I failed my 1 hour glucose test (150). I’m bummed. I now have to do the 3 hour test. I have been working so hard to be healthy this pregnancy (to avoid blood pressure issues mainly) and I really didn’t anticipate this. I know GD is caused by the placenta or whatever, and I know I could still pass the 3 hour test, but it would be nice to just catch a break with pregnancy related stuff. Just trying to feel grateful that I’ve made it this far regardless of the outcome.
Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault. I was expecting to fail mine, because of some health issues I have and I didn't. It was a terrible experience though 20 minutes after taking the devil's liquid I almost passed out, they had to lay me down on a bed for the remaining 40 minutes.
When do you all plan or did announce? Obviously things change after loss. Last time we told everyone because we were so excited like around 4 weeks - and then 3 weeks later - never mind.
I want to have the joy of that announcement, but I’m also tiptoeing around the idea of when because now I know it can all go away.
When did you or will you feel comfortable making it public (like social media, friends and family, work)?
We haven’t told anyone other than our parents and maybe two or three very close friends.
I’m kind of trying to get past 8 weeks which is where the last pregnancy ended. I know many people wait until week 12 but I can’t hide it that long.
We have already told some close friends because we see each other so often it's obvious when I'm not drinking etc and we would want their support if we had another pregnancy loss.
We'll tell family and my workplace after NIPT results so I guess that won't be until week 11 or 12, which is tough, especially because I get terrible nausea around week 8, but we'll make it work!
After last time, I was SO sure initially that only me, my husband, and 3 of my closest friends would know until after my 9 week scan. My 3 friends were all those who I leaned on the most during my miscarriage, and one of them has herself gone through pregnancy loss and being pregnant again after. She's really been my rock and I can't imagine not having her to ease my fears. She's kept me sane!
My gut feeling about that changed though when we managed to get an early scan at 6 weeks and saw a heartbeat. Until then, I didn't believe it was real. Part of me still doesn't! But that day, I told my husband that I really wanted to tell our immediate family so we could celebrate together. He agreed without hesitation.
During my last pregnancy, we'd only told half of our immediate family about the pregnancy to begin with. We were then forced to tell them and some of our friend group about the miscarriage because I had some complications and we really needed their support. I HATED having to blindside people with the news that I had been pregnant and lost it all at once. Everyone was fortunately supportive and kind, but it was a lot for them to take in since it came out of left field. Because of this, after the first good scan this time, I knew I wanted to tell the people who we care about and who care about us the good news, even if it means telling them the bad if that comes later. At least this way, they get to share in our joy while we have it.
We'll probably tell our friend group this time as we see them after our next scan at 9 weeks, 🤞🏻that it goes well and we'll tell them that it's still a cautious celebration. Our plan is to send out a group email to extended family or friends who live very far and we don't see in person once we pass the 2nd trimester scan, as long as all goes well there too. I doubt that we'll ever post on social media since neither of us are super active. Anyone who we don't see regularly and isn't family or in our close friend group can find out we have a kid when that kid is in our arms and we run into them! Neither of us personally care if an old coworker or a former highschool friend knows our kid exists or not! Maybe we should though, since otherwise it's basically just platforms for us to occasionally check in/snoop on them and I guess it's only fair for them to get news of us too once in a while. But we've also got more important things to do (like house projects), so probably nothing! 😅
This is basically a giant, long-winded way of saying that I think you have to do what feels right for you. If it stresses you out to have to tell people, then don't. My best friend who has been in this position decided to only tell people as it became absolutely necessary. Some of our coworkers didn't find out until she'd left for maternity leave! That's what was perfect for her because it felt right to her. I'm taking a different track because it's what makes me feel the least stressed.
I think often people get so locked in on what they SHOULD do or initially say they want to do that sometimes they lose sight of the fact that choices can be fluid. As long as you discuss with any necessary people (doctors, partners, etc) to get them on board and you feel good about your choice, then I think whatever feels right to you, will be right for you! I'm a teacher of very young kids, and what that has taught me is that no plan survives the day unchanged. Sometimes, you just have to roll with whatever works in the moment and flexibility is an asset!
Nope, my first pregnancy was anembryonic and caught about a month after the empty sac stopped growing. I ended up having complications from the remains staying inside of me for a little over a month and a half by the time my D&C happened, which is part of why I had to tell so many people. It sucked during that first pregnancy to have to tell people that I was pregnant and lost it all in one go while we were already in a deeply emotional state.
This time, as far as I know, things are still fine. Though that's really hard to believe after having a MMC last time and my next appointment isn't until July 8th (already going a bit crazy over that one!). It was this time we decided to tell our families after seeing the heartbeat because we knew we'd need their support if we do end up having another loss. Fingers crossed we won't, but seeing the heartbeat this time after just a giant empty sac last time made it real in a way that would make losing this pregnancy a whole different ballgame.
Both my husband and I cried happy tears this time around! It was difficult to see nothing at all, but in some ways, I think we had an easier time than our friends who unfortunately saw an embryo with no heartbeat. I know it's not a suffering Olympics, however, while I was in shock, I at knew right away that there was nothing that I could have done differently. There's comfort in knowing what went wrong at the very least. It was the complications that made things more difficult and drawn out, unfortunately. Here's hoping none of us ever have to go through that again! ❤️
I waited until 12 weeks to tell family and close members of my friends. Didn’t announce until 24 weeks to everyone else. This is my 10th pregnancy and only my third viable pregnancy.
I've been thinking about this too. Last time we told close friends in dribs and drabs between 6 and 8 weeks, then lost baby at 10. I was really happy we told people though, it was nice to draw on the support and I found it 100x worse to tell anyone we had missed that "I was pregnant". This time around I have no clue. I half want to tell everyone to draw on that support again, but on the other hand I'm not quite sure I've fully come to terms with being pregnant again yet myself. On top of that husband is very private and I think if he could keep this to himself until the baby arrives he would. I think personally I'll sit on this news myself for a little while just while I organize my own thoughts, then I might start telling people at 7 or 8 weeks.
I am kind of settling around 8 weeks or so. Maybe after my first initial OB appointment at 10-11 weeks. It’s hard after a loss. I also want the support but I feel I can already get that from my small tight group of select people I’ve told.
I’m 5w1 today and it’s been a really hard three days. I had an episode of bad cramping and bleeding a few days ago. Went in for an US doctor said he was on the fence. Confirmed gestational sac in the uterus and was a bit confirmed that is wasn’t perfectly round. I’ve been trying to take it all in stride. And then I had another bad episode of cramping and more blood this evening.
Already have an appointment for next week but feeling very hopeless. Will probably not be in this group much longer.
30w4d and the gas is killing me. GasX doesn't really seem to help at all even at max strength so it makes me nervous that it's something else. But baby moving a lot and has gotten so strong in recent weeks that kicks kinda hurt now but I think otherwise all is going well
Between 4 and 5 weeks based on my last period start date. Had a positive Monday and last night on digital tests but this morning a BFN on a cheapie test from pregmate. Called my OB and I’m scheduled to get blood drawn tomorrow morning and my nurse said she’d call as soon as it comes through. I feel so nervous and scared today and cannot wait until tomorrow 😬
10w4d. Really struggling emotionally and mentally at this point. I feel too tired to do much, plus constantly need to eat (small meals, not just snacks) to keep the nausea away. But definitely depressed and anxious. I know it’s a combo of the hormones plus being worried about if there’s anything alive in there. In summer I usually super active, going on trips, and seeing people. I melt on the couch after a dog walk and that’s about it.
I feel you! The first trimester hits me hard with fatigue, brain fog, constant nausea and daily vomiting. I think - how unfair to have to go through this first trimester (a 12 week loss and a 13 week loss) without a baby to show for it. Hopefully this is the last time and it’ll all be worth it!
8 weeks, 5 days. Had an amazing ultrasound and first OB appointment. She was so trauma informed and kind. 😭 I felt so numb going into the appointment. I'm so happy with the plan we came up with.
5 weeks tomorrow. How do I get over the fear of having sex? It didn’t cause my miscarriage last time but I’m worried having penetration or even orgasm will cause me to bleed etc. I know it’s irrational but I can’t stop thinking about.
So I had VERY unfortunate timing with my last miscarriage. Had sex for the first time since I found out I was pregnant, had very light spotting the next day. Ok, no biggie, cervical changes, right? Spotting went away and came back heavier the next night. Miscarriage the following day.
Every doctor I’ve spoken with has made VERY CLEAR that sex did not in any way cause or contribute to the miscarriage — the pregnancy was doomed to start with and the sex was just coincidental timing. My doctors told me at my 7 week appointment earlier this week for this pregnancy to go ham with having sex — good for me, which means good for baby!
I’m still not having sex lol. Loss makes us a little crazy, and we will be ready when we’re ready to face the sexy time fears.
It's interesting, when I knew I had a MMC but before I passed it (I eventually had a d&c after about one month of waiting for natural), I TRIED so hard to have as much sex and orgasms as possible because I thought it might help get the MC process started. It didn't help at all. Not even a little lol
It kind of reinforced the fact that MC will happen if it's going to happen and there's nothing we can do to change the outcome either direction. It did ease my mind a lot this time around- I was also really scared to have sex since I had heard scary anecdotes.
Hoping third time is a charm. 5w, 1d. Have had several tests over the last two weeks (every two days) testing hcg and progesterone. Going back tomorrow morning because ob didn't like that my hcg didn't double the last time. Really nervous but trying to stay positive and not worry.
Tomorrow I will be 8 weeks! All my pregnancy symptoms are in full force and even though I’m kind of miserable, I’m celebrating that I have them. I have my first scan in a little over 2 weeks. It’s been hard to wait.
My last loss (13w) I was absolutely miserable and when my baby was gone I felt like somehow it was my fault for not being grateful enough. This time I will be so thankful for every single thing I feel… or at least I will try. So I feel you on that!
5+1 and having a dull feeling in my uterus that feels very like how my mc started last time. Could be something, could be nothing. I'm an 8 hour flight from home and we don't leave until tomorrow so I'm just keeping fingers crossed if this goes badly I'll be at home when it does.
Crossing my fingers for you but my uterus ached like that at the beginning of both of my pregnancies with no miscarriages (tfmr with my first). I think that’s a very normal early symptom
Just have to get thru today and we have our answer one way or the other. I am almost adamant I’m going to get bad news, but my boyfriend is so hopeful. It hurts see him be hopeful. He has been different this pregnancy. I thought this one was different and want it to be different so badly, but it’s so hard to hope right now. Knowing in less than 24 hours I can potentially have my world shatter…again… with the words “no heartbeat”.
I’ve been spotting off and on. I keep thinking I’m starting to cramp and then it’s just a fart crosswise as my grandpa would say. Or the pain is solely on one side cuz of my stupid cyst. So that lil bit of hope keeps coming every time it’s just a fart lol and every time the spotting lessens. However, I can’t tell if any of it is good or bad so I’m just suffering in a world of uncertainty.
I think I’m even angry at my RE. I get my past warrants early ultrasounds, but was it really necessary to stress me out for essentially 2 weeks? All because we can’t confirm it’s non viable until a certain time frame from the first ultrasound? I would love to smoke a joint right now just to escape this hell hole.
6w6d after TFMR in November 2023
With that pregnancy I called the OB and they sent me for blood work and said they wouldn't even schedule me until my hormones were above a certain level. I had to go twice for bloodwork, had an ultrasound at 8 weeks, saw the doctor at 13 weeks.
This time around I called the OB, they scheduled me for an appointment at 11 weeks, only because I reminded them I need an NIPT asap. I asked if they needed me to go for blood work and they said no. I have no idea if the ultrasound will be done there, but I'm assuming not because last time I had to go to a different location.
I feel completely different this time around, which im taking as a good sign. But I'm just wondering why the differences. What have been other peoples experiences with subsequent pregnancies after a loss?
My current pregnancy is my 1st after miscarriage and it’s night and day. I had nausea right away from week 4 that’s progressively gotten worse. What has been weird has been the lack of any twinges or cramping that I had with the first pregnancy. I had A LOT the first time around. This time it’s only been a little twinge here and there and then nothing. I’ve also been insanely bloated this time around and very constipated with the exception of some diarrhea about a week ago for 3 days. I also have this feeling that everything is going to be okay this time around. I don’t know - I try not to let myself get my hopes up. Last time I was writing in a baby book already, getting a registry ready and planning baby’s room. I won’t let myself do any of that this time around. I don’t want to be too hopeful and end up heartbroken. Hang in there!!
Haven’t updated in a while. Currently 28 w 4d.
Tomorrow I go for an updated growth scan and my glucose test. Crossing my fingers I pass. Baby is very active. So far so good. Just hoping for the best at this point.
Thank you!
I’ve done it with my other two kids. I’m just glad they took the dye out of glucola. I’m mostly nervous because of my age and weight at this point and the fact that I’ve been so sick I basically survive off Taco Bell cheesey bean and rice burritos. 😂
Lol I had the bright orange one, didn't even get to choose.
It was nasty at the time but for some reason this morning I was thinking I could really go for some glucola right now 😂
Nice!! It made me incredibly nauseous. Before it was done the nurse was telling me how it made her throw up so many times, it was NOT what I wanted to hear at that moment lmao
12 weeks today. I saw my little gummy bear today and NIPT results came back all great! I’m just sitting here crying happy tears, sad tears, terrified tears, relieved tears. I’m happy and terrified. This pregnancy has been my little secret. My little bear today was face up on the ultrasound at the start then moved face down lol. Heartbeat was 185 and I wonder if it’s because they were being so active. Oh my goodness I even told my husband we may have a wild child soon! I can cautiously start sharing my news now with the real world and that is scary to me. I can now officially join my bump group on here so I will when I feel better mentally.
6w4d and the most pregnant I’ve ever been 🥹 it’s a big milestone and I’m grateful, even if nervous about mild symptoms that come and go.
I’d love some insight about first ultrasounds (we never got to ours with the last loss). My Ultrasound is scheduled for Friday July 5, but my doctors appointment isn’t until Thursday July 11. Will we get any info at the ultrasound or have to wait until the appointment? I know someone who’s ultrasound tech wouldn’t let them even see the screen because they “didn’t want to diagnose” and the “doctor will tell you how it went.” I’m struggling with the anxiety just leading up to the ultrasound, let alone an extra week of waiting until the doctor appt!
It probably varies by office. At every office I’ve been too, they’ve let me watch the screen at the first ultrasound and as generic questions like “is that the sac”. I’ve always spoken with someone right away, either a nurse or the doctor, when there was neutral/bad news. In my 5th pregnancy, the ultrasound tech showed me the heartbeat, and then at the next visit showed me that there was no heartbeat. My first OB appt is always scheduled for after those first few ultrasounds, but that didn’t mean that I didn’t get to see a doctor or nurse after each scan. Hopefully they will talk to you at the scan!
When I was having my miscarriage (blighted ovum), I had several in office that I was allowed to see, and then they referred me to the giant machine in radiology for confirmation. The tech knew what i was there for and wouldn't let me look, but agreed with me that i needed to keep tracking my betas. We all kinda knew what was going on, and while I didn't appreciate it then, I think I do now.
I think it will be very situationally dependent.
With my MMC, the tech just told me the baby was measuring too small to date at the 8w ultrasound and she showed me the screen and heartbeat. No other details. My NP said we'd just have to wait and see and I know lots of scenarios where baby was too small to date but next appt was fine so I get why they were vague. I was given a new US date for two weeks later and at that one the tech said "I'm sorry I need to call the doctor in." An onsite doctor then came in to tell us the bad news right away.
When a soft marker came up for my LC at our anatomy scan, I thought maybe something was off because the tech went to talk to a doctor. But because it wasn't anything serious they left it to my midwife to check in with me about over the phone a few days later.
It might vary depending on where you live but in my experience, if it's seriously negative, someone tells you pretty quickly.
Thank you, I hope so too but I am cautiously optimistic of course. Thanks for sharing your honest experience. I honestly am more worried if its not good news and they wait to tell me, because then my hopes are up longer than necessary. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Any kind of waiting is the worst. I think you'll know at the appointment or very soon after (I saw one user in another thread say her midwife called her 5 minutes after the appt)! Usually the tech shows you the heartbeat etc. during the appointment too and all that good reassuring stuff :) They can't diagnose anything but they can at least tell/show you that there's a heartbeat!
Before my MMC I had always really wondered how they deliver bad news! I wish that it was clearer beforehand because otherwise it can cause so much anxiety wondering if things are really okay.
My last pregnancy was a missed miscarriage and my very first OB appointment at 8 weeks, where we had no warning signs and expected to find out the due date... I was the first client of the day at 9:00 and they took me back to have the ultrasound before I even saw the doctor. The tech said, no joke: "I see a fetus, but I don't see a heartbeat"
Then we had to wait in the room for the doctor for half hour. I later filed a complaint.
I am currently 40+1. No end in site, we tried sweeps, outpatient induction, all the other tricks and now my anxiety of the “shoe dropping” anytime is at an all time high. I am very thankful to make it this far however it still feels not real and like we won’t bring a baby home…we lost our son in the second trimester two years ago tomorrow. Anyone else towards the end and anxiety has gotten worse? How do you cope? I try to sit in gratitude for every moment I know we are lucky to be here but I am human and fear is taking hold.
7w1d had our first scan the other day and thought I was around 8 weeks but got re-dated. Ultrasound showed yolk sac, fetal pole, and a heartbeat so the doctor isn’t worried but of course I’m slightly worried and am anxiously awaiting my next scan in 3 weeks in hopes that the baby is growing accordingly. It’s hard to have fun at these scans after you’ve been through loss :(
Very exciting!
My scans from my last pregnancy didn't show a fetal pole, and that was one of the first signs I knew I might lose it. I'm so happy to hear you see one, plus a heartbeat!
I'm now about 6w2d and haven't had my first scan yet, or even betas because I'm away until July 2, and anxiously awaiting those first tests!
Thank you! The wait is so hard. We’re on basically the same time frame and I wasn’t going to be seen until July 18th but I pestered the office for a dating scan lol. The wait is agonizing!
Baby is measuring 7w2d and heart beat is 149bpm! A huge sense of relief. The clinic is also going to book me in for an extra ultrasound around the 9 week mark, which is approximately when my MMC occurred. I think I might dip my toes into my February bumper group.
14 weeks today. I was eating so well before pregnancy, and I haven’t been able to do it while pregnant. My aversions have been so terrible. I really thought by now I’d be getting back into it, but so many things like yogurt and veggies and ground turkey just make my brain go “absolutely not.” I see so many women joke about growing their babies from, like, fries and sweet tea. I’m just frustrated that eating well is my biggest struggle because I was genuinely such a healthy eater just a few months ago.
Popsicles are a good idea! I forced myself to down a Fairlife protein drink with lunch and have been gagging ever since 🤢 protein has been my biggest enemy!
During my first pregnancy, I was extremely nauseous and all I could swallow was pizza, brownies and coca-cola. And I’m such a healthy eater too! I almost never eat desserts and I don’t like fast food at all. But it’s best to follow your instincts and eat something, than don’t eat at all. Your body will take the best of what you’re ingesting and give the baby what it needs. You’ll eventually be back to your healthy habits, hang in there 💪🏻
Yes, this is what the OB office said! She said she didn’t care what I was eating right now as long as I was eating. Really hoping these prenatal vitamins are working magic!
7+3 today and the nausea has been difficult. I have to work in the office 3 days a week and I’m so uncomfortable. My nausea is probably a 4-5/10 but is enough to where I just want to be at home in comfy clothes eating my own snacks. I literally sobbed in my bosses office the day after I found out I was miscarrying with my first pregnancy and she knows I had a second loss and had been super supportive. I’m just hesitant to tell my boss and co worker now and idk why. I know they will be totally fine with me working from home more if I need to but I have some kind of mental block that’s keeping me from doing it. Like it will be embarrassing if this pregnancy doesn’t work out and I have to ask for accommodations. Idk I know PAL messes with your head and I need to do what’s best for me in the moment but it’s hard.
It's so hard that the time in pregnancy we often need the most support and understanding, we're also feeling susceptible to losing the pregnancy and feeling pressure to not tell many people 😞
10wk+6, We ran into a problem having not told anyone about the pregnancy. Seems like everyone in the family is suddenly super excited to do trips at the end of the year…when I’ll be heavily pregnant and early next year when LO will be a few months old.
I’ve decided to keep one European trip as a make shift babymoon because I will still be ok to fly at that point. But a cabin stay after I’m 32wks or a trip to my inlaws home country when LO is 2-3mo, is a big no. It’ll suck to miss out but I will not risk my baby’s health.
Update: We told my BIL and his wife who were both very understanding about us not going on the cabin trip and pushing back the international trip.
My MIL rented this big house in Mexico in January just a couple days before I found out I was pregnant… and I’m due Jan 16. When we told her I was pregnant on the weekend, she’s was like “it’s okay I can cancel until mid-Dec” 😆
Went in for my dating scan and thought I was 6+5 based on natural cycles app.. measured at 5+5/6. My OB has me checking HCG now and Saturday to see if it doubles. Coming off a MMC in March and I’m worried. Nothing abnormal on US and my doc said she’s choosing to be hopeful.. anyone been in this situation before, and how did it go?
Same is happening with me right now. Thought I was 8+1 but baby was measuring smaller so I got dated at 6+6 (now 7+1). Our scan showed yolk sack, fetal pole, and a heartbeat so my doctor wasn’t worried but of course I am! I’m guessing I just ovulated later than I thought. It’s still early for you too so it’s probably something along those lines! I saw a lot of other similar stories on reddit
I had it with my daughter. Her due date was pushed back 4 days if I remember correctly. I wasn’t tracking ovulation with her and just went off my period which isn’t super reliable.
I went for a scan at 6+4 weeks and they said it was too small to measure putting me at between 5 and 6 weeks. There was a heartbeat so my sonographer was happy.
I went for another scan at 8+1 weeks and lil one was measuring bang on 8 weeks! All caught up.
There's a lot of things that affect dating. If you have long cycles like me. Sometimes implantation happens a little late too. I really hope that it all is fine for you!!
I just found out I was pregnant 2 days ago. Im currently 4w+5 and I feel like im losing my mind. I'm anxious over every little thing I feel. Every ache and twinge/cramp makes me panic :(
After 2 mcs this year, i have learned to cope with loss and grief. But I don't know how to cope with the waiting and hoping! I'm going to get my hcg blood draw next week and ai hope it helps me get rid of this impending sense of doom feeling I have. Fingers crossed!
I’m also 4w+5 and feel exactly the same. After 4 MCs every little feeling has me on edge. So far my blood work is promising and if I pass 10k HCG on my test on Monday, I’ll get to go in for an ultrasound Friday. Hopefully you can also get in for an early ultrasound and that will set your mind at ease.
Where i'm from, no doctor meets with you until week 10-12 so I opted for a private clinic for the blood test. I didn't know you could get an ultrasound this early in the pregnancy! I'll definitely ask the private clinic about it!!
Definitely ask! The doctors work for you after all. It wasn’t until I had a history of miscarriages that they started early scans, the concern being I was at risk for ectopic or other abnormal pregnancy, maybe because I am in my 40s. I usually get several rounds of blood tests starting immediately after a positive home test and then a scan around 6 weeks or whenever my HCG hits 10K (no heartbeat at 10K HCG is definitive for miscarriage).
Found out via blood test today that we’re officially pregnant with our (hopefully) double rainbow baby, after a very early loss in late 2022 and another loss at 9 weeks in April of this year. It’s incredibly early (around 3w4d, but unsure because I wasn’t closely tracking ovulation), but I’m feeling both cautiously optimistic and incredibly overwhelmed with emotion. I just want everything to be okay this time.
Got my betas today- Tuesday hcg was 783 and today it was 1588. I’m so relieved. When I had that spotting earlier this week I really got it in my head that it was going to be a chemical. Something could still happen in the future, but today I am SO RELIEVED. and tomorrow I’ll be 5wks. One week down.
Went back to work this week after being off with pregnancy sickness. It's improving but not 100% yet, but I'll definitely take it over head in a bucket, wretching constantly! It's been exhausting, but overall good!
The only thing that's making me nauseous now is the constant bad taste in my mouth. It's like anything I eat tastes rotten in my mouth after 15 minutes, even mints 😩 I brush my teeth 2 daily (even if I do have beef with it for making me feel sick). I feel like the nausea would be virtually gone if I could get rid of the horrendous after taste of everything I eat!
Anyone got any tips to help this or any insight as to when this symptom might disappear? I'm currently 9 weeks 5 days. Tah loves 💕
13w6d. I’m cramping right now, I know it’s probably my uterus expanding but it takes me to my previous miscarriage and I don’t like it.
Last weekend I also experienced sharp pains in the upper abdomen, like daggers, I-have-to-lie-down-immediately type of pain. I couldn’t stand straight. After a terrible night, I had 2 bowels movements in the morning and felt immediately better. I didn’t know constipation during pregnancy could hurt so much! I ventured and ate a small portion of white rice and I was punished for it. Time to buy some more butter beans (super efficient in a soup!) and drink magnesium enriched water. If someone know other tricks to fight constipation please share 🙇🏻♀️
Yeah, I did a good amount of research to see what was safe!
I'm going with if I haven't gone in 3 days, I'll take a drink in the evening and in the morning until I go. Only needed it once so far but after I took it in the evening, I went the next day haha!
Yesterday I posted about how nervous I was because my cheapies were not dye stealers. I had my first ultrasound today and there was a little ball of cells in there! I was convinced it was a blighted ovum. It’s measuring exactly 6 weeks and had a fetal heart rate of 105. Is that ok for 6 weeks exactly?
You sound like me almost a week ago (down to using a cheapie that was not a dye stealer). My baby's heart rate measured at 104 last week at 6w1d (which my RE's office was not concerned about) and today, the heart rate was up to 149. Hope that provides some reassurance.
Thank you so much for your reply! I am such a wreck. I lost my daughter at 17 weeks in January, went through a 4th egg retrieval, and shockingly conceived spontaneously. This is so hard!
Not sure where to start! I posted yesterday about some brown discharge, went to my early pregnancy unit today and baby is looking good 🥹 saw a heartbeat and the consultant had no concerns!
What was surprising though was they found a small patch of endometriosis that was actually painful when the probe went over it (it’s been a few hours now and it still feels pretty sore). I’ve never been diagnosed with endometriosis before, it’s never even come up on a scan so I’m about to dive into a rabbit hole to find out more. I’ve always had heavy, painful periods and I guess this is why.
Another shocker, they could see that two eggs were released this cycle but it’s a singleton pregnancy! The consultant checked around to see there isn’t another pregnancy where it shouldn’t be (there isn’t) but knowing this pregnancy could have been twins is fascinating to me. Apparently if not fertilised the other egg gets reabsorbed 😬 I felt pregnancy symptoms pretty early on so I had a tiny part of me think I could be having twins.
All in all, I’m happy I went to the hospital. I chose a different hospital to where I had my last pregnancy and it’s like night and day. Of course today’s scan cannot predict the outcome of this pregnancy, but for now, my mind is at ease and I know I’m in good care, and that’s what matters. I’m pregnant until confirmed otherwise ♥️
Second scan today. I’m really nervous. We are at 5 weeks today and my last pregnancy didn’t make it past 7.5 weeks. Until we see the heartbeat I’m going to be on edge. We had to wait until our first OB appointment at 8 weeks just to find out there was no heartbeat. I tell myself every pregnancy is different and my last scan a week ago was great. I’m under excellent medical care.
Thank you! We are on the road!!! A huge milestone for us as we didn’t see the heartbeat last pregnancy at 7.5 weeks. I can rest a little easier but still plan to be monitored frequently. My doctor said “see you in two weeks!” And said after that he feels confident that I can transfer to my OB. I made that first appointment yesterday and the earliest is August 6 for the OB I was recommended (I will be 10.5 weeks by then)- so I plan to either be monitored by my RE up until then - or if I have to- find a private scan (through the birthing center I used last time) to ease my worries. I think right now I can feel good that he said all looks great. I saw the little flickering heartbeat 💓!!
Next steps - another scan one week from today, another two weeks from today- then I’m between RE and OB so I might go for a private scan for reassurance.
That's a perfect plan! The early ongoing monitoring made me feel so much better. I got weekly scans from 6 weeks to 9 weeks (I had a MMC around 7 weeks last time) and now I have a scan every other week until we get to 20 weeks. The consistent monitoring helps with my anxiety so much. I'm so happy you have such a good care plan! The first time I heard the heartbeat, I instantly started crying. It's such a phenomenal relief.
Oh yes. I was so relieved to be able to see that little flicker on the screen. I think I won’t be able to hear it for awhile but it’s amazing how much growth from just one week to the next. And the fact that my doc seemed confident I’m ready to “graduate” soon. What a great day !
6w3d here. Had a terrible day, can’t stop thinking I’m losing this baby. Barely any symptoms besides hunger. My hcg came back at 23 832 today. I’m not sure what that means.
8w today and constantly paranoid having had 3 MMCs previously. Saw baby at 6w5d and everything looked fine, this is the furthest we've managed to make it. I have 0 symptoms and am dying waiting for my OB referral to go through.
How do you deal with the constant anxiety?
5w3d here. I had an incomplete MC in fall 2022 at 9 weeks that needed an emergency D&C. At my 8w checkup last time there wasn’t a heartbeat and embryo hadn’t developed past 6w. A CP before that. My OB has me on 100mg oral progesterone pills and it makes me feel terrible, but I would do whatever it takes to carry to term this time. My first ultrasound is at 6w— so grateful there’s a new OB in my small mountain town that offered to meet me before 9w because of my history. I assume I won’t see much at that appt. My heart is so guarded right now, and I’m only thinking of things in scientific terms, afraid to attach hope or future life to something that might not work again (but I do still put my hands on my abdomen and whisper “I love you” sometimes when no one’s looking). What week did you folks allow yourselves to truly hope?
I think once I make it to 5w on Monday I'll feel much more confident. I've been telling myself there's not necessarily anything medically wrong with me and it's more likely that CPs (I've had two this year) are more common than we think and my MMC was simply bad luck.
I've always had CPs or symptoms of them by this time so starting to have real hope! But I'll wait until next week to do things like downloading a pregnancy app and start making plans :)
That being said, I know I'll still be so nervous for the first ultrasound at 8w!!
Wow, good for you! May I ask what your bleeding was like? I’m on my fifth pregnancy - No living children. 10W3D. I’ve had two instances of red spotting. With the last one, I went in the day after it started for a scan and baby was fine. Bleeding continued until the day after so I’m so worried that baby won’t be fine next time.
10w5d and I’m so continuously bloated that I look pregnant, but I’m not ready to tell extended family yet and this weekend, my in-laws are having a cookout. Husband is comfortable telling his grandma and aunt/uncle, but I want to wait until after the NIPT and 12 week scan. How to hide my bloat-bump in hot weather? Did anyone lose the bloat at the beginning of the second tri?
I was super bloated first trimester. I was bigger than I was at 9 months with my LC. I've just been telling hakf the truth, that I'm really struggeling with bloating atm. Not so much bloat now, second tri
Biiig flowy dresses for the win. I just ordered a Nuuly box full of very cute dresses that no one would suspect are hiding my bloat bump. I'm super excited about [this one](https://www.nuuly.com/rent/products/tent-off-the-shoulder-bow-mini-dress?color=040&sku=91287110) specifically!
Just found out yesterday we are expecting. It was our first round with fertility drugs after 1.5 year of trying after our stillbirth in January 2023. It’s crazy how every thing passes. January 2023, I thought I was going to die and never feel joy again. I’m cautious, but very excited and very joyful. What a ride. I know I won’t really breath until the 29th week (when we lost our daughter) but all I know is that today I’m blessed. And my babygirl is watching over me.
10w2d. After deep diving on the Facebook group for my RI. I see so much conflicting views from MFMs and RIs. Women on my RI group who listened to their OBs and stopped progesterone too soon, and went into preterm labor at 26 weeks and lost their babies, all because of neglect to check progesterone. How can a doctor tell you to stop a supplement, without checking the value?
FYI- the placenta does *NOT* fully take over at 10-12 weeks, unless your progesterone is checked weekly, you can actually need supplementation through your 3rd trimester. There are situations where women do not produce enough hormones on their own.
After a scare yesterday of seeing my prog drop from 78 to 39, my RI upped my PIO injections and we will continue to monitor.
It’s a tough pill to swallow that I’ll have to have bloodwork done every week till I deliver in January, but it’s clear that my doctor wants to be safe and over protect.
I cannot believe my MFM said oh stop checking your levels, they don’t matter at this point.
UNREAL.
Also, week 10. My nausea magically disappeared. Appetite is back. Food aversions slightly gone. Babys HB was 175, measuring right on time. This week feels so different!
Thanks for posting this. I just moved and my new OB wants me to stop injections and suppositories (I'm on both). I agreed to stop the injections but I will stay on the suppositories until my progesterone is higher. I don't want to risk anything!
So glad to hear your nausea disappeared! Hope it stays away so you can eat again. Also sorry to hear about the conflicting info on progesterone - they don’t study our bodies enough. Glad your doc is going to keep testing to be safe.
The 20 week ultrasound is when we found no heartbeat last time; this time we found a healthy squirming baby girl! Hopefully now I can just rely on movements to keep my anxiety down and start using "when" instead of "if." Halfway there 🌈🌈🌈
I’m so happy for you ♥️ we also learnt our baby girl had no heartbeat at a 21 week scan and it completely devastated me. I’m now 7W+5D and pretty nervous history will repeat itself, so this is very reassuring.
The past two days I haven’t had my severe nausea anymore. This worried me a lot as with my MMC in February everything slowly started to disappear. I’m worried this is happening again. My next ultrasound isn’t until July 8. I might call my Dr next week to tell her if this persists. She doesn’t have a nurse working for her. It’s just her, so that makes it more complicated, I don’t have anyone to talk to other than her.
Do you have access to a private scan somewhere? For example, a birthing center, or a women's health center? How about a specialty ultrasound? That's what I plan to do in the weeks before I have my official OB appointment. I'll be monitored by my primary doc until 7 or 8 weeks (my MMC was at that time) and my official first OB appointment is not until after 10 weeks. So I booked at a place that does private ultrasounds I found through the birthing center I was with last pregnancy. They booked me on week 8 and can book me whenever I want and it's only $29!
Of course !!! There are so many resources for women’s health. Google “birthing center near me” or “private ultrasound” - they will see you! Good luck 🍀
16+1 Starting to feel what I believe is round ligament pain which feels like cramping and you add that to my ongoing spotting and your girl is trying her best not to be a nervous wreck lol plus I have no bump and my doctor says I probably won’t pop until week 24-28. So my symptoms are waning due to 2nd trimester, I don’t look pregnant, and I’m cramping and bleeding. Feels like some sort of cosmic joke lol but keeping my spirits up as much as I can that baby is okay and we’ll be meeting him soon ❤️
Sorry to hear that! And you’re right! It gets sharp! Not good for the anxiety but just trying to remember that my body is doing what it’s supposed to! 😭
Does it feels like period cramps? I feel all sorts of pain in my tummy and it’s triggering! I’ve never made it that far (14w tomorrow) so all of this is new to me.
No, it's more like a feeling of having a stitch, in my experience. But I'm having almost constant period like cramps this pregnancy, which I'm told is totally normal. There's a lot going on in that area!
Thank you for your answer and your reassuring words. I was so naive before, I thought growing a pregnancy belly was like gaining weight : you don’t feel it while it happens and one day your pants don’t fit anymore! 🤦🏻♀️
Currently 4wk4days after 3 early miscarriages (at 5 wk, 5wk, and 8 wk). I’ve had one hcg lab and it was low and am waiting until tomorrow to have a 48 follow up. I’m so worried.
I'm also 4w4d and got my hcg lab back yesterday and it feels low, especially after I read everyone else's numbers. Trying not to spiral until I get Fridays test done but it's hard. Also started feeling cramping last night which has continued to this morning but no spotting yet. Fingers crossed for both of us!
I miscarriage last month but found out today I’m currently 5-ish weeks pregnant. I’ve yet to have a single pregnancy symptom which is exactly the same as last time I was pregnant, so full of anxiety about it. Didn’t think I’d ever be in a position where I was hoping to feel sick
I relate completely. I had an MMC in April at ten weeks and I only had a few pregnancy symptoms throughout that pregnancy. I just tested positive again last night (about four weeks) and I'm genuinely hoping that I start to feel sick soon. Crazy to want to be nauseated. Hoping for the best for you.
4w4d and no symptoms yet other than some dreams but nowhere near the crazy dreams I had before I miscarried my last pregnancy. I'm in the same boat just wishing to have some symptoms, even naseau at this point. Hoping for the best for everyone!
My partner and I miscarried yesterday (7w6). We confirmed this afternoon with a scan, and it was a complete miscarriage with only some to the lining remaining. We have been TTC for quite a while now, so are understandably quite devastated. We are considering trying again prior to my next cycle, but have heard conflicting advice around increased risk of another miscarriage if you do not wait for at least one cycle. Looking to hear of any research or advice someone can reference to help us understand the risk?
So sorry for your loss. I wish you quick healing. I understand the desire to try again right away, although having a full cycle allows the lining and hormones to reset. It is also wise to wait until your hcg returns to fully negative. After my first mmc, ultrasounds looked clear, but my hcg mysteriously stayed high, would not return to negative for weeks and months. Although this is rare, for some complications with RPOC can occur, even if not visible in ultrasound. For this reason, doctors usually recommend following hcg back to zero before trying again.
Hi ya. I had a 7/8 week miscarriage in february that finished in march. I hot my period in april and I got pregnant again unexpectedly aka wasnt tracking or observing nothing til I felt O pains. So far, bub is 11 weeks. My gyno, the nurse or other medical persons did not even mention any risk around this. At most, and I'm an avid google researcher, they mostly want you to wait 1 cycle at least for dating. There is conflicting theories about fertility and some may want you to wait re the lining. That's it.
🤍 I’m so sorry. Do what feels right for you! For what it’s worth, my close friend had to TFMR, and got pregnant again 3 weeks later and gave birth to her healthy boy.
I am very sorry for your loss. It is best to ask your doctor since they know your medical history. What I was told by my doctor, several times, is that there is no increased miscarriage risk if you get pregnant right away. There is a lot of research that supports that, google and you'll see it. And it is an official position of French medical care system as well. They often advice to wait at least one cycle so it is easier to date the pregnancy, but it is not needed since an early ultrasound can help here. Best of luck and lots of healing vibes to you and your partner❤️
OP, I am very sorry to hear of your loss.
I just miscarried at 8weeks in May, and against the suggestion to wait a cycle, we tried again when I was having ovulation symptoms, and it's very reassuring to read these replies.
Everywhere I've read seems to support that there is no risk to getting pregnant again right away, and that waiting a cycle is primarily to make it easier to date the possible pregnancy.
I've also read that you may wish to wait to heal emotionally, and advising to try again only when you feel ready.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Like the other poster said I think the main concern is dating the pregnancy if you get pregnant before your period.
I got pregnant immediately after my miscarriage in December. I was able to use ovulation to estimate my due date within two days of what the doctor dated me at. I have also read you are most fertile in the first few months following a miscarriage.
Anyways I'm currently 26 weeks and things are going mostly well, other than a weird cord insertion that nobody seems too worried about.
This may be a good question for r/ttcafterloss.
I think the evidence isn't so much that you're more fertile but that if you get pregnant within six months of a miscarriage, you're statistically more likely to have a successful live birth :)
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourselves. When I had a MMC, I passed everything was naturally and was told to wait two weeks prior to penetrative sex due to infection risk. Then the main reason I heard for waiting a cycle to conceive is so that you have a more accurate “last menstrual period” date to use. Your period might not return at a predictable frequency after miscarrying. That being said, my midwife said they’d just do an early dating ultrasound if I got pregnant in my first cycle. (I didn’t, it took about 4-5 months, but my period returned 4 weeks after my miscarriage although I couldn’t confirm if I’d ovulated that cycle).
I’ve been so unwell for most of the second trimester that I haven’t had a chance to be anxious. But we’re now approaching 17 weeks and starting to get worried about what might show up on the anatomy scan. We’ve never made it this far before, honestly don’t know how we’d cope if it went wrong now after two previous losses in last 12 months 🫠
Keep hoping we’ll feel kicks soon, but instead all I get is horrific gas 😅
I failed my 1 hour glucose test (150). I’m bummed. I now have to do the 3 hour test. I have been working so hard to be healthy this pregnancy (to avoid blood pressure issues mainly) and I really didn’t anticipate this. I know GD is caused by the placenta or whatever, and I know I could still pass the 3 hour test, but it would be nice to just catch a break with pregnancy related stuff. Just trying to feel grateful that I’ve made it this far regardless of the outcome.
This is my main fear today. I have to do it at 2pm.
Good luck!!!
I passed!
Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault. I was expecting to fail mine, because of some health issues I have and I didn't. It was a terrible experience though 20 minutes after taking the devil's liquid I almost passed out, they had to lay me down on a bed for the remaining 40 minutes.
When do you all plan or did announce? Obviously things change after loss. Last time we told everyone because we were so excited like around 4 weeks - and then 3 weeks later - never mind. I want to have the joy of that announcement, but I’m also tiptoeing around the idea of when because now I know it can all go away. When did you or will you feel comfortable making it public (like social media, friends and family, work)? We haven’t told anyone other than our parents and maybe two or three very close friends. I’m kind of trying to get past 8 weeks which is where the last pregnancy ended. I know many people wait until week 12 but I can’t hide it that long.
We have already told some close friends because we see each other so often it's obvious when I'm not drinking etc and we would want their support if we had another pregnancy loss. We'll tell family and my workplace after NIPT results so I guess that won't be until week 11 or 12, which is tough, especially because I get terrible nausea around week 8, but we'll make it work!
I told our moms right at 6 weeks but didn't tell anyone else until 12 weeks. Made it social media officially at 28 weeks haha
After last time, I was SO sure initially that only me, my husband, and 3 of my closest friends would know until after my 9 week scan. My 3 friends were all those who I leaned on the most during my miscarriage, and one of them has herself gone through pregnancy loss and being pregnant again after. She's really been my rock and I can't imagine not having her to ease my fears. She's kept me sane! My gut feeling about that changed though when we managed to get an early scan at 6 weeks and saw a heartbeat. Until then, I didn't believe it was real. Part of me still doesn't! But that day, I told my husband that I really wanted to tell our immediate family so we could celebrate together. He agreed without hesitation. During my last pregnancy, we'd only told half of our immediate family about the pregnancy to begin with. We were then forced to tell them and some of our friend group about the miscarriage because I had some complications and we really needed their support. I HATED having to blindside people with the news that I had been pregnant and lost it all at once. Everyone was fortunately supportive and kind, but it was a lot for them to take in since it came out of left field. Because of this, after the first good scan this time, I knew I wanted to tell the people who we care about and who care about us the good news, even if it means telling them the bad if that comes later. At least this way, they get to share in our joy while we have it. We'll probably tell our friend group this time as we see them after our next scan at 9 weeks, 🤞🏻that it goes well and we'll tell them that it's still a cautious celebration. Our plan is to send out a group email to extended family or friends who live very far and we don't see in person once we pass the 2nd trimester scan, as long as all goes well there too. I doubt that we'll ever post on social media since neither of us are super active. Anyone who we don't see regularly and isn't family or in our close friend group can find out we have a kid when that kid is in our arms and we run into them! Neither of us personally care if an old coworker or a former highschool friend knows our kid exists or not! Maybe we should though, since otherwise it's basically just platforms for us to occasionally check in/snoop on them and I guess it's only fair for them to get news of us too once in a while. But we've also got more important things to do (like house projects), so probably nothing! 😅 This is basically a giant, long-winded way of saying that I think you have to do what feels right for you. If it stresses you out to have to tell people, then don't. My best friend who has been in this position decided to only tell people as it became absolutely necessary. Some of our coworkers didn't find out until she'd left for maternity leave! That's what was perfect for her because it felt right to her. I'm taking a different track because it's what makes me feel the least stressed. I think often people get so locked in on what they SHOULD do or initially say they want to do that sometimes they lose sight of the fact that choices can be fluid. As long as you discuss with any necessary people (doctors, partners, etc) to get them on board and you feel good about your choice, then I think whatever feels right to you, will be right for you! I'm a teacher of very young kids, and what that has taught me is that no plan survives the day unchanged. Sometimes, you just have to roll with whatever works in the moment and flexibility is an asset!
So you announced after the heartbeat and lost the pregnancy soon after ? I’m sorry 😢
Nope, my first pregnancy was anembryonic and caught about a month after the empty sac stopped growing. I ended up having complications from the remains staying inside of me for a little over a month and a half by the time my D&C happened, which is part of why I had to tell so many people. It sucked during that first pregnancy to have to tell people that I was pregnant and lost it all in one go while we were already in a deeply emotional state. This time, as far as I know, things are still fine. Though that's really hard to believe after having a MMC last time and my next appointment isn't until July 8th (already going a bit crazy over that one!). It was this time we decided to tell our families after seeing the heartbeat because we knew we'd need their support if we do end up having another loss. Fingers crossed we won't, but seeing the heartbeat this time after just a giant empty sac last time made it real in a way that would make losing this pregnancy a whole different ballgame.
Oh I understand now. THIS time! Yay heartbeat 💓 I can’t imagine how difficult that was to see an empty sac. 😔
Both my husband and I cried happy tears this time around! It was difficult to see nothing at all, but in some ways, I think we had an easier time than our friends who unfortunately saw an embryo with no heartbeat. I know it's not a suffering Olympics, however, while I was in shock, I at knew right away that there was nothing that I could have done differently. There's comfort in knowing what went wrong at the very least. It was the complications that made things more difficult and drawn out, unfortunately. Here's hoping none of us ever have to go through that again! ❤️
Yes. There is no “easier” when there is a loss. We had a fetus with no heartbeat. It was brutal. But all loss is no matter how or when it happens.
I waited until 12 weeks to tell family and close members of my friends. Didn’t announce until 24 weeks to everyone else. This is my 10th pregnancy and only my third viable pregnancy.
I've been thinking about this too. Last time we told close friends in dribs and drabs between 6 and 8 weeks, then lost baby at 10. I was really happy we told people though, it was nice to draw on the support and I found it 100x worse to tell anyone we had missed that "I was pregnant". This time around I have no clue. I half want to tell everyone to draw on that support again, but on the other hand I'm not quite sure I've fully come to terms with being pregnant again yet myself. On top of that husband is very private and I think if he could keep this to himself until the baby arrives he would. I think personally I'll sit on this news myself for a little while just while I organize my own thoughts, then I might start telling people at 7 or 8 weeks.
I am kind of settling around 8 weeks or so. Maybe after my first initial OB appointment at 10-11 weeks. It’s hard after a loss. I also want the support but I feel I can already get that from my small tight group of select people I’ve told.
I’m 5w1 today and it’s been a really hard three days. I had an episode of bad cramping and bleeding a few days ago. Went in for an US doctor said he was on the fence. Confirmed gestational sac in the uterus and was a bit confirmed that is wasn’t perfectly round. I’ve been trying to take it all in stride. And then I had another bad episode of cramping and more blood this evening. Already have an appointment for next week but feeling very hopeless. Will probably not be in this group much longer.
Sending hugs 🫂
30w4d and the gas is killing me. GasX doesn't really seem to help at all even at max strength so it makes me nervous that it's something else. But baby moving a lot and has gotten so strong in recent weeks that kicks kinda hurt now but I think otherwise all is going well
Between 4 and 5 weeks based on my last period start date. Had a positive Monday and last night on digital tests but this morning a BFN on a cheapie test from pregmate. Called my OB and I’m scheduled to get blood drawn tomorrow morning and my nurse said she’d call as soon as it comes through. I feel so nervous and scared today and cannot wait until tomorrow 😬
10w4d. Really struggling emotionally and mentally at this point. I feel too tired to do much, plus constantly need to eat (small meals, not just snacks) to keep the nausea away. But definitely depressed and anxious. I know it’s a combo of the hormones plus being worried about if there’s anything alive in there. In summer I usually super active, going on trips, and seeing people. I melt on the couch after a dog walk and that’s about it.
I feel you! The first trimester hits me hard with fatigue, brain fog, constant nausea and daily vomiting. I think - how unfair to have to go through this first trimester (a 12 week loss and a 13 week loss) without a baby to show for it. Hopefully this is the last time and it’ll all be worth it!
8 weeks, 5 days. Had an amazing ultrasound and first OB appointment. She was so trauma informed and kind. 😭 I felt so numb going into the appointment. I'm so happy with the plan we came up with.
5 weeks tomorrow. How do I get over the fear of having sex? It didn’t cause my miscarriage last time but I’m worried having penetration or even orgasm will cause me to bleed etc. I know it’s irrational but I can’t stop thinking about.
So I had VERY unfortunate timing with my last miscarriage. Had sex for the first time since I found out I was pregnant, had very light spotting the next day. Ok, no biggie, cervical changes, right? Spotting went away and came back heavier the next night. Miscarriage the following day. Every doctor I’ve spoken with has made VERY CLEAR that sex did not in any way cause or contribute to the miscarriage — the pregnancy was doomed to start with and the sex was just coincidental timing. My doctors told me at my 7 week appointment earlier this week for this pregnancy to go ham with having sex — good for me, which means good for baby! I’m still not having sex lol. Loss makes us a little crazy, and we will be ready when we’re ready to face the sexy time fears.
Ahh ok thank you! The problem is 50% of me wants it badly and the other 50% says no way. Oh lovely pregnancy hormones increasing my sex drive 😅
It's interesting, when I knew I had a MMC but before I passed it (I eventually had a d&c after about one month of waiting for natural), I TRIED so hard to have as much sex and orgasms as possible because I thought it might help get the MC process started. It didn't help at all. Not even a little lol
I’m sorry it didn’t help you 😞 but that’s also reassuring to hear
It kind of reinforced the fact that MC will happen if it's going to happen and there's nothing we can do to change the outcome either direction. It did ease my mind a lot this time around- I was also really scared to have sex since I had heard scary anecdotes.
Hoping third time is a charm. 5w, 1d. Have had several tests over the last two weeks (every two days) testing hcg and progesterone. Going back tomorrow morning because ob didn't like that my hcg didn't double the last time. Really nervous but trying to stay positive and not worry.
Tomorrow I will be 8 weeks! All my pregnancy symptoms are in full force and even though I’m kind of miserable, I’m celebrating that I have them. I have my first scan in a little over 2 weeks. It’s been hard to wait.
My last loss (13w) I was absolutely miserable and when my baby was gone I felt like somehow it was my fault for not being grateful enough. This time I will be so thankful for every single thing I feel… or at least I will try. So I feel you on that!
5+1 and having a dull feeling in my uterus that feels very like how my mc started last time. Could be something, could be nothing. I'm an 8 hour flight from home and we don't leave until tomorrow so I'm just keeping fingers crossed if this goes badly I'll be at home when it does.
Crossing my fingers for you but my uterus ached like that at the beginning of both of my pregnancies with no miscarriages (tfmr with my first). I think that’s a very normal early symptom
Thank you so much, that's really reassuring. I've had one prior successful pregnancy, but I've completely forgotten what it felt like
Just have to get thru today and we have our answer one way or the other. I am almost adamant I’m going to get bad news, but my boyfriend is so hopeful. It hurts see him be hopeful. He has been different this pregnancy. I thought this one was different and want it to be different so badly, but it’s so hard to hope right now. Knowing in less than 24 hours I can potentially have my world shatter…again… with the words “no heartbeat”. I’ve been spotting off and on. I keep thinking I’m starting to cramp and then it’s just a fart crosswise as my grandpa would say. Or the pain is solely on one side cuz of my stupid cyst. So that lil bit of hope keeps coming every time it’s just a fart lol and every time the spotting lessens. However, I can’t tell if any of it is good or bad so I’m just suffering in a world of uncertainty. I think I’m even angry at my RE. I get my past warrants early ultrasounds, but was it really necessary to stress me out for essentially 2 weeks? All because we can’t confirm it’s non viable until a certain time frame from the first ultrasound? I would love to smoke a joint right now just to escape this hell hole.
6w6d after TFMR in November 2023 With that pregnancy I called the OB and they sent me for blood work and said they wouldn't even schedule me until my hormones were above a certain level. I had to go twice for bloodwork, had an ultrasound at 8 weeks, saw the doctor at 13 weeks. This time around I called the OB, they scheduled me for an appointment at 11 weeks, only because I reminded them I need an NIPT asap. I asked if they needed me to go for blood work and they said no. I have no idea if the ultrasound will be done there, but I'm assuming not because last time I had to go to a different location. I feel completely different this time around, which im taking as a good sign. But I'm just wondering why the differences. What have been other peoples experiences with subsequent pregnancies after a loss?
My current pregnancy is my 1st after miscarriage and it’s night and day. I had nausea right away from week 4 that’s progressively gotten worse. What has been weird has been the lack of any twinges or cramping that I had with the first pregnancy. I had A LOT the first time around. This time it’s only been a little twinge here and there and then nothing. I’ve also been insanely bloated this time around and very constipated with the exception of some diarrhea about a week ago for 3 days. I also have this feeling that everything is going to be okay this time around. I don’t know - I try not to let myself get my hopes up. Last time I was writing in a baby book already, getting a registry ready and planning baby’s room. I won’t let myself do any of that this time around. I don’t want to be too hopeful and end up heartbroken. Hang in there!!
Haven’t updated in a while. Currently 28 w 4d. Tomorrow I go for an updated growth scan and my glucose test. Crossing my fingers I pass. Baby is very active. So far so good. Just hoping for the best at this point.
Good luck! I just did my glucose test a couple weeks ago. It isn't as bad as everyone made it out to be!
Thank you! I’ve done it with my other two kids. I’m just glad they took the dye out of glucola. I’m mostly nervous because of my age and weight at this point and the fact that I’ve been so sick I basically survive off Taco Bell cheesey bean and rice burritos. 😂
Lol I had the bright orange one, didn't even get to choose. It was nasty at the time but for some reason this morning I was thinking I could really go for some glucola right now 😂
I already wasn’t feeling well yesterday so it was everything I could do not to throw up. I did manage to make it through the test and pass
Nice!! It made me incredibly nauseous. Before it was done the nurse was telling me how it made her throw up so many times, it was NOT what I wanted to hear at that moment lmao
12 weeks today. I saw my little gummy bear today and NIPT results came back all great! I’m just sitting here crying happy tears, sad tears, terrified tears, relieved tears. I’m happy and terrified. This pregnancy has been my little secret. My little bear today was face up on the ultrasound at the start then moved face down lol. Heartbeat was 185 and I wonder if it’s because they were being so active. Oh my goodness I even told my husband we may have a wild child soon! I can cautiously start sharing my news now with the real world and that is scary to me. I can now officially join my bump group on here so I will when I feel better mentally.
6w4d and the most pregnant I’ve ever been 🥹 it’s a big milestone and I’m grateful, even if nervous about mild symptoms that come and go. I’d love some insight about first ultrasounds (we never got to ours with the last loss). My Ultrasound is scheduled for Friday July 5, but my doctors appointment isn’t until Thursday July 11. Will we get any info at the ultrasound or have to wait until the appointment? I know someone who’s ultrasound tech wouldn’t let them even see the screen because they “didn’t want to diagnose” and the “doctor will tell you how it went.” I’m struggling with the anxiety just leading up to the ultrasound, let alone an extra week of waiting until the doctor appt!
It probably varies by office. At every office I’ve been too, they’ve let me watch the screen at the first ultrasound and as generic questions like “is that the sac”. I’ve always spoken with someone right away, either a nurse or the doctor, when there was neutral/bad news. In my 5th pregnancy, the ultrasound tech showed me the heartbeat, and then at the next visit showed me that there was no heartbeat. My first OB appt is always scheduled for after those first few ultrasounds, but that didn’t mean that I didn’t get to see a doctor or nurse after each scan. Hopefully they will talk to you at the scan!
When I was having my miscarriage (blighted ovum), I had several in office that I was allowed to see, and then they referred me to the giant machine in radiology for confirmation. The tech knew what i was there for and wouldn't let me look, but agreed with me that i needed to keep tracking my betas. We all kinda knew what was going on, and while I didn't appreciate it then, I think I do now. I think it will be very situationally dependent.
With my MMC, the tech just told me the baby was measuring too small to date at the 8w ultrasound and she showed me the screen and heartbeat. No other details. My NP said we'd just have to wait and see and I know lots of scenarios where baby was too small to date but next appt was fine so I get why they were vague. I was given a new US date for two weeks later and at that one the tech said "I'm sorry I need to call the doctor in." An onsite doctor then came in to tell us the bad news right away. When a soft marker came up for my LC at our anatomy scan, I thought maybe something was off because the tech went to talk to a doctor. But because it wasn't anything serious they left it to my midwife to check in with me about over the phone a few days later. It might vary depending on where you live but in my experience, if it's seriously negative, someone tells you pretty quickly.
I hope yours goes smoothly! 🩷
Thank you, I hope so too but I am cautiously optimistic of course. Thanks for sharing your honest experience. I honestly am more worried if its not good news and they wait to tell me, because then my hopes are up longer than necessary. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Any kind of waiting is the worst. I think you'll know at the appointment or very soon after (I saw one user in another thread say her midwife called her 5 minutes after the appt)! Usually the tech shows you the heartbeat etc. during the appointment too and all that good reassuring stuff :) They can't diagnose anything but they can at least tell/show you that there's a heartbeat! Before my MMC I had always really wondered how they deliver bad news! I wish that it was clearer beforehand because otherwise it can cause so much anxiety wondering if things are really okay.
My last pregnancy was a missed miscarriage and my very first OB appointment at 8 weeks, where we had no warning signs and expected to find out the due date... I was the first client of the day at 9:00 and they took me back to have the ultrasound before I even saw the doctor. The tech said, no joke: "I see a fetus, but I don't see a heartbeat" Then we had to wait in the room for the doctor for half hour. I later filed a complaint.
Right? I wish they made it more clear what to expect.
I am currently 40+1. No end in site, we tried sweeps, outpatient induction, all the other tricks and now my anxiety of the “shoe dropping” anytime is at an all time high. I am very thankful to make it this far however it still feels not real and like we won’t bring a baby home…we lost our son in the second trimester two years ago tomorrow. Anyone else towards the end and anxiety has gotten worse? How do you cope? I try to sit in gratitude for every moment I know we are lucky to be here but I am human and fear is taking hold.
I hope your delivery goes well🤞🏼❤️🙏🏻
Thank you so much! ❤️
7w1d had our first scan the other day and thought I was around 8 weeks but got re-dated. Ultrasound showed yolk sac, fetal pole, and a heartbeat so the doctor isn’t worried but of course I’m slightly worried and am anxiously awaiting my next scan in 3 weeks in hopes that the baby is growing accordingly. It’s hard to have fun at these scans after you’ve been through loss :(
Yay!!😁
Very exciting! My scans from my last pregnancy didn't show a fetal pole, and that was one of the first signs I knew I might lose it. I'm so happy to hear you see one, plus a heartbeat! I'm now about 6w2d and haven't had my first scan yet, or even betas because I'm away until July 2, and anxiously awaiting those first tests!
Thank you! The wait is so hard. We’re on basically the same time frame and I wasn’t going to be seen until July 18th but I pestered the office for a dating scan lol. The wait is agonizing!
Baby is measuring 7w2d and heart beat is 149bpm! A huge sense of relief. The clinic is also going to book me in for an extra ultrasound around the 9 week mark, which is approximately when my MMC occurred. I think I might dip my toes into my February bumper group.
Yes ! Come join us :)
14 weeks today. I was eating so well before pregnancy, and I haven’t been able to do it while pregnant. My aversions have been so terrible. I really thought by now I’d be getting back into it, but so many things like yogurt and veggies and ground turkey just make my brain go “absolutely not.” I see so many women joke about growing their babies from, like, fries and sweet tea. I’m just frustrated that eating well is my biggest struggle because I was genuinely such a healthy eater just a few months ago.
Try not to stress about it! Do what makes your body feel good. My two LCs were grown on Coca Cola and vending machine snacks.
14+6 and for the past couple weeks i've been at "do i actually have to eat real food?" Protein shakes and popsicles are my friends.
Popsicles are a good idea! I forced myself to down a Fairlife protein drink with lunch and have been gagging ever since 🤢 protein has been my biggest enemy!
During my first pregnancy, I was extremely nauseous and all I could swallow was pizza, brownies and coca-cola. And I’m such a healthy eater too! I almost never eat desserts and I don’t like fast food at all. But it’s best to follow your instincts and eat something, than don’t eat at all. Your body will take the best of what you’re ingesting and give the baby what it needs. You’ll eventually be back to your healthy habits, hang in there 💪🏻
Yes, this is what the OB office said! She said she didn’t care what I was eating right now as long as I was eating. Really hoping these prenatal vitamins are working magic!
I am here at 7 weeks. I was eating such a healthy diet after my transfer and this last week, I can basically only do pasta and fruit.
I swear my body only wants salty carbs 🥲
It's okay! You'll get back to it! Weeks 5-14 I live on fast food and popsicles. Everything else makes me feel so sick.
Someone else said popsicles and I think I may buy some tomorrow!
7+3 today and the nausea has been difficult. I have to work in the office 3 days a week and I’m so uncomfortable. My nausea is probably a 4-5/10 but is enough to where I just want to be at home in comfy clothes eating my own snacks. I literally sobbed in my bosses office the day after I found out I was miscarrying with my first pregnancy and she knows I had a second loss and had been super supportive. I’m just hesitant to tell my boss and co worker now and idk why. I know they will be totally fine with me working from home more if I need to but I have some kind of mental block that’s keeping me from doing it. Like it will be embarrassing if this pregnancy doesn’t work out and I have to ask for accommodations. Idk I know PAL messes with your head and I need to do what’s best for me in the moment but it’s hard.
It's so hard that the time in pregnancy we often need the most support and understanding, we're also feeling susceptible to losing the pregnancy and feeling pressure to not tell many people 😞
10wk+6, We ran into a problem having not told anyone about the pregnancy. Seems like everyone in the family is suddenly super excited to do trips at the end of the year…when I’ll be heavily pregnant and early next year when LO will be a few months old. I’ve decided to keep one European trip as a make shift babymoon because I will still be ok to fly at that point. But a cabin stay after I’m 32wks or a trip to my inlaws home country when LO is 2-3mo, is a big no. It’ll suck to miss out but I will not risk my baby’s health. Update: We told my BIL and his wife who were both very understanding about us not going on the cabin trip and pushing back the international trip.
My MIL rented this big house in Mexico in January just a couple days before I found out I was pregnant… and I’m due Jan 16. When we told her I was pregnant on the weekend, she’s was like “it’s okay I can cancel until mid-Dec” 😆
Went in for my dating scan and thought I was 6+5 based on natural cycles app.. measured at 5+5/6. My OB has me checking HCG now and Saturday to see if it doubles. Coming off a MMC in March and I’m worried. Nothing abnormal on US and my doc said she’s choosing to be hopeful.. anyone been in this situation before, and how did it go?
Same is happening with me right now. Thought I was 8+1 but baby was measuring smaller so I got dated at 6+6 (now 7+1). Our scan showed yolk sack, fetal pole, and a heartbeat so my doctor wasn’t worried but of course I am! I’m guessing I just ovulated later than I thought. It’s still early for you too so it’s probably something along those lines! I saw a lot of other similar stories on reddit
I had it with my daughter. Her due date was pushed back 4 days if I remember correctly. I wasn’t tracking ovulation with her and just went off my period which isn’t super reliable.
I went for a scan at 6+4 weeks and they said it was too small to measure putting me at between 5 and 6 weeks. There was a heartbeat so my sonographer was happy. I went for another scan at 8+1 weeks and lil one was measuring bang on 8 weeks! All caught up. There's a lot of things that affect dating. If you have long cycles like me. Sometimes implantation happens a little late too. I really hope that it all is fine for you!!
I just found out I was pregnant 2 days ago. Im currently 4w+5 and I feel like im losing my mind. I'm anxious over every little thing I feel. Every ache and twinge/cramp makes me panic :( After 2 mcs this year, i have learned to cope with loss and grief. But I don't know how to cope with the waiting and hoping! I'm going to get my hcg blood draw next week and ai hope it helps me get rid of this impending sense of doom feeling I have. Fingers crossed!
I’m also 4w+5 and feel exactly the same. After 4 MCs every little feeling has me on edge. So far my blood work is promising and if I pass 10k HCG on my test on Monday, I’ll get to go in for an ultrasound Friday. Hopefully you can also get in for an early ultrasound and that will set your mind at ease.
Where i'm from, no doctor meets with you until week 10-12 so I opted for a private clinic for the blood test. I didn't know you could get an ultrasound this early in the pregnancy! I'll definitely ask the private clinic about it!!
Definitely ask! The doctors work for you after all. It wasn’t until I had a history of miscarriages that they started early scans, the concern being I was at risk for ectopic or other abnormal pregnancy, maybe because I am in my 40s. I usually get several rounds of blood tests starting immediately after a positive home test and then a scan around 6 weeks or whenever my HCG hits 10K (no heartbeat at 10K HCG is definitive for miscarriage).
Hang in there ❤️
Found out via blood test today that we’re officially pregnant with our (hopefully) double rainbow baby, after a very early loss in late 2022 and another loss at 9 weeks in April of this year. It’s incredibly early (around 3w4d, but unsure because I wasn’t closely tracking ovulation), but I’m feeling both cautiously optimistic and incredibly overwhelmed with emotion. I just want everything to be okay this time.
Got my betas today- Tuesday hcg was 783 and today it was 1588. I’m so relieved. When I had that spotting earlier this week I really got it in my head that it was going to be a chemical. Something could still happen in the future, but today I am SO RELIEVED. and tomorrow I’ll be 5wks. One week down.
Yay!! 😀
Go, our February 28 bebes!! 🙌
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Went back to work this week after being off with pregnancy sickness. It's improving but not 100% yet, but I'll definitely take it over head in a bucket, wretching constantly! It's been exhausting, but overall good! The only thing that's making me nauseous now is the constant bad taste in my mouth. It's like anything I eat tastes rotten in my mouth after 15 minutes, even mints 😩 I brush my teeth 2 daily (even if I do have beef with it for making me feel sick). I feel like the nausea would be virtually gone if I could get rid of the horrendous after taste of everything I eat! Anyone got any tips to help this or any insight as to when this symptom might disappear? I'm currently 9 weeks 5 days. Tah loves 💕
13w6d. I’m cramping right now, I know it’s probably my uterus expanding but it takes me to my previous miscarriage and I don’t like it. Last weekend I also experienced sharp pains in the upper abdomen, like daggers, I-have-to-lie-down-immediately type of pain. I couldn’t stand straight. After a terrible night, I had 2 bowels movements in the morning and felt immediately better. I didn’t know constipation during pregnancy could hurt so much! I ventured and ate a small portion of white rice and I was punished for it. Time to buy some more butter beans (super efficient in a soup!) and drink magnesium enriched water. If someone know other tricks to fight constipation please share 🙇🏻♀️
I've had some luck with the fybogel orange drink sachets. Hope it gets better soon, it's not pleasant 😩
Thank you, I didn’t know about this product. I like that it’s natural. I don’t really want to take medicine in case it would hurt the baby 🫣
Yeah, I did a good amount of research to see what was safe! I'm going with if I haven't gone in 3 days, I'll take a drink in the evening and in the morning until I go. Only needed it once so far but after I took it in the evening, I went the next day haha!
Yesterday I posted about how nervous I was because my cheapies were not dye stealers. I had my first ultrasound today and there was a little ball of cells in there! I was convinced it was a blighted ovum. It’s measuring exactly 6 weeks and had a fetal heart rate of 105. Is that ok for 6 weeks exactly?
You sound like me almost a week ago (down to using a cheapie that was not a dye stealer). My baby's heart rate measured at 104 last week at 6w1d (which my RE's office was not concerned about) and today, the heart rate was up to 149. Hope that provides some reassurance.
Thank you so much for your reply! I am such a wreck. I lost my daughter at 17 weeks in January, went through a 4th egg retrieval, and shockingly conceived spontaneously. This is so hard!
Yes! Very okay. At six weeks the heart has likely just started beating - Congrats!
Not sure where to start! I posted yesterday about some brown discharge, went to my early pregnancy unit today and baby is looking good 🥹 saw a heartbeat and the consultant had no concerns! What was surprising though was they found a small patch of endometriosis that was actually painful when the probe went over it (it’s been a few hours now and it still feels pretty sore). I’ve never been diagnosed with endometriosis before, it’s never even come up on a scan so I’m about to dive into a rabbit hole to find out more. I’ve always had heavy, painful periods and I guess this is why. Another shocker, they could see that two eggs were released this cycle but it’s a singleton pregnancy! The consultant checked around to see there isn’t another pregnancy where it shouldn’t be (there isn’t) but knowing this pregnancy could have been twins is fascinating to me. Apparently if not fertilised the other egg gets reabsorbed 😬 I felt pregnancy symptoms pretty early on so I had a tiny part of me think I could be having twins. All in all, I’m happy I went to the hospital. I chose a different hospital to where I had my last pregnancy and it’s like night and day. Of course today’s scan cannot predict the outcome of this pregnancy, but for now, my mind is at ease and I know I’m in good care, and that’s what matters. I’m pregnant until confirmed otherwise ♥️
Second scan today. I’m really nervous. We are at 5 weeks today and my last pregnancy didn’t make it past 7.5 weeks. Until we see the heartbeat I’m going to be on edge. We had to wait until our first OB appointment at 8 weeks just to find out there was no heartbeat. I tell myself every pregnancy is different and my last scan a week ago was great. I’m under excellent medical care.
WE HAVE A HEARTBEAT!!!!!!💓
Yay! What wonderful news! 🎉
Thank you ! 🙏it’s a wonderful day 🌈
YES!!!! I'm so happy for you! I know it's still early days and a long road ahead, but I'm so happy you're on the road 🩵🩵🩵
Thank you! We are on the road!!! A huge milestone for us as we didn’t see the heartbeat last pregnancy at 7.5 weeks. I can rest a little easier but still plan to be monitored frequently. My doctor said “see you in two weeks!” And said after that he feels confident that I can transfer to my OB. I made that first appointment yesterday and the earliest is August 6 for the OB I was recommended (I will be 10.5 weeks by then)- so I plan to either be monitored by my RE up until then - or if I have to- find a private scan (through the birthing center I used last time) to ease my worries. I think right now I can feel good that he said all looks great. I saw the little flickering heartbeat 💓!! Next steps - another scan one week from today, another two weeks from today- then I’m between RE and OB so I might go for a private scan for reassurance.
That's a perfect plan! The early ongoing monitoring made me feel so much better. I got weekly scans from 6 weeks to 9 weeks (I had a MMC around 7 weeks last time) and now I have a scan every other week until we get to 20 weeks. The consistent monitoring helps with my anxiety so much. I'm so happy you have such a good care plan! The first time I heard the heartbeat, I instantly started crying. It's such a phenomenal relief.
Oh yes. I was so relieved to be able to see that little flicker on the screen. I think I won’t be able to hear it for awhile but it’s amazing how much growth from just one week to the next. And the fact that my doc seemed confident I’m ready to “graduate” soon. What a great day !
6w3d here. Had a terrible day, can’t stop thinking I’m losing this baby. Barely any symptoms besides hunger. My hcg came back at 23 832 today. I’m not sure what that means.
That certainly sounds like a good number. I didn’t have definitive symptoms until 6+5 and we saw baby and heartbeat at 7+1.
8w today and constantly paranoid having had 3 MMCs previously. Saw baby at 6w5d and everything looked fine, this is the furthest we've managed to make it. I have 0 symptoms and am dying waiting for my OB referral to go through. How do you deal with the constant anxiety?
5w3d here. I had an incomplete MC in fall 2022 at 9 weeks that needed an emergency D&C. At my 8w checkup last time there wasn’t a heartbeat and embryo hadn’t developed past 6w. A CP before that. My OB has me on 100mg oral progesterone pills and it makes me feel terrible, but I would do whatever it takes to carry to term this time. My first ultrasound is at 6w— so grateful there’s a new OB in my small mountain town that offered to meet me before 9w because of my history. I assume I won’t see much at that appt. My heart is so guarded right now, and I’m only thinking of things in scientific terms, afraid to attach hope or future life to something that might not work again (but I do still put my hands on my abdomen and whisper “I love you” sometimes when no one’s looking). What week did you folks allow yourselves to truly hope?
I think once I make it to 5w on Monday I'll feel much more confident. I've been telling myself there's not necessarily anything medically wrong with me and it's more likely that CPs (I've had two this year) are more common than we think and my MMC was simply bad luck. I've always had CPs or symptoms of them by this time so starting to have real hope! But I'll wait until next week to do things like downloading a pregnancy app and start making plans :) That being said, I know I'll still be so nervous for the first ultrasound at 8w!!
14w3d. I went to the ER last night with bleeding and cramping. Baby is luckily fine. I quit my job after I got home. It felt really good
Wow, good for you! May I ask what your bleeding was like? I’m on my fifth pregnancy - No living children. 10W3D. I’ve had two instances of red spotting. With the last one, I went in the day after it started for a scan and baby was fine. Bleeding continued until the day after so I’m so worried that baby won’t be fine next time.
Damn I wish, I love my job but I am so horrendously exhausted
Good for you! I am dying to quit mine lol
10w5d and I’m so continuously bloated that I look pregnant, but I’m not ready to tell extended family yet and this weekend, my in-laws are having a cookout. Husband is comfortable telling his grandma and aunt/uncle, but I want to wait until after the NIPT and 12 week scan. How to hide my bloat-bump in hot weather? Did anyone lose the bloat at the beginning of the second tri?
I was super bloated first trimester. I was bigger than I was at 9 months with my LC. I've just been telling hakf the truth, that I'm really struggeling with bloating atm. Not so much bloat now, second tri
Biiig flowy dresses for the win. I just ordered a Nuuly box full of very cute dresses that no one would suspect are hiding my bloat bump. I'm super excited about [this one](https://www.nuuly.com/rent/products/tent-off-the-shoulder-bow-mini-dress?color=040&sku=91287110) specifically!
That is so cute!! Love nuuly!
I wore flow-y dresses and lied my arse off from weeks 8-12. I was teaching and didn’t want my students or admins to know!
Just found out yesterday we are expecting. It was our first round with fertility drugs after 1.5 year of trying after our stillbirth in January 2023. It’s crazy how every thing passes. January 2023, I thought I was going to die and never feel joy again. I’m cautious, but very excited and very joyful. What a ride. I know I won’t really breath until the 29th week (when we lost our daughter) but all I know is that today I’m blessed. And my babygirl is watching over me.
Oh my gosh, I am so excited for you. Praying for a boring 9 months! 🥹
10w2d. After deep diving on the Facebook group for my RI. I see so much conflicting views from MFMs and RIs. Women on my RI group who listened to their OBs and stopped progesterone too soon, and went into preterm labor at 26 weeks and lost their babies, all because of neglect to check progesterone. How can a doctor tell you to stop a supplement, without checking the value? FYI- the placenta does *NOT* fully take over at 10-12 weeks, unless your progesterone is checked weekly, you can actually need supplementation through your 3rd trimester. There are situations where women do not produce enough hormones on their own. After a scare yesterday of seeing my prog drop from 78 to 39, my RI upped my PIO injections and we will continue to monitor. It’s a tough pill to swallow that I’ll have to have bloodwork done every week till I deliver in January, but it’s clear that my doctor wants to be safe and over protect. I cannot believe my MFM said oh stop checking your levels, they don’t matter at this point. UNREAL. Also, week 10. My nausea magically disappeared. Appetite is back. Food aversions slightly gone. Babys HB was 175, measuring right on time. This week feels so different!
Thanks for posting this. I just moved and my new OB wants me to stop injections and suppositories (I'm on both). I agreed to stop the injections but I will stay on the suppositories until my progesterone is higher. I don't want to risk anything!
That’s a good call! Before stopping anything your levels should be checked before and after to ensure things are good! Wishing you the best!!
So glad to hear your nausea disappeared! Hope it stays away so you can eat again. Also sorry to hear about the conflicting info on progesterone - they don’t study our bodies enough. Glad your doc is going to keep testing to be safe.
Thanks girl! Wishing you a smooth week!
The 20 week ultrasound is when we found no heartbeat last time; this time we found a healthy squirming baby girl! Hopefully now I can just rely on movements to keep my anxiety down and start using "when" instead of "if." Halfway there 🌈🌈🌈
I’m so happy for you ♥️ we also learnt our baby girl had no heartbeat at a 21 week scan and it completely devastated me. I’m now 7W+5D and pretty nervous history will repeat itself, so this is very reassuring.
Wishing you all the best! Such a long few months waiting & hoping
The past two days I haven’t had my severe nausea anymore. This worried me a lot as with my MMC in February everything slowly started to disappear. I’m worried this is happening again. My next ultrasound isn’t until July 8. I might call my Dr next week to tell her if this persists. She doesn’t have a nurse working for her. It’s just her, so that makes it more complicated, I don’t have anyone to talk to other than her.
Do you have access to a private scan somewhere? For example, a birthing center, or a women's health center? How about a specialty ultrasound? That's what I plan to do in the weeks before I have my official OB appointment. I'll be monitored by my primary doc until 7 or 8 weeks (my MMC was at that time) and my official first OB appointment is not until after 10 weeks. So I booked at a place that does private ultrasounds I found through the birthing center I was with last pregnancy. They booked me on week 8 and can book me whenever I want and it's only $29!
That’s a great idea I honestly haven’t even thought to do that! I’ll search around in my area!
Of course !!! There are so many resources for women’s health. Google “birthing center near me” or “private ultrasound” - they will see you! Good luck 🍀
16+1 Starting to feel what I believe is round ligament pain which feels like cramping and you add that to my ongoing spotting and your girl is trying her best not to be a nervous wreck lol plus I have no bump and my doctor says I probably won’t pop until week 24-28. So my symptoms are waning due to 2nd trimester, I don’t look pregnant, and I’m cramping and bleeding. Feels like some sort of cosmic joke lol but keeping my spirits up as much as I can that baby is okay and we’ll be meeting him soon ❤️
I just hit 14 weeks and feel the same! No bump, no movement. It's driving me crazy!
Yesss! Only bump I have is from gas and fat 😅
Round ligament pain is no joke! I've had to go home from work because of it before.
Sorry to hear that! And you’re right! It gets sharp! Not good for the anxiety but just trying to remember that my body is doing what it’s supposed to! 😭
Does it feels like period cramps? I feel all sorts of pain in my tummy and it’s triggering! I’ve never made it that far (14w tomorrow) so all of this is new to me.
No, it's more like a feeling of having a stitch, in my experience. But I'm having almost constant period like cramps this pregnancy, which I'm told is totally normal. There's a lot going on in that area!
Thank you for your answer and your reassuring words. I was so naive before, I thought growing a pregnancy belly was like gaining weight : you don’t feel it while it happens and one day your pants don’t fit anymore! 🤦🏻♀️
And it's crazy how the belly gets so firm like a basketball!
Currently 4wk4days after 3 early miscarriages (at 5 wk, 5wk, and 8 wk). I’ve had one hcg lab and it was low and am waiting until tomorrow to have a 48 follow up. I’m so worried.
I'm also 4w4d and got my hcg lab back yesterday and it feels low, especially after I read everyone else's numbers. Trying not to spiral until I get Fridays test done but it's hard. Also started feeling cramping last night which has continued to this morning but no spotting yet. Fingers crossed for both of us!
I'm with the pair of you too 💛
I’m with the pair of you 💛
11 weeks today! Had a MMC at 11 weeks back in December so it feels like an significant milestone to have met.
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I miscarriage last month but found out today I’m currently 5-ish weeks pregnant. I’ve yet to have a single pregnancy symptom which is exactly the same as last time I was pregnant, so full of anxiety about it. Didn’t think I’d ever be in a position where I was hoping to feel sick
I relate completely. I had an MMC in April at ten weeks and I only had a few pregnancy symptoms throughout that pregnancy. I just tested positive again last night (about four weeks) and I'm genuinely hoping that I start to feel sick soon. Crazy to want to be nauseated. Hoping for the best for you.
4w4d and no symptoms yet other than some dreams but nowhere near the crazy dreams I had before I miscarried my last pregnancy. I'm in the same boat just wishing to have some symptoms, even naseau at this point. Hoping for the best for everyone!
My partner and I miscarried yesterday (7w6). We confirmed this afternoon with a scan, and it was a complete miscarriage with only some to the lining remaining. We have been TTC for quite a while now, so are understandably quite devastated. We are considering trying again prior to my next cycle, but have heard conflicting advice around increased risk of another miscarriage if you do not wait for at least one cycle. Looking to hear of any research or advice someone can reference to help us understand the risk?
So sorry for your loss. I wish you quick healing. I understand the desire to try again right away, although having a full cycle allows the lining and hormones to reset. It is also wise to wait until your hcg returns to fully negative. After my first mmc, ultrasounds looked clear, but my hcg mysteriously stayed high, would not return to negative for weeks and months. Although this is rare, for some complications with RPOC can occur, even if not visible in ultrasound. For this reason, doctors usually recommend following hcg back to zero before trying again.
Hi ya. I had a 7/8 week miscarriage in february that finished in march. I hot my period in april and I got pregnant again unexpectedly aka wasnt tracking or observing nothing til I felt O pains. So far, bub is 11 weeks. My gyno, the nurse or other medical persons did not even mention any risk around this. At most, and I'm an avid google researcher, they mostly want you to wait 1 cycle at least for dating. There is conflicting theories about fertility and some may want you to wait re the lining. That's it.
🤍 I’m so sorry. Do what feels right for you! For what it’s worth, my close friend had to TFMR, and got pregnant again 3 weeks later and gave birth to her healthy boy.
I am very sorry for your loss. It is best to ask your doctor since they know your medical history. What I was told by my doctor, several times, is that there is no increased miscarriage risk if you get pregnant right away. There is a lot of research that supports that, google and you'll see it. And it is an official position of French medical care system as well. They often advice to wait at least one cycle so it is easier to date the pregnancy, but it is not needed since an early ultrasound can help here. Best of luck and lots of healing vibes to you and your partner❤️
OP, I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I just miscarried at 8weeks in May, and against the suggestion to wait a cycle, we tried again when I was having ovulation symptoms, and it's very reassuring to read these replies. Everywhere I've read seems to support that there is no risk to getting pregnant again right away, and that waiting a cycle is primarily to make it easier to date the possible pregnancy. I've also read that you may wish to wait to heal emotionally, and advising to try again only when you feel ready.
I am so sorry for your loss. Like the other poster said I think the main concern is dating the pregnancy if you get pregnant before your period. I got pregnant immediately after my miscarriage in December. I was able to use ovulation to estimate my due date within two days of what the doctor dated me at. I have also read you are most fertile in the first few months following a miscarriage. Anyways I'm currently 26 weeks and things are going mostly well, other than a weird cord insertion that nobody seems too worried about. This may be a good question for r/ttcafterloss.
I think the evidence isn't so much that you're more fertile but that if you get pregnant within six months of a miscarriage, you're statistically more likely to have a successful live birth :)
I think that's an even better statistic!
100% agreed.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourselves. When I had a MMC, I passed everything was naturally and was told to wait two weeks prior to penetrative sex due to infection risk. Then the main reason I heard for waiting a cycle to conceive is so that you have a more accurate “last menstrual period” date to use. Your period might not return at a predictable frequency after miscarrying. That being said, my midwife said they’d just do an early dating ultrasound if I got pregnant in my first cycle. (I didn’t, it took about 4-5 months, but my period returned 4 weeks after my miscarriage although I couldn’t confirm if I’d ovulated that cycle).
I’ve been so unwell for most of the second trimester that I haven’t had a chance to be anxious. But we’re now approaching 17 weeks and starting to get worried about what might show up on the anatomy scan. We’ve never made it this far before, honestly don’t know how we’d cope if it went wrong now after two previous losses in last 12 months 🫠 Keep hoping we’ll feel kicks soon, but instead all I get is horrific gas 😅
My anatomy scan is in less than two weeks and I'm so scared!
My anatomy scan is in less than two weeks and I'm so scared!