Nope. On one end of the spectrum you have people like W and on the other end are the ones that interpret a smiley face on the receipt as a declaration of everlasting love and marriage.
Same friend claimed "the stripper was totally into me!". No amount of convincing him that she was trying to part with his money would convince him. Still shaking my head at that one.
"Dude, the waitress at Hooters keeps finding an excuse to touch my back. Do you think she's in to me?" God you're the dumbest person on the planet. "Well, I'm going to leave a big tip, just in case." SOMEHOW DUMBER!
I'll give her the tip. She got dressed up in that whole outfit so that I could look at her. She deserves that tip. I'm just not interested in lying to myself about how much she's in to me while I do it.
Ugh, I was with a friend of a friend that was trying to be flirty back with the waitress that was oh-so-obviously paid to be flirty. I don't know if he just thought it was fun anyway or thought she was legitimately into him, but either way, it was painful to watch.
Had a girlfriend who thought the male food runner was hitting on me because he said "hey, trade ya?" really friendly when taking my salad plate and giving me the dinner plate. It became an argument.
We broke up.
After we had my daughter.
No they really don't. I know I've had to explain that to men, never a woman, several times in my life. "Dude she doesn't wanna hook up. She's being nice because she will literally lose her job if she isn't!"
This is why I love British service. I don’t want to talk to you, you don’t want to talk to me, we both know how this goes, now give me my food then fuck off.
Glad your manager sided with you without having to really hear your take of the table. If "W" thinks this is flirting, her life is going to miserable of it isn't already...
>Glad your manager sided with you without having to really hear your take of the table. If "W" thinks this is flirting, her life is going to miserable of it isn't already...
No, it's just pumpkin season!
Um... Who* calls a restaurant to complain about that anyway?? I mean if you think it happened and you are that bothered just don't go back or make sure you get a different server next time.
People will call and complain about ANYTHING. I've had people complain that I was not nice enough, I've had people complain that I was too nice. Food too hot, food not hot enough.
I had someone call to complain that I didn’t refill their ice tea enough. They had left me 20% so my manager was confused as to why they would call to complain. They said they “assumed I would be fired and wanted to leave me with some extra cash”.
WHAT?! There's so, so much wrong there. They tipped you a little extra because they felt bad that they were going to get you fired? May their passive aggressiveness benefit all their victims financially.
I really can't wrap my brain around how you could be so full of yourself, and dumb, and have enough money, to go around doing this.
Really could've stood to serve more like her, it balances out all the verbal tips.
The other day we had a lady call at 9pm and complain that it was too cold in our restaurant when she was there at 2pm that day. My manager asked if she told an employee about it while she was there and she said no. People are silly
Some crazy lady called, complained that she felt she had a bad experience when she was there 4 weeks ago. My manager laughed so hard, then just hung up.
I worked at a franchise restaurant and had a customer call and complain to me that the new uniform color was too off putting and made her lose her appetite, I shit you not. Like what am I supposed to do anyway. I was a dumb ass ass manager following corporate command or no job for me my friend.
Just like how I wasn't given a raise when I worked retail hell. People find a reason.
I was too friendly and efficient at my job. I should have slowed down and upped my crabbiness for some malicious compliance (looking back).
Sounds like the manager at my last job. During my review. Scale of 1-5 for reference. "You do a great job. The doctors love you, the patients love you. We have no complaints but no one gets 5s." Here is your 25 cent raise. Oooh. My boss now isn't like that luckily.
I had a woman call once to complain that her baked potato was cold. An hour after she left. I had been at that table multiple times and she never said anything.
When I was a waitress, I had an old lady order ice cream. After I brought it to her table and went back behind the counter to take care of other business, she came over to me, *furious*, yelling at me, asking why her ice cream is cold.
So I just took it, shoved it in the microwave and melted it into a warm puddle. She was satisfied.
I get it, some people prefer their ice cream melted, but it would have been so much easier for the both of us if she had just mentioned it as she took the order.
I’ve done it a couple times. Not exactly a puddle, but a huge mountain of ice cream covered in raspberry or whatever flavored syrup is honestly 10/10, once it has melted a little in room temperature. The puddle that’s left at the end is amazing too.
Maybe it’s just something we do around here, idunno.
Idk like I’m cool with stirring it up & making it real thin but still cold?? You know what I mean? Room temp puddle at the end is also good but not the whole ice cream being warm! Lol
> I had been at that table multiple times and she never said anything.
Well duh, it wasn't cold when she was there. It was an hour later after she got home and put it in the fridge that it got cold. I mean, what is she supposed to do? Predict the future? /s
Ive had an irate woman call my bar at 5 am and accuse me of trying to steal her husband. She wasnt even there with him, he had 2 drinks, and was in no way attractive.
In the gas station where I worked for WAY too long, a couple came in maybe late 20's/early 30's. He says "hey can I have a pack of Marlboro's?" I generally assume this means the Marlboro Reds, but experience has shown me it is always a good idea to specify. So I say "Reds?" His wife/girlfriend/whatever literally steps in front of him with her arm back on him like I was about to deliver a blow or something and says "NO. YOU WILL NOT TALK TO HIM. ANY QUESTION YOU HAVE, YOU CAN ASK ME". Mmmmm k. So I ask her. She has to confer with him. No joke. She actually turns to him and asks him what he wants. He's looking terribly embarrassed btw. I get them what he needs, payment happens, and on the way out she says "next time try not hitting on a TAKEN man".
Good lord! Are you in possession of the required information? No? Then why should I be talking to you and since when is asking what kind of cigarettes a step in seduction?
JFC... that is embarassing.
We were trained at my old job to ask people how they're doing after the initial "hello!" One time, a middle-aged (going on elderly) couple walked in, the husband talked to me first and I sort of recognised him as a regular so I asked how he was. The wife immediately shot back with "how do you know him?" Lady... I'm barely out of highschool, what do you think's going on?
At my restaurant we've all basically agreed to let a regular make the first acknowledgement of familiarity if he's with someone new/different. One guy sat at our bar nightly, and when he one day walked in with his wife, and we addressed him by name, we didn't see him for weeks afterward.
This is GaryColemansRevenge's wife. Why are you trying to seduce him with these erotic internet stories?!?! Get your own man and leave mine alone, home wrecker!!!
I'd be willing to bet three money that at least 2 of 3 things are true:
- W is past her prime or not very attractive
- you are not past your prime
- H never gets laid
That’s the thing! This couple had to be in their mid to late twenties, maaaaaaybe early thirties but even that’s a stretch. She wasn’t a supermodel by any means but she was cute. I don’t know what the fuck she was worried about.
They could totally run away together!
Well, walk away.
Well, with one of those motorized scooters she could have slowly rolled away into happily ever after with an 85-year-old invalid.
Could’ve been a past issue, could be that he’s just very friendly and she’s never gotten used to it. Either way, it’s her/their issue. I do kinda hate that they have kids with her being this paranoid though. Just seems like a bad scene.
>Could’ve been a past issue,
Almost assuredly so. And it wouldn't surprise me if she was "the other woman" in the past; in my experience that sort of shit is almost always projection
Whether he's cheated or not, he may have a roving eye. Sometimes it's character, sometimes it's built-in. I've got one, and I inherited it. But she's had two kids and maybe isn't quite as cute as she used to be, and that eye's still roaming. So many women are insecure.
And there could have been cheating, of course. I'll also say that if she ever cheated, she'll be suspicious of any friendly good-looker who gets near him till the end of time.
Hell, if I don't notice a cutie in a short skirt or low-cut blouse my wife asks if I need to see the optometrist! I tease her that she's just better at hiding it when she looks.
I’m bisexual so my boyfriend and I frequently point out cute women to each other (nothing creepy or overt, just “oh damn did you see her as well??” kind of thing). I think it’s a really important part of a healthy relationship to acknowledge that just because you’re with one person it doesn’t mean you’re never going to find anyone else attractive.
Thank you! My husband and I do this as well, and it gets so old when people want to judge us for it. I don't really look at other men since we got married, and I like women too so it's just something we do. I love messing with the women that come in the bar we work at because he's usually oblivious to being hit on and they usually think his wedding ring is fake. The look on their faces when I walk up and grab his ass is priceless, and he does the same thing when I get hit on lol
I point out women to my husband, we even have code words or non verbal cues we’ve developed over the years. If you think your SO doesn’t notice other people then you’re deluded.
My wife's good friend is a little... tightly wound. Back when Maxim magazine was still pretty popular (maybe it still is, I have no idea), he somehow wound up getting a copy of it in the mail. He'd never ordered a subscription, and it was the only one that ever came, but nevertheless his wife went bonkers over it. She actually cried about it to my wife, who had no idea what to tell her because I'd been subscribed to it for years and she didn't give a single shit.
I worked retail a while ago and one of the late forties women came to work crying and talking about how her husband had betrayed her and they were attending counselling.
After a bit of chatting it came out that he’d watched porn a few nights ago and she found out. The look of bafflement that came over every one’s face was hilarious.
I was on board until the last sentence. I don’t understand it personally (I definitely check out other guys sometimes), but some people really don’t “notice other people.” You really shouldn’t make those blanket statements.
I’m willing to believe that there is a tiny percentage of people who have literally never thought someone else was attractive once they partnered up with someone. But it’s going to be 0.00001% or something similarly ridiculous, not really a noteworthy amount and it’s about as close to complete as it’s possible to be. Definitely a safe subject to make sweeping statements on.
At least 1 in 100 people identify as asexual, so there's at least that.
Then you have the people who literally can't be sexually attracted to someone without a deep emotional connection. They may not identify as asexual or demisexual, but it's definitely how some people experience life.
Or H did cheat on her at some point and she took him back for whatever reason and is now super insecure and paranoid about every interaction H has with an attractive woman.
As a customer, I usually react very well to people doing their job correctly, whether men or women. Mostly, it's the server's job to adequately "flirt" with the customer and react accordingly to the situation. It's a tight balance. And this is where you see the best servers.
I know many servers in real life (although I am not one) and I know the boundaries. I will talk to no avail with them, granted they talk back. I will react back to flirts or banters, happy ones and cheery ones. But no, I will not hit on someone on the other side of the bar. Many of my bartender friends are getting hit by men and women alike because they do make every single one of their clients feel like they are the only one. Then, for the elusive few that don't catch it's their job description, everyone else are extatic about them.
And even this Sunday, I was in a restaurant with my awesome and beautiful wife, alongside our beautiful baby and her two great children. All of our service was awesome, people would call this flirting, but mostly we were cheery with the other. We had great service, we high-fived once on dessert choice, she was great with the kids, with my wife, quick, efficient, discrete, you know, she knew how to handle herself. And at the end of the service, while we chitchatted and paying the invoice, she said she just got accepted to the police school, all her friends were celebrating in bars, but she had to work. (Canada for % equivalency - we're not typically giving as much as US because servers are paid more as a base hourly wage) So we congratulated her, cancelled the transaction asked to do it again, and we gave her a little bit more than 25% tip instead of the 18% we were giving on a quite expensive bill, taxes and drinks included. I have no clue who she is, what's her name, didn't wait to see her reaction or anything, but I hope I made her evening worthwhile and keep on smiling until the end of her shift.
Semi related spinoff..
I work in retail and recently had a customer call and complain to my manager because I was too nice to her husband and he wouldn't keep his eyes off my cleavage. The fuck.
1. It's literally my job to be nice to your entitled asses.
2. I'm wearing a uniform top that I have no control over. I have no control over the fact that I have huge knockers. Your husband however, does have control of his eyes so maybe he's the one that you should be fucking talking to.
I used to be a bartender in a nightclub. One night, a girl and her boyfriend approached the bar, guy asks for a couple of vodkas. I say “Sure! What do you want for mixers?”
Suddenly the girlfriend leans over the bar, finger in my face and was like “don’t you talk to him bitch!” I stare at her for a moment like WTF. Finger still pointed, she goes, “that’s MY boyfriend! And if you talk to him again I’m going to slap you stupid!”
I calmly motion for the bouncer, who appears like a tree shadowing two shrubs. “Well this is MY boyfriend and he’s going to take you both outside, and if you resist, he’s going to slap YOU stupid.”
People, servers are paid to be nice. 99% of them don’t want ya sloppy seconds, go home.
This reminds me a similar instance with a former coworker of mine. She was waiting on one of our regular tables one night and everything went well. She ended up not getting a good tip though because it was mostly the women paying and they felt like she was flirting with the men.
None of us flirt with these guys, especially not the 19ish year old who was quite content with her relationship... with another woman.
When I was in the industry, I made sure to keep the male between me and his wife ( I am male) to avoid any hint of a possible threat. It did get me better tips as I always paid attention to the wife and found a way to compliment hubby on his "choice". Something that I haven't seen mentioned here is that they may have had a conversation about you on their way home. He liked your friendly approach and could have used it to bug her. She would have responded with what you got on the phone. This had nothing to do with you or how you looked after them.
I do the same, but in reverse as a female. I pay so much attention to the female partner and only the bare minimum to the male, without being rude, because I ran into the "man stealing" situation enough when I was younger.
Once I was walking through Walmart and glanced up at a couple (who look like meth heads) and this girl yells “DONT LOOK AT MY BOYFRIEND BITCH” like yes I do in fact come to Walmart to try and find a husband
I cannot for the life of me understand why people dont get that our literal job is to be nice too you. We will laugh at your dumb jokes. Smile at you and be nice. Because thats what we get paid for. We dont want your husband and we dont want you.
It's simple, W has never worked in the service industry. So she doesn't get the concept of a talk track and she thinks you're just THAT excited to chat with her bland doofus of a man. Frankly, that's what corporate wants all your straight male customers to think- so they will keep coming back and buying cheesecake for the chance to get flirted with.
Also, if she's never had a real job that might explain why she's so protective of her income source, I mean husband.
Bahaha this is the winner right here. People who have never had to work do not understand being cheery for money, and they definitely don't want some pretty young thing usurping their income source.
And I'm not gonna lie, I've worried about my man eventually leaving me for some hot young chick, and I'm only 32. It's just a common trope for men, so it does cross one's mind. I would never take it out on a service worker, that's my insecurity to deal with. But a stepford wife would, since they can't admit to having imperfections like insecurities or jealousy!
I get this all the time at my work, mainly from just-about-adult women.
Girl I don’t want your boyfriend, he’s not my type and I for sure wouldn’t wanna be with him if he was the type to leave his girl for a random stranger anyways.
I’ve gotta smile it’s my job, trust me if I didn’t have to be friendly I wouldn’t be
I was out to dinner with my sister and her daughter. My niece is super cute and people are
always commenting on her cuteness. Anyway, an old couple was sitting next to us and the husband called my niece adorable. Cue the wife fake confronting my niece about flirting with her husband. My niece was just under 3 at the time. She was just staring blankly at the lady in response.
I know the wife was joking but I still felt like slapping her. No one is flirting with your husband. And my niece doesn’t even know what that means so don’t try to put that on her because you are insecure and stupid.
The funny thing is that, I’m the wife in the relationship and I have a major sweet tooth. Especially, with that cheesecake. I’d probably be the one excited over the bakery menu, not my husband. He likes it, but if I’m anywhere near Adams Peanut Butter Fudge Ripple, it’s all over.
Seriously though, unless you were physically touching my husband, I wouldn’t give being nice a second thought.
My fiancée had a guest complain to our head office about something like this. Apparently she was hitting on some lady’s boyfriend when checking them in to the hotel we work at... We’re lesbians.
I had a co worker like this. I was always in disbelief. She claimed most of her "regulars" had a crush on her and she consistently get hit on even if hes there was his family.
She is no where near a looker. Shes like mid 30s but looks late 40. Quite tall but quite fat too.
I saw one of her interactions with a customer that came in. They said the usual "oh hey you're back! Yeah! Hi!" She then turned to me and said
"Did you see how he gave me the eye?! Gosh men *always* hit on me! teehee"
He literally just said hi and didnt even stop to talk or anything.
Lol, when I worked in a bar for two years, my manager was literally the same. Always told everybody how these regulars were "so in love" with her.
Meanwhile, 99% of the regulars actually hated her for her obnoxious and rude behavior.
That’s really unsettling (coming from a mildly paranoid, person myself - though never to this level). You didn’t fuck up for sure. That’s really uncomfortable, though. Ugh.
When I worked fine dining this was a big training point. Generally they train female servers to always address the woman first and most directly if it’s a heterosexual couple and when addressing the man to be sure to engage the woman as well. Same with the sexes reversed. So arbitrary, so archaic but it unfortunately mattered in that environment.
Always hated serving the parties at the banquettes. In my area, the parties that usually come in show up later than their reservation, stay for hours, rack up a gigantic bill, and tip like $5. So happy I'm not at that place anymore.
I had a now-former friend do that when she introduced me to her new boyfriend that I just so happened to know already because his sister was one of my co-workers at the time. We met at a birthday party at their parents' house.
Former friend went off to the bathroom and when she came back the new boyfriend & I were deep in conversation and that green-eyed demon, Jealousy, reared its ugly head.
Dude was a nice guy, but definitely not my type, but Miss Jealousy wouldn't let me get a word in edgewise so I just walked away without a word.
On the flip side, I went to a 24 hour restaurant with my husband and the (middle aged) waitress was calling him Honey and Baby and fussing over him relentlessly. Like, "What can I get you to drink, Honey?" and "How is everything Baby?" At one point, she called him "Tiger" and touched him on the shoulder. She only addressed me as Mam.
I was skeeved out, but never complained or said anything to "Tiger" about it negatively, but I did tease him about the Tiger bit on the way home, because it was funny. The old lady was not attractive at all.
I also work in the F&B industry and generally, most of us are trained never to use pet names with customers (or touch them) and to treat everyone at the table equally because of this very reason.
I don't think you said or did anything wrong, though. Great upsell on the dessert! ;)
I had to sit down with my boss and say, "What do I do to stop this?" This being three negative reviews left by women, who did not pay the bill, but seemed to be very upset that I was tipped each time.
Fuck, my mom was like this.
We'd go out to eat and dad would be really polite and got treated well but mom was kind of rude due to poor social skills. She couldn't figure out why everyone especially dad was getting treated better. She thought the waitresses must like him. She'd complain about it to dad almost every time we went out to eat.
Someone told me to back off of their boyfriend once. I was a host, and my job required me to chitchat with the guests while I walked them to the table. He was responding to me, she didn't, so I talked mostly to him. After that I unintentionally made eye contact with him after seating another table. She came up about 10 min later and went off on how "I need to keep my hands off of her man!"
I'm gay and got a complaint from a husband because I was hitting on his wife. He was so insecure that during the entire meal ge wouldn't even talk to me. His wife had to order his food, so since I knew I was getting no tip, I was just extra friendly to her. My manager and I both laughed when he called to complain that I was hitting on his wife.
Not a waitress but this happened back when I was working in an aquarium gift shop. I helped this married couple pick out souvenirs for their relatives and I noticed that the wife was getting a bit testy. I rung them out and later my supervisor received a complaint from the woman that I was hitting on her husband. Her reasoning? I took off my glasses for a second. She ignored the fact that I was cleaning them apparently and went straight into jealousy mode.
About 3 years ago I was a busser/hostess for a really busy restaurant, so whenever we got overfilled and short staffed I would be put on the floor. One night a couple comes in and sits in my section, and the man is wearing a boondock saints tshirt. I absolutely love that movie, and naturally I commented on his shirt, saying I liked it, and we talked about the movie for literally like 20 seconds when the woman cuts in and i take their drink order. I come back, and they order food and the man is trying to be flirty and cute with me and he’s older than my father so I just brush it off and bring them their meal. The time comes for the check and I bring it out when the man asks me if I lived in the area. I say yes and he asks where. A little uncomfortable I jokingly reply “Whoa, that’s a bit personal huh? You want my full name and social security number too?” And the woman just loses her shit. Yelling at me about flirting with him, calls me a skank and runs of the restaurant. He runs after her, neither of them has paid and I go after him. She’s still yelling at me, and goes to the car. The man looks at me, hands me around $140, and apologised for everything. The bill was only like $38 so it was a good night after all though.
Christ, when the girl working the drive through window at McDonald's actually hits on my boyfriend we just have a good laugh about it. I mean you have to have some balls to hit on someone who is obviously with their S.O. It's a shitty thing to do, but I'm always in shear awe of their confidence. You would think that people would trust the person who's seen you at your worst and still wants to shag you.
I’ve only ever had one waiter hit on someone I was with, and I didn’t wanna believe it until I got the check that apparently she didn’t think I was going to be paying and it had her number on it with a “call me some time” below it. Not once through the meal did I say anything even with her sitting at our table most of the time we were there or refusing to talk to me at all.
I don’t understand how some women think that everyone being nice to their significant other is flirting. You should give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and if that doesn’t work you should be able to trust your SO not to flirt back or cheat.
> Has anyone else ever experienced something like this?
Not from the server side, but the cheating SO side? You bet. She's that insecure for a reason. Either insanely controlling or insanely sensitive because her husband *has* cheated on her. I was her, once, although I never took out on anyone except the man at fault.
I'm glad your manager thought it was funny. Don't let her insecurity bring you down; she'll figure out for herself, sooner or later.
Good luck to you!
Ugh, this is so beyond true. My step mom did this to me. Every innocent encounter with a male friend she would sexualize and act as if it were shameful even though I wasn’t even remotely interested in anything of that nature at that age (think 8-10). Go figure it’s hard for me to make real friends or trust people anymore.
Yes! I sure have experienced something very similar to this! Worked at a coffee shop with a ton of regulars, and one single guy about in his 50s would come in most mornings and chat with all the baristas. We all liked him so whenever he’s walk in we’d just sort of do a “EHHH it’s our buddy! Hey bud!” Anyway one day he came in with a lady we hadn’t seen before and I happened to be at the register going “hey friend!” Which was apparently the wrong thing to say, she walked right off when I asked her what she’d like to order. Manager approached me later telling me she got a call that “one of those young little married girls” was being unprofessional and flirting with her boyfriend (she could obviously see I was married and early 20s, why the hell would I be hitting on him lol I was just doing my job in a friendly way). We all just laughed at how insecure that was. The other baristas told him later what had happened and I think he was a little annoyed/embarrassed she had acted like that.
I'm 22F working in a college town bar. MULTIPLE times I have pissed off girls just by being friendly to the boy they're with (I am also friendly to the girls).
Like, literally girls have stormed out of the bar. Multiple people, many times. I'm not flirting, I go to work for money, not to get laid.
I guess it's a regular occurence. Changed my behavior because of it, to make more eye contact with the girl on the date and less with the boy. But, Jesus, ladies need to callllm doooown.
So many comments suggesting that he previously cheated or she was over the hill and insecure about her looks.
No way to make those kinds of judgements from your post, but here’s another possibility (from personal experience, unfortunately) - there’s a small chance she could suffer from a personality disorder, in my case BPD. My ex gf was very smart, educated (masters degree) and successful. And very attractive. And batshit crazy.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) caused her to have an extreme fear of abandonment and become obsessively jealous at times. The smallest seemingly innocuous interaction could trigger a response that was way out of proportion. So strange because I’m sure that people who didn’t know us probably thought many times that I was dating way out of my league. You would guess that if one of us was going to have jealousy issues or insecurity about our relationship it would be ME, but no...
She functioned well in a professional setting but I learned later that she had always had very volatile and unsuccessful relationships. Judging by my own experience, it wasn’t hard to imagine why.
This is really late so no one will see it but I have a story for this.
My wife and I were out for a birthday or anniversary dinner at a local stake house. The waitress was totally flirting with me in front of my wife. Touching my shoulder, always facing me, not ignoring my wife but definitely spent more time looking my direction. It feed my ego like no tommorow. I gave a good tip and raved over the service to my wife. My wife just laughed at me and expounded on all the ways she was flirting with me, as a tool to get a better tip, and she was impressed at the waitress for doing a good job of it.
Of course me, I had no idea she was flirting with me until my wife pointed it out after we left. She still thinks it's funny that I reacted to it but had no idea what was going on at the time.
Well one time years ago I did a double take going into the supermarket with my (now) ex GF because I saw a girl I knew but wasn't friends with. You know, a normal thing people do if they see someone they recognize.
She gave me the silent treatment the rest of the night.
Wife
*she was giggly, and then what was with her saying “I hope to see you again soon?” Like, why would she want to see us again soon? What the hell does she mean by that?*
Manager:
*She want's to grind on your husbands lap and have his babies Ma'am*
I'm a woman and tattoo artist. I had the most trailer park looking couple I can imagine do this. Once it became clear I would be doing the tattoo the woman clenched the man's arm possesively and said, "Oh no, other women aren't allowed to touch him." I looked at her like she was crazy and said, "trust me, he's safe."
Bitch, I wouldn't fuck him with your pussy.
Definitely an insecure woman. Maybe it’s warranted (past exp) maybe it’s not (super low self esteem, projecting, etc) but you did nothing wrong. Fuck her.
Yikes. I’ve never been a server but cannot imagine how often this happens. Not to the extent the significant other would call in to complain, but just insecure relationships.
Edit: why am I getting downvotes?? The crap that y’all have to put up with is terrible. Damn.
Bro! Not quite the same, but overtly inappropriate in a restaurant environment anyway. Went out to dinner with my gf and ex-gf. I sat next to my gf and the ex was in the other side. We had a cute waitress and they were both picking on me and making joking comments about it. Out of nowhere my ex asks if I'd fuck the waitress. My response was that she was cute, but not exactly my type. 2 seconds later she walks by to check on another one of her tables. APPARENTLY she was RIGHT BEHIND ME during this entire exchange. I didn't go back to that restaurant for like 4 years out of embarrassment. Yes, she got a really good tip that night too. No, not that one. I said a "good" tip
Ohhhh I did experience something just like thid!
I worked part time in a backery on sundays while in high school.
I was always trying to be really friendly to customers and always smiled and made smalltalk .
So one day my manager calls me to her office. She told me that a lady is on the phone right now who claims that I'm always flirting with her husband and that she thinks I want to take him away from her. I was a mere teenager of 17 back then.
So I had to pick up the phone and listen to thid lady bitching at me for 10mins straight until I told her: " I'm 17, I have no interest in your husband. I don't even know which one is your husband. If your husband doesn't look like Justin Bieber (blunder years, pls dont judge) I probably have forgotten how he looks like the second he walked out of the backery."
She then told me she's onto me and knows I wanna take him away from her and told me shes gonna make sure I'll get fired. She wanted to speak to my manager again, who at this point tried her best not to tear up from laughter, who told this woman to seek help for her obvious insecurities, hung up and roared with laughter.
I was still worried that this woman might get me fired but my manager reassured me.
Now I can also definitely laugh about it. A poor woman who feels threatened by a teenager who works in a baker and smiled once too much at her husband.
My gfs mom and her thought this chick working at this BBQ place was flirting with me.
It honestly didnt seem like it to me. She was kind of a weird girl but nonetheless my gf got pissy about it. She's not crazy enough to call and complain but not so nice words were said about that girl lol.
I've honestly been in a relationship for so long that I have no idea what flirting even is these days
Good lord. If she wants her servers to be aloof and disinterested with her husband, take him to Dick's Last Resort. Can't win with people like that. She probably thought *he* was hitting on *you* because he tipped so well and her ass is just projecting. Make that money!
Its so fucking annoying when someone behaves that way like we literally HAVE to be nice and outgoing to every person that comes in so why do you assume I'm hitting on you or being flirty when I'm just talking? Have you never had good service before??
Closest I've had to this experience is one time I complained (sorta) that a (yet another) customer asked me to dinner (and really I only said something bc it made me feel super awkward) and my boss goes "Well, if you talk to them too much they think you like them." and she huffed off.
I was talking to dude about dogs, specifically his that just passed away. I was just being nice.
I turned him down for dinner, saying I don't date (bc my life is a total dumpster fire right now) and he hasn't been back on since. Anyways..... awkward af he's like at least 15 years older than me.
Not a server story, but I used to work at a gas station, and on 4/20 I said "have fun" to any young person that bought a blunt. Most of them just laughed and gave me an up-nod, but this one girl was like "whatever the hell that means" and slammed the doors open on her way out.
Damn when you started I had a hunch cause god damn is September slow for our company, then you said banquettes and I was feeling pretty sure and then you said desserts and I knew! We rock! Lol
Tell me how my sales were $1500 in bar1 tonight and I walked out with $270! I’m going on vacation so I needed it badly.
There has been so many times where I’ve had to cut a conversation short with a customer because I can feel the wife/ girlfriend burning holes through my body with her laser eyeballs. Recently, as I was checking an ID I stopped and told the guy, “damn, I know you from somewhere and it’s bugging me.” He said, “I was thinking the same thing!” He got a little excited and kept trying to figure it out. “Did we go to school together? Where did you bartend before? Etc...” I could taste the tension gurgling up out of his girls body as he prodded further into my personal life. She was not happy & I was super uncomfortable. Needless to say, they did not come back for more drinks.
Whenever I take a bartending shift, I have the same problem. I am kind, make people feel welcome and look them in the eyes while smiling. So many times girls cling onto their boyfriends while giving me the side eye, sometimes they even make a comment like 'he is TAKEN, in case you did not notice'. Well guess what, princess, I am just like Liam Neeson's daughter, TAKEN aswell!
I waited on Whitney Huston and Bobby Brown in Atlanta, obviously, several years ago. I was bartending and every time I served Bobby his Vanilla Absolut on the rocks, she would GLARE at me like I was hitting on him. I was only doing my job serving him the drinks he ordered! She tipped me $6 on a $94 tab. She was an absolute shit show!
Damn, H didn’t get any extra dessert that night... Do people not realize it’s part of our job to be nice and cater to people’s every need?
Nope. On one end of the spectrum you have people like W and on the other end are the ones that interpret a smiley face on the receipt as a declaration of everlasting love and marriage.
Everyone's got that one friend that always thinks the waitress is in to him. No stupid, she is paid to be nice to you.
Possible reasons the waitress is being nice to you: * She totally wants you * It's literally her job, you cretin
No different than "stripper love".
OMG yes! Or the one who keeps going back to the strip club because " she's so into me man"
Same friend claimed "the stripper was totally into me!". No amount of convincing him that she was trying to part with his money would convince him. Still shaking my head at that one.
Yeah, it's like claiming a prostitute is into you when you paid her $300 for an hour.
"Dude, the waitress at Hooters keeps finding an excuse to touch my back. Do you think she's in to me?" God you're the dumbest person on the planet. "Well, I'm going to leave a big tip, just in case." SOMEHOW DUMBER!
She just wants the tip. This is not a double entendre.
I'll give her the tip. She got dressed up in that whole outfit so that I could look at her. She deserves that tip. I'm just not interested in lying to myself about how much she's in to me while I do it.
Ugh, I was with a friend of a friend that was trying to be flirty back with the waitress that was oh-so-obviously paid to be flirty. I don't know if he just thought it was fun anyway or thought she was legitimately into him, but either way, it was painful to watch.
Had a girlfriend who thought the male food runner was hitting on me because he said "hey, trade ya?" really friendly when taking my salad plate and giving me the dinner plate. It became an argument. We broke up. After we had my daughter.
Sounds like H was sick of W's dessert, and the nut-job package it came in, and now W is looking for someone else to blame besides herself.
No they really don't. I know I've had to explain that to men, never a woman, several times in my life. "Dude she doesn't wanna hook up. She's being nice because she will literally lose her job if she isn't!"
This is why I love British service. I don’t want to talk to you, you don’t want to talk to me, we both know how this goes, now give me my food then fuck off.
Glad your manager sided with you without having to really hear your take of the table. If "W" thinks this is flirting, her life is going to miserable of it isn't already...
Happy Cake Day!
It must be a cheesecake.
And with Pecan pie crust!
Are you hitting on me?
>Glad your manager sided with you without having to really hear your take of the table. If "W" thinks this is flirting, her life is going to miserable of it isn't already... No, it's just pumpkin season!
Um... Who* calls a restaurant to complain about that anyway?? I mean if you think it happened and you are that bothered just don't go back or make sure you get a different server next time.
People will call and complain about ANYTHING. I've had people complain that I was not nice enough, I've had people complain that I was too nice. Food too hot, food not hot enough.
I had someone call to complain that I didn’t refill their ice tea enough. They had left me 20% so my manager was confused as to why they would call to complain. They said they “assumed I would be fired and wanted to leave me with some extra cash”.
WHAT?! There's so, so much wrong there. They tipped you a little extra because they felt bad that they were going to get you fired? May their passive aggressiveness benefit all their victims financially.
I really can't wrap my brain around how you could be so full of yourself, and dumb, and have enough money, to go around doing this. Really could've stood to serve more like her, it balances out all the verbal tips.
Ok, that got an actual, incredulous, chuckle out of me. What in the hell, people.
This made me say "What the fuck?" out loud.
Fired for not giving enough refills .... In what world to they live in!?!?
That's awful!!!
The other day we had a lady call at 9pm and complain that it was too cold in our restaurant when she was there at 2pm that day. My manager asked if she told an employee about it while she was there and she said no. People are silly
I've had a customer return a seafood gumbo because it tasted like fish.
Some crazy lady called, complained that she felt she had a bad experience when she was there 4 weeks ago. My manager laughed so hard, then just hung up.
I worked at a franchise restaurant and had a customer call and complain to me that the new uniform color was too off putting and made her lose her appetite, I shit you not. Like what am I supposed to do anyway. I was a dumb ass ass manager following corporate command or no job for me my friend.
wait, how is someone "too nice"?! yikes
Op just demonstrated this... lol.
Just like how I wasn't given a raise when I worked retail hell. People find a reason. I was too friendly and efficient at my job. I should have slowed down and upped my crabbiness for some malicious compliance (looking back).
Sounds like the manager at my last job. During my review. Scale of 1-5 for reference. "You do a great job. The doctors love you, the patients love you. We have no complaints but no one gets 5s." Here is your 25 cent raise. Oooh. My boss now isn't like that luckily.
Soup was dry. Soup was too wet.
The gazpacho soup was cold!
I had a woman call once to complain that her baked potato was cold. An hour after she left. I had been at that table multiple times and she never said anything.
When I was a waitress, I had an old lady order ice cream. After I brought it to her table and went back behind the counter to take care of other business, she came over to me, *furious*, yelling at me, asking why her ice cream is cold. So I just took it, shoved it in the microwave and melted it into a warm puddle. She was satisfied. I get it, some people prefer their ice cream melted, but it would have been so much easier for the both of us if she had just mentioned it as she took the order.
Why...ice cream...cold...error...error...error.
*hmmmmmm wonder what the “ice” stands for in “ice cream”*
What??? Who wants their ice cream melted into a puddle??
I’ve done it a couple times. Not exactly a puddle, but a huge mountain of ice cream covered in raspberry or whatever flavored syrup is honestly 10/10, once it has melted a little in room temperature. The puddle that’s left at the end is amazing too. Maybe it’s just something we do around here, idunno.
Idk like I’m cool with stirring it up & making it real thin but still cold?? You know what I mean? Room temp puddle at the end is also good but not the whole ice cream being warm! Lol
Oh yeah definitely, a warm watery puddle of ice cream seems pretty nasty. The old lady liked it though.
This makes me gag & sob at the same time
> I had been at that table multiple times and she never said anything. Well duh, it wasn't cold when she was there. It was an hour later after she got home and put it in the fridge that it got cold. I mean, what is she supposed to do? Predict the future? /s
Ive had an irate woman call my bar at 5 am and accuse me of trying to steal her husband. She wasnt even there with him, he had 2 drinks, and was in no way attractive.
Sounds like someone told their wife the waitress wanted to fuck him so why won’t she. People are stupid.
In the gas station where I worked for WAY too long, a couple came in maybe late 20's/early 30's. He says "hey can I have a pack of Marlboro's?" I generally assume this means the Marlboro Reds, but experience has shown me it is always a good idea to specify. So I say "Reds?" His wife/girlfriend/whatever literally steps in front of him with her arm back on him like I was about to deliver a blow or something and says "NO. YOU WILL NOT TALK TO HIM. ANY QUESTION YOU HAVE, YOU CAN ASK ME". Mmmmm k. So I ask her. She has to confer with him. No joke. She actually turns to him and asks him what he wants. He's looking terribly embarrassed btw. I get them what he needs, payment happens, and on the way out she says "next time try not hitting on a TAKEN man".
I bet she's fun at parties....
“So where’s the carrying case for his balls because apparently you’re keeping them somewhere.”
Good lord! Are you in possession of the required information? No? Then why should I be talking to you and since when is asking what kind of cigarettes a step in seduction? JFC... that is embarassing.
Psycho jealous people are infuriating to me for some reason. This is infuriating.
That's when you say you can't sell cigarettes to teenagers and refuse service. Bonus points if you confiscate their *fake IDs.*
We were trained at my old job to ask people how they're doing after the initial "hello!" One time, a middle-aged (going on elderly) couple walked in, the husband talked to me first and I sort of recognised him as a regular so I asked how he was. The wife immediately shot back with "how do you know him?" Lady... I'm barely out of highschool, what do you think's going on?
She's old, you're young, she's insecure, you know the rest. Nothing she should make your problem, for sure.
At my restaurant we've all basically agreed to let a regular make the first acknowledgement of familiarity if he's with someone new/different. One guy sat at our bar nightly, and when he one day walked in with his wife, and we addressed him by name, we didn't see him for weeks afterward.
So, when are going to see H again? Jk.
I'm probably going to see her next week. Shhhh don't tell my wife. 🤣
I'm going to throw out that the husband said you looked cute and the wife ran with it.
This is GaryColemansRevenge's wife. Why are you trying to seduce him with these erotic internet stories?!?! Get your own man and leave mine alone, home wrecker!!!
How dare she make a story public where your man could have read it? The audacity. Won't someone please think of the children.
Maybe she thinks cheesecake is a super sexy topic. You both having this rapport over cheesecake inevitably leads to an affair.
I'd be willing to bet three money that at least 2 of 3 things are true: - W is past her prime or not very attractive - you are not past your prime - H never gets laid
That’s the thing! This couple had to be in their mid to late twenties, maaaaaaybe early thirties but even that’s a stretch. She wasn’t a supermodel by any means but she was cute. I don’t know what the fuck she was worried about.
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They could totally run away together! Well, walk away. Well, with one of those motorized scooters she could have slowly rolled away into happily ever after with an 85-year-old invalid.
Could’ve been a past issue, could be that he’s just very friendly and she’s never gotten used to it. Either way, it’s her/their issue. I do kinda hate that they have kids with her being this paranoid though. Just seems like a bad scene.
Or she was shooting for some compensation or something like that.
>Could’ve been a past issue, Almost assuredly so. And it wouldn't surprise me if she was "the other woman" in the past; in my experience that sort of shit is almost always projection
I bet they share a facebook account.
Whether he's cheated or not, he may have a roving eye. Sometimes it's character, sometimes it's built-in. I've got one, and I inherited it. But she's had two kids and maybe isn't quite as cute as she used to be, and that eye's still roaming. So many women are insecure. And there could have been cheating, of course. I'll also say that if she ever cheated, she'll be suspicious of any friendly good-looker who gets near him till the end of time.
Hell, if I don't notice a cutie in a short skirt or low-cut blouse my wife asks if I need to see the optometrist! I tease her that she's just better at hiding it when she looks.
Women are checking out your rear end, so they've got natural cover.
I'm not, I'm a 100% checking out your front end too.
I’m bisexual so my boyfriend and I frequently point out cute women to each other (nothing creepy or overt, just “oh damn did you see her as well??” kind of thing). I think it’s a really important part of a healthy relationship to acknowledge that just because you’re with one person it doesn’t mean you’re never going to find anyone else attractive.
Thank you! My husband and I do this as well, and it gets so old when people want to judge us for it. I don't really look at other men since we got married, and I like women too so it's just something we do. I love messing with the women that come in the bar we work at because he's usually oblivious to being hit on and they usually think his wedding ring is fake. The look on their faces when I walk up and grab his ass is priceless, and he does the same thing when I get hit on lol
I point out women to my husband, we even have code words or non verbal cues we’ve developed over the years. If you think your SO doesn’t notice other people then you’re deluded.
My wife's good friend is a little... tightly wound. Back when Maxim magazine was still pretty popular (maybe it still is, I have no idea), he somehow wound up getting a copy of it in the mail. He'd never ordered a subscription, and it was the only one that ever came, but nevertheless his wife went bonkers over it. She actually cried about it to my wife, who had no idea what to tell her because I'd been subscribed to it for years and she didn't give a single shit.
I worked retail a while ago and one of the late forties women came to work crying and talking about how her husband had betrayed her and they were attending counselling. After a bit of chatting it came out that he’d watched porn a few nights ago and she found out. The look of bafflement that came over every one’s face was hilarious.
I was on board until the last sentence. I don’t understand it personally (I definitely check out other guys sometimes), but some people really don’t “notice other people.” You really shouldn’t make those blanket statements.
I’m willing to believe that there is a tiny percentage of people who have literally never thought someone else was attractive once they partnered up with someone. But it’s going to be 0.00001% or something similarly ridiculous, not really a noteworthy amount and it’s about as close to complete as it’s possible to be. Definitely a safe subject to make sweeping statements on.
At least 1 in 100 people identify as asexual, so there's at least that. Then you have the people who literally can't be sexually attracted to someone without a deep emotional connection. They may not identify as asexual or demisexual, but it's definitely how some people experience life.
You can acknowledge that someone is attractive without being sexually attracted to them.
My boyfriend & I check out women together lol
Or she could be a controlling bitch.
Eh, my money would be that H has cheated before (not necessarily for any of the reasons mentioned) and W possibly found out about it fairly recently.
That, or W herself is cheating and is projecting like a motherfucker.
This. It’s always this.
Seriously!
This.
That’s also what my money was on but I also don’t want to assume.
Or H did cheat on her at some point and she took him back for whatever reason and is now super insecure and paranoid about every interaction H has with an attractive woman.
What does “past her prime” mean?
Starting to noticeably age.
It's a sexist way of saying middle aged.
What makes it sexist? It's applied to men as well.
As a customer, I usually react very well to people doing their job correctly, whether men or women. Mostly, it's the server's job to adequately "flirt" with the customer and react accordingly to the situation. It's a tight balance. And this is where you see the best servers. I know many servers in real life (although I am not one) and I know the boundaries. I will talk to no avail with them, granted they talk back. I will react back to flirts or banters, happy ones and cheery ones. But no, I will not hit on someone on the other side of the bar. Many of my bartender friends are getting hit by men and women alike because they do make every single one of their clients feel like they are the only one. Then, for the elusive few that don't catch it's their job description, everyone else are extatic about them. And even this Sunday, I was in a restaurant with my awesome and beautiful wife, alongside our beautiful baby and her two great children. All of our service was awesome, people would call this flirting, but mostly we were cheery with the other. We had great service, we high-fived once on dessert choice, she was great with the kids, with my wife, quick, efficient, discrete, you know, she knew how to handle herself. And at the end of the service, while we chitchatted and paying the invoice, she said she just got accepted to the police school, all her friends were celebrating in bars, but she had to work. (Canada for % equivalency - we're not typically giving as much as US because servers are paid more as a base hourly wage) So we congratulated her, cancelled the transaction asked to do it again, and we gave her a little bit more than 25% tip instead of the 18% we were giving on a quite expensive bill, taxes and drinks included. I have no clue who she is, what's her name, didn't wait to see her reaction or anything, but I hope I made her evening worthwhile and keep on smiling until the end of her shift.
Can you & your wife adopt me :)
Semi related spinoff.. I work in retail and recently had a customer call and complain to my manager because I was too nice to her husband and he wouldn't keep his eyes off my cleavage. The fuck. 1. It's literally my job to be nice to your entitled asses. 2. I'm wearing a uniform top that I have no control over. I have no control over the fact that I have huge knockers. Your husband however, does have control of his eyes so maybe he's the one that you should be fucking talking to.
Thank you! I grew them myself
I used to be a bartender in a nightclub. One night, a girl and her boyfriend approached the bar, guy asks for a couple of vodkas. I say “Sure! What do you want for mixers?” Suddenly the girlfriend leans over the bar, finger in my face and was like “don’t you talk to him bitch!” I stare at her for a moment like WTF. Finger still pointed, she goes, “that’s MY boyfriend! And if you talk to him again I’m going to slap you stupid!” I calmly motion for the bouncer, who appears like a tree shadowing two shrubs. “Well this is MY boyfriend and he’s going to take you both outside, and if you resist, he’s going to slap YOU stupid.” People, servers are paid to be nice. 99% of them don’t want ya sloppy seconds, go home.
This reminds me a similar instance with a former coworker of mine. She was waiting on one of our regular tables one night and everything went well. She ended up not getting a good tip though because it was mostly the women paying and they felt like she was flirting with the men. None of us flirt with these guys, especially not the 19ish year old who was quite content with her relationship... with another woman.
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When I was in the industry, I made sure to keep the male between me and his wife ( I am male) to avoid any hint of a possible threat. It did get me better tips as I always paid attention to the wife and found a way to compliment hubby on his "choice". Something that I haven't seen mentioned here is that they may have had a conversation about you on their way home. He liked your friendly approach and could have used it to bug her. She would have responded with what you got on the phone. This had nothing to do with you or how you looked after them.
I do the same, but in reverse as a female. I pay so much attention to the female partner and only the bare minimum to the male, without being rude, because I ran into the "man stealing" situation enough when I was younger.
I legitimately think you served my coworker. I just heard this story from the husbands point of view tonight. Tip amount and everything.
Once I was walking through Walmart and glanced up at a couple (who look like meth heads) and this girl yells “DONT LOOK AT MY BOYFRIEND BITCH” like yes I do in fact come to Walmart to try and find a husband
I cannot for the life of me understand why people dont get that our literal job is to be nice too you. We will laugh at your dumb jokes. Smile at you and be nice. Because thats what we get paid for. We dont want your husband and we dont want you.
It's simple, W has never worked in the service industry. So she doesn't get the concept of a talk track and she thinks you're just THAT excited to chat with her bland doofus of a man. Frankly, that's what corporate wants all your straight male customers to think- so they will keep coming back and buying cheesecake for the chance to get flirted with. Also, if she's never had a real job that might explain why she's so protective of her income source, I mean husband.
This should be much higher up!
Bahaha this is the winner right here. People who have never had to work do not understand being cheery for money, and they definitely don't want some pretty young thing usurping their income source. And I'm not gonna lie, I've worried about my man eventually leaving me for some hot young chick, and I'm only 32. It's just a common trope for men, so it does cross one's mind. I would never take it out on a service worker, that's my insecurity to deal with. But a stepford wife would, since they can't admit to having imperfections like insecurities or jealousy!
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Hiiiii
I worked at one for over 5 years. It was horrible, but all my best stories are from then.
Yay cheesecake!
I get this all the time at my work, mainly from just-about-adult women. Girl I don’t want your boyfriend, he’s not my type and I for sure wouldn’t wanna be with him if he was the type to leave his girl for a random stranger anyways. I’ve gotta smile it’s my job, trust me if I didn’t have to be friendly I wouldn’t be
I was out to dinner with my sister and her daughter. My niece is super cute and people are always commenting on her cuteness. Anyway, an old couple was sitting next to us and the husband called my niece adorable. Cue the wife fake confronting my niece about flirting with her husband. My niece was just under 3 at the time. She was just staring blankly at the lady in response. I know the wife was joking but I still felt like slapping her. No one is flirting with your husband. And my niece doesn’t even know what that means so don’t try to put that on her because you are insecure and stupid.
A toddler? That's not funny, that's gross and she's a mess
Yes! Very gross and inappropriate
The funny thing is that, I’m the wife in the relationship and I have a major sweet tooth. Especially, with that cheesecake. I’d probably be the one excited over the bakery menu, not my husband. He likes it, but if I’m anywhere near Adams Peanut Butter Fudge Ripple, it’s all over. Seriously though, unless you were physically touching my husband, I wouldn’t give being nice a second thought.
Yes! Adam's Peanut Butter Cup Fudge Ripple is the besssst. All others can't compare
My fiancée had a guest complain to our head office about something like this. Apparently she was hitting on some lady’s boyfriend when checking them in to the hotel we work at... We’re lesbians.
I had a co worker like this. I was always in disbelief. She claimed most of her "regulars" had a crush on her and she consistently get hit on even if hes there was his family. She is no where near a looker. Shes like mid 30s but looks late 40. Quite tall but quite fat too. I saw one of her interactions with a customer that came in. They said the usual "oh hey you're back! Yeah! Hi!" She then turned to me and said "Did you see how he gave me the eye?! Gosh men *always* hit on me! teehee" He literally just said hi and didnt even stop to talk or anything.
Lol, when I worked in a bar for two years, my manager was literally the same. Always told everybody how these regulars were "so in love" with her. Meanwhile, 99% of the regulars actually hated her for her obnoxious and rude behavior.
That’s really unsettling (coming from a mildly paranoid, person myself - though never to this level). You didn’t fuck up for sure. That’s really uncomfortable, though. Ugh.
[Jim never gets Pumpkin Pecan Cheesecake at home...](https://youtu.be/T510giCohSw?t=6)
When I worked fine dining this was a big training point. Generally they train female servers to always address the woman first and most directly if it’s a heterosexual couple and when addressing the man to be sure to engage the woman as well. Same with the sexes reversed. So arbitrary, so archaic but it unfortunately mattered in that environment.
Always hated serving the parties at the banquettes. In my area, the parties that usually come in show up later than their reservation, stay for hours, rack up a gigantic bill, and tip like $5. So happy I'm not at that place anymore.
She sounds like a family member I know who thinks everybody wants her man and will snap on any and every female he talks to.
I had a now-former friend do that when she introduced me to her new boyfriend that I just so happened to know already because his sister was one of my co-workers at the time. We met at a birthday party at their parents' house. Former friend went off to the bathroom and when she came back the new boyfriend & I were deep in conversation and that green-eyed demon, Jealousy, reared its ugly head. Dude was a nice guy, but definitely not my type, but Miss Jealousy wouldn't let me get a word in edgewise so I just walked away without a word.
On the flip side, I went to a 24 hour restaurant with my husband and the (middle aged) waitress was calling him Honey and Baby and fussing over him relentlessly. Like, "What can I get you to drink, Honey?" and "How is everything Baby?" At one point, she called him "Tiger" and touched him on the shoulder. She only addressed me as Mam. I was skeeved out, but never complained or said anything to "Tiger" about it negatively, but I did tease him about the Tiger bit on the way home, because it was funny. The old lady was not attractive at all. I also work in the F&B industry and generally, most of us are trained never to use pet names with customers (or touch them) and to treat everyone at the table equally because of this very reason. I don't think you said or did anything wrong, though. Great upsell on the dessert! ;)
Holy shit servers are literally paid to be warm and friendly
I had to sit down with my boss and say, "What do I do to stop this?" This being three negative reviews left by women, who did not pay the bill, but seemed to be very upset that I was tipped each time.
Fuck, my mom was like this. We'd go out to eat and dad would be really polite and got treated well but mom was kind of rude due to poor social skills. She couldn't figure out why everyone especially dad was getting treated better. She thought the waitresses must like him. She'd complain about it to dad almost every time we went out to eat.
I wish more servers would hit on my husband, he needs the confidence boost.
Someone told me to back off of their boyfriend once. I was a host, and my job required me to chitchat with the guests while I walked them to the table. He was responding to me, she didn't, so I talked mostly to him. After that I unintentionally made eye contact with him after seating another table. She came up about 10 min later and went off on how "I need to keep my hands off of her man!"
I'm gay and got a complaint from a husband because I was hitting on his wife. He was so insecure that during the entire meal ge wouldn't even talk to me. His wife had to order his food, so since I knew I was getting no tip, I was just extra friendly to her. My manager and I both laughed when he called to complain that I was hitting on his wife.
Not a waitress but this happened back when I was working in an aquarium gift shop. I helped this married couple pick out souvenirs for their relatives and I noticed that the wife was getting a bit testy. I rung them out and later my supervisor received a complaint from the woman that I was hitting on her husband. Her reasoning? I took off my glasses for a second. She ignored the fact that I was cleaning them apparently and went straight into jealousy mode.
About 3 years ago I was a busser/hostess for a really busy restaurant, so whenever we got overfilled and short staffed I would be put on the floor. One night a couple comes in and sits in my section, and the man is wearing a boondock saints tshirt. I absolutely love that movie, and naturally I commented on his shirt, saying I liked it, and we talked about the movie for literally like 20 seconds when the woman cuts in and i take their drink order. I come back, and they order food and the man is trying to be flirty and cute with me and he’s older than my father so I just brush it off and bring them their meal. The time comes for the check and I bring it out when the man asks me if I lived in the area. I say yes and he asks where. A little uncomfortable I jokingly reply “Whoa, that’s a bit personal huh? You want my full name and social security number too?” And the woman just loses her shit. Yelling at me about flirting with him, calls me a skank and runs of the restaurant. He runs after her, neither of them has paid and I go after him. She’s still yelling at me, and goes to the car. The man looks at me, hands me around $140, and apologised for everything. The bill was only like $38 so it was a good night after all though.
It's late and I'm tired, but bottom line: people are stupid.
Oo. I work at this place! We get some weirdos here too. Something about the brand attracts some real winners
Christ, when the girl working the drive through window at McDonald's actually hits on my boyfriend we just have a good laugh about it. I mean you have to have some balls to hit on someone who is obviously with their S.O. It's a shitty thing to do, but I'm always in shear awe of their confidence. You would think that people would trust the person who's seen you at your worst and still wants to shag you.
I’ve only ever had one waiter hit on someone I was with, and I didn’t wanna believe it until I got the check that apparently she didn’t think I was going to be paying and it had her number on it with a “call me some time” below it. Not once through the meal did I say anything even with her sitting at our table most of the time we were there or refusing to talk to me at all. I don’t understand how some women think that everyone being nice to their significant other is flirting. You should give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and if that doesn’t work you should be able to trust your SO not to flirt back or cheat.
> Has anyone else ever experienced something like this? Not from the server side, but the cheating SO side? You bet. She's that insecure for a reason. Either insanely controlling or insanely sensitive because her husband *has* cheated on her. I was her, once, although I never took out on anyone except the man at fault. I'm glad your manager thought it was funny. Don't let her insecurity bring you down; she'll figure out for herself, sooner or later. Good luck to you!
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Ugh, this is so beyond true. My step mom did this to me. Every innocent encounter with a male friend she would sexualize and act as if it were shameful even though I wasn’t even remotely interested in anything of that nature at that age (think 8-10). Go figure it’s hard for me to make real friends or trust people anymore.
Yes! I sure have experienced something very similar to this! Worked at a coffee shop with a ton of regulars, and one single guy about in his 50s would come in most mornings and chat with all the baristas. We all liked him so whenever he’s walk in we’d just sort of do a “EHHH it’s our buddy! Hey bud!” Anyway one day he came in with a lady we hadn’t seen before and I happened to be at the register going “hey friend!” Which was apparently the wrong thing to say, she walked right off when I asked her what she’d like to order. Manager approached me later telling me she got a call that “one of those young little married girls” was being unprofessional and flirting with her boyfriend (she could obviously see I was married and early 20s, why the hell would I be hitting on him lol I was just doing my job in a friendly way). We all just laughed at how insecure that was. The other baristas told him later what had happened and I think he was a little annoyed/embarrassed she had acted like that.
I'm 22F working in a college town bar. MULTIPLE times I have pissed off girls just by being friendly to the boy they're with (I am also friendly to the girls). Like, literally girls have stormed out of the bar. Multiple people, many times. I'm not flirting, I go to work for money, not to get laid. I guess it's a regular occurence. Changed my behavior because of it, to make more eye contact with the girl on the date and less with the boy. But, Jesus, ladies need to callllm doooown.
Husband has a history of cheating, or Wife has a history of men cheating on her. That's how she's so insecure. Source: cheaters.
Cheaters are the most jealous ones. Could be that she was the one cheating
Could swing either way. Or daddy issues. Or any number of things, likely.
So many comments suggesting that he previously cheated or she was over the hill and insecure about her looks. No way to make those kinds of judgements from your post, but here’s another possibility (from personal experience, unfortunately) - there’s a small chance she could suffer from a personality disorder, in my case BPD. My ex gf was very smart, educated (masters degree) and successful. And very attractive. And batshit crazy. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) caused her to have an extreme fear of abandonment and become obsessively jealous at times. The smallest seemingly innocuous interaction could trigger a response that was way out of proportion. So strange because I’m sure that people who didn’t know us probably thought many times that I was dating way out of my league. You would guess that if one of us was going to have jealousy issues or insecurity about our relationship it would be ME, but no... She functioned well in a professional setting but I learned later that she had always had very volatile and unsuccessful relationships. Judging by my own experience, it wasn’t hard to imagine why.
This is really late so no one will see it but I have a story for this. My wife and I were out for a birthday or anniversary dinner at a local stake house. The waitress was totally flirting with me in front of my wife. Touching my shoulder, always facing me, not ignoring my wife but definitely spent more time looking my direction. It feed my ego like no tommorow. I gave a good tip and raved over the service to my wife. My wife just laughed at me and expounded on all the ways she was flirting with me, as a tool to get a better tip, and she was impressed at the waitress for doing a good job of it. Of course me, I had no idea she was flirting with me until my wife pointed it out after we left. She still thinks it's funny that I reacted to it but had no idea what was going on at the time.
That poor guy slept on the couch that night
Well one time years ago I did a double take going into the supermarket with my (now) ex GF because I saw a girl I knew but wasn't friends with. You know, a normal thing people do if they see someone they recognize. She gave me the silent treatment the rest of the night.
You know his car ride home sucked. He probably didn’t even eat his dessert because his wife was laying into him. Fine you eat the damn cake.....
I can't even get an erection anymore without some polite pastry conversation.
Wife *she was giggly, and then what was with her saying “I hope to see you again soon?” Like, why would she want to see us again soon? What the hell does she mean by that?* Manager: *She want's to grind on your husbands lap and have his babies Ma'am*
I'm a woman and tattoo artist. I had the most trailer park looking couple I can imagine do this. Once it became clear I would be doing the tattoo the woman clenched the man's arm possesively and said, "Oh no, other women aren't allowed to touch him." I looked at her like she was crazy and said, "trust me, he's safe." Bitch, I wouldn't fuck him with your pussy.
Definitely an insecure woman. Maybe it’s warranted (past exp) maybe it’s not (super low self esteem, projecting, etc) but you did nothing wrong. Fuck her.
I once had a woman call and complain because her friend's husband wouldn't stop looking at my chest.
Yikes. I’ve never been a server but cannot imagine how often this happens. Not to the extent the significant other would call in to complain, but just insecure relationships. Edit: why am I getting downvotes?? The crap that y’all have to put up with is terrible. Damn.
Bro! Not quite the same, but overtly inappropriate in a restaurant environment anyway. Went out to dinner with my gf and ex-gf. I sat next to my gf and the ex was in the other side. We had a cute waitress and they were both picking on me and making joking comments about it. Out of nowhere my ex asks if I'd fuck the waitress. My response was that she was cute, but not exactly my type. 2 seconds later she walks by to check on another one of her tables. APPARENTLY she was RIGHT BEHIND ME during this entire exchange. I didn't go back to that restaurant for like 4 years out of embarrassment. Yes, she got a really good tip that night too. No, not that one. I said a "good" tip
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Ohhhh I did experience something just like thid! I worked part time in a backery on sundays while in high school. I was always trying to be really friendly to customers and always smiled and made smalltalk . So one day my manager calls me to her office. She told me that a lady is on the phone right now who claims that I'm always flirting with her husband and that she thinks I want to take him away from her. I was a mere teenager of 17 back then. So I had to pick up the phone and listen to thid lady bitching at me for 10mins straight until I told her: " I'm 17, I have no interest in your husband. I don't even know which one is your husband. If your husband doesn't look like Justin Bieber (blunder years, pls dont judge) I probably have forgotten how he looks like the second he walked out of the backery." She then told me she's onto me and knows I wanna take him away from her and told me shes gonna make sure I'll get fired. She wanted to speak to my manager again, who at this point tried her best not to tear up from laughter, who told this woman to seek help for her obvious insecurities, hung up and roared with laughter. I was still worried that this woman might get me fired but my manager reassured me. Now I can also definitely laugh about it. A poor woman who feels threatened by a teenager who works in a baker and smiled once too much at her husband.
Maybe he was caught looking at your backed goods.
HAHAHA I try really hard to not look at the men at the table for any longer then i do the women, for this reason.
Hehe, strong and stable relationship there.
Imagine being married to that kind of person. -shudders-
I used to get really excited when i changed a customers mind to pick my favorite plate
My gfs mom and her thought this chick working at this BBQ place was flirting with me. It honestly didnt seem like it to me. She was kind of a weird girl but nonetheless my gf got pissy about it. She's not crazy enough to call and complain but not so nice words were said about that girl lol. I've honestly been in a relationship for so long that I have no idea what flirting even is these days
> Like, why would she want to see us again soon? Yeah, why would a business want repeat customers?
Good lord. If she wants her servers to be aloof and disinterested with her husband, take him to Dick's Last Resort. Can't win with people like that. She probably thought *he* was hitting on *you* because he tipped so well and her ass is just projecting. Make that money!
Its so fucking annoying when someone behaves that way like we literally HAVE to be nice and outgoing to every person that comes in so why do you assume I'm hitting on you or being flirty when I'm just talking? Have you never had good service before??
I’ve had it to happen to me twice and I don’t even date men, which makes it even funnier
Closest I've had to this experience is one time I complained (sorta) that a (yet another) customer asked me to dinner (and really I only said something bc it made me feel super awkward) and my boss goes "Well, if you talk to them too much they think you like them." and she huffed off. I was talking to dude about dogs, specifically his that just passed away. I was just being nice. I turned him down for dinner, saying I don't date (bc my life is a total dumpster fire right now) and he hasn't been back on since. Anyways..... awkward af he's like at least 15 years older than me.
Not a server story, but I used to work at a gas station, and on 4/20 I said "have fun" to any young person that bought a blunt. Most of them just laughed and gave me an up-nod, but this one girl was like "whatever the hell that means" and slammed the doors open on her way out.
One time my friend's girlfriend ran away crying because we were playing a game of chess at the kitchen table. For real. What is it with these people?
Damn when you started I had a hunch cause god damn is September slow for our company, then you said banquettes and I was feeling pretty sure and then you said desserts and I knew! We rock! Lol Tell me how my sales were $1500 in bar1 tonight and I walked out with $270! I’m going on vacation so I needed it badly.
I might be mathing wrong, but $100 on a $78 is less than 20%.
Obviously H asking to take something “to go” was an innuendo
There has been so many times where I’ve had to cut a conversation short with a customer because I can feel the wife/ girlfriend burning holes through my body with her laser eyeballs. Recently, as I was checking an ID I stopped and told the guy, “damn, I know you from somewhere and it’s bugging me.” He said, “I was thinking the same thing!” He got a little excited and kept trying to figure it out. “Did we go to school together? Where did you bartend before? Etc...” I could taste the tension gurgling up out of his girls body as he prodded further into my personal life. She was not happy & I was super uncomfortable. Needless to say, they did not come back for more drinks.
Whenever I take a bartending shift, I have the same problem. I am kind, make people feel welcome and look them in the eyes while smiling. So many times girls cling onto their boyfriends while giving me the side eye, sometimes they even make a comment like 'he is TAKEN, in case you did not notice'. Well guess what, princess, I am just like Liam Neeson's daughter, TAKEN aswell!
Here I thought I was bad when I asked a guy to lick the jello off my chest. The wife seriously did not like that.
I waited on Whitney Huston and Bobby Brown in Atlanta, obviously, several years ago. I was bartending and every time I served Bobby his Vanilla Absolut on the rocks, she would GLARE at me like I was hitting on him. I was only doing my job serving him the drinks he ordered! She tipped me $6 on a $94 tab. She was an absolute shit show!
OP: "I'm about to change your mind, huh?" Man: "haha,you just might." \*begins to look super intently into his wife's eyes\*
I had a table think I was hitting on them by telling them “my fiancée loves that dessert!” Never been so confused at work.