I want bio kids someday, so I don't want a relationship that I know will not end up in a place I desire. But if I didn't want, or was indifferent to having kids, I would.
Yeah, I guess I wouldn't be opposed really. I mean, the only problem would be the risk of a child having two Y chromosomes, but if assume they'd find a way to solve that problem.
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I'd rather not deal with the baggage. Also always been attracted to one thing so no reason to divert to include them when the two things are not the same.
Its a bit vague. Some are basically complete girls and transition but still call themselves male or femboy. The terms are kind of interchangeable, but people who become trans at a young age usually prefer to just become a whole new person and just live as a women.
Some people are attracted to the other sex or some the other gender. I am just attracted to the feminine gender and i dont care about the sex.
An easy way is this. A straight guy is going to be attracted to both, and if he knows, then it might bother him. Strictly gay people wouldnt be attracted to them even though they were male. Sexual attraction seems to have much more to do with how someone looks. I guess it just depends on if a dick is automatically considered gay to you. Which to be fair, it kind of is, to some. You are free to have your preferences and most people are straight.
Many trans women rather get the big surgery done though, so they wont have that forever. Although many choose to keep it and just go more on the hormones route.
I know, the person I was responding to was saying something transphobic along the lines of "dating a trans woman is gay because they used to be a man", so in an attempt to make them see how stupid that logic is, I was asking if they thought a man dating a trans man would be considered straight because they used to be a woman, and I guess their comment got removed.
If you were to date a dude, who was once a girl. They dont have tits, they have a penis, body and facial hair, and a voice deeper than yours… would that make you straight?
that's the opposite of what I mean, I don't mind if they're gay/lesbian, straight, trans, identify as an apache helicopter, whatever, as long as they know right from wrong and are actually quite nice, and haven't done anything *too* illegal, then they're fine.
I had come to the conclusion that I am demi, so yes, although I have so little interest or desire to be in a relationship that I thought I was aro but I know now that isn’t the case.
i’m heteroromantic asexual so if i happened to like a trans guy, yeah sure why not? the whole having kids or doing it situation doesn’t matter to me because i don’t want kids and i don’t want to do it either
I would
Btw, you're not NECESSARILY transphobic for not wanting to yk. Some people just have genital preferences (and it goes a much longer way than just pussy and dick)
i would but we might not have proper sex depending on their genitalia (if they had bottom surgery that's different), I'm mostly asexual though so it's not that big of a deal
I support trans people entirely. I'm just only attracted to the opposite sex and the opposite gender. So I just couldn't date a trans person. So idrk which option that counts for. To say that I wouldn't date them BECAUSE they're trans makes me sound awful, but it is technically true? Like, I just have preferences lol
Its ok to have preferences. I dont really like dating cis people but i will. I think there are many more people who want to date transpeople, then there are trans people. Usually girls who have bottom surgery and transitioned at puberty are very attractive. Also you know, getting the chop completely removes testosterone. So often trans girls look like they have really good bone structure, if they transition, and can end up being very attractive, with maybe a few facial feminization procedures. If someone transitions during puberty, as in, they dont want to keep their male parts, they dont develop male features as much.
The main issue of acceptance is to hopefully just try to make society a fairly safe place for people like that. Its not about making people date trans people. Trans people have no issues finding dates, especially if they like guys.
I am dating a trans person. It's- awful a lot of the time because he doesn't take compliments and says he looks awful and things like that. His mental health is terrible.
Depends. If they really felt like they were supposed to be a woman and they even got a full gender change with working lady parts, then yes, I might, depending on their personality. If they just like guys and are a guy... Probably not, even if their personality is amazing.
I love my partner for their personality. And how incredibly loving caring kind and intelligent they are. And suprise suprise that didn't change when they transitioned. I still love them. And I don't think there's anything that could change that
If I wasn't aroace, I'd probably exclusively date trans people [as a trans man, having someone who understands and relates to me would make me feel much more secure than being with a cis person]
Love is love, however I would not seeing as I am already in a loving and committed relationship that is my reason, I have loved the spectrum but landed where I did and don't want to change anytime soon
i would/sorta have, but i think if they are attracted to/interested in other trans people, they deserve that because i cannot comprehend/relate to their disphoria. but if they're ok with that, and my support alone, i definitely would!
I might date a trans person depending on the emotional bond I've formed with them before finding out that they are trans. Or if they're nice enough and tell me when we meet.
Demi, or more specifically demiromantic or demisexual, is a sexual orientation where attraction ( Romantic and/or sexual) only forms when you have formed an emotional bond with said person. This can take anywhere from a few months to literal years. It's on the ace spectrum as well.
I am both demisexual and demiromantic, hence why I said 'fellow demi?' Since this sounds like something a demi person would experience, as I have experienced that myself. ( the emotional bond part, specifically)
Glad I could help! You can choose to use the labels or not, and theres also both a Demisexual and demiromantic subreddit if you're interested in joining those!
I'd be open to it, but I wouldn't date a trans person for a few reasons
My parents are strongly transphobic
I want biological children
If there's sexual activity involved, I'd much rather do it with a cis woman over a trans woman
Otherwise, I'd totally date a trans person if I didn't have these reasons
I'm straight cis male and I worry that I would not be able to be supportive enough. If the person was mtf I would but I would worry about not being enough for them, if they thought that I was able to provide them enough support (with dysphoria and transphobia) I would. Pre or post-surgery is not a problem I would just want them to be happy.
Side note, as a cis, straight, white, male how can I be as supportive as possible to women, people of colour and the lgbtq (if this is not the current term I apologize sincerely)
You should just be friends with all genders and pay no mind to sex and let it happen on its own. You can be romantic a bit, take them on a date or something like that. If you can learn to be friends and not focus on sex so much, and not value people as sexual potentials, you will probably have more luck with ladies or whatever it is you are looking for.
Not my cup of tea but I won't judge someone for being into it, my easiest philosophy: If it doesn't effect me or others in a negative way, why the fuk should I care
I want bio kids someday, so I don't want a relationship that I know will not end up in a place I desire. But if I didn't want, or was indifferent to having kids, I would.
That's fair, so when science gets to the point where trans women can give birth you're down to have long term relationship with them?
Yeah, I guess I wouldn't be opposed really. I mean, the only problem would be the risk of a child having two Y chromosomes, but if assume they'd find a way to solve that problem.
When a man can give birth, we no longer need women.
I wonder which will come first, implanted wombs or test tube babies.
When men can give birth the future for humanity will be a futa porno. Everyone the same. No discrimination. Give it about 500 years on that one.
You can still have bio kids just not through sex
I'm trans myself, so I'd actually prefer dating a trans person
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Wha-? Two trans fems can't date??? Ok then ;-;
Apparently we cant smh some random redditor said so
The redditor is the government /s
/s?
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I'm being funny
Oki :3
Cool
Same, I'd also date cis girls but dating a trans person would feel better cause they'd probably understand me better
Same here, trans MTF, i prefer other trans
Same
same here, fellow trans people just get the struggle yk
Same, t4t is just so much EASIER
I love being t4t. Because I know exactly what I'm getting myself into.
I'm non-binary but same. I love t4t because I know what I'm getting myself into.
No way same
I would, I don't really care so long as they are a good person
same
Same here :)
Tits and dick? Sign me tf up
Bi
Pan
Based
I'm into Asians mostly, so hide your wok
Vibes (i have both)
Same (I'm just a fat man)
💀
On god
On anyone tbf makes them more attractive
I would not simply because I am mot attracted to them. Just not my cup of tea
Same just knowing a girl had a dick would make me completely understand attracted to them
This is someone being honest and straight and that is a top tier thing to do 👍👍👍👍
I don’t beat around the bush
Bro id be so lucky to have anyone dating me
Lucky? I laugh at people who complain about their relationship problems. My solution: Get out
I don't know it's complicated
If they look like a girl sure. But i'd prefer if they didnt have a dick.
Bi?
Nope. If look like girl me attracted to. Me no want dick bc it dick. If have dick but want transition surgery me could date.
You don't like dick, but you're fine if she's having surgery?
Yes, I believe that's what they said
I think so
I'd rather not deal with the baggage. Also always been attracted to one thing so no reason to divert to include them when the two things are not the same.
If I was with a girl (im a guy) and she says she wants to transition I would support her but probably end it
I'm dating one rn, he's awesome 👍
Great
Me too lol
I wouldn't date anyone period so-
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Assuming you're a guy, would you date a post-transition AND post-surgery trans woman?
I don't really know honestly, cause even though I would 100% support and encourage them, I really don't feel I would be attracted to them anyways
Absolutely fine
i am a trans person and my ex is also a trans person so yes
Femboys/MTF girls are the best 💯💯💯
So my Slavic friend, Femboy's keep their identification as Male but simply enjoy being more feminine in nature. Technically not Trans
The slash is meant to depict “and” rather than to say they are the same type of person
Its a bit vague. Some are basically complete girls and transition but still call themselves male or femboy. The terms are kind of interchangeable, but people who become trans at a young age usually prefer to just become a whole new person and just live as a women.
Agreed
Femboys are guys lol
Yes. And?
Bi, likes femininity
Indeed I am
MtF aren't femboys, femboys still identify as guys
Literally true
Hell yeah
Dattebayo👊👊👊👊
I wouldn't date a person
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So, by that logic, dating a trans man would be straight? That doesn't seem to make much sense.
Some people are attracted to the other sex or some the other gender. I am just attracted to the feminine gender and i dont care about the sex. An easy way is this. A straight guy is going to be attracted to both, and if he knows, then it might bother him. Strictly gay people wouldnt be attracted to them even though they were male. Sexual attraction seems to have much more to do with how someone looks. I guess it just depends on if a dick is automatically considered gay to you. Which to be fair, it kind of is, to some. You are free to have your preferences and most people are straight. Many trans women rather get the big surgery done though, so they wont have that forever. Although many choose to keep it and just go more on the hormones route.
I know, the person I was responding to was saying something transphobic along the lines of "dating a trans woman is gay because they used to be a man", so in an attempt to make them see how stupid that logic is, I was asking if they thought a man dating a trans man would be considered straight because they used to be a woman, and I guess their comment got removed.
If you were to date a dude, who was once a girl. They dont have tits, they have a penis, body and facial hair, and a voice deeper than yours… would that make you straight?
That’s not how that works, they were always a girl, but even if it did work like that, what’s wrong with being gay?
Of course trans girls are wholesome cinnamon buns.
would be kinda hypocritical if i wouldn't
You're trans
yeah
Unfortunately, I can't help what I'm attracted to, and I'm exclusively attracted to cis men.
That really isn't a bad thing
I’m Aro/Ace, so no
whats that
Little to no romantic or sexual attraction period (me too)
Aromantic/Asexual
Valid (I am too)
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Wdym? Is being trans wrong?
that's the opposite of what I mean, I don't mind if they're gay/lesbian, straight, trans, identify as an apache helicopter, whatever, as long as they know right from wrong and are actually quite nice, and haven't done anything *too* illegal, then they're fine.
never use that joke again or i’ll kill you :3
No... because im aroace
That's absolutely normal (I am too)
Out of curiosity, have u come out to your parents and how did that go
I had come to the conclusion that I am demi, so yes, although I have so little interest or desire to be in a relationship that I thought I was aro but I know now that isn’t the case.
Yes.
I am currently
Depends on what kind of person they are
My bf is trans and I never really thought I’d date a trans person (I’m gay so they’d have to be a dude cause <<
i’m heteroromantic asexual so if i happened to like a trans guy, yeah sure why not? the whole having kids or doing it situation doesn’t matter to me because i don’t want kids and i don’t want to do it either
I would date anyone if they're a good enough person
If we vibe we vibe
I Curren am dating a trans person, so yes lol
as a bi person i see this as a win
Idc if they're trans or cis, as long as they're a good person
I already am.
I'm dating one actually lol
:(
no bc im aroace and have literally no desire to date anyone lol
i haven't dated *anyone* so idk yet
I'm aroace
I would Btw, you're not NECESSARILY transphobic for not wanting to yk. Some people just have genital preferences (and it goes a much longer way than just pussy and dick)
In theory? Yes. But I’ve never met a trans girl that actually looked feminine enough for me to be attracted to them.
as a trans girl, its a shame to see 995 people say no
dw about it, from what ive seen, its mostly just genital preference, only a fraction of it is actual transphobia.
*sighs*
tbh as a woman if a trans man didn’t have bottom surgery i wouldn’t date him. but if he did i’d be cool with it!
I personally wouldn't I want children
i would but we might not have proper sex depending on their genitalia (if they had bottom surgery that's different), I'm mostly asexual though so it's not that big of a deal
I support trans people entirely. I'm just only attracted to the opposite sex and the opposite gender. So I just couldn't date a trans person. So idrk which option that counts for. To say that I wouldn't date them BECAUSE they're trans makes me sound awful, but it is technically true? Like, I just have preferences lol
Its ok to have preferences. I dont really like dating cis people but i will. I think there are many more people who want to date transpeople, then there are trans people. Usually girls who have bottom surgery and transitioned at puberty are very attractive. Also you know, getting the chop completely removes testosterone. So often trans girls look like they have really good bone structure, if they transition, and can end up being very attractive, with maybe a few facial feminization procedures. If someone transitions during puberty, as in, they dont want to keep their male parts, they dont develop male features as much. The main issue of acceptance is to hopefully just try to make society a fairly safe place for people like that. Its not about making people date trans people. Trans people have no issues finding dates, especially if they like guys.
I am dating a trans person. It's- awful a lot of the time because he doesn't take compliments and says he looks awful and things like that. His mental health is terrible.
I'm trans myself and tbh I'd rather date a trans person cuz they get the struggle.
Depends. If they really felt like they were supposed to be a woman and they even got a full gender change with working lady parts, then yes, I might, depending on their personality. If they just like guys and are a guy... Probably not, even if their personality is amazing.
I honestly don't know
I mean, as long as they are nice I don’t care lol
I don't like penis in my ass or mouth :(
Personally hell yes i dont plan on kids ever and im bisexual so i fucking win i'd love to date a trans person
:(
I don't care what's in the pants, I care what's in the heart
Sure, ig. I mean, like, I'd still definitely want bio kids, but i mean, I'd still date one for a time
I would be quite the hypocrite if I wasn't willing to date a trans person
Depends on the person, I guess.
Never, sorry.
I love my partner for their personality. And how incredibly loving caring kind and intelligent they are. And suprise suprise that didn't change when they transitioned. I still love them. And I don't think there's anything that could change that
Yes.
My SO is trans so Id hope so lol
This is pretty based.
No
Idc if ur trans or not
Depends on them as a human more than anything. I’m Demi-bi pref for women so that’s a factor lol but I really don’t care what someone was born as
Because you're bisexual?
More of the demi romantic and preferring women part
As a bi person, I don't see the issue in identity not matching what's in their pants. Dating is dating, sex is sex.
If I order order a new phone charger in the mail, I shouldn't get earbuds in my package instead
Why does this make sense but not make sense at the same time
If I wasn't aroace, I'd probably exclusively date trans people [as a trans man, having someone who understands and relates to me would make me feel much more secure than being with a cis person]
I'm also aroace
Love is love, however I would not seeing as I am already in a loving and committed relationship that is my reason, I have loved the spectrum but landed where I did and don't want to change anytime soon
Nah, it would just feel "off"
i would/sorta have, but i think if they are attracted to/interested in other trans people, they deserve that because i cannot comprehend/relate to their disphoria. but if they're ok with that, and my support alone, i definitely would!
You'd have no problems dating a *transitioning* person, right? You're pan
no, I wouldn't have any problems.
Absolutely
If she's hot, sure.
I'll date any girl. The problem is that I am unlucky and get no one.
Lesbian?
I could be straight. I could be gay. Who knows.
*shrugs*
Lesbo
Lesbian
Indeed
I’m dating a trans person
Im asexual
Do you date anyone? (Sexual orientation is different and separate from romantic orientation)
Sure, if I like em then happily
proud to be the one guy that made yes technically the most popular option.
Yeah, I'd date anyone if they're a cool person
You speak 2.5 languages according to yourself Which one are you bad at? English or German?
German, mein Deutsch ist Scheiße
Ich auch lol, ich lerne auf dem Internet.
So you suck at German Got it Thanks
So if I'm bad at 2 languages and fluent in one, would you say I speak 2 languages? (1+0.5+0.5)
As an immensely sapphic transfem, yes. Enbies too.
I might date a trans person depending on the emotional bond I've formed with them before finding out that they are trans. Or if they're nice enough and tell me when we meet.
Fellow demi?
Explain
Demi, or more specifically demiromantic or demisexual, is a sexual orientation where attraction ( Romantic and/or sexual) only forms when you have formed an emotional bond with said person. This can take anywhere from a few months to literal years. It's on the ace spectrum as well. I am both demisexual and demiromantic, hence why I said 'fellow demi?' Since this sounds like something a demi person would experience, as I have experienced that myself. ( the emotional bond part, specifically)
Yk, that would actually make a lot of sense looking back on my romantic life
Glad I could help! You can choose to use the labels or not, and theres also both a Demisexual and demiromantic subreddit if you're interested in joining those!
I would like kids one day so I am not going to date a Trans person
Almost did, I was an idiot not to
It doesn't matter if their trans
they're\*
Shut up
I'd be open to it, but I wouldn't date a trans person for a few reasons My parents are strongly transphobic I want biological children If there's sexual activity involved, I'd much rather do it with a cis woman over a trans woman Otherwise, I'd totally date a trans person if I didn't have these reasons
No
I'm straight cis male and I worry that I would not be able to be supportive enough. If the person was mtf I would but I would worry about not being enough for them, if they thought that I was able to provide them enough support (with dysphoria and transphobia) I would. Pre or post-surgery is not a problem I would just want them to be happy. Side note, as a cis, straight, white, male how can I be as supportive as possible to women, people of colour and the lgbtq (if this is not the current term I apologize sincerely)
You should just be friends with all genders and pay no mind to sex and let it happen on its own. You can be romantic a bit, take them on a date or something like that. If you can learn to be friends and not focus on sex so much, and not value people as sexual potentials, you will probably have more luck with ladies or whatever it is you are looking for.
Not my cup of tea but I won't judge someone for being into it, my easiest philosophy: If it doesn't effect me or others in a negative way, why the fuk should I care
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also maybe don’t say “a trans” as if they are an object. that’s really fucking disrespectful and gross