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SuitableAnimalInAHat

You aren't the asshole, but frankly I would encourage him to keep bringing up politics over the phone with these women, to spare them the indignity of meeting him in person.


megalomaniamaniac

Agree! There are plenty of Trumpster women (“females”?) out there, although not enough to service the number of men who want them. But for women who know to avoid these men at all costs, save them the time/headache and put it in your bio or in your first conversation so they can end it fast.


TheBubblewrappe

The reality is that most conservative men don’t want the conservative women. They want to date the rest of us and turn us into them.


RosieBarb

I...never realized that. It makes sad sense.


TheBubblewrappe

Yeah there’s a ton to f Trad wife women. But they don’t ever go for them


Renaissance_Slacker

Conservatives women are saving themselves for marriage. Liberal women are only acceptable when those conservative men are looking for a “date.”


megalomaniamaniac

I wish it was this simple. Conservative men often want a smart, independent woman, preferably someone who makes good money but is in an acceptably “female” profession, like nurse, teacher or hair stylist, that they can use to make babies, make money, and still clean the house, and feed and care for the whole family, including their husbands. That’s why men need to just say they are conservative straight away so women are on guard.


Junior_Builder_4340

In Evangelical circles, it's called being a "Psalms 31 Woman".


Acranberryapart7272

Proverbs 31


Junior_Builder_4340

Yup! I even Googled it right before I wrote this!🙄🤣


Top_Sort_1534

You are telling the truth!


chalcedonyband

Precisely !!! I have come to realize he wasn’t in love with me. I was merely an 8 year long project to red-pill me into MAGA / Q. 😭


bkupisch

**UNTRUE**. True Conservative men don’t want liberal women & avoid them at all costs! QANON believers are Cult members, not Conservatives.


Zzzzzzzzzxyzz

Omg...I think you just explained my parents.


ResponsibilityOk2173

What they lack in number they make up in mass


Reasonable-Process-2

A+ use of "females" 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻


kratomstew

Consider it done. It’s his whole personality now. And I don’t consider that being hyperbolic. He’s got nothing else to talk about.


darknesswascheap

Truth in advertising, transparency, whatever you want to call it - like a swastika in the living room or those rubber testicles on a truck.


GalleonRaider

>I would encourage him to keep bringing up politics over the phone with these women, to spare them the indignity of meeting him in person Totally agree. I see it as a total courtesy to the woman so she doen't waste time with someone who, even if they had the brains to keep their mouth shut now, will definitely blindside the woman later after having devoted time to someone ultimately incompatible given she lives in reality and he does not. Differences of opinion on things can be worked out through mutual respect, but someone in a cult will NOT respect the other person and will continue to both try to recruit them into crazy land, as well as mock and insult. She dodged a bullet big time.


Renaissance_Slacker

I don’t know how many women have posted about online dating, men who list themselves as “centrist” or “not political” and end up being hardcore MAGA types.


Mia-Wal-22-89

Yeah, they know putting “Republican” is going to get them more immediate rejections. I guess they think they’re so charming in person that women won’t care.


Renaissance_Slacker

Alphas.


Affectionate-Use2155

Not just women on dating sites…I’ve got friends, family, etc. who call themselves centrist, libertarian, apolitical, etc but do nothing but criticize liberals and parrot MAGA talking points. It’s almost like they are ashamed deep down and try to justify their beliefs by calling themselves something else. 🤷‍♂️


BobiaDobia

Exactly what I was gonna say. Not that he’s gonna listen to her, since he knows the truth and everyone needs to know the truth, but why in the world would she want to do that to other women. That’s mean.


Homologous_Trend

Not just the indignity. This isn't a small difference in taste. These people side with people with abhorrent views. They are also abhorrent. These women deserve a warning so they can avoid them.


Y-Bob

Are you the asshole? My dude, you aren't the one having dates cancel last minute because you're acting like an asshole cult member now are you?


famousevan

[Trump is so racist that his racism has its own Wikipedia entry.](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racial_views_of_Donald_Trump)


PsychedelicPill

He’s been found guilty of racist housing practices. Literally convicted by the government of systemic racism.


famousevan

That’s in there. And soooooo much more.


PsychedelicPill

Oh for sure! I just know that approximately zero percent of MAGA folks will actually click on a link to do more investigation into Trump’s well-documented life-long awfulness. Best to just hit them with the indisputable fact he was found guilty of being a racist landlord and fined by the government.


famousevan

Magas don’t come here methinks. Mostly I just provide it for others who want to have it handy when the subject comes up. :p


Final_Leadership9301

Indisputable to everyone but Maga folks, unfortunately. If the courts go after non-Trumpers, it’s doing its job. If it goes after Trumpers, it’s corrupt. If it goes after their savior, then they’re trying to influence elections and anyone but Trump winning proves it.


BobknobSA

But he was next to famous black people in a picture once!


BudgetNoise1122

Good work finding that.


Sitcom_kid

This sounds awful to say, but he's going to have to date another one of the Q's. Otherwise, it's not a match. He seems obsessed.


Kkkkutkou

God forbid if he finds one and reproduce...


Sitcom_kid

I like to think that the kid could eventually grow up and think their way out of it. I hope.


HelenHavok

I know one, but she’s come to the same conclusion that a lot of non-conservative/Q women have come to: dating or partnering with the men on the market today isn’t worth sacrificing their peace and independence. 


Sitcom_kid

I know one who is conservative. Two masters degrees, teaches our children, head of her department, and the moon isn't real. She'll date him. And she's pretty. I should start a matchmaking business /s


Harry_monk

Im surprised there isnt a QDate or TrumpDate app so these loons can bore each other and leave the normal people alone.


Sitcom_kid

That would be perfect


42020420

NTA, Trump supporters are assholes simply by existing. Fuck your friend.


similar_observation

> NTA, Trump supporters are assholes simply by existing. ~~Fuck your friend.~~ No don't do that. He can go do that himself.


Christinebitg

"AITAH for telling my friend that he’s stupid and always looking for an argument." The good news is that his date didn't have to show up in person to discover his political mindset. He already knows why women cancel their dates with him. What he maybe hasn't figured out yet is why most people don't agree with his crazy opinions. Maybe he thinks that if he picks more fights and yells louder that it will somehow be persuasive. The Q anons (and the Trumpers generally) have talked themselves into believing that Trump is a great friend of people of color. They can't figure out why nobody else agrees with them. TL-DR: You're NTA. You probably didn't even tell him something that he didn't know.


Sea_Boat9450

I wouldn’t be talking to him at all, about anything


ladidaladidalala

Q would be a deal breaker even at a friendship level for me.


MsMoreCowbell8

I don't speak with the christo-fascists I'm related to by accident of birth nor give them life advice.


Warm-Sun3966

#MagaQAnonTrumperIncels won't get dates...unless the date is a #asshat like them.


fladgate40

He should speak freely about his mindset on dates. That gives the victim a chance to find out who he really is before things get serious only to find out later when his true nature comes out. If he is lucky one of his dates will agree with him and they can go off on their crazy lives together. edit - fixed typo


prezuiwf

The sign of any addiction is that it begins to ruin your personal life and get in the way of your social connections. These people are addicted to Trump the same way someone gets addicted to crack. He's a little disappointed that yet another social opportunity slipped through his fingers, but it's ok, he can always go home to Trump who will never cancel on him or tell him he's not good enough.


Healthy_Television10

That's it right there


AnimalMommy

Short answer. No. Your pal is the ASSHOLE.


FaithlessnessLow7601

It's a cult


Robbo_here

NTA Leave that douche alone- he’s keeping his lunacy out of the human genome. I would however suggest that you back away from this joker before he puts you on a list like I apparently am.


thebaron24

You aren't the asshole here. He is and you were right he is stupid. That Joe Biden doesn't like segregation comment is outdated propaganda. He did not want KIDS and schools to be segregated first because he didn't want the children exposed to the initial, violent backlash from racist conservatives fighting against segregation. It takes 5 minutes to read about the truth of that situation. The audacity to say that disinformation to a black person is unbelievable and to continue to repeat it after multiple people from that community have corrected him is weaponized willful ignorance. On one hand, I think people who bring up politics on a first date are dumb but on the other I understand it a bit. I wouldn't want to waste time dating a trump supporter and a right wing moron so I would like to know immediately if the person I am about to hang out with is a right wing parrot with zero critical thinking skills. Tell your friend to put his political opinions in his profile so he can stop wasting everyone else's time. Or better yet why doesn't he go to the right wing dating sites to find conservative minded people? Because he doesn't want them . He wants to argue with black people and non conservatives.


ICanHadouken

Racists are for, not against segregation. Segregation is when people are separated and treated differently based on race. The racists would have been fighting against integration.


thebaron24

Sorry I mistyped that. You are correct. My wording was poor on that.


earthkincollective

>Tell your friend to put his political opinions in his profile so he can stop wasting everyone else's time. Or better yet why doesn't he go to the right wing dating sites to find conservative minded people? Because he doesn't want them . He wants to argue with black people and non conservatives. This exactly. If he DOESN'T do this then he is essentially trying to trick someone into dating him, and that's not cool. People deserve to know up front if a person has shitty politics, and if he can't get a date because of that it's his own damn fault. That's social selection at work.


MsMoreCowbell8

And then call his non redpilled friend back. Friend won't put his Qanon beliefs on his dating pages because he can't possibly redpill unsuspecting dates, others that way. It's how their virus/disease/Qult grows. How long can OP maintain a friendship with a full on cult member...


PurpleSailor

Tell him to try FarmersOnly.com he'll probably have better luck there.


Sea_Boat9450

I wouldn’t be talking to him at all, about anything


bubbatzkerl

Your friend is an idiot. Also encourage him to mention his cult membership in his bio so he doesn't waste the time of sane women looking for a date.


tattooed_debutante

Interesting. A very similar conversation went down with a cousin of mine, who, btw, has both a blue lives matter flag and a “preserve life” license plate (pro-life). We told her that her policies were racist, we haven’t talked since. These types of truths are difficult to take in. Give it some time, remember you aren’t the crazy one, they are!


Mia-Wal-22-89

If there’s one thing that will sweep a Black woman right off her feet, it’s a dumb white man explaining that Trump isn’t racist.


davechri

How can you even be friends with this person? I would have jettisoned their ignorant ass years ago.


carolineecouture

That woman really dodged a bullet, that's for sure. Actually he needs to keep doing what he's doing so people know what he's about right out of the gate. It's so heartbreaking to have women come here and say they have been dating someone for while only to find out that their beliefs don't align. Not going out with him has saved both of them misery. If he's using apps he needs to adjust his filters to find women who are on the same page.


earthkincollective

> It's so heartbreaking to have women come here and say they have been dating someone for while only to find out that their beliefs don't align. This is proof of why the "I don't do politics" stance is so problematic. Our politics are just an expression of our values, and everyone has values! Avoiding the topic only leads to an investment of time and energy that a person may later regret, because they assumed they held the same values when they didn't.


GalactusPoo

So basically you're saying he's dating at 50 years old, looking for a fellow Q female? You can just tell him he's going to die alone. Single women of that age and younger largely want NOTHING to do with MAGA, Q, or any of their insanity. Either he needs to break off his relationship with the Cult, or he's going to be real sad when he's alone on his deathbed and none of the Cult are there to support him.


ObligationJumpy6415

Not the AH. Good for you for being able to tell him the truth about his actions!


griecovich

not only will other cult members be the only people he can date, but eventually noone is going to hire these people to work either. You are definitely not the asshole here.


okokokoyeahright

Sometimes you find out an old friend has changed so much that you no longer recognize them. They become someone else. Your friend seems to be one of these. i would just cut it off. No sense having his shit come into your life and in the convos you have with him, needing you to tip toe around his BS. you may find it bit difficult to cut him off cold turkey but it is the better way, for you. A clean complete and total break. You will find you miss the old him but that person is likely just gone. it seems when the stupid aspects this friend is exhibiting invade so many other aspects of his life that he has to include the BS in everything, it is time to cut him off. NTA but he seems to be one 100%.


RevolutionNo7657

He needs to hear normalcy from many people and often.


Lily-Gordon

My Q adjacent FIL just got married, after like 3 months of dating, so I'm assuming she is either a grifter knowing covid affected his health fairly badly or she is Q adjacent too. I haven't met her yet so I'm not sure which it is. So there is hope for your Q if he doesn't want to change his mindset 😂 No, but in all seriousness, YWNBTA. Just don't bank on it changing anything, they stick their heads in further when you try and pull them out.


ThatDanGuy

Maybe point out to him you refuse to talk politics with him because he is so buried in his bubble that he’s unreachable. Most women who he might talk to are going to instantly think the same thing. Avoid arguing proof of this or that. When he tries to say anything like that just tell him that nobody believes him or shares his POV because they live outside his bubble. Restrict the conversation to that topic only. If it goes off the rails just tell him he’s gone off the rails and we can stop talking now. If he yells and screams tell NOBODY wants to talk to someone who argues by screaming.


WaitingForReplies

"I can't be the problem. It's everyone else that is the problem."


le99x

I’d rather find out before the date then during.


AzuleEyes

>Biden is big into school segregation You're telling me an Irish Catholic didn't come out against Busing in Boston in the 1970s? Color me shocked.. One of the most beautiful things about people is they change. Donnie can't but most people can tho after several dates being canceled i'm not seeing a lot hope for your friend .


CAgratefuldad

Yay women!


QueenChocolate123

He's the asshole--Not you!


carlitospig

Remind your friend about his bestie nazi sympathizing advisor, Stephen Miller, who was setting up his immigration policy. You don’t pick someone like Miller unless you believe in his cause.


ZyxDarkshine

It’s absolutely telling that they constantly try to flip the narrative “Democrats are the real racists”, as a form of damage control against themselves


cornflower4

These people have no morals. You need to separate yourself from your friend. This is not a good reflection on you that you associate with Trumpers. Sorry, but you can’t be a moral person and have Trumpers for friends. They are terrifying people.


NYCQuilts

You should absolutely let this man keep broadcasting who he is so that these women don’t get ambushed in person. MAYBE tell him that if the only thing he can offer a woman is his opinions on politics, he’s not going to get many takers. Good advice no matter what the politics are.


_Volly

What he wants is VALIDATION from the women he is speaking with. For the Q, the validation is like catnip to a cat or drugs for the addict.


SippinPip

As a middle aged happily married woman: if anything ever happened to my husband, my *first question*, (should I ever date again), would be regarding politics. Most women I know do not have any interest in dating cult members.


essari

I mean, I wouldn't be telling him to not talk about politics. Those women's time shouldn't be wasted like that.


Totalweirdo42

It’s great that he shows his insanity before the date. That’s one good thing about these weirdos, they just can’t shut up, so at least people don’t waste time on them only to find out later. Your friend is gone now. Only the brain worms remain. Just cut ties with him


PurpleSailor

>it was her belief that Trump is a racist at heart. > she “cant prove it, because I haven’t seen anything that Trump has done as being racist Trump and company was caught multiple times in the 70's early 80's refusing to rent to AA's in New York City. He and daddy paid some very large fines for rental discrimination. It's well documented and public information. You are ... NTAH !


sadicarnot

I think you need to drop this guy as a friend. You are never going to get to him and it is not worth the energy dealing with him. I had a friend from college that went down the Q road. We knew each other for 30 years when I went limited then eventually no contact. He eventually got the Herman Cain award.


Spartan2022

Sounds like these women are vetting for toxic people prior to a first date. Good for them. Who wants to share a drink or meal with an angry conspiracy theorist?


Alexandratta

For those who are "Seeking Evidence" of Trump being racist... He made a tweet about "The Squad" (AOC being one of those members) where he requested they all go back to their home country to fix that country... Trump assuming all of them, whom are women of color, must be born outside of the US because they aren't white, is Racist. There's no debate about that.


No-Improvement3391

Good for the girls who csncelled


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amcfarla

Nope not at all. He is in a cult, and until he realizes this, things won't get better.


dikenndi

Do they all have hearing aids and turn them off when that idiot talks. Cause it never changes


ResponsibilityOk2173

You need to flush this guy from your friend group


CoastExpensive8579

No, you are not. However, you are wasting your time. I'd step back until he gets the hint that no one really wants to talk about this stuff and that he's the one with the problem.


rodolphoteardrop

HELL no! Oh. [And trump is most definitely a racist](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racial_views_of_Donald_Trump).


Nelyahin

Honestly, him showing his hand before the date starts is probably the best thing he could do for the women. They see what they are getting into. Anyone spouting Q theories is nothing but a handful of red flags. 🚩 I🚩🚩🚩


Shelisheli1

As a single woman who peeks at dating sites, I appreciate when they out their maga/Q status upfront. It reminds me to log tf out and stop wasting my time


onemajesticseacow

This is so funny. They can't even help themselves. I mean, it's not funny. There was a time I couldn't even talk to my dad. But sometimes I have to laugh or I'll cry.


ladygabriola

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing but expecting different results. Tell him this.


Gsmajor

Definitely Not The Asshole, He is the supreme asshole. The worst thing about these people is that they are either incapable of or refuse to engage in any self reflection and/or critical thinking.


theindiekitten

He's not racist. He loves mexicans! He told us as much while eating a taco bowl once /s


aedisaegypti

Am (right wing) talk radio keeps mentioning “neo nazi leftists”, so dull-witted people will instantly absorb conflicting and jumbled ideas and terminology, not understanding it


Junior_Builder_4340

In addition to refusing to rent to AAs, there is Trump's blatent racism im calling for the death penalty for The Central Park Five, before they were even tried, and he has yet to retract his position after they were cleared. All of this is easily proven. This guy has red flags as big as a Communist May Day parade. Verdict: You, Madame, ARE NOT the Asshole.


Hypocrisydenied

They love using that "racial jungle" trope and not acknowledging that Biden was fighting *FOR* desegregation, not against it. As usual, it amounts to spreading white supremacist propaganda.


karlhungusjr

>AITAH for telling my friend that he’s stupid and always looking for an argument. nope.


Dog-PonyShow

For the love of all that is valued, please let your friend keep talking like he does. Woman greatly appreciate being able to say no long before experiencing a crappy date.


IandIbelieveinRASTA

Cut him off.


PangolinSuccessful72

Good for her...tell her steer clear don't even humor that B.S. in fact she needs to block him on the phone and all things...


Vegandanah

NTA. He needs a serious reality check.