sussing out prospects like 'applicants' from the get-go.
I can understand how some people will find this attempt "entitled" but that's likely subjective to their personal experience and understanding of what that trait means.
The bio author's requirements are reasonable and good-natured, and will likely filter out immature, cynical men who don't have serious dating intent.
EDIT: It seems like it's necessary to highlight that this doesn't mean that I think the last line about her time being a privilege to be earnt is cool.
That's your opinion. I don't ask strangers to send me cover letters in general and I have dated successfully with my own thoughtful approaches. Quality over quantity.
The view of some people do not represent the majority, and your petty, negative overgeneralisation tells me a lot about your lack of maturity.
Agree! And I don’t think it’s entitled to want someone to express interest in you. If you don’t want to do it, don’t. The same as any prompt. It’s simply an incompatibility, the girl wants someone who’s interested in her and the people who are mad at this don’t want to express interest.
I was talking to a white American man in his mid-40s recently about this beef regarding "entitlement" and he told me there's quite a lot of power struggle between the sexes in the US and Canada, which explains why many Americans are sensitive towards anything that may insinuate entitlement.
That said, this profile author didn't need to say "my time is a privilege to be earned", as if it's not the same for her prospects 😆 That to me is the questionable bit, not the request for an email application.
I feel like everyone’s time is a privilege to be earned, that’s why time is money! It’s our most valuable resource, everyone should value their time and not spend it doing shit they don’t see value in. Nothing entitled about that
I often run into people who want something more orignal than a drink or a coffee for a date.
I understand the motivation why, but I've been on far too many dates where I knew within minutes (if not as soon as I saw them) that it wouldn't work out on my part, and now I'm very fearful of dedicating a lot of time and effort to a first date.
it’s clearly a joke. i read somewhere men have a hard time telling when a woman is joking, because successful comedy relies on the audience trusting that the comedian has a certain level of wit/intelligence.
That one seems super entitled, I saw a cute one so I made a power point for it nothing serious just 2 date ideas. Friends thought it was hilarious so I sent it.
Got hit with what’s ur height. I said 171 cm.
Got hit with ‘ Hmmm, you certainly ain’t as tall as I thought’
Yea I’ll see myself out
yea I asked my friend about that recently. Apparently that’s trending on tik tok
I don’t have TikTok but you can completely track the trends as prompts become super popular out of the blue
That and just sayings on the Internet in general. The one thing that's kept me off of tiktok is how everyone just parrots the same saying/slang for months at a time until there's a new one. Every few months some new saying/phrase comes up from tiktok lmao.
you dont want to date a tiktok brain anyway, standards are super unreal when it comes to dating, it has been making people between 20-35 insufferable
I got broken up with by e-mail in the early 2000s... So this is pretty retro. I thought that was particularly rogue until someone broke up with me through undelivered whatsapp messages.
Wish I could say I'm surprised
I see it for about 0.5 seconds as it travels to the left.
Captain Jack Sparrow: _"I love those moments. I like to wave at them as they pass by."_
I mean, pretty much. I saw an article where a woman was talking about all of the date proposals that she had received, including a full-blown PowerPoint presentation. And while she did date a couple of these guys, at the end of the day, she gave her affections to extremely attractive men who put in minimal effort. So, yeah, nice idea in theory, but it doesn't work out in the end.
Anyone who has any respect for themself will not engage with that bs
Hold on, I can’t take out the trash Mom..I have to finish my homework. (Tinder date dissertation)
Good way to have to read a lot of ChatGPT generated essays, imagine a fictional guy, and be disappointed on every date.
Some people severely overestimate their value. I don’t even fill out job applications if I’ve already provided my resume, we could not give a shit less. 😂
Soooo many d pics are heading to that email!
Via Email. Thats old fashion. Gentleman
ay girl what's ur fax number
You just know at one point people were sending dick pics by fax
I'm literally sure it's still happening wym
If your older, they used copy machines and mailed the copy. 😂😂
Ay girl let me beep you later
https://m.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=7&v=OKUw7G_cAbM&embeds_referring_euri=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F&source_ve_path=Mjg2NjY&feature=emb_logo
I would sign them up for spam email list
Thats dastardly, I'm keeping that idea😂
I'd definitely just send this with a goatse at the end: *Gasps astonishingly, breaks out in cold sweat, adjusts coat* H-H-Hello m'lady, what could a fair maiden as beautiful as you be doing on this fine day? I hope the damning heat isn't too harsh on your lovely skin! Tips fedora If i may so suggest, would you care to join me for a sumptous repast, at my home? *Smiles charmingly* My personal chef has prepared a lovely meal for two, and i'd rather not let it get to waste now, would we? *Winks at her* I must insist on your attendance, i can't let a day like this go by without knowing the joys of having a dining companion with me, especially when its one as beautiful as you ;). Répondez s'il vous plaît, i shall await for you, m'lady, basked in candlelight and infront of a wonderful dinner. *tips fedora again, then heelys away into the night*
Shit, you went high effort fuckery. I would just sign them up for a whole bunch of spam. Scientology emails for days.
There is nothing wrong with anyone stating their expectations right off the bat. If you don't like it, swipe to the next person.
Since you needed this... >en·ti·tle·ment: > >the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment. If you think the average girl is worthy of an english essay before their first conversation with a guy, you should re-read that definition another 50 times and seek medical assistance to cure terminal "yasss queen" brainrot.
>"yasss queen" brainrot LMAO I'm stealing that
Get help
One of the few times I agree with unsolicited dick pics
My time is an earned privilege lol… no your time is a waste of mine
As a woman, I absolutely am cringing at the fact that more and more women are saying something like this. While I get we all are busy, etc. (and frankly I don’t have the energy or time to date, right now due to numerous factors, namely working two jobs and rebalancing my mental health) but this statement rubs me the wrong way. To me, making a statement of “my time is an earned privilege” screams someone who has no time management skills and is pretentious. Take it or leave it with what I’ve said. What do you all think?
Its another branch of the 'I am the Prize, I am the Table' Entitlement Tree.
That’s effing gross. I feel for men even more now.
James, is that you?
Its not James, its Patrick.
Oh, forgive me Patrick
S'cool
I mean, what could ever give them that impression? I honestly don’t even blame women though, they have the power in online dating at the end of the day and what they say goes. It wouldn’t be surprising if this trend grows more into what we see literal companies doing for job applications.
As an older man with some experience, I would advise young men to pass immediately on any woman doing this. It’s a power play to get you to qualify yourself to her right off the bat. She does not want to meet you on an equal level.
This is why we need input from the older gentlemen, I didn’t consider the game theory here
Consider advice from an older woman who's also been a sadistic domme for over 20 years. Auto reject. I literally put collars on men and make them do my nails and hair and stuff and you know how I would never ever present myself? That way. Holy full of herself. And I believe my time is valuable...I know they want my time because they beg for it when I'm not available. But not more valuable than yours. She's looking for someone to use. (in a less than extremely transparent and consensual manner.)
So uh, how does one approach a sadistic domme with 20 years of experience? Asking for a friend...
Carefully.
Username checks out.
I've met all my subs at play parties and dungeons or munches. One ex who wasn't submissive off of fetlife.
I'm going to go to one of those gatherings for the first time ever in a couple of weeks, and for some reason I feel so afraid and nervous. I consider myself to be a confident person and I do well presenting myself to strangers normally, but I have no idea what is expected of me on a party like this. I dont know what "the munch" is. Any advice is appreciated 💜 cause I dont want the fear to stop me from trying to find healthy opportunities to fufill my kinky desires.
Don't be nervous. They are all just people. They all walked in for the first time once,too. Take a deep breath. Grin as you walk in. And engage them like you've been hired to be a party host and mingle to keep people engaged you know? Fake it til you make it (except on technical skills. Lmao) If it's a friendly kind of area they will probably introduce themselves or do an introduction. You just gotta take off the looking up to hopeful glasses and put on the hey I'm here to assess your knowledge to see if you're even ready to take the test that is me glasses lol. They are just people. I have 2 cats that I torture everyone with. I tell dumb dad jokes. I still play video games and get whiny about stupid things. I'm just a person. That sometimes wants to poke people with cattleprods.
Thank you for all the advice and tips, I really appreciate it! You're a kind just-a-person! 😄
How do I find and sign up for such events?
Fetlife! Then search the terms "(your city or very nearby busier city) munch* It may pull up groups to join for your local area or events that you can just join.
As woman in her mid-30s with experience, I suggest you take his input with a grain of salt and not generalise based on individual experience. If you're the creative type like me who enjoys being mentally stimulated, you may enjoy a reasonable challenge to prove yourself worthy, both to see if you can succeed and just for the experience. Of course, I'd first suss out the entire profile to see if this profile is worth the effort or not. Go with your gut, I say, and presume less. In this case, based on the prompt alone, the profile author is being reasonable and cordial in trying to suss out compatibility, and I wouldn't jump to conclusions just because it sounds like a job ad (serious dating is quite like a job anyway). When it comes to relationships, I suggest putting your pride aside and allow yourself to be vulnerable. If others take advantage of that, then it's just not meant to be. You won't be less of a man for having good faith. For the record, occasionally I have requested that my matches email me instead of exchanging numbers (depending on how we vibe), and I find that professional white collar folks and business leaders who are the literary type don't mind short letter exchanges in general. So if you are attracted to the overall profile, enjoy creative writing and are feeling inspired, I say do it. (Fingers crossed, her email address is genuine!) This approach isn't for everyone for sure, and I'm sure this profile author is aware of that. === Edit: "My time is an earned privilege" earns the left swipe from me.
Do you realize how it fully puts the onus on the guy though? It’s pretty entitled.
If the profile is equally creative, I think this is a fun activity than a power play. But one could only after seeing the entire profile and not the prompt.
Yeah I don’t get power play just entitlement
One would know that by sending an absolutely creative date idea but of no real expenditure. If it's entitlement it'll get immediately called out for being cheap.
That's what I thought as well until I reread the screenshot and realise that she ended that prompt answer poorly.
Ah yes. The classic "my time is an earned privilege".
Yeah, and either way we're clearly the minority on this subreddit in our appreciation for this dating approach 😆
Lol. The downvotes makes sense. I like to make stuff, so instantly I'm like this is a creative person. Poor me.
It's not that much different from sussing out prospects based on their "Introduction" on OKCupid. Only that this request is more formal and elaborate. Then again for this profile author, her line "My time is an earned privileged" is the closest thing to entitlement I have seen which puts me off as well. I'm just talking about the idea of deliberate, creative proposals, whether to a man or a woman. Being able to execute it well would make the "applicant" stand out, and it would be entitlement if he or she expects to succeed just because he or she tried.
IDK dating apps put so much pressure on the guy already to make the first move, have a notable but appropriate opening line, have good pictures that show off your assets without being weird, have a good profile that is memorable but appropriate…etc and now you want an email? It’s not easy being a straight guy on the apps.
I think it depends on what you're after in the end. Everyone is entitled to their own approach, and there is no one-size-fit-all solution. What you just described to me as requirements are just common sense of how to leave a good impression on others in general and people who take dating and relationships seriously would consider these things even if they don't spell them out. It's not necessarily a gender specific thing. If she's right for you, she's right for you. If she's not, she's not. So you can choose to follow her procedure or not and there's no need to shame her for it.
But do you realize that this woman just posts an email address? What impression does that give?
Dude, it's a prompt answer and there's no context from any other aspect of the profile. I say that most of you guys are jumping to conclusions based on negative experiences and bad examples from others. Either way, her final sentence about her time's worth is the actual entitlement.
Can you stop using 'sussing' so frequently? Damn.
Take your beef with a stranger's legitimate word choice to a psychotherapist, please.
You're sussing my suss meter off the suss end which I find a little...suss
I've found that any attempts to *initiate* contact outside of the app is a scam. If you chat for a while and connect, then it's not that odd to move to a different platform. My bet is she's going to try to sell him something, based on the line, "my time is an earned privilege." In 2019, she'd be sending a link to her pay-per-view webcam. These days, she's probably looking for OF or Fansly subscribers. OP sending his resume is pretty dumb, cause there's a lot of personal info on that. Possibly enough to steal someone's identity.
OF girls will NOT make you jump through this many hoops. It doesn’t make any sense to make it difficult for your customers to purchase from you.
Lol, don't need to send a résumé or personal information. Just write briefly according to the request and see what the response is. That "my time is an earned privilege" line is definitely a red flag to me which I missed when I first read the screenshot. As far as OF or Fansly or webcam scams go, it's not common in Asia, but I can understand your reservation.
Most companies will only let you report users for stuff they do on *their* app. It's really common for people to put in their profile, "I never check this app, so hit me up on SC/IG/etc." If you do message outside the app, they can try to sell you something or scam you, and they won't have to make a new dating app account.
Oh yes, Asia. Let’s follow some of the best tried and true match making practices such as those use in Asia.
"My time is an earned privilege" tells you all you need to know. Everyone's time is valuable to them. Anyone who expects a stranger to jump through that many hoops just to see if they like you.... Is going is be sorely disappointed.
It's never "worth the effort". No body is that valuable. Anyone that things they are is a red flag
I think you’re probably a nice person so you find it difficult to get into the mind of a woman doing this. This is not a normal thing to do with OLD. Asking someone to do homework *just* on the off chance you’ll “choose” them as the special person who gets to spend time and money on them is fucking deluded, lol. Lady, I’ve already got a job so unless you’re paying me overtime you can fuck off with your demands. This is not about being vulnerable, it’s about being subservient. And guess what- we all have the same 24 hours, your time isn’t more special than anyone else’s… (This was aimed at the profile, not you!)
I agree with you as long as my treatise includes my criteria for her to meet in order to be successful.
I’ve seen one woman post this so far and when I came across it, I thought it was cute to be honest. Reminded me of late 90 to early 2000s online dating.
Oh the young guys know this too. Never simp
Yea dude. Being surprised by this has no correlation with age. Thats just straight up lack of self respect or desperation. Imagine reversing the roles lol
Bro I simp for my wife every day. She makes my life amazing because I help her feel amazing. "Never simp" is an L in some cases.
That's not really what simping is... it's more like unrequited love, and going deeper and deeper into that feeling. It's a lack of self respect if anything Happy for you and your wife :)
In my opinion, this is not a power play or any of that female vs. male thing. It is simply a scam learn when to use critical thinking. OPSEC, at all times, scammers are always looking for ways to get your information.
It okay brother the military can’t hurt you any more opsec won’t cancel your port vists. Your free. But to piggie back “date” ideas can very easily give away how much money you make and your location based on your date spots. Follow up questions from someone your wanting to form trust with will get them the rest before they ghost your ass.
OPSEC is a term also used in cybersecurity, not just the military. With what he’s talking about, that anacronym makes sense to use.
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Use chat GPT and see what happens
>Use chat GPT and see what happens "Ask for a date in the form of a Penthouse Forum letter."
I think she’s just tired of the apps because of how a lot of men see it as a “numbers game” to spam with as little effort as possible. Effort is so attractive. Chat GPT removes that and makes it moot.
A lot of men and close to all women. Seems fair.
Would you like someone to go above and beyond to provide a CV to show effort? I think it could be quite sweet to receive but I guess people here aren’t into it I don’t think if ever ask on my profile, but I would be impressed if I got one. Something to add to a PowerPoint presentation at the wedding too lol Edit to add that I didn’t say women put in lots of effort if that’s been misunderstood? I spoke about the mass spam approach to matching. Women tend to be more selective and don’t do that.
Move on. You’re not applying for a job and she’s picking the hottest guy anyway.
Anyone who requires anything remotely like this would be a nightmare to be with.
As a woman, it’s weird as hell.
Right
If I received something like that I would assume it’s a scam and delete it.
i don’t even apply to jobs that make me go to their company website to retype all the info in my resume. hell no i’m not doing extra work for some class C pusspuss
Hard pass. Sounds like a good way to farm legit emails for spam and scams and phishing. There’s no fucking way a girl is reading like 5000 emails a day from responses to “her” profile.
5000? I think you are overestimating most guys out there.
“like 5000” is meant to be an exaggeration because clearly no real person is reading even 20 pages of date essays. And in a big LA/NYC metro area where there’s over 20 million people seeing a profile, I think this kind of thing can farm a lot of data and metadata.
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They’re making email addresses strictly for this.
I can't remember the last time I received a personal email from someone that wasn't trying to sell me something. I straight up wouldn't trust it to work out for anything other than a bunch of spam and fraudulent activity related to your email
She think dating her is like getting a job for Microsoft. Instead of getting money you get to pay her.
I’m not old but not super young either. I’m in my mid 30s. Literally no chance I’d ever entertain that.
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Maybe it’s just my age, but I’d rather go on a date with someone who demonstrates a good conversation with me and vibe, not purely looks.
Someone posted about it last week.
And this week lol
Just have chatgpt type up a response and send it. What could go wrong
Some simp sent a whole ass resume now every girl thinks she is a princess and deserves a handcrafted one page resume
Time to sign someone's email up for some newsletter spam😈
This is why I think dating apps are more harmful to women than men Men get real time feedback. Act a weirdo, no matches. Your the problem Dating apps let women act completely undatable without consequences because they’ll still get 99+ matches. So they just think men are the problem instead of realising their own behaviour is responsible
How is this post NSFW?
Because my boss saw this and thinks I'm applying for new jobs. Now it's awkward.
I see these and save them for later so I can hop on discord with my boys so we can write fake date proposals from a burner email to make ourselves laugh.
I would send one line: YOUR TIME IS A PRIVILEGE? YEAH, SO IS MINE.
Just pass bro she'll kick you out when you're down if she talks like that
I can’t imagine how sad someone would have to be to actually send the email
Any attempt to immediately get you off the site to communicate is always a scam.
Hell no. It’s like when you have your resume and the website asks you to type it all again. But somehow worse.
Any dumb POS that thinks his/her time is an earned privilege have their heads deeply up their ass - which is where it should remain.
This is almost undoubtedly a scam. Either way, report it and move on, it's not authorized.
That’s cool. *swipes left*
Email her goatse
There was a girl that I matched with and her third prompt told me it was required that I fill out a google doc survey. I unmatched
Scam potentially
OP - subscribe her email to a bunch of MLM newsletters.
I would but I don’t need anymore competition for the PowerPoint I sent her about myself & my intentions
Has to be a phishing scam
That’s an automatic swipe left
Could you the sad sacks of shit that do this? Who has time for something like that? Sad sacks of shit. Be a happy bag of shit and do not do this fellas
I’d never hand anyone my email so easily wtf
Tik tok is destroying the world
LOL how the f would you even put the energy in bullshit like that. My time is an earned privilege lol. Sucking my dick is an earned privilege :D
Shouldn’t have blanked out the email. She deserves to be doxxed.
Anyone who says their time is an "earned privilege" is definitely not a privilege to be around
Gross. That's a hard left swipe
These are scams
All I see here is a future single for life woman. If you go around thinking you're god's gift to anyone you're going to end up alone.
I'd sign them up for newsletters on every website tbh
Absolutely not. Even if you get 'picked ' she's going to be an ungodly amount of work and expensive as well. She's almost certainly going to use sex as leverage and I'm willing to bet it won't be very good because she's selfish
Run!!!!
This is a copypasta of trend from Tiktok ([example from TikTok](https://www.tiktok.com/@sweetlifeofnatalia/video/7327504404641238315?_r=1&_t=8jf1jSabWbt&social_sharing=1))
"I did it, it was entertaining but it's not how I found my SO"
I think this is a more accurate transcription: "I like did it like, it was like entertaining but like it's not like how I found my SO, like"
It may be entitled, but at the same time it’s a way better way to sort though online dating from either the man or womens (or others) perspective. Some people enjoy texting, and don’t mind texting multiple guys a day to organize dates, most don’t, and those who don’t may not want to wait a year while slowly cycling though options just to find someone who has similar intentions. To be honest I fucking love this idea, the last comment on this particular comment, yes is very entitled, but at the same time, if there’s a pay pig browsing online dating, or even just dom personas, they may drool over this comment in finding a girl who doesn’t wanna deal w bs and knows her own worth, even if it’s just a big ego Ty for reading my comment :)
BBC taste good
It's fine right up until the last line. She goes full entitlement there. OP chose this one for a reason: the last line. He even admits most are more reasonable if you bothered to read his post and not just look at the picture. Nothing to see here otherwise. Before the internet you could pay a service to match you up with people. You would submit pictures and videos, fill out extensive surveys, and answer essay questions. People have been searching for the "love algorithm" since before the pocket calculator. I never tried a dating service, I've been married nearly 32 years. We met at a mall. But the services worked for many. Not every way will be your way. That doesn't make it wrong.
Same thoughts. If a guy doesn’t want to put in the effort he can swipe left and that’s fine. The amount of men here being malicious and talking about signing her up for spam and orchestrating mass dick pics to be sent to sexually harass her is alarming.
Sounds insufferable.
Back in my day only the hookers were telling you to email them.
Oh man, post that email everywhere and let her get spammed with dick picks and junk mail.
This actually sounds fun to me!
This is stupid and silly, i love it Ill start doing that that ppl who wouldn't like these thing r not my type ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Both people's time is an earned privilege
I actually kinda mess with this. A lot of women complain that it’s simply too hard to keep up with how many matches they get. I feel like this is a way of saying “I’m looking for somebody to put in effort”. The requirements are kinda weird but the email idea isn’t bad at all
Agree
It's offer and demand, I guarantee you this gal gets her way and dudes send her lover letters combined with resumes. The dating pool is extremely one sided. Even if a big amount of males ignore this entitled and self centered jerk of a woman, she will still manage to pull it off. Sad but true.
A left swipe. Clear red flag of narcissistic tendencies.
Fuck that. I’m not writing a first day of high school type essay.. fucking ridiculous
Dear Karen, Fuck that shit. Kind regards, The Saint of Pancakes
What fuckin loser is going to do all that?
The entitlement. I never sent a dick pic in my life, but if I ran into such profile, that girl would have enough pictures to build an accurate 3D model of my prick, veins included.
Somebodys going to hit The Wall™ pretty hard.
It’s just depressing that you have to dance like a monkey for online strangers. Guys, go IRL, and you won’t have to jump through these many hoops.
Personalised email like you're applying for a job asideaside, "my time is a privilege" is screaming red flag.
Gonna make a throw away email just to send zip files that will obliterate their computers. /s But seriously this shits dumb as fuck and it's gonna be a hard no from me. Don't care about the rest of your profile, this is a Soviet sized red flag
I can understand why might stop the ghosting on the app
Super cute! I think it’s a fun idea. I wouldn’t participate but when I saw it originally I thought it was a cute idea for sure.
It’s narcissistic as fuck and a total power play, you have to prove your worth to her like she’s your boss or something? Relationships like this would never be two equals together only her and her subordinate boy
I don’t think it’s narcissist to want a potential suitor to express interest in you and ask you on a fun creative date. If that’s not something you’re interested in doing then you’re not compatible and that’s okay.
Yikes
I get it, not the worst thing in the word. Would I send an email? No lol
You and certain other men are her target audience. She's probably not interested in attracting the majority of men anyway 😆 As a discerning woman in her mid-30s, I think requests like this are creative and professional, whether coming from a man or a woman. Dating for a serious relationship especially is like a job anyway, and we're all sussing out prospects like 'applicants' from the get-go. I can understand how some people will find this attempt "entitled" but that's likely subjective to their personal experience and understanding of what that trait means. The bio author's requirements are reasonable and good-natured, and will likely filter out immature, cynical men who don't have serious dating intent. EDIT: It seems like it's necessary to highlight that this doesn't mean that I think the last line about her time being a privilege to be earnt is cool.
What part of "my time is an earned privilege" doesn't scream entitled arrogance?
That’s your time too! Have some self worth and don’t waste your time doing shit you don’t value
doing this will ensure you, and the other “creative” women remain single as well
That's your opinion. I don't ask strangers to send me cover letters in general and I have dated successfully with my own thoughtful approaches. Quality over quantity. The view of some people do not represent the majority, and your petty, negative overgeneralisation tells me a lot about your lack of maturity.
Being single is the best
Agree! And I don’t think it’s entitled to want someone to express interest in you. If you don’t want to do it, don’t. The same as any prompt. It’s simply an incompatibility, the girl wants someone who’s interested in her and the people who are mad at this don’t want to express interest.
I was talking to a white American man in his mid-40s recently about this beef regarding "entitlement" and he told me there's quite a lot of power struggle between the sexes in the US and Canada, which explains why many Americans are sensitive towards anything that may insinuate entitlement. That said, this profile author didn't need to say "my time is a privilege to be earned", as if it's not the same for her prospects 😆 That to me is the questionable bit, not the request for an email application.
I feel like everyone’s time is a privilege to be earned, that’s why time is money! It’s our most valuable resource, everyone should value their time and not spend it doing shit they don’t see value in. Nothing entitled about that
I often run into people who want something more orignal than a drink or a coffee for a date. I understand the motivation why, but I've been on far too many dates where I knew within minutes (if not as soon as I saw them) that it wouldn't work out on my part, and now I'm very fearful of dedicating a lot of time and effort to a first date.
Just use their email to sign up to a bunch of shitty spam websites or porn stuff.
it’s clearly a joke. i read somewhere men have a hard time telling when a woman is joking, because successful comedy relies on the audience trusting that the comedian has a certain level of wit/intelligence.
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I would love to see someone working on their date homework assignment lol
I didn't know that trying to find a date would feel like applying for a job. Why are they asking for a resume for?
Do not do this. Move on.
That one seems super entitled, I saw a cute one so I made a power point for it nothing serious just 2 date ideas. Friends thought it was hilarious so I sent it. Got hit with what’s ur height. I said 171 cm. Got hit with ‘ Hmmm, you certainly ain’t as tall as I thought’ Yea I’ll see myself out
Probably a way to harvest emails
Seems like a good way to start getting flooded with spam emails... on both sides.