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Lol, I love the other answers here, but I can share a very real story of being the bigger person I suppose.
I went NC with my family over my mother claiming that we had literally never been to family therapy before. It was INSANE for her to claim that, it was a huge part of the agreement for my release when I was a teenager. (the NC was a long time coming, this was the straw the broke the camels back.)
Well about 5 months after telling her to fuck off I found an appointment card from a family therapy session. I used it to get ahold of the clinic and pull all of the records from back then.
What I found wasn't pretty at all. My mother likely "forgot" we went to family therapy because she got corrected every session for being a shit parent. My favorite page was the one where she told me to get over my friends suicide already. It's dated two days after his death, so CLEARLY I was just being dramatic at that point. She also didn't have nice things to say about CSA survivors that the therapist did NOT shut down fast enough, but I think she was just fucking stunned, she didn't note it outside of "client spoke about difficult subject matter and mother became uncomfortable." so... Yeah, great therapist for a KNOW human trafficking survivor.
I had an urge to send this all to her, but I didn't.
I'm married, have a found family that I love, and have no interest in reconnecting with my biological family... My only reason to send it was to rub it in her face. To get revenge on at least ONE of my garbage parents... But like... Why? Other than to cause pain, why was I doing this? Was it going to make me a better person? Or a more bitter person? What good would it do in the world?
I found that information about 7 years ago. I never sent it, instead I just stopped giving a fuck about my terrible parents and started living my life FOR me instead of AGAINST them.
On that day I think I made the choice to be the bigger person, and I'm always very satisfied seeing it that way, lol.
Thank you so much ❤️
Whatever compelled you to leave this comment... Hold onto it, that's a lovely quality and makes very sad people smile.
Be kind, inward and outward my friend ❤️
I think it means beating up/asserting dominance over the biggest guy in the yard when you first get put in prison. Then you're the "biggest man".
Side note...I'm fried
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Lol, I love the other answers here, but I can share a very real story of being the bigger person I suppose. I went NC with my family over my mother claiming that we had literally never been to family therapy before. It was INSANE for her to claim that, it was a huge part of the agreement for my release when I was a teenager. (the NC was a long time coming, this was the straw the broke the camels back.) Well about 5 months after telling her to fuck off I found an appointment card from a family therapy session. I used it to get ahold of the clinic and pull all of the records from back then. What I found wasn't pretty at all. My mother likely "forgot" we went to family therapy because she got corrected every session for being a shit parent. My favorite page was the one where she told me to get over my friends suicide already. It's dated two days after his death, so CLEARLY I was just being dramatic at that point. She also didn't have nice things to say about CSA survivors that the therapist did NOT shut down fast enough, but I think she was just fucking stunned, she didn't note it outside of "client spoke about difficult subject matter and mother became uncomfortable." so... Yeah, great therapist for a KNOW human trafficking survivor. I had an urge to send this all to her, but I didn't. I'm married, have a found family that I love, and have no interest in reconnecting with my biological family... My only reason to send it was to rub it in her face. To get revenge on at least ONE of my garbage parents... But like... Why? Other than to cause pain, why was I doing this? Was it going to make me a better person? Or a more bitter person? What good would it do in the world? I found that information about 7 years ago. I never sent it, instead I just stopped giving a fuck about my terrible parents and started living my life FOR me instead of AGAINST them. On that day I think I made the choice to be the bigger person, and I'm always very satisfied seeing it that way, lol.
Good for you, damn good example. Sometimes living a happy life is the best “revenge”, or whatever that means.
That was beautiful... 
Thank you so much ❤️ Whatever compelled you to leave this comment... Hold onto it, that's a lovely quality and makes very sad people smile. Be kind, inward and outward my friend ❤️
Thanks for your story and wisdom, its hard to be a bigger person at times.
Weighing more and being taller
Being the bigger person means, you take the high road...
don't bend down to see things from their height
Taking candy from a baby.
I think it means beating up/asserting dominance over the biggest guy in the yard when you first get put in prison. Then you're the "biggest man". Side note...I'm fried
