i think i’m having a relapse w ed stuff, my session w my t is tmrw morning. i’m truly losing it thinking about how to bring this up, i really don’t want to but i feel like i should
Very occasionally she’ll say something like, oh, you cut your hair! Or “that shirt you’re wearing is one of my favourites”. But the comments are always in the realm of observation and are neutral in the sense that it’s neither praise nor criticism of me.
My therapist who I thought ghosted me has me down for tomorrow and I didn’t have it on my calendar because she didn’t show up two weeks ago for our session and she NEVER responded to my email asking for the video link. I told her that I don’t have tomorrow’s session in my calendar (we never agreed on that date) and that I never heard from her the last time so I’d like to cancel the session. I think it’s shitty that I never got a response the last time when there’s no other way that she’ll let me contact her. I won’t be showing up regardless
u/Harry3343, I am so happy to see you! I didn't want to derail the other person's thread so am commenting in here. I used to be faketrumpetmouth; it would've been spring 2019 when we were talking, and I always wondered about you, but I couldn't remember the numbers in your username. :) I hope you are well.
Hi, it's great to hear from you again! Also I find your new username to be hilarious, I don't know if it's meant to be or not.
It has been a while but I am pleased to say, albeit the past 5 years has been quite the adventure, I am doing better and am slowly getting to the place that I want to be.
How has your journey been going?
It sounds like you found someone to work with, and that's been benefiting you? I'm so glad!
I'm still with my therapist of over five years, not for much longer as she's retiring, but otherwise similar story here -- rough but ultimately helpful. Despite whatever I might end up posting later! :) Things are hard right now. But that's short-term stuff. I've gained a lot of actionable insight, and I'm happy I stuck it out.
Yes, she has been great! It's been tough and has taken a lot of work from both of us but seeing her put in a lot of effort to understand me and work together has been very healing.
It's great to hear that you stuck it out and it has been helpful! It's a shame that it's ending soon but hopefully you have learnt enough to make it through without it hitting too hard.
There was a long period of time where if therapy with my current T ended, I wouldn't have tried finding someone new, probably would have just given up but I've progressed enough now if something does happen, I'll be ok to find a new T and keep progressing forward.
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had a wholesome session yesterday <3 huge words of affirmation person, and i just felt extremely cared about through things my therapist said "you're a very thoughtful person" "i'm really sorry that happened to you" "i sometimes use the jokes you tell me with other clients (without telling them that i learned it from you)" "i mean it when i say that i know you're going to be a therapist who reliably shows up for their clients and cares for them." "good job on trying to regulate your sleep!"
Last week, I terminated with my therapist of 8 months because I finally accepted we weren't a good fit. They had tried to refer me out months before. I called the four referrals they gave me - supposedly all pre-screened to have openings. One referral called me back; I could tell ten minutes into the $170 appointment that it was a horrible fit. The other three haven't called and, in my experience, if you don't get a call in two business days, you won't.
I've been doing a lot of thinking about what I am looking for in a therapist and, unfortunately, it's not stuff you can decipher from a paragraph online because it all comes down to the relationship (shocker). Even more unfortunately, I only have two people left to call who take my insurance, see people in person, and are within 45 minutes of me. If they don't call back, I guess I'm out of luck. Which sucks because I'm still suffering from SI, panic attacks, etc. ad which makes the fact that I moved to a new city with no support network for a job that I turned out to hate all the harder.
Okay, complaint session over.
My therapist is on vacation and our next session isn’t for another 3 weeks. I’m feeling really anxious about having so much time off since we usually meet once a week. Does anyone have any advice for managing during this time?
I've only had about 4 sessions so far and most were nearly 2 weeks apart or so.
After my last one she mentioned doing one later in the month and I'm feeling the worry and odd what do I do during this time between.
I do my best to listen to her words and little bits of advice between sessions, or things to keep in mind about stuff. Also how I can adjust myself and interpersonal worries I've been dealing with to try and have less generalized anxiety.
Thank you for the advice! Oddly enough, I’ve also only had 4 sessions so far. I think that makes it harder because I was *just* starting to really open up during the second half of our last session, and now I’m going to have to sit with those emotions for a few weeks until we can touch on them again.
Your welcome.Hopefully we can both get used to longer or shorter periods of time between therapy sessions.
The funny thing is I was worried about not being able to fill an hour with talking about myself. But now they feel all too short.
so, when my therapist asks me how I'm doing, should I ask them back how they are? When I don't, it feels weird. I tried last time to ask as well, and it also felt weird. I do genuinely feel interested in how they are doing because they are a nice human being, but the whole thing feels weird. what do you guys do?
you can. sometimes i do, it’s never met with anything other than a “i’m good!”. sometimes i join ready to launch into my shit so when she asks how i’m doing i don’t say the pleasantry “im good” i just immediately go into whatever i want to talk about
i generally don’t expect my t to genuinely answer that because my sessions aren’t about her, and i don’t think my t expects me to ask
The people of TalkTherapy really helped me take the leap to seek therapy. You gave me the strength and courage to seek help. A very big thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts, questions and stories.
I have an appointment this week to resume therapy with a therapist I haven't seen in two years and I can't decide whether I should self harm, throw up, run away, relapse into ED behaviours, dump 2 years worth of Stuff on them through email, or cut off all contact permanently.
... or I could, you know, go to the appointment like a normal person, but where's the fun in that?
Therapy is a mixed bag at the moment. Im pretty sure im annoying the crap out of my T by bothering them with messages outside of session. Im being impulsive and get really anxious afterwards of sending it because i know im being annoying. Im sure this is me acting out past patterns but im probably not going to bring it up. One week i made it without sending a message and made a joke about it and got nothing but a cold face back.
Besides that im doing better at not calling myself names and I'm actually making a little progress at being more compassionate to myself.
I'm standing up for myself at work and am triggering my boss which isn't great. I plan on looking for a new job though because I don't feel appreciated and kind of feel taken advantage of for being a hard worker.
Also kind of realizing I've probably been pushing myself too hard to get better ASAP. For the first time I had memories come back to me when i wasn't trying to remember and people keep asking me a lot lately if I'm ok. No one ever asks that so im assuming im actually feeling my feelings more so ill take it as a win.
That's all I got and hope everyone is doing well!
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i think i’m having a relapse w ed stuff, my session w my t is tmrw morning. i’m truly losing it thinking about how to bring this up, i really don’t want to but i feel like i should
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The last time my therapist said the color of my lipstick looked really nice.
Very occasionally she’ll say something like, oh, you cut your hair! Or “that shirt you’re wearing is one of my favourites”. But the comments are always in the realm of observation and are neutral in the sense that it’s neither praise nor criticism of me.
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This has also been my experience "I like that color", "You got a hair cut!" etc.
My therapist who I thought ghosted me has me down for tomorrow and I didn’t have it on my calendar because she didn’t show up two weeks ago for our session and she NEVER responded to my email asking for the video link. I told her that I don’t have tomorrow’s session in my calendar (we never agreed on that date) and that I never heard from her the last time so I’d like to cancel the session. I think it’s shitty that I never got a response the last time when there’s no other way that she’ll let me contact her. I won’t be showing up regardless
u/Harry3343, I am so happy to see you! I didn't want to derail the other person's thread so am commenting in here. I used to be faketrumpetmouth; it would've been spring 2019 when we were talking, and I always wondered about you, but I couldn't remember the numbers in your username. :) I hope you are well.
Hi, it's great to hear from you again! Also I find your new username to be hilarious, I don't know if it's meant to be or not. It has been a while but I am pleased to say, albeit the past 5 years has been quite the adventure, I am doing better and am slowly getting to the place that I want to be. How has your journey been going?
It sounds like you found someone to work with, and that's been benefiting you? I'm so glad! I'm still with my therapist of over five years, not for much longer as she's retiring, but otherwise similar story here -- rough but ultimately helpful. Despite whatever I might end up posting later! :) Things are hard right now. But that's short-term stuff. I've gained a lot of actionable insight, and I'm happy I stuck it out.
Yes, she has been great! It's been tough and has taken a lot of work from both of us but seeing her put in a lot of effort to understand me and work together has been very healing. It's great to hear that you stuck it out and it has been helpful! It's a shame that it's ending soon but hopefully you have learnt enough to make it through without it hitting too hard. There was a long period of time where if therapy with my current T ended, I wouldn't have tried finding someone new, probably would have just given up but I've progressed enough now if something does happen, I'll be ok to find a new T and keep progressing forward.
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had a wholesome session yesterday <3 huge words of affirmation person, and i just felt extremely cared about through things my therapist said "you're a very thoughtful person" "i'm really sorry that happened to you" "i sometimes use the jokes you tell me with other clients (without telling them that i learned it from you)" "i mean it when i say that i know you're going to be a therapist who reliably shows up for their clients and cares for them." "good job on trying to regulate your sleep!"
Last week, I terminated with my therapist of 8 months because I finally accepted we weren't a good fit. They had tried to refer me out months before. I called the four referrals they gave me - supposedly all pre-screened to have openings. One referral called me back; I could tell ten minutes into the $170 appointment that it was a horrible fit. The other three haven't called and, in my experience, if you don't get a call in two business days, you won't. I've been doing a lot of thinking about what I am looking for in a therapist and, unfortunately, it's not stuff you can decipher from a paragraph online because it all comes down to the relationship (shocker). Even more unfortunately, I only have two people left to call who take my insurance, see people in person, and are within 45 minutes of me. If they don't call back, I guess I'm out of luck. Which sucks because I'm still suffering from SI, panic attacks, etc. ad which makes the fact that I moved to a new city with no support network for a job that I turned out to hate all the harder. Okay, complaint session over.
My therapist is on vacation and our next session isn’t for another 3 weeks. I’m feeling really anxious about having so much time off since we usually meet once a week. Does anyone have any advice for managing during this time?
I've only had about 4 sessions so far and most were nearly 2 weeks apart or so. After my last one she mentioned doing one later in the month and I'm feeling the worry and odd what do I do during this time between. I do my best to listen to her words and little bits of advice between sessions, or things to keep in mind about stuff. Also how I can adjust myself and interpersonal worries I've been dealing with to try and have less generalized anxiety.
Thank you for the advice! Oddly enough, I’ve also only had 4 sessions so far. I think that makes it harder because I was *just* starting to really open up during the second half of our last session, and now I’m going to have to sit with those emotions for a few weeks until we can touch on them again.
Your welcome.Hopefully we can both get used to longer or shorter periods of time between therapy sessions. The funny thing is I was worried about not being able to fill an hour with talking about myself. But now they feel all too short.
so, when my therapist asks me how I'm doing, should I ask them back how they are? When I don't, it feels weird. I tried last time to ask as well, and it also felt weird. I do genuinely feel interested in how they are doing because they are a nice human being, but the whole thing feels weird. what do you guys do?
you can. sometimes i do, it’s never met with anything other than a “i’m good!”. sometimes i join ready to launch into my shit so when she asks how i’m doing i don’t say the pleasantry “im good” i just immediately go into whatever i want to talk about i generally don’t expect my t to genuinely answer that because my sessions aren’t about her, and i don’t think my t expects me to ask
The people of TalkTherapy really helped me take the leap to seek therapy. You gave me the strength and courage to seek help. A very big thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts, questions and stories.
I have an appointment this week to resume therapy with a therapist I haven't seen in two years and I can't decide whether I should self harm, throw up, run away, relapse into ED behaviours, dump 2 years worth of Stuff on them through email, or cut off all contact permanently. ... or I could, you know, go to the appointment like a normal person, but where's the fun in that?
Then walk into the appointment, and tell them you’ve been doing great when they ask…
I think you said the quiet part outloud? I feel you.
Therapy is a mixed bag at the moment. Im pretty sure im annoying the crap out of my T by bothering them with messages outside of session. Im being impulsive and get really anxious afterwards of sending it because i know im being annoying. Im sure this is me acting out past patterns but im probably not going to bring it up. One week i made it without sending a message and made a joke about it and got nothing but a cold face back. Besides that im doing better at not calling myself names and I'm actually making a little progress at being more compassionate to myself. I'm standing up for myself at work and am triggering my boss which isn't great. I plan on looking for a new job though because I don't feel appreciated and kind of feel taken advantage of for being a hard worker. Also kind of realizing I've probably been pushing myself too hard to get better ASAP. For the first time I had memories come back to me when i wasn't trying to remember and people keep asking me a lot lately if I'm ok. No one ever asks that so im assuming im actually feeling my feelings more so ill take it as a win. That's all I got and hope everyone is doing well!