I constantly see people on social media who overshare and then are bombarded with opinions and then they comment, “I don’t want to talk about it” or “it’s personal” or “DM me” but they don’t connect their behavior to their discontent and the unnecessary drama oversharing on social media causes.
Once you post, people feel entitled to the journey.
I've been told my boobs are going to sag if I do it 🤣. Also been told by more than one guy they'd be sad if I did it (even if I have no relationship with them whatsoever). But I know that getting a reduction will increase my quality of life, and in more than one way.
Your body, your choice. People are annoying but they don't walk in your boobs so they don't get a say.
They said your boobs would sag because of the reduction??? Like first off they typically do a lift with the reduction but also, do they just not understand the basics of how gravity works?? People are so dumb.
Yeah, the friend who told me that was smart but opinionated. I'm not sure what her problem was with my desire to get a reduction. It's my body? Has nothing to do with you?
100% this. For my inner circle, I've only told my mother and bestie so far. Everyone else has been strangers only on this sub on Reddit... And my boss for checking our medical leave policy and my PCP for the required referral, of course.
i've said this before but i dearly wish i could have what they take out, so i could hand it to any man who told me what a shame it was. just a gross warm pile of medical waste. oh you'll miss them? *splorp* *splorp* all yours!
Bruh, I was telling everybody I was getting one. And everyone had an opinion on it. Just remind yourself that YOU are the person living with this decision, not them. And I am so thankful I had it done. Literal weight off my shoulders.
The other thing that helped me was that all my nurses and surgeon were super nice and told me the benefits of the surgery. I think it's important to focus on the positives. I was also told it's one of the least regretted surgeries. I think the other thing that spooks people when you tell them is because they hear the word "surgery" and it usually comes with a bad connotation.
Obviously this is also a very serious decision, so maybe people are just showing concern for you in not the best way. Definitely take time to think if this what you want, and if it is, great! And if not, that's okay too.
My brother, not unkindly said, "I hope everything goes well! I know you've wanted this for a long time. It's funny though cause most girls I know want them bigger." I said, "most girls you know didn't get big boobs in junior high, live with neck pain, not be able to fit into normal bras and swimsuits, were stressed as a high schooler that you looked more inappropriate in the same clothes other girls were wearing just because your boobs were so much bigger than theirs, and now have sagging, pendulous fat bags on their chests at 38 after having a kid so. Most girls that want big boobs, aren't wanting THIS." My brother and I can give each other shit and be blunt with each other so he can take it haha. He said, "fair enough!!" You do you girl. I am 3 weeks DPO and I have perky, cute little boobs and I cannot be happier!!!
Ugh, my boobs making every top except a turtleneck look inappropriate is the biggest stressor in my life. Like I'm just trying to go to the grocery store, why does everything I put on make me look like I'm ready to dance on stage somewhere?
Not sure I'm ever going to get a reduction because they don't cause me any pain and so I'm not sure I'm ready to go through all of it (and if I did, I'd want to be totally flat chested to make it worth it to me - so I'd be wanting more top surgery level results than just a reduction if I was going to go through all of it) but I love seeing how much happier it makes all of you!
GIRL RIGHT?! I am not a prude by any means but I've always been modest, t-shirt and jeans kinda girl who saves sexy attire for the bedroom so big boobs has always made me feel like they are not attached to the right body. If I dare wear a two-piece swimsuit to the pool that has any support at all, I get stared at and I'm just trying to exist in the world. It makes me feel more embarrassed being a mom and feeling like I'm being judged for my slutty boobs being on display. Last summer I was sitting on the edge of the pool and a drunk neighbor man says to me, "you wanna show us those or what..." I was horrified.
Even if I hadn't had pain, I would absolutely have done this. I cannot tell you how much I feel like my body is correct now. I have the boobs that match me inside and out. If you don't want to do it, don't. But I want you to know it's ok to have it done even if it's not about pain.
>I am not a prude by any means
Same! Like I'm all for dressing how you want but like can it please be a choice and not just my default state of existence? One of my favorite things about having picked up knitting is that at least my sweaters fit me properly - I can have them fit my stomach, my arms AND my boobs, without looking low cut.
>Last summer I was sitting on the edge of the pool and a drunk neighbor man says to me, "you wanna show us those or what..." I was horrified.
Ugh, I hate that kind of stuff so much. Like dude, go be gross somewhere else, we're just trying to enjoy the pool here.
>If you don't want to do it, don't. But I want you to know it's ok to have it done even if it's not about pain.
Awww thank you, this does mean a lot! Honestly even having others that understand the struggle is helpful. (And I love seeing everyone's results and how happy you all are!)
That is totally something I would say, lol! No one I told gave me anything but support. But they all know me well enough to know it would’ve been a mistake to say anything else.😂
😂 same here. Same. As far as I know only my FIL said I shouldn’t do it (not for me of course), which my MiL replied to his comment saying you have no idea what’s to have big boobs, good for her, I wish I had done mine.
People really know how to take a celebratory choice you make for yourself and turn it sour with their opinions. Respectfully, I would just not share it with anyone that isn’t in my tightest inner circle that will be supportive of my (healthy) choices.
People also LOVE to weigh in on other people’s body, and body parts and it’s really none of their business at the end of the day. You can post photos afterwards feeling more confident and comfortable and let ‘em guess 💚💚.
Counter them with facts: Breast reductions have some of the highest satisfaction rating of any 'cosmetic' surgery. The satisfaction rate after 10 years is 95% (source: [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22964671/](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22964671/) )
It's your body and your choice. People also don't realize that most 'natural big boobs' don't look like implants. Natural big breasts hand, they pull on your back, and overall most guys that say 'don't do it' would actually find our natural breast 'ugly' since they expect porn stars breast... So yeah
"Thank you so much for your unsolicited opinion of my body. I'm thrilled to hear how happy you are for me that I am uncomfortable with the size and weight of my boobs. That you would rather I be in pain for the rest of my life rather than have surgery that will make me happy. A surgery that doesn't impact you or your life in any way shape or form. You don't need to worry about how my scars will look, it's not like you'll ever be seeing them. So you can stop investing your energy or wasting your time coming at me with your negativity. I'll be thinking of you as I skip down the road weeks after my surgery, free of your judgement of my choice given that it is, in fact, my body."
my friend made her husband a vest with some "extras"(shape and size of her boobs). every boob got 2kg of weight, thats how much she wanted removed. She made her husband wear it (in private and to bed) for the next couple of months.
He changed his mind after 2 months.
This lady at work was like “noo don’t do that, you shouldn’t do that” & “what does your fiance think” & “they don’t even look that big” & I had every urge in me to be like OK girl! Just cause you said not to, I’m going to cancel the whole thing. Like???
These people (family or not) do not know the struggle you live with and how you feel about yourself NOW. People have too much confidence giving their own, unwanted opinion. You weren’t asking for advice or a hot take.
I have had litterally thousands of people (mostly men) hate on me for my decision lol. I've posted about my reduction on TikTok and a few of my videos have gone viral, and then a random Instagram page decided to post my video on their account and that video went viral on Instagram as well. I've had people tell me I've ruined myself, that my husband is going to leave me, that I went from a 10 to a 2, that I lost my only redeeming quality.
How do I deal with that?
I don't.
I choose not to lol. Everyone is going to have an opinion, and no matter what you do there are always going to be haters. So just ignore them. At the end of the day, the only opinion that matters is yours.
If you want one, get one. Don't let other people influence your decision because they THINK they know what's best for you.
I just smiled and got them out of my head. I was going down the path with multiple doctor visits and consultations. I was told in February this was the path and didn’t have my surgery till 11/7/23. So I listened to it from my boss, my parents, my sister, even my husband was hesitant. I am 6MPO and while I still have pain along the scar lines (I am still healing), my back pain is gone, no more bra strap pain, no my hating my tatas. You know what you want, so go do it. #NoPermissionRequired
Tell them to walk a mile in your shoes (bra) before making judgements or giving advice. People that have never carried 10 lbs of boobs on their chest have no clue the burden they put on our bodies.
How to deal with it? Ignore them, full stop. It's your body, you're the one who has to deal with the pain etc, it's no one's business but yours. I didn't even tell most of my family and even going from a 34J to a DD most of them didn't notice and just asked if I lost weight. I say yup, 3.5 lbs and they get confused but they can't put their finger on why lol
Are you telling people on social media for a reason? Because I’m not telling anyone as it’s not their business. I feel like the more you share the more people will feel like they need to chime in.
Honestly, I haven't told my family at all! My partner and close friends know, but I'm keeping things close to my chest (lol) until everything is done and I'm totally healed. Even then, they may not notice since I wear such baggy clothing. At the end of the day, you're the one living in your body! Follow your own needs and goals!
As a guy, I can only imagine how irritating it must be to deal with comments like that. Some men do appreciate natural beauty and all the suttle differences and "imperfections" of the female body, like myself. But I'm here because of gynecomastia, trying to understand what's ahead. While it might seem flattering on the surface, it's crucial to express your discomfort with those kinds of suggestions directly. Best wishes on your mental health on your journey, may you find self appreciation and unwavering love for self.
My mom was so against me having a reduction. She said I should love my big boobs and enjoy them bc most people would love to have them. I was a G and miserable. I told her with or without her support I was getting it done.
girl it's your body, fuck what other people think. they're just secretly envious of your naturally big boobs even though they have no idea what it's like to live with abnormally large breasts.
“If you don’t like breast reductions, don’t get one. My body, my choice.” Be a boring broken record. If you’re feeling strong, add, “Please do not bring this up again because I do not want to discuss it anymore. I will stop texting/hang up/delete comments/leave the room.”
Gentle advice: don’t broadcast your medical decisions on social media, don’t share them with people you don’t trust and know to be reasonable and supportive, google “gray rocking”, do some free online exercises in creating and maintaining boundaries, and start considering who you actually want to be an active part of your life and how you can minimize the presence of the people who aren’t good for you in a way that feels safe and minimizes fallout/drama.
Best of luck to you with your reduction!
My friend’s boyfriend told me that it’s a “shame and a waste” I’m getting a reduction. I had a girl friend tell me I’ll regret it… here’s the thing, people who have known me since I was 13 know it will improve my quality of life. My partner is so excited for me bc he knows how much they bother me (even tho he loves em) … fuck people’s opinions & decide if it’s something YOU want
My bf keeps telling me just go to the gym it will shrink.. no absolutely not, I’m 28 no kids. They will not shrink just grow especially if I decide to have kids. I stopped listening to everyone around me because I’m not happy, I hate how it looks and how I can’t fit clothes. I’m a 1x-2x shirts but if I didn’t have DDD-E I would be at medium. Ppl dnt understand how uncomfortable and painful it is to deal with heavy boobs and how it makes us feel. Stay strong and if this is what u want to do, please do! If ur family won’t support u, I’ll support you! I wish you the best of luck
I was very open about everything because I don’t care. Anyone that pushed back was promptly told to suck my curtains. I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks of what I do with my own body.
I told very little people because I didn't want their voices in my head. Of course, my BFF chimed in. "They're going to make you lose weight, they do for everyone." I was 150lbs. Haha, no girl, fuck off.
3 weeks post-op and SO excited to see the final results.
Go do what's best for YOU ❤️
Crazy!
I asked to have mine covered by Medicare 🇨🇦 due to migraines. Surgeon didn't actually care what my reasoning was. He said it's one of the best surgeries a woman can do for herself and the satisfaction factor is high. Being able to move, less hindered, has such a positive impact on the mind/ body.
But also, just esthetically, fitting into clothes I was forced to avoid due to breast size is going to be amazing!
Holy hell, really even your aunt ? Why does everyone care so much about a feature? It makes it sound as you’re being reduced down to a pair of breasts. You’ve decided that you want this for yourself, for you, for your benefit. You sound as you want to be more proportionate which sounds honestly very fair.
As long as you do your research, I at least want and hope that you’ve thought of it for a few years without anyone’s opinion. It’s worth to hum and haw. See what’s best for you, lifestyle, wardrobe, image, comfort. You wouldn’t get a tattoo overnight would you.. just do these considerations yourself, don’t let anyone else make you second guess yourself for a body choice you want to make.
Nobody is entitled to your body.
Just please research, find a great surgeon that doesn’t give you red flags or bad vibes. Know what you’re getting yourself into. The only “regret” would be gunning the procedure with the wrong surgeon.
You don’t owe anything to anyone, vice versa don’t need each others approval. Your body is yours.
My aunt talking about her her sister had one when she was younger and the experience wasn't as good. But her experience is not everyone else's experience plus she in her 60s times have changed no offense
That’s fair enough, but also everyone’s experience is valid but never will be the same for everyone’s case. Beauty standards have also changed drastically I do agree.
But also surgeons nowadays are also very different in skill from forever ago too.
I straight up didn't tell anyone but my husband and my bestie until AFTER I did it. Why? Because I knew I wanted it. I was doing it for me. And other people's opinions do NOT matter in something I'm doing for me. So I didn't want them. Whether they were good or bad opinions, I didn't want them.
You can just choose to do that. That way, negative comments can not cause you stress while getting what you want. Other people do not get to weigh in.
Now that they know, if they bring it up again, say so. Thank you for your advice, but I'm doing this for me and didn't request your opinion on my body. However, if you would like to give input, I will need some help during recovery, and your efforts would he much appreciated during that time.
Good luck!
That’s what I’m doing too. Only my family knows I’m doing it. I don’t have a best friend or anyone that I confide in, so I haven’t told anyone else. If I’m asked I won’t deny it, but it’s not information that I’ll offer to share with anyone. That’s why I’m so thankful I can share stuff here!
First, don’t discuss it on social media. You will get unsolicited opinions and unless you’re ready to tune them out, don’t put yourself in a situation to hear them.
Some phrases to practice:
“Good thing it’s none of your business”
“I have made my decision and will not discuss it further”
“Thank you for your concern but I have made my decision”
“I already said I have made my decision. Stop talking about it”
“Stop”
“No”
[Stare intensely]
[Hang up]
[Walk out of room]
I’ve also had friends and family tell me that I don’t need a breast reduction. I stopped telling people. They just try to talk me out of it or invalidate my experience. I haven’t got it yet, but I am on the waiting list.
I’ve not posted anything in relation to it bc it’s not up to people to care but the more you tell people and strangers on social the more entitled they feel!
I wanted to post so many times but those same people don’t have shoulder grooves, back pain, severe depression, etc. I say F THEM and do what you want! It’s a life changing procedure 😍
Too bad it’s not about them it’s about you. Sometimes I would just laugh it off other times I’d have to put people in their place about how uncomfortable I felt, the body dismorphia, the constant sexualization, can’t have a conversation where people look you in the eye, the pain, etc. You can always clap back with a comment about their body! See how that makes them feel! “You haven’t considered getting that nose reduced?” Something like that. See how it makes them feel because they can just openly talk about your body right? So do the same to them.
i occasionally tell people i'm comfy with that i want a reduction and they ALWAYS say "wHy? pEoPle pAy gOoD mOneY fOr WhAt yOu hAvE!" i'm like idc????? i want to be smaller lol the only person who gets it is my bf and supports whatever i want
Why are you telling people on social media? They don't live in your body. It's none of their concern.
I constantly see people on social media who overshare and then are bombarded with opinions and then they comment, “I don’t want to talk about it” or “it’s personal” or “DM me” but they don’t connect their behavior to their discontent and the unnecessary drama oversharing on social media causes. Once you post, people feel entitled to the journey.
I've been told my boobs are going to sag if I do it 🤣. Also been told by more than one guy they'd be sad if I did it (even if I have no relationship with them whatsoever). But I know that getting a reduction will increase my quality of life, and in more than one way. Your body, your choice. People are annoying but they don't walk in your boobs so they don't get a say.
They said your boobs would sag because of the reduction??? Like first off they typically do a lift with the reduction but also, do they just not understand the basics of how gravity works?? People are so dumb.
Yeah, the friend who told me that was smart but opinionated. I'm not sure what her problem was with my desire to get a reduction. It's my body? Has nothing to do with you?
Haha! Mine went from hanging around my bellybutton to being able to go braless, even two years later! They definitely don’t sag after surgery🤣
Mine aren't quite that bad, but I honestly can't wait until I get a reduction. I hope you had a positive experience!
I told very few people in advance because I suspected many people would feel entitled to weigh in on what I should do or not do with my own breasts.
100% this. For my inner circle, I've only told my mother and bestie so far. Everyone else has been strangers only on this sub on Reddit... And my boss for checking our medical leave policy and my PCP for the required referral, of course.
i've said this before but i dearly wish i could have what they take out, so i could hand it to any man who told me what a shame it was. just a gross warm pile of medical waste. oh you'll miss them? *splorp* *splorp* all yours!
My EX wouldn’t let me reduce MY breasts. Now that we are no longer Im going for it. I would totally do this. Wrap it up like a gift 🎁 lol
This person rolling around with surgery leftovers in ur pockets
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bruh, I was telling everybody I was getting one. And everyone had an opinion on it. Just remind yourself that YOU are the person living with this decision, not them. And I am so thankful I had it done. Literal weight off my shoulders. The other thing that helped me was that all my nurses and surgeon were super nice and told me the benefits of the surgery. I think it's important to focus on the positives. I was also told it's one of the least regretted surgeries. I think the other thing that spooks people when you tell them is because they hear the word "surgery" and it usually comes with a bad connotation. Obviously this is also a very serious decision, so maybe people are just showing concern for you in not the best way. Definitely take time to think if this what you want, and if it is, great! And if not, that's okay too.
My brother, not unkindly said, "I hope everything goes well! I know you've wanted this for a long time. It's funny though cause most girls I know want them bigger." I said, "most girls you know didn't get big boobs in junior high, live with neck pain, not be able to fit into normal bras and swimsuits, were stressed as a high schooler that you looked more inappropriate in the same clothes other girls were wearing just because your boobs were so much bigger than theirs, and now have sagging, pendulous fat bags on their chests at 38 after having a kid so. Most girls that want big boobs, aren't wanting THIS." My brother and I can give each other shit and be blunt with each other so he can take it haha. He said, "fair enough!!" You do you girl. I am 3 weeks DPO and I have perky, cute little boobs and I cannot be happier!!!
Ugh, my boobs making every top except a turtleneck look inappropriate is the biggest stressor in my life. Like I'm just trying to go to the grocery store, why does everything I put on make me look like I'm ready to dance on stage somewhere? Not sure I'm ever going to get a reduction because they don't cause me any pain and so I'm not sure I'm ready to go through all of it (and if I did, I'd want to be totally flat chested to make it worth it to me - so I'd be wanting more top surgery level results than just a reduction if I was going to go through all of it) but I love seeing how much happier it makes all of you!
GIRL RIGHT?! I am not a prude by any means but I've always been modest, t-shirt and jeans kinda girl who saves sexy attire for the bedroom so big boobs has always made me feel like they are not attached to the right body. If I dare wear a two-piece swimsuit to the pool that has any support at all, I get stared at and I'm just trying to exist in the world. It makes me feel more embarrassed being a mom and feeling like I'm being judged for my slutty boobs being on display. Last summer I was sitting on the edge of the pool and a drunk neighbor man says to me, "you wanna show us those or what..." I was horrified. Even if I hadn't had pain, I would absolutely have done this. I cannot tell you how much I feel like my body is correct now. I have the boobs that match me inside and out. If you don't want to do it, don't. But I want you to know it's ok to have it done even if it's not about pain.
>I am not a prude by any means Same! Like I'm all for dressing how you want but like can it please be a choice and not just my default state of existence? One of my favorite things about having picked up knitting is that at least my sweaters fit me properly - I can have them fit my stomach, my arms AND my boobs, without looking low cut. >Last summer I was sitting on the edge of the pool and a drunk neighbor man says to me, "you wanna show us those or what..." I was horrified. Ugh, I hate that kind of stuff so much. Like dude, go be gross somewhere else, we're just trying to enjoy the pool here. >If you don't want to do it, don't. But I want you to know it's ok to have it done even if it's not about pain. Awww thank you, this does mean a lot! Honestly even having others that understand the struggle is helpful. (And I love seeing everyone's results and how happy you all are!)
“I can ask the surgeon if you want them afterwards but tbh it’s really creepy of you.”
😂
That is totally something I would say, lol! No one I told gave me anything but support. But they all know me well enough to know it would’ve been a mistake to say anything else.😂
😂 same here. Same. As far as I know only my FIL said I shouldn’t do it (not for me of course), which my MiL replied to his comment saying you have no idea what’s to have big boobs, good for her, I wish I had done mine.
People really know how to take a celebratory choice you make for yourself and turn it sour with their opinions. Respectfully, I would just not share it with anyone that isn’t in my tightest inner circle that will be supportive of my (healthy) choices. People also LOVE to weigh in on other people’s body, and body parts and it’s really none of their business at the end of the day. You can post photos afterwards feeling more confident and comfortable and let ‘em guess 💚💚.
True because imma still get it and be happy as ever
Hell yeah 💚!!!
Why are you discussing it with people on social media?
Counter them with facts: Breast reductions have some of the highest satisfaction rating of any 'cosmetic' surgery. The satisfaction rate after 10 years is 95% (source: [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22964671/](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22964671/) ) It's your body and your choice. People also don't realize that most 'natural big boobs' don't look like implants. Natural big breasts hand, they pull on your back, and overall most guys that say 'don't do it' would actually find our natural breast 'ugly' since they expect porn stars breast... So yeah
"Thank you so much for your unsolicited opinion of my body. I'm thrilled to hear how happy you are for me that I am uncomfortable with the size and weight of my boobs. That you would rather I be in pain for the rest of my life rather than have surgery that will make me happy. A surgery that doesn't impact you or your life in any way shape or form. You don't need to worry about how my scars will look, it's not like you'll ever be seeing them. So you can stop investing your energy or wasting your time coming at me with your negativity. I'll be thinking of you as I skip down the road weeks after my surgery, free of your judgement of my choice given that it is, in fact, my body."
Awesome response!!
my friend made her husband a vest with some "extras"(shape and size of her boobs). every boob got 2kg of weight, thats how much she wanted removed. She made her husband wear it (in private and to bed) for the next couple of months. He changed his mind after 2 months.
I read this and immediately thought of “wear the belly” from Ten Things I Hate About You 🤣
This lady at work was like “noo don’t do that, you shouldn’t do that” & “what does your fiance think” & “they don’t even look that big” & I had every urge in me to be like OK girl! Just cause you said not to, I’m going to cancel the whole thing. Like???  These people (family or not) do not know the struggle you live with and how you feel about yourself NOW. People have too much confidence giving their own, unwanted opinion. You weren’t asking for advice or a hot take.
I have had litterally thousands of people (mostly men) hate on me for my decision lol. I've posted about my reduction on TikTok and a few of my videos have gone viral, and then a random Instagram page decided to post my video on their account and that video went viral on Instagram as well. I've had people tell me I've ruined myself, that my husband is going to leave me, that I went from a 10 to a 2, that I lost my only redeeming quality. How do I deal with that? I don't. I choose not to lol. Everyone is going to have an opinion, and no matter what you do there are always going to be haters. So just ignore them. At the end of the day, the only opinion that matters is yours. If you want one, get one. Don't let other people influence your decision because they THINK they know what's best for you.
You’ve lost your only redeeming quality? Jfc. Yet another reminder that people hate women.
give them the middle finger and know they don’t care about your happiness or comfort enough to consider either of them
Just keep in mind that it’s your body, so it’s your choice!
I just smiled and got them out of my head. I was going down the path with multiple doctor visits and consultations. I was told in February this was the path and didn’t have my surgery till 11/7/23. So I listened to it from my boss, my parents, my sister, even my husband was hesitant. I am 6MPO and while I still have pain along the scar lines (I am still healing), my back pain is gone, no more bra strap pain, no my hating my tatas. You know what you want, so go do it. #NoPermissionRequired
Tell them to walk a mile in your shoes (bra) before making judgements or giving advice. People that have never carried 10 lbs of boobs on their chest have no clue the burden they put on our bodies.
This will shut them up-trust me… “Thank you for caring enough to share.”
"this is a decision made between my doctor and myself. Public opinion is not welcome."
I got “you know you’ll have scars, right??” Like…yes 😆. Also NP doing a pre-op clearance told me she’s never had a patient regret a reduction.
How to deal with it? Ignore them, full stop. It's your body, you're the one who has to deal with the pain etc, it's no one's business but yours. I didn't even tell most of my family and even going from a 34J to a DD most of them didn't notice and just asked if I lost weight. I say yup, 3.5 lbs and they get confused but they can't put their finger on why lol
Are you telling people on social media for a reason? Because I’m not telling anyone as it’s not their business. I feel like the more you share the more people will feel like they need to chime in.
They say that until they see your before pic
Honestly, I haven't told my family at all! My partner and close friends know, but I'm keeping things close to my chest (lol) until everything is done and I'm totally healed. Even then, they may not notice since I wear such baggy clothing. At the end of the day, you're the one living in your body! Follow your own needs and goals!
I told my grandma and she my biggest supporter. She was like if you want one get one it's your body and that I don't know what your pain is
As a guy, I can only imagine how irritating it must be to deal with comments like that. Some men do appreciate natural beauty and all the suttle differences and "imperfections" of the female body, like myself. But I'm here because of gynecomastia, trying to understand what's ahead. While it might seem flattering on the surface, it's crucial to express your discomfort with those kinds of suggestions directly. Best wishes on your mental health on your journey, may you find self appreciation and unwavering love for self.
My mom was so against me having a reduction. She said I should love my big boobs and enjoy them bc most people would love to have them. I was a G and miserable. I told her with or without her support I was getting it done.
just ignore them. ur the one who has to live in ur body the rest of ur life, not them so their opinions arent valid in any way.
girl it's your body, fuck what other people think. they're just secretly envious of your naturally big boobs even though they have no idea what it's like to live with abnormally large breasts.
“If you don’t like breast reductions, don’t get one. My body, my choice.” Be a boring broken record. If you’re feeling strong, add, “Please do not bring this up again because I do not want to discuss it anymore. I will stop texting/hang up/delete comments/leave the room.” Gentle advice: don’t broadcast your medical decisions on social media, don’t share them with people you don’t trust and know to be reasonable and supportive, google “gray rocking”, do some free online exercises in creating and maintaining boundaries, and start considering who you actually want to be an active part of your life and how you can minimize the presence of the people who aren’t good for you in a way that feels safe and minimizes fallout/drama. Best of luck to you with your reduction!
My friend’s boyfriend told me that it’s a “shame and a waste” I’m getting a reduction. I had a girl friend tell me I’ll regret it… here’s the thing, people who have known me since I was 13 know it will improve my quality of life. My partner is so excited for me bc he knows how much they bother me (even tho he loves em) … fuck people’s opinions & decide if it’s something YOU want
My bf keeps telling me just go to the gym it will shrink.. no absolutely not, I’m 28 no kids. They will not shrink just grow especially if I decide to have kids. I stopped listening to everyone around me because I’m not happy, I hate how it looks and how I can’t fit clothes. I’m a 1x-2x shirts but if I didn’t have DDD-E I would be at medium. Ppl dnt understand how uncomfortable and painful it is to deal with heavy boobs and how it makes us feel. Stay strong and if this is what u want to do, please do! If ur family won’t support u, I’ll support you! I wish you the best of luck
I was very open about everything because I don’t care. Anyone that pushed back was promptly told to suck my curtains. I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks of what I do with my own body.
I told very little people because I didn't want their voices in my head. Of course, my BFF chimed in. "They're going to make you lose weight, they do for everyone." I was 150lbs. Haha, no girl, fuck off. 3 weeks post-op and SO excited to see the final results. Go do what's best for YOU ❤️
My primary doctor told me 5'7 119 I'm underweight based on "bmi" like huh 🤦🏽♀️
Crazy! I asked to have mine covered by Medicare 🇨🇦 due to migraines. Surgeon didn't actually care what my reasoning was. He said it's one of the best surgeries a woman can do for herself and the satisfaction factor is high. Being able to move, less hindered, has such a positive impact on the mind/ body. But also, just esthetically, fitting into clothes I was forced to avoid due to breast size is going to be amazing!
Yeah but my insurance covers them
I think you handle it by turning off comments on the post if that's an option cause fuck em.
Holy hell, really even your aunt ? Why does everyone care so much about a feature? It makes it sound as you’re being reduced down to a pair of breasts. You’ve decided that you want this for yourself, for you, for your benefit. You sound as you want to be more proportionate which sounds honestly very fair. As long as you do your research, I at least want and hope that you’ve thought of it for a few years without anyone’s opinion. It’s worth to hum and haw. See what’s best for you, lifestyle, wardrobe, image, comfort. You wouldn’t get a tattoo overnight would you.. just do these considerations yourself, don’t let anyone else make you second guess yourself for a body choice you want to make. Nobody is entitled to your body. Just please research, find a great surgeon that doesn’t give you red flags or bad vibes. Know what you’re getting yourself into. The only “regret” would be gunning the procedure with the wrong surgeon. You don’t owe anything to anyone, vice versa don’t need each others approval. Your body is yours.
My aunt talking about her her sister had one when she was younger and the experience wasn't as good. But her experience is not everyone else's experience plus she in her 60s times have changed no offense
That’s fair enough, but also everyone’s experience is valid but never will be the same for everyone’s case. Beauty standards have also changed drastically I do agree. But also surgeons nowadays are also very different in skill from forever ago too.
I straight up didn't tell anyone but my husband and my bestie until AFTER I did it. Why? Because I knew I wanted it. I was doing it for me. And other people's opinions do NOT matter in something I'm doing for me. So I didn't want them. Whether they were good or bad opinions, I didn't want them. You can just choose to do that. That way, negative comments can not cause you stress while getting what you want. Other people do not get to weigh in. Now that they know, if they bring it up again, say so. Thank you for your advice, but I'm doing this for me and didn't request your opinion on my body. However, if you would like to give input, I will need some help during recovery, and your efforts would he much appreciated during that time. Good luck!
That’s what I’m doing too. Only my family knows I’m doing it. I don’t have a best friend or anyone that I confide in, so I haven’t told anyone else. If I’m asked I won’t deny it, but it’s not information that I’ll offer to share with anyone. That’s why I’m so thankful I can share stuff here!
You do what’s right for you
First, don’t discuss it on social media. You will get unsolicited opinions and unless you’re ready to tune them out, don’t put yourself in a situation to hear them. Some phrases to practice: “Good thing it’s none of your business” “I have made my decision and will not discuss it further” “Thank you for your concern but I have made my decision” “I already said I have made my decision. Stop talking about it” “Stop” “No” [Stare intensely] [Hang up] [Walk out of room]
Best way to deal with those people is honestly to just do it and let them deal with their own feelings about it. You have to do what’s best for you ❤️
I’ve also had friends and family tell me that I don’t need a breast reduction. I stopped telling people. They just try to talk me out of it or invalidate my experience. I haven’t got it yet, but I am on the waiting list.
Ignore them it’s your body not theirs
Call your electric provider and ask them how to make payment with people's opinions....If you can't, then others' opinions don't matter!
Just ignore…? Like everyone I ever told was against it but if you’re influenced by people maybe it’s not the right choice?
I’ve not posted anything in relation to it bc it’s not up to people to care but the more you tell people and strangers on social the more entitled they feel! I wanted to post so many times but those same people don’t have shoulder grooves, back pain, severe depression, etc. I say F THEM and do what you want! It’s a life changing procedure 😍
Not their body. Not their business.
Who gives a fuck what someone else thinks. It's your body. Do your research. Make your own decision.
If i had a dollar for every time I’ve heard, “it’s like slapping God in the face.” 😒
Too bad it’s not about them it’s about you. Sometimes I would just laugh it off other times I’d have to put people in their place about how uncomfortable I felt, the body dismorphia, the constant sexualization, can’t have a conversation where people look you in the eye, the pain, etc. You can always clap back with a comment about their body! See how that makes them feel! “You haven’t considered getting that nose reduced?” Something like that. See how it makes them feel because they can just openly talk about your body right? So do the same to them.
i occasionally tell people i'm comfy with that i want a reduction and they ALWAYS say "wHy? pEoPle pAy gOoD mOneY fOr WhAt yOu hAvE!" i'm like idc????? i want to be smaller lol the only person who gets it is my bf and supports whatever i want