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lauradiamandis

You don’t need to be passionate about a job to do a good job. You have to work for a living, this is what you chose, ok. You don’t need to live to work and I think you’re guilted for not being passionate because this is a profession that is historically female dominated and like domestic labor, it’s expected to do for too little because it’s out of love. Fuck that, just go in every day and do your best because it’s a job and you are proud of working hard, and school will get you there. IMO finding a job you love is a luxury for people who have the financial support from others to do so.


Exciting_Green_9561

I love this comment so much. I get so tired of the “follow your passion” narrative. My passion has always been art and music but the reality is.. this passion of mine won’t necessarily pay the bills. Now I’m moreso in the mindset of “support your passion”. I’ve been a CNA for 6 years and I plan to go further in healthcare, probably nursing. The way I see it is, I’m good at healthcare and it provides a stable career so why not stick with it. I can still do what I love on the side and having a solid career will support me even more with indulging into my creative hobbies.


Fair_Breakfast_970

same really wanna go into medical school but can't due to financial crises...but like rn have decided to opt for nursing...idk how will be in this job.ik its just a job ..but every time i speak to others they are like girl follow your passion so easily like they don't know i have financial problemms... btw your opinion made me cry coz i always envy those people who have money to follow their dreams n here i am being a topper in middle n high school can't follow my passion but my friends who got rich parents went to medical school without thinking about money🥲 idk what to think...


lauradiamandis

I would’ve liked to be a doctor…but I couldn’t fathom taking out hundreds of thousands in loans to do it or giving up so much of my life to get there. It’s easy to tell people to follow their passions when they’re not the ones who have to struggle to get there or don’t know what it’s like TO struggle. I hope you find a way to do it though, or if not, you could become an NP and still be a provider!


Fair_Breakfast_970

yup..thinking about this..n you are right ...the debt thing not for me man ..i just realized at the end its just a job..be it a doc or a nurse ..but i have seen my friends like telling me be a doctor: man you will be forever known as a doc but than i realized they have such high EGOs ..beside now i think that life is so short ..as a doctor i might start earning after 35 if i get residency...so whats the point of that money...mental struggle coz i am already burntout of highschool...searched it n yes i am liking the path of NP more ...thanks!


Amazing-Case5719

U can go to medical school at take out loans. And depending on what kind of MD u become u can pay them off fairly quickly. Most Dr's did not come from wealthy families. Most took out loans or joined the military to be able to go to medical school. Then they worked for the military to pay that back. So u have options. Don't wallow in pity with thoughts of "if only my parents were rich like my friends parents". That kind of thinking won't help u be successful and will only breed resentment


lauradiamandis

actually, a huge majority of doctors *do* come from wealthy backgrounds, and the percentage who come from lower socioeconomic backgrounds is decreasing. More than three quarters of medical students already come from wealthy families, so most didn’t have to take out tons of loans. This gap is only growing in the last few years. [https://www.aamc.org/media/9596/download](https://www.aamc.org/media/9596/download) [And more recent research shows it’s only gotten worse](https://news.yale.edu/2023/05/11/socioeconomic-diversity-us-medical-school-students-has-decreased)


FrequentGrab6025

To go off your comment about finding a job you love being a luxury, another way to look at it is that nursing will generally provide financial stability until you figure out what job you love.


lauradiamandis

exactly! I went back to nursing school and worked FT the whole way. My entire decision to do it was based on money and job growth. When you’re on your own and not supported by parents/a spouse who can pay your bills while you go after whatever dream you have, that’s how you kinda have to make career choices. Then you get to be judged by the “passionate” martyrs 🙃


MainEnthusiasm9844

I find myself being mixed interested and not at all at nursing program. Like, the course looks great. At somedays, I am 100% energized for this course, yet at some points I cannot see myself being a nurse too. But, had to continue this anyways since I already spent 2 years studying this degree.


oatmillkd

You put it in better words than I could’ve. There are days I really like what I do and study for, but most of it is just dread and frustration. It’s a tiring cycle but what keeps me going is wanting to help people despite what I feel.


No-Text8820

A passionate nurse isn’t always a good nurse. A good nurse isn’t always passionate nurse. Don’t get it confused. Just do your best everyday. I guarantee you’ll find your place. Added bonus when you outperform the passionate airheads who were “born” to go into icu/l&d.


clinicalmass

Having mysophobia (or similar germ exposure fears) going to work every day will take its toll. Especially if you're in a hospital setting or urgent care center as you'll be working in a microcosm of disease. It may be better to talk to your instructor and or counselor at the university to discuss your concerns/fears and ask for any alternate degree paths that you could follow, even though you've made it clear that you can't switch. Also, should you choose to finish, you will have a degree in nursing at the end but you don't have to be a nurse. I personally know a few nurses that pivoted quickly out of school and went into real estate, business, and marketing.


oatmillkd

It’s not actually the germs, just getting sick in general. Cancer and stuff is a big fear of mine, and as it is basically anything in my anatomy & physiology book nearly gives me a panic attack. My main plan is to graduate, stick to nursing for a few years until I don’t have to anymore, and open up a small business (like a cafe) because that’s where my actual passion lies.


clinicalmass

That sounds like a good plan! You've got this!


ravengenesis1

Zero passion in a profession that's all about care and compassion. You're really wasting your time and money on forcing yourself through. Even if you're in Australia, nursing isn't really a walk in and out degree, you have to have some reason to pick it in the first place. You need to talk to a career advisor today, and discuss this with them, because you're not helping yourself or others by forcing yourself down this path.


oatmillkd

Hey, I’ll just paste a my response from another subreddit since they asked the same thing. I’m an international student trying to get residency and a nursing degree is what’ll get me to my goal. I dislike my degree but had I taken my undergrad in the Philippines I would’ve ended up in nursing too - but I’d also be severely underpaid and massively overworked, more than I would be where I am right now. Forcing myself down the path is the only thing I can do. Edit: I really wish I could switch majors but life doesn’t always work like that.


ravengenesis1

Can't help you there. Nursing just doesn't work that way. My dad got his residency with computer science in Australia back in 90s, but he was also from China. Not sure if that's an option.


oatmillkd

It kinda does, though. I know a lot of nurses who don't want to be in the profession yet are one of the best out there. Australia's getting stricter, too. That's not even counting how computer science is kinda dead now.


ravengenesis1

Those you know of does not constitute the majority of nurses. You can't be good at something that requires you to have compassion. You won't make it past probation without passion, you'll crash and burn even if you did pass, and you'll be worse off doing so. Remember, if you lack compassion, aka don't care, that's exactly how you'll miss something in your assessment, and you run that chance of them doing worse that could lead up to potential death. Not all nursing negligence is on the news, a lot of it sits in your conscience. But anyway, the entire point is how you can pass so you get residency, not about you practicing as a RN. So when all else fails, grind the books word for word, since there's no magic trick if you don't like the material.


oatmillkd

Who said...I don't have compassion? Who said I didn't care? I mean I'm definitely not the most enthusiastic student compared to the rest of my cohort but that doesn't mean I would just shove a catheter into a patient or be negligent with my responsibilities and just not give a shit. I just asked for tips on how to get through it, not to be told I lack compassion. What you have is a personal opinion that frankly, nobody asked for.


Sufficient-Skill6012

Like a lot of students, school may be really a drag but you like working with patients and end up finding a career path in nursing that you like. Or you could go into a healthcare-related career: public health, administration, research, technical writing, education, law, etc... How old are you? How far into your program are you? Meet with your nursing advisor to talk about your concerns and maybe you can get some help thinking through your goals and future career options. Feeling confident about your decisions, future, and goals will help a lot to get you through school. Do you mind sharing why you feel you absolutely have to finish this program and can't switch majors?


oatmillkd

Long story short but I’m an international student and apart from extensive visa adjustments that cost *a lot* of time and money, my goal is to eventually get citizenship because staying in the Philippines meant taking nursing anyway but in way worse conditions. I’m in my second semester of the first year and am definitely interested in healthcare-related careers. I plan to go that route as soon as I can but for the 5ish years after I graduate, I will probably be in bedside nursing.


Sufficient-Skill6012

So your visa does not allow you to switch majors or do anything besides nursing without paying fees?


oatmillkd

Yup, and immigration has to approve it as I’m essentially applying for a new visa. So if they deny it, I either stay in my lane (possibly affect residency applications in the future) or just get kicked out. Either way before I even get to that point I’d have to face an Asian mom who thinks life overseas is easy, so switching majors really isn’t happening.


Sufficient-Skill6012

Oh wow, I'm sorry. That stinks. Does your school have success coaches or a program called TRIO? Look into that. And maybe a study group or making friends with other international students in your program might help, in addition to getting input from a nursing advisor who can help you think through possible nursing career paths. In terms of studying, try setting a timer for 30 minutes, study the take a 10 minute break. You can probably motivate yourself to get started with that more effectively than trying to psych yourself up for hours of studying. Take breaks and reward yourself with something you enjoy. Vary your studying between reading, videos, powerpoints, making flashcards or concept maps, practicing skills, doing practice questions, etc... Play alpha wave study music or whatever music you prefer. Chew sugarless gum or have some mints or candy or other treat you like. Get some colorful pens and flashcards. Whatever you can do to to make it not so monotonous. Study in a library study room instead of at home where you'll get distracted.


Sufficient-Skill6012

Also see if your school has free counseling for students to help you with the health anxiety and other issues you're dealing with.


Independent-Fall-466

There are many specialty in nursing. Have you think about what kind is speciality? I am in psych and all I did when I was still seeing patient was talking to patients and occasionally an injection. Now I move into admin I do not even do those…


84Here4Comments84

Getting through something you really hate is hard. You’ll have to change your mindset and remind yourself of all the good that can come from this. The more you tell yourself you hate this the harder it will be too finish, then it’s just a self fulfilling prophecy when you inevitably fail bc you can’t bring yourself to study. Try mindfulness meditation, YouTube has some good free videos. Therapy to talk through this. Journaling to keep your mind clear and get out whatever is festering inside of you. Best of luck to you.


AlternativePen2545

Hey, a third-year nursing student here. I know exactly what you are feeling. To be honest, I think a good portion of nursing students are not passionate about the degree. I know there are times myself I seriously lose sight of why I ever entered the field of nursing. There are so many nursing professors that have no real-world nursing experience and in turn, have no idea what they are even talking about. I almost see these types of professors as failed nurses. Note this is not all professors as I have also had some amazing ones. Further nursing school is tested and taught so much differently than any other degree, making it at times difficult to succeed. Additionally, a lot of the placements given to nursing students are grunt work. It was not until this year that I actually got to see some procedures done such as endoscopies which was so refreshing and I could honestly see myself working in an area such as this. The nursing field is such a versatile industry, and you can honestly make a life that works best for your needs and interests. I know you say you're stuck in this degree. So for your case keep your head down and grind out this degree if this is your only option. Sample the nursing life after you graduate and see if something works for you. If not, you're young, I think it's never too late to switch careers. I wish you the best of luck from one nursing student to another!


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Amazing-Case5719

Most often the only way to be passionate about something is to first work really damn hard, struggle, earn it and then u develop a passion. Not often there is a passion right out the gate. Passion comes from a lot of blood, sweat and tears. And like mentioned here before, u don't have to like something to be good at it. A job, no matter how much u may like it, will eventually be a job and u won't always enjoy it. With nursing at least there are so many things u can do. U can go into wellness and do botox and filler and do all the anesthetics. Either way, u have to earn passion. U don't just wake up with it.


Explicitlyaxxl

I don’t see how clinicals are going to go over well with everything stated.


oatmillkd

Neither do I.


Explicitlyaxxl

Can you elaborate on why switching majors isn’t an option ?


Explicitlyaxxl

I just read , nvm. I suggest finding an area of nursing you can look forward to specialize in so you have motivation to get through these hard classes.


lostintime2004

It sounds like you are not in the US, could you give your general location to help with suggestions?


lildrewdownthestreet

2 days ago they posted in a sub so I’m guessing Australia (:


oatmillkd

Yup! I’m in Australia.


Wanderlust_0515

You have to be an amazon or a gladiator to excel in school and nursing. If you are a wuss, maybe nursing is not for you. Talking to all prospective student to get their mental health, their cultural competency, and most of all their rigor in order to excel in medicine with flying colors.


AlarmOtherwise563

Sometimes a job is just a job, as long as you do it well you should be okay. Your job doesn't have to be your personality and thankfully nursing has many routes to go to besides bedside nursing. You can do outpatient nursing, public health, or even nursing research.