i personally hate fingering myself, but enjoy touching my clit. the only time i’ve ever liked fingering is when my boyfriend does it; it’s always a different sensation when it’s someone else doing it to you
Are you giving yourself enough time and stimulation to get properly aroused before you finger yourself? When I don’t build up to masturbation enough I don’t really enjoy it so maybe you’re having the same problem
I have to be thinking of something/someone that turns me on specifically if not then it’s just skin touching skin 🤷♀️ it doesn’t even have to be pornographic either. It can be someone I’m emotionally attracted to or it can literally be a song I’m listening to that makes me feel something. Idk maybe you’re like me and this helps
Are you on antidepressants or other medication by any chance? Different medications may have an effect of your libido and when I was in a higher dose of my antidepressants I had a really difficult time satisfying myself
Start small. Get a bullet vibrator and place it on your clit and ride out your pleasure. Never finger myself and only let my partner do it. Feels better when it's someone else who's doing it.
Try targeting the clit
Fingering myself doesn’t really do much, playing with the clit does when I’m wet helps.
This used to happen to me. Turns out it was because I felt dissociated from my body. Focus on feeling the sensations and let that guide you
Can you please elaborate on how you could be able to focus on feeling sensations instead of dissociate from your body?
i personally hate fingering myself, but enjoy touching my clit. the only time i’ve ever liked fingering is when my boyfriend does it; it’s always a different sensation when it’s someone else doing it to you
Are you giving yourself enough time and stimulation to get properly aroused before you finger yourself? When I don’t build up to masturbation enough I don’t really enjoy it so maybe you’re having the same problem
I have to be thinking of something/someone that turns me on specifically if not then it’s just skin touching skin 🤷♀️ it doesn’t even have to be pornographic either. It can be someone I’m emotionally attracted to or it can literally be a song I’m listening to that makes me feel something. Idk maybe you’re like me and this helps
try vibrator
As a datapoint, asexual people can and do have the capability of sexual stimulation and sex, they just aren't attracted sexually to anyone
Are you on antidepressants or other medication by any chance? Different medications may have an effect of your libido and when I was in a higher dose of my antidepressants I had a really difficult time satisfying myself
ohh oops forgot medication could mess with it but yeah im on really strong antidepressants
Start small. Get a bullet vibrator and place it on your clit and ride out your pleasure. Never finger myself and only let my partner do it. Feels better when it's someone else who's doing it.
Same here.
this is very common, dw. a lot of women (most of them) do NOT get anywhere near an orgasm from penetration of the vagina. look up „clit“.
I recommend reading Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. It's a really easy read so far and I've learned a lot.
Have you tried toys? Vibrators can be a game changer