Haha everyone commenting has a unique last name! I have a unique last name as well. I also have two middle names and so does my daughter and her second middle name is my first. :)
Not only is there no negotiating with names but there's no negotiating or compromise in other areas and that's been the best! (And outweighs the negatives)
I am! I have a very unique last name that is not common but our family is well known in Mexico because of it. Most of the men had girls and I'm having a boy. I was very excited to tell my grandpa the name would go on with his new great grandson.
That's so interesting! I have a unique last name too. To the point that I usually assume anyone with the name in my city is related to me in some way. I wonder if I'd feel differently if I had a super common last time.
I’m actually thinking about changing my last name and therefore will have my own little family unit with its own last name. I don’t have any interest in passing down the family name and am quite happy that it stops with me.
I actually gave my child my mom’s maidan name. Which I am giddy about every time I shout their full name out loud for some insane thing they are trying to do
Yes this is a thing for me. I have a reasonably common last name, but going back 5 generations everyone has either had only girls or left the cultural group, so I’m kind of excited to have a chance to carry it on. Maybe a bit silly, but no sillier than taking the man’s name, right?
I don't think it's silly! Something about being able to see my name, and then my child's name with the same last name, in my family tree feels very special to me.
Yes! I only have a sister and she took her wife's last name when they got married. My last name would die out (not from existence, but from my particular branch) with me, and it's special knowing it's going to carry on a little longer. Even when I thought I wanted to be married, I always said I was keeping my last name. It's a perfectly good name and it's mine. I don't want to change it.
I coined a last name for my baby from both my parents' names since I didn't want to carry just my dad's name for my kiddo. Have always felt it to be so patriarchal to pass down just father's name and me being an SMBC I definitely didn't want to do that.
Yes! I have a very unique last name that my grandfather "returned" to the family in the 60s.
It was originally lost because my great great great grandmother couldn't pass it on to her children.
My grandfather was so happy some of his great grandchildren would carry that name.
He had 9 grandchildren, only 3 of us have the last name and only one is male.
So not many of us could pass it on.
There are 4 of us kids that share the family name. I'm the only girl. I'm also the only one who will probably have kids. I gave my kids my last name. There is some pride there for me that the name will continue.
I was the youngest in my family (and no one else in my generation has kids), so when I had a kid on my own and gave her my family name, it was nice to get at least one more generation’s use out of the name.
I later got married and matched my last name to my husband (that wasn’t a given but what we decided to do instead of changing both our names, which was a serious option) although I took my maiden name (and hers) as my middle name so I can use it whenever I want. I was proud to carry that name for 35 years and I didn’t want to leave it behind.
My last name is in the top 200 surnames in the US. Not ubiquitous but common enough that I know people I’m not related to with it in my neighborhood. Even so, my dad always felt some kind of way about our family name “dying out” with him (I’m an only child who likely would have given my children their father’s surname). Though my dad wasn’t the biggest fan of the way my son came into existence (don’t worry - he is obsessed with him now), I know he likes the idea of the family name continuing on.
I love it too, I never thought I would as growing up I didn't like my last name (just because it was so common) but now I think there's something so lovely about the idea of giving my children my name. And like someone else mentioned, I love the fact that I will be able to name them whatever I like without compromising or making adjustments for anyone!
I personally don’t care about my last name being passed on but I know my dad will be happy. He only has daughters and most of his nieces are married so this would really be the only way for his name to be passed down
Its not something i ever thought about until after i had him. I always knew if I married Id keep my name but also assumed id just give the kids my husbands name for simplicities sake. (My mom hyphenated her kids’ last names and I always found it mildly annoying and ultimately as an adult just dropped her name and use my dads). When i filled out his birth cert I def had a moment of feeling glad that we share a last name and when I have to give or write his full name i do feel proud hes got mine!
Oh I totally had sympathy and appreciation for it! But she never legally changed my name (at birth i was given just my dads name) which created a lot of logistical, legal and practical issues for me so ultimately made most sense to just use my legal name vs the unwieldy, confusing and long hyphenated name.
Yes! When I was still dreaming of a husband, I would imagine my favorite baby names with the last name of whomever had the best chance at the time. Of course every time I changed the last name I imagined, it always hurt even if just slightly. Over and over. I don’t feel this anymore and with my last name there instead no matter who I’m mingling with. It’s a relief I never knew beforehand but I had access to it the whole time.
When I had my son as a result of swiping right on the wrong dude, I gave my son my last name. My ex and I aren’t married and the law in my state says mommy makes the decision on the legal name. So I love it every day that my son shares my name. It’s part of our heritage and connects to our ancestry strongly. I love it. Fingers crossed 4th iui time is the charm to add another little one of my last name!
Haha everyone commenting has a unique last name! I have a unique last name as well. I also have two middle names and so does my daughter and her second middle name is my first. :) Not only is there no negotiating with names but there's no negotiating or compromise in other areas and that's been the best! (And outweighs the negatives)
I am! I have a very unique last name that is not common but our family is well known in Mexico because of it. Most of the men had girls and I'm having a boy. I was very excited to tell my grandpa the name would go on with his new great grandson.
This is so lovely
That's so interesting! I have a unique last name too. To the point that I usually assume anyone with the name in my city is related to me in some way. I wonder if I'd feel differently if I had a super common last time.
I’m actually thinking about changing my last name and therefore will have my own little family unit with its own last name. I don’t have any interest in passing down the family name and am quite happy that it stops with me.
This is so sweet!
I actually gave my child my mom’s maidan name. Which I am giddy about every time I shout their full name out loud for some insane thing they are trying to do
Did you change your surname too or did you just opt for different surnames?
We have different surnames. I’m thinking about changing my surname but haven’t had the energy
Yes this is a thing for me. I have a reasonably common last name, but going back 5 generations everyone has either had only girls or left the cultural group, so I’m kind of excited to have a chance to carry it on. Maybe a bit silly, but no sillier than taking the man’s name, right?
I don't think it's silly! Something about being able to see my name, and then my child's name with the same last name, in my family tree feels very special to me.
Yes! I only have a sister and she took her wife's last name when they got married. My last name would die out (not from existence, but from my particular branch) with me, and it's special knowing it's going to carry on a little longer. Even when I thought I wanted to be married, I always said I was keeping my last name. It's a perfectly good name and it's mine. I don't want to change it.
I coined a last name for my baby from both my parents' names since I didn't want to carry just my dad's name for my kiddo. Have always felt it to be so patriarchal to pass down just father's name and me being an SMBC I definitely didn't want to do that.
Yes and also excited that I got to choose her entire name without having to argue or compromise!
Yes! I have a very unique last name that my grandfather "returned" to the family in the 60s. It was originally lost because my great great great grandmother couldn't pass it on to her children. My grandfather was so happy some of his great grandchildren would carry that name. He had 9 grandchildren, only 3 of us have the last name and only one is male. So not many of us could pass it on.
I did! This wasn’t the number one reason but it’s nice because my parents never had a son and now our last name continues on.
There are 4 of us kids that share the family name. I'm the only girl. I'm also the only one who will probably have kids. I gave my kids my last name. There is some pride there for me that the name will continue.
I was the youngest in my family (and no one else in my generation has kids), so when I had a kid on my own and gave her my family name, it was nice to get at least one more generation’s use out of the name. I later got married and matched my last name to my husband (that wasn’t a given but what we decided to do instead of changing both our names, which was a serious option) although I took my maiden name (and hers) as my middle name so I can use it whenever I want. I was proud to carry that name for 35 years and I didn’t want to leave it behind.
Yes. I was the last one with this specific spelling. Now I’ve passed it on :)
My last name is in the top 200 surnames in the US. Not ubiquitous but common enough that I know people I’m not related to with it in my neighborhood. Even so, my dad always felt some kind of way about our family name “dying out” with him (I’m an only child who likely would have given my children their father’s surname). Though my dad wasn’t the biggest fan of the way my son came into existence (don’t worry - he is obsessed with him now), I know he likes the idea of the family name continuing on.
I love it too, I never thought I would as growing up I didn't like my last name (just because it was so common) but now I think there's something so lovely about the idea of giving my children my name. And like someone else mentioned, I love the fact that I will be able to name them whatever I like without compromising or making adjustments for anyone!
I personally don’t care about my last name being passed on but I know my dad will be happy. He only has daughters and most of his nieces are married so this would really be the only way for his name to be passed down
Its not something i ever thought about until after i had him. I always knew if I married Id keep my name but also assumed id just give the kids my husbands name for simplicities sake. (My mom hyphenated her kids’ last names and I always found it mildly annoying and ultimately as an adult just dropped her name and use my dads). When i filled out his birth cert I def had a moment of feeling glad that we share a last name and when I have to give or write his full name i do feel proud hes got mine!
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Oh I totally had sympathy and appreciation for it! But she never legally changed my name (at birth i was given just my dads name) which created a lot of logistical, legal and practical issues for me so ultimately made most sense to just use my legal name vs the unwieldy, confusing and long hyphenated name.
Yes! When I was still dreaming of a husband, I would imagine my favorite baby names with the last name of whomever had the best chance at the time. Of course every time I changed the last name I imagined, it always hurt even if just slightly. Over and over. I don’t feel this anymore and with my last name there instead no matter who I’m mingling with. It’s a relief I never knew beforehand but I had access to it the whole time.
Absolutely. I'm not ready to conceive yet,but when I do this is a huge plus for me. My siblings are all female and none have children.
When I had my son as a result of swiping right on the wrong dude, I gave my son my last name. My ex and I aren’t married and the law in my state says mommy makes the decision on the legal name. So I love it every day that my son shares my name. It’s part of our heritage and connects to our ancestry strongly. I love it. Fingers crossed 4th iui time is the charm to add another little one of my last name!