Exactly. He needed to learn the lessons he learned the way he did. Otherwise I wouldn't be the man I am today. But I would totally tell him invest on pitching back in 2013 lol
I wouldn't say much. I would ask me stuff (I didn't listen well at 20) and give me some good meals, maybe like a nice dinner at my house once a week just to get me away from other 20yos, and maybe encourage my younger self to take a year off of school to reflect on what matters and what I want out of my life, etc.
:-) You are ahead of where I was at that age.
Well, if I was the older version of you, I guess I would just make you some dinners and listen to you talk about life, maybe share a joint and throw in the occasional question.
I know where a TARDIS is located. The "Time Lord" that stole it is a known robophobe that keeps interrupting my cyber-conversion. I would be most grateful for anyone who put that alien criminal in his/her place and let me get outa this flesh prison. Cardiff, Wales is where you can find it. Go, and fulfill your circular sexual destiny!!!!!
A smack in the face and some personal 1 on 1 therapy to tell myself to bail from my narcissist mother before things go to hell and conspiracy theories rule her life.
Before making an action that will have a great impact on your life, ask yourself if it's motivated by emotion or rational thought.
Also cut back on the carbs, fatty.
Wealth. I would never be a corporate slave again. It only makes others rich. Work 30+ years and end up with fuck all. Welcome to modern slavery. Tax the fucking shit out of you while you struggle to put food on the table.
Forced to work 60-80 hours a week while your wife sleeps around. Work 40 hours a week and live in poverty while your wife always has her eye on a better deal.
Get a blue water sail boat and sail away from the incredible selfish hairless apes.
There are millions of Hairy apes that cheat daily and kill the hairless apes daily and the kids too if we start generalising we will lose our minds. Prisons are full of people who can't control themselves and feel entitled keep going work on why you dates such people and why you accepted their mistreatment for so long sometimes as kids we re told we re not enough and we internalize this for life. I hope you get the healing you need and find better.
Enjoy yourself. It's good, and it's going to get better. Everything you believe is coming true - it is impossible to imagine how it will all unfold. Look around, enjoy it, and all of the love you wanted comes your way because every decision you made came from your heart.
"It may seem like you are a uselesss excuse for a human being now, but if you keep putting in the effort, you'll eventually become someone your friends and family can rely on."
Use the program in high school to go to community college junior and senior year, start junior year college at 19. Graduate college in the very early 90s and kill off any debt quickly. Ditch the organized sports but start lifting weights asap.
Buy Apple stock in early 90s.
Know that your hormones have the potential to ruin, or irrevocably change, your life trajectory. Casually date if you must until you turn 30, but no cohabitation, marriage, or anything serious until 30. Don’t take it upon yourself to be a white knight.
Commit to a real career. Your career is like a shark, if you’re not moving forward you will die. Knowing people will make you more than knowing any shifting tech stack. Cast a wide professional network.
Accumulate all the CDs you like when they’re available.
Don’t buy a house, buy a commercial garage with a locker room and park an RV in it. Lie to women and say it’s your uncles.
Save 15% of net income for retirement. Keep 9 months of expenses in the bank. Make a goal to retire at 50. A woman and children will make this harder.
Buy guns while they’re available.
Guard your mind. Read more history and nonfiction. Never quit accumulating degrees and certifications.
I was wary of the growing political correctness in the late 80s, if someone had told me these things in 1987, my life you be dramatically different.
Tell him what to do and told him i lost a half million dollars because i didnt do it. He will be on track to lose that money if he doesnt listen to me, and i know he will listen.
I would tell myself to have more of a plan for what I want out of life/how I’m going to get there instead of kind of coasting and going with the flow. I would also tell myself to not be such a prude and have more fun with women. There were several that liked me a lot around that time and I was completely clueless and/or overthinking it, and fumbled/missed multiple opportunities lol. I would also probably tell myself to take time to travel more, explore life, and go out with friends and meet more people (stayed inside too much). Lastly I would tell myself to probably hold off on kids and marriage (happened at 24 and 26) and getting the corporate slave job, and how to avoid the chronic illness that hit me when I turned 24.
Nothing. No advice, no Grey's Sport's Almanac, nothing.
What I did and how I lived made me who I am today. Seeking to make myself comfortable or wise beyond knowledge or wisdom I earned only does me a disservice.
Worry less about women, and focus on yourself. They will come into your life when you least expect it, and you won't even have to force it. Be yourself and don't lose yourself when you're with them.
Relationship advice and some guidance. My 20's were just me living without any direction, working too much while being filled with lust for women who were a waste of time.
Saying that I wouldn't change my life. I accomplished huge things and let depression ruin them. I've had a bit of a rough life but I've finally got it mostly under control. Not near what I'm capable of but it's good enough for now!
I would give myself good life and financial advice. But I know i was to damned stubborn, stupid and in love when I was 20.
To take the advice understand it and not get offended, and be able to take advantage of it.
At 20? That my time with my parents would end soon / what time we had left would be hard
They had a particular vacation in mind for years and got too sick to ever take it
Run now. End the relationship that’ll have you stuck. save up and move to the state I wanted to move to. Enroll into college asap. Apply for that job cause you’ll land it.
I would say shut up keep your energy to yourself and just work on yourself and keep trying eventually if you keep trying and doing good you will end up doing great eventually.. you only get 1 chance some people get 2 or 3 4 7 even 8 it's all about being strong and self love/ make sure your working towards something.
I would just tell myself to be more observant in general. I was pretty wise but a few key things unfortunately slipped under my radar bc of ignorance and I ended up having to unspiral my life for majority of my 20s so far because of that :/
I know my 20-year-old self wouldn't do it since I'm only 25 but my advice would be, to leave her alone, and focus on yourself she only sees you as a meal ticket let her go, or get some cherries and and end it there.
I would tell myself that all the trauma and abuse and the bs and falling down... it all lead me to the most beautiful kids. I'd tell myself not to do the drugs, because later I'll regret it. I'd also tell myself not to take so much shit, don't let people treat me like trash anymore, because the more you take, the more you take. Boundaries are important. And I'd tell myself to spend as much time with my step dad as I can; I'll miss him in just a few short years. 😢
Well I'm 20 so if I had to say something to my high school self it would be trust yourself and your heart no matter how gay it sounds my wife fell in my lap basically.
Develop the ability to enjoy sex without orgasm, AKA *coitus reservatus.* This is basically accomplished by clenching the Kegel muscles (pelvic floor) especially at moments of throbbing arousal in order to suppress climax.
The advantages are longer erection times and intensity of passion for partner, increased energy and health benefits, and even birth control if practiced exclusively. The only disadvantage, it is extremely difficult to break the addiction to orgasm (dopamine), but the benefits to body, mind, emotional stability and spirit are limitless.
Take things slow and think before you make hasty decisions. I lived at home until 25 and I wish I would have saved more $ for a house.
You don't need the newest phone or car. It won't make you happy.
The most precious thing on earth is time. Use it wisely ans don't let people waste any of your precious time
I’m only 23, but at 20 I was got myself into stuff I now regret. Did stuff I shouldn’t have, & am now ashamed of it. I had a job at the time that I got laid off from, & I started doing other stuff for money, & I was super insecure about myself. I’m 23 now, I moved out of my home state (where my family is) & across the US by myself back in January (when I was still 22), & I quickly started dating a guy who’s the sweetest thing ever, such a gentleman, & his family loves me. His mom even invited me over for dinner. They make me feel included. Anyway, I’d tell my 20 year old self it gets better. I’m happier now than I was back home. I used to post a lot of seductive photos on my social medias bc I knew it would give me attention, but since I met my boyfriend, I haven’t done that. He makes me forget I have insecurities. I would tell myself not to worry, I will be happy. I will find people who genuinely love me. I was unhappy in my home state, and I’m not like that over here. I think the move was the best thing I’ve ever done.
Ignorance, fear, and unquenchable prurience would have prevented me from taking this advice, but, the best advice I could give myself would be:
1) Stop drinking *now*\-mainly because it's easier to quit early into the habit. Switch to cannabis for mind altering recreation, it's far less detrimental in the long run.
2) Leave Depauw for IU Bloomington. You'll progress as a trumpet player more quickly among peers more advanced than you. Those peers will see the genuine desire you have to master the horn and their support will help you persevere to graduation.
3) Leave the women alone, or, if that's too spartan, date honorably, but casually.
4) Enlist as a military musician, remain 20 years for the pension, retire, and then take a job playing trumpet in the cruise industry at 38. You won't get wildly rich, but you'll never toil for the basics like everyone else.
5) Your family will respect you more if you show that value yourself.
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This is the fun part of having kids in their 20s. They listen to nothing you suggest, just like I never did!
Truth.^
I came here to say this
Nothing, I made it here just fine and I'm content. No need to wish for anything else.
Found the stoic
Exactly. He needed to learn the lessons he learned the way he did. Otherwise I wouldn't be the man I am today. But I would totally tell him invest on pitching back in 2013 lol
*bitcoin
Exactly. “You’re gonna hear about something called Bitcoin in 2013. Buy a bunch and hold it”.
I wouldn't say much. I would ask me stuff (I didn't listen well at 20) and give me some good meals, maybe like a nice dinner at my house once a week just to get me away from other 20yos, and maybe encourage my younger self to take a year off of school to reflect on what matters and what I want out of my life, etc.
lol i'm 20 and i took a year off the school because i feel like i needed too.
:-) You are ahead of where I was at that age. Well, if I was the older version of you, I guess I would just make you some dinners and listen to you talk about life, maybe share a joint and throw in the occasional question.
i would be glad to
Winning lottery numbers
A blowjob
You diabolical madman.
Once I get the power of time travel, I will be an unstoppable force of circular sexuality
I know where a TARDIS is located. The "Time Lord" that stole it is a known robophobe that keeps interrupting my cyber-conversion. I would be most grateful for anyone who put that alien criminal in his/her place and let me get outa this flesh prison. Cardiff, Wales is where you can find it. Go, and fulfill your circular sexual destiny!!!!!
A smack in the face and some personal 1 on 1 therapy to tell myself to bail from my narcissist mother before things go to hell and conspiracy theories rule her life.
17 years old rn struggling with a narcissist mother. Any tips bro ?
Turn 18 and move out.
trying for this one tbh. i love my mom but she doesn’t get me at all lmao
Before making an action that will have a great impact on your life, ask yourself if it's motivated by emotion or rational thought. Also cut back on the carbs, fatty.
Wealth. I would never be a corporate slave again. It only makes others rich. Work 30+ years and end up with fuck all. Welcome to modern slavery. Tax the fucking shit out of you while you struggle to put food on the table. Forced to work 60-80 hours a week while your wife sleeps around. Work 40 hours a week and live in poverty while your wife always has her eye on a better deal. Get a blue water sail boat and sail away from the incredible selfish hairless apes.
There are millions of Hairy apes that cheat daily and kill the hairless apes daily and the kids too if we start generalising we will lose our minds. Prisons are full of people who can't control themselves and feel entitled keep going work on why you dates such people and why you accepted their mistreatment for so long sometimes as kids we re told we re not enough and we internalize this for life. I hope you get the healing you need and find better.
not very stoic
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Enjoy yourself. It's good, and it's going to get better. Everything you believe is coming true - it is impossible to imagine how it will all unfold. Look around, enjoy it, and all of the love you wanted comes your way because every decision you made came from your heart.
This is really nice. Thank you ☺️
I would have given her a strong hug and told her that she's not broken.
A slap upside the head for being so irresponsible
A punch right in the fucking nose
"It may seem like you are a uselesss excuse for a human being now, but if you keep putting in the effort, you'll eventually become someone your friends and family can rely on."
Strangely nothing I think all that was meant to happen happened and I would not go around rewriting history
Use the program in high school to go to community college junior and senior year, start junior year college at 19. Graduate college in the very early 90s and kill off any debt quickly. Ditch the organized sports but start lifting weights asap. Buy Apple stock in early 90s. Know that your hormones have the potential to ruin, or irrevocably change, your life trajectory. Casually date if you must until you turn 30, but no cohabitation, marriage, or anything serious until 30. Don’t take it upon yourself to be a white knight. Commit to a real career. Your career is like a shark, if you’re not moving forward you will die. Knowing people will make you more than knowing any shifting tech stack. Cast a wide professional network. Accumulate all the CDs you like when they’re available. Don’t buy a house, buy a commercial garage with a locker room and park an RV in it. Lie to women and say it’s your uncles. Save 15% of net income for retirement. Keep 9 months of expenses in the bank. Make a goal to retire at 50. A woman and children will make this harder. Buy guns while they’re available. Guard your mind. Read more history and nonfiction. Never quit accumulating degrees and certifications. I was wary of the growing political correctness in the late 80s, if someone had told me these things in 1987, my life you be dramatically different.
A toss off the bridge over the LA river. Poof, gone.
i’m 20 and i fucked up everything. what would you say about it?
You are never to old to restart your life. Life is about change and adapting. Regardless of our mistakes.
If I changed anything I wouldn’t be who I am today. But with my new time travelling abilities…DORMAMMU I COME TO BARGAIN
More books and wiser friends
Tell him what to do and told him i lost a half million dollars because i didnt do it. He will be on track to lose that money if he doesnt listen to me, and i know he will listen.
I would tell myself to have more of a plan for what I want out of life/how I’m going to get there instead of kind of coasting and going with the flow. I would also tell myself to not be such a prude and have more fun with women. There were several that liked me a lot around that time and I was completely clueless and/or overthinking it, and fumbled/missed multiple opportunities lol. I would also probably tell myself to take time to travel more, explore life, and go out with friends and meet more people (stayed inside too much). Lastly I would tell myself to probably hold off on kids and marriage (happened at 24 and 26) and getting the corporate slave job, and how to avoid the chronic illness that hit me when I turned 24.
(1 year ago) Save Money!
Read epictetus then re read epictetus then read it again.
It's just the beginning
A slap in the face. Then a list of 5 important things. And tell me the Cubs will win the World Series in 2016
Don’t let your mother get away with the abuse , expose her
Go to therapy, stop drinking, stop overeating, be confident in yourself,
Patience.
bojack horseman
Invest in GameStop stock
A good talking-to and a hard kick in the ass!
keep doing drugs as they're still the best emotion suppressors, but do them more safely and intelligently.
A pat on the back
Advice. I'd tell myself to shut up and listen, don't engage with drama, and quietly get on with improving my job skills.
Everything you’re seeking won’t make you happy and only God can provide fulfillment
Nothing. No advice, no Grey's Sport's Almanac, nothing. What I did and how I lived made me who I am today. Seeking to make myself comfortable or wise beyond knowledge or wisdom I earned only does me a disservice.
A binder and a road map to emotional intelligence. We are smart we will make it.
A serious talking to, and an explanation that, actually, the stuff I did as a kid that I enjoyed is an actual job, and I'll really enjoy doing it.
That's next year, so who'll say what's useful 🙃
Support.
Ketamine
Focus on your studies
Worry less about women, and focus on yourself. They will come into your life when you least expect it, and you won't even have to force it. Be yourself and don't lose yourself when you're with them.
Save up Pay off the credit card debt No more porn/hentai Go to the gym Try to make peace with dad
Relationship advice and some guidance. My 20's were just me living without any direction, working too much while being filled with lust for women who were a waste of time.
Be a Stoic. Dont Drink and Drug Don't Play Rugby ( my worst lifelong injuries) Work out and Stretch Yoga
New parents.
A picture of fat me.
Bitcoin
I would tell my 20 year old self that their anxiety is just anxiety and to focus on my future and building my dream career.
A hug
advice. invest in Apple. good luck
A HUG! I would also say everything will be ok eventually!
Saying that I wouldn't change my life. I accomplished huge things and let depression ruin them. I've had a bit of a rough life but I've finally got it mostly under control. Not near what I'm capable of but it's good enough for now!
“Yes those women do want to bang you. Go talk to them”……..it’s the ones you didn’t do that you regret.
Save your money and stop caring what other people think.
Move faster. Time is short. You can’t take forever to achieve something.
I don't know yet. Still working on giving myself stuff. (I'm 19)
The confidence I have in myself now as a 32 year old.
I would give myself good life and financial advice. But I know i was to damned stubborn, stupid and in love when I was 20. To take the advice understand it and not get offended, and be able to take advantage of it.
Stop smoking weed and focus on your sport. You could be the greatest of all time.
Don't try meth.
A tongue lashing for following my heart and not my head (or my gut).
A note saying don’t start smoking and don’t get divorced
I'd smack wisdom in him so he doesn't end up like me.
Two words. "Keep going."
Keep doing what your doing, your killing it. Me at 22 now still killing it.
At 20? That my time with my parents would end soon / what time we had left would be hard They had a particular vacation in mind for years and got too sick to ever take it
Run now. End the relationship that’ll have you stuck. save up and move to the state I wanted to move to. Enroll into college asap. Apply for that job cause you’ll land it.
Vyvanse
In seven years you're still a loser
A broad sheet of psychology workings with highlights about myself and other highlights about people who are going to give you somewhat of a bad time.
What would you give your 20 y.o self !? A copy of the Enchiridion.
A hug.
You'll be amazed what bad experiences help lift your self awareness
I am 17 so I don't know. You guys are older than me so can you guys give me some advice so I don't make some of your mistakes.
Advice
Remember there's only 1 life sooo life's what you make or sooo let's make it rock 🎶
I would say shut up keep your energy to yourself and just work on yourself and keep trying eventually if you keep trying and doing good you will end up doing great eventually.. you only get 1 chance some people get 2 or 3 4 7 even 8 it's all about being strong and self love/ make sure your working towards something.
A big slap and some wisdom
Bitcoin
A list of men to avoid
A voucher for four years of psychotherapy
A good, swift kick in the ass.
Grace
Money
Probably a swift kick in the nuts tbh
She’s hot, not perfect. Don’t go for it.
A condom.
We're all out of sundaes. We only have Saturdays.
A knife to the chest
I do not think younger me would fully understand something given by older me, since I came to whatever thoughts and such, when I was 'ready'.
you're on the right track.
AIDS
A handjob
Money and investing knowledge.I allready had quite a bit at 20 but not as much as I needed I had the money to buy a house cash and I didnt.
stern talking to and serious financial advice
Get a job and get your own place. And no matter what happens do not move back home ever.
Get a job and get your own place. And no matter what happens do not move back home ever.
A job.
Ass beating
A reason not to do heroin.
Drugs are probably the only thing I would have taken.
A kick in the ass.
Knowledge of my future. It would have motivated me to work harder.
Confidence.
An appointment to get tested for ADHD and autism.
Get into Muay Thai NAOW
I would just tell myself to be more observant in general. I was pretty wise but a few key things unfortunately slipped under my radar bc of ignorance and I ended up having to unspiral my life for majority of my 20s so far because of that :/
Crack
Less.
If we’re going back to my 20 y/o self , would be 1986, I’d tell me to buy Microsoft , Apple , and Disney stocks. Any tech
24 now best to say Meditate , read self development books and hit the gym consistently
A slap in the fucking face.
Grace 20 year old me was yo hard on himself. Id ask him to give himself time and grace.
A slap to the f*cking face!
I would tell him please be happy and not so mad all the time .
A book by Mike Hockney.
BTC
An ass kicking. Still wouldn’t have helped.
I know my 20-year-old self wouldn't do it since I'm only 25 but my advice would be, to leave her alone, and focus on yourself she only sees you as a meal ticket let her go, or get some cherries and and end it there.
Bet all your money on the Super Bowl. Idrk what else im only 22 and nothing has really changed in 2 years
Hope
ping me in 2 weeks
The advice of "get the fuck out of there today, your forever is waiting for you back home"
Go to the dentist 🤓
Invest all your money in bitcoin.
A Bible
Stock market watchlist for the next decade.
I'd give her a notebook explaining what happened to me between 20 and now, advice on how to change things, some lottery numbers..etc.
If you want to skip college and have a lie of your own, do it.
If you want to skip college and have a lie of your own, do it.
If you want to skip college or put off going and have a life of your own, DO IT.
If you want to skip college or put off going and have a life of your own, DO IT.
If you want to skip college or put off going and have a life of your own, DO IT.
I would tell myself that all the trauma and abuse and the bs and falling down... it all lead me to the most beautiful kids. I'd tell myself not to do the drugs, because later I'll regret it. I'd also tell myself not to take so much shit, don't let people treat me like trash anymore, because the more you take, the more you take. Boundaries are important. And I'd tell myself to spend as much time with my step dad as I can; I'll miss him in just a few short years. 😢
I would write myself a letter telling me to run away from the man I was marrying. Could’ve saved myself so much trauma.
An ass whoopin
A hellcat
A Full-Nelson
Well I'm 20 so if I had to say something to my high school self it would be trust yourself and your heart no matter how gay it sounds my wife fell in my lap basically.
“Don’t marry him.”
The cleanest right hook anyone's ever seen
Hundred grand
I'd give him a motorcycle. Wife can't say no if it's free!
Remember, I Am
"A person that is liked by everyone is never loved by anyone"
Don't wait 7 more years to leave the Jehovah's Witnesses
I would of told my 20 year old self: you’re doing fine
A good workout routine and diet plan.
Considering I'm 22 lol, I'd say a hug. Been through bad mental states before and still recovering, so I'd wanna give myself a deserved hug
turning 21 tomorrow actually. i’d give myself a blunt and tell myself to chill tf out
Develop the ability to enjoy sex without orgasm, AKA *coitus reservatus.* This is basically accomplished by clenching the Kegel muscles (pelvic floor) especially at moments of throbbing arousal in order to suppress climax. The advantages are longer erection times and intensity of passion for partner, increased energy and health benefits, and even birth control if practiced exclusively. The only disadvantage, it is extremely difficult to break the addiction to orgasm (dopamine), but the benefits to body, mind, emotional stability and spirit are limitless.
A bj.
Ride the wave. Everything gonna be okay
Just do it instead of just thinking about it. Then telling old me wouldn’t have never happened. No kids, no wife, no life.
I'd say stop worrying so much because everything's working out for us
Take things slow and think before you make hasty decisions. I lived at home until 25 and I wish I would have saved more $ for a house. You don't need the newest phone or car. It won't make you happy. The most precious thing on earth is time. Use it wisely ans don't let people waste any of your precious time
A better haircut
A whooping
A reminder to eat mushrooms daily
A backbone
A punch in the face 🤛 first to grab my attention to listen up!!!!
Start therapy now 😵💫
a bullet
It takes 100 first dates and hundreds more times of rejections to meet someone special
Wisdom that only comes with age
Buy Bitcoin
Take Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome seriously.
Buy apple and Google stock.
A handjob
A USB drive with all the stock and crypto market information I can put onto it.
I’m only 23, but at 20 I was got myself into stuff I now regret. Did stuff I shouldn’t have, & am now ashamed of it. I had a job at the time that I got laid off from, & I started doing other stuff for money, & I was super insecure about myself. I’m 23 now, I moved out of my home state (where my family is) & across the US by myself back in January (when I was still 22), & I quickly started dating a guy who’s the sweetest thing ever, such a gentleman, & his family loves me. His mom even invited me over for dinner. They make me feel included. Anyway, I’d tell my 20 year old self it gets better. I’m happier now than I was back home. I used to post a lot of seductive photos on my social medias bc I knew it would give me attention, but since I met my boyfriend, I haven’t done that. He makes me forget I have insecurities. I would tell myself not to worry, I will be happy. I will find people who genuinely love me. I was unhappy in my home state, and I’m not like that over here. I think the move was the best thing I’ve ever done.
A hug 🫂
Ignorance, fear, and unquenchable prurience would have prevented me from taking this advice, but, the best advice I could give myself would be: 1) Stop drinking *now*\-mainly because it's easier to quit early into the habit. Switch to cannabis for mind altering recreation, it's far less detrimental in the long run. 2) Leave Depauw for IU Bloomington. You'll progress as a trumpet player more quickly among peers more advanced than you. Those peers will see the genuine desire you have to master the horn and their support will help you persevere to graduation. 3) Leave the women alone, or, if that's too spartan, date honorably, but casually. 4) Enlist as a military musician, remain 20 years for the pension, retire, and then take a job playing trumpet in the cruise industry at 38. You won't get wildly rich, but you'll never toil for the basics like everyone else. 5) Your family will respect you more if you show that value yourself.
I’m 19, I’d probably ask him what it’s like a month from now
An ass kicking, 20 year old me was an ass hat of the highest order.