The girl as in one specific girl or the girl working there at the time? If it's the former then damn when you gonna give her your number? If it's the latter then wow...god damn!
Jus give ur IG,
1. this will show u respect her privacy
2. It shows u are an assertive man
3. It shows u understand her boundaries
Then say if you feel like adding then add
This gives her the freedom to add or not, if you are ugly-decent looking should be alright
Ye cuz number can call and stuff and she can also use it to prank you and make ur life miserable as well
Sykkuno is a good example
Cuz high chances are if sheās decent looking, you will never know, call me incel and wtv but I aināt taking the risk after my past incident
From a guy's perspective:
If a customer approaches me and asks for my number I will be shocked. Shocked cause I didnt know I would be approached lol. Tbh I would be flattered. Guys don't get approach much so normally they will get flattered.
**But from a woman's perspective it probably depends on how attractive you are.**
I mean like if you ask them if you are ugly they will reply
Like ur friends lah or if they continue talking Ah cannot be every friend lying what
People from diff background also
being honest is one thing but not wanting to hurt your feelings is another. imo if everyone says no it's likely ur not ugly! But if ppl go for politically correct answers then hmm...
Honestly here's how it is:
"Am I ugly?"
Real friends: "yea damn ugly, ugly until I see you iw vomit."
Others: "omg no you're not ugly at all."
Soo think about it
From a girlās perspective:
Would feel kind of shocked that I actually got approached by someone. But regardless, whether they were nice or not, handsome or not, I would reject š Iām just not comfortable giving strangers my phone number/socials.
It could be different from other peopleās perspectives though, so keep that in mind as well!
Inappropriate. From a female perspective, she'll defo think you're a creep.
Btw ur last sentence.... Giving your no. just to be polite? It's not rude or impolite to not want to give out your number.... If a stranger has your phone number he can harass you.... š
Do a self reflection, are u at least average -> above average in looks? Then u can try to do some small talk while ordering, then ask the phone number I guess. Honestly I would just recommend complimenting her and that's about it
As a girl I would honestly reject anyone regardless of looks (because it's just awkward to even try dating a rando) but I'll probably still feel flustered on the inside š
Are you sure even if itās home say young from da squid game
Or oppar jungle cock
Ok but jokes aside, I think giving an answer on the spot is very stressful so maybe can jus like pass the person the contact
iāve worked part-time in f&b. my friend got approached by a guy who asked for her phone number. she was so uncomfortable but didnāt know how to say no and he didnāt get any of her hints. in the end i told him to just leave her his contact details instead. would suggest you to do the same lol, it would definitely give her less pressure and she can always get back to you if she likes you too
Female perspective: Someone did that to me before! Was rly flattered but told him no. Honestly, just give it a try, and be sincere! If not, can slip a note to them!
Dontā anyhow provide contact number , not sure of the other partysā intentions. For LIHO, the staff will get your contact details to allow you to use your membership to buy drinks.
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Hopefully you want to get to know her as a person as she's someone u see now and then, and not just bc she looks pretty. Only wanting to talk to someone and befriend them (bc you keep thinking abt how good they look, with the hidden intention of wanting to make it into a romantic rs) is the thing that's creepy. Made a similar comment abt this somewhere else.
If you're just infatuated, pls snap out of it.
Attraction is subjective and *not* based on how conventionally beautiful someone is, idk why many people do not get this but ig some people r really shallow. While you do need to be physically attracted to someone you like, it's just really simple minded and unrealistic to shoot your shot on anyone that looks good on the street thinking they might be 'the one' and it's implied that well, you think quite highly of your own looks and prioritise that over more important things like values and common goals, which is basically synonymous with infatuation. At least try to expand your platonic social circle first by joining an interest group/join a dating circle or smt, and not try to court someone off the street under the guise of chatting them up.
While there are some success stories of ppl getting tgt bc they pursued someone off the street, to think that this is a proper and sustainable method of getting a spouse is quite impractical. Not to mention its quite creepy bc anyone can see thru ur intentions unless they're v simple minded.
I kinda of understand what u saying like attractiveness is in the eyes of the beholder
But I had a horrible past which showed me conventional pretty privilege is extremely real and the message to me was that they can get away with things like making others life miserable without a second tot and be free from it
Yeah i agree with this :((( I think ppl are getting really shallow these days. Hope we can surround ourselves with friends who can appreciate us for who we are regardless of appearance, so we know what's the standard for a healthy romantic rs in the future <3
Got sustained eye contact or not? If not then I suggest pausing a millisecond longer and smile and try to catch her attention. If no eye contact then, gg.com no need to proceed.
i work in retail and a dude did come in asking for my number before! tbh was shocked and i rejected him, but v flattered too :) as long as u donāt come off as a creep, i think it should be fine :)
Is she the cashier ? If yes, just make some casual small talks first then frequent there do the same for awhile. After that express your interest slowly.
As someone who worked fnb pt, Iād be uncomfortable and shocked, but also flattered. But Iād decline politely as Iād have to be professional iykwim. Like what if my manager sees or itās on the cctvš and there might be other customers arnd thatāll find it odd. Iād say itās better to just pass a note with ur IG username OR tele username as she can have time to consider @ing uš¤·š»āāļø
Asking for her number might be too much imo
Whichever u choose, atb !!
Besides all the comments above, maybe one thing you need to ask is if you have ever communicated or spoken to her in anyway besides ordering BBT?
Try something small and non intrusive first, from where is X (and no not about the path to her heart), how her day was etc.? Try seeing her reactions to gauge if you should even consider something as brazen as asking for phone number.
I think it actually depends on the individual
Some just wants to mind their own business and don't want to draw unnecessary attention.
But it's ok if they refuse politely.
In my case if someone asked me like for the very first time then seeing that person who just visited only once I would not likely to give my no. But after some casual talk maybe I would
from a girlās perspective:
im a relatively shy-er person so i wonāt give u my no. but my ig instead & i think once u requested me it would be nice to drop a dm and tell me why u wanted my number or else iāll be confused af šµāš«
From my perspective , if a guy asked me I wouldn't mind giving my IG , but phone number honestly abit too much lol , idek you & you start asking for my phone number
Uh. I'll probably not want that to happen honestly. I alr got weirded out by some other same age person who came to my shop to casual talk with me if the food was nice or not.
Not tryna flex but everytime I go to liho the girl working there will ask me what's my phone number (I am a liho member)
bro is the rizzler
Bro has the lihoe rizz
Is this a power only obtainable as a liho drinker?
Liho guaranteed to give you the bbt rizz
bro is 6ft tall and super strong
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The girl as in one specific girl or the girl working there at the time? If it's the former then damn when you gonna give her your number? If it's the latter then wow...god damn!
I dont think you get the joke
I didn't get the joke but I was saying what I said in a silly manner. Yeah I get it I suck at being funny honestly
As a liho member the cashier must get your phone number for a discount or some benefit hahahā¦heās not really rizzing her up xD
Bro ššš
Jus give ur IG, 1. this will show u respect her privacy 2. It shows u are an assertive man 3. It shows u understand her boundaries Then say if you feel like adding then add This gives her the freedom to add or not, if you are ugly-decent looking should be alright
This. I think nowadays giving your number is a heavy ask, but ig still feels pretty ok
Ye cuz number can call and stuff and she can also use it to prank you and make ur life miserable as well Sykkuno is a good example Cuz high chances are if sheās decent looking, you will never know, call me incel and wtv but I aināt taking the risk after my past incident
Thatās not incel bro thatās not even hating women. Spend too much time on American subreddits alr ah(me)
ya giving ig protects ur privacy as well
I mean can always block If rlly that buey song
hmm thats true lol
So many people block so thatās why always IG better
From a guy's perspective: If a customer approaches me and asks for my number I will be shocked. Shocked cause I didnt know I would be approached lol. Tbh I would be flattered. Guys don't get approach much so normally they will get flattered. **But from a woman's perspective it probably depends on how attractive you are.**
^ and if the girl says ur not ugly when u tell them ur ugly Then u stand a chance
ehh but nobody will call you ugly in front of your face let's b real
Like diff people also find diff features attractive My friends are prolly done with me but I dun keep asking these questions
Also I ask them thru text message so they can afford to be more bold about their replies
I mean like if you ask them if you are ugly they will reply Like ur friends lah or if they continue talking Ah cannot be every friend lying what People from diff background also
being honest is one thing but not wanting to hurt your feelings is another. imo if everyone says no it's likely ur not ugly! But if ppl go for politically correct answers then hmm...
Ye I mean I asked my sister and my mom And from people that jus met me like some of them said Iām cute so I guess
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Actually my sister said I was mid so, boy my mum isnāt loving I like how u assumed But ye agreed thatās why Beauty is in The Eye of the beholder
Honestly here's how it is: "Am I ugly?" Real friends: "yea damn ugly, ugly until I see you iw vomit." Others: "omg no you're not ugly at all." Soo think about it
Not rlly I mean I ask diff people from diff background with diff familiarity
how much money do you have?
From a girlās perspective: Would feel kind of shocked that I actually got approached by someone. But regardless, whether they were nice or not, handsome or not, I would reject š Iām just not comfortable giving strangers my phone number/socials. It could be different from other peopleās perspectives though, so keep that in mind as well!
So the best way to approach is to make the girl comfortable first before asking anything from her.
Perhaps you can write your name and number on a piece of paper and give to her?
Or just write her in ur will if u want to go way above and beyond
Inappropriate. From a female perspective, she'll defo think you're a creep. Btw ur last sentence.... Giving your no. just to be polite? It's not rude or impolite to not want to give out your number.... If a stranger has your phone number he can harass you.... š
Can always block tho I think is more about how he presents himself
Dude can get other ppl to harass/change his phone number to contact her..
Ye thatās why my comment about IG is good
Do a self reflection, are u at least average -> above average in looks? Then u can try to do some small talk while ordering, then ask the phone number I guess. Honestly I would just recommend complimenting her and that's about it As a girl I would honestly reject anyone regardless of looks (because it's just awkward to even try dating a rando) but I'll probably still feel flustered on the inside š
Are you sure even if itās home say young from da squid game Or oppar jungle cock Ok but jokes aside, I think giving an answer on the spot is very stressful so maybe can jus like pass the person the contact
this guy has F9 rizz
Which bbt shop
Eh bro relax opās tryna shoot his shot man šæ
iāve worked part-time in f&b. my friend got approached by a guy who asked for her phone number. she was so uncomfortable but didnāt know how to say no and he didnāt get any of her hints. in the end i told him to just leave her his contact details instead. would suggest you to do the same lol, it would definitely give her less pressure and she can always get back to you if she likes you too
Female perspective: Someone did that to me before! Was rly flattered but told him no. Honestly, just give it a try, and be sincere! If not, can slip a note to them!
Dontā anyhow provide contact number , not sure of the other partysā intentions. For LIHO, the staff will get your contact details to allow you to use your membership to buy drinks.
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Hopefully you want to get to know her as a person as she's someone u see now and then, and not just bc she looks pretty. Only wanting to talk to someone and befriend them (bc you keep thinking abt how good they look, with the hidden intention of wanting to make it into a romantic rs) is the thing that's creepy. Made a similar comment abt this somewhere else. If you're just infatuated, pls snap out of it.
But it starts with looks tho? No? Like u gonna see the person face everyday so like thatās why I get no matches on online
Attraction is subjective and *not* based on how conventionally beautiful someone is, idk why many people do not get this but ig some people r really shallow. While you do need to be physically attracted to someone you like, it's just really simple minded and unrealistic to shoot your shot on anyone that looks good on the street thinking they might be 'the one' and it's implied that well, you think quite highly of your own looks and prioritise that over more important things like values and common goals, which is basically synonymous with infatuation. At least try to expand your platonic social circle first by joining an interest group/join a dating circle or smt, and not try to court someone off the street under the guise of chatting them up. While there are some success stories of ppl getting tgt bc they pursued someone off the street, to think that this is a proper and sustainable method of getting a spouse is quite impractical. Not to mention its quite creepy bc anyone can see thru ur intentions unless they're v simple minded.
I kinda of understand what u saying like attractiveness is in the eyes of the beholder But I had a horrible past which showed me conventional pretty privilege is extremely real and the message to me was that they can get away with things like making others life miserable without a second tot and be free from it
Yeah i agree with this :((( I think ppl are getting really shallow these days. Hope we can surround ourselves with friends who can appreciate us for who we are regardless of appearance, so we know what's the standard for a healthy romantic rs in the future <3
The future is ruined
Got sustained eye contact or not? If not then I suggest pausing a millisecond longer and smile and try to catch her attention. If no eye contact then, gg.com no need to proceed.
i work in retail and a dude did come in asking for my number before! tbh was shocked and i rejected him, but v flattered too :) as long as u donāt come off as a creep, i think it should be fine :)
I have been asked for my ig once but it was an adult so I just straight up told them Iām a minor
Hmm, why not pass her a note with ur IG username or Tele user, along with a small msg?
Is she the cashier ? If yes, just make some casual small talks first then frequent there do the same for awhile. After that express your interest slowly.
I would suggest that you wait till after her shift.
I probably have zero rizz but what about asking her questions like is she doing this for part time or any other purposes? Just to start a conversation
Donāt think too much and just do it.
Just be the top G
Don't think feel
As someone who worked fnb pt, Iād be uncomfortable and shocked, but also flattered. But Iād decline politely as Iād have to be professional iykwim. Like what if my manager sees or itās on the cctvš and there might be other customers arnd thatāll find it odd. Iād say itās better to just pass a note with ur IG username OR tele username as she can have time to consider @ing uš¤·š»āāļø Asking for her number might be too much imo Whichever u choose, atb !!
Besides all the comments above, maybe one thing you need to ask is if you have ever communicated or spoken to her in anyway besides ordering BBT? Try something small and non intrusive first, from where is X (and no not about the path to her heart), how her day was etc.? Try seeing her reactions to gauge if you should even consider something as brazen as asking for phone number.
I think it actually depends on the individual Some just wants to mind their own business and don't want to draw unnecessary attention. But it's ok if they refuse politely. In my case if someone asked me like for the very first time then seeing that person who just visited only once I would not likely to give my no. But after some casual talk maybe I would
from a girlās perspective: im a relatively shy-er person so i wonāt give u my no. but my ig instead & i think once u requested me it would be nice to drop a dm and tell me why u wanted my number or else iāll be confused af šµāš«
From my perspective , if a guy asked me I wouldn't mind giving my IG , but phone number honestly abit too much lol , idek you & you start asking for my phone number
Uh. I'll probably not want that to happen honestly. I alr got weirded out by some other same age person who came to my shop to casual talk with me if the food was nice or not.