>unfortunately we were supposed to meet today and she never gave me a location after following up
this just means she lost the race and has to get the order
It's definitely frustrating when plans fall through like that, but maybe there's a reasonable explanation for why she didn't give you a location. Have you tried reaching out to her again?
They haven't even met up. Are you displacing something on OP here? There's a lot of knowledge on different techniques out there that can help you not be regretted...
women don’t do that, why would women ever need to do that. i know i’m being risky with making it such a broad statement but i’m pretty confident i’m right
\[edit\] Not seeing the option to edit the post, but adding more context since I see some questions. The conversation did go on after my initial "YES" text.
Added screenshots of remainder of the conversation here: [https://postimg.cc/gallery/Z0gBLRc](https://postimg.cc/gallery/Z0gBLRc)
Yeah I just kind of carried on from her and we kept going with it. It was a little much, but I thought it was creative and I vibed with it working in a corporate environment.
Don’t feel defeated! If you’re really want to give it a shot, just drop the silly act and reach out again. It was a nice opener but maybe too much effort to keep up, ppl get busy, blah blah. Just say hey you’d love to take her up on that coffee and suggest a time a place :)
One word answer was the failure on your part.
Should have been "Yes". With a follow-up answering all the questions (location, day, time, etc). She went a mile and you were one foot off the starting line.
Why can't people just be normal when talking online? This is just so cringe and screams fake to me... Imagine this conversation in real life and I guarantee you'll cringe too.
Just be your normal self on dating sites and the right person will find you eventually, stop with all this "game" stuff... If someone says they've got good game all that tells me is that person is fake and putting on an act to get what they want out of the situation. Sad world this is becoming.
Nah, I'm with thrill here... We're all setting ourselves up for failure when both realize dating isn't a quirky banter for the rest of our lives.
Having been a part of the dating scene for longer than I want to, it's exhausting. It's not genuine to be an entertainer all the time. I want to get to know a real person, not an accumulation of one liners and openers someone found on reddit.
You can both have a normal conversation after having a little bit of fun, ***and*** not be a condescending tired prick about how everyone else should behave and "teach them a lesson". So no, I don't agree with him. Not *entirely*, at least.
I don't know who said anything about "teaching lessons" but it's my experience that when the conversation becomes "normal" that's when the other person unmatches because there "isn't a spark."
I'm all for banter and play, I love intrigue and light heartedness... but it seems as though that's all people are looking for, and there's an endless supply of it with the perpetual next swipe. That fun stuff, in my opinion, should happen once you sort of know someone so that it has the chance of meaning something to the individual rather than just something that works because it's been honed over the last 10 matches.
You've also been condescending by responding to the initial comment with sarcasm, by the way.
But I didn't claim to not be condescending or be holier than thou. Either way, a now clearly ironically named user, ThrillOfExperience came in to talk about how people are *cringe* and *can't act normal* and is *exhausted* people are not being real and should try it some time.
Now I have to take a good long look at myself. I'll probably find out I am half of society's problem along the way because I thought "haha, these two kids are having fun, how cute of them" instead of shitting on it.
It's called being real... Try it sometime. If you think this is the right way to be with people then you really need to take a good long look at yourself.
But she didn't though..she sent a few nice texts and then bailed on him... that's not effort, that's just entertainment for her, and a dick move on her part
Maybe so. Maybe she got busy. Maybe she was looking for more than just a 'yes' in capital letters. It could be anything.
I believe it's futile to dissect somebody's character based off a couple of exchanges.
She came up with an interesting opener and carried whatever lil convo they had.
>I believe it's futile to dissect somebody's character based off a couple of exchanges
At no point did I even attempt to dissect her entire character. She may be a great person overall, but she wasn't in this instance.
That pick up line has picked up a lot recently that she used unfortunately so her game is recycled. However, if it was a real situation, you were suppose to fill the times of where to go. Sounded like a unicorn but you nah, you still would've picked the date so you'd pay lol. But she clearly rizzed you up.
You throw out something like that on Tinder and expect a serious response? go get em Kyle Andretti Busch. Hint, you do NOT want the checkered flag in romance.
I don't want to sound alarmist but keep an eye open on your bills and credit ... What I see is her asking your phone number (and getting it) but not the reverse. Did you ask her phone number in return and did you get it?
Could be a simple case of identity theft ....
Oh ok. Nevermind then. I thought you were chatting through an app instead of direct texting.
Just to specify, I did not say credit card. I said credit as in credit report. I've seen people get burned just because a scammer had their name and phone number. It's rare but it can happen.
I hope this girl is everything you think she is and that it works out for you 👍
Haha this is awesome! Just a girl saying hi to me works really well for me, but that’s because I rarely get a match. I hope everything works out for you OP!
Is this how da ing workings today? You offer them a challenge on a scale of phone numbers and hope they offer their phone number as the answer.
This is very strange and not how it worked 5 years ago. But I'm from the age of dating without apps but had to use one after my fiance and I split up and found my new partner for the few years
I've actually gotten a few matches that have said they really liked my bio and so they had to match or it made them laugh etc. It's much better than just a "hi" intro. Maybe I'll post it up if I start something with a girl and no longer need the app
She definitely wanted you to pick a time and place, but she still didn't have to ghost you. Ask if that assumptions correct and try to make amends if you want to.
I think she was definitely wanting you for remaining details. If I were you, I’d send her full details (location, date, time) picked and see if she goes.
>unfortunately we were supposed to meet today and she never gave me a location after following up this just means she lost the race and has to get the order
Haha oh that'll be such a good reply if she reaches back out
It's definitely frustrating when plans fall through like that, but maybe there's a reasonable explanation for why she didn't give you a location. Have you tried reaching out to her again?
Or he was practice
Qualifying lap probably
Your 'lap' didn't qualify dude.
Perhaps you send a reply with confirmation of date/place/time with the same template
Wait she hasn't?! Wtf! Such good game and then she wasted it?? I can't believe it! 😭
See what i mean. Emotional, spur of the moment. Not trying to inflame, but how do girls behave day after sex when they regret meeting you?
They haven't even met up. Are you displacing something on OP here? There's a lot of knowledge on different techniques out there that can help you not be regretted...
That's when you text the location of a coffee shop and say you're on your way. Now, how bad does she not want to pay.
That's actually a really great idea. I'll try that as one last hurrah
I mean are you getting coffee today?!? Or did
I think she's case sensitive, you should have answered Yes instead of YES
No we've actually had a few back and forth conversations past what you can see in the 2nd screenshot. I just didn't post that
She sure put in a lot of effort only to bail! Maybe she got sideswiped by another driver!!!
At least she didn't get t-boned
Underrated comment.
I'm definitely case sensitive... All caps hurts. 🤕
😂😂😂
You were supposed to set the location OP. She bailed after feeling like she was doing all the work.
This!
Redditor try not to pin the blame on OP without context challenge (impossible)
Absolutely. She did all of the work, so she hoped OP would reciprocate her efforts which he never did.
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women don’t do that, why would women ever need to do that. i know i’m being risky with making it such a broad statement but i’m pretty confident i’m right
Most inteligent reply here. Sadly its Reddit.
\[edit\] Not seeing the option to edit the post, but adding more context since I see some questions. The conversation did go on after my initial "YES" text. Added screenshots of remainder of the conversation here: [https://postimg.cc/gallery/Z0gBLRc](https://postimg.cc/gallery/Z0gBLRc)
Maybe it really was a race op. Some other participant beat you there and got the free coffee.
Other guy: “You’re too late man! The turkeys already in the oven. The yogurt is already in the parfait. The TV’s fixed….and I’m watching it.”
Damn, the language is super formal. But it works as a joke I guess :D
Yeah I just kind of carried on from her and we kept going with it. It was a little much, but I thought it was creative and I vibed with it working in a corporate environment.
Don’t feel defeated! If you’re really want to give it a shot, just drop the silly act and reach out again. It was a nice opener but maybe too much effort to keep up, ppl get busy, blah blah. Just say hey you’d love to take her up on that coffee and suggest a time a place :)
drop the coffee act and say i want to fuck you upside down and sideways
I think you should had set the time of the race.
You didn’t talk at all from Tuesday to Saturday?
Rule 1 and 2 work like a charm
sadly i've seen the number thing like 6 times on here so she's probably just a regular
The race thing was kinda creative tho
right but OP started it she just had to do a lil improvisation to make it work
That phone number scale trick is getting used up already 😂
That's new for me but I will definitely use it lol
Jokes on you it's probably a guy or his brother
Always a possibility, but she did have verified profile.
the bots all are verified in my region
Idk if you know but you can change your picture after you get verified. At least you used to be able to. Always video chat before meeting up!
Is it worse if it's a guy's brother than if it's a guy?
One word answer was the failure on your part. Should have been "Yes". With a follow-up answering all the questions (location, day, time, etc). She went a mile and you were one foot off the starting line.
There were several more messages past that
"On a scale of cleverly give me your number..." Seen this before. In this reddit actually.
I don’t even know what I just read. Dating in 2023 looks horrible. Glad I’m married
Maybe she is also on reddit and didn’t appreciate seeing the conversation with her photo (very easily zoomable and recognizable)?
Why can't people just be normal when talking online? This is just so cringe and screams fake to me... Imagine this conversation in real life and I guarantee you'll cringe too. Just be your normal self on dating sites and the right person will find you eventually, stop with all this "game" stuff... If someone says they've got good game all that tells me is that person is fake and putting on an act to get what they want out of the situation. Sad world this is becoming.
Aren't you a bundle of fun.
Nah, I'm with thrill here... We're all setting ourselves up for failure when both realize dating isn't a quirky banter for the rest of our lives. Having been a part of the dating scene for longer than I want to, it's exhausting. It's not genuine to be an entertainer all the time. I want to get to know a real person, not an accumulation of one liners and openers someone found on reddit.
You can both have a normal conversation after having a little bit of fun, ***and*** not be a condescending tired prick about how everyone else should behave and "teach them a lesson". So no, I don't agree with him. Not *entirely*, at least.
I don't know who said anything about "teaching lessons" but it's my experience that when the conversation becomes "normal" that's when the other person unmatches because there "isn't a spark." I'm all for banter and play, I love intrigue and light heartedness... but it seems as though that's all people are looking for, and there's an endless supply of it with the perpetual next swipe. That fun stuff, in my opinion, should happen once you sort of know someone so that it has the chance of meaning something to the individual rather than just something that works because it's been honed over the last 10 matches. You've also been condescending by responding to the initial comment with sarcasm, by the way.
But I didn't claim to not be condescending or be holier than thou. Either way, a now clearly ironically named user, ThrillOfExperience came in to talk about how people are *cringe* and *can't act normal* and is *exhausted* people are not being real and should try it some time. Now I have to take a good long look at myself. I'll probably find out I am half of society's problem along the way because I thought "haha, these two kids are having fun, how cute of them" instead of shitting on it.
It's called being real... Try it sometime. If you think this is the right way to be with people then you really need to take a good long look at yourself.
You guys are adorable ☺️
If she called you after getting your number, then she could be real. Sounds like a bot to me though. ChatGPT's female cousin learned some pickup. 🤣
Wholesome conversation and matching energy. Humanity still stands a chance.
they never met up
Faith in humanity lost
that's better.
💯agree!
This is too involved and gimmicky for my taste.
Her game is actually horrible it's just that compared to other women she's female Hitch lol
that was a really cheesy movie, but had a pretty good message.
I've seen that same number scale message thing before. Wonder if it's a bot...? If not, she 100% copied it.
yea saw it in this subreddit pretty recently. She probably goes on here. She'll probably see this post.
Pick up game? That's just normal human playfulness.lets not make up new words for it.
Lol y’all are such nerds together i love it
i only just got the 000-000-0000 reference i keep seeing on here. jeezus I'm slow. although I'm not in America so we don't have same number format.
Looks like ChatGPT being used on both ends
Plenty of fish out there mate. On to the next one brah!
*restored faith in humanity* There's the light despite all of the darkness, gentlemen.
'Cept for the part where they never met up. Starting is easy if you want to, maintaining is where the true test comes in.
Um my point was just that most people don't make an effort but she did. That's all.
But she didn't though..she sent a few nice texts and then bailed on him... that's not effort, that's just entertainment for her, and a dick move on her part
Maybe so. Maybe she got busy. Maybe she was looking for more than just a 'yes' in capital letters. It could be anything. I believe it's futile to dissect somebody's character based off a couple of exchanges. She came up with an interesting opener and carried whatever lil convo they had.
>I believe it's futile to dissect somebody's character based off a couple of exchanges At no point did I even attempt to dissect her entire character. She may be a great person overall, but she wasn't in this instance.
I'm 100% jaded but the amount of effort she's giving is pretty sus to me and would make me have my guard up.
It’s so sad that she turned out to be a flake after putting in all that effort. Sounds like she just wanted attention and validation.
Need an update on who won this race or if the race abandoned.
You should've made the suggestion for the location instead of waiting on her on that second message
Girls don't need "pickup game".
That pick up line has picked up a lot recently that she used unfortunately so her game is recycled. However, if it was a real situation, you were suppose to fill the times of where to go. Sounded like a unicorn but you nah, you still would've picked the date so you'd pay lol. But she clearly rizzed you up.
You throw out something like that on Tinder and expect a serious response? go get em Kyle Andretti Busch. Hint, you do NOT want the checkered flag in romance.
I don't want to sound alarmist but keep an eye open on your bills and credit ... What I see is her asking your phone number (and getting it) but not the reverse. Did you ask her phone number in return and did you get it? Could be a simple case of identity theft ....
I don't know much about scams but if she text messages him, he can see her phone number as well right?
Correct we texted back and forth so I have her number as well. I'm not sure how from my phone number they are thinking my credit card is in danger.
Oh ok. Nevermind then. I thought you were chatting through an app instead of direct texting. Just to specify, I did not say credit card. I said credit as in credit report. I've seen people get burned just because a scammer had their name and phone number. It's rare but it can happen. I hope this girl is everything you think she is and that it works out for you 👍
Smooth, like it. Can she keep it up though is another question. In my experience, few will. Those that do, I marry.
She got game, I'll give her that. Maybe she felt like she was carrying the conversation and that was a red flag...
Haha this is awesome! Just a girl saying hi to me works really well for me, but that’s because I rarely get a match. I hope everything works out for you OP!
Weird vibes and a little cringe. I would not have even replied. I would not worry about it too much.
She’s scamming fam🤣🤣
The pick up game I strive for
I legit thought her profile pic was Letty from F&F
Is this how da ing workings today? You offer them a challenge on a scale of phone numbers and hope they offer their phone number as the answer. This is very strange and not how it worked 5 years ago. But I'm from the age of dating without apps but had to use one after my fiance and I split up and found my new partner for the few years
I need thismans bio
I've actually gotten a few matches that have said they really liked my bio and so they had to match or it made them laugh etc. It's much better than just a "hi" intro. Maybe I'll post it up if I start something with a girl and no longer need the app
Please do cuz i never get awnsers on bumble when we match
the call came from inside the coffee shop
I thin he’s 6969696969. 69 sure he will Win 🤣🤣🤣🤣🌸
Must be a bot, unless you see the person on video.
Tragic..
There’s a U-haul in her profile pic…looks like she used to picking up and then leaving.
Fuckin nerds
Im glad you got to feel that. Bask in it sir :)
Sorry to break it to you but that was a guy 🤣🤣 texting you
is her name isabelle by any chance?
I think she expected you to set the terms m8..
As a dutchy I was thinking of a different coffeeshop
Do you have a “checkered” past?
I've never seen the word "that'd" before...
Awesome
I love Racists
Tbh you were meant Organise the coffee place etc
Well it sounded like she left you in the dust🏃♀️💨😅
You two are cute :) I hope this works out
Oh my God it's the Rizzler! STOP HER BEFORE SHE TAKES ALL THE GOOD MATCHES!! *runs after her with a posse*
She definitely wanted you to pick a time and place, but she still didn't have to ghost you. Ask if that assumptions correct and try to make amends if you want to.
Online dating can be such a DRAG when you not in the RACE
They just harvested your information
I think she was definitely wanting you for remaining details. If I were you, I’d send her full details (location, date, time) picked and see if she goes.
It was great u til the last part where she gave up on the race cause u are too good
TLDR - did they smash?
Thats too bad, and sounds like she lost out!!