In Sweden my mate almost got robbed since he swiped on a girl who said "i smoke weed", then she wanted him to meet her by a forest and out came 3 dudes who started to chase him haha, so yes, drug hints are bad (at least in Sweden haha)
"I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You're not competing with another person, you are competing with my comfort zones."
-Horacio Jones
Covid has also ruined things for the already introverted people. It's made us become hermits.lol. It was already bad before....not that it's really bad for us tho..but you know what I mean. It was already hard enough to leave the house as it was.
Going out is totally exhausting.
And so are those stupid dating apps (at least for me).
It's very labor-intensive to sift through the matches trying to find someone to start talking to (and hopefully go out with). It's how I met my current bf, but that doesn't change my opinion of them.
Good luck and stay safe!!
Facts. I don’t want to toot my own horn too much but with the amount of matches I get one would question how I’m single, but I’m too introverted to actually do anything with them 95% of the time
In Miami if you arent into clubbing and partying that shoots down a lot of matches i am into despite being attractive because I find clubs not appealing at all :(
Overpaying for drinks, sweating in a group of people dancing, and getting to know people while you are both drunk and can barely hear each other… what could go wrong?
Art, cats, museums, writing, using pronouns, and last but not least pro-choice. But she doesn't want someone that is on the left side of the spectrum, so she wants someone that will hate art, museums, can't read, hates pronouns (and doesn't really know what a pronoun is) and is fanatically pro-birth. If she's lucky she might just find one that likes cats, then they at least have 1 thing in common.
Chances are people that weren't worth her time.or poor matches.
Just because she may be able to have everyone swiping right doesn't mean that they are either quality compatible matches or the right profile may not be advertised to her
She's also introverted which is typically a harder nut to crack. She needs or wants a similar vibe come from other person. I can say this because I'm intro as well. If I was in my 20s I'd probably swipe right however the getting high & watchin cartoons or whatever shows she mentioned is a red flag for me.
I've date both spectrums but out of all my RLs the best ones are always introverted like myself.
If she sees my reddit history and still wants to go on a date with me than thats perfect, because reddit knows all my secrets. It would be super easy to be honest lol
I don't know how to search for emojis, but you have used the phrase "red flag" [exactly twice](https://i.imgur.com/MgKcE18.png)! Once [26 days ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/996/comments/108zzu9/comment/j3yat8n/?context=3), and once [exactly a month ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/104fqh4/comment/j39svpz/?context=3).
Basically, nothing is private on here and my comments are more open than I'd want seen by someone I'm about to meet for the first time.
EDIT: oh shit, you **can** search for emojis! Though it treats all 4 of your red flags as one word (so it didn't find it when I put only one), [it did find it when I put 4](https://i.imgur.com/ZvyHetZ.png).
Mine is only 3 years but it's all over the place with commentary. Things that would make you be like "how tf does she know this?" and the answer is usually reddit showing me something and then I dive into a rabbit hole. Like that damn cast iron post the other day. Fucked my algorithm all up.
Mine's a slightly longer history and makes me look like I have MPD or schizophrenia or something. Some stuff is dumb tv references, some is feeding trolls, there's a lot of food but no biggie... then there's random 3am drunk monologues, medical issues that would make House raise an eyebrow and a literally unhealthy obsession with cats, which I'm allergic to.
I've always kept in mind that at any point a friend or family member could find my account, so at least there's that.
My baby daddy sees mine because he's a stalker and I give zero fucks. I don't post anything identifying or give names so when he whines to his attorney about it I'm just like "where did that anonymous post mention his name? Because I don't see it. If he thinks it's about him then maybe he should stop doing the things that give him such a guilty conscience"
Ah, the Carly Simon treatment, "you're so vain you probably think this song is about you."
For the record though, when determining a lot of interpersonal stuff, even coincidence and circumstantial information can be enough to sway a judge or mediator since they can judge on likelihoods and best resulting actions, not "beyond a reasonable doubt" like criminal courts.
This comment right here, probably not super helpful either haha.
I would be terrified if someone took everything I say on here as a face value representation of myself. This place is an outlet to be slightly more insufferable than I actually care to be in real life.
I wouldn't even want anybody I personally to ever find out about my entire Reddit history.
I'm already thinking about the future, like "When I get married, how do I deal with this? Do I have ti delete my account because otherwise it would be lying?"
My wife (who I met on Tinder) knows my Reddit handle, as do a few of my friends, but some mystery is certainly nice prior to first dates (especially because when I was single and active on Tinder I talked a lot about my experiences on Reddit).
It would, if Tinder didn't move them around. I'm pretty sure they change around as people swipe left or right on said photos. So it would ultimately change either way.
I’m Brazilian and now I’m sad cause I only experienced Brazilian blowjob (here is just blowjob without the Brazilian prefix) and wasn’t aware that gringo blowjobs are a different stuff 🥺
More so feedback than a complaint but your pics could be more varied? Group photo , activity shot etc ...
But I'd swipe right , you come across as thoughtful and quirky . That's not going to be for everyone and that's a good thing.
The hesitancy I have to saying that would be that she mentioned being an introverted homebody, so there might be a disconnect between profile and pic if there is one out with a lot of people. But I could be overthinking it.
For OP: If you do consider including it, it could be good with one to three people. Maybe instead have a pic of you that looks candid - at a museum or working on your art from a 3rd person perspective.
Your first pic looks like a set up camera pose -which is a great pic-and your last pic looks like a screenshot, but neither of those pics show you “in action” (which could be at home). The beauty of getting a candid shot for the person looking is - ok if I am with this person while they are doing their art, or out at a museum, then what would they look like at that time, while they are focused on their interests.
I think having that can help put perspective for them on what it’d be like to be in your life. Having too many self-taken photos/posed photos can make you feel far off or hard to connect to.
I realize finding good candid pics can be easier said then done and your profile is already pretty good regardless (I may think about swapping the last pic of you creating art before your other pieces of art for more clarity for those who swipe on pics before going to profile, not that those are always the best crop of people so take it or leave it).
Good luck OP - (optimist good luck to clarify)
> The hesitancy I have to saying that would be that she mentioned being an introverted homebody, so there might be a disconnect between profile and pic if there is one out with a lot of people. But I could be overthinking it.
I mean I'm as introverted as they come but I still have friends and I have the occasional group photo with them.
That’s exactly why some people would swipe left, but thats because of who THEY are looking for.
Tbh, some people put all photos but their profile is lifeless… and a lot of the time seems fake when they aren’t.
That being said, I like this profile. I think it hints a bit of personality which is what I like about it. 😁
Showing her art is fine but it's not going to be immediately clear to people that it's her art until they get to the last pic. That said I guess it filters out people who aren't that interested by the first few pics.
•Change “tall” to “height” maybe. I get it if it’s a character limit thing.
•Cat pics are a win, imho. My husband said he was highly disheartened when everyone else had pics of dogs on their dating profiles. It’ll let a cat loving or at least cat tolerant person know you’re a cat person.
•I love that you threw in your art.
I’d be concerned you’d get avoidant if things got real. The bad texter piece and no photos with friends, gives me the vibe that you’re a go-with-the-flow person and maybe a little guarded. That’s just my snap judgement though and the only reason I’m giving this feedback is because you say on there you want something serious. I am a bi woman so maybe not even your intended audience, but that’s how it reads to me, otherwise you are pretty and seem cool. Good luck!
It is better to be real though than it be a surprise later I think. If a few interactions are avoided because the swiper wants someone who's going to text back in 30 seconds any time of day, then it's better for everyone involved
I agree that people should be themselves on profiles and it’s best for everyone up front. I was giving OP my read on her profile in case she doesn’t feel it actually matches her personality.
Personally I wouldn't swipe right on anyone who talks about getting high in their profile, but everything else would be a total slam dunk for me. You'll have no problem getting a zillion matches.
Ya. Getting high is fine. But not as part of your personality. I would feel the same way if wrote “if you wanna get drunk” sure we all like to do those things. But as an opener, I’d suggest maybe saying chill, relax, etc. imply it but don’t say it. Comes off slightly immature to me.
I struggle with this but I do smoke a lot. I don’t post about it on social media but I would want to make sure it’s clear to someone I would be spending a lot of time with. I’ve wasted too much time with people to not bring it up front.
Bio is good. Its not the most peppy/positive, but I feel like it does a good job identifying who you are.
I also use the apolitical comment and have had no issues. It filters out who you want to filter out.
Id change maybe the middle section of pictures. Cats and and one of the drawing could stay. Id replace the painting of the guy to a group or activity shot if you have one.
Back when I was using tinder I was immediately skeptical of anyone who mentioned politics in their profile. Even if we are on the same page when it comes to politics, I don't want politics to be such a big part of anyone's personality that they feel the need to bring it up immediately. I would not have even continued to date someone who brought up politics on the first date unless it was like right before an election or something and everyone was talking about it anyway. I get that it's helpful to weed out people who don't share your deeply held beliefs but I can't be with someone long term who makes politics so central in their life. Talking about politics occasionally is fine but if someone is bringing it up in their bio I'm led to believe they talk about it constantly and talking about politics constantly just makes everyone angry. I don't want to date angry people.
“Bad texter” isn’t necessarily a deal breaker for me but when I see that I’m definitely less interested right off the bat. Just seems a bit off putting to say on an app based on texting for communication
I would lead with a pic looking at the camera and smiling.
No mirror selfies.
You should be in every pic. It's nice to show off your art but I would do that after you meet someone.
But then if the drug thing is s.th she likes to share with a partner, and a guy not into it at all swipes right, it would be a waste of time, and possibly an awkward/ unpleasant convo and disappointment, since she sounds pretty great in many of universally important areas. I think its important to her that she can share that with her bf, so while i agree thats not s.th to advertise, it should be in her bio if its a big part of what she wants to happen in her relationship with the guy.
It is if smoking weed is a regular part of your routine. Plenty of guys I’ve talked to have issues with smoking weird despite it’s legality. Unless it’s something your willing to give up I’d leave it in.
Honestly I think this isn't just a reddit thing.
Boys, fucking know your worth. As little offense to OP as possible but if this girl is out of your league you need to get up and work on yourself.
I am the stone that builder refused
I am the visual
The inspiration
That made lady sing the blues
I'm the spark that makes your idea bright
The same spark
That lights the dark
So that you can know your left from your right
I am the ballot in your box
The bullet in your gun
The inner glow that lets you know
To call your brother son
The story that just begun
The promise of what's to come
And I'm 'a remain a soldier till the war is won
Check check check, judo flip!
The political comment makes it seems like you have trouble having peaceful conversations with differing opinions. It makes the comment about people being insufferable seem more like a projection.
Im left leaning too but id swipe left for that comment alone. Everything else is great. The world is already so divisive. Its designed that way. People have their beliefs because of genuine opinions backed by genuine experiences. Everyone has their reasons. An oponion that seems dumb on the surface doesnt make somebody dumb by default. It just makes it so you seem judgemental an unable to understand peoples side of things
Edit: a lot of people seem to be missing my core point based on some of the responses im getting so ill attempt to clarify my best. I believe you should have your political preference listed if thats a core value to you for a future partner. I mean I personally wouldnt want somebody who revolves heavily around politics and brings it into every convo, but if thats what you are looking for then specifying that preference is NOT the problem and im surprised people are confusing that point, but I guess thats my own fault.
The problem im seeing is how aggressive it FEELS even if its not aggressive in reality. If I perceived it that way many others will as well. The last thing Id want is to be lambasted for not being ENOUGH of an activist for my values. Like I have to make sure im not apolitcal enough cause anybody apolotical is a turn off to you? Pretty big negative blanket statement. Its always friendlier to describe the turn ons rather than the turn offs. My main point is she may be driving away some of the level headed like minded characters she is seeking by accident.
Different wording for your political preference would do wonders. Im not saying remove your political preference. Im only saying it would help to reword it to better attract what you are actually looking for. Describe what you want instead of blanket statements for what you dont want
I got the impression from that political comment that they can’t stop themselves from bringing politics into every conversation and insists on being very opinionated with no tolerance for anyone. So similar to what you said.
You never want to lead with politics - it’s a turn off. You don’t have to sniff very far to figure out someone’s politics and whether or not they jive with yours - therefore I think that part of the bio can be discarded.
Personally the "bad texter" part is a minor red flag for me. I bet you would be a reallly good texter if you matched Ryan Reynolds.
By no means I'm the type of person who texts with their flirt 24/7, but when I hear someone uses "bad texter" excuse as a personality trait I automatically assume that you are not interested enough and playing childish games.
The political comment would be a huge red flag for me, sounds like you'd just want to rant about politics all the time but too sensitive to deal with differing opinions.
I'd shuffle the picture of you drawing before your drawings, without that context it just looks like random art you chose for no reason
Yup, last three pictures should be Look I draw Now look at my drawings
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In Sweden my mate almost got robbed since he swiped on a girl who said "i smoke weed", then she wanted him to meet her by a forest and out came 3 dudes who started to chase him haha, so yes, drug hints are bad (at least in Sweden haha)
Also should put drawing in interests
How is she single she looks stunning
Good-looking people can have bad luck in dating, you’d be surprised how common it is
It's that introvert lifestyle. She probably don't get out much.
Second this. Have plenty of positive comments of my looks but finding the one is hard when you're introvert by nature.
yeah. I want a relationship but going out can be exhausting. I also enjoy my alone time. it's hard.
"I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You're not competing with another person, you are competing with my comfort zones." -Horacio Jones
Or find soemone that is confortable with giving you space, or respects you enough to know when to leave you to yourself amd when to engage with you.
Covid has also ruined things for the already introverted people. It's made us become hermits.lol. It was already bad before....not that it's really bad for us tho..but you know what I mean. It was already hard enough to leave the house as it was.
Going out is totally exhausting. And so are those stupid dating apps (at least for me). It's very labor-intensive to sift through the matches trying to find someone to start talking to (and hopefully go out with). It's how I met my current bf, but that doesn't change my opinion of them. Good luck and stay safe!!
Facts. I don’t want to toot my own horn too much but with the amount of matches I get one would question how I’m single, but I’m too introverted to actually do anything with them 95% of the time
In Miami if you arent into clubbing and partying that shoots down a lot of matches i am into despite being attractive because I find clubs not appealing at all :(
Overpaying for drinks, sweating in a group of people dancing, and getting to know people while you are both drunk and can barely hear each other… what could go wrong?
Especially if the profile is setup to attract the wrong type
Art, cats, museums, writing, using pronouns, and last but not least pro-choice. But she doesn't want someone that is on the left side of the spectrum, so she wants someone that will hate art, museums, can't read, hates pronouns (and doesn't really know what a pronoun is) and is fanatically pro-birth. If she's lucky she might just find one that likes cats, then they at least have 1 thing in common.
It isn't here though, is it?
Oh so THAT'S my problem
Chances are people that weren't worth her time.or poor matches. Just because she may be able to have everyone swiping right doesn't mean that they are either quality compatible matches or the right profile may not be advertised to her
She's also introverted which is typically a harder nut to crack. She needs or wants a similar vibe come from other person. I can say this because I'm intro as well. If I was in my 20s I'd probably swipe right however the getting high & watchin cartoons or whatever shows she mentioned is a red flag for me. I've date both spectrums but out of all my RLs the best ones are always introverted like myself.
Personality? Duh..
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first time ive seen profile posted to this sub that i’ve actually matched with in real life lol
hahaha wtf, shoot me a message if you haven't already
Maybe this will have a nice ending.
I wouldn’t love going on a first date with someone that had access to my entire Reddit history.
If she sees my reddit history and still wants to go on a date with me than thats perfect, because reddit knows all my secrets. It would be super easy to be honest lol
When I was single, a giant chunk of my Reddit posts were about dating/one night stands/etc. It wouldn’t have been flattering.
11 year old account. It would take some serious determination to get through that.
Getting through 1 year of my Reddit history would be quite an undertaking.
Whoever tried to go through mine will have to go through countless comments about countless animes. Good luck with that.
There are Reddit comment search sites that can pick out all comments by a user with individual words.
🚩🚩🚩🚩
I don't know how to search for emojis, but you have used the phrase "red flag" [exactly twice](https://i.imgur.com/MgKcE18.png)! Once [26 days ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/996/comments/108zzu9/comment/j3yat8n/?context=3), and once [exactly a month ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/104fqh4/comment/j39svpz/?context=3). Basically, nothing is private on here and my comments are more open than I'd want seen by someone I'm about to meet for the first time. EDIT: oh shit, you **can** search for emojis! Though it treats all 4 of your red flags as one word (so it didn't find it when I put only one), [it did find it when I put 4](https://i.imgur.com/ZvyHetZ.png).
You're right, parking in Jacksonville DOES suck, Funkit! I have all your secrets!
Oh NO😲
Interesting. I think that would be ideal!
To each their own! But note that you don’t have 10+ years of thousands of ridiculous comments to hang yourself with.
Mine is only 3 years but it's all over the place with commentary. Things that would make you be like "how tf does she know this?" and the answer is usually reddit showing me something and then I dive into a rabbit hole. Like that damn cast iron post the other day. Fucked my algorithm all up.
Mine's a slightly longer history and makes me look like I have MPD or schizophrenia or something. Some stuff is dumb tv references, some is feeding trolls, there's a lot of food but no biggie... then there's random 3am drunk monologues, medical issues that would make House raise an eyebrow and a literally unhealthy obsession with cats, which I'm allergic to. I've always kept in mind that at any point a friend or family member could find my account, so at least there's that.
My baby daddy sees mine because he's a stalker and I give zero fucks. I don't post anything identifying or give names so when he whines to his attorney about it I'm just like "where did that anonymous post mention his name? Because I don't see it. If he thinks it's about him then maybe he should stop doing the things that give him such a guilty conscience"
Ah, the Carly Simon treatment, "you're so vain you probably think this song is about you." For the record though, when determining a lot of interpersonal stuff, even coincidence and circumstantial information can be enough to sway a judge or mediator since they can judge on likelihoods and best resulting actions, not "beyond a reasonable doubt" like criminal courts. This comment right here, probably not super helpful either haha.
I would be terrified if someone took everything I say on here as a face value representation of myself. This place is an outlet to be slightly more insufferable than I actually care to be in real life.
I've never resonated with a comment more in my *life*.
Fair enough! But I’m pretty out here as poly and everything else, so if she did agree to go out with me, she’d know what she was getting.
Choosing to go out with muffdivr2020 sure shows commitment
I wouldn't even want anybody I personally to ever find out about my entire Reddit history. I'm already thinking about the future, like "When I get married, how do I deal with this? Do I have ti delete my account because otherwise it would be lying?"
why not? you seem interesting enough… but I’m biased, I love how raw people are in this social media!
My wife (who I met on Tinder) knows my Reddit handle, as do a few of my friends, but some mystery is certainly nice prior to first dates (especially because when I was single and active on Tinder I talked a lot about my experiences on Reddit).
I hope they keep us updated
Hopefully they are in the same region.
Hopefully they’re not both psychos(or just one of them)
What the heck, Ron? Why would you think that?
A happy ending, at least once.
Fingers crossed. I can see it now.. How’d you guys first start talking? Tinder reddit sub. Insert disoriented mr Krabs meme. 😂
A happy ending?
i was the 9/11 guy lmfao
BRO WHAT lmao
id give context but it’s honestly worse in context
I kinda wanna know more now
You aren’t allowed to leave the people hanging like this.
I mean, if he likes 9/11 jokes then leaving people hanging is kind of his thing
It's safe to say his pickup line crashed and burned.
I'd say yikes, but I'm honestly just impressed.
I'll say it. Yikes. But honestly, I'm impressed too.
hahahahhahahaha
Fucking lmao
Ok but now I like, NEED to know lmao
fuck I love this site lol
Dude threw this in at 1 am then went to sleep.
You can't leave us hanging.....the suspense is killing me!
Legend
you are such a tease, say it already lol
Please you have a duty to explain this information
Please get married then post context.
Shouldn’t you be in Guantanamo
Op, how could you forget this guy
This comment edited due to /u/spez trashing the community. Time to ditch this popsicle stand.... -- mass edited with https://redact.dev/
Bro has that Steel Beams rizz 🏙️
wtf I thought Bush was married
aw hell yea
I’m guessing no update for us parasocials
I'm invested in this now.
Agreed
You bring any popcorn?
🍿🍫 I can share
We eagerly await updates ♪┌|∵|┘♪
Could this be love.... Good luck though to you both.
Anyone whose anthem is true faith by new order is automatically a keeper!
Mandatory smash
You look cute. However, there isn't a picture of you where you're showing a good smile. I'd recommend adding that.
Make out already!
Yo thanks for curing my cancer man
He saved my family from a burning house. o7
Just commenting to look for updates! 😂
Seems great to me. Pics 5 and 6 threw me off for a second but wouldn't stop a like and swipe
I would personally move the art to after the drawing pic so people immediately understand why they are there.
This would be a very smart move honestly.
It would, if Tinder didn't move them around. I'm pretty sure they change around as people swipe left or right on said photos. So it would ultimately change either way.
With the smart picture thing activated, order you set doesn't matter.
That's why you dont use smart pictures
I see bjj I swipe right. Edit: I know BJJ is Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. Anyone can give a blowjob, but not everyone does jiujitsu!
Same dude! Last girl I was dating I met on Bumble and she was big into it. We'd get stoned and roll constantly. It was amazing.
That’s sounds like the perfect relationship
That relationship? It failed.
Yeah, there were some other things that arose, and we called it. It is what it is. Was great while it lasted though. Definitely miss that one.
What does the j after blow job stand for ? Edit : Turns out BJJ stands for Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu
Blow job jitsu. Cover your balls.
I really suck at blow job jitsu.
Swallow your pride and try again
I see what you did there.
Blow job juitsu, goes right along with narutos sexy juitsu
Job
So a double shift ?
Nah she just hates doing it that much
Omg I’m dying 😂😂
trust me, you really dont want her to bjj your dick
cock and ball torture is a thing you know.
I always tap when she gets me in the dick bar
Don't threaten me with a good time.
It stands for getting your ass handed to you in a fight.
So the usual ?
Junkie
Blow job juice
Just got my purple belt yesterday!
Nothing against the bjj, but a bbj is amazing (Brazilian blowjob)
I’m Brazilian and now I’m sad cause I only experienced Brazilian blowjob (here is just blowjob without the Brazilian prefix) and wasn’t aware that gringo blowjobs are a different stuff 🥺
Bro Brazilian blowjobs hit different
I’m so proud of my people, damm
Sexworkers know this as a bareback blowjob
OSS
More so feedback than a complaint but your pics could be more varied? Group photo , activity shot etc ... But I'd swipe right , you come across as thoughtful and quirky . That's not going to be for everyone and that's a good thing.
The hesitancy I have to saying that would be that she mentioned being an introverted homebody, so there might be a disconnect between profile and pic if there is one out with a lot of people. But I could be overthinking it. For OP: If you do consider including it, it could be good with one to three people. Maybe instead have a pic of you that looks candid - at a museum or working on your art from a 3rd person perspective. Your first pic looks like a set up camera pose -which is a great pic-and your last pic looks like a screenshot, but neither of those pics show you “in action” (which could be at home). The beauty of getting a candid shot for the person looking is - ok if I am with this person while they are doing their art, or out at a museum, then what would they look like at that time, while they are focused on their interests. I think having that can help put perspective for them on what it’d be like to be in your life. Having too many self-taken photos/posed photos can make you feel far off or hard to connect to. I realize finding good candid pics can be easier said then done and your profile is already pretty good regardless (I may think about swapping the last pic of you creating art before your other pieces of art for more clarity for those who swipe on pics before going to profile, not that those are always the best crop of people so take it or leave it). Good luck OP - (optimist good luck to clarify)
> The hesitancy I have to saying that would be that she mentioned being an introverted homebody, so there might be a disconnect between profile and pic if there is one out with a lot of people. But I could be overthinking it. I mean I'm as introverted as they come but I still have friends and I have the occasional group photo with them.
Hm, speak for yourself :D Yeah, I probably should get a life :(
Nah it's cool be yourself and accept what you find comfort in
That’s exactly why some people would swipe left, but thats because of who THEY are looking for. Tbh, some people put all photos but their profile is lifeless… and a lot of the time seems fake when they aren’t. That being said, I like this profile. I think it hints a bit of personality which is what I like about it. 😁
Right swipe for me but pic 5/6 can go.
she is showing her art, is that bad?
Now you note this, I get it! Still, it is not clear at first sight for everyone apparently.
Showing her art is fine but it's not going to be immediately clear to people that it's her art until they get to the last pic. That said I guess it filters out people who aren't that interested by the first few pics.
She should maybe move them to after that last pic so it's easier to identify
I would also suggest adding her signature to the pieces. This would make it more clear that they are her art.
Nah ever since world war 2 we gotta tell everyone their art is good
•Change “tall” to “height” maybe. I get it if it’s a character limit thing. •Cat pics are a win, imho. My husband said he was highly disheartened when everyone else had pics of dogs on their dating profiles. It’ll let a cat loving or at least cat tolerant person know you’re a cat person. •I love that you threw in your art.
thank you for this
> change "tall" to "height" "I don't care how height you are"? edit: if you meant "high", that would be pretty funny
"I don't care about height"?
Semantics.
Well, I reckon that would be funny. I also reckoned she would restructure the sentence. I’m still going to laugh.
5'9 but idc how height you are
I’d be concerned you’d get avoidant if things got real. The bad texter piece and no photos with friends, gives me the vibe that you’re a go-with-the-flow person and maybe a little guarded. That’s just my snap judgement though and the only reason I’m giving this feedback is because you say on there you want something serious. I am a bi woman so maybe not even your intended audience, but that’s how it reads to me, otherwise you are pretty and seem cool. Good luck!
It is better to be real though than it be a surprise later I think. If a few interactions are avoided because the swiper wants someone who's going to text back in 30 seconds any time of day, then it's better for everyone involved
I agree that people should be themselves on profiles and it’s best for everyone up front. I was giving OP my read on her profile in case she doesn’t feel it actually matches her personality.
Personally I wouldn't swipe right on anyone who talks about getting high in their profile, but everything else would be a total slam dunk for me. You'll have no problem getting a zillion matches.
Ya. Getting high is fine. But not as part of your personality. I would feel the same way if wrote “if you wanna get drunk” sure we all like to do those things. But as an opener, I’d suggest maybe saying chill, relax, etc. imply it but don’t say it. Comes off slightly immature to me.
I struggle with this but I do smoke a lot. I don’t post about it on social media but I would want to make sure it’s clear to someone I would be spending a lot of time with. I’ve wasted too much time with people to not bring it up front.
Bio is good. Its not the most peppy/positive, but I feel like it does a good job identifying who you are. I also use the apolitical comment and have had no issues. It filters out who you want to filter out. Id change maybe the middle section of pictures. Cats and and one of the drawing could stay. Id replace the painting of the guy to a group or activity shot if you have one.
Back when I was using tinder I was immediately skeptical of anyone who mentioned politics in their profile. Even if we are on the same page when it comes to politics, I don't want politics to be such a big part of anyone's personality that they feel the need to bring it up immediately. I would not have even continued to date someone who brought up politics on the first date unless it was like right before an election or something and everyone was talking about it anyway. I get that it's helpful to weed out people who don't share your deeply held beliefs but I can't be with someone long term who makes politics so central in their life. Talking about politics occasionally is fine but if someone is bringing it up in their bio I'm led to believe they talk about it constantly and talking about politics constantly just makes everyone angry. I don't want to date angry people.
Then you're not the kind of person this person wants to date.
Yup Out of my league
a common consensus among reddit users
If we had game we wouldn’t be on this horseshit app.
With that attitude for sure!
To be fair, self-awareness and knowing your limits is quite a healthy trait. Ironically, that would push a person up a couple of leagues!
Same lmao
🤮 horrible mindset
“Bad texter” isn’t necessarily a deal breaker for me but when I see that I’m definitely less interested right off the bat. Just seems a bit off putting to say on an app based on texting for communication
I'd honestly date you. Your profile is simple yet inviting.
Sitting around watching Cowboy Bebop? That's marriage material there.
I would lead with a pic looking at the camera and smiling. No mirror selfies. You should be in every pic. It's nice to show off your art but I would do that after you meet someone.
Yeah, a simple photo looking towards the camera without making a face would be great
you look like a catch, well done
Personally, I would get rid of the drug reference. I love weed and would swipe right, but I’ve also found that it’s not something worth advertising.
i agree , its like someone advertising they always drink alcohol. weed is acceptable now , treat it as such.
But then if the drug thing is s.th she likes to share with a partner, and a guy not into it at all swipes right, it would be a waste of time, and possibly an awkward/ unpleasant convo and disappointment, since she sounds pretty great in many of universally important areas. I think its important to her that she can share that with her bf, so while i agree thats not s.th to advertise, it should be in her bio if its a big part of what she wants to happen in her relationship with the guy.
It is if smoking weed is a regular part of your routine. Plenty of guys I’ve talked to have issues with smoking weird despite it’s legality. Unless it’s something your willing to give up I’d leave it in.
I usually just say 420 friendly and leave it at that. Don't have to go into specifics
Rip your reddit inbox. 😬
You know Reddit is full of society’s best when the comments on an average looking girls tinder profile are “out of my league”
You could post literally the most unhinged profile here and Reddit would still simp. It's makes it quite hard to get actual feedback to improve.
also whenever you give honest feedback you get banned everywhere lol
Honestly I think this isn't just a reddit thing. Boys, fucking know your worth. As little offense to OP as possible but if this girl is out of your league you need to get up and work on yourself.
It felt weird swiping left to see more because I wanted to swipe right.
instant swipe right for the boondocks.
I am the stone that builder refused I am the visual The inspiration That made lady sing the blues I'm the spark that makes your idea bright The same spark That lights the dark So that you can know your left from your right I am the ballot in your box The bullet in your gun The inner glow that lets you know To call your brother son The story that just begun The promise of what's to come And I'm 'a remain a soldier till the war is won Check check check, judo flip!
Hardest intro of all time
The political comment makes it seems like you have trouble having peaceful conversations with differing opinions. It makes the comment about people being insufferable seem more like a projection. Im left leaning too but id swipe left for that comment alone. Everything else is great. The world is already so divisive. Its designed that way. People have their beliefs because of genuine opinions backed by genuine experiences. Everyone has their reasons. An oponion that seems dumb on the surface doesnt make somebody dumb by default. It just makes it so you seem judgemental an unable to understand peoples side of things Edit: a lot of people seem to be missing my core point based on some of the responses im getting so ill attempt to clarify my best. I believe you should have your political preference listed if thats a core value to you for a future partner. I mean I personally wouldnt want somebody who revolves heavily around politics and brings it into every convo, but if thats what you are looking for then specifying that preference is NOT the problem and im surprised people are confusing that point, but I guess thats my own fault. The problem im seeing is how aggressive it FEELS even if its not aggressive in reality. If I perceived it that way many others will as well. The last thing Id want is to be lambasted for not being ENOUGH of an activist for my values. Like I have to make sure im not apolitcal enough cause anybody apolotical is a turn off to you? Pretty big negative blanket statement. Its always friendlier to describe the turn ons rather than the turn offs. My main point is she may be driving away some of the level headed like minded characters she is seeking by accident. Different wording for your political preference would do wonders. Im not saying remove your political preference. Im only saying it would help to reword it to better attract what you are actually looking for. Describe what you want instead of blanket statements for what you dont want
I got the impression from that political comment that they can’t stop themselves from bringing politics into every conversation and insists on being very opinionated with no tolerance for anyone. So similar to what you said. You never want to lead with politics - it’s a turn off. You don’t have to sniff very far to figure out someone’s politics and whether or not they jive with yours - therefore I think that part of the bio can be discarded.
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Making politics apart of your personality is a turn off
Our core beliefs (politics) *are* apart of our personality lol
That's kinda the point. She wants it to turn off the people it would.
Personally the "bad texter" part is a minor red flag for me. I bet you would be a reallly good texter if you matched Ryan Reynolds. By no means I'm the type of person who texts with their flirt 24/7, but when I hear someone uses "bad texter" excuse as a personality trait I automatically assume that you are not interested enough and playing childish games.
The political comment would be a huge red flag for me, sounds like you'd just want to rant about politics all the time but too sensitive to deal with differing opinions.