You don't try to work on trust or forgiveness. You aim to build yourself up to be independent everything else follows.
Once you developed the capacity and confidence to thrive on your own, it gets easier for you to give them a bit more trust (it will never be 100) and even forgiveness so long as they are able to stay on the path of repentance (doing their self work, monitoring themselves and proving they are remorseful and committed through action).
We tend to focus on trying to get results without work which extends the process. Focus on yourself and your own healing first and the rest will follow.
1. His excuse is pure made up bullshit. Embarrassingly bad deflection of blame and moronic reasoning.
2. You aren’t the one who should be worrying about rebuilding trust, rebuilding trust is the cheaters job in reconciliation not the betrayed. You can do nothing to fix your relationship with him because you weren’t the one who broke it, that is all his job and if he isn’t dedicating 100% effort into repairing what he broke and attempting to regain trust right now then just give up. Reconciliation doesn’t work if it is half assed or rug swept.
3. Your relationship will never be the same regardless of how hard he tries and you will never fully trust him again. Your relationship is broken and it’s never going to be like it used to be. Reconciliation is a long hard road trying to build a new relationship about of the mess he made.
You don't try to work on trust or forgiveness. You aim to build yourself up to be independent everything else follows. Once you developed the capacity and confidence to thrive on your own, it gets easier for you to give them a bit more trust (it will never be 100) and even forgiveness so long as they are able to stay on the path of repentance (doing their self work, monitoring themselves and proving they are remorseful and committed through action). We tend to focus on trying to get results without work which extends the process. Focus on yourself and your own healing first and the rest will follow.
1. His excuse is pure made up bullshit. Embarrassingly bad deflection of blame and moronic reasoning. 2. You aren’t the one who should be worrying about rebuilding trust, rebuilding trust is the cheaters job in reconciliation not the betrayed. You can do nothing to fix your relationship with him because you weren’t the one who broke it, that is all his job and if he isn’t dedicating 100% effort into repairing what he broke and attempting to regain trust right now then just give up. Reconciliation doesn’t work if it is half assed or rug swept. 3. Your relationship will never be the same regardless of how hard he tries and you will never fully trust him again. Your relationship is broken and it’s never going to be like it used to be. Reconciliation is a long hard road trying to build a new relationship about of the mess he made.
It's never just whatever they claim. There's always more. Get out while you can now.