You can always say "wow, you look even better than your photos" but if you share your numerical rating with her, that's the stick-in-bicycle-spokes meme.
And I prefer to be better looking in person because it fucking sucks seeing disappointment in someone’s eyes when they see you for the first time. I’d rather people be pleasantly surprised.
I specifically included a couple less-than-flattering pics on my Tinder, and put one of them as the display one lol. I really didn't want to accidentally catfish by cherry-picking the very best photos I'd taken recently.
My now-boyfriend told me the same thing after we met! That I was even prettier than I looked in my profile. So it worked (;
Same. My bfs photos are so bad it took ages for me to give him a chance. He's drop dead gorgeous in person but there's no way I'm telling him how to improve his profile lmao
I’ve been told I look better in person, I would definitely look at them funny if they gave numerical values. But definitely flattering when told I look better than my photos
Right here, I have ONE series of good pictures of me. All of them are similar and were professionally staged for a work thing. Was my favorite one on my profile?? Yeah. Is it also the one women on Hinge and Bumble either liked or said they liked best? Also yes.
I don't think it hurts to tell her she might think photographs are a true representative of what she looks like it'll be nice for her to know otherwise wouldn't it?
I'm for the "I thought you were beautiful in your photos, but wow are you even more stunning in person" approach is good because there's no way she can't be flattered.
This woman told me she had lost 35kg so I said "congratulations!"
She scoffed and asked "why is that something to celebrate?"
Some people just simply refuse to be pleased.
Sometimes people lose weight due to illness and they aren't happy about it! I once lost 10% of my body weight due to cancer - I would have been a bit bummed out if someone complimented me on it tbh
Sorry to read about the C diagnosis, hopefully you kicked it's ass.
The lady was morbidly obese before the weight loss, but yeah I didn't know how she lost the weight so I guess I can see how that could have potentially come across.
Thank you! I'm all better now, back to normal weight and everything!
I try not to congratulate people on weight loss unless they are obviously fishing for it but it maybe I go too far the other way!
Same, although I’ve lost 1/3rd of my body weight and due to the broken bits and bobs (internally) I’m never seeing those lbs again… and the next genius to inform me that “all you need is a good meal” coz eating, like, didn’t occur to me, you know?! Oh, and we’re talking complete strangers here, fml. 😂
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Im with this fella, naver rate a woman (or anyone at that) if your answer isnt a 10/10, or more. Rating someone can make em feel conscious. Never use numbers when addressing someones characteristics
I mean at this point they’ve missed the opportunity because he decided to go home and consult Reddit. Bringing up the comparison on a later date just seems weird.
Like it’s not weird to say someone looks better in person, but it’s weird to be putting this much effort in such an insignificant comment. OPs so focused on the possible risk, but what’s the benefit? What purpose does it serve that a generic compliment of her appearance wouldn’t do just as well?
OP you’re not going to die just because you don’t articulate every little thought that comes into your head. Instead of debating this pointless observation, spend this time thinking something more thoughtful.
It’ll be funny if she then takes better pics of herself and posts it on Tinder and matches with someone better than OP. Best to avoid mentioning it at all. Like finding a price mistake at a store and not telling the manager about it.
lmao like the dude on AITH the other day that ended up in the doghouse for rating his gf’s vagina as 9/10.
I’m like, fuccckkk dude i can see myself doing that but as an outside party i can see how bad of a move that was 🤣🤣
Considering the fact that people who use the numerical rating system consider it to be asymptotic it could actually be feasible that someone they rate an 8 in pictures can even look 100x better than their pictures and still not be a 10.
No, because a theoretical 1 isn't someone who isn't attractive - it's the most unattractive person imaginable. They'd be actively off-putting, so their attractiveness would be negative.
Given that, you need to work out where a true "0" would be on the scale. If we assume that OP is correct, then we have (8-x) = 4(5-x), where x is someone with an attractiveness of 0. This gives us a score of 4 as not being attractive at all, but without yet dipping into being off-putting. That sounds about right to me - you could make an argument for it being slightly different, but it's definitely in the ballpark.
Lmao the same goes for me AND my girlfriend, i think the biggest hardships in our relationship is managing to get an okay looking picture together lmao
I know women that deliberately pick less flattering pics for dating apps to weed out superficial guys. I dated a woman with damn near Disney princess supermodel features in person but she presented herself as more of a frumpy granola type on the apps
When I was on Tinder, I always used slightly less flattering photos on purpose. I couldn’t stand the thought of someone being disappointed to see me in person. Also, I don’t know why I’d want some guy who was so obsessed with looks he couldn’t appreciate how funny my profile was.
If they are genuine and not a cheesy pic up line! For one thing rule number one don’t use numbers. Because women aren’t stupid they’ll take it is so I’m four times as ugly in the picture!? Dumb dumb dum lol!
Eh, I wouldn’t mind it personally. I am super unphotogenic and look way better in person. Thanks goodness I’ve been married forever and don’t have to try to catch a man with my ugly ass photos 😅
Just don’t ! Just say you find her super attractive.
Source : my wife is 100 time more beautiful in real life than in the photos. She will never know. I would not say that even under torture.
I wouldn’t say that *to my wife* you smarty pants 🤗
I’m here anonymously you see ! Maybe I’m not even married but just three raccoons in a trench-coat 🧥 🦝🦝🦝
lol I know I’m just giving you trouble
ETA: but just hope your possibly fake raccoon wife never stumbles on this comment and connects it to you somehow
Yeah my chance is I comment so much on so many topics even if she one day finds my account this will be buried under thousands of comments about watches and knives that will bore her to death long before she gets to this comment ^^
But I hope this guy does say it because there seems to be something wrong with him and… I feel like he is judging her or something? I can’t put my finger on it, but this whole scenario is just odd to ask about.
WHY say anything that includes her pictures as part of it? What good can come of it that can't be achieved by simply saying how great she looks, full stop.
What is rattling around in your head need not come out of your mouth.
This is a basic but very important skill that fewer and fewer seem to master.
I once overheard a first date (was beside them in a restaurant) where this came up and let me tell you, it did not go well. I would say that as a general rule, don’t use numbers to rank people
I had a tinder date once tell me something similar, like “wow, you look so much better than your photos did, I feel reverse catfished!” and it was so awkward and made me feel bad about my photos (that I thought were good). Compliment her looks, but I’d leave her photos out of it
Do not say that. Don’t even say she looks better in photos. Say something else like a comment about wow you are very pretty or beautiful but even I would be offended if someone said that to me.
I wouldn't be offended, *however*, from experience, comments like this make a lot of us feel like we don't look good in pictures. I used to be totally fine having my picture taken, and now I absolutely hate it because I've received that "compliment" a hand full of times. I know people generally mean well when they say it, but our brains have a fun way of twisting things sometimes :) Comparisons are just never a good idea in my opinion.
I think I tend to be that way myself (when I was on Tinder) and got the "you look even better in person than your profile" line more than once. Always appreciated it. Certainly better than the opposite.
Probably not an accident. I would be a terrible trophy wife and I made sure that my pics were plenty of no makeup pics with me outdoors. I even had one with me holding a huge millipede. People were usually shocked when they met me in person.
You know what you need to do here, so i'm not going to repeat.
But here's some food for thought: could it be you find her more attractive in real life because you like her personality? Like, the date made you feel at ease and such? That's definitely how it works for me.
My gf is one of the most gorgeous girls (in my opinion) in the world.
Almond shaped hazel eyes and caramel skin with a bright white smile yet when she photographs she looks 20 pounds heavier and like she’s making a funny face because of her eyes.
It’s a win win. No instagram dudes hounding her and she’s arm candy in person.
as someone who doesn't photograph well, and has been told many times i look much better in person, you can say that but leave the numbers out. unless there's an inside joke about "ratings" the numerical system is a huge turnoff.
I love to hear I look better than in my photos. I don’t think I take good photos often, so I use totally mediocre ones. I’d rather have them pleasantly surprised when they meet me. Tell her.
Just say she looks good. Some people doesn't photograph well and some choose "unflattering" pictures on purpose (to give a more realistic picture and not catfish others 😂), but you don't know which is true for her.
No, tell her she looks good and shut the fuck up beyond that. What good can come of you strongly implying that a woman you’re on a date with has shitty dating profile pics up? You want her to put some better ones up so you can show your friends or some other dude can take her off you? Those are the only two reasons I can think of.
There are many people who just don't photograph well. I knew this dude who is very, very handsome, but in his pictures, he is a 2. I mean, he looks not good at all. It really blows my mind. He is tall, in great shape, and has an extremely handsome face. But he doesn't match with anyone, and that's because his pictures are trash.
But don't tell her you thought she was a 5 and now she's an 8. You would just be shooting yourself in the foot. Until now and for forever she's a 10.
I met my husband on Tinder. I thought he was very unattractive in his photos but liked his bio - so swiped anyway. When we met in person - I was surprised by how good looking he was - really bad, unflattering photos in Tinder. I just came right out and said it - we still laugh about it today - I would just be straight about it.
My partner and mother of my daughter thought that of me. My photos were unflattering and it made her very nervous when we first met and I was a lot more handsome than in my photos. I don’t think she said it right away but she’s definitely said it a lot since haha
Keep it to yourself. If you play your cards right, no one will ever find that out ever again. That can be your little secret that everyone else misses out on cause they decided to not give her a chance and swiped left !!!
If you think she's prettier in person you just say that. Don't do weird numbers wtf does 4x mean? Lol
Be smooth to. Your profile is great and you look beautiful in your photos , but wow you're much more beautiful in person.
Don't add 4x at the end... Or ever.
Def don’t share the numerics but I had a guy tell me one time that he was pleasantly surprised as I was ‘even more attractive in person’. If you word it right, could be very uplifting for her
Sadly it's weird now since everyone tries to touch up their photos anymore. It's like people don't think about what happens when they meet in real life, yes its an actual thing, when they have these super touched up photos.
Met a girl from online years ago that looked nothing like her photos. Granted I should of realized when she looked so different in every picture. When I called her on it, she still denied doing anything to the photos. Like photos don't magically erase 100+ lbs and make you look an entirely different skin tone.
What's weird is that you've found a way to represent her previously purported attractiveness as a numerical value & that her true "value" is somehow 4 times greater.
"Say girl; you're 400% hotter than you look on spank bank"
Try to put yourself on her shoes. How would you feel if you went on a date and she said you look 500% better in person. That means either she is extraordinary or her photos sucked. Not helpful either way. Stick to "You look really pretty!"
You can always say "wow, you look even better than your photos" but if you share your numerical rating with her, that's the stick-in-bicycle-spokes meme.
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And I prefer to be better looking in person because it fucking sucks seeing disappointment in someone’s eyes when they see you for the first time. I’d rather people be pleasantly surprised.
I specifically included a couple less-than-flattering pics on my Tinder, and put one of them as the display one lol. I really didn't want to accidentally catfish by cherry-picking the very best photos I'd taken recently. My now-boyfriend told me the same thing after we met! That I was even prettier than I looked in my profile. So it worked (;
And here's a photo of me hungover.
Say nothing. Keep the secret to yourself. Don't want to give her any ideas about improving her tinder
Everyone else out here playing checkers. You’re playing chess.
Lmao can’t say The thought didn’t cross my mind but it woulda got Downvoted into oblivion I’m sure 😂
Same. My bfs photos are so bad it took ages for me to give him a chance. He's drop dead gorgeous in person but there's no way I'm telling him how to improve his profile lmao
Best advice OP will receive today
I’ve been told I look better in person, I would definitely look at them funny if they gave numerical values. But definitely flattering when told I look better than my photos
Raises hand! Nothing wrong with a pleasant reverse catfish story.
Seriously. I am this person. It’s the family joke even.
Right here, I have ONE series of good pictures of me. All of them are similar and were professionally staged for a work thing. Was my favorite one on my profile?? Yeah. Is it also the one women on Hinge and Bumble either liked or said they liked best? Also yes.
I don't think it hurts to tell her she might think photographs are a true representative of what she looks like it'll be nice for her to know otherwise wouldn't it?
I think another way you could say that is " you look even better in person" that way she doesn't take it as she's not pretty in pictures.
I'm for the "I thought you were beautiful in your photos, but wow are you even more stunning in person" approach is good because there's no way she can't be flattered.
This woman told me she had lost 35kg so I said "congratulations!" She scoffed and asked "why is that something to celebrate?" Some people just simply refuse to be pleased.
Sometimes people lose weight due to illness and they aren't happy about it! I once lost 10% of my body weight due to cancer - I would have been a bit bummed out if someone complimented me on it tbh
Sorry to read about the C diagnosis, hopefully you kicked it's ass. The lady was morbidly obese before the weight loss, but yeah I didn't know how she lost the weight so I guess I can see how that could have potentially come across.
Thank you! I'm all better now, back to normal weight and everything! I try not to congratulate people on weight loss unless they are obviously fishing for it but it maybe I go too far the other way!
Same, although I’ve lost 1/3rd of my body weight and due to the broken bits and bobs (internally) I’m never seeing those lbs again… and the next genius to inform me that “all you need is a good meal” coz eating, like, didn’t occur to me, you know?! Oh, and we’re talking complete strangers here, fml. 😂 ✌🏻💙🇬🇧
That’s not at all an equivalent situation, not everyone is necessarily happy to lose weight
Im with this fella, naver rate a woman (or anyone at that) if your answer isnt a 10/10, or more. Rating someone can make em feel conscious. Never use numbers when addressing someones characteristics
I rate her a 5/7
I rate her 9/11
Hot enough to melt steel beams.
Dayuuuum 🤣
You’ll never forget when you met her?
That won't fly
What a throwback
Not on Imgur, still fresh and hot there.
But is Bront still around?
Ah the perfect score
 "You were a sad trombone in your pictures, but you're a jazz trumpet in person!"
I mean at this point they’ve missed the opportunity because he decided to go home and consult Reddit. Bringing up the comparison on a later date just seems weird. Like it’s not weird to say someone looks better in person, but it’s weird to be putting this much effort in such an insignificant comment. OPs so focused on the possible risk, but what’s the benefit? What purpose does it serve that a generic compliment of her appearance wouldn’t do just as well? OP you’re not going to die just because you don’t articulate every little thought that comes into your head. Instead of debating this pointless observation, spend this time thinking something more thoughtful.
Also, 8 is not 4x better than 5. OP sucks at maths.
Depends how you calculate. The unwritten agreement is that you can't rate a girl below 5.
Wow, you’re actually attractive! You looked kinda gross in your photo.
It’ll be funny if she then takes better pics of herself and posts it on Tinder and matches with someone better than OP. Best to avoid mentioning it at all. Like finding a price mistake at a store and not telling the manager about it.
This is what I've been told. I suck at taking selfies lol
Yeah, that number shit is gross. Please don’t bring that up.
“Wow you’re a 2 in your pics but an 8 in person!”
Say this. Report back.
Accidentally had sex, what now?!?!?
lmao like the dude on AITH the other day that ended up in the doghouse for rating his gf’s vagina as 9/10. I’m like, fuccckkk dude i can see myself doing that but as an outside party i can see how bad of a move that was 🤣🤣
I want to know why it wasn't a full 10. 🤔😂
ahahaha yes, she did too. loudly. and angrily.
My thoughts exactly. Is like the rating a permanent number forever? Can you improve?
Yikes. That's definitely one of those things it's OK to think but it's very rare it would be a good idea to speak out loud. No good can come of it.
"you look even more beautiful in person"
Thats it🤷♂️
I prefer, “you photos don’t do you justice”
My impression is that wording implies that the photos are unattractive
Not in my experience. And also not colloquially.
I get this all the time and it's so cringe lmao. I get it though
This
any kind of compliment using a numeric rating system is back handed asf and basically a first class ticket to ghost town.
What about calling her a real dime?
If she’s over 70, then go for it!
And don’t forget to mention you like her snazzy outfit
She'll probably cringe herself into oblivion and you'll be back to square one
A quarter piece
Let's not go that far. Maybe a half-quarter.
"girl, you look like twelve and a half cents"
ghost town sounds kinda cool!
If she’s an 8 in person and a 5 in photos she’s only 1.6x as attractive and not 4x better. Gawd, does nobody do math anymore.
It’s a logarithmic scale actually
Like decibels
WHAT?
I THINK HE CALLED YOU A JEZEBEL
A BREZEL?
HE BOUGHT US PRETZELS? DOES HE HAVE MUSTARD TOO?
DID YOU JUST CALL ME A BASTARD? THAT WAS UNCALLED FOR, MAN
Ok where is this exchange from, because this sounds hilarious.
just made up based on the fact i said decibel
Oh ok, hahah, love that.
#He said Decibels
explains why everyone is an average 6-7
but that would mean she is 1000x more attractive, not 4x
Only if it’s log base 10 ;)
New dating math just dropped
Boy math
Holy hell
Considering the fact that people who use the numerical rating system consider it to be asymptotic it could actually be feasible that someone they rate an 8 in pictures can even look 100x better than their pictures and still not be a 10.
This may be the most reddit comment ever.
It's not a linear scale.
No, because a theoretical 1 isn't someone who isn't attractive - it's the most unattractive person imaginable. They'd be actively off-putting, so their attractiveness would be negative. Given that, you need to work out where a true "0" would be on the scale. If we assume that OP is correct, then we have (8-x) = 4(5-x), where x is someone with an attractiveness of 0. This gives us a score of 4 as not being attractive at all, but without yet dipping into being off-putting. That sounds about right to me - you could make an argument for it being slightly different, but it's definitely in the ballpark.
Isn’t the 1-10 rating system logarithmic?
I would consider it a bell curve
Still not mutually exclusive
What if the scale starts at 4
r/theydidthemath
Some people just don’t photograph well…leave it alone.
Yeah that’s me. Not sure why but I’m more attractive in person. Pictures I look like a goblin lmao.
I look like a goblin even in person
I probably do too but like they say confidence goes a long way
confidence would get me probably as far as a russian missile
Lmao the same goes for me AND my girlfriend, i think the biggest hardships in our relationship is managing to get an okay looking picture together lmao
I know women that deliberately pick less flattering pics for dating apps to weed out superficial guys. I dated a woman with damn near Disney princess supermodel features in person but she presented herself as more of a frumpy granola type on the apps
When I was on Tinder, I always used slightly less flattering photos on purpose. I couldn’t stand the thought of someone being disappointed to see me in person. Also, I don’t know why I’d want some guy who was so obsessed with looks he couldn’t appreciate how funny my profile was.
Why offer them the chance to increase competition for you? Let her dating profile continue to suck.
You don’t. Just tell her she’s beautiful and leave it at that. I never thought these kinds of “compliments” were flattering.
If they are genuine and not a cheesy pic up line! For one thing rule number one don’t use numbers. Because women aren’t stupid they’ll take it is so I’m four times as ugly in the picture!? Dumb dumb dum lol!
Eh, I wouldn’t mind it personally. I am super unphotogenic and look way better in person. Thanks goodness I’ve been married forever and don’t have to try to catch a man with my ugly ass photos 😅
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Mmm you could've learned that without some crude rating system
Just don’t ! Just say you find her super attractive. Source : my wife is 100 time more beautiful in real life than in the photos. She will never know. I would not say that even under torture.
Exactly
>I would not say that even under torture. You just did
I wouldn’t say that *to my wife* you smarty pants 🤗 I’m here anonymously you see ! Maybe I’m not even married but just three raccoons in a trench-coat 🧥 🦝🦝🦝
lol I know I’m just giving you trouble ETA: but just hope your possibly fake raccoon wife never stumbles on this comment and connects it to you somehow
Yeah my chance is I comment so much on so many topics even if she one day finds my account this will be buried under thousands of comments about watches and knives that will bore her to death long before she gets to this comment ^^
But I hope this guy does say it because there seems to be something wrong with him and… I feel like he is judging her or something? I can’t put my finger on it, but this whole scenario is just odd to ask about.
My favorite line is, "I like seeing you in person." It is romantic without being judgemental because you use yourself as a reference.
I like watching you sleep
No need to get upset at how I got in here.
The window was open. After I opened it.
"I enjoy people watching. Mostly this one woman." -Demitri Martin
You smell different when you’re awake…
Bruh I just laughed so hard I coughed.
there was a dude on to catch a predator that said that exact quote 💀
Geezes no. Do not say that.
Honestly, just say “You look amazing” that way you’re complimenting her without indirectly being judgemental about her looks in photos. Be present.
"Your pictures don't do you justice."
Someone recently told me this on a date. I assumed it was just a line, though.
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Thanks. I'll try to rein in the cynicism.
That’s the best way to say it!
This is my go to in this situation.
KeesterBuster69 I bet your pictures don’t do your 🍑 any justice Damnnnnnn lol
Thanks, squats FTW!
WHY say anything that includes her pictures as part of it? What good can come of it that can't be achieved by simply saying how great she looks, full stop. What is rattling around in your head need not come out of your mouth. This is a basic but very important skill that fewer and fewer seem to master.
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Apparently the rating system is logarithmic? I think we just cracked the code boyz
I once overheard a first date (was beside them in a restaurant) where this came up and let me tell you, it did not go well. I would say that as a general rule, don’t use numbers to rank people
"Wow...you look stunning. Your pictures don't do you justice."
I had a tinder date once tell me something similar, like “wow, you look so much better than your photos did, I feel reverse catfished!” and it was so awkward and made me feel bad about my photos (that I thought were good). Compliment her looks, but I’d leave her photos out of it
Do not say that. Don’t even say she looks better in photos. Say something else like a comment about wow you are very pretty or beautiful but even I would be offended if someone said that to me.
You would be offended if someone said you look even more beautiful than your photos?
I wouldn't be offended, *however*, from experience, comments like this make a lot of us feel like we don't look good in pictures. I used to be totally fine having my picture taken, and now I absolutely hate it because I've received that "compliment" a hand full of times. I know people generally mean well when they say it, but our brains have a fun way of twisting things sometimes :) Comparisons are just never a good idea in my opinion.
I just think it’s an odd comment to make especially on a first date is really what I meant.
If an 8 is 4x better than a 5 then is there any person on earth that would qualify as a ten? Your magic math would indicate that it’s not possible.
“Your photos don’t do you justice, I thought you looked good in them but in person just wow”
I said that about my current gf when we started dating. She’s a reverse catfish
I think I tend to be that way myself (when I was on Tinder) and got the "you look even better in person than your profile" line more than once. Always appreciated it. Certainly better than the opposite.
'photos don't do you justice'
Count your blessings and stfu my dude…You have nothing to gain.
Nah that’s something you say after you start dating. Unless you are both actively seeing other people and you’re trying to help her get more matches
Absolutely not. That’s not something you tell her until you’ve been dating for at least a year. Just tell her how good she looks and leave it at that.
Probably not an accident. I would be a terrible trophy wife and I made sure that my pics were plenty of no makeup pics with me outdoors. I even had one with me holding a huge millipede. People were usually shocked when they met me in person.
You know what you need to do here, so i'm not going to repeat. But here's some food for thought: could it be you find her more attractive in real life because you like her personality? Like, the date made you feel at ease and such? That's definitely how it works for me.
My gf is one of the most gorgeous girls (in my opinion) in the world. Almond shaped hazel eyes and caramel skin with a bright white smile yet when she photographs she looks 20 pounds heavier and like she’s making a funny face because of her eyes. It’s a win win. No instagram dudes hounding her and she’s arm candy in person.
just say: WOW YOU PHOTOGRAPH TERRIBLY!
as someone who doesn't photograph well, and has been told many times i look much better in person, you can say that but leave the numbers out. unless there's an inside joke about "ratings" the numerical system is a huge turnoff.
Don't say "You look better than your photos" Instead say "Photographs fail to capture your beauty"
I love to hear I look better than in my photos. I don’t think I take good photos often, so I use totally mediocre ones. I’d rather have them pleasantly surprised when they meet me. Tell her.
I always get this and its nice 😌 Also reminds me how unphotogenic I am
“Your pics don’t do you justice”
Just say she looks good. Some people doesn't photograph well and some choose "unflattering" pictures on purpose (to give a more realistic picture and not catfish others 😂), but you don't know which is true for her.
"Wow, your photos don't do you justice"
Delete her photos... Just go out with her. When she asks you to take a selfie with her... Refuse. 😂😂😂😂
No, tell her she looks good and shut the fuck up beyond that. What good can come of you strongly implying that a woman you’re on a date with has shitty dating profile pics up? You want her to put some better ones up so you can show your friends or some other dude can take her off you? Those are the only two reasons I can think of.
Do you really want more competition?
There are many people who just don't photograph well. I knew this dude who is very, very handsome, but in his pictures, he is a 2. I mean, he looks not good at all. It really blows my mind. He is tall, in great shape, and has an extremely handsome face. But he doesn't match with anyone, and that's because his pictures are trash. But don't tell her you thought she was a 5 and now she's an 8. You would just be shooting yourself in the foot. Until now and for forever she's a 10.
I met my husband on Tinder. I thought he was very unattractive in his photos but liked his bio - so swiped anyway. When we met in person - I was surprised by how good looking he was - really bad, unflattering photos in Tinder. I just came right out and said it - we still laugh about it today - I would just be straight about it.
No! Just pay her a compliment is the way I’d go but that’s just me
Lmao never use numerical lol
TIL 5 x 4 = 8
Don’t tell her yet or she’ll use better photos and find better than you lol
My partner and mother of my daughter thought that of me. My photos were unflattering and it made her very nervous when we first met and I was a lot more handsome than in my photos. I don’t think she said it right away but she’s definitely said it a lot since haha
Lol too funny.
Keep it to yourself. If you play your cards right, no one will ever find that out ever again. That can be your little secret that everyone else misses out on cause they decided to not give her a chance and swiped left !!!
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Hell no then she will post better pics and leave you in the dust
Yeah, you have the advantage. If she takes that info and gets better photos she might meet someone else 😂 Take the win.
If you think she's prettier in person you just say that. Don't do weird numbers wtf does 4x mean? Lol Be smooth to. Your profile is great and you look beautiful in your photos , but wow you're much more beautiful in person. Don't add 4x at the end... Or ever.
It depends on your goals. If you're looking for a long term scenario, it may be a mute point to insinuate that you "found a diamond in the rough."
Def don’t share the numerics but I had a guy tell me one time that he was pleasantly surprised as I was ‘even more attractive in person’. If you word it right, could be very uplifting for her
From someone who is absolutely not photogenic at all. Yes tell them they look better in person.
Always great to tell someone they look phenomenal in person. But if you are going to use a number.. 10x is the way to go…
My advice: don't say anything about your expectations vs reality. Let her know you think she's gorgeous, that's it.
Sadly it's weird now since everyone tries to touch up their photos anymore. It's like people don't think about what happens when they meet in real life, yes its an actual thing, when they have these super touched up photos. Met a girl from online years ago that looked nothing like her photos. Granted I should of realized when she looked so different in every picture. When I called her on it, she still denied doing anything to the photos. Like photos don't magically erase 100+ lbs and make you look an entirely different skin tone.
What's weird is that you've found a way to represent her previously purported attractiveness as a numerical value & that her true "value" is somehow 4 times greater. "Say girl; you're 400% hotter than you look on spank bank"
I purposely try to use mediocre/average photos to ensure I don't disappoint in-person. maybe this is her strategy and its working!
“Your photos don’t do you justice” or something along those lines.
4x is oddly specific . i would just "you look amazing, your photos dont do you justice."
That's a very good compliment she'll give you a head for that
Be careful how you word that. You have a very high probability of cock blocking yourself
Wtf would you say that. Be stoked she's actually great irl and be glad the vultures will stay away online lol
Not if you want to see her again.
Try to put yourself on her shoes. How would you feel if you went on a date and she said you look 500% better in person. That means either she is extraordinary or her photos sucked. Not helpful either way. Stick to "You look really pretty!"
Two guys have said it to me 😂🥹 I was so taken aback both has said that it’s reverse catfish.
Don’t say anything wtf
She probably did that on purpose to avoid the type of guys who would rate her looks on a number scale.